Hey, I'm Paige Killian, founder and CEO of everything

with style. I've built a business helping busy moms of

littles get organized in three simple steps. Like many of my

clients, I love being a mom and I also desire more. If ever, you

felt that stirring in your heart, that whisper or really

loud voice that keeps you up at night, and I don't mean teething

toddlers and noisy teenagers, then you are in the right place.

Because this is not a solo mission. Whether you're a little

curious or totally ready to be a mom, boss, and use your God

given gifts to serve others, step into your calling, turn

your passions into purpose, and still make it to the carpool

line on time, then girlfriend, it's time to pivot. I've got

you. Now let's get started. Hey, hey, we are back for another

episode in our launch week on the time to pivot podcast. Thank

you so so much for being here. If you listen to the last

episode, which if you're listening during launch week, it

just came out yesterday. Thank you so much. We talked a lot

about our gifts, and how do we know if what these things are

that we're being called to do? are really gonna work out? It's

like, are we tapping in to the gifts that we've been given so

that we may serve others through that? This episode, I wanted to

talk about how we can authentically show up as

ourselves. And it's funny because this has been something

that has no listen, I said on the last episode, I didn't want

to say I have multiple personalities. If some of you

know me, personally, you may think I do. Or have you listened

to my other podcasts, and I was organization motivation podcast,

you might have gotten glimpses of the fact that I love, love,

love, being a mom love this role of being a parent to my awesome

kids and doing that alongside my husband, that part of my life. I

really, really love. I find so much joy in it. It's really

stinking hard sometimes, but also very rewarding. And it is

not without its hiccups. What do we got? You know, there's some

hiccups. There's some hiccups along the way. But it's been

beautiful. And there are blessings that come from that

part of me. Another part of me that is not necessarily separate

from being a parent. But another part of me that's super

important is my faith. And I lead with that I walk through my

life every day pulling from the strength of my faith, and you

know, Jesus, God, those are going to be two words that you

hear a lot moving forward. I hope you're okay with that. If

you're not stick with me, because I think that you can

still glean lots of support and encouragement, and hopefully

some tangible tips that you may need in moving forward to go

from the place that you're in right now, if you're in the

middle of pivoting in your life, if you're in the middle of a

storm, or a trial or struggle, or simply just a transition

doesn't necessarily have to be bad. But you might just be in a

transition, where you're trying to figure out how to go from

where you are now to a place you want to be. I just want you to

know that for me, I come from a faith based place. Because I

feel that there's certainty there in a world that's really

uncertain and can be really scary. And I'm going to be

talking on the next episode about fear, fear of failure, why

fear plays a huge role in that time of pivot, and how we can

push past it and continue moving forward. But before we get to

that, I want to make sure that you are taking the parts of you

that make you up and coming from that authentic place. So I

wanted to give you an example. So I just mentioned there's that

mom's side of me love it, own it. That's me don't do it

perfectly. But that's a huge part of me. Also, there's that

place of being a Christian that is the part of my faith that

gets me through the tough times and helps me celebrate and

praise God and the joyful times too. Right. Like there's

definitely that side of it as well. Yay. Get excited for

prayers answered and blessings. Also, I have this part of me who

grew up in to Memphis, Tennessee who was surrounded by lots of

different musical influences, and one of the things that gets

me super fired up beyond my family, beyond my faith, beyond

getting organized and helping busy moms of littles get

organized in their home is 90s Hip Hop. Can anybody relate?

Maybe Hip Hop 90 specifically, is not your jam. It is my

literal and actual jam. Maybe that's not you, but you can

relate to how music can play a really important part of your

life. And I often think of my life as a movie, and I often

think of my life as having a soundtrack. So think about your

favorite movie. What is the soundtrack? Do when you start

listening to it? How does it make you feel? It's gonna move

you in some way? Right? Well, I cannot control my body

movements. When 90s Hip Hop comes on, girl, I get so freakin

fired. I cannot. I cannot be cool about it. I just can't.

It's like I feel it deep inside. And I don't know. I don't know.

I knew when I wanted to launch this podcast. I said to my team.

I said to my friends I said to my family. I was like you guys,

you all know how much I love 90s hip hop. And I need this podcast

music to get people fired up on a Monday morning. Or you know a

Thursday night. I'm driving my daughter to volleyball on

Thursday nights and we are in the car with these pre teen

girls and pork blessing dude is sitting all the way back in the

third row hanging out taking all of the conversation about

skincare routines. But 12 years old, are they even doing? Well?

They got a lot they got a lot of components, okay. They are

showing up as their authentic selves when we are driving to

volleyball listening to Taylor Swift, to Justin Bieber to a

little NAS x okay, it is It runs the gamut, let me tell you, but

they have their songs that get them fired up to go to

volleyball practice and Duke and I are just along for the ride.

