1 00:00:30,179 --> 00:00:32,419 Appreciate you being here and then you. 2 00:00:32,419 --> 00:00:33,459 That weren't here this morning. 3 00:00:33,779 --> 00:00:36,579 Well, if you don't know what's happening at night, too bad for you. 4 00:00:36,659 --> 00:00:37,459 So we're. 5 00:00:37,459 --> 00:00:38,739 I'm going to do it anyway. 6 00:00:39,139 --> 00:00:42,579 So anyway, before we get going, we can start off. 7 00:00:44,499 --> 00:00:48,819 You go ahead and put a ribbon right now in John, in Hebrews, Hebrews 8 00:00:48,819 --> 00:00:49,459 chapter 12. 9 00:00:49,459 --> 00:00:50,419 Put a marker there. 10 00:00:50,659 --> 00:00:55,299 Then you can turn to the gospel of John 15 and I'm going to 11 00:00:55,299 --> 00:00:58,579 read a passage out of John and then we'll read a passage out of 12 00:00:59,789 --> 00:01:00,429 Hebrews. 13 00:01:00,989 --> 00:01:04,509 Anyway, I enjoy this morning. 14 00:01:04,509 --> 00:01:05,549 I enjoy preaching. 15 00:01:05,549 --> 00:01:10,549 I enjoy preaching to people who want to hear it and I love it. 16 00:01:10,549 --> 00:01:15,309 And I told brother Weatherby, I said, I said I had fun. 17 00:01:15,309 --> 00:01:17,869 I felt like everybody was with me and their people weren't. 18 00:01:18,429 --> 00:01:21,429 There's a word I don't know if any of you Texans know that people 19 00:01:21,429 --> 00:01:22,109 bow up. 20 00:01:23,229 --> 00:01:25,469 And I didn't feel like anybody was bowing up. 21 00:01:25,819 --> 00:01:27,539 And I was glad that Nancy was here. 22 00:01:27,539 --> 00:01:30,819 There might have been one person to bo up but she wasn't here. 23 00:01:30,819 --> 00:01:31,979 She's not here tonight. 24 00:01:32,299 --> 00:01:34,779 I can tease her and make fun of her and do all kinds of stuff 25 00:01:34,779 --> 00:01:35,579 when she's not here. 26 00:01:38,059 --> 00:01:42,699 Anyway, I thought for sure she'd come, but hopefully she'll 27 00:01:43,099 --> 00:01:46,619 feel better tomorrow and get some rest tonight. 28 00:01:47,259 --> 00:01:50,659 It's funny that in the bed that we sleep at at home she thinks 29 00:01:50,659 --> 00:01:51,739 we have a crummy bed. 30 00:01:53,939 --> 00:01:56,379 But when we're gone for a while we come home. 31 00:01:56,379 --> 00:01:57,699 She goes, I love our bed. 32 00:01:59,219 --> 00:02:01,619 So I don't know what to do with her. 33 00:02:01,619 --> 00:02:06,099 But anyway, sometimes bed where you are, it just makes you. 34 00:02:06,899 --> 00:02:11,659 You feel more of the bones that you didn't used to feel or the 35 00:02:11,659 --> 00:02:12,499 connections to them. 36 00:02:12,499 --> 00:02:13,059 I don't know. 37 00:02:13,059 --> 00:02:15,859 Anyway, hopefully she will be better tomorrow. 38 00:02:15,859 --> 00:02:16,739 Everything is good. 39 00:02:20,849 --> 00:02:23,649 The song that was just sung. 40 00:02:23,969 --> 00:02:27,889 Brother Donaldson sang the all of me. 41 00:02:28,209 --> 00:02:30,049 It reminded me I was thinking about. 42 00:02:30,129 --> 00:02:31,169 I'm giving you my. 43 00:02:31,169 --> 00:02:36,929 Our what we call our testimony here in a moment at Nancy and I our 44 00:02:36,929 --> 00:02:37,489 wedding. 45 00:02:38,449 --> 00:02:40,249 The major wedding song. 46 00:02:40,249 --> 00:02:41,529 Her brother's a good singer. 47 00:02:41,529 --> 00:02:44,689 But anyway the song that we wanted everybody to. 48 00:02:45,349 --> 00:02:49,429 To be our testimony to them that came to the wedding was whatever 49 00:02:49,429 --> 00:02:53,829 it takes so to be more like you Jesus. 50 00:02:55,029 --> 00:03:01,589 And when a 21 year old boy and a 19 year old girl got married, they 51 00:03:01,589 --> 00:03:06,789 had no idea all the things that might happen in their future 52 00:03:07,909 --> 00:03:11,509 for whatever it takes to be more like Jesus. 53 00:03:11,509 --> 00:03:13,769 And that reminded me of that. 54 00:03:13,929 --> 00:03:19,769 And I thought I'd tell you I'm only going to what I'm writing. 55 00:03:20,489 --> 00:03:24,649 I'm going to read you some excerpts from the book that I'm writing. 56 00:03:25,209 --> 00:03:29,609 And it's only about what we would call the. 57 00:03:30,089 --> 00:03:31,049 The big wreck. 58 00:03:31,209 --> 00:03:33,209 The first accident. 59 00:03:34,169 --> 00:03:37,289 After this accident, she was in another accident. 60 00:03:37,289 --> 00:03:40,209 Her face went into the windshield, cut her left eyelid off, 61 00:03:40,209 --> 00:03:41,609 and her left eye ruptured. 62 00:03:42,489 --> 00:03:45,529 Two years after that, she had breast cancer and had mastectomy 63 00:03:45,529 --> 00:03:47,289 and took chemotherapy for six months. 64 00:03:48,729 --> 00:03:50,209 And we thought, well, that's plenty. 65 00:03:50,209 --> 00:03:50,889 That's enough. 66 00:03:52,089 --> 00:03:57,129 Well, last year, in 2025, in January, she fell in our hotel room. 67 00:03:57,129 --> 00:04:01,889 I wasn't in there, and when I got back, she told me I fell while 68 00:04:01,889 --> 00:04:02,529 you were gone. 69 00:04:02,529 --> 00:04:03,209 I said, well. 70 00:04:03,369 --> 00:04:04,569 She said, my neck hurts. 71 00:04:04,569 --> 00:04:06,329 And I said, well, can you raise your arms up? 72 00:04:06,649 --> 00:04:07,689 Can you look this way? 73 00:04:07,689 --> 00:04:08,569 Can you look that way? 74 00:04:08,889 --> 00:04:10,489 I said, well, evidently you sprained it. 75 00:04:10,569 --> 00:04:12,249 So we didn't go anywhere. 76 00:04:12,969 --> 00:04:14,689 Three weeks later, it wasn't better. 77 00:04:14,689 --> 00:04:18,489 We went to the hospital and she broke C1 and C2. 78 00:04:19,129 --> 00:04:20,489 And so she. 79 00:04:21,369 --> 00:04:25,729 The doctor said, if it was my wife, I cannot tell you I would go 80 00:04:25,729 --> 00:04:26,849 in and do the surgery. 81 00:04:26,849 --> 00:04:29,689 But since you've already waited this long, there's scar tissue, 82 00:04:30,409 --> 00:04:32,729 and it does make it more dangerous. 83 00:04:32,809 --> 00:04:38,969 He said, if you don't have the surgery and you're going to know 84 00:04:38,969 --> 00:04:42,289 in a couple of weeks that you need the surgery. 85 00:04:43,249 --> 00:04:46,089 And so we said, well, we'll just trust God and we'll be home 86 00:04:46,089 --> 00:04:47,569 in two weeks and we'll go to. 87 00:04:47,809 --> 00:04:51,129 He said, when you get home, go to another doctor and let him look 88 00:04:51,129 --> 00:04:51,569 at him. 89 00:04:52,049 --> 00:04:56,249 So we got home, and he said that she was healing great and we're 90 00:04:56,249 --> 00:04:56,689 grateful. 91 00:04:57,169 --> 00:05:02,969 So then we went to Brazil, and she wore the brace while we were 92 00:05:02,969 --> 00:05:03,249 there. 93 00:05:03,249 --> 00:05:05,889 She wore it an extra two weeks because we went to Brazil. 94 00:05:06,599 --> 00:05:11,639 And while she was there, she had a bleeding ulcer in her esophagus, 95 00:05:12,519 --> 00:05:15,399 which we did not know until we got home. 96 00:05:15,399 --> 00:05:20,119 But the two doctors that treated her said that most people, 97 00:05:20,119 --> 00:05:22,879 or many people die from a bleeding esophagus. 98 00:05:22,879 --> 00:05:24,119 They don't know what's wrong with them. 99 00:05:24,119 --> 00:05:26,199 They don't know what's going on until it's too late. 100 00:05:26,999 --> 00:05:29,279 Nancy's father died of a bleeding ulcer. 101 00:05:29,279 --> 00:05:31,399 It wasn't in his esophagus, we don't think. 102 00:05:31,709 --> 00:05:32,909 I think it was in his stomach. 103 00:05:32,909 --> 00:05:38,189 But anyway, while we were in Brazil, we stayed an extra day because 104 00:05:38,189 --> 00:05:40,589 she went to the hospital the day we were supposed to come home. 105 00:05:40,589 --> 00:05:45,709 And then the next day, they felt like the bleeding was enough, 106 00:05:45,869 --> 00:05:48,029 stopped and so on that we could come home. 107 00:05:48,749 --> 00:05:50,269 But if you've ever. 108 00:05:50,269 --> 00:05:52,909 If you've never been in a Third World Hospital. 109 00:05:54,109 --> 00:05:55,949 It's scary, Larry. 110 00:05:56,429 --> 00:05:59,069 And she laid in what they called ICU room. 111 00:05:59,779 --> 00:06:05,379 And I could only talk to them through the phone, through the interpreting 112 00:06:06,019 --> 00:06:06,659 apps. 113 00:06:07,059 --> 00:06:17,099 And so anyway, I was just really, really believing while I 114 00:06:17,099 --> 00:06:17,699 stood by her. 115 00:06:17,699 --> 00:06:21,819 I've been with four of my personal loved ones when they passed 116 00:06:21,819 --> 00:06:22,099 away. 117 00:06:22,579 --> 00:06:27,309 And when Nancy lay there, I was just sure she was going to die 118 00:06:27,389 --> 00:06:28,989 in that hospital. 119 00:06:29,549 --> 00:06:30,829 And I'm glad she didn't. 120 00:06:30,909 --> 00:06:31,629 She's better. 121 00:06:32,349 --> 00:06:32,909 She's. 122 00:06:33,229 --> 00:06:35,309 She's an amazing, amazing woman. 123 00:06:35,949 --> 00:06:38,829 And I'm going to read you what we went through. 124 00:06:38,829 --> 00:06:40,669 But first, let's do John, chapter 15. 125 00:06:41,389 --> 00:06:44,029 If you're able, I'd ask you to stand with me, please. 126 00:06:45,229 --> 00:06:49,669 In the book I'm writing, what I just told you about the cancer, 127 00:06:49,669 --> 00:06:54,659 the second car wreck and the esophagus, the broken neck, that's 128 00:06:54,659 --> 00:06:56,819 going to be like an epilogue in the book. 129 00:06:56,819 --> 00:06:58,939 It's not what the major part of the book is about. 130 00:06:59,579 --> 00:07:03,579 And the goal is of what I'm doing with you tonight. 131 00:07:03,579 --> 00:07:09,099 The goal is that, hey, when stuff happens to us, there is a purpose. 132 00:07:09,899 --> 00:07:13,819 It's not like random God is still God. 133 00:07:13,819 --> 00:07:14,939 He's still in charge. 134 00:07:15,739 --> 00:07:21,009 And when we believe that, that gives us the ability to be able to 135 00:07:21,009 --> 00:07:25,689 go through whatever it is that God's brought in our life. 136 00:07:26,809 --> 00:07:31,449 So, anyway, let me just say this to you, one more thing. 137 00:07:31,529 --> 00:07:36,169 I say the term the sermon used to be called God's loving hand. 138 00:07:38,169 --> 00:07:44,839 God brings his hand down in our life for four particular four. 139 00:07:45,079 --> 00:07:46,039 There's four things. 140 00:07:46,359 --> 00:07:49,079 One of those things is happening when he brings it into 141 00:07:49,079 --> 00:07:49,559 our life. 142 00:07:50,519 --> 00:07:53,159 And then there's three responses. 143 00:07:53,239 --> 00:07:57,559 So I use the term when God brings His hand down in our life. 144 00:07:57,559 --> 00:08:02,319 It's the same term as when God puts us on his wheel. 145 00:08:02,319 --> 00:08:04,039 He's the potter where the clay. 146 00:08:04,119 --> 00:08:06,199 When he puts us on there, he knows what he's doing. 