1 00:00:24,345 --> 00:00:31,145 Hello and welcome to this week's episode of the Wedding Lounge Podcast. Today we're talking about 2 00:00:31,145 --> 00:00:38,185 day or in-day celebrations, basically extending your wedding to more than one day. Why would you do it? 3 00:00:38,185 --> 00:00:41,625 Why would you not do it? What would you want to do for your day to celebrate? 4 00:00:41,625 --> 00:00:46,585 What do we mean by day two? So day two celebrations is, as you said, 5 00:00:46,585 --> 00:00:52,585 extending your celebrations by day. So traditionally or commonly people will get married on say it's 6 00:00:52,585 --> 00:00:57,545 a Saturday and it'll be a one day event. So you might have people staying over in a hotel 7 00:00:57,545 --> 00:01:00,665 if you're getting married there. You might have like sort of a low-key breakfast in the 8 00:01:00,665 --> 00:01:05,385 next morning where everyone's just eating in the same dining room. Everyone's checking out by 10 9 00:01:05,385 --> 00:01:10,505 going their separate ways. But like a day two is doing something a bit more substantial and having 10 00:01:10,505 --> 00:01:16,345 like a plan almost like a second event really isn't it? Yep, exactly. So there are different 11 00:01:16,345 --> 00:01:20,425 options of like what you could do as your day two and it kind of depends on where you are as well. 12 00:01:20,425 --> 00:01:26,505 So the brunch? I think brunch is quite a nice one because it's that hangover time where everyone's 13 00:01:26,505 --> 00:01:31,225 can, you know, lazy morning most people are without children so they'll stumble out of bed nine, 14 00:01:31,225 --> 00:01:35,385 ten o'clock in the morning. They will have had to check out their hotel rooms but before they just 15 00:01:35,385 --> 00:01:41,705 go home and disappear you can host a nice second day celebration. Have a catch up. It's a really 16 00:01:41,705 --> 00:01:47,865 nice time for the bride and groom especially to hear the gossip. I find that my crouples are 17 00:01:47,865 --> 00:01:53,545 precious off on the day and they can just relax and actually have deeper meaningful conversations 18 00:01:53,545 --> 00:01:58,105 with people that they couldn't have necessarily had the day before. There's no formalities and 19 00:01:58,105 --> 00:02:03,145 this really unstructured or a time line, obviously dependable on what you're doing but there isn't like 20 00:02:03,145 --> 00:02:08,425 experiment at this time, reception at this time, photos dinner like yeah. It's a bit more like a free 21 00:02:08,425 --> 00:02:15,865 yeah. Yeah, I had a really cool one. 2023 where they had a day two, they had an afternoon thing, 22 00:02:15,865 --> 00:02:20,425 they had a pool. On the wedding day the pool was closed off, no one was allowed in that area so the 23 00:02:20,425 --> 00:02:27,065 second day they had a totally different vibe, really relaxed, pool party open, DJ, they had a 24 00:02:27,065 --> 00:02:36,985 gyros fan, ice cream truck, when they just had rosé, quanta, all afternoon and it was just so lovely 25 00:02:36,985 --> 00:02:42,665 and relaxed, like just totally different to what the day before had been, a nice way to carry on 26 00:02:42,665 --> 00:02:47,065 the celebration. And I think that's something that is quite cool about day two, is that 27 00:02:47,065 --> 00:02:52,185 depending on what you're having for your wedding, you know, it may be formal, it may be relaxed, 28 00:02:52,185 --> 00:02:58,825 but like your day two can really go out there. I think we've spoken for about aimed weddings, parties 29 00:02:58,825 --> 00:03:03,785 and like maybe both of us aren't that big or like themed to be like an inch of their life like 30 00:03:03,785 --> 00:03:08,105 weddings, but like a party, you could go really all out to the next day, you could do something 31 00:03:08,105 --> 00:03:14,505 a lot more fun like you could have that Ibiza by pool party, sad to play a rosé on top kind of thing, 32 00:03:14,505 --> 00:03:19,385 or you could do like something different, if it's a winter wedding or even if it's not you could 33 00:03:19,385 --> 00:03:24,985 have like a cool at-trace ski kind of vibe the next day where you have maybe a bit more like themed 34 00:03:24,985 --> 00:03:31,145 items that you know, I think decor, like you make it a bit more fun if that's what you want to go for. 35 00:03:31,145 --> 00:03:37,705 The other