Hello and welcome to the Hey Boomer Show and Happy Hanukkah.
Speaker:Today, we're going to be talking about the older women's revolution.
Speaker:Revolution. So let me start with a little history.
Speaker:The first attempt to organize a national women's movement for women's rights in the
Speaker:United States occurred in Seneca Falls.
Speaker:It was in July of 1848, and it was led by Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Lucretia mott.
Speaker:It took another 52 years until 1920 to ratify the 19th Amendment, giving women the
Speaker:right to vote.
Speaker:The second wave of the women's movement emerged in the 1960s with the Commission on
Speaker:the Status of Women, led by Eleanor Roosevelt and the publishing of the book The
Speaker:Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan.
Speaker:The report from the Commission documented discrimination against women in virtually
Speaker:every aspect of American life.
Speaker:And Friedan's book highlighted the emotional and intellectual oppression that middle class
Speaker:educated women were experienced because of limited life options.
Speaker:So is it time for a third women's revolution, a revolution of older women who
Speaker:society thinks should go quietly into the good night?
Speaker:But we know we are not done with what we want to contribute and what we are able to
Speaker:contribute. This is what we're going to talk about today with my guest, Dr.
Speaker:Sarah Hart.
Speaker:My name is Wendy GREENE, and I am your host for Hey, Boomer.
Speaker:In this episode, we are going to talk about the older women's revolution and where we are
Speaker:going with this.
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Speaker:Sarah Hart onto the show.
Speaker:Hi, Sarah.
Speaker:Hi, Wendy.
Speaker:It's so nice to have you today.
Speaker:It's lovely to be here.
Speaker:Thank you. Yeah.
Speaker:Let me give them a brief intro to your background.
Speaker:So, Dr..
Speaker:Excuse me. Dr. Sarah Hart is a lifelong advocate for social change and an
Speaker:inspirational motivational speaker.
Speaker:She is passionate about Prime Spark, an idea that became a movement to change the way our
Speaker:culture sees and treats senior women.
Speaker:As a speaker, Sarah provides controversial cutting edge ideas in an interactive setting.
Speaker:She founded Hart Com, a consulting company over 20 years ago, focusing on leadership,
Speaker:development, coaching and team building.
Speaker:She also coaches women who know things need to be different in our society and who value
Speaker:the support of a coach and a like minded community.
Speaker:Sarah lives in Los Altos, California, with their cat.
Speaker:Mr. Boo.
Speaker:I have to meet your cat and introduce him to mine.
Speaker:Oh, yes.
Speaker:So, Sarah, you have a podcast and a movement called Prime Spark.
Speaker:Where did that idea come from?
Speaker:Oh, Wendy.
Speaker:I love to talk about that.
Speaker:Before I say that, may I just add to your introduction that in 1920, white women were
Speaker:given the right to vote.
Speaker:Thank you.
Speaker:Sarah. American women, women of color did not get the right to vote until, I don't know,
Speaker:1964. Something.
Speaker:So when we talk about that, I think it's important to highlight.
Speaker:Yeah. Thank you for.
Speaker:That vote at that time.
Speaker:Yeah. Prime Spark.
Speaker:Oh wow.
Speaker:I had been.
Speaker:Doing this, that and the other thing with my consulting company, and I realized at one
Speaker:point that I had been either a consultant or an employee in corporate America for over 40
Speaker:years. That was enough.
Speaker:That that that really that was enough.
Speaker:And so I was trying to figure out, okay, what do I want to do now?
Speaker:And it occurred to me that what I want to do is work with and on behalf of older women
Speaker:now. This was sort of in the back of my mind.
Speaker:And then one day I was sitting in a doctor's examining office.
Speaker:I was sitting on a metal chair.
Speaker:It was cold.
Speaker:I was waiting for the doctor and I was waiting and I was waiting.
Speaker:And I got colder and colder.
Speaker:And finally he came in and he had a starched white jacket and dark glasses and gray hair.
Speaker:And he had an iPad or some kind of tablet.
Speaker:He didn't look at me.
Speaker:He looked at the tablet and he said, Why are you here?
Speaker:And I said, Well, when I walk, the calves hurt on my legs.
Speaker:And he said, Well, how far do you walk?
Speaker:He never looked at me once, not once, the entire time I was in that room.
Speaker:And I said, Well, I like to walk as close to 10,000 steps a day as I can.
Speaker:I don't always get there, but I like it.
Speaker:And he said, I have patients who can't walk to the front door and back to get their mail.
Speaker:What you need to do is find a path with benches.
Speaker:Oh. Oh.
Speaker:Wrong thing to say.
Speaker:Oh, I was just.
Speaker:