We get we put DJ Izzy she's in the front seat now because she's

practically as tall as I am. She's sitting in the front seat

and DJ Izzy starts taking requests from the back seat and

she starts putting her own spin on what the DJing is going to

look like for that particular car ride. But the point is these

girls, they don't care what I want to listen to. They don't

care what Duke wants to listen to. They have their music that

fires them up. That is them. They are these cute, adorable

little athletes that are just spunky and bringing the heat

when it comes to volleyball. And they love themselves some pop

music and I really do like to set you know, I feel like when

little NAS x comes on I like he he's bringing some Hip Hop vibes

I can get behind that.

I haven't felt like Taylor and the beeps they've really got a

good beat. Okay, so catchy songs. What is it for you? How

are you showing up in your life as your fully authentic self For

me music plays a big part I know that's the same for my husband

as well and thankfully my children get such a mix of what

mom and what dad are playing in the house. I also can go back to

my roots my Tennessee roots and get all over some country music

and it can go back to like the dolly days it can go back to the

I don't even I can't even explain to you how many names

just popped into my head but I can go back there like I'm

talking like I can go back to Randy Travis days. Okay if you

know you know, also some digging up bones anybody digging a bone?

Okay, I can go back to the Kenny Rogers days. I can go to the

Kenny Chesney days my you know, I went to the University of

Tennessee in Knoxville Go Vols. So Kenny Chesney, that talk

about the soundtrack to my college days. And we'll also I

would like to say, you know, ludicrous, there was a lot of

ludicrous happening in those college party days. Okay, so

what is it that you identify with most and the point is,

we're not just one thing. I can love Jesus and 90s Hip hop at

the same time. Did you ever see that Friends episode where

Rachel is singing to her daughter because she can't get

her to go to sleep. And in her head, all she can think of is

Words to Sir Mix A Lot. I like big butts. That's all she could

think of that, you know, you know, you know every word to

some ridiculous song that may or may not have become a lullaby

for your child over the years, okay? So lean into it, you do

you, and also sprinkle in some Jesus in some faith, wherever

you find it appropriate. I want to tell you two different

situations where my faith played a big part in pivoting in my

business. Also, where somehow 90s Hip Hop simultaneously made

its way in. Okay, so I remember when I was writing my book,

which is a book that I thought when I first started writing,

was simply going to be about getting organized in three

simple steps using my three E's philosophy. But girl that turned

into so much more. Okay, so also, by the way, if some guys

are listening, but my friends, maybe I should say that over

girl. Here's the thing, I felt so good about what I was putting

down on paper. And then I sent it off to my friend Jessica

Killingly, who is my incredible editor who helped me bring out

the Jesus and the 90s Hip Hop, influence, and put it in my

book, she said, You are a mom, you love God, your faith is

important to you. And you are hilarious. When you start

talking about 90s Hip Hop, can you please find a way to put

that in your book as well. So she's writing in the margins, as

I'm trying to just, you know, show up and serve the people who

are reading with some good organization motivation. And

she's like, don't forget more Jesus, like she wrote, In bright

red pen, more Jesus in the margins of so many different

parts of the chapters of my book. So thank you, Jake Hill,

Jessica Killingly, she really inspired me to do that. I think

that it makes my book so much better. I think that there are

lots of parts of the book that morphed into almost like a love

letter to the moms who were reading it. And my personal

diary, if you go to the third part of the book, it's of

course, it's broken down in three different sections,

because they do everything in threes. So if you go to the

third part of the book, you will really start hearing and feeling

my heart in that not that the first parts were not that, but

it really comes through strong at the end, because I want moms

to know that if you're getting organized in your home, again,

you're you should be putting in all of the parts of you, and how

those things are going to serve you and your family. So it's the

same thing today, if you're listening to this, and you're

like, Okay, I'm feeling this urge to step outside of being a

mom or doing this job. Maybe it's you know, maybe you're in

corporate offices, and you're toying with the idea of leaving

and pivoting and changing your business and doing something

else. Or maybe you're like, I'm in business, and I'm done being

in business. And now it's time for me to show up in a big way

and have an impact on the lives of my family. Okay, that's okay,

to whatever part of pivoting, you're in whichever transition

you're in right now. I just want you to know that it's so

important that we show up authentically as ourselves and

be us. Which by the way, I meant to mention too, not only is

there some Jesus in the book, but there's also that that hip

hop layer where I had to bring in a quote from TLC, okay, don't

go chasing waterfalls. And now in my head, I'm just playing

over and over all the words to shoot. Okay, well, salt and

pepper, anybody, anybody? My playlist is about to be on as

soon as I get done recording this episode, because I'm

getting fired up. So what is it that's gonna fire you up, turn

on some music to get done with whatever you need to get done

with and also don't forget that we are so there's this duality

to us. We are I joke that, you know, maybe sometimes I do feel