nice thing about a day two, I had a client a few years ago who they had probably about 36 00:03:37,705 --> 00:03:46,025 70 to 80 guests, not guests, so people that they should have invited to their wedding as a formality, 37 00:03:46,025 --> 00:03:51,225 so people that worked on their farm, local people in the village, it was a really small village, 38 00:03:51,225 --> 00:03:56,185 people they felt they should host, they didn't have the capacity to host on their wedding day, 39 00:03:56,185 --> 00:04:01,625 so their day two was with a totally different crowd, nice, they hosted a lunch for all those people, 40 00:04:01,625 --> 00:04:07,385 the local community essentially, to kind of celebrate their wedding, which I thought that's a really 41 00:04:07,385 --> 00:04:14,665 good way of if you haven't got the capacity to have everyone you want there, yeah, want to have everyone 42 00:04:14,665 --> 00:04:20,265 there, it's quite a good way to spread it out, a really good idea, like and that also kind of could 43 00:04:20,265 --> 00:04:25,545 be instead of having evening guests, because I think we've spoken about evening guests before and 44 00:04:25,545 --> 00:04:30,985 sometimes it's quite awkward them turning up, yeah, if you have the neighbours, maybe some of like 45 00:04:30,985 --> 00:04:37,065 judgement arrangements, yeah, who you don't necessarily want their all day evening, it's kind of party 46 00:04:37,065 --> 00:04:41,385 vibe and it's not necessarily gonna work, have the whole separate day too, it's different people, 47 00:04:41,385 --> 00:04:45,785 and it worked really, really well, yeah, that is really cool, I mean there are there are issues 48 00:04:45,785 --> 00:04:50,185 that come with it, so if you're hiring a venue, yes, you might not have the venue for the second day, 49 00:04:50,185 --> 00:04:57,145 but if you want to have a second day, local venues, local pubs or restaurants with private spaces, 50 00:04:57,145 --> 00:05:02,505 you can hire just to kind of like mean that those people can hang around for that bit longer, 51 00:05:02,505 --> 00:05:07,145 if you're fortunate enough that you're dry hiring a venue for a whole weekend or you're having a 52 00:05:07,145 --> 00:05:14,585 market at home, then the option is much easier, definitely, and I think we've spoken about this before, 53 00:05:14,585 --> 00:05:18,665 possibly with like doing something the night before you're wedding, if you're having a destination 54 00:05:18,665 --> 00:05:23,225 wedding or for example you're getting married in Cornwall and all your guests are coming from Yorkshire, 55 00:05:23,225 --> 00:05:27,225 extending the celebrations a bit more, make it a bit more worthwhile, but you know, 56 00:05:27,225 --> 00:05:31,065 a bit more worthwhile for people to travel, and people will need to be staying over for that 57 00:05:31,065 --> 00:05:36,425 mandatory time anyway, so it's nice to make sure they've got things to do, they could choose not to come 58 00:05:36,425 --> 00:05:41,225 and just want to go out for the dinner on the Friday night or lunch or Sunday, just to turn them 59 00:05:41,225 --> 00:05:45,945 before they go home and spend some time away enjoying it as a holiday, but at the same time, 60 00:05:45,945 --> 00:05:54,425 if you are able to put something on for them, it just, it makes it more of an occasion. Definitely, 61 00:05:54,425 --> 00:05:58,345 and I think we're sort of doing a day two, you've also got to think about what day of the week you're 62 00:05:58,345 --> 00:06:04,345 getting married, yes, because if you are getting married on, I don't know, say you've gone from midweek 63 00:06:04,345 --> 00:06:09,385 on a Thursday, then you kind of want a day to a Friday, a lot of your guests will probably take the 64 00:06:09,385 --> 00:06:14,345 Friday off to make it a long weekend, really good to think like if you're getting married on Sunday, 65 00:06:14,345 --> 00:06:18,345 people need to take the Monday off all of the weekend, you know, just think about these things, 66 00:06:18,345 --> 00:06:23,385 holidays work really nicely on day two, so Chris's whole entire side was coming down from Yorkshire, 67 00:06:23,385 --> 00:06:29,545 so six hours in the car for all of them, we purposely chose about holiday, so that no one would have 68 00:06:29,545 --> 00:06:35,545 to rush off on the Sunday to get back for work on the Monday, and we hosted a