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Speaker: Today I have such a special guest with me, one of my amazing VBAC

lab mamas, who is also a part of our Calm Mama society and a part of my heart.

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She's here to share her.

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Powerful birth story with us.

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I'm not gonna give away and I know it's going to inspire so

many of you guys who might be sitting there feeling a fear or

doubt or wondering if a VBAC is even possible for you guys.

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When she first joined us, I remember and, and I can't wait to start

talking to her, she's sitting here with me right now, but when she first

joined, like she was carrying like some weight of that first birth.

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And questions.

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And what I love so much about her is that she took charge.

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And I'm gonna let her tell you a lot of that.

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So let's dive in and hear her journey from the beginning

to having a review act to being a part of our community.

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Trish: Hello, Jennifer.

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Hello.

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How are you today?

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I'm so glad that you're here.

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Thank you so much for coming.

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I'm glad to be here.

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I love it.

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So this is Jennifer.

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She's one of my feedback lab students.

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And what I would love for you to do, I, I would love for you

to kind of go back and share just a little, 'cause you know, my

pregnant mamas don't like to listen to long podcasts, but what.

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Tell us a little bit about your first birth and then how I, I can't

even remember at this point, 'cause you've been with us for so long.

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How, how did you find the VBAC lab and like what made you, like, what planted that seed?

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Like did you know for sure you wanted to have a vbac, like tell us all those things?

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Jennifer: Yeah, so, I had my first baby in January of 2023

and I was planning on doing the whole going natural, and.

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I, I did what I thought my body needed to prepare for that.

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And when I went into labor, things were going well.

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I was, conquering those contractions and I was like, oh, this is nothing.

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This is nothing.

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And then after being awake for so long, I'm like, so tired.

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I'm like, I just need to sleep.

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So I. I got the epidural, I slept, and then after 39 hours, I ended

up in a C-section due to being, I stalled at eight centimeters.

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And and when he came out, my OB had a hard time getting him out of my incision.

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Like, oh, this is a big baby.

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He was 10 pounds, 10 ounces.

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And so I'm just like, you don't mess around girl.

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No.

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And so I'm like, okay.

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Apparently this.

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Wasn't supposed to happen vaginally, but I, I knew that I wanted

to, still have that experience of having a baby vaginally.

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Mm-hmm.

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And so I saw you on Instagram and I knew in the back of my

mind when I was still recovering from James that like, when I'm

pregnant, I am going, I'm gonna get the VBAC lab and I'm gonna.

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And I'm gonna prepare for a vbac.

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So when I was got pregnant with my second, I joined

the Fearless birth week, and I joined the VBAC lab.

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Then when I was like nine weeks pregnant.

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And I was there for all the VBAC lab hangouts.

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'cause I knew, I know, I knew that I needed to have that extra support and knowledge

to be able to navigate me through, yeah, my upcoming birth for, for my second child.

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So I, I

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Trish: love this because.

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You knew that you wanted a vbac, like right from the get go, right?

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Yeah.

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And you had already seen like me talking about

the VBAC lab and you're like, yes, this is for me.

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But what I really love is like you were so involved.

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Jennifer: Mm-hmm.

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Trish: And I also, I would love for you to even share, because it wasn't

just the VBAC lab, it wasn't just coming to the, the pregnancy hangouts.

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You also went to a chiropractor, like you did more things.

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Yeah.

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Jennifer: So after I had my firstborn, I had,

with the C-section, there's a lot of things that.

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You can address.

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I had painful intercourse.

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Low back was so painful just sitting down.

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Mm-hmm.

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And I just knew I needed to do something more.

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And, I reached out to, a pelvic floor physical therapist and,

I learned how to relax my pelvic floor, how to strengthen those

muscles to help, have my pelvic floor be in the ultimate state.

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Yeah.

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So.

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And, and I got, got to the point after my first

pregnancy, I was, or after my first postpartum journey.

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I did that for nine months.

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And then, I was good 'cause I had my exercises and I was doing that.

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And then when I got pregnant again, I went back and it's been

a whole journey because the person I went to before, she was

no longer doing it in the office and I wasn't able to see her.

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So I had to seek.

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Someone else out.

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So I asked a friend and I went to her for a couple of

months and yeah, she was good at the very beginning.

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And one thing that I really learned from her is that, my pelvis was out.

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Mm-hmm.

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And she told me That's why you couldn't dilate to 10,

because with a big baby, like there's just no room for that.

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And so I knew that, like, explain

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Trish: that, explain that a little bit more for those of, for everyone listening

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Jennifer: because you have your pelvis bone that holds in.

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Yeah.

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All of your pelvic floor and stuff.

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And so she would, adjust that.

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And there'd be like a crap.

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And it was, and, and it's so interesting 'cause even doing like

internal work for pelvic floor, like, 'cause they do a clock.

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So like eight and nine were my problem areas.

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It was like really tender or hurt a little bit once my pelvic

floor was, or my pelvis was in that spot wasn't tender anymore.

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So that's when I knew, I'm like, okay, like my pelvis is in right then.

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Yeah.

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Because that's another indicator to figure that out for how she does that.

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And so, yeah.

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Yeah, and like I went to her and then I started getting like

persistent low back pain and I was thinking she was doing too

much for me, and so I found another physical therapist, which.

