Welcome to Love Notes from Rhonda.

And today I want to talk about the word help.

Help.

We all need help.

In fact, we are born into the world needing help from the minute we're conceived.

We need the help of our mother to nurture us through what she drinks and eats, how she cares for herself.

After we're born, we need the help of our caretakers, whether that's our mother, our father, a cousin, a grandparent, a nurse.

We need people to feed us, to change us, to hold us.

We need help.

And as we grow, we need different help.

We need help learning our ABCs.

We need help understanding what is true versus false.

We need help being guided.

We need help.

And as we grow, different help comes into our lives.

Teachers, friends, parents, our friends throughout our entire life, regardless of how old we are, regardless of whether we think we're independent or not.

Even if you're a hermit living in a cave, everybody needs help.

And the number one thing so many of us refuse to do is ask for it.

Yet it is a sign of emotional charity, emotional intelligence, fearlessness, to be willing to ask for the help we need.

And as we get older, it is our job to discern the help that we need and to ask the people who can provide it, who can support us, who can show us the way.

Asking for help is critical for us to become who we are born to be.

Because no one can become who they're born to be alone.

Not me.

Not you.

So I ask you today, where are you asking for help and where are you refusing to admit you need help?

Where are you turning your back on help and where are you praying?

It secretly comes because help can come in the form of a human being.

It can become transactional.

I pay you for massage, and that's the help you're giving me.

I pay for my doctor's visit, and that becomes a way to get help.

That's one form of help.

It is a visible way of help, and we all need that type of help.

But there's also the invisible help, the invisible help that is here holding us at all times, if we just are willing to admit it, surrender to it, and allow it to guide us.

So I want you to think of the word help today.

And with that comes the word ask, right?

The courage, the fortitude, the willingness to ask.

So where is it that you've been receiving help with?

No.

Like, oh, no, you shouldn't.

Pushing people aside that are attempting to help you is not humble.

It is actually arrogant because you actually think on some level you can do it on your own.

And that isn't how we're made on this planet.

I always say God tricks us, right?

He.

He creates us as independent beings.

He.

We have this desire to, you know, stand on our own two feet and be sovereign.

Love that word sovereignty.

Yet none of us can become who we were born to be.

None of us can achieve our dreams.

None of us.

No one without the help of another.

So I want you to look at your life right now.

And where is it that you're turning away help?

Where is it that you're refusing to receive help?

Where is it that you are scared to ask for help and yes, be double triple grateful for the help that you can see that you can be grateful for that you can say yes to Help comes in many forms.

It comes from strangers, from family members, friends and acquaintance.

A lucky break.

Like I said, it's visible and invisible.

It's okay to ask for help.

Today I invite you to start paying attention to the help that you're willing to receive and the help you're turning away.

Admit it and then start asking.

We need each other.

You're giving and your receiving of help keep the cycle of love going.

Give it and receive it.

Until next time, be fearless.

I love you.