day two breakfast 69 00:06:35,545 --> 00:06:40,105 before we headed off on our honeymoon as well, which is just a really nice thing to do, but we 70 00:06:40,905 --> 00:06:46,905 chose a weekend based around the fact that we wanted to have two-day celebration, because if you're 71 00:06:46,905 --> 00:06:53,785 putting on Sunday day two, and it's like boozey, yeah, boozey into the early evening or my late afternoon, 72 00:06:53,785 --> 00:06:57,625 even people you've got to get back, you might have to get back for kids, but you know, you've got school 73 00:06:57,625 --> 00:07:01,945 the next day, that I don't have to have work the next day, like it's things, things to just think 74 00:07:01,945 --> 00:07:06,425 about what day of the week, I'm sort of who your guests are, like how far they are traveling, yeah, 75 00:07:07,065 --> 00:07:14,665 so what considerations and budget requirements do people need to think about when they're considering 76 00:07:14,665 --> 00:07:19,785 having day two celebration? Well, I think you mentioned the key one already is if you're getting 77 00:07:19,785 --> 00:07:23,865 married at a venue, have you still got the higher for the next day, like there's no point planning 78 00:07:23,865 --> 00:07:29,865 a day two when you don't have exclusive use or you don't have any use of the property the next day, 79 00:07:29,865 --> 00:07:34,425 but you've also got to think about what time, you know, some weddings do like weekend higher, 80 00:07:34,425 --> 00:07:38,905 and you kind of might have the property until like three o'clock on the Sunday, so therefore like a 81 00:07:38,905 --> 00:07:42,825 branch is going to be more suitable not back and afternoon for all party because you'll be cutting 82 00:07:42,825 --> 00:07:48,185 it fine, and I guess the nice thing about that is if you have got exclusivity or exclusive higher 83 00:07:48,185 --> 00:07:54,585 of a venue for a weekend, you have already paid for it, yes, you might as well make the most 84 00:07:54,585 --> 00:08:00,665 out of it, exactly, if you're getting married at home, you obviously have the marquee and it most 85 00:08:00,665 --> 00:08:04,105 likely will be up on a Sunday, but you do need to check of your marquee supply, yeah, 86 00:08:04,105 --> 00:08:08,185 some of them will start degrading on a Sunday, yeah, so that they can clean them and get them back up 87 00:08:08,185 --> 00:08:14,425 on like a Tuesday, Wednesday for the next weekend, so you know, you do need to think about these things, 88 00:08:14,425 --> 00:08:19,865 and just make sure obviously your key consideration is the venue, going to be available for a day two, 89 00:08:19,865 --> 00:08:25,385 or as you said, do you have to look elsewhere? And then other considerations is your catering? 90 00:08:25,385 --> 00:08:29,465 Yes. What are you getting in for that day two? Are you going low-key, 91 00:08:29,465 --> 00:08:35,865 buffet style, quaggrost or food trucks, or do you want to put on a served breakfast? 92 00:08:35,865 --> 00:08:40,745 Those are the kind of things you need to really consider and get quotes for, and I would 93 00:08:40,745 --> 00:08:48,905 ideally allocate a proportion on your overall budget or have an exclusive day two budget that you 94 00:08:48,905 --> 00:08:54,265 are willing to spend on that event that isn't going to compromise the wedding day itself. 95 00:08:54,265 --> 00:08:59,305 I've had clients where they want to do a day two themselves, like the parents are doing it more, 96 00:08:59,305 --> 00:09:03,545 they've kind of gone, they're key, they don't really kind of want to help planning it, which is fine, 97 00:09:03,545 --> 00:09:08,745 but they weren't thinking about the obvious linen on the table. It's not the obvious though, is it? 98 00:09:08,745 --> 00:09:14,745 This is the obvious, but it's not the obvious. Yes, you need to double the amount of linen, 99 00:09:14,745 --> 00:09:19,225 because you don't want to have someone fill their red wine that I bought or drop a bit of grey on it, 100 00:09:19,225 --> 00:09:23,705 and then you're trying to serve up a brunch the next day. You need to get that marquee clean and 101 00:09:23,705 --> 00:09:28,425 tidy. If you're doing it yourselves, do you really want to be getting up first thing on the Sunday 102 00:09:28,425 --> 00:09:33,385 morning? I'll know if you're in your wedding dress to be meaning out. Or do your parents 