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Was even better.

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And so yeah, like, so if you go and you're not seeing the results

you think you should be or you just think something's off.

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Yeah.

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Like it's okay to go find something.

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Mm-hmm.

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Else and better for, for what your body needs and yeah.

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I was seeing a chiropractor the whole time and like I've seen this

chiropractor and for my neck because my neck would have problems.

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But he really didn't mess with like my pelvis and so I went to him.

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But like every week, like the last three weeks that I was pregnant and

I really didn't see, I felt like my baby was, was just struggling and

so, and not being able to And are we talking about baby one or two?

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Like, Hey, can I come see you?

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And that, that intuition helped me figure out,

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I need to have a myo proctor on the podcast.

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And those muscles are not getting adjusted or stretched or whatever needs to happen.

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'cause this is obviously not my specialty, but it makes sense if that hammock is like off

whack so the baby can't like actually, 'cause I tell you guys, whoever's listening right

now, like the whole kitten caboodle starts when the baby's head gets down into the pelvis.

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Puts pressure on the cervix, which sends signals to

the brain and like the whole thing starts rolling.

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So I love that and I love how like what a go-getter you are.

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Like she's not messing around y'all.

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Like there's no messing around here.

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Like she's doing it.

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So I would love to ask you about your experience, like during the

pregnancy being a part of the VBAC lab, being a part of the Hangouts.

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Like, what are some of the ways that you felt it helped

you feel more confident or supported or like whatever.

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Jennifer: So I think one thing that helped with hanging out with other

pregnant mommies is having their experience too, and what led them, especially

in the VBAC lab, what led them to their C-section and like, yeah, okay.

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These could have been avoided if.

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We did this and this and this and this.

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And so one of the VBAC moms that was in our hangout, she was misdiagnosed

with hypertension 'cause she had high blood pressure the one time.

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Yes, I know exactly.

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I know

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Trish: exactly who you're talking about.

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I ain't saying names, but I know.

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Yeah, I think she's already been on the podcast though.

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Jennifer: I believe so.

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The one time and she didn't ask to get it rechecked

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Her blood pressure was totally fine.

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and it's hard 'cause like I checked it at home and it was totally fine.

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And I felt like when I told my providers that like,

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Trish: dismissed

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And so when I was exactly my due date, 40 weeks, I had appointments, high blood

pressure again, I peed in the cup and my midwife diagnosed me with preeclampsia.

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Like, I have a big baby, baby, my placenta is

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Trish: not dying.

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And so, what other signs do we have here besides your one reading?

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Jennifer: Yeah.

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And I asked her, I was like, how was my urine?

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And she's like, oh, that's fine.

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Because you can get your blood work and then it would take days.

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I'm like, okay, I understand.

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You can go in and get induced.

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I went, I went home, I talked to my husband about it, basically cried.

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Trish: And then I came back home.

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I think I remember all, I remember all of this.

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'cause you were sharing all of that with us too.

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And And I have the labor backs signal, so I had to do that.

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That's why I remember.

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Yeah, I remember you sharing all this.

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And we like, come on.

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Jennifer: Yeah.

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And the pocket doulas.

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So I. had my chiropractor take my blood pressure totally normal.

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Like I came home home, it was fine.

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It was after five.

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And so I was like, I want to go into triage.

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I want you to monitor baby, I want you to do the blood

test and the urine sample and the blood pressure.

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And so I went in, obviously very nervous 'cause it's just like, oh.

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Because I knew deep inside that like my body still wasn't ready.

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Trish: Yeah.

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And if which, and then you're fearing going back to the OR again.

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Jennifer: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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And so, so I went in, they did all the tests, like of course

blood pressure was high at the beginning, but it was down.

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And like the nurse that was in triage was like, oh,

your baby's showing off and he's doing super well.

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And I'm like, I knew it.

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I knew it.

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And then I had a follow up appointment at the OBS office two days later

with a different midwife, and it was awesome because she made sure I

didn't feel stressed or anxiety and she's like, okay, like you get changed.

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And then I was like Listen to the song Hold Hubby's

hand and I'll come in and take your blood pressure.

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And it was totally fine.

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Trish: Oh, oh, I love that.

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Jennifer: What,

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Trish: amazing

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Jennifer: midwife.

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Yeah.

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And then it was a couple of days later when I actually

went into labor and was in the hospital though.

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And it's so funny 'cause the, the bicep misdiagnosed

me with preeclampsia, the one who delivered my baby.

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And I had to really fast like forgive her.

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'cause I'm like, okay.

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Yeah, because you could, you didn't need that

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Trish: in the room.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Jennifer: And so I love that.

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Okay, this is happening and you're the one who's on call.

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So yeah.

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Trish: So what I love about this story, and for those of you guys listening,

I know if, if you're new here, you haven't heard that, but one of the

things that sets me apart from everyone else that has a birth course online.

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Besides 16 years of labor and delivery experience and having six birth

myself, is that we do what we call our pregnancy happy hours, our

happy hour hangouts, and we have one specifically for the VBAC lab.

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And then we have one that everyone, including the VBAC Labs, students can come to.

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And what Jennifer said, which we went into detail,

is that being able to hear that mom's story.

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And her regrets and how she navigated it allowed

you to have the courage to say, hold up, step back.

