Welcome to Love Notes from Rhonda.

And it is not your responsibility to save the world.

It is not your responsibility to save every single person in your family and all your friends.

It is not your responsibility to wake them up.

It is not your responsibility to live by their rules.

It is not your responsibility.

It is your responsibility to live the life that your soul intended.

It is your responsibility to live true to you.

It is your responsibility to figure out how to do it, to figure out who you really are and to live by that.

That is your responsibility.

It is not your responsibility to please everybody else, to make everyone else happy.

That is not your responsibility.

Do we impact others?

Of course we do.

Are you responsible for others happiness?

No, you're not.

I have a friend of mine who's recently lost her husband and her children are in pain.

They've lost their father.

She lost her husband.

Both her kids are older, in their 20s, late 20s, early 30s.

Both are married.

And my friend sobs on the phone to me feeling so bad that her children feel bad and she's supposed to.

She says it's her responsibility to take care of them.

And I said no, it is no longer your responsibility.

Yes, you can love them.

Yes, of course you want to support them.

But it is no longer your responsibility to make sure they never feel pain.

Their father died.

It is appropriate to feel pain.

It is appropriate that they suffer, they're in grief.

That is appropriate.

When you love somebody who has passed, that's appropriate.

It's not something to wish away, push away or be responsible that they don't feel that.

I told my friend it is no longer her responsibility.

They are grown.

They are now responsible for their own lives.

Can she support?

Of course.

Can she help?

Of course.

Can she guide if they ask?

It is not her responsibility to take away the pain of their father's death.

It is not her responsibility.

They've got to work through it in their own way.

And yes, of course she can support and yes, of course she can be there.

But you cannot take their pain away.

It's their pain.

So what burden are you carrying?

What responsibility are you carrying?

That is not your responsibility.

If somebody is sad, it is not your responsibility to make them happy.

If you can impact that and it doesn't lessen your ability in your life to care for yourself and be responsible for you.

If it doesn't compromise your values, sure we can impact it, but it is not your responsibility.

One of the things that I want you to gain from your experience inside fearless living, learning the tools and skills of fearless living is what is your responsibility and what isn't.

And if it is not your responsibility, how do you make a healthy impact?

How do you make an impact?

And what if you can't?

It's not your responsibility.

My nephew, who has since passed, was an alcoholic.

And he called me up asking for support because I too am an alcoholic.

And he told me that he wanted to get clean and sober.

So I supported him and guided him in his next steps.

He went to recovery and he came out and he started drinking.

He didn't start drinking because I gave him bad advice or because I suggested something that didn't work.

My power over my nephew's life is only so much.

It was not my responsibility or my fault that he started drinking again.

Did it pain me?

Yes.

Did it end up killing him?

Yes.

Did I grieve and mourn?

Yes.

Did I ask myself what I could have done differently?

Of course.

But it is not mine to blame myself and to take responsibility for.

I am not in charge of his life and his decisions.

So I want you to think today about what is your responsibility and what isn't your responsibility.

And are you in other people's business?

And are you taking on other people's responsibility that is not yours?

Think about that today and start noticing where where your responsibilities end.

Until next time, be fearless.

I love you.