103 00:09:33,385 --> 00:09:39,065 for that matter? Make sure you are considering. I've a speaker catering team or your planner, 104 00:09:39,065 --> 00:09:43,225 or whoever's definitely gathered marquee the night before, so whether or not they can tidy it up and 105 00:09:43,225 --> 00:09:48,665 make it look good for the day two. Yeah, I'll get your planner, I'll say, if you're hiring a planner, 106 00:09:48,665 --> 00:09:52,825 we would obviously recommend, if you're getting married to home, you know, it's coordinate. But, 107 00:09:52,825 --> 00:09:58,025 you know, make sure someone's there, not you, to tidy up from the night before. Close down the marquee 108 00:09:58,025 --> 00:10:02,345 properly so animals aren't getting in the red wine, things like that, and then setting up ready for 109 00:10:02,345 --> 00:10:08,905 the next day. But my clients last summer, they hadn't thought about extra linen. I was asking them 110 00:10:08,905 --> 00:10:13,705 for details of the caterers and asking them for, is it a separate caterer of the next day? Yeah, 111 00:10:13,705 --> 00:10:18,505 they weren't using the same caterer. And I said, well, what power requirements do they have so that we 112 00:10:18,505 --> 00:10:22,745 can make sure we have enough fuel in the generator, because obviously we'd worked out all the power 113 00:10:22,745 --> 00:10:27,385 requirements for the wedding celebration, like having the cheer on the night before, you know, 114 00:10:27,385 --> 00:10:33,225 that sort of thing, but not for day two. You know, we asked whether they need more fuel, but we've 115 00:10:33,225 --> 00:10:41,385 had meant the year before it worked for the sister's wedding. So, and lose, as well, lose, you probably, 116 00:10:41,385 --> 00:10:48,505 you either need larger capacity, lose, or you need someone to come in, empty those lose, and to 117 00:10:48,505 --> 00:10:52,745 service them and reset them up for another day's worth of use, because you've only got so many 118 00:10:52,745 --> 00:10:58,905 flushes in those foldable loose, like they are brilliant, but you need to make sure that you're not 119 00:10:58,905 --> 00:11:03,545 overdoing them for the following day. You don't want to have sort of smell of sewage the next day, 120 00:11:03,545 --> 00:11:09,625 do you? Overflow. And also, showing back to them, like the tables, it's like crockering, 121 00:11:09,625 --> 00:11:13,865 coloring. Yeah, and glassware. Yeah, you don't want to be loaded up and just rush at home, 122 00:11:13,865 --> 00:11:17,785 and also your crockering glassware will go back dirty to your higher up. Yeah. 123 00:11:18,665 --> 00:11:23,465 So, you need to hire, you need to hire enough, and what I had that with one of my weddings this year, 124 00:11:23,465 --> 00:11:31,065 they decided to have a day to, they didn't inform me off. So, you know, I think it came out about two 125 00:11:31,065 --> 00:11:36,265 weeks before, they were like, oh, we're just going to have a casual hog roast on the Sunday, and I was like, 126 00:11:36,265 --> 00:11:42,585 oh, okay. So, do you want me to come back and clean the marquee for you? Do you want me to come and 127 00:11:42,585 --> 00:11:47,865 sort the loose and to make sure the loose are sorted? We can make sure there's enough. I mean, for them, 128 00:11:47,865 --> 00:11:53,385 they did a hog roast, which came self-sufficient. The loose were off the power on the house. 129 00:11:53,385 --> 00:12:00,025 So, power wasn't such an issue, but it was, make sure we've got enough linen in for you. Yeah. 130 00:12:00,025 --> 00:12:03,865 They were like, oh, we don't need to worry about cutlery or crockering, I think, because it's a hog roast, 131 00:12:03,865 --> 00:12:10,025 we're just going to do buns and disposable plates. What they hadn't thought about was the glassware, 132 00:12:10,025 --> 00:12:14,665 and what we're going to drink out of. And they suddenly were like, oh, my goodness, 133 00:12:14,665 --> 00:12:20,345 fortunately, I have big boxes of plastic glassware that I was just like, here, just take a few of those, 134 00:12:20,345 --> 00:12:25,625 you can use those. You need to treat it as its own event, really, coming to plan it. Like, obviously, 135 00:12:25,625 --> 00:12:28,825 it's not going to be the same scale, but you need to think of all these practical things. 