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Wait a minute.

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Like, you're not misdiagnosing me.

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But what I really also love about your story, Jennifer,

and of course I know you and I know your personality.

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Jennifer can be a badass and she can be very firm, but she's also like,

has such a spirit of like peace so you didn't, you're not like, hell no,

you're not doing this like you, like you said, you affirmed them, you

validated what they were saying, but you also stood your freaking ground.

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Jennifer: Mm-hmm.

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Trish: And that's what I love about that is that.

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One of the things that I teach my students is we're not gonna be like a-holes, right?

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We're not gonna like, be like I, and I say this in the courses all

the time, which you know, is like, you can refuse anything, but should

you, you're gonna step back and assess A situation without emotions.

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'cause all of that probably triggered emotions and like you had to step back and calm

those emotions and then look at the evidence like baby is doing good, passing the NSDs.

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I had one blood pressure reading my urine is good.

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Like I'm willing to meet you guys in the middle.

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I'm, I'm willing to come to the hospital because I'm not being crazy

and like not being smart with this, but let's figure it out together.

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And I know you enough to know that if there was any

other indications you would've agreed to an induction.

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Jennifer: Oh yeah, for sure.

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In the end, just like as long as baby's healthy and I'm healthy, then.

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But if baby wasn't fine, then it would've been, yeah, an induction.

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Trish: So, right.

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And that, that's the key right there, because people will say

all the time, like the most important thing is baby's healthy.

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And mom's healthy.

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Yes.

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That is very important.

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But there's also an importance to having autonomy and making decisions and not being told

you have to do A, B, and C when you're educated and like you understand here's the deal.

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The reason your midwife was, or your doctor was probably so shocked is that

not many moms get told to go to the hospital for an induction, and they don't.

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That doesn't happen.

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Like that does not happen.

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But I tell you guys, we don't send out the induction police to get you.

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Like, you can, you can say no, and like you can pause and you can take a moment.

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And now, for those of you guys listening, obviously I'm not your medical provider.

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I don't know your situation there, you know, and I teach my mamas, like

there are indications, like if your provider comes running in, she's.

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Frantic.

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She's calling in a team and like they're like, you can read the room.

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Like there are situations where you don't mess around and I'm

sure had they done that then you maybe might not have agreed

to induction, but you would've went straight to the hospital.

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So like there, there's wisdom.

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Like there's wisdom and that's why you have to be educated.

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Do you feel like you could have made all those decisions if you hadn't

joined us and you hadn't spent time in the Hangouts or with the other moms?

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Yeah, I don't think so.

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Yeah,

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Jennifer: because I

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Trish: would've just

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Jennifer: been a ball of anxiety and like barely by 10 pictures.

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Awful.

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Trish: Yeah, I have to go.

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The baby's compromise like now.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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And that like a who in their right mind.

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If they honestly think baby's not doing well, of course we're gonna do what they say.

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Jennifer: Mm-hmm.

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Trish: Unfortunately, that's not always the case.

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So I had a couple other questions I wrote down.

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Jennifer: Let's see.

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Yeah, I know you asked about like how it is having like two or like a second one in Yes.

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The pregnancy test.

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Yes.

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So I dunno if you wanna

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Trish: go into that.

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Yes, I forgot about that, but I do.

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Yeah.

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For those of you guys listening, one of the things that I had put a

request out in our membership, 'cause I have the most amazing moms in

the world in my membership who are so loving and so graceful and just.

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Amazing to one another and funny, you guys are out of this world.

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Funny, like one of the things that we had a conversation recently and I wanted

to hear from them was, and maybe we'll end up doing a part two, I don't know,

but one of the things that I, know a lot of people don't talk about is those

feelings that you feel, and I know your story in particular about this, so.

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I would love for you to talk about going into having baby number two and

maybe even like, 'cause I'm not sure you anticipated how you were gonna feel.

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Yeah.

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Did you,

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Jennifer: oh, it was much harder than I, I thought it would be because I was planning

on getting pregnant after my son turned one years old, and it happened that month and.

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My boys are 21 months apart.

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Me and my sister are 21 months apart.

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And we have a really good relationship and it's nice to have that buddy.

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And so I was like, my mom did it so I can do it too.

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Yeah.

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It was so hard.

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I felt like one of the, like even being pregnant is feeling

guilt 'cause it's, you're, you don't have any energy.

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Yeah.

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And you, you just kind of lost this, like, I'm so sorry, I can't.

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Play with you like I used to because ick and there's girl.

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Yeah.

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You feel you're tired.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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And my like toddler's just like play with me and

I was his favorite person in the whole world.

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And yeah, that has changed.

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And it's now my husband, which is awesome to see.

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But it's kind of like, how is that for you?

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It's a little sad 'cause I'm like, oh, he used to always want me.

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But now he always wants dad.

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But I think it's really awesome because it's like their relationship is growing and

becoming this beautiful masterpiece and I love the relationship my husband has with

our boys and I think the thing that was hard 'cause it wasn't like the first time.

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Because when you have baby number one, it's just you

and the baby and all the time of the world and Yeah.

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And you just get to dote on the baby and Yeah.

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But when you have a toddler and a baby, you don't have all the time in the world.

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You're tired.

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Yeah.

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You're more tired.

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Like my, my first one sleeps wonderfully.

