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Hello and welcome to the Hey Boomer Show and Happy Hanukkah.

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Today, we're going to be talking about the older women's revolution.

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Revolution. So let me start with a little history.

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The first attempt to organize a national women's movement for women's rights in the

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United States occurred in Seneca Falls.

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It was in July of 1848, and it was led by Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Lucretia mott.

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It took another 52 years until 1920 to ratify the 19th Amendment, giving women the

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right to vote.

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The second wave of the women's movement emerged in the 1960s with the Commission on

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the Status of Women, led by Eleanor Roosevelt and the publishing of the book The

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Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan.

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The report from the Commission documented discrimination against women in virtually

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every aspect of American life.

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And Friedan's book highlighted the emotional and intellectual oppression that middle class

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educated women were experienced because of limited life options.

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So is it time for a third women's revolution, a revolution of older women who

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society thinks should go quietly into the good night?

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But we know we are not done with what we want to contribute and what we are able to

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contribute. This is what we're going to talk about today with my guest, Dr.

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Sarah Hart.

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My name is Wendy GREENE, and I am your host for Hey, Boomer.

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In this episode, we are going to talk about the older women's revolution and where we are

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going with this.

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beginnings, confront endings and transitions, and evolve into who they want to

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So now it is my honor to bring Dr.

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Sarah Hart onto the show.

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Hi, Sarah.

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Hi, Wendy.

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It's so nice to have you today.

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It's lovely to be here.

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Thank you. Yeah.

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Let me give them a brief intro to your background.

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So, Dr..

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Excuse me. Dr. Sarah Hart is a lifelong advocate for social change and an

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inspirational motivational speaker.

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She is passionate about Prime Spark, an idea that became a movement to change the way our

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culture sees and treats senior women.

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As a speaker, Sarah provides controversial cutting edge ideas in an interactive setting.

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She founded Hart Com, a consulting company over 20 years ago, focusing on leadership,

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development, coaching and team building.

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She also coaches women who know things need to be different in our society and who value

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the support of a coach and a like minded community.

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Sarah lives in Los Altos, California, with their cat.

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Mr. Boo.

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I have to meet your cat and introduce him to mine.

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Oh, yes.

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So, Sarah, you have a podcast and a movement called Prime Spark.

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Where did that idea come from?

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Oh, Wendy.

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I love to talk about that.

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Before I say that, may I just add to your introduction that in 1920, white women were

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given the right to vote.

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Thank you.

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Sarah. American women, women of color did not get the right to vote until, I don't know,

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1964. Something.

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So when we talk about that, I think it's important to highlight.

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Yeah. Thank you for.

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That vote at that time.

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Yeah. Prime Spark.

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Oh wow.

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I had been.

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Doing this, that and the other thing with my consulting company, and I realized at one

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point that I had been either a consultant or an employee in corporate America for over 40

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years. That was enough.

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That that that really that was enough.

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And so I was trying to figure out, okay, what do I want to do now?

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And it occurred to me that what I want to do is work with and on behalf of older women

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now. This was sort of in the back of my mind.

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And then one day I was sitting in a doctor's examining office.

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I was sitting on a metal chair.

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It was cold.

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I was waiting for the doctor and I was waiting and I was waiting.

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And I got colder and colder.

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And finally he came in and he had a starched white jacket and dark glasses and gray hair.

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And he had an iPad or some kind of tablet.

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He didn't look at me.

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He looked at the tablet and he said, Why are you here?

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And I said, Well, when I walk, the calves hurt on my legs.

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And he said, Well, how far do you walk?

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He never looked at me once, not once, the entire time I was in that room.

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And I said, Well, I like to walk as close to 10,000 steps a day as I can.

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I don't always get there, but I like it.

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And he said, I have patients who can't walk to the front door and back to get their mail.

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What you need to do is find a path with benches.

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Oh. Oh.

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Wrong thing to say.

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Oh, I was just.

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I didn't say that, but I wish I had George.

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Don't tell me to find a path with benches.

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Last year, I did the California AIDS Life Cycle ride.

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It's a bicycle ride from San Francisco to Los Angeles, 545 miles.

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Don't tell me to find a path with benches.

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Yeah. If I'd been in my thirties, would he have said find a path with benches?

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No. He would have helped me figure out what to do with my legs.

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So they didn't hurt so I could continue doing what I was doing was walking, but so I

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could continue doing whatever exercise.