136 00:12:28,825 --> 00:12:34,825 And, for us, it might come and pack down on the Sunday. Yeah. You need to make sure that, you know, 137 00:12:34,825 --> 00:12:41,065 you need to make your supplies aware. Or if you're expecting flowers, sorry, expecting the flowers 138 00:12:41,065 --> 00:12:45,625 to last the next day, then you might have to have your plan at the top of the water, even still running 139 00:12:45,625 --> 00:12:51,065 the evening after the sun's gone down to make sure the foliage displays aren't going to wilt overnight. 140 00:12:51,065 --> 00:12:56,585 Yeah, it's a hot day. You've just got to consider it. Don't just think you can go into it. 141 00:12:56,585 --> 00:13:02,585 Just do a day two thing. Just plan it like you plan your wedding day. If you want to have a day two, 142 00:13:02,585 --> 00:13:07,705 you want it to be done well and you want it to be done nicely. You don't want to be turning up to 143 00:13:07,705 --> 00:13:12,665 tedious, stressful tables, just, as stressful tables, because you haven't thought about the linen 144 00:13:12,665 --> 00:13:20,025 and a sticky dance floor. Oh, yeah. I'm just, I think about you, but I find when people do a day two, 145 00:13:20,025 --> 00:13:24,985 they're often like, oh, mum and, especially if it's a marquee at parent's home. Oh, mum and dad are 146 00:13:24,985 --> 00:13:30,905 just going to do that, but I know your parents, I think it's nice, and it isn't. But do they really want 147 00:13:30,905 --> 00:13:35,625 to be slightly hungover, perhaps from the day before, and then even just getting pretty prepared, 148 00:13:35,625 --> 00:13:40,265 stuff the drawers and, you know, without the freezers, chucking up in. Do they want to be doing that? 149 00:13:40,265 --> 00:13:45,385 I think an afternoon thing is the perfect thing to do for a day two. I think that gives everyone 150 00:13:45,385 --> 00:13:51,305 a chance to be hungover in the morning, have a lightened, because it's going to be a late-night 151 00:13:51,305 --> 00:13:55,705 finish, and everyone's going to want to catch up on their seat. It gives people a time to shower, 152 00:13:55,705 --> 00:14:02,105 check out their hotels, to have some lunch, and then come to you for the afternoon. 153 00:14:02,105 --> 00:14:11,785 I'll just think, like, hotel sits is ideal. You can then relive the day before. Yeah. It's not too long, 154 00:14:11,785 --> 00:14:17,065 but it's enough time to catch up with those people, even if it's only like 40 of your closest. 155 00:14:17,065 --> 00:14:22,825 Yes, I just think that extra little, so once they're wedding to be over, so why does that have to be? 156 00:14:22,825 --> 00:14:28,825 I was quite different. I used to work in a hotel, and I don't know why, but I found it the morning 157 00:14:28,825 --> 00:14:34,025 after, when everyone came down, they all looked hungover. We had breakfast tables set up, obviously 158 00:14:34,025 --> 00:14:37,785 normally at the hotel, like you'd have separate tables in the dining room for the breakfast, 159 00:14:37,785 --> 00:14:42,825 but the morning after a wedding, they set it up in the library, like big tables for everyone, 160 00:14:42,825 --> 00:14:48,505 and I used to be on reception, and I see people come downstairs, literally, like, Ben, over double, 161 00:14:48,505 --> 00:14:52,985 I hold in this stomach, it's kind of like still really feeling the effects of the night before, 162 00:14:52,985 --> 00:14:57,705 and then all kind of going in and having to make the light conversation. So I was adamant when I got 163 00:14:57,705 --> 00:15:02,265 my read to Jamie, I was like, I'm not getting my read in the hotel, because I do not want to see 164 00:15:02,265 --> 00:15:09,705 everyone the next day, because it looked negative. It wasn't giving off, because it wasn't a plan to 165 00:15:09,705 --> 00:15:13,545 consider the what's out thing that people have in the bathroom. It's just the hungover breakfast 166 00:15:13,545 --> 00:15:19,305 where everyone's being forced to go. I literally, like, I don't really, like, I didn't tell people 167 00:15:19,305 --> 00:15:23,065 where we were staying. No, no, no, no one else was staying there. I think my dad kind of put off. 168 00:15:23,065 --> 00:15:28,505 I think if you're going to have it in a hotel, you want to avoid that situation, because then it's 169 00:15:28,505 --> 00:15:33,145 kind of like a forced day too, that you don't necessarily want, just let people