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The second one, not so well.

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Yeah.

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And I still haven't slept, trained him because.

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I'm not ready for that with yeah, breast milk and stuff and

like losing that nightly feed and so I am more tired still.

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He was, he had different challenges and that was really hard to like navigate

and to do 'cause he had a lip high tongue tie and just the things you have,

the care and exercises you have to do for six weeks after that release.

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Not ha spending time as much with my toddler as I used

to and him being jealous And you missed it of the baby.

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Yes.

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And just, and then like, I'm trying to like, make

sure everyone needs are met and then I'm left here.

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Yeah.

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And I'm like, what about me?

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Like what about my needs?

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Yeah.

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Like I wasn't able to have time for myself or do the

things that I need to do to feel like a person Yeah.

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And accomplished.

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And so.

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It definitely took a couple months, but I feel

like after doing it and, you're about to have

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Trish: me

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Jennifer: crying Yeah.

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After doing it and figuring it out.

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Like, my boys have such a great relationship.

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My oldest wants to get a hug and kiss from the youngest, my baby, every

time he goes to bed or every time someone goes, and so, and they like.

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My young, or my baby's nine months old and so they're like playing with toys

together and just like doing things together and just, they're just buddy buddy

and so like, yeah, it was hard to be like, Hey, oldest, we have this new baby.

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You're supposed to love him and he's gonna be your brother.

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And kind of like force that on him, but he's also interrupting your life.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Your perfect life you had before this baby came Yeah.

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Came in.

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But I feel like after the whole adjustment period

and just figuring that out, like it's really good.

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'cause I used to have to have my husband, read my toddler

stories while I fed and put the baby down for a nap.

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Because yeah, he would come in and be distracting and I'm like, I can't set him

to sleep if you're here playing with toys and like telling you about me and stuff.

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So, but now it's like, oh yeah, mom's feeding baby.

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Like I'm gonna do my own thing.

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He's used to that now.

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Yeah.

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Or he, he comes and like, lays down on Liam and

they snuggle while he's eating and it's so cute.

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So,

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Trish: yeah.

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Jennifer: But,

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Trish: and side note, because we've completely

skipped over the fact that you did get a vbac.

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Yes.

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Oh yeah.

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Thank Gods.

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Right.

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Can you imagine if you had to recover from a C-section and go through

all those things you went through, that would've been really difficult.

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Not that you couldn't have done it, because I know you, you could have done it.

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Mm-hmm.

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So in the beginning, like emotionally, 'cause I

know that you went through a lot of guilt and like.

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I hope you don't mind me saying this because I feel like it needs to be said

like some resentment towards the baby for disrupting, you know, and I know

that there were times I went through that when I had a more like difficult.

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Newborn or what have you.

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Mm-hmm.

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And just like the rhythm of my life was so disrupted and especially, I

don't know about you, but like I felt like, oh, this is not no big deal.

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I'm about adjust really quickly and I'll be the one that can do all that.

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then there's this little person, and I've said to you guys before, like

the fact that it's this like new person, we don't know them, we love them.

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We're not saying we don't.

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Love them, but they come in and they turn your world upside down.

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And to think that we won't have some anger or resentment

or feelings, but then as a mom, you then beat yourself up.

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So it's like this horrible cycle.

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Jennifer: Mm-hmm.

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Yeah.

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So definitely.

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Can you explain some of that?

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It was definitely hard, like because.

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He was pretty good at breastfeeding and then like after

three weeks, 'cause that's when they had their first spurt.

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He would, he would have more, a more difficult time

feeding and he'd be a lot more like whiny and like.

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At the breast and that's just not fun to hear.

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And yeah, like, come on.

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Just like, and it's hard because it's like I just breastfed my other

one, like not a couple months, like ago when he stopped at 15 months.

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Yeah.

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And so I'm like, it's not that hard.

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Come on.

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Yeah.

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What is the problem here?

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Yeah.

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And so, and I had to, it's like that figuring out, it's like, okay.

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There's something wrong with your body and you're struggling, and so trying

to navigate okay, I went to do chiropractic care, still have problems.

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Let me go see a lip tie, tongue tie specialist, and so went there, had all the ties.

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Yeah.

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Got them released.

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Obviously it wasn't overnight fixed because you have to do exercises four to six hours.

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Did you have to go see other specialists too, like different modalities or?

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No.

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So, thankfully, thankfully, here where I live, there's, a breastfeeding,

office, and the main gal is a nurse practitioner who does the releases herself.

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So I didn't have to go see a dentist to, to get those ties released.

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And so it was a really easy process.

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it's still a lot.

447

00:29:03,899 --> 00:29:04,139

Yeah.

448

00:29:04,139 --> 00:29:09,889

But it's still a lot like they were in Scottsdale, so

I had to drive 35 minutes to get go there and Yeah.

449

00:29:09,979 --> 00:29:13,339

Just making sure someone had my toddler Yeah.

450

00:29:13,369 --> 00:29:14,539

While I did that.

451

00:29:14,539 --> 00:29:15,919

And yeah.

452

00:29:15,919 --> 00:29:25,669

And it was hard 'cause it's like with my first, I felt like I was in like baby

honeymoon heaven, even though I was recovering from the C-section, even though, yeah.