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And so that catalyzed my desire to work with and on behalf of older women.

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And at that time, I was working with a coach, trying to figure out what I wanted to

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do next. And she said.

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When I said I wanted to work with older and on behalf of older women, she said, Oh, your

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golden years.

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Everybody's giving you feeding, feeding for your idea.

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Oh, no.

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I mean, all of this was good in the sense that it fueled me and it's given me wonderful

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stories. But at the time I was just no, I said I.

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I want to help older women find that spark deep inside that will ignite their way into

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the world with their with everything they have to give.

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Right now, in the prime of their lives, in their fifties, sixties and seventies, because

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that's a prime of our life anymore.

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Oh, Prime Spark Prime.

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So that's what it was.

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It was not your golden years.

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It prime spark.

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And that's that's where that all came from.

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That's great. Those people were sent to you as messengers there.

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To get you go.

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That's right. At the time, I was livid.

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But, you know, in retrospect, I thought, Thank you.

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Thank you, Thank you.

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Oh, my gosh. So how old were you when you did that bike ride?

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Well, that's sort of a funny story in itself.

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I was 74.

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Wow. So actually, it was three years ago because now I'm 77.

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But when I was in the doctor's office, it was a year or two ago.

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Right. Right. And that I was at that time when I when I started training for it, I was

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73. And I had been very cautious about saying what my age was because I was still

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doing consulting and some in Silicon Valley.

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And you don't consult in Silicon Valley when you're 73.

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And so I, I just was very quiet about my age.

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But I opened the San Jose Mercury News one day and there was my picture with the

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headline, 73 year old woman to do AIDS Life Cycle.

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Okay.

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All right. It's out there.

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Okay. That's it.

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That's the end of that.

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Wow. That's quite an accomplishment.

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Yeah. I bikes and I don't do well together.

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So good for you.

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So you've talked about this reinvention a little bit, you know, from the employee to

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your own company now a podcast host and a motivator and inspirer of women.

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So what do you think is some of the most important things to confront or to address

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when you're facing transitions?

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I think three things, I guess.

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I think it's important to not know what's next and to and to not pressure yourself.

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I got to know. I got to know I got a new.

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Yeah. And and you will if you just keep working with it.

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So it's okay.

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When you first start getting that inkling, it's okay not to know.

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None of us knows immediately.

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But secondly, I would say that.

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Don't jump into something until you're ready.

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I went through a major transition, leaving corporate.

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And I wasn't sure at all what was next.

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But I was so ready that it was it was scarier to think of staying than going.

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And I don't recommend you necessarily get to that point, but at some point, you'll you'll

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be ready. And the third point I would say is and it's still scary.

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It is. It is.

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The transitions are very scary.

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And that's okay.

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That's okay. I mean, unknown is scary.

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That's right.

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But it doesn't mean we don't do it.

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That's right. Sometimes sitting in the discomfort is where you need to be.

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Yes.

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And when you were starting to formulate this idea of the prime spark, did you have any

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inkling that you were going to be doing a podcast?

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No.

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Had you ever done anything like that before?

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Well, it's a bit I mean, for for a year, a couple of years ago, I had an online radio

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show, right. Radio show called Prime Spark.

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And I loved it.

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I love doing it.

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But it sort of ran its course.

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And then when?

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I podcasting doesn't just come in, but I became aware of it and I thought, Oh, well, I

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really liked the radio show, maybe I'd like to do podcasting and I love to do it.

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I mean, you know, it's really it's really fun.

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It's fun. And you meet great people and you're on a lifelong, lifelong learning

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transition as you go through it, too.

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That's right. That's exactly right.

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It's it's learning from the people you're you're talking to.

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And it's a constant learning of technology because things keep changing all the time.

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Absolutely. Yeah.

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So as a leader in the women's movement in the sixties and seventies and now with the

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older women's revolution, talk to me about what you think has changed, what progress

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we've made and what still needs to be done.

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Well, I think we've made a lot of progress since the fifties and sixties seventies.

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Women's role in society has changed.

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I mean, there's there's no questioning that.

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I think there was a very funny thing going around on the Internet recently about, oh,

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this was an old ad I don't know if it was really old, but it was made to look old and

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it could have been a real ad because there were ads like this.

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There was a woman sitting on her knees at a Christmas tree, and she had her eyes closed.

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And she was wishing, wishing, wishing and her male partner behind her had placed under

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the tree. Her gift, which was a vacuum cleaner.