come down, have 170 00:15:33,145 --> 00:15:38,025 breakfast in their own time on their own tables. If they want to talk to you great, but some people 171 00:15:38,025 --> 00:15:44,105 might just want to have their food to make sure they keep it down and go. We tend to stay in 172 00:15:44,105 --> 00:15:50,345 like Airbnb or something like that with a couple of friends when we go to weddings, because we 173 00:15:50,345 --> 00:15:56,105 don't want that situation, like, and then you can just, I'm done in your own time. We don't worry about 174 00:15:56,105 --> 00:16:02,105 it once. I don't know my husband's friends and we still drink about it now, but honestly, the next day, 175 00:16:02,105 --> 00:16:06,985 the poor bride was so hungover, like, her husband was walking around the garden, and she was like, 176 00:16:06,985 --> 00:16:14,105 bent over double, just, you know, when you stand up straight, bless her, and they were just about 177 00:16:14,105 --> 00:16:20,265 to get in the car and head off from Kent, down to Cornwall for their mini-mood, and I just remember 178 00:16:20,265 --> 00:16:25,945 it was a really hot day, and I just thought, oh my, if I'm hungover and like needing to be hungover 179 00:16:25,945 --> 00:16:31,385 to toilet, I don't know. Oh my guess. Well, that's one of the biggest considerations, isn't it? 180 00:16:31,385 --> 00:16:36,825 Like, I had it later. Yeah, exactly. I have it later or don't have it at all, but you need to make 181 00:16:36,825 --> 00:16:42,345 the decision. Yeah. And you need to plan for it, or your parents can have a day too, like, it doesn't 182 00:16:42,345 --> 00:16:47,465 necessarily have to be you. It can be your parents can host all of their friends again, because they don't 183 00:16:47,465 --> 00:16:51,865 get to see them very often. That's what my dad did. He had probably dozen people of like friends and 184 00:16:51,865 --> 00:16:57,385 family just over for a lunch, and to be honest, Jamie didn't even pop in, because he was driving some 185 00:16:57,385 --> 00:17:02,665 stuff back to Kent. I was in my car, so I kind of popped in and said hello, literally grabbed something 186 00:17:02,665 --> 00:17:07,145 off the table and walked back out the garden, like, I couldn't stop and celebrate. We just wanted to 187 00:17:07,145 --> 00:17:13,465 get home kind of thing in the end, but we were both sort of back at work on the Monday, so. Oh, no, that's 188 00:17:13,465 --> 00:17:17,945 so hard. Yeah, we were back at work on, what do I think? No, back at work on the Monday. I think 189 00:17:17,945 --> 00:17:21,785 we had 10 days back at work and then we went on honeymoon. Oh, okay. So it wasn't all doom, 190 00:17:21,785 --> 00:17:25,865 I know. So we had that to look forward to, but it was kind of, we got married back in Sussex, 191 00:17:25,865 --> 00:17:29,305 only an hour or so back home, but we just kind of wanted to get home to be honest. Yeah. 192 00:17:29,305 --> 00:17:34,265 Dump all the cards, get all the stuff sort of out while at the way. But it, you know, it's not for 193 00:17:34,265 --> 00:17:40,025 everyone, but as you say, if you're going to do it, think about it properly and do it right. You do 194 00:17:40,025 --> 00:17:46,025 need to treat it like an event in itself and budget, break down your budget, like last week when 195 00:17:46,025 --> 00:17:51,145 we were talking to Ben from Stylus, allocate the proportions of your budget, how you want to spend 196 00:17:51,145 --> 00:17:57,385 it, even if it's, you know, a small, small event and your budget proportion is only five percent 197 00:17:57,385 --> 00:18:01,865 of what you spent on your wedding day. Yeah. You still need to make sure you're allocating that 198 00:18:01,865 --> 00:18:07,065 well enough to how you want the event to go exactly. And if you're doing a big thing, then treat it 199 00:18:07,065 --> 00:18:13,145 like a big thing, have an entertainment budget, have your catering budget, your venue if you need it. 200 00:18:13,145 --> 00:18:19,705 Decor budget, if you need it, even if your florist comes back the following day, just redo the showers. 