453

00:29:26,224 --> 00:29:33,350

We struggled with breastfeeding for the first couple of weeks,

and he took three weeks to gain his birth weight and stuff.

454

00:29:33,350 --> 00:29:37,280

I was still like, oh my goodness, this baby is amazing.

455

00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:38,300

I love him.

456

00:29:38,300 --> 00:29:38,480

Yeah.

457

00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:41,720

Like, I didn't think I can love something this much.

458

00:29:42,140 --> 00:29:44,090

And I was just like, in heaven.

459

00:29:44,090 --> 00:29:46,790

And I'm like, oh, you want me to hold your baby?

460

00:29:46,790 --> 00:29:48,110

Like, no, I'm good.

461

00:29:48,110 --> 00:29:49,880

I'll hold my baby.

462

00:29:49,970 --> 00:29:51,140

And, yeah.

463

00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:54,420

That was, and it was different the second time around.

464

00:29:54,420 --> 00:29:54,690

Yeah.

465

00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:56,820

'cause I'm just like, I'm tired.

466

00:29:57,180 --> 00:30:03,830

And I felt like once I got my toddler down and I just had

time with my baby, I just didn't wanna spend it with him.

467

00:30:04,370 --> 00:30:08,030

And so I didn't like, and then you felt guilty that much and then, yeah.

468

00:30:08,405 --> 00:30:09,845

Because I'm like, I need so many time.

469

00:30:09,845 --> 00:30:12,185

Like, let me just like do something real quick.

470

00:30:12,185 --> 00:30:13,745

And like he, he's a baby.

471

00:30:13,745 --> 00:30:16,685

He is usually fine laying there for Yeah.

472

00:30:16,745 --> 00:30:18,155

Like a 10 minutes.

473

00:30:18,155 --> 00:30:25,415

And so, but it wasn't like, oh, let me play with you and

interact with you and talk with you and do these things.

474

00:30:25,445 --> 00:30:25,925

Yeah.

475

00:30:26,165 --> 00:30:29,825

And so, yeah, definitely different.

476

00:30:29,825 --> 00:30:34,115

And it was hard 'cause I'm like, why is it like, why am I not in baby heaven?

477

00:30:34,115 --> 00:30:34,775

Because I was like.

478

00:30:34,865 --> 00:30:39,275

Yeah, I wanted to be a baby Evan, like this, like new baby.

479

00:30:39,455 --> 00:30:41,015

The cutest thing ever.

480

00:30:41,015 --> 00:30:46,625

And like those feelings were not there and it was so hard.

481

00:30:46,625 --> 00:30:55,510

I'm like, I, like, I knew I still loved him because I wouldn't, I

wouldn't do all these things to help him to have like a good life.

482

00:30:55,510 --> 00:30:55,750

Yeah.

483

00:30:55,750 --> 00:30:57,910

Because I'm like with a lip tie, tongue tie, and then.

484

00:30:58,955 --> 00:31:03,215

I found out that he's like dairy and way free, and so I had to change.

485

00:31:03,335 --> 00:31:04,955

I have to change my whole diet.

486

00:31:05,375 --> 00:31:05,795

Trish: Yeah.

487

00:31:05,795 --> 00:31:05,855

488

00:31:05,855 --> 00:31:15,275

Jennifer: order for him to have like a happy tummy and so, and

like, that's a lot like I'm sacrificing a lot for, for my baby.

489

00:31:15,275 --> 00:31:15,845

Do you think

490

00:31:15,845 --> 00:31:26,216

Trish: that maybe it's the rules and the things we put on ourselves on

what it's supposed to look like each time and, you know what I mean, like.

491

00:31:26,846 --> 00:31:28,436

I think like there's literally nothing.

492

00:31:28,436 --> 00:31:29,036

We paint

493

00:31:29,036 --> 00:31:30,476

Jennifer: a picture of how it's supposed to be.

494

00:31:30,746 --> 00:31:30,956

Yeah.

495

00:31:30,956 --> 00:31:33,141

And then when it's not like that, then it's really

496

00:31:33,141 --> 00:31:35,636

Trish: hard because then we think we're wrong and we think we're wrong.

497

00:31:35,636 --> 00:31:35,696

Yeah.

498

00:31:35,726 --> 00:31:43,736

Like we did something wrong because I'm hearing you and like there's

literally nothing wrong with the fact that you were craving some me time.

499

00:31:44,051 --> 00:31:47,156

Like that is important.

500

00:31:47,186 --> 00:31:52,526

Like, it's like, you know the whole thing on the plane

when they're like, put the oxygen mask on you first before.

501

00:31:52,556 --> 00:31:52,646

Mm-hmm.

502

00:31:52,886 --> 00:31:52,956

You know?

503

00:31:52,956 --> 00:31:54,896

And like if you aren't.

504

00:31:55,163 --> 00:31:57,933

filling that need in some way.

505

00:31:58,503 --> 00:32:00,903

At some point that house of cards is gonna fall.

506

00:32:01,251 --> 00:32:12,081

So it's really, really important that you do have that time, even if it's

10, 15 minutes and it's just different when you have a toddler and a baby.

507

00:32:12,081 --> 00:32:24,411

Like those days of just like being in baby heaven alone and doing

your own thing and like, because you had those opportunities

when the baby was sleeping or whatever to feed you somewhat.