like I have multiple personalities. You can show up

as a different you. And that's okay. You're still you. You are

multifaceted. You are complex. You are a deep individual. And

God made you that way. Right. He knew every hair on our head

before we were born. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

So you just show up as who you are. I for a really long time in

my theater classes, especially to even though Funny enough,

they were in the South. I did a lot of Shakespeare and so I had

to do a lot of work on my heavy thick accent. You know the

accent when back in the old days, we had those. What are

they even called? answering machines. I just blanked there

for a second. Those answering machines where we would listen

back to our have a voice and it was so cringy you're just like,

oh my gosh, is this actually how I speak on a regular basis? Are

people going to leave me a message? Are they going to make

fun of me when they leave me a message because this cannot be

the way that I actually sound? It's embarrassing. So I really

struggled. When I started my first podcast, really struggled

with my accent. And I was like, Is anyone other than my mom

gonna be listening to this? Or my besties? That I've been like?

Can you please go on and listen to this? Can you please download

this? Can you share it with your friends? Can you post it to

social media and tag me? And also, can you please write me a

five star review on Apple podcasts? Well, thankfully, my

friends and family did show up for me, and I love and

appreciate you. But thankfully, more people either did not find

my accent super annoying, or totally offensive or super

cringe worthy, or maybe they just powered through because

they felt like a decent message that they wanted to listen to.

But that podcast ended up being listened to in over 85 countries

and counting. It is crazy. It is crazy. I opened up my inbox,

Mike what is called email, losing it right now. I'm too

fired up. I need to be listening to 90. So Bob, I opened up my

email this morning. And I saw that most organization

motivation podcast is actually charting at the top of the

charts in 11 different countries, okay, it's being

listened to, in, as I said, almost 90 countries, but the

fact that it's in the top of the charts, I need to stop being so

hard on myself and my accent because clearly, it's playing

well. Okay. So the reason I say that that's another part of my

business, my podcast. The reason I say that is because I almost

let my voice and my good ol southern accent, and a lot of my

guests who are on that podcast, I almost let that get in the way

of me not even starting. And then I realized that as me, if

you can't, you know, what did they say you can take the girl

out of the south or the country, but you can't take the country

out of the girl. Well, here we are. That's me. And so I knew

that when I started this podcast, I wasn't going to let

that be a thing anymore. Because this is me. A quick reminder,

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back to the show.

Here's another thing that came up recently, and I'm going to

share this with you because I think we often have friends who

tell us things who mean well, and it lands on us and it can

feel hurtful, deflating, you can feel upset and defeated. And it

was never intended that way. It was advice or it was a comment

that was meant to serve you. And if they're a true friend, it

certainly did not mean to hurt you. But it happens sometimes.

So I want to tell you about this example that recently happened

when I was trying to figure out exactly the messaging and how I

was going to show up as me and this part of me that gets fired

up whenever I think about there being a mom or anyone for that

matter, who is feeling called to do more, but they are deep in

the struggle, and they are stressed and they are stuck and

they need help getting out. I wanted to have this podcast be

you know, if you envision a lightning bolt, I was like I'm

gonna do my artwork, and it's gonna have a lightning bolt in

it. And I love lightning bolts and actually my Jessica

Killingly that I was just telling you about. She has

lightning bolts and a lot of the stuff that she does, and I just

am drawn to that I'm drawn to the black background that she

has. I'm drawn to the lightning bolt, I'm drawn to the power i

love the presence in the way that she shows up to serve her

clients and her audience. I love her I am her client. I am her

audience. I just eat it up. I totally love it. And so I was

feeling like I identified with that so much that that was going

to be how I wanted to show up just like strong and bold and

powerful and there is that side of me. There is probably that

side of you. I think even if you're an introvert which I am,

I don't know if you've noticed I'm not in introvert, and

extrovert, although I do love chilling at home and hanging out

with the kids and watching American Idol and playing phase

10 on a Saturday afternoon, I don't have to be out and about

doing my thing all the time. But I do absolutely love being with

people and serving and talking and being on stages and speaking

and getting out the message that I believe you were meant to hear

in this moment. So is that something that you're being

called to do? Well, if so, I'm so excited to support you in

that. And I wanted to make sure that when I launched this

podcast, that was a big part, I wanted that to be a big

influence. And I wanted there to be Jesus. And I wanted there to

be killer music that was going to fire you up. I hope you love

the intro and outro a big shout to Liam, who does all of that.

Liam, you're amazing. Thanks for joining me on the podcast as

well. He helps me with all of the music, and he is incredible.

And of course, the editing for all these episodes as well. And

I just felt like I was gonna talk to this friend, who is she

always gives me great thoughtful advice. It's very intentional.

