Welcome to the

Peak Revival Podcast.

My name is Vesta, and

today I wanna talk about

heavy emotions and pain

while we are healing.

So in last week's

podcast, I talked about

my worst nightmare that

I broke my leg or ankle.

And basically if you

haven't listened to it,

you can go listen to it.

I'm not gonna go

through it again.

But, you know, I was

talking about how it

was my worst nightmare

because now I'm sedentary

pretty much for 12 weeks.

But through this process,

what I noticed was something

that was really interesting

to me because I've been in a

lot of pain, obviously in the

first couple of weeks, and.

The pain, you know, is

worse at night and whatever.

But the pain was interesting

'cause I was like,

oh, it's so annoying.

It's so frustrating.

I can't relax, I can't sleep.

And then it really occurred

to me that the pain that I

was feeling is because my

bone is healing, my bone

is fusing together, right?

I was like, yes.

So healing hurts.

And I think that we have

this idea that healing

is a gentle process.

It's pain relieving, you know?

But actually it's painful.

I then started to look

at, well, let's look at

the different scenarios in

which healing is painful

or creates suffering or

discomfort or heavy emotions.

Right.

And I'm gonna give you some

examples, and I know for

sure because I hear this all

the time in my work, right?

So just because something

hurts doesn't mean it's

wrong or something is wrong.

And I really want you to

take that away because we

associate pain as something

bad, something to avoid.

You know, there's something

is wrong here, okay?

But actually, whenever we are

making changes in our life and

things happen in our life, it.

Brings pain.

Even if we're making

decisions for our best

interest, it still brings

heavy emotions and pain.

And if we don't recognize

that that's part of the

process, it can look like

something's wrong and that

we can't do this and we

need to pull back and go

back to what we were doing.

Stay in the situation that

we're in because it mustn't

feel, it mustn't be right

because it hurts so much.

Right?

But actually that's the

process we have to go through

even for healing.

Okay.

So again, I think it's

something that we see as

a gentle nurturing process

kind and pain relieving.

But no, it's painful like

for me it's physical pain.

It's emotional pain because

I'm restricted, I'm frustrated

with where I'm at, right?

It's all that process that

we have to work through.

Well, I have to work through,

so I wanna talk about the

ways that this shows up.

And you would've seen this

for yourself if you've gone

through a relationship breakup

or you're considering a

relationship breakup, and you

notice that that idea of that,

or the outcome of that is that

you feel so emotional, right?

You feel very sad, very teary.

And that makes you question

whether you're doing the

right thing, but that doesn't

mean that you should stay.

Again, it's a change and it's

healing and it hurts, okay?

We can't avoid the

heavy emotions.

We either get them in

the situation or coming

out of the situation.

So in this case, pain and

heavy emotions does not

indicate that you should stay.

When I have clients go

through detox and have

detox symptoms, you would've

noticed this headaches tired.

Some people feel nauseous,

they can't sleep.

they get a lot of cravings

or people get emotional

around food cravings, right?

When people go through

detoxes and we, we take away

their emotional crutch that

they have on food, right?

I always pre-war

people about this.

You don't realise how much

food is distracting you.

You use it as a distraction

for your emotions, and when

we take that away, you're

going to feel emotional, and

that can feel like a signal

that this isn't right for me.

This doesn't work for me.

This isn't what I need.

But that's part of the

detox process, right?

It's just part of the process.

And so we have to go through

that in order to get the

outcome that we want.

Even if we are looking at

gut repair and changing

your microbiome, the initial

change that you're gonna

feel as the microbiome shifts

is more bloating and gas

like, that's just as the

bacteria are changing, the

bad bacteria are dying off

and there's, we're creating

more healthy bacteria that's

going to have some bloating

and gas that's just normal.

But again, if we think that

it should be a gentle process,

that everything should

be, as soon as I start, I

should be feeling amazing.

Well, no, because

there's going to be

an adjustment period.

Because as we heal, it

becomes uncomfortable, right?

We're we are

resetting the system.

Okay?

And just like my bone

repair for a broken

ankle, it hurts, right?