508

00:32:24,871 --> 00:32:28,831

But when you have a toddler, those opportunities never overlap.

509

00:32:28,891 --> 00:32:30,451

Like it's just always on.

510

00:32:30,811 --> 00:32:31,681

Always demand.

511

00:32:32,221 --> 00:32:32,491

Jennifer: Yeah.

512

00:32:32,491 --> 00:32:32,551

Yeah.

513

00:32:32,551 --> 00:32:40,453

You know, so, and then when you get a break, it's your husband gets

one kid and you get the other, so you decide which one you, you want.

514

00:32:41,233 --> 00:32:41,443

Yeah.

515

00:32:41,448 --> 00:32:45,853

Like, I want, it's not really the crazy toddler or the baby and Yeah.

516

00:32:45,853 --> 00:32:52,663

And so, yeah, and that's how it's with like bedtime routine because

it's just like, it's all hands on deck until they're both asleep.

517

00:32:52,683 --> 00:32:53,853

So, yeah.

518

00:32:54,423 --> 00:32:55,353

Trish: How do you feel now?

519

00:32:55,353 --> 00:32:57,033

How are you acclimating now?

520

00:32:57,483 --> 00:33:05,633

Jennifer: I feel like it's really good because, I feel like I can go out with

both of them because I am very spoiled with my husband working from home.

521

00:33:05,633 --> 00:33:10,613

So when baby sleep, I can just take the toddler out and then I kind of felt bad.

522

00:33:10,703 --> 00:33:10,763

Yeah.

523

00:33:10,973 --> 00:33:20,243

Because then my baby wasn't experiencing going out and doing things

and so, but I'm able to take them both out and not feel overwhelmed.

524

00:33:20,333 --> 00:33:25,719

I love, the me time that I needed to spend while my toddler's napping and my baby's awake.

525

00:33:26,049 --> 00:33:27,039

I spend it with him.

526

00:33:27,069 --> 00:33:31,179

'cause he's just such a joy to be with and like, so happy.

527

00:33:31,269 --> 00:33:34,389

And, and sometimes he just likes to go off and play.

528

00:33:34,419 --> 00:33:39,249

And then when he is ready for mom, he comes back to where I'm at.

529

00:33:39,279 --> 00:33:39,459

Yeah.

530

00:33:40,269 --> 00:33:41,019

And be like, okay mom, I'm ready.

531

00:33:41,654 --> 00:33:44,829

And so it's adorable and I think like.

532

00:33:45,084 --> 00:33:51,304

In this phase of my life, God knew I needed this baby at this age.

533

00:33:51,564 --> 00:33:52,854

For the things I'm dealing with.

534

00:33:52,944 --> 00:33:54,114

And so, yeah.

535

00:33:54,324 --> 00:33:55,854

Trish: cause you've been through a lot this year.

536

00:33:56,214 --> 00:33:56,514

Yeah.

537

00:33:56,679 --> 00:33:59,649

Yeah, and we won't go into all of that.

538

00:33:59,649 --> 00:34:19,626

But when I say she's been through a lot, her family has experienced a lot

of loss and grief and confusion and, and all the things on top of postpartum

and learning how to parent two babies and yeah, figuring out how to process

your grief and be present as a mom, which is, yeah, and keep on like.

539

00:34:20,136 --> 00:34:22,151

Life moves on, so, yeah.

540

00:34:22,356 --> 00:34:22,626

Yeah.

541

00:34:22,626 --> 00:34:25,146

Life keeps life in no matter what is happening.

542

00:34:25,146 --> 00:34:26,676

I've learned that the hard way too.

543

00:34:26,736 --> 00:34:26,946

Yeah.

544

00:34:27,186 --> 00:34:37,996

So I adore you and I just want you to know how we, the Labor nurse mama team, are

so proud of you and like, I hope you know that like we really are so proud of you.

545

00:34:37,996 --> 00:34:38,056

Yeah.

546

00:34:38,866 --> 00:34:39,676

And we love you.

547

00:34:39,911 --> 00:34:43,691

And it's nice having a community to go and rant.

548

00:34:44,471 --> 00:34:44,951

Yeah.

549

00:34:44,951 --> 00:34:48,671

Like to bitch, to moan, to celebrate, to like whatever.

550

00:34:48,671 --> 00:34:49,961

Like and to question

551

00:34:49,961 --> 00:34:53,921

Jennifer: too, because yeah, it's just like my, I've experienced this.

552

00:34:53,921 --> 00:34:55,961

Like, has anyone done that?

553

00:34:55,991 --> 00:34:56,201

Yeah.

554

00:34:56,201 --> 00:34:58,636

And then there's all these moms who are like, yes, this and this and this.

555

00:34:58,636 --> 00:34:58,646

Yeah.

556

00:34:59,446 --> 00:34:59,711

And so

557

00:35:00,448 --> 00:35:08,908

Trish: that's what I love about the membership and why I've kept

it so low cost, 'cause I've had business mentors or whatever,

they're like, why you, like you're, there's so much value.

558

00:35:08,908 --> 00:35:09,298

Like why?

559

00:35:09,358 --> 00:35:22,108

Like, no, I wanted to be one that moms, like, I remember when it was just my husband

working and I was a stay at home mom, and like even $20 a month could be a struggle.