147 00:08:06,999 --> 00:08:07,639 Amen. 148 00:08:08,519 --> 00:08:08,999 All right. 149 00:08:08,999 --> 00:08:12,119 John 15 and verse one and red letters. 150 00:08:12,639 --> 00:08:18,559 Jesus says, I am the true vine and my Father is the husbandman. 151 00:08:19,039 --> 00:08:20,079 Look at verse five. 152 00:08:20,319 --> 00:08:23,839 I am the vine, ye are the branches. 153 00:08:23,839 --> 00:08:24,639 Now look up here. 154 00:08:24,959 --> 00:08:28,278 If Jesus is the vine and he says, ye are the branches, he's talking 155 00:08:28,278 --> 00:08:29,279 to his disciples. 156 00:08:30,079 --> 00:08:32,079 He's talking to us that follow him. 157 00:08:32,559 --> 00:08:33,879 He's talking to us believers. 158 00:08:33,879 --> 00:08:35,279 He's the vine where the branches. 159 00:08:35,279 --> 00:08:36,479 Now look at verse 2. 160 00:08:37,599 --> 00:08:42,239 Every branch in me that beareth not fruit, he taketh away. 161 00:08:43,139 --> 00:08:48,419 Every branch that beareth fruit, he purgeth it, that it may 162 00:08:48,419 --> 00:08:49,859 bring forth more fruit. 163 00:08:50,419 --> 00:08:52,019 Verse three is a neat verse. 164 00:08:52,019 --> 00:08:55,219 Now ye are clean through the word which I've Spoken unto you. 165 00:08:55,459 --> 00:08:58,618 Why would he say he purgeth it? 166 00:08:58,618 --> 00:09:00,419 That it may bring forth more fruit. 167 00:09:00,739 --> 00:09:06,179 The word purging here, the underlying word, one of the definitions 168 00:09:06,179 --> 00:09:07,299 is it's cleaning. 169 00:09:08,269 --> 00:09:11,749 You purge the vine, you're cleaning off the bad stuff, the crummy 170 00:09:11,749 --> 00:09:14,309 stuff, the stuff that's not supposed to be there, you're cleaning 171 00:09:14,309 --> 00:09:14,869 that off it. 172 00:09:14,869 --> 00:09:18,829 Although also includes trimming or pruning the branch. 173 00:09:19,069 --> 00:09:23,109 But then Jesus says, well, I'm divine, you're the branches. 174 00:09:23,109 --> 00:09:26,749 But he says, my Father, he purchased every branch. 175 00:09:28,589 --> 00:09:32,429 Then he goes, ye are clean through the Word. 176 00:09:32,589 --> 00:09:35,109 So the one way that he cleanses us is through His Word. 177 00:09:35,109 --> 00:09:35,629 Amen. 178 00:09:36,359 --> 00:09:38,839 Okay, now let's go to Hebrews chapter 12. 179 00:09:41,319 --> 00:09:42,679 Hebrews, chapter 12. 180 00:09:45,479 --> 00:09:46,439 All of it's good. 181 00:09:46,439 --> 00:09:49,959 I'm just going to concentrate a couple verses or a few verses here. 182 00:09:49,959 --> 00:09:50,719 Let's look at it. 183 00:09:50,719 --> 00:09:52,359 Verse number five. 184 00:09:54,039 --> 00:09:57,639 And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you 185 00:09:57,639 --> 00:09:58,679 as unto children. 186 00:09:58,999 --> 00:10:04,119 Hey, my son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint 187 00:10:04,119 --> 00:10:05,799 when thou art rebuked of him. 188 00:10:05,959 --> 00:10:06,759 Verse 6. 189 00:10:06,999 --> 00:10:13,399 For whom the Lord loveth, He chasteneth and scourge of every son 190 00:10:13,399 --> 00:10:14,679 whom he receiveth. 191 00:10:15,079 --> 00:10:18,199 I don't know about your little brain, but in my brain when it says 192 00:10:18,199 --> 00:10:20,759 chasten, that sounds like it probably is uncomfortable. 193 00:10:22,119 --> 00:10:24,279 Well, then he goes and scourgeth. 194 00:10:24,279 --> 00:10:26,039 That sounds more uncomfortable. 195 00:10:27,319 --> 00:10:30,809 Sounds worseth every son. 196 00:10:30,809 --> 00:10:31,609 Look at verse 7. 197 00:10:31,609 --> 00:10:35,409 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons. 198 00:10:35,809 --> 00:10:40,569 And he asks the question, for what son is he whom the Father chasteneth 199 00:10:40,569 --> 00:10:40,929 not? 200 00:10:41,649 --> 00:10:48,889 If ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are 201 00:10:48,889 --> 00:10:52,209 ye bastards and not sons? 202 00:10:52,849 --> 00:10:55,809 Furthermore, we had fathers of our flesh which corrected us. 203 00:10:56,389 --> 00:10:57,589 We gave them reverence. 204 00:10:58,069 --> 00:11:02,389 Shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits 205 00:11:02,389 --> 00:11:03,029 and live? 206 00:11:03,509 --> 00:11:08,189 For they our fathers, verily, for a few days chastened us after 207 00:11:08,189 --> 00:11:09,109 their own pleasure. 208 00:11:09,109 --> 00:11:10,869 That just means after their own wisdom. 209 00:11:11,349 --> 00:11:16,909 But he God, for our profit, that we might be partakers of his 210 00:11:16,909 --> 00:11:17,429 holiness. 211 00:11:17,989 --> 00:11:22,799 Now, no chastening, for the present seemeth to be chasing joyous, 212 00:11:22,959 --> 00:11:29,039 but grievous nevertheless, afterward it yieldeth the peaceable 213 00:11:29,039 --> 00:11:35,359 fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby. 214 00:11:36,879 --> 00:11:38,079 I'm not going to preach this. 215 00:11:38,079 --> 00:11:39,079 I'm just going to point it out. 216 00:11:39,079 --> 00:11:41,599 I just wrote it a couple days ago in the Book. 217 00:11:41,599 --> 00:11:45,599 But anyway, which are exercised thereby. 218 00:11:46,799 --> 00:11:51,739 If you're not exercised by his chastening hand, you don't get the 219 00:11:51,739 --> 00:11:52,659 peaceable fruit. 220 00:11:54,579 --> 00:11:56,619 And some crybabies go, I don't know what's wrong. 221 00:11:56,619 --> 00:12:03,779 How can maybe you're not accepting being exercised, believing 222 00:12:03,779 --> 00:12:06,899 that he's involved in it and acknowledge that. 223 00:12:09,779 --> 00:12:11,059 All right, let me pray with you. 224 00:12:11,059 --> 00:12:12,539 Our great God, I sure love you. 225 00:12:12,539 --> 00:12:13,019 Thank you. 226 00:12:13,019 --> 00:12:14,739 That you love me, that you love us. 227 00:12:14,819 --> 00:12:19,029 Thank you for Heritage Baptist Church and all the marvelous, wonderful 228 00:12:19,029 --> 00:12:21,989 things you've done in her history and God. 229 00:12:22,309 --> 00:12:26,149 Truly, this congregation here tonight believe that you have many, 230 00:12:26,149 --> 00:12:29,429 many marvelous things you want to continue to do. 231 00:12:29,589 --> 00:12:35,029 And so, God, I pray that all of us willingly open up our hearts 232 00:12:35,029 --> 00:12:39,189 and minds to your work and our lives. 233 00:12:41,509 --> 00:12:47,149 Everything that happens to us is your work in our lives. 234 00:12:48,269 --> 00:12:51,389 So what these folks are going through and this church is going 235 00:12:51,389 --> 00:12:54,349 through, it's your work. 236 00:12:56,669 --> 00:12:58,469 You know how to handle it. 237 00:12:58,469 --> 00:12:59,549 You know what to do with it. 238 00:12:59,549 --> 00:13:00,589 You knew it was coming. 239 00:13:01,549 --> 00:13:04,709 So I pray that we would acknowledge and accept your work 240 00:13:04,709 --> 00:13:09,789 in our lives and by faith that we would be exercised thereby. 241 00:13:11,869 --> 00:13:16,829 And God, it would be evident the peaceable fruit that comes out 242 00:13:16,829 --> 00:13:19,229 of our lives trusting and depending on you. 243 00:13:19,869 --> 00:13:22,589 So, God, thank you again for everything you've done for us. 244 00:13:22,909 --> 00:13:24,749 I can't wait to see you, Jesus. 245 00:13:25,069 --> 00:13:27,469 And it's in your mighty and holy name we pray. 246 00:13:27,549 --> 00:13:28,189 Amen. 247 00:13:28,269 --> 00:13:28,709 Amen. 248 00:13:28,709 --> 00:13:29,549 You may be seated. 249 00:13:32,829 --> 00:13:39,059 I'm going to read for 22 minutes or so. 250 00:13:39,859 --> 00:13:41,019 I hope you're not bored. 251 00:13:41,019 --> 00:13:43,979 I'm going to try to read it where you won't be bored, and then 252 00:13:43,979 --> 00:13:45,219 I'll make the application. 253 00:13:45,939 --> 00:13:46,659 Here we go. 254 00:13:48,019 --> 00:13:50,019 I'm going to say I'm reading excerpts. 255 00:13:50,019 --> 00:13:51,019 I'm picking stuff out. 256 00:13:51,019 --> 00:13:53,459 It's not all in sequence. 257 00:13:53,779 --> 00:13:55,619 The morning started off beautiful. 258 00:13:55,779 --> 00:14:00,979 It didn't seem like August 12th in Glen Pool, a bedroom community 259 00:14:00,979 --> 00:14:02,419 of Tulsa, Oklahoma. 260 00:14:03,079 --> 00:14:07,479 Often the mornings are hot, humid, suffocating at 7am the temperature 261 00:14:07,479 --> 00:14:10,519 today is in the mid-70s and would not reach 90. 262 00:14:11,079 --> 00:14:13,719 That would help make the day much more pleasant. 263 00:14:13,719 --> 00:14:16,759 For what was planned, today was going to be a busy one. 264 00:14:17,559 --> 00:14:22,159 First thing was to get the girls ready to go on an adventure 265 00:14:22,159 --> 00:14:23,479 with Aunt Evelyn. 266 00:14:23,719 --> 00:14:26,519 Evelyn is David's mother's older sister. 267 00:14:27,079 --> 00:14:28,839 Angie has recently turned 11. 268 00:14:28,919 --> 00:14:31,479 Her sister, Becky, would be 10 in October. 269 00:14:32,209 --> 00:14:37,969 Neither of them have ever seen a peach orchard, let alone picked 270 00:14:37,969 --> 00:14:38,529 peaches. 271 00:14:38,849 --> 00:14:42,089 Bixby's, a small town just south of Tulsa and is known for its 272 00:14:42,089 --> 00:14:43,569 sweet and beautiful peaches. 273 00:14:43,809 --> 00:14:47,209 The girls are excited and looking forward to picking peaches 274 00:14:47,209 --> 00:14:50,209 and then watching and maybe even helping in the canning process. 275 00:14:51,169 --> 00:14:54,409 The next part of the big day was Nancy and the girls getting back 276 00:14:54,409 --> 00:14:54,769 home. 277 00:14:55,009 --> 00:15:00,159 Finished packing, then driving 2 1/2 hours to Moore, Oklahoma, and 278 00:15:00,159 --> 00:15:02,079 meeting David at his parents house. 279 00:15:02,479 --> 00:15:04,799 A youth rally is on the schedule that evening. 280 00:15:04,959 --> 00:15:08,559 The reason Nancy is meeting David is because he was speaking 281 00:15:08,559 --> 00:15:12,239 at a youth camp just southeast of Wichita, Kansas. 282 00:15:12,799 --> 00:15:16,959 So we decided it would be best if we all met and more in time for 283 00:15:16,959 --> 00:15:17,839 the youth rally. 284 00:15:18,079 --> 00:15:23,039 Nancy would be driving the newly painted 1971 Ford half ton 285 00:15:23,039 --> 00:15:23,919 pickup truck. 286 00:15:24,239 --> 00:15:27,559 She had learned to drive a standard shift as a child on her 287 00:15:27,559 --> 00:15:30,239 parents small farm just east of Dallas. 288 00:15:30,399 --> 00:15:33,519 It wasn't really a working farm, more of a hobby with a few 289 00:15:33,519 --> 00:15:34,079 cows. 290 00:15:34,319 --> 00:15:37,279 The four speed was not a problem for Nancy. 291 00:15:37,279 --> 00:15:40,519 In fact she kind of liked driving it to show others she had 292 00:15:40,519 --> 00:15:44,319 no issues with operating a clutch and shifting the four speed 293 00:15:44,319 --> 00:15:44,959 on the floor. 