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And the saying was something like George spent the next several weeks in the hospital

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with many multiple injuries, but that kind of thing was real.

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I mean, I remember when I was growing up, when we got television or we would watch a

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young. Twirl in the kitchen, showing off her refrigerator.

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Remember? Oh, my gosh.

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So from all those days, we certainly, certainly have made a lot of changes.

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There's still a lot to be done.

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I think that.

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Three things jumped in my mind that that definitely still need to be done.

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One. We need to have more women in higher levels in all or all kinds of organization.

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We're doing better in government.

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We're doing better in corporations, but we're certainly not there yet.

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So we need to have more women in higher levels.

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We also finally need to get equal pay for equal work.

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Why is that a question in 2022?

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And so we need equal pay for equal work and we need.

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Affordable, top quality child care.

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For many women, that is a real stumbling block.

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And for women who have to work in order to support their families, that is.

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Just so unequal and it's not fair.

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And so we need better child care.

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I mean, we need better childcare for all working women, but particularly for women who

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really don't have the means to hire top quality child care.

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Yeah, yeah, that's so difficult.

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I remember dealing with that.

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So the younger women now, I think took for granted a lot of the changes that we had

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fought for until Rowe v Wade was overturned.

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So I think that was a wake up call for them.

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Yeah. Are you finding ways to work with younger women also to spark this prime spark

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revolution?

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Oh, Wendy, that's a great question.

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I want to do that because.

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Um, for a lot of reasons.

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But if we're going to change how older women are seen and treated in our society, younger

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women have to be involved in it because they are at some point going to be older women.

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And so for that reason, I really want them to be involved.

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I really want them to be involved because I think we've made a very difficult world for

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younger women.

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I think it's really hard and I would like to provide some support and guidance

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and alleviate some of the difficulties, if possible.

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And so what I'm what I'm just getting ready to start actually, is what I'm calling a

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Prime Spark Co mentoring circle.

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And what I intend for that is to have older women and younger women work together in

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pairs in co mentoring because we have at least as much to learn from them as they have

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from us. And so I'm I'm hoping to do that fairly soon.

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We'll see. We'll see if it goes.

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Oh, I just wanted to say something and it went out of my mind.

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But anyway, yes, I think.

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Oh, I know. I think that one of the real difficulties we have now is what we have that

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keeps being highlighted and made worse are the the the difficulties between generations.

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And we need really want to stop talking about, you know, Gen Xers and Zs and, you

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know, we're we just are all who we are and there's a continuum of age and it doesn't

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have slices.

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I mean, time doesn't have those kind of slices.

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So I would really like to do these co mentoring circles so that both younger and

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older women can see we have a lot more in common than we knew.

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We do. We do.

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Sarah In fact that my show last week was all about we need to stop the shaming and blaming

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between the generations.

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Yes. And find ways to.

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I mean, there is differences in the languages and differences in the, you know,

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Gen Z, my grandchildren's generation does speak different languages sometimes, and they

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text differently and all of that.

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But like you said, it's a it's a co mentoring.

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We can learn from them.

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They can learn from us and break down those barriers.

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I love that idea.

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So let me know how I can support you on that one.

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Oh, fantastic. I would love that one.

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Yeah, that would be awesome.

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So, you know, talking about all of the work that we've done over the years for the

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women's movement, I also was very involved.

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There are times like it's very frustrating, right?

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I mean, we've worked so hard and and then we get socked in the gut.

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So I'm curious what you do when you feel frustrated to kind of dig yourself out of

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that hole and get back up and go, no, we still have a lot to do.

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Yeah, that's, yeah.

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I mean, I think that for a lot of us when Ro V Wade was overturned, it was just a gut

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punch. I mean, I suppose I should have seen that coming.

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But until it got close to actually happening, I thought it never would.

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I just. Right.

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Settled law.

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It was settled law, wasn't it?

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Yeah. Yeah.

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So that and I just a couple of weeks ago saw the movie she said, which is absolutely

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superb.

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I haven't seen that yet.

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You got to see it. And everybody who has any contact with a younger woman, if she will

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agree to go with you or just go.

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Younger women need to see that movie.

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So I don't know, Wendy, I yes, I get very frustrated.

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I just I get.

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Oh. What a waste of time.

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I mean, you know what?

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And then I think about.

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Well, now, wait a minute.

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You know, look at the changes that have happened.

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Look at some of the good stuff that is happening now.