560

00:35:22,108 --> 00:35:26,148

So what I love about the community though is it's, it's community led.

561

00:35:26,388 --> 00:35:31,338

Like you guys are feeding that community and you guys are leading one another.

562

00:35:31,338 --> 00:35:33,138

Obviously the, we're there.

563

00:35:33,138 --> 00:35:34,368

I can't keep up with y'all.

564

00:35:34,368 --> 00:35:38,298

I'll say that to be blue in the face, like it moves way too fast for my old ass.

565

00:35:38,298 --> 00:35:47,309

But I, like you guys have access to me on the calls, but

I love just how you guys love on one another and like.

566

00:35:47,759 --> 00:35:55,349

That was the dream in the picture I had was that

there is a safe place for you guys to like be real.

567

00:35:55,349 --> 00:35:55,409

Yeah.

568

00:35:55,739 --> 00:35:58,889

And like, no mom, shame at all.

569

00:35:59,219 --> 00:36:04,619

And we've had some moments where we've had to step in and

like be like, Hey, let's rein it in a little, you know?

570

00:36:04,619 --> 00:36:06,989

But only like twice since I started the membership.

571

00:36:06,989 --> 00:36:10,619

I think really honestly that's, that says a lot.

572

00:36:11,234 --> 00:36:12,104

No for that

573

00:36:12,404 --> 00:36:16,729

Jennifer: amount of, of moms, you know, so, yeah, I just, and, and they're really good.

574

00:36:16,874 --> 00:36:25,584

And it's so funny 'cause like one mom had an incident, like preschool and all the

moms were like, oh my goodness, I totally understand where you're coming from.

575

00:36:25,584 --> 00:36:27,024

I would be freaking out too.

576

00:36:27,024 --> 00:36:27,984

Like, you're not, yeah.

577

00:36:28,584 --> 00:36:31,914

You're not going crazy for this incident happening.

578

00:36:32,754 --> 00:36:33,474

Trish: So, yeah.

579

00:36:33,984 --> 00:36:40,074

And I, I love that because sometimes just to be able to come back to earth and like.

580

00:36:40,326 --> 00:36:43,506

Not lose it is to have someone else say, no.

581

00:36:43,506 --> 00:36:45,576

That like, that's valid.

582

00:36:45,876 --> 00:36:47,111

That's valid, what you're feeling.

583

00:36:47,471 --> 00:36:59,441

But it for just to have someone to say like you're valid in what you're

feeling and like I love even the husband rants sometimes that happen

or the mother-in-law or the family member or whatever's going on.

584

00:36:59,441 --> 00:37:03,461

Or like with Ashley and you know who and all of us.

585

00:37:03,476 --> 00:37:06,296

Like having our, our, our things to say.

586

00:37:06,296 --> 00:37:07,376

It's been really amazing.

587

00:37:07,616 --> 00:37:07,856

Okay.

588

00:37:07,856 --> 00:37:09,866

So we have been going on and on.

589

00:37:09,866 --> 00:37:28,243

We did two completely different episodes here, but one thing I would love

to ask you, obviously before we get off is looking back, do you feel like

your investment in the VBAC lab and in Calm Mama society was like worth it?

590

00:37:28,843 --> 00:37:29,083

Oh, yes.

591

00:37:29,083 --> 00:37:29,263

And

592

00:37:29,263 --> 00:37:29,623

Jennifer: why?

593

00:37:30,613 --> 00:37:30,778

Well, like.

594

00:37:31,543 --> 00:37:35,818

The nice thing is like once you purchase the course, it's there forever.

595

00:37:37,083 --> 00:37:41,373

And so I plan on happy having one or two more after this.

596

00:37:41,373 --> 00:37:41,973

So I,

597

00:37:43,178 --> 00:37:46,533

Trish: I don't think I, I don't think I 100% knew that till right now.

598

00:37:46,538 --> 00:37:47,433

No, no.

599

00:37:47,433 --> 00:37:48,063

Jennifer: Like,

600

00:37:48,603 --> 00:37:48,993

Trish: yeah.

601

00:37:48,998 --> 00:37:49,218

602

00:37:49,518 --> 00:37:50,283

Jennifer: I'm so excited.

603

00:37:50,283 --> 00:37:51,063

Yes.

604

00:37:51,183 --> 00:37:51,573

Yeah.

605

00:37:51,993 --> 00:37:53,193

Not anytime soon.

606

00:37:53,493 --> 00:37:55,113

I'm probably like in six more months.

607

00:37:55,113 --> 00:37:55,323

Okay.

608

00:37:55,713 --> 00:37:57,398

And so we'll start trying again.

609

00:37:57,398 --> 00:37:57,753

That's okay.

610

00:37:58,173 --> 00:37:58,653

Yeah.

611

00:37:58,653 --> 00:38:14,874

So, yeah, because it's just, I knew the way I've heard you on social media

and stuff and the way you, you taught things and talked about things was, is

an easy way to understand even though you're not from the medical background.

612

00:38:14,874 --> 00:38:20,394

Yeah, and people like, and it's so funny 'cause I asked

the anesthesiologist like, oh, what dose are you giving me?

613

00:38:20,394 --> 00:38:21,204

Like nine.

614

00:38:21,674 --> 00:38:23,654

He's like, oh no, I'm gonna give you 11.