294 00:15:45,599 --> 00:15:49,239 Our plan was on Saturday morning we were to head off for Georgetown, 295 00:15:49,239 --> 00:15:49,839 Texas. 296 00:15:50,159 --> 00:15:52,319 Dave had not pastored for eight months. 297 00:15:52,559 --> 00:15:55,759 He had been invited to Georgetown for the opportunity to 298 00:15:55,759 --> 00:15:57,989 candidate for for a pastoral position. 299 00:15:58,709 --> 00:16:03,189 Possibly this would be God's plan for the McCracken's ministry. 300 00:16:03,909 --> 00:16:07,749 Only God knew the plan did not include Texas. 301 00:16:08,389 --> 00:16:11,989 Did not include a youth rally in Moore, Oklahoma. 302 00:16:12,229 --> 00:16:14,469 These never happened. 303 00:16:15,189 --> 00:16:18,069 It's amazing how in just a few seconds everything can change. 304 00:16:18,469 --> 00:16:20,629 Yes, the peaches have been picked. 305 00:16:20,709 --> 00:16:23,109 But that would be the end of the plans for the day. 306 00:16:23,539 --> 00:16:26,459 The McCracken family is not the only family whose plans have 307 00:16:26,459 --> 00:16:30,579 been catastrophically changed in a few moments or a few seconds. 308 00:16:30,819 --> 00:16:33,379 It happens every day to thousands of people. 309 00:16:34,419 --> 00:16:40,579 It can be a diagnosis or a doctor's report, or a horrific crime. 310 00:16:41,219 --> 00:16:45,739 Mother Nature bringing up a deadly wind or literally shaking 311 00:16:45,739 --> 00:16:46,339 the earth. 312 00:16:46,579 --> 00:16:50,819 Or an overwhelming flood, or an explosion because of faulty equipment. 313 00:16:51,069 --> 00:16:52,909 Or an enemy with malice and hate. 314 00:16:53,309 --> 00:16:58,429 Or a seemingly small accident that turns into a life changing injury. 315 00:16:59,229 --> 00:17:01,709 Or a big accident that changes everything. 316 00:17:02,909 --> 00:17:08,989 Regardless of how or why, tragedy someday will come into everybody's 317 00:17:08,989 --> 00:17:09,309 life. 318 00:17:10,029 --> 00:17:11,549 No family is exempt. 319 00:17:12,029 --> 00:17:13,629 No family will escape. 320 00:17:14,109 --> 00:17:18,199 Everyone will suffer loss, heartbreak, tragedy. 321 00:17:18,199 --> 00:17:19,519 One way or another. 322 00:17:20,399 --> 00:17:26,079 Life will occur to all that are living if enough time passes. 323 00:17:27,519 --> 00:17:30,239 I'm saying this to let you know that our family story is not 324 00:17:30,239 --> 00:17:30,559 special. 325 00:17:31,039 --> 00:17:32,239 We are not unique. 326 00:17:32,639 --> 00:17:36,719 Thousands and probably millions have a story like ours. 327 00:17:37,119 --> 00:17:39,599 I've told our story many times over the years. 328 00:17:39,919 --> 00:17:42,999 At the first it was a sermon style to let others know they are 329 00:17:42,999 --> 00:17:47,249 not the only ones who who go through crummy heartbreaking tragedy. 330 00:17:47,809 --> 00:17:52,689 Also to give some comfort and peace and some answers to why God 331 00:17:52,689 --> 00:17:56,609 allows so many people to suffer and experience devastation. 332 00:17:57,009 --> 00:17:57,409 Why? 333 00:17:57,889 --> 00:17:59,249 Why does he allow it? 334 00:17:59,329 --> 00:18:03,009 If he is God, can't he prevent these horrible things from happening? 335 00:18:03,409 --> 00:18:07,009 Isn't he supposed to be better and stronger than His Arch enemy? 336 00:18:07,329 --> 00:18:12,389 Is God so weak or non caring or disinterested that the millions 337 00:18:12,389 --> 00:18:16,189 of tragedies that occur every day don't warrant his attention? 338 00:18:16,989 --> 00:18:20,829 Or is he just too powerless to do anything about it? 339 00:18:21,629 --> 00:18:24,269 These questions are fair and should be answered. 340 00:18:24,829 --> 00:18:27,469 If you will stay with me, I will answer them. 341 00:18:28,189 --> 00:18:30,349 This is not a theological dissertation. 342 00:18:30,749 --> 00:18:32,189 This is not a Bible study. 343 00:18:32,509 --> 00:18:33,709 It's not a sermon. 344 00:18:34,109 --> 00:18:39,349 This is our story of God's goodness and his work in our lives. 345 00:18:40,709 --> 00:18:43,989 Nancy was driving the red 1971 Ford pickup. 346 00:18:44,069 --> 00:18:45,749 Becky was next to Nancy. 347 00:18:45,749 --> 00:18:46,989 Then it was Angie. 348 00:18:46,989 --> 00:18:49,829 And Aunt Evelyn was next to the passenger's door. 349 00:18:50,309 --> 00:18:52,629 There were no usable seat belts in the truck. 350 00:18:52,949 --> 00:18:55,429 The peaches were in the bed of the truck. 351 00:18:56,229 --> 00:18:59,069 The girls were always singing songs that they had learned while 352 00:18:59,069 --> 00:19:00,629 listening to their tape player. 353 00:19:01,029 --> 00:19:03,989 Several days after our lives changed forever. 354 00:19:04,429 --> 00:19:08,189 The girls were talking about what was going on just before the 355 00:19:08,189 --> 00:19:08,749 accident. 356 00:19:09,309 --> 00:19:14,109 They were singing one of Mr. Hamilton's aka Pat's the Pirates 357 00:19:14,589 --> 00:19:15,229 songs. 358 00:19:15,469 --> 00:19:19,549 How can I fear just moments before the wreck. 359 00:19:20,108 --> 00:19:24,429 The words are just as precious and powerful today as they were 36 360 00:19:24,429 --> 00:19:25,069 years ago. 361 00:19:25,949 --> 00:19:30,069 When shadows fall and night covers all There are things that 362 00:19:30,069 --> 00:19:36,969 my eyes cannot see I'll never fear for the Savior is near My Lord 363 00:19:36,969 --> 00:19:41,609 abides with me When I'm alone and face the unknown and fear what 364 00:19:41,609 --> 00:19:46,649 the future may be I can depend on the strength of my friend he walks 365 00:19:46,649 --> 00:19:52,929 along with me how can I fear Jesus is near he ever watches me 366 00:19:53,169 --> 00:19:57,489 Worries all cease he gives me peace how can I fear with Jesus? 367 00:19:58,259 --> 00:20:03,379 Jesus is king he controls everything he is with me each night 368 00:20:03,379 --> 00:20:08,499 and each day I trust my soul to the Savior's control He drives 369 00:20:08,499 --> 00:20:15,379 all fears away how can I fear Jesus is near he ever watches me 370 00:20:15,859 --> 00:20:21,219 Worries all cease he gives me peace how can I fear with Jesus? 371 00:20:22,339 --> 00:20:25,659 Two weeks after the accident, one of our neighbors took me to the 372 00:20:25,659 --> 00:20:27,379 place where the accident happened. 373 00:20:28,069 --> 00:20:31,429 I had Learned that around 10:30 in the morning on the way home 374 00:20:31,429 --> 00:20:35,189 from picking peaches, the four peach pickers were traveling south 375 00:20:35,189 --> 00:20:39,949 on a gravel farm road that was lined with tall elm trees that gave 376 00:20:39,949 --> 00:20:41,589 the feeling of a tunnel. 377 00:20:42,069 --> 00:20:46,309 This was a new road for Nancy, and Evelyn was giving the directions. 378 00:20:46,549 --> 00:20:51,349 The tunnel of trees, the slight uphill grade and the overgrown 379 00:20:51,349 --> 00:20:55,789 weeds at the intersection and the missing stop sign made it impossible 380 00:20:56,029 --> 00:21:00,469 to see the old paved highway going east and west until you were 381 00:21:00,469 --> 00:21:01,469 right on top of it. 382 00:21:02,829 --> 00:21:05,829 After visiting the site of the accident, we went to the salvage 383 00:21:05,829 --> 00:21:07,549 yard and I saw the peach truck. 384 00:21:08,109 --> 00:21:12,029 The front left fender was smashed and the back corner panel 385 00:21:12,029 --> 00:21:12,909 was smashed. 386 00:21:13,469 --> 00:21:17,109 The overwhelming Power of the crashing of the front fenders caused 387 00:21:17,109 --> 00:21:20,829 the trucks to spin away from each other and smash each other's 388 00:21:20,829 --> 00:21:22,029 back quarter panels. 389 00:21:22,509 --> 00:21:23,709 The force was so great. 390 00:21:24,109 --> 00:21:28,709 Nancy's door was torn from its latchings, its latching mechanisms. 391 00:21:28,709 --> 00:21:31,309 And her body was quickly between the two trucks. 392 00:21:31,789 --> 00:21:35,629 The left side of her skull, just in front of the top of her ear, 393 00:21:35,789 --> 00:21:39,309 was crushed about the size of a 50 cent piece. 394 00:21:40,189 --> 00:21:44,349 The reason we know that this is the reason we know this is that 395 00:21:44,349 --> 00:21:48,749 the color of the paint that was cleaned from her brain was blue. 396 00:21:49,719 --> 00:21:51,159 The color of the work truck. 397 00:21:51,959 --> 00:21:55,239 Nancy's body was shot out between the trucks like a slingshot. 398 00:21:55,399 --> 00:21:58,559 Her body slid down the old pavement and peeled skin and hair 399 00:21:58,559 --> 00:21:59,639 from the back of her head. 400 00:22:00,039 --> 00:22:03,399 Her forehead had a gash from side to side like a Frankenstein 401 00:22:03,399 --> 00:22:03,879 scar. 402 00:22:04,199 --> 00:22:07,319 She had some road rash, but nothing that stood out. 403 00:22:07,719 --> 00:22:08,719 It's remarkable. 404 00:22:08,719 --> 00:22:12,679 The only thing that she broke was her collarbone and her head. 405 00:22:13,719 --> 00:22:16,639 The girls tell the story that when the truck stopped jerking and 406 00:22:16,639 --> 00:22:19,929 bouncing and shaking, they looked at each other, then at Aunt 407 00:22:19,929 --> 00:22:20,569 Evelyn. 408 00:22:21,449 --> 00:22:23,129 They described what happened next. 409 00:22:23,689 --> 00:22:27,849 Aunt Evelyn looked an ashen color and she slid out of the seat 410 00:22:27,849 --> 00:22:28,969 onto the floor. 411 00:22:29,529 --> 00:22:32,009 They knew they had just watched her die. 412 00:22:32,169 --> 00:22:34,328 They wanted to get out of that truck. 413 00:22:34,569 --> 00:22:37,689 They weren't about to get out on Aunt Evelyn's side and they couldn't 414 00:22:37,689 --> 00:22:38,569 if they wanted to. 415 00:22:38,569 --> 00:22:40,889 Her door was pinned against the ditch. 416 00:22:41,369 --> 00:22:44,879 Aunt Evelyn wasn't dead, but she was critical. 417 00:22:45,279 --> 00:22:48,719 When the crash happened, they were all whiplashed to the left. 418 00:22:49,279 --> 00:22:52,759 Becky's right leg was wrapped around the gear shifter, resulting 419 00:22:52,759 --> 00:22:54,159 in torn thigh muscles. 420 00:22:54,399 --> 00:22:56,999 The top of her head hit something and she needed several 421 00:22:56,999 --> 00:22:57,599 stitches. 422 00:22:58,079 --> 00:23:01,319 The right side of Angie's face hit something that resulted in a 423 00:23:01,319 --> 00:23:03,999 black eye that lasted for more than six months. 424 00:23:04,799 --> 00:23:07,999 Five years later, the day she was to get her driver's license, 425 00:23:08,079 --> 00:23:09,599 she began to have seizures. 426 00:23:10,199 --> 00:23:13,319 We all believe this was a direct result from her six months 427 00:23:13,399 --> 00:23:14,199 black eye. 428 00:23:14,599 --> 00:23:17,079 She was on seizure medicine for just a few years. 