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And so if I let myself feel really blue for a while, then I will gradually come back to

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an equilibrium, because that's just sort of the way I'm made, I think.

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I also have a meditation practice.

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I don't know what I would do without it because it helps me stay.

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You know, This too will change.

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Yeah, Yeah.

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It will change.

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But it's not I mean, for for any anybody who is is involved at all.

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It's not easy.

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It's not easy. And I think surrounding ourselves with people like you, with our

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girlfriends in any organizations that we are involved in, Yes, definitely helps us get

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back on track.

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So let's turn it around.

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What are you excited about now, looking out into 2023?

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I think one of the things I'm most excited about is I've been working with Prime Spark

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now going on three years because it was really 2020 when I don't have anything else

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to do, you know? It was.

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That's right. You were locked up.

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So even during the last two and a half to three years, there are there's a

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huge burgeoning number of people who are involved in anti ageism.

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That wasn't true even two and a half, three years ago, to the extent it is now.

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There are so many books that are being written there are it just go online now.

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I know some of it is because that's what I'm involved in and that's what I see.

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It's sort of like if you buy a red car, then when you go out all you see a red car.

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So I understand that.

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But it's but it's also accurate.

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It's also true.

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And so I think that the boomers, to use a generational term, are

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just absolutely not going to sit down and be treated like that.

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Doctor treated me well.

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I mean, we're different.

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I mean, we're different and we're we're just not we're just not going to allow it.

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It's just not going to happen.

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And there's this huge bubble of people coming along and they're just going to say,

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no, you know, this is who I am.

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Look at me. I'm vibrant, I'm alive.

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I'm not going to sit down and play whatever for the rest of my life unless I really want

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to. And if somebody really wants to, then go ahead, sit down and play whatever.

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But I want people to actually have the choice and not think that's the only way

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ahead, because it's not.

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I mean, look around at the numbers of people who are thriving in their sixties, seventies,

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eighties, nineties.

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That's right.

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I'm just going to get more so.

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So I find all of that really exciting and hopeful.

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Well, and I find exciting.

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One of the things that you have coming up in the beginning of 2023, and that's this

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women's conference.

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Tell us more about that.

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Oh, I'm so excited.

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Thank you for asking me.

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Conference is called Women over 50 Making the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life

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because I believe that it's not just a saying for me.

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I believe it. Women I talk to who are over 50, I ask every single woman I interview, Do

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you experience getting older?

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And she will say, Well, yeah, in my body I do.

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But other than that, I feel better.

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I feel more me, I feel stronger, I feel.

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And so I believe the rest of your life can be the best of your life.

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And so we're having this conference.

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I've wanted to have this conference for a couple of years now, and we kept trying to

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have it. And just as we would get ready to go forward with it, there would be another

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huge surge and everything would be shut down.

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And actually we couldn't find a venue that was open to large groups.

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I don't know if that's true in all the country, but it's true in California.

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And so finally, sometime last year, I said, okay, we're going virtual because we're

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having this. Conference.

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I this conference has to happen.

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I'm not saying it's the first conference for older women.

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I'm not saying that because the moment I say that there will be five emails saying I had

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one in Kentucky, I had one in Florida.

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So I'm not saying that, but I haven't been able to find it.

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So I'm saying we are among the very first conferences for older women and we have a

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wonderful line up of speakers for keynotes.

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We have wonderful breakouts and it will all be virtual.

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I know it would be fun to be together.

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I wish we could be together, but thank goodness for Zoom or whatever one uses

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because at least we can see one another.

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We can talk, we can listen to good speakers and oh, I want everybody to go.

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I think you'll really love it.

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The the early bird price ends December 31st, so that is week and a half away.

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So you need to do it now.

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So please come and join us.

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And what what is that price?

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The early bird is 79 and the regular is 99.

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I mean, that's such a it's an all day affair, right?

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Such a great price.

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And some can't afford it.

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Send me an email and we'll work it out.

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I don't want anybody not to be able to go because she can't afford it.

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So let me know because we'll work it out.

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And what's the date?

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Sarah February 8th.

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Wednesday, February 8th, from 930.

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Pacific Pacific time and we're saying it's ending around 430 or five.

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But the last thing we're doing is having the online party.

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So that will go as long as anybody wants to grab their beverage of choice and party with

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us.

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So woo hoo for you that you are like figuring out how to do this whole virtual conference.

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That's very impressive, Sarah.

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Thank you. It's. We're doing it.