615

00:38:23,654 --> 00:38:25,394

I was like, are you in the medical field?

616

00:38:25,394 --> 00:38:26,024

I'm like, no.

617

00:38:26,024 --> 00:38:28,454

I just remember last time in like different things.

618

00:38:28,809 --> 00:38:30,074

Yeah, yeah.

619

00:38:30,074 --> 00:38:44,554

And so you're like well equipped with the knowledge you need and yeah,

the community's great, but you also have like your bonus classes in there

with other professionals and so Yeah, no, have I gone through all of them?

620

00:38:44,554 --> 00:38:44,974

No.

621

00:38:45,314 --> 00:38:45,679

Oh, there's so many.

622

00:38:46,734 --> 00:38:49,014

Yeah, but there's like, there's so many Yeah.

623

00:38:49,014 --> 00:38:50,454

Good key ones.

624

00:38:50,454 --> 00:38:51,174

Mm-hmm.

625

00:38:51,414 --> 00:38:55,584

That I've watched like a couple times 'cause I'm like, yeah, wait, I need this.

626

00:38:55,584 --> 00:38:58,314

And so yeah, I need to figure this one out.

627

00:38:58,314 --> 00:39:02,064

And so, yeah, it, it's a nice resource too for that.

628

00:39:02,544 --> 00:39:07,014

Trish: Yeah, what what Jennifer's talking about is inside of Call Mama Society.

629

00:39:07,014 --> 00:39:14,214

So some of you guys know that if you join my classes,

you also get 30 days free inside of Call Mama Society.

630

00:39:14,424 --> 00:39:20,364

And one thing that we've done recently is we've combined, so now we're just.

631

00:39:20,554 --> 00:39:26,764

It's the calm birth bundle and they get the VBAC lab, they get the

belly birth class, and they get calm labor, confident birth class.

632

00:39:27,034 --> 00:39:38,614

So that way, God forbid you are going for a vaginal birth and

there's a legit reason for a C-section, and you find out maybe baby's

breach or something's going on, that you have to have a C-section.

633

00:39:38,674 --> 00:39:40,054

You've got the belly birth class.

634

00:39:40,449 --> 00:39:45,219

Or one of my mom's going through calm labor, competent birth, ends up having a C-section.

635

00:39:45,219 --> 00:39:52,479

She's got the VBAC lab ready to go and we just felt like that would be

just a great way to like kind of package it so that they get everything.

636

00:39:53,139 --> 00:39:59,559

So anyway, thank you so much for coming and thank you for being part of our community.

637

00:39:59,754 --> 00:40:01,884

We just adore you and we're so happy you're here.

638

00:40:01,884 --> 00:40:02,784

Thank you again.

639

00:40:06,174 --> 00:40:12,744

Speaker 2: I hope you guys enjoyed this episode, and what I love

most about this conversation is that it shows the full picture.

640

00:40:12,954 --> 00:40:18,144

Yes, preparing for VBAC takes knowledge, tools, and confidence, but it doesn't stop there.

641

00:40:18,474 --> 00:40:21,684

Becoming a mom of two brings a whole news.

642

00:40:21,784 --> 00:40:22,864

Set of challenges.

643

00:40:22,864 --> 00:40:35,944

So we kind of mismatched this, uh, conversation, but I wanted you

guys to hear how she navigated both the birth and the transition

and reminding you that none of this has to be done alone.

644

00:40:35,944 --> 00:40:45,184

Because her story, Jennifer's story is proof that when you invest in yourself, you

surround yourself with the right support and you get equipped with the right tools.

645

00:40:45,544 --> 00:40:47,194

You not only change your birth.

646

00:40:47,574 --> 00:40:51,084

You change how you step into motherhood no matter what stage you're at.

647

00:40:51,444 --> 00:41:00,474

So if her journey resonated with you, I want to invite you into the

same spaces that supported her as you heard in our conversation.

648

00:41:00,474 --> 00:41:09,864

If you join us, you can join our calm labor birth bundle, and you're gonna get

the whole Kit, kitten Caboodle, calm Labor Confident Birth Course, the VBAC Lab.

649

00:41:10,164 --> 00:41:15,354

You'll also get the Belly Birth Masterclass and you'll get my brand new calm labor birth.

650

00:41:15,819 --> 00:41:18,489

Pod, which is a podcast style birth class.

651

00:41:18,489 --> 00:41:28,809

And right now we're also doing a special where you'll get my companion class bundle,

which is our newborn academy, our postpartum recovery, and the birth coach class.

652

00:41:28,809 --> 00:41:31,989

So you're gonna get everything in one swoop.

653

00:41:32,304 --> 00:41:46,734

You'll also get 30 days free in Calm Mama Society, which is our community that's gonna

walk you through pregnancy up to two years postpartum because we know you deserve to

feel calm, prepared, and supported no matter how many little ones you're juggling.

654

00:41:47,094 --> 00:41:48,714

And we just adore you guys.

655

00:41:48,714 --> 00:41:49,344

We love you.

656

00:41:49,849 --> 00:41:51,709

As always, hit subscribe.

657

00:41:51,859 --> 00:41:55,039

Leave a review and I'll see you again next week.

658

00:41:55,219 --> 00:41:55,909

Bye for now.