The bones are fusing together.

Bone pain, right?

You think of growing pains

as a kid, like the bones

are, you know, they're

healing and that requires a

lot of energy and it hurts.

I can really assure you that

it hurts and that's normal.

That's a normal

part of the process.

So for me, you know, when I

noticed that my pain was due

to healing, I accepted it.

when I talk to people

about their detox symptoms,

yeah, that's normal.

What you're feeling.

It's normal to feel emotional

going through a detox

because food was your crutch.

You didn't even

realize that's normal.

It's, you can

accept it, right?

It makes it easier

for you to understand.

But if you think you're

gonna go through this and

just feel amazing from the

day one, and then when it

doesn't, you are most likely

to pull back and quit.

Okay?

So.

Making these changes and

feeling that discomfort or

feeling those heavy emotions

is part of the journey.

Obviously for me, I

don't want my pain to

get worse every day.

If that was the case, if

it's getting worse and worse

and worse after two or three

weeks, then there's a problem.

But I'm really pointing

to that pain can be the

way, like we've gotta get

through the pain, we've

gotta get through the heavy

emotions, gotta get through

the suffering to get to the

outcome that we wanna get to.

Healing is painful

and pain doesn't mean

that something is wrong.

I think one of the other

things that, particularly

people with health

anxiety, they don't

realize that body naturally

gets a lot of symptoms.

Twitches a pain here, there.

That's actually it just.

Very normal.

It doesn't mean

anything unless we

make meaning out of it.

The other thing that I wanna

talk about with healing that

I see all the time in my

work is that you may be doing

something and you start to

feel really good And you could

feel really good for a while,

or you could feel really good

for two weeks, and then you

don't feel so good, right?

And you hit this lull

and you're like, oh,

it's not working.

I feel like I used to,

oh my gosh, what have I?

Why isn't this working?

I'm doing all

the right things.

What's wrong now?

What?

Why, why, why, why?

And healing just isn't

a straight line, right?

I've never seen healing

as a straight line.

I've been doing this work for.

Over 20 years, healing

is not a straight line.

You feel good and then

you kind of, it looks

like a relapse, but you

kind of lapse in there.

You go through a lull and

then you go up again, and

you go through a little

lull, and then you go up

again and another little

lull, so it's never straight.

Right?

And so it's in those lulls

that if you don't, if

you're not aware of that,

you're gonna be like,

oh, this isn't working.

I'm just gonna give up.

And that's not the case.

It just doesn't work in

a perfect straight line

like we would love it to.

Right.

And it doesn't mean that

when you're in a lull that

you're doing something wrong.

Okay.

It's just the way that the

body does what it does.

Okay?

I can't explain to why

it goes into a lull.

I just see it all the time,

and I also see my clients

or women in my community

who get really disappointed

and they're like, but I

was going so well, and

you will go so well.

Again, do not make a

story out of the lull.

It's very normal.

as you're getting results,

you're going to continue

to get results, right?

As your body's feeling

good, you're on the right

track, you're doing the

right thing for your body.

So you just gotta keep going.

So those are my insights

from my journey right now.

And also the journey of,

you know, thousands of women

that I've seen go through.

Healing in our programs

and my clients that the

healing journey hurts.

Okay.

Uh, it's uncomfortable.

It can bring up heavy

emotions, it can bring

pain, any kind of symptoms.

Okay?

But we've gotta

work through that.

That's not an indication that

we're doing something wrong.

It's just an indication that

we've gotta get through that.

And once we do, all

of that falls away.

So guys, I would love for you

to leave me a come below if

you see the chat box or the

comment box I should say,

and let me know, have you

noticed this for yourself?

When you've done detox,

you've got heavy emotions,

or you've got headaches, or

you know, maybe you're in

a relationship that you're

not sure whether to leave or

you have left and you feel

emotional, whatever the pain

or the heavy emotions are.

Have you seen it

as something that.

Indicates that you've done

something wrong, or can you

see now that maybe pain is a

natural, very natural, very

normal part of the process.

Leave me a comment below.