201 00:18:19,705 --> 00:18:25,065 Yeah, it's just worth having these discussions with those suppliers and just making sure that 202 00:18:25,065 --> 00:18:29,465 everyone knows and is on board and it's not some giant surprise when it comes to the day. 203 00:18:29,465 --> 00:18:34,985 Or if you are moving venues, yeah, that you can move all the flowers. Our friend had this before, 204 00:18:34,985 --> 00:18:40,665 one of our panoprans, she had a couple and it was at a venue and no one could stay there, 205 00:18:40,665 --> 00:18:45,705 so everyone was staying at another wedding venue restaurant where they had lots of accommodation. 206 00:18:45,705 --> 00:18:50,585 So she ended up offering to pick up the flowers and drive them back to that venue the next day, 207 00:18:50,585 --> 00:18:54,905 because they had to kind of be out the venue. So I think she didn't put them in her car that evening 208 00:18:54,905 --> 00:18:58,265 and then dropped them off the next morning at the second venue because it's like 209 00:18:58,825 --> 00:19:03,705 none of the wedding party or guests were staying at the actual wedding happened, 210 00:19:03,705 --> 00:19:08,265 they were all staying at the other sort of hotel venue and they didn't pay the florist, 211 00:19:08,265 --> 00:19:13,785 so the plan was decided that and it took the flowers away. So they're repurposed and took it. 212 00:19:13,785 --> 00:19:17,705 But it just, it needs considering. Well, I think that's the whole thing with everything, 213 00:19:17,705 --> 00:19:22,505 isn't it? Is it all needs consideration? Don't leave anything to chance, don't leave anything to 214 00:19:22,505 --> 00:19:29,145 last minute. Fails to plan, plan to fail. There you go, is that all right? There are lots of benefits 215 00:19:29,145 --> 00:19:34,185 of having circumcised celebrations, you've mentioned it before, hit catch up on the day before, 216 00:19:34,185 --> 00:19:38,745 and people have had a chance to recover slightly from this. Oh, the boss it, the gossip day after 217 00:19:38,745 --> 00:19:44,025 the wedding is just wrong. Did you have that yours? Oh my god, did we have that ours? And for the 218 00:19:44,025 --> 00:19:49,785 week after when we were away on our honeymoon, we kept on getting more and more gossip about things 219 00:19:49,785 --> 00:19:54,505 that have happened at the wedding, and I love it, as a planner, when I go back and I'm 220 00:19:54,505 --> 00:20:00,105 clearing down the next day, I'm getting the day too ready, when the bride and groom come in saying 221 00:20:00,105 --> 00:20:04,985 how amazing their night was, and then you get like the maid of honours usually there, there's always 222 00:20:04,985 --> 00:20:11,145 some sort of gossip from the night before. Yeah, that is just brilliant, and it's so lovely to hear. 223 00:20:11,145 --> 00:20:17,705 To hear how your guests experience your wedding day? Because you don't get to find that out, 224 00:20:17,705 --> 00:20:22,825 you get around everyone, you can't, you can't miss all of your friends and family going in, 225 00:20:22,825 --> 00:20:27,145 so it's really nice to share it in their joy the next day. Yeah, ultimately your wedding is about 226 00:20:27,145 --> 00:20:30,905 YouTube, but you've invited these people because you want them to have a good time and be there to 227 00:20:30,905 --> 00:20:37,225 celebrate. Yeah, so it's nice to hear about their stories. Yeah, and also to catch up with people 228 00:20:37,225 --> 00:20:43,145 that you haven't necessarily spoken to. Yes, if you know you're having a day too, there's less pressure 229 00:20:43,145 --> 00:20:47,625 to go around and speak to every single guest on the wedding day and have like a two minute session 230 00:20:47,625 --> 00:20:52,585 you know talking to each person, you can have more natural conversation. You can actually spend 231 00:20:52,585 --> 00:20:59,385 the days and the time with people that you want to spend it do not try your hardest, just that's 232 00:20:59,385 --> 00:21:03,865 the hard thing with the wedding and the hosting your own event is you want to see everyone and you 233 00:21:03,865 --> 00:21:07,865 want to speak to everyone and you're just giving yourself that extra amount of time without having 234 00:21:07,865 --> 00:21:13,065 an event that goes until five o'clock in the morning, which I don't know about you, but I always advise 235 00:21:13,065 --> 00:21:19,705 my couples about having an end time and a semi-sensual end time so that everything finishes on a high. 236 00:21:19,705 --> 00:21:23,705 See, I've got that on my couple this summer. They're getting married at home, so I said we need 237 00:21:23,705 --> 