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That's. That's. I just.

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I just said, okay, this is it.

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We're doing this. I don't know how we're doing it, but we're doing it.

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You're figuring it out.

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And so, yeah, hopefully everyone will attend.

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Because you told me about some of the speakers.

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I mean, some very well known people will be speakers.

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So that's.

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Pretty exciting.

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Too. It's very exciting.

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Yeah. So when you made the change from corporate to your own company and now to

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this, were there some lessons that you learned that you wish you had known at some

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point when you were making those changes?

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I think. I think a little bit of what I said before, that it's okay to be scared, Sarah.

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You don't have to have all this figured out.

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I didn't have it figured out.

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I resigned from a very good job, from a very good company after 20 years without having

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the vaguest idea of what I was going to do.

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I just knew it was time to go.

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So I sold most of what I owned.

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But what? I was left in my car and drove to San Francisco from the East Coast because I

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knew I wanted to live in San Francisco.

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Then I spent a year trying to decide what I wanted to do.

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Now bless my company.

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They kept hiring me back as a consultant, so I had funding during that year, but I had no

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idea what I was going to do.

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And I finally realized what I wanted to do and I set about doing it.

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But what I learned was.

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You don't need to know exactly what you're going to do, what you do need.

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And this is something I wish I had paid a bit more attention to.

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You do need to make sure you are sufficiently funded for your basic needs.

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Because you don't want to make a big leap and then have to live on credit cards because

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that's devastating and you don't want to start from that.

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So I didn't I didn't have to do that because I did have this help, this backup from the

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company where I had worked.

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But I do know some people who have just gotten to the end and left whatever they were

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doing and without any kind of a plan at all.

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And that's not good because we don't make the best decisions when we're really, really

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scared and you don't want to get really, really scared.

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So I think what I learned, one of the things I learned was it's okay to be scared.

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It's okay to not know.

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But do have some kind of a plan to take care of yourself, basically, so that you don't get

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scared.

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Yeah. Yeah.

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That's so important.

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And you're right. We don't make good decisions when we are scared.

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No.

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Yeah. Hmm.

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So we're heading into the new Year, like I said.

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And, you know, I do like a word of the year.

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In fact, I'm going to blog about that this year.

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And some people do resolutions.

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And I was wondering if you do either one or if you have another practice that you take

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will take into 2023 with you.

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Oh, Wendy, that's really interesting because I was just thinking about that last night and

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I realized that I'm not going to make New Year's resolutions.

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I'm not going to do it because I never keep them.

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Right.

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I mean, literally one year I watched myself wake up on January 1st and find the piece of

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paper I had written them on and cross them out.

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I literally did that.

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Other years, they've just sort of petered out.

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Like if you go to a gym, you watch that happen.

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It is so crowded the first week of January and it gradually gets less crowded.

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You just wait until February, you know, everything will be back to normal.

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And so I decided I'm not going to make resolutions and.

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I'm going to think about.

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In what ways would my life be more satisfying to me in 2023?

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I like that.

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And. What do I need to think about doing in order to, at the end of

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2023 realize that?

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My life has been more satisfying because I was able to.

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Da da da da da da da da da.

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Me. I have a great life and there are some things that I really would like to do

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differently. And so I'm going to I'm going to make it just easier.

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I'm not I'm not going to write it down.

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I'm not going or I may write it down, but I'm not going to write it down.

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In terms of 2023 New Year's resolutions, right?

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I would if I write it down anymore.

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Just just in terms of a reminder, I like what somebody I've read the other day,

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somebody suggested, oh, I don't I'm not going to remember this exactly, but it was

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like writing a letter to yourself.

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Your future self.

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Well, yeah, yeah.

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But it's like write it on 20.

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Write it on December 1st, 2023, about what you've seen that was different during the

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year, you know, and then hide it and take it out on December 31st, 2020.

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And I sort of like that.

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That seems like a gentle way of making some suggestions for yourself.

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And I like the word satisfied.

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How will I be satisfied?

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Because it doesn't have to be like this major overpowering, like New Year's

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resolutions, You know, I'm going to lose this much weight and work out this much.

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And because you're right, we don't live up to it.

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But that's what I like about the words, like this year.

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My word was acceptance and mastery.

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And I put them up on my board, you know, and I could look at them every once in a while.

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I'm going, okay, okay, how am I doing on those?

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You know, that's good, Wendy.

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I like that.

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Yeah.