429 00:23:17,079 --> 00:23:20,519 We are grateful that she doesn't need medication any longer. 430 00:23:21,079 --> 00:23:24,159 Angie also banged her shoulder into something and she broke her 431 00:23:24,159 --> 00:23:24,919 collarbone. 432 00:23:26,759 --> 00:23:30,759 Just moments after the crash, a lady driving a brown van was coming 433 00:23:30,759 --> 00:23:33,079 the same direction as a blue work truck. 434 00:23:33,479 --> 00:23:37,159 She stopped short of the accident and saw two young girls 435 00:23:37,529 --> 00:23:39,049 getting out of the red Ford. 436 00:23:39,609 --> 00:23:42,849 The girls were getting away from Aunt Evelyn and they wanted 437 00:23:42,849 --> 00:23:43,849 to find their mama. 438 00:23:44,569 --> 00:23:47,769 The girls testimony is that when they saw their mother across 439 00:23:47,769 --> 00:23:52,729 the road, she was covered with so much blood, she was unrecognizable. 440 00:23:53,129 --> 00:23:57,009 The only way they knew for sure it was her is because of her 441 00:23:57,009 --> 00:23:57,529 clothing. 442 00:23:58,249 --> 00:24:02,249 Just then, the nice lady from the van got their attention and said, 443 00:24:02,249 --> 00:24:04,729 Girls, girls, don't go across the road. 444 00:24:04,729 --> 00:24:06,489 Please don't go across the road. 445 00:24:07,409 --> 00:24:09,689 She helped these two frightened, bloodied and bruised 446 00:24:09,689 --> 00:24:13,329 little girls to her van and waited with them until help arrived. 447 00:24:13,809 --> 00:24:17,529 The van was one of those that the door would slide back and you 448 00:24:17,529 --> 00:24:18,929 could step inside. 449 00:24:19,329 --> 00:24:22,249 The girl sat in the doorway of the van with her feet touching the 450 00:24:22,249 --> 00:24:22,529 ground. 451 00:24:23,409 --> 00:24:30,009 In those short moments, Becky looks at Angie and says, how can 452 00:24:30,009 --> 00:24:32,689 I fear when Jesus is near? 453 00:24:33,849 --> 00:24:36,169 And they began to softly sing this song again. 454 00:24:38,729 --> 00:24:41,849 My parents and I arrived in the hospital in the afternoon around 455 00:24:41,849 --> 00:24:42,369 4 o'. 456 00:24:42,369 --> 00:24:42,649 Clock. 457 00:24:43,129 --> 00:24:45,809 I was thankful for the outpouring of love and said thank 458 00:24:45,809 --> 00:24:48,089 you to several as we made our way through the crowd. 459 00:24:48,489 --> 00:24:51,449 We were relieved and thankful when we were informed that Angie 460 00:24:51,449 --> 00:24:52,969 and Becky were going to be okay. 461 00:24:53,049 --> 00:24:54,729 And they were at our neighbor's house. 462 00:24:55,529 --> 00:24:58,409 We also learned that Aunt Evelyn was alive and in the same 463 00:24:58,409 --> 00:25:02,319 hospital in ICU and expected to make a full recovery. 464 00:25:03,279 --> 00:25:05,639 When I made it through the information desk, they told me that 465 00:25:05,639 --> 00:25:08,159 Nancy was out of surgery and in icu. 466 00:25:08,959 --> 00:25:12,119 I was instructed to go through the double doors down the hall and 467 00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:13,919 I would be shown to Nancy's room. 468 00:25:14,639 --> 00:25:17,999 As I was walking down the hall, a man dressed as a doctor in 469 00:25:17,999 --> 00:25:20,719 scrubs asked If I was McCracken. 470 00:25:20,879 --> 00:25:24,959 I said yes, and he said he was a doctor that operated on her. 471 00:25:25,279 --> 00:25:25,619 He. 472 00:25:25,689 --> 00:25:29,849 He began to explain what he had done and he described her condition. 473 00:25:30,569 --> 00:25:32,969 Her head had a fracture on the left near the ear. 474 00:25:32,969 --> 00:25:35,209 And the bone was pressing down on the brain. 475 00:25:36,089 --> 00:25:40,129 The good news was that it had not penetrated the dura, the protective 476 00:25:40,129 --> 00:25:41,689 membrane around the brain. 477 00:25:42,169 --> 00:25:45,449 He was able to clean all the paint and debris from inside her 478 00:25:45,449 --> 00:25:45,769 head. 479 00:25:46,169 --> 00:25:49,129 He removed the broken skull fragments and smoothed the edges, 480 00:25:49,289 --> 00:25:53,679 but did not put a plate over the hole, believing the muscles on 481 00:25:53,679 --> 00:25:56,159 that part of the skull would be enough protection. 482 00:25:56,479 --> 00:26:00,279 He showed me when you chew, you can see and you can feel the 483 00:26:00,279 --> 00:26:00,799 muscle. 484 00:26:01,199 --> 00:26:04,079 He said that her brain had been bruised on all sides. 485 00:26:04,479 --> 00:26:05,999 Nancy was in a coma. 486 00:26:06,799 --> 00:26:10,239 What the doctor was most concerned for was the brain stem. 487 00:26:11,519 --> 00:26:13,679 It was either bruised or severed. 488 00:26:13,999 --> 00:26:17,239 If she lived for three days, he would perform a test to see if 489 00:26:17,239 --> 00:26:20,259 the signal made the loop or the circuit in her brain. 490 00:26:20,979 --> 00:26:24,579 He explained that all involuntary body functions such as 491 00:26:24,659 --> 00:26:29,379 heart rate, breathing rate and temperature are controlled through 492 00:26:29,379 --> 00:26:30,419 the brain stem. 493 00:26:30,739 --> 00:26:33,299 These were all off the charts for Nancy. 494 00:26:33,539 --> 00:26:35,859 She had a laceration across her forehead. 495 00:26:35,939 --> 00:26:39,459 He had put staples there and felt like it should heal nicely. 496 00:26:40,019 --> 00:26:42,699 He explained the back of her head at several places where the 497 00:26:42,699 --> 00:26:44,819 skin and hair had been pulled away. 498 00:26:45,399 --> 00:26:47,719 He cleaned and medicated and bandaged it. 499 00:26:48,919 --> 00:26:50,599 The doctor showed me to her room. 500 00:26:50,839 --> 00:26:53,439 I thanked him for his explanations and all that he had 501 00:26:53,439 --> 00:26:53,719 done. 502 00:26:53,879 --> 00:26:54,759 Then he left. 503 00:26:55,959 --> 00:26:59,719 Nancy was lying on her back with tubes and wires connected to 504 00:26:59,719 --> 00:27:00,359 monitors. 505 00:27:00,599 --> 00:27:03,399 She was bandaged with gauze wrapped around her head. 506 00:27:03,799 --> 00:27:06,679 The only thing that was visible was a portion of the staples. 507 00:27:06,999 --> 00:27:08,839 The rest was covered in bandages. 508 00:27:09,319 --> 00:27:12,559 They had not shaved her head entirely because I could see short 509 00:27:12,559 --> 00:27:15,909 pieces of hair sticking underneath some of the gauze. 510 00:27:16,309 --> 00:27:18,309 She was in a deep coma. 511 00:27:18,869 --> 00:27:22,309 I kissed her face and talked to her as if she were awake. 512 00:27:22,789 --> 00:27:26,469 The only thing I knew about comas was what I'd seen on tv. 513 00:27:26,949 --> 00:27:29,749 I told her that I loved her and that the girls were at the neighbor's 514 00:27:29,749 --> 00:27:31,269 house and they were okay. 515 00:27:31,749 --> 00:27:37,149 I prayed with her and put her in God's hands, believing and trusting 516 00:27:37,149 --> 00:27:39,509 he was in control of the uncontrollable. 517 00:27:40,239 --> 00:27:44,319 I kissed her again, went to the waiting room, told her friends 518 00:27:44,319 --> 00:27:46,239 and family what the doctor told me. 519 00:27:47,199 --> 00:27:49,359 I let them know that I was going home. 520 00:27:49,839 --> 00:27:52,399 There were two little girls that needed me. 521 00:27:53,839 --> 00:27:56,239 For 55 days she had not opened her eyes. 522 00:27:57,759 --> 00:28:01,999 It had been 60 days since I had seen those smiling, playful, 523 00:28:01,999 --> 00:28:03,679 captivating, bright blue eyes. 524 00:28:03,919 --> 00:28:07,439 I had just kissed her goodbye and was in the car backing out of 525 00:28:07,439 --> 00:28:09,539 the driveway and I had my window down. 526 00:28:09,539 --> 00:28:12,779 She had the front door open, leaning out, waving, blowing kisses 527 00:28:12,779 --> 00:28:14,219 and mouthing, I love you. 528 00:28:14,939 --> 00:28:17,659 I was waving and saying, I love you. 529 00:28:18,059 --> 00:28:20,379 The memory is so precious and it constantly. 530 00:28:20,539 --> 00:28:24,059 The memory is precious and it constantly reminds me when one of 531 00:28:24,059 --> 00:28:24,859 us is leaving. 532 00:28:24,859 --> 00:28:29,659 We never know that this will be the last time to look into each 533 00:28:29,659 --> 00:28:30,379 other's eyes. 534 00:28:30,939 --> 00:28:34,379 I've made it a personal rule that I will not leave the house upset. 535 00:28:35,019 --> 00:28:38,339 If this was to be our last memory, I want it to be like it was 536 00:28:38,339 --> 00:28:40,859 on Monday 8th August. 537 00:28:41,659 --> 00:28:43,499 Now it was October 6th. 538 00:28:43,819 --> 00:28:45,419 I was on my lunchtime visit. 539 00:28:45,819 --> 00:28:47,179 I walked into her room. 540 00:28:47,339 --> 00:28:50,019 The head of her bed is on the left, so I could see that her right 541 00:28:50,019 --> 00:28:50,858 eye was shut. 542 00:28:51,259 --> 00:28:54,499 As I walked around the foot of the bed, I saw that her left eye 543 00:28:54,499 --> 00:28:55,139 was opened. 544 00:28:55,139 --> 00:28:56,059 Oh, hallelujah. 545 00:28:56,059 --> 00:28:56,939 I blurted out. 546 00:28:56,939 --> 00:28:57,979 Hello, Nancy. 547 00:28:57,979 --> 00:28:59,539 I was grinning from ear to ear. 548 00:28:59,539 --> 00:29:03,039 I bent over and kissed her and I was so excited to see her beautiful 549 00:29:03,039 --> 00:29:03,679 blue eye. 550 00:29:03,839 --> 00:29:06,999 As I write these words, I began to cry, reliving the joy and 551 00:29:06,999 --> 00:29:08,079 the thrill of that moment. 552 00:29:08,319 --> 00:29:10,759 I just kept talking, saying, I love you. 553 00:29:10,759 --> 00:29:11,839 I'm glad to see you. 554 00:29:11,839 --> 00:29:13,359 I'm so glad you're awake. 555 00:29:13,439 --> 00:29:14,639 It's been so long. 556 00:29:15,519 --> 00:29:18,159 Then I noticed she wasn't looking at anything. 557 00:29:18,639 --> 00:29:21,999 It was just a stare straight at the ceiling. 558 00:29:22,399 --> 00:29:25,519 Her eye was opened, but she wasn't awake. 559 00:29:26,159 --> 00:29:28,239 She's still considered comatose. 560 00:29:29,309 --> 00:29:32,189 I'd never heard of that before and I was not expecting it. 561 00:29:33,149 --> 00:29:36,269 The next day, both eyes were open, but it was still as if nobody 562 00:29:36,269 --> 00:29:36,909 was home. 563 00:29:37,629 --> 00:29:38,989 They didn't look at anything. 564 00:29:39,389 --> 00:29:40,909 Talking to her as if she. 565 00:29:41,069 --> 00:29:41,629 As if. 566 00:29:41,629 --> 00:29:43,149 It was as if she didn't hear you. 567 00:29:43,549 --> 00:29:46,349 If you thought you had her attention, you would soon notice 568 00:29:46,349 --> 00:29:49,189 that she was not following you with her eyes. 569 00:29:49,189 --> 00:29:51,949 She was just staring with no recognition. 