00:21:29,145 to have an end time and so I was speaking to her parents. I mean kind of agreed on an end time, but 238 00:21:29,145 --> 00:21:33,145 it's not going to actually set them all looking forward to the after party, as in that one goes on 239 00:21:33,145 --> 00:21:37,625 after it's and the parents have said that's fine, like official kind of music or suppliers or whatever 240 00:21:37,625 --> 00:21:42,825 it will end up, I think it's mid-fibre kind of thrown out. Yeah, like they want to carry on after it's 241 00:21:42,825 --> 00:21:47,705 and they're hoping for people glamping and things, but there is sometimes a worry that that fizzles 242 00:21:47,705 --> 00:21:54,265 out by, I guess most people will probably go. Yes, if there's an end time. Exactly, if there's a 243 00:21:54,265 --> 00:22:00,505 carriages time and an invitation, then people will adhere to that time. So again, if you want to have 244 00:22:00,505 --> 00:22:06,665 an after party, it's not quite a day two, but tell those people you want to stay, because what you 245 00:22:06,665 --> 00:22:10,745 don't want is to get to midnight and everyone's going oh well, I booked a taxi because it was the 246 00:22:10,745 --> 00:22:15,305 end and then you're just kind of left there. Yeah, we've no one to celebrate your after party with. 247 00:22:15,305 --> 00:22:20,825 But yeah, it just needs thinking about, doesn't it? Exactly, Evie. I'm going to ask you what your top 248 00:22:20,825 --> 00:22:28,265 tip is around posting a day two. Well, we've definitely said it, I think, or it's not several times, 249 00:22:28,265 --> 00:22:33,945 but it is so important and it's just make sure you let your suppliers know that you're having a day two. 250 00:22:33,945 --> 00:22:39,225 If you've got a planner, imperative, you let them know, because then they can tell everyone else for you. 251 00:22:39,225 --> 00:22:44,825 But I think it's worth getting them involved in your day two as well and helping you, no matter how 252 00:22:44,825 --> 00:22:49,865 small you might think it is, it's a whole event in itself and just having the planner on board to 253 00:22:49,865 --> 00:22:54,745 help you with that, or make things a little extra to help you with that. And they'll also be able to 254 00:22:54,745 --> 00:22:58,425 work out what you do need and don't need. They can help you work out what you shouldn't shouldn't 255 00:22:58,425 --> 00:23:03,865 be thinking about, but I think I've seen it for people with marquees and partway through the planning 256 00:23:03,865 --> 00:23:08,185 they've gone, oh, I haven't a day two, and I'm not right, let's check the marquee company. And 257 00:23:08,185 --> 00:23:13,385 luckily, they were the first people to kind of put in that request, so their deer egg was planned 258 00:23:13,385 --> 00:23:18,985 for the Monday, but they were just kind of soon, it wasn't going to take them down. And I think you just 259 00:23:18,985 --> 00:23:23,785 need to communicate shares, connect them on Sunday, e-in-in normally is connected by electric career, 260 00:23:23,785 --> 00:23:28,025 maybe on a Monday, but you have enough linen, like you've just got to let people know. Yeah, 261 00:23:28,025 --> 00:23:33,785 there's a catering company who I work with, not catering, catering higher company, sorry, 262 00:23:33,785 --> 00:23:39,305 how I work with, who are notorious for coming first thing Sunday morning, six, seven o'clock, 263 00:23:39,305 --> 00:23:44,585 if it's not near the house, they will come and collect their rockery and glassware and everything 264 00:23:44,585 --> 00:23:47,865 like that. So if they don't know that you're having a day two and you've just ordered extra, 265 00:23:47,865 --> 00:23:52,585 it's wrong. Yeah, exactly, even if you thought to order extra and let them know, 266 00:23:52,585 --> 00:23:59,705 yeah, that you need it until the Monday. So yeah, I would just highly recommend that you let people 267 00:23:59,705 --> 00:24:05,145 know as soon as possible if you're planning a day two. Right, we'll be talking about next week, 268 00:24:05,145 --> 00:24:11,385 Tash. Wedding rehearsals. In the English sense of the word, water rehearsal is and what it 269 00:24:11,385 --> 00:24:18,425 involves and why it's worth having one if your ceremony face doesn't have one for you exactly. 270 00:24:18,425 --> 00:24:21,625 So we will catch you next week. See you then. Bye.