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So will you tell us your 2023 word?

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Are you going to wait to blog about it?

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I'm going to wait to blog about it.

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And then I.

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Yeah, encourage everybody to come up with their word and let's share them around.

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I know it's exciting.

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Fun.

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I like that stuff.

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Thank you. So, Sarah, as you know, I do it with Hey, Boomer, a lot of what you do with

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Prime Spark, and that is to inspire people over 55 to stay fully engaged, to recognize

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that we still have a lot to give.

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And I'm wondering if you have two or three takeaways that you would like to leave with

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the Hey Boomer audience and invite them to Prime Spark two.

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Yeah, see, let's see.

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One of the things that makes me positive is that you and I are doing so much similar

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things. That's very exciting to me, I would say.

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This sounds trite because it's so overused, but I do think it's important to really think

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about what is most important to me at this point in my life and going forward.

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And that might be really big deal stuff.

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I mean, it might be the climate is so important to me.

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So I really I really want to be involved in environmentalism.

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And maybe that's in your town.

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I mean, it doesn't you don't have to go to Washington and start lobbying unless you want

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to then go.

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But just what is most important and figure out how you're going to be involved in that

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going forward.

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So I think I think that secondly, if you if you feel you need support to do that, get it.

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I mean, there's there's groups, there's coaches.

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You can find a supportive friend, but be careful about people, you know, because there

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are sometimes people who know us well don't want us to change.

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They really are comfortable with who we are and what we've been and how they've known us.

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So if you're going to talk to a trusted friend about this, make sure the person will

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support you in stepping out in whatever way you're dreaming, because that's not always

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the case. And you don't want somebody who's important to you talking you out of it.

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You want them talking you into it.

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So that support somehow.

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And and third, thirdly, I would say and realize that you are enough right now

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just the way you are.

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The world desperately needs your skills and abilities and wisdom right now.

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Look at the world.

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The world needs our old women's wisdom.

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It needs you.

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And so step out with who you are because you are enough.

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You for that. Sarah, That was beautiful.

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And I and I second that you are enough and ask for help when you need it.

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That's beautiful. Thank you.

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So let me tell people how they can find you besides the women's conference.

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So if you have questions for Sarah, you can email her directly at Sarah.

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Hart.

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At heart RomCom and Heart is HRT.

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Heart.

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And Sarah.

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Hart.

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And you can find her website and her blogs and her speaking opportunities and her

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podcast and everything else she's doing at Prime Spark Women w0men prime spark women dot

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com. And take advantage of this conference that Sarah has coming up.

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I hope to be there.

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I hope to see all of the hay boomer audience there women over 50 conference dot com.

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And I'm telling you if Sarah is behind it it's going to be remarkable so join it.

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Yes please do.

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One more thing I would like to say, Wendy, we even have some prime greeting cards that

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are available and those are on on the Web, on the prime Spark website also.

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It's a terrific gift for a woman over 50.

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They they champion older women rather than make fun of us.

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Nice.

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Yeah, they're really fun.

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Yeah. So let me just ask you all to recommend to your friends and family that they

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subscribe to. Hey, Boomer, they can find all of the podcasts there.

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They can get our newsletter of what we have going on.

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So that's email me at Wendy at Hey Boomer Dot Babies.

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Also, if you want more information about the Costa Rica trip, Sara, think about coming to

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Costa Rica with us.

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I am thinking about that.

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Wendy used to be so fun.

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So email me at Wendy at Hey Boomer Dot Biz and check out all the other trips that Rhodes

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Scholar offers. In fact, some of them, you don't even have to go anywhere.

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They're virtual trips so you can go to road road scholar dot org slash Hey Boomer and

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check those out.

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So let me tell you all, this is my last show for 2022.

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I'm going to spend the next two weeks thinking about my word, organizing my office

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planning for next year.

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And I hope that you find the people that you love and the people who love you to spend

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this holiday with and have a wonderful holiday season.

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And I will be back on Monday.

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Day, January nine.

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Collie Jan.

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With Joe.

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Gloria And Joe is a financial planner.

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He has some interesting ideas about living a life of financial fulfillment in retirement.

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Things like having your money work for you.

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Giving to causes.

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What do you want? What do you think about retirement?

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So just some important questions to think about.

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And I like to leave you with the belief that we can all live with passion, live with

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relevance and live with courage.

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And we are never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.

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My name is Wendy Green with Sarah Hart.

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And this has been.