570 00:29:53,629 --> 00:29:57,469 I remember one day I entered into the room and I was excited because 571 00:29:57,469 --> 00:30:00,229 the nurses had given Nancy some relief from the bed and she 572 00:30:00,229 --> 00:30:01,709 was sitting in a wheelchair. 573 00:30:02,429 --> 00:30:05,389 I asked if I could roll her outside to the garden area. 574 00:30:05,709 --> 00:30:08,589 It was beautiful outside and they said yes. 575 00:30:08,989 --> 00:30:10,909 As we traveled down the halls and the. 576 00:30:11,069 --> 00:30:13,509 And the elevator, she did not hold her head up. 577 00:30:13,509 --> 00:30:16,869 It was slightly tilted forward, leaning a little bit to 578 00:30:16,869 --> 00:30:17,309 the left. 579 00:30:17,629 --> 00:30:20,909 I was hoping that being outside in the sunshine and the beautiful 580 00:30:20,909 --> 00:30:24,689 surroundings, it would spark something in her and she would show 581 00:30:24,929 --> 00:30:28,049 she had recognition of everything, or at least something. 582 00:30:28,609 --> 00:30:30,929 I wanted her to let me know she was awake. 583 00:30:31,649 --> 00:30:34,929 Her eyes were open, as if she were taking in everything. 584 00:30:35,649 --> 00:30:37,569 But in just a minute, it was obvious. 585 00:30:37,649 --> 00:30:42,369 With her eyes wide open, she was still zombie like, with no awareness 586 00:30:42,609 --> 00:30:44,289 or recognition whatsoever. 587 00:30:44,769 --> 00:30:46,449 For me, it was heartbreaking. 588 00:30:46,769 --> 00:30:50,369 I just knew being outside would stir something in her. 589 00:30:52,109 --> 00:30:55,869 After eight weeks at St. Francis Hospital, Nancy was moved 590 00:30:55,869 --> 00:31:00,109 by ambulance to a rehab facility at the Broken Arrow Medical 591 00:31:00,109 --> 00:31:03,789 center in Broken arrow, Oklahoma, on October 15th. 592 00:31:04,429 --> 00:31:06,589 The IVs have been disconnected. 593 00:31:06,829 --> 00:31:08,429 There was no longer a trach. 594 00:31:08,909 --> 00:31:12,189 The hole in the neck just closes up and begins to grow together 595 00:31:12,269 --> 00:31:14,909 as if it was stitched without stitches. 596 00:31:15,229 --> 00:31:17,509 If you know what you're looking for, you could see a small 597 00:31:17,509 --> 00:31:17,949 scar. 598 00:31:17,949 --> 00:31:18,269 Today. 599 00:31:18,829 --> 00:31:24,109 You may not notice it if you were not looking for it. 600 00:31:24,749 --> 00:31:27,149 The staples had been removed from her forehead. 601 00:31:27,229 --> 00:31:30,069 The stitches on the back of her head and the ones near her temple 602 00:31:30,069 --> 00:31:30,909 had dissolved. 603 00:31:31,549 --> 00:31:34,828 She was able to swallow soft things like Jello. 604 00:31:35,229 --> 00:31:37,869 She was very good at sucking on a straw. 605 00:31:38,349 --> 00:31:39,709 She had not yet stood. 606 00:31:40,109 --> 00:31:41,789 Her bathroom was a catheter. 607 00:31:42,029 --> 00:31:43,149 She wasn't talking. 608 00:31:43,629 --> 00:31:46,269 There was no way to tell if she knew us or not. 609 00:31:46,969 --> 00:31:51,249 There was no expression in her eyes or her face that gave any indication 610 00:31:51,249 --> 00:31:53,209 that we were familiar to her. 611 00:31:53,769 --> 00:31:57,849 We have visited her every day for eight weeks, hoping, praying, 612 00:31:58,009 --> 00:32:01,049 believing she could hear our voices and wouldn't know who we were. 613 00:32:01,689 --> 00:32:04,409 She is still considered comatose. 614 00:32:05,369 --> 00:32:08,889 When Nancy first began to talk, her voice was soft and raspy. 615 00:32:09,289 --> 00:32:10,649 She spoke slowly. 616 00:32:10,969 --> 00:32:14,089 She had the cadence and inflection of an innocent toddler. 617 00:32:14,669 --> 00:32:18,029 I've always been playful with Nancy and going about teasing her, 618 00:32:18,189 --> 00:32:21,709 trying to get a rise out of her, make her smile or laugh with 619 00:32:21,709 --> 00:32:23,309 her quick wit and sly smile. 620 00:32:23,309 --> 00:32:26,869 She always had been a good sport and a sidekick in receiving 621 00:32:26,869 --> 00:32:29,869 and responding to my playfulness and my sense of humor. 622 00:32:30,509 --> 00:32:35,629 It is true there have been times when the humor was not received 623 00:32:35,709 --> 00:32:36,749 like I had hoped. 624 00:32:37,389 --> 00:32:42,839 After all, I am a man Standing at her right side with her head with 625 00:32:42,839 --> 00:32:46,919 her I'm sorry, standing on her right side with her head to my left 626 00:32:46,999 --> 00:32:49,079 because this is the side that works. 627 00:32:49,399 --> 00:32:52,879 The left arm continued to be folded against her chest and her 628 00:32:52,879 --> 00:32:54,279 hand was still in a fist. 629 00:32:54,519 --> 00:32:57,239 I had just asked her if she was married. 630 00:32:58,439 --> 00:33:01,799 She wrinkled her brow some and looked as if she was thinking. 631 00:33:02,439 --> 00:33:06,209 Finally, in her child voice, she said no. 632 00:33:07,809 --> 00:33:12,009 I looked at her with love and sincerity and asked her, would you 633 00:33:12,009 --> 00:33:12,689 marry me? 634 00:33:13,729 --> 00:33:16,689 She did the wrinkled brow thing again and thought for a moment. 635 00:33:16,689 --> 00:33:21,249 With no expression, just a matter of fact statement, she said 636 00:33:22,209 --> 00:33:22,609 no. 637 00:33:23,889 --> 00:33:25,249 I honestly wasn't phased. 638 00:33:25,249 --> 00:33:27,409 I quickly said, too bad you're already married to me. 639 00:33:27,409 --> 00:33:28,209 You're my wife. 640 00:33:28,209 --> 00:33:29,369 You can't get away from me. 641 00:33:29,369 --> 00:33:30,689 You have to go home with me. 642 00:33:31,289 --> 00:33:33,289 Those that were around the bed all snickered. 643 00:33:33,289 --> 00:33:34,249 Not Nancy. 644 00:33:34,409 --> 00:33:38,729 Her response was if she had no idea what I was talking about. 645 00:33:40,089 --> 00:33:43,449 As the days went along, Nancy did begin to realize that we were 646 00:33:43,449 --> 00:33:46,969 the same people that came every day and she was accepting, 647 00:33:47,769 --> 00:33:55,249 maybe even remembering or better even knowing that we were 648 00:33:55,249 --> 00:33:55,769 her family. 649 00:33:56,499 --> 00:33:59,219 I was her husband, Angie and Becky were her daughters. 650 00:33:59,459 --> 00:34:02,299 It wasn't like a light came on and she says, oh yeah, I know who 651 00:34:02,299 --> 00:34:02,819 you are. 652 00:34:03,139 --> 00:34:06,179 It was more like an acceptance that we were her family. 653 00:34:06,579 --> 00:34:10,499 There was no expression of thrill or joy or excitement that 654 00:34:10,499 --> 00:34:13,619 she understood or finally knew who we were. 655 00:34:15,219 --> 00:34:18,779 We weren't sure if she was aware if she had a relationship with 656 00:34:18,779 --> 00:34:19,219 God. 657 00:34:20,019 --> 00:34:23,339 After every visit, no matter how deep the coma or during the getting 658 00:34:23,339 --> 00:34:27,489 lighter phase, I would bend over her face, put my right hand 659 00:34:27,489 --> 00:34:31,809 on top of her head, my left hand on her left arm, and I would 660 00:34:31,809 --> 00:34:32,489 pray with her. 661 00:34:33,609 --> 00:34:35,289 It was sometime in November. 662 00:34:35,769 --> 00:34:39,729 I had just finished praying and was starting to raise up away 663 00:34:39,729 --> 00:34:40,329 from her. 664 00:34:40,649 --> 00:34:43,769 She grabbed my shirt just below the neck and with her good 665 00:34:43,769 --> 00:34:48,729 hand pulled me down close to her face and said in her raspy childish 666 00:34:48,809 --> 00:34:55,299 voice, day that I thank the Lord for you. 667 00:34:55,859 --> 00:34:56,459 Mercy. 668 00:34:56,459 --> 00:34:59,739 I cried and kissed her and rejoiced with confidence that she 669 00:34:59,739 --> 00:35:00,699 knew who God was. 670 00:35:00,699 --> 00:35:02,899 And then we have relationship with him. 671 00:35:04,579 --> 00:35:07,699 The second week of December there began to be a new complication. 672 00:35:08,339 --> 00:35:11,619 The descriptions that therapists and doctors used was tremors. 673 00:35:12,179 --> 00:35:16,299 The explanation was that as the swelling decreases and abnormal 674 00:35:16,299 --> 00:35:20,889 circuits become active or or the brain rewires incorrectly or 675 00:35:20,889 --> 00:35:25,209 scar tissue affects the brain signaling the systems that normally 676 00:35:25,209 --> 00:35:28,369 keep movement smooth and controlled become unbalanced. 677 00:35:28,769 --> 00:35:32,929 The brain signals without proper regulation resulting in muscles 678 00:35:33,169 --> 00:35:38,769 firing rhythmically and involuntarily, which we see as tremors. 679 00:35:39,409 --> 00:35:43,689 Nancy's tremors were so violent, all physical therapy had 680 00:35:43,689 --> 00:35:44,209 to stop. 681 00:35:45,119 --> 00:35:47,599 She was not able to walk or stand on her own. 682 00:35:48,079 --> 00:35:53,359 Her entire body shook so much she had to be tied into a wheelchair. 683 00:35:53,679 --> 00:35:56,959 It was involuntary and completely uncontrollable. 684 00:35:57,519 --> 00:36:00,239 We call the tremors the shakes. 685 00:36:01,279 --> 00:36:04,719 The doctor did say the tremors would slowly fade and someday in 686 00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:06,639 the future you might not even notice them. 687 00:36:07,439 --> 00:36:09,439 The tremors did slowly diminish. 688 00:36:09,759 --> 00:36:13,609 We we used cloth belts for at least three months in the wheelchair. 689 00:36:14,089 --> 00:36:17,409 Her head and hands and arms would continue to shake for more 690 00:36:17,409 --> 00:36:18,009 than a year. 691 00:36:18,649 --> 00:36:21,689 If she was agitated or exciting, the shaking would be more 692 00:36:21,689 --> 00:36:22,249 pronounced. 693 00:36:22,889 --> 00:36:25,129 This would continue for more than five years. 694 00:36:25,928 --> 00:36:28,409 The tremors in her right hand are still part of her life. 695 00:36:29,289 --> 00:36:33,049 All fine motor skills are performed with her right hand. 696 00:36:33,529 --> 00:36:39,419 When she attempted to eat the food on the fork or the spoon would 697 00:36:39,419 --> 00:36:43,379 shake off and you never knew where it might land in its surprising 698 00:36:43,459 --> 00:36:46,979 flight, it was scary to see the fork move toward her mouth. 699 00:36:46,979 --> 00:36:49,059 You could see she was about to get stabbed. 700 00:36:49,619 --> 00:36:50,739 It never happened. 701 00:36:51,458 --> 00:36:54,819 Two years into the recovery, she began to eat left handed. 702 00:36:55,139 --> 00:36:59,459 No matter what the task that she was attempting, she didn't complain. 703 00:37:00,179 --> 00:37:04,739 She never said I hate these shakes or I wish I didn't have these 704 00:37:04,739 --> 00:37:07,139 shakes or I wish the wreck never happened. 