And she shared with me when I was telling her what I wanted it

to be, and my hopes and dreams for it. She was like, Yeah, I

love this, this, I love this for you, this is so great, you know,

feels like a natural progression. And this is gonna

be so exciting. And she was totally on board. And then she

was like I was thinking about, you know, I have some

connections I want to give those. I want to connect you

with these other people who could be amazing guests on your

podcast. And I was like, Oh, I love this, like, thank you so

much. I appreciate the love and support. And the love and

support continued. Don't get me wrong. But there was something

that she said that landed on me in a way when she only meant the

best. It landed on me in a way that question for a second. And

when I say a second, I mean, it took me a couple days to figure

this out. She said, I wonder if maybe in this one in this

podcast, you don't lead with the god stuff so much only because

it can be polarizing to some people. So maybe you would have

even a better chance of growing and reaching more people,

especially for people who are in business who are really just

trying to figure out what they can do in their business to move

forward. Maybe you don't need that additional influence of

God. And she was very clear that she's like, I'm not saying you

completely take it out altogether. But maybe don't lead

with that. Oh, if you could see, like, I'm pretty certain I

probably sank down in my chair a little bit. I physically shrink.

And you know, here's the thing, like I have always said don't

dim your light for anyone. That friend had only the best

intentions I know she did. That's not in question. And I

love her and appreciate that. And actually, that advice caused

me a couple days later to process that and know, there

ain't no way okay, here's the country. There ain't no way, I'm

not going to lead with God. There's no way that I could have

this podcast, and not lead with that, because that is my North

Star. That is my saving grace. When I am so stressed when I am

so uncertain when I am so unclear about what I'm supposed

to do next, you better believe the first thing I am doing is

getting in prayer. And then I am surrounding myself with my

Christian friends who are letting me know and lifting me

up letting me know that what I am doing my hearts right. And by

the way, if they sense for any split second, that my heart's

not right, that I'm pushing something forward, that does not

feel like number one authentically me. And number

two, you know, for the glory of the kingdom. All right, I went

there all man, Jesus, people know, we're gonna give God the

glory. If they sense at all that I am not on the right track,

they are going to check me they're going to check me in a

really loving way. And we're probably going to hug after, but

they're going to check me. And I knew when I heard that, while

her intentions were so pure. I thought, You know what, if

someone does have an aversion to me talking about God, maybe

that's not my audience. If someone does feel like my words,

what I'm talking about is polarizing. They don't have to

listen. You don't have to. But then there's also this part of

me that thinks maybe they start listening because they're here

for the other part of the content. And then God starts

doing a little bit of work on their hearts. Okay, so I'm not

going to say I have ulterior motives here. It's not that my

motives are pretty clear. I want you to feel the peace and

support and the love that God has for all of us. So I'm here

to tell you today that you can take all these parts of you as

you're working through what your amazing gifts are, that you're

going to use to serve other people, and to serve the people

in your home and to serve yourself. That's not gross.

That's not weird. That's not vain. These are things that we

need to consider when we're moving forward on this mission.

Who are we? authentically? Who really are we who how are we

showing up in the world or showing up on the homefront? Or

showing up in our prayer life with God? Are you trying to pull

the wool over his eyes, he knows, he knows. He knows the Oh

my goodness. So just be real. Be honest about who you are. Show

up confidently as that, you know, there are people all over

the world who are hiking, they are putting themselves in really

scary situations. And they are showing up because they know

that God is leading them. I have a friend who I get monthly

emails, she and her husband are on mission trips regularly, they

are putting themselves in some really scary situations, because

they believe that God has got them. In fact, I'm gonna go

ahead and talk about that on next episode as well. I keep

wanting to say on next week's episode, but we're in launch

week. So you might be listening to it tomorrow, I hope you will.

So let's wrap it up and say whatever you feel like you

identify with most, whoever you feel like you are at your core,

whether that is a 90s hip hop lover, a Jesus freak. You're not

a freak. By the way. If you feel like you are a person who comes

from faith, if you feel like you are a person who is here to

serve busy moms of littles, or Men of a Certain Age, or college

students, or your family, or corporate executives, or people

in third world countries who need help, and love, whoever you

are show up as you fully you your authentic self, we can

exist being multiple things. And you know what, that's exactly

how God intended you to show up in your life. He knows you. He

knows your heart. And it is time we take that goodness and we

share it with others to serve them. So I am wishing you

clarity, and support and comfort in these times when

you are pivoting in your life. I am sending you all my strong

strength, the prayers. That's the thing strong strength. Yeah,

I think I think you get that. So you're gonna do great. be

authentically you. All right. I will talk to you tomorrow. If

you're here to listen, or next week or the next week. I'll be

here for you. I am looking forward to the upcoming

episodes. Here we go. Thanks for listening to another episode of

the time to pivot podcast. If it was helpful for you, I'd love

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boss. Remember this. Your gifts are meant to be shared. Don't

keep them to yourself and stay in your comfort zone. This is