705 00:37:08,499 --> 00:37:11,859 While in college, she played the piano for choir and traveling 706 00:37:11,859 --> 00:37:12,739 singing groups. 707 00:37:12,979 --> 00:37:14,659 She could play any piece written. 708 00:37:14,659 --> 00:37:16,259 If you gave her time to practice. 709 00:37:17,538 --> 00:37:21,539 Today she's able to read the score and she knows the keys. 710 00:37:21,779 --> 00:37:23,539 But her hands don't cooperate. 711 00:37:24,019 --> 00:37:27,699 Nancy became an excellent seamstress for our daughters. 712 00:37:28,289 --> 00:37:29,569 Mostly out of necessity. 713 00:37:29,969 --> 00:37:32,609 From infants to fourth and fifth grade, the girls were always 714 00:37:33,329 --> 00:37:35,809 had beautiful fancy frilly dresses. 715 00:37:36,289 --> 00:37:38,529 Nancy also had become an excellent cook. 716 00:37:39,009 --> 00:37:42,209 Her fried chicken would give the colonel a stiff competition. 717 00:37:43,409 --> 00:37:45,129 On the first dinner she had tipped it. 718 00:37:45,129 --> 00:37:47,009 After she came home was rabbit. 719 00:37:47,729 --> 00:37:49,169 Some friends had given it to us. 720 00:37:49,169 --> 00:37:50,289 It was in the freezer. 721 00:37:50,529 --> 00:37:54,049 She would normally prepare rabbit the same way she did her world 722 00:37:54,049 --> 00:37:54,849 class chicken. 723 00:37:55,579 --> 00:37:56,539 Well, she did not. 724 00:37:57,099 --> 00:37:59,019 She prepared it as if it was fish. 725 00:37:59,579 --> 00:38:02,779 Battered in cornmeal and fried in hot grease on top of the stove. 726 00:38:03,499 --> 00:38:05,499 Fish doesn't take long to fry. 727 00:38:06,779 --> 00:38:10,059 It takes much less time than chicken or rabbit. 728 00:38:10,778 --> 00:38:12,139 It was not close to edible. 729 00:38:12,619 --> 00:38:14,459 We did not laugh or tease her. 730 00:38:15,499 --> 00:38:17,339 We knew she was doing the best she could. 731 00:38:18,379 --> 00:38:19,899 Nancy was frustrated. 732 00:38:20,219 --> 00:38:22,139 However, she did not get her feelings hurt. 733 00:38:22,889 --> 00:38:28,409 She did understand it was not properly cooked and that was it. 734 00:38:29,129 --> 00:38:30,249 We bought pizza. 735 00:38:31,049 --> 00:38:34,289 Her cooking skills and her craft with a sewing machine are the 736 00:38:34,289 --> 00:38:35,609 same as the piano. 737 00:38:36,169 --> 00:38:42,089 The food nor the dresses nor the music look or sounded like expected. 738 00:38:43,289 --> 00:38:46,569 I thought about Nancy's accepting behavior many times. 739 00:38:47,939 --> 00:38:51,619 Many brain injured folks become violent or angry or frustrated. 740 00:38:52,019 --> 00:38:54,739 That could be caused by that part of the brain that was injured. 741 00:38:55,699 --> 00:38:59,619 Although Nancy's recovery included childish selfishness, she 742 00:38:59,619 --> 00:39:01,459 never complained about the disability. 743 00:39:02,259 --> 00:39:06,659 I feel for those that have the battle with sadness or complaint 744 00:39:07,139 --> 00:39:10,899 or depression or disappointment or disgust. 745 00:39:11,779 --> 00:39:14,579 I suppose no one will ever know exactly why there are so many 746 00:39:14,579 --> 00:39:18,189 different behaviors and and attitudes of the brain injured. 747 00:39:18,589 --> 00:39:19,629 I do know this. 748 00:39:20,349 --> 00:39:23,709 I'm very grateful for Nancy's behavior and attitude. 749 00:39:24,509 --> 00:39:28,709 I've already told about the crummy months she has matured and 750 00:39:28,709 --> 00:39:31,229 moved past that selfish and childish behavior. 751 00:39:32,028 --> 00:39:36,269 She has had many occasions to complain about me and my failures. 752 00:39:36,589 --> 00:39:41,389 But there's not been one time that there was a complaint about 753 00:39:41,389 --> 00:39:45,369 the Shakespeare or the inability to do normal activity. 754 00:39:46,169 --> 00:39:50,769 It was as she did not consider her condition was a fault of someone 755 00:39:50,769 --> 00:39:55,049 else or that she was the recipient of an unlucky time and 756 00:39:55,049 --> 00:39:56,169 place accident. 757 00:39:56,809 --> 00:40:01,209 I've asked her, do you miss playing the piano or would you like 758 00:40:01,209 --> 00:40:01,929 to sew again? 759 00:40:03,289 --> 00:40:05,929 Her answer is never in complaint or frustration. 760 00:40:06,809 --> 00:40:11,559 She simply says yes, but my hands shake too much. 761 00:40:13,639 --> 00:40:15,639 There is never regret or sorrow. 762 00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:19,319 We have been blessed. 763 00:40:20,599 --> 00:40:22,399 So that's all I'll read to you. 764 00:40:22,399 --> 00:40:24,039 Thank you for letting me do that. 765 00:40:29,879 --> 00:40:30,919 What is God doing? 766 00:40:33,399 --> 00:40:33,659 What? 767 00:40:33,729 --> 00:40:34,529 What is happening. 768 00:40:39,569 --> 00:40:40,209 In the book? 769 00:40:40,209 --> 00:40:45,049 I tell the readers I'm trying to write the book as if non believers 770 00:40:45,049 --> 00:40:46,049 would read it too. 771 00:40:47,249 --> 00:40:52,369 But I do tell them that I happen to believe the Bible is God's 772 00:40:52,369 --> 00:40:54,169 word and that I can trust it. 773 00:40:54,169 --> 00:40:55,009 And I believe it. 774 00:40:55,249 --> 00:40:58,929 And that's how I view things that happen in my life. 775 00:40:59,739 --> 00:41:02,299 And so that's the only way I know how to view it. 776 00:41:03,019 --> 00:41:13,219 And so In Hebrews chapter 12 we know that he says that we have 777 00:41:13,219 --> 00:41:17,739 this exhortation which speaketh as unto children, verse 778 00:41:17,739 --> 00:41:18,139 5. 779 00:41:18,459 --> 00:41:21,539 Despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint 780 00:41:21,539 --> 00:41:22,779 when thou rebuked of him. 781 00:41:22,859 --> 00:41:27,569 For whom the Lord loveth, he chasteneth and Scourgeth every son 782 00:41:27,569 --> 00:41:28,609 whom he receiveth. 783 00:41:29,969 --> 00:41:33,809 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons. 784 00:41:33,889 --> 00:41:36,289 What son is he whom the father chasteneth not? 785 00:41:36,529 --> 00:41:40,049 But if he be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, 786 00:41:40,449 --> 00:41:42,529 then are you bastards and not sons. 787 00:41:44,449 --> 00:41:45,809 What is chastening? 788 00:41:46,289 --> 00:41:49,329 Well, I looked up in the Strong's concordance and some of 789 00:41:49,329 --> 00:41:50,609 the definitions like this. 790 00:41:52,219 --> 00:41:53,539 I thought this was fascinating. 791 00:41:53,539 --> 00:41:57,099 The first word that comes out is tutorage. 792 00:41:59,259 --> 00:42:01,259 Chastening is to tutor us. 793 00:42:02,619 --> 00:42:03,579 To tutor us. 794 00:42:03,579 --> 00:42:05,419 I think it means to teach us. 795 00:42:07,178 --> 00:42:11,579 It's tutorage, education, training. 796 00:42:12,859 --> 00:42:17,939 The implication of chastening is a disciplinary correction. 797 00:42:19,619 --> 00:42:25,819 Instruction, nurture, Strong's continues with these words the whole 798 00:42:25,819 --> 00:42:27,939 training and education of children. 799 00:42:28,819 --> 00:42:32,739 So by the time the baby comes home, until the baby leaves the house, 800 00:42:33,299 --> 00:42:35,619 there are times of training and education. 801 00:42:35,859 --> 00:42:36,419 Amen. 802 00:42:37,779 --> 00:42:41,459 It relates to the cultivation of the mind and their morals. 803 00:42:44,909 --> 00:42:52,109 It uses this term it employs for this training, for this tutorage, 804 00:42:52,589 --> 00:42:57,149 commands and admonitions and reproof and punishment. 805 00:42:58,349 --> 00:43:04,189 It's instruction which aims at increasing virtue, good behavior. 806 00:43:04,909 --> 00:43:12,129 Noah Webster's dictionary says, correction, punishment, pain 807 00:43:12,129 --> 00:43:14,689 inflicted for punishment and Correction. 808 00:43:15,809 --> 00:43:20,769 In Isaiah 53, the chastisement of our peace was upon him. 809 00:43:21,729 --> 00:43:25,569 The pain that Christ suffered was the stripes that he received 810 00:43:26,529 --> 00:43:28,289 to purchase our peace. 811 00:43:29,729 --> 00:43:30,529 Amazing. 812 00:43:32,289 --> 00:43:34,249 Hebrews 12 does say verse 11. 813 00:43:34,249 --> 00:43:37,009 Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous. 814 00:43:38,819 --> 00:43:44,779 It's grievous, it's heavy, it's painful, it's sorrowful, it 815 00:43:44,779 --> 00:43:45,699 causes grief. 816 00:43:47,539 --> 00:43:50,739 It's obvious to me and you, isn't it obvious that if chastening 817 00:43:50,739 --> 00:43:53,379 is going to happen, it's going to be uncomfortable. 818 00:43:55,059 --> 00:43:55,779 It's not. 819 00:43:56,579 --> 00:43:57,379 It's grievous. 820 00:43:57,379 --> 00:43:58,419 It's not joyous. 821 00:44:00,099 --> 00:44:03,759 I already know the society, the day that we live in, that corporal 822 00:44:03,759 --> 00:44:06,479 punishment is inappropriate, and so on. 823 00:44:07,119 --> 00:44:10,079 Well, like I said, I happen to believe the Bible. 824 00:44:11,439 --> 00:44:12,879 I go by what the book says. 825 00:44:12,879 --> 00:44:17,559 I believe God knows much more of how to deal with children and 826 00:44:17,559 --> 00:44:22,799 deal with discipline than Oprah, Dr. Phil. 827 00:44:25,839 --> 00:44:27,039 I believe the Bible. 828 00:44:28,399 --> 00:44:33,559 Evidently God believes that sometime discipline needs to occur. 829 00:44:37,479 --> 00:44:38,439 What is it for? 830 00:44:39,559 --> 00:44:40,439 What is he doing? 831 00:44:42,279 --> 00:44:45,679 Well, I say the first reason that he brings his hand down in our 832 00:44:45,679 --> 00:44:47,639 life is for retribution. 833 00:44:49,079 --> 00:44:50,519 What is retribution? 834 00:44:51,559 --> 00:44:54,439 Retribution is when a wrong is committed. 835 00:44:55,639 --> 00:44:59,699 In our legal system, it would be when a crime is committed that 836 00:44:59,699 --> 00:45:05,339 whatever the court punishment they give is supposed to match the 837 00:45:05,339 --> 00:45:06,259 weight of the crime. 838 00:45:06,339 --> 00:45:06,979 Amen. 839 00:45:08,179 --> 00:45:13,259 If you steal someone's truck, it's not the same as going in their 840 00:45:13,259 --> 00:45:14,339 house and murdering them. 841 00:45:15,219 --> 00:45:16,939 There's different Ways. 842 00:45:16,939 --> 00:45:18,659 Everybody with me, same, same. 843 00:45:19,459 --> 00:45:23,539 So retribution is when you and I are disobedient. 844 00:45:24,829 --> 00:45:25,309 Ignore. 845 00:45:25,629 --> 00:45:27,109 Now, this is fascinating to me. 846 00:45:27,109 --> 00:45:30,229 In writing the book, it became very pronounced to me whether you're 847 00:45:30,229 --> 00:45:31,709 saved or unsaved. 848 00:45:32,189 --> 00:45:36,469 If you neglect and ignore God, there are still consequences for 849 00:45:36,469 --> 00:45:37,549 the unsaved also. 850 00:45:39,869 --> 00:45:46,429 So retribution is whatever we've done, we've been disobedient. 851 00:45:46,429 --> 00:45:52,629 We know good and well that we've done some wicked or evil or 852 00:45:52,789 --> 00:45:53,749 sinful things. 853 00:45:55,109 --> 00:45:56,389 God knows what we've done. 854 00:45:56,949 --> 00:46:01,269 And here's what's fascinating about when God brings his hand down 855 00:46:01,269 --> 00:46:05,029 in our life for retribution, you will never, ever do this. 856 00:46:05,109 --> 00:46:06,548 You'll never go, what? 857 00:46:06,789 --> 00:46:07,909 What is this for? 858 00:46:07,909 --> 00:46:09,109 Why are you doing that? 859 00:46:09,269 --> 00:46:11,749 If it's retribution, you will never have to ask why. 860 00:46:12,469 --> 00:46:16,309 You will know exactly why he brought his hand down in your life. 861 00:46:16,949 --> 00:46:18,229 I personally have been in the hospital. 862 00:46:18,229 --> 00:46:19,269 I've been in the front room. 863 00:46:19,269 --> 00:46:20,069 I've been in the. 864 00:46:20,069 --> 00:46:20,629 In the. 865 00:46:22,149 --> 00:46:25,589 Of a home where a family were with the family. 866 00:46:25,749 --> 00:46:27,749 And I've had families speak up. 867 00:46:27,749 --> 00:46:33,029 They tell me, I know exactly why this is going on. 868 00:46:34,389 --> 00:46:34,789 Why? 869 00:46:34,789 --> 00:46:37,349 Because God's getting their attention and he's letting them know 870 00:46:37,429 --> 00:46:38,549 this is what's happening. 871 00:46:38,869 --> 00:46:41,709 Now, a husband can look at his wife and lie and say, I don't know 872 00:46:41,709 --> 00:46:42,709 why this is going on. 873 00:46:43,979 --> 00:46:45,259 But you and God really know that. 874 00:46:45,259 --> 00:46:45,979 You do know why. 875 00:46:46,059 --> 00:46:47,419 You just don't want to tell her. 876 00:46:48,139 --> 00:46:50,219 That can happen in any combination. 877 00:46:51,179 --> 00:46:54,779 But if you don't know why, it's not retribution. 878 00:46:56,219 --> 00:46:58,579 Some people would say, well, Brother Dave, when Nancy had this 879 00:46:58,579 --> 00:47:01,899 horrible car crash, or these other things happen, is it retribution? 880 00:47:03,739 --> 00:47:04,099 Not. 881 00:47:04,099 --> 00:47:07,979 I tell you, Nancy is one of the most virtuous people I know. 882 00:47:07,979 --> 00:47:09,499 It wasn't sin in her life. 883 00:47:09,949 --> 00:47:13,589 And for me, it wasn't some sinful thing that I had been doing 884 00:47:13,589 --> 00:47:15,869 or involved in that God is saying, we're cracking. 885 00:47:16,669 --> 00:47:17,189 We're not. 886 00:47:17,189 --> 00:47:18,269 I'm not putting up with that. 887 00:47:18,989 --> 00:47:24,069 And so I did not look to heaven and say, I don't know why 888 00:47:24,069 --> 00:47:26,469 you're doing this, but I knew it wasn't retribution. 889 00:47:26,469 --> 00:47:27,389 Everybody with me. 890 00:47:28,349 --> 00:47:30,349 So what's the second reason he does it? 891 00:47:31,069 --> 00:47:33,309 It's called correction. 892 00:47:35,479 --> 00:47:37,919 You haven't actually committed the crime. 893 00:47:37,919 --> 00:47:42,119 You haven't actually stepped over the edge yet, but you're about 894 00:47:42,119 --> 00:47:42,439 to. 895 00:47:43,239 --> 00:47:44,519 You're leaning that way. 896 00:47:46,839 --> 00:47:48,119 You're on the wrong path. 897 00:47:48,279 --> 00:47:51,239 I use this term some people don't like, but it's like God just 898 00:47:52,839 --> 00:47:55,679 smacks you upside the head a little bit, smack on the shoulder, 899 00:47:55,679 --> 00:47:56,799 hey, get back where you belong. 900 00:47:56,799 --> 00:47:58,919 You know better than that don't be doing that. 901 00:47:58,999 --> 00:48:03,159 And correction is not as easily discernible as retribution. 902 00:48:03,789 --> 00:48:07,949 But I will tell you, for Dave McCracken, I need correction all 903 00:48:07,949 --> 00:48:08,349 the time. 904 00:48:09,149 --> 00:48:11,669 My carnal man always wants his way. 905 00:48:11,669 --> 00:48:14,789 And I need to tell Mr. Concarney, he's in charge of my life 906 00:48:14,789 --> 00:48:15,069 a lot. 907 00:48:15,069 --> 00:48:16,029 Is everybody hearing me? 908 00:48:16,349 --> 00:48:20,029 And God corrects me and say, mccracken, we're not going. 909 00:48:20,029 --> 00:48:21,069 You're not going there. 910 00:48:21,069 --> 00:48:26,109 And he and his kindness will protect me or correct me to get me 911 00:48:26,109 --> 00:48:27,549 back where I'm supposed to be. 912 00:48:29,879 --> 00:48:32,919 The third reason is protection. 913 00:48:35,319 --> 00:48:36,119 What do you mean? 914 00:48:37,399 --> 00:48:41,199 Well, any loving father will protect their children from harm's 915 00:48:41,199 --> 00:48:41,479 way. 916 00:48:43,639 --> 00:48:45,079 It's a horrific. 917 00:48:45,879 --> 00:48:51,159 It's a horrific parent that has her child next to a hot stove 918 00:48:51,159 --> 00:48:52,599 and doesn't warn their child. 919 00:48:53,639 --> 00:48:54,679 That's horrific. 920 00:48:57,739 --> 00:48:58,459 That's evil. 921 00:48:59,259 --> 00:49:01,219 And our God will protect us. 922 00:49:01,219 --> 00:49:02,219 We're his kids. 923 00:49:02,939 --> 00:49:05,819 And there are times that he brings his hand down in our life 924 00:49:05,819 --> 00:49:06,699 to protect us. 925 00:49:06,859 --> 00:49:09,979 I tell the story about my oldest daughter, Angie. 926 00:49:09,979 --> 00:49:11,899 She was somewhere around 3 years old. 927 00:49:11,979 --> 00:49:16,179 And I've told her, I told her and told her, don't ever get in the 928 00:49:16,179 --> 00:49:16,459 street. 929 00:49:16,459 --> 00:49:20,099 Our front yard did not have a fence, just a little small yard and 930 00:49:20,099 --> 00:49:21,529 there's a street out there. 931 00:49:21,529 --> 00:49:22,769 I said, don't ever get in the street. 932 00:49:22,769 --> 00:49:24,049 Don't ever get in the street. 933 00:49:24,049 --> 00:49:26,249 If you get in the street, a truck will run over you. 934 00:49:26,249 --> 00:49:27,409 Don't get in the street. 935 00:49:28,049 --> 00:49:32,129 And I just was serious about it. 936 00:49:33,169 --> 00:49:35,969 One day I'm standing there and there she is standing in the street. 937 00:49:35,969 --> 00:49:40,289 I go out the glass door and grab her up and start spanking her 938 00:49:40,289 --> 00:49:43,449 bottom and all the way into her bedroom and spanked her some 939 00:49:43,449 --> 00:49:44,529 more when we got in there. 940 00:49:45,089 --> 00:49:47,689 And the three year old, if she could, she'd look at me and say, 941 00:49:47,689 --> 00:49:49,169 you'll kill me before a truck does. 942 00:49:52,259 --> 00:49:56,579 Sometimes the protection is just as uncomfortable as the retribution. 943 00:50:01,219 --> 00:50:02,859 So I'll give you a couple of. 944 00:50:02,859 --> 00:50:05,059 For instance, retribution. 945 00:50:06,019 --> 00:50:09,299 Remember that God told Adam, the day thou eatest thereof, thou 946 00:50:09,299 --> 00:50:10,259 shalt surely die. 947 00:50:11,779 --> 00:50:15,739 If Adam didn't know what die means, and I don't know, he was very 948 00:50:15,739 --> 00:50:19,449 intelligent man, but he was not going to have relationship with 949 00:50:19,449 --> 00:50:20,449 God anymore. 950 00:50:22,049 --> 00:50:25,409 There's no more fellowship because he's a sinner. 951 00:50:25,409 --> 00:50:25,889 Amen. 952 00:50:26,769 --> 00:50:28,329 And you know, that's retribution. 953 00:50:28,329 --> 00:50:34,209 And that retribution still has consequences today because of his 954 00:50:34,209 --> 00:50:35,089 disobedience. 955 00:50:37,729 --> 00:50:41,249 Another retribution that's familiar to many of us, I suppose, 956 00:50:41,249 --> 00:50:46,389 is our hero, King David, committed adultery and murder. 957 00:50:51,109 --> 00:50:52,389 The baby got sick. 958 00:50:54,069 --> 00:50:58,429 David moaned and prayed and begged God and begged God and cried 959 00:50:58,429 --> 00:50:59,909 and Mourned and mourned. 960 00:50:59,909 --> 00:51:02,149 And then he saw him talking. 961 00:51:02,149 --> 00:51:03,509 He goes, is the baby dead? 962 00:51:03,509 --> 00:51:06,149 And they said, yep, he got up and cleaned up and they go, what's 963 00:51:06,149 --> 00:51:06,629 that about? 964 00:51:07,269 --> 00:51:09,589 He said, well as long as the baby was alive, who knows? 965 00:51:09,929 --> 00:51:10,929 God is full of compassion. 966 00:51:10,929 --> 00:51:15,129 He might have let him live, but he knew why that baby died. 967 00:51:16,249 --> 00:51:16,889 Amen. 968 00:51:17,369 --> 00:51:18,729 He knew exactly why. 969 00:51:24,009 --> 00:51:25,209 What about correction? 970 00:51:29,049 --> 00:51:30,009 James and John? 971 00:51:30,009 --> 00:51:34,209 Do any remember them sons of thunder, they wanted to call fire 972 00:51:34,209 --> 00:51:35,049 down from heaven. 973 00:51:35,379 --> 00:51:37,699 Hey Jesus, you want us to call fire down and you want us to. 974 00:51:37,859 --> 00:51:41,219 Jesus said, boys, you do not know what spirit year above. 975 00:51:41,219 --> 00:51:44,099 It's almost like you bamboo hearing it. 976 00:51:44,179 --> 00:51:46,099 Just, we're not doing that guys. 977 00:51:46,099 --> 00:51:48,739 That's not us, it's correction. 978 00:51:49,939 --> 00:51:53,979 Here's another correction in my opinion is Jesus was washing the 979 00:51:53,979 --> 00:51:54,979 disciples feet. 980 00:51:58,979 --> 00:52:00,419 They didn't prepare for this. 981 00:52:02,269 --> 00:52:03,469 They had dirty feet. 982 00:52:04,029 --> 00:52:04,829 It's gross. 983 00:52:06,349 --> 00:52:08,989 I've always, I've wanted to do this. 984 00:52:08,989 --> 00:52:11,709 I'd probably never get the opportunity, but I've wanted to call 985 00:52:11,709 --> 00:52:15,069 the church together for a surprise meeting on Friday night. 986 00:52:16,029 --> 00:52:17,949 Come straight from work, come straight from the ball field. 987 00:52:17,949 --> 00:52:18,509 It doesn't matter. 988 00:52:18,509 --> 00:52:21,109 We're having a surprise meeting and it's most important meeting 989 00:52:21,109 --> 00:52:21,629 of the year. 990 00:52:21,629 --> 00:52:26,189 You need to be here 7:30, everybody get in, lock the door, 991 00:52:26,189 --> 00:52:27,789 say, everybody take off your shoes and socks. 992 00:52:29,049 --> 00:52:32,009 You know how many people say I ain't staying here because we're 993 00:52:32,009 --> 00:52:33,609 all better than the disciples, aren't we? 994 00:52:36,249 --> 00:52:40,169 Yeah, we don't have the humility that Jesus did. 995 00:52:42,009 --> 00:52:44,569 He gets to Peter, Peter says you ain't washing my feet. 996 00:52:45,209 --> 00:52:47,929 And Jesus looked at him and smacked him upside the head with 997 00:52:47,929 --> 00:52:51,529 these words, if I don't wash your feet, you have no part of me. 998 00:52:52,569 --> 00:52:53,609 That's correction. 999 00:52:55,419 --> 00:52:56,939 Peter says, watch me all over Jesus. 1000 00:52:56,939 --> 00:52:57,579 I'm ready. 1001 00:52:59,819 --> 00:53:00,859 What about protection? 1002 00:53:02,859 --> 00:53:04,059 Our hero, Paul. 1003 00:53:06,459 --> 00:53:13,819 Man, it's hard to believe God gave him a thorn in the flesh and 1004 00:53:13,819 --> 00:53:15,259 it was uncomfortable. 1005 00:53:16,219 --> 00:53:17,739 Was it because Paul was wicked? 1006 00:53:17,899 --> 00:53:18,299 No. 1007 00:53:18,379 --> 00:53:19,419 Wasn't retribution. 1008 00:53:20,459 --> 00:53:22,939 Was it for correction that Paul's going the wrong way? 1009 00:53:23,019 --> 00:53:24,619 Well, it hadn't happened yet. 1010 00:53:25,259 --> 00:53:26,059 Well what was for? 1011 00:53:26,059 --> 00:53:27,499 It's for protection. 1012 00:53:28,939 --> 00:53:34,099 You know why Paul said he gave me a thorn in the flesh, a messenger 1013 00:53:34,099 --> 00:53:34,859 of Satan. 1014 00:53:36,459 --> 00:53:41,579 And it was because of all the revelations that had been given to 1015 00:53:41,579 --> 00:53:41,899 him. 1016 00:53:43,099 --> 00:53:47,429 Because he was likely to become proud and every arrogant because 1017 00:53:47,429 --> 00:53:48,869 God had used him so much. 1018 00:53:49,669 --> 00:53:52,629 You know how easy it is for me and you to get proud and arrogant? 1019 00:53:53,749 --> 00:53:56,069 What about God giving us a thorn in the flesh? 1020 00:53:56,069 --> 00:53:57,669 And we beg him please. 1021 00:53:57,669 --> 00:54:00,709 He begged him three times, take it away, take it away. 1022 00:54:00,949 --> 00:54:02,149 I don't like this. 1023 00:54:02,149 --> 00:54:02,469 Please. 1024 00:54:02,469 --> 00:54:04,309 And he knew God gave it to him. 1025 00:54:05,829 --> 00:54:09,509 God said, my grace is sufficient for thee. 1026 00:54:10,869 --> 00:54:13,789 And in the study of what I've been doing, I'll just say this to 1027 00:54:13,789 --> 00:54:14,389 your face. 1028 00:54:15,069 --> 00:54:16,469 His grace is sufficient. 1029 00:54:16,469 --> 00:54:22,109 Whether you accept it or not, his grace is always sufficient. 1030 00:54:22,589 --> 00:54:26,189 I'll always cry babies whining and wallowing in our self pity and 1031 00:54:26,189 --> 00:54:28,269 our tragedy and our disaster. 1032 00:54:28,909 --> 00:54:31,389 His grace is always sufficient. 1033 00:54:31,629 --> 00:54:34,509 The fourth reason he brings his hand in our life is that we might 1034 00:54:34,509 --> 00:54:35,629 produce more fruit. 1035 00:54:36,349 --> 00:54:37,469 He purges us. 1036 00:54:37,869 --> 00:54:41,339 He prunes us so we can produce more fruit. 1037 00:54:45,089 --> 00:54:47,329 I told you just a moment ago that for correction. 1038 00:54:47,329 --> 00:54:51,169 I know that all of this in my life, I just tell you, I don't have 1039 00:54:51,169 --> 00:54:52,329 time to tell you right now. 1040 00:54:52,329 --> 00:54:59,769 But God changed me completely when Nancy was in a coma for 65 days 1041 00:54:59,769 --> 00:55:02,889 or he changed me completely when she was in a wheelchair for 1042 00:55:02,889 --> 00:55:03,169 a year. 1043 00:55:03,169 --> 00:55:04,769 It changed my life. 1044 00:55:06,939 --> 00:55:08,539 I needed that kind of correction. 1045 00:55:19,179 --> 00:55:20,379 To bear more fruit. 1046 00:55:20,939 --> 00:55:23,739 I know that God protected us through Nancy's accident. 1047 00:55:24,539 --> 00:55:26,579 I don't know if you were listening how well you heard it, 1048 00:55:26,579 --> 00:55:30,379 but we were supposed to go to Texas on Saturday morning and God 1049 00:55:30,379 --> 00:55:32,059 protected that church in Austin. 1050 00:55:32,629 --> 00:55:33,749 We never went down there. 1051 00:55:35,189 --> 00:55:38,069 He might have protected us too, but hallelujah. 1052 00:55:39,909 --> 00:55:43,229 But I know beyond the shadow of a doubt, me standing in front 1053 00:55:43,229 --> 00:55:47,669 of you tonight is part of the we would bear more fruit. 1054 00:55:49,189 --> 00:55:52,149 God has used our testimony. 1055 00:55:53,349 --> 00:55:55,189 Nancy's remarkable life. 1056 00:55:56,869 --> 00:56:01,039 Hundreds and thousands, thousands of people have been touched 1057 00:56:02,319 --> 00:56:04,639 by God's kindness and goodness in our life. 1058 00:56:05,439 --> 00:56:09,319 If Nancy were here tonight, I probably would not ask her to do 1059 00:56:09,319 --> 00:56:09,599 this. 1060 00:56:10,079 --> 00:56:15,199 But I asked her to do it many times at youth camps and other services 1061 00:56:15,279 --> 00:56:16,079 around the country. 1062 00:56:16,959 --> 00:56:18,639 I would ask Nancy to come forward. 1063 00:56:22,399 --> 00:56:26,989 She doesn't have princess like gait. 1064 00:56:26,989 --> 00:56:30,669 She doesn't walk with her head chin up like this anymore. 1065 00:56:31,709 --> 00:56:32,509 She can't. 1066 00:56:34,109 --> 00:56:39,829 She would walk shaking some and she'd come up and take the microphone 1067 00:56:39,829 --> 00:56:46,389 and she would say to you, well, it's like the song I taught 1068 00:56:46,389 --> 00:56:47,709 my girls when they were little. 1069 00:56:49,389 --> 00:56:53,599 He's still working on me to make me what I ought to be. 1070 00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:01,279 It's precious. 1071 00:57:01,999 --> 00:57:10,399 And I'm so grateful for my wife's sweet spirit and accepting 1072 00:57:11,039 --> 00:57:12,799 this is what God had in my life. 1073 00:57:15,839 --> 00:57:19,809 Putting on earrings, I put them on her yesterday. 1074 00:57:19,809 --> 00:57:21,169 She can't often. 1075 00:57:21,169 --> 00:57:23,009 Sometimes she can, but she's doing this. 1076 00:57:24,849 --> 00:57:26,129 Put it on a necklace. 1077 00:57:26,609 --> 00:57:28,329 Sometimes she breaks out in a sweat. 1078 00:57:28,329 --> 00:57:29,489 She can't get it hooked. 1079 00:57:30,929 --> 00:57:32,129 Putting on her makeup. 1080 00:57:32,129 --> 00:57:33,569 She's never asked me to do that. 1081 00:57:36,209 --> 00:57:39,409 But it's remarkable to me that she puts her arms together like this. 1082 00:57:39,409 --> 00:57:43,329 And she's gone, putting on mascara. 1083 00:57:43,329 --> 00:57:45,409 And I'm going, I don't know how you don't poke your eye. 1084 00:57:45,989 --> 00:57:47,189 But you look good, baby. 1085 00:57:47,189 --> 00:57:47,989 You look good. 1086 00:57:51,269 --> 00:57:51,989 I don't know. 1087 00:57:52,149 --> 00:57:53,269 I do know this. 1088 00:57:53,989 --> 00:57:58,469 Every one of us have crummy things that happen. 1089 00:58:02,949 --> 00:58:03,989 God has a reason. 1090 00:58:04,229 --> 00:58:05,349 He has a purpose. 1091 00:58:07,429 --> 00:58:12,309 And it's either something's going on, retribution takes place. 1092 00:58:13,149 --> 00:58:14,429 Now, you better be very careful. 1093 00:58:14,429 --> 00:58:17,509 When you start knowing why it's going on in their life. 1094 00:58:17,509 --> 00:58:20,509 I can tell you why you're making a big boo boo. 1095 00:58:21,229 --> 00:58:22,629 When you start knowing. 1096 00:58:22,629 --> 00:58:24,509 I know why you're going through this. 1097 00:58:25,549 --> 00:58:26,109 Yeah. 1098 00:58:27,389 --> 00:58:29,629 You're foolish to say that about other people. 1099 00:58:32,749 --> 00:58:34,509 God is so good to me and you. 1100 00:58:36,109 --> 00:58:37,869 He's still interested in us. 1101 00:58:37,869 --> 00:58:39,549 All the times we failed Him. 1102 00:58:40,569 --> 00:58:43,369 All the times we didn't do what we should have done. 1103 00:58:43,929 --> 00:58:45,609 He still loves us. 1104 00:58:45,929 --> 00:58:47,289 We're still his kids. 1105 00:58:48,009 --> 00:58:49,449 He doesn't disown us. 1106 00:58:50,409 --> 00:58:52,009 He doesn't throw the key away. 1107 00:58:52,089 --> 00:58:54,889 He's got the door open, waiting for us to come back home. 1108 00:58:56,009 --> 00:58:57,209 He loves us. 1109 00:58:58,649 --> 00:59:00,889 He gives us so much more peace. 1110 00:59:01,289 --> 00:59:03,849 If we'll acknowledge that God loves me. 1111 00:59:04,569 --> 00:59:07,209 If it's not retribution, well, it could be correction. 1112 00:59:07,209 --> 00:59:08,409 And most of us need it. 1113 00:59:09,599 --> 00:59:10,079 Protection. 1114 00:59:10,399 --> 00:59:11,679 Bless his holy name. 1115 00:59:12,799 --> 00:59:15,319 He protects us from stuff all the time we don't even know about. 1116 00:59:15,319 --> 00:59:15,839 Amen. 1117 00:59:16,799 --> 00:59:19,919 And then to help us or allow us to bear more fruit. 1118 00:59:20,319 --> 00:59:23,279 He should have said, you're such a lousy fruit producer. 1119 00:59:24,799 --> 00:59:27,239 He says, mccracken, I'm going to keep working on you. 1120 00:59:27,239 --> 00:59:29,279 I want you to produce more fruit. 1121 00:59:29,839 --> 00:59:31,039 I'm going to ask you to stand. 1122 00:59:31,039 --> 00:59:32,079 Thank you for listening. 1123 00:59:32,079 --> 00:59:33,039 Thank you very much. 1124 00:59:34,809 --> 00:59:35,849 Let me pray with you. 1125 00:59:36,809 --> 00:59:38,569 Our great God, I come to you again. 1126 00:59:38,649 --> 00:59:39,289 Thank you. 1127 00:59:40,409 --> 00:59:41,529 Thank you so much. 1128 00:59:43,049 --> 00:59:47,169 I'm grateful for a congregation that would sit and listen 1129 00:59:47,169 --> 00:59:49,529 and be attentive. 1130 00:59:50,569 --> 00:59:56,289 But God, just to hear the story, hear all this stuff is not 1131 00:59:56,289 --> 00:59:56,569 enough. 1132 00:59:56,569 --> 00:59:59,369 If we don't acknowledge that you're at work in our lives. 1133 01:00:00,659 --> 01:00:05,539 And I pray that we would accept you're at work and we won't 1134 01:00:06,419 --> 01:00:07,139 fight it. 1135 01:00:07,539 --> 01:00:10,339 That we will be exercised thereby. 1136 01:00:12,179 --> 01:00:14,739 That God, it brings the peaceable fruit. 1137 01:00:14,979 --> 01:00:18,579 When we don't have peace, it's obvious that we're not accepting 1138 01:00:20,179 --> 01:00:21,059 what you're doing. 1139 01:00:21,059 --> 01:00:23,299 When we're on your potter's wheel. 1140 01:00:24,419 --> 01:00:31,319 I pray that we'd be people that accept your kindness in our 1141 01:00:31,319 --> 01:00:31,599 life. 1142 01:00:32,479 --> 01:00:34,559 And every time it's out of love. 1143 01:00:36,319 --> 01:00:37,039 Thank you. 1144 01:00:37,919 --> 01:00:41,039 If someone's not saved, I'm so glad you're giving them a chance 1145 01:00:41,039 --> 01:00:42,159 to get saved tonight. 1146 01:00:43,759 --> 01:00:47,039 I pray they'd want to get saved and stop putting it off tonight. 1147 01:00:48,239 --> 01:00:49,999 So have your way with us, Jesus. 1148 01:00:50,479 --> 01:00:53,189 Our heads are bowed and music's going to begin. 1149 01:00:54,069 --> 01:00:55,309 He's going to begin to sing. 1150 01:00:55,309 --> 01:00:56,069 Invitation. 1151 01:00:56,229 --> 01:00:58,149 If you want to sing with him, you're welcome to. 1152 01:00:58,149 --> 01:01:02,229 But if you want to just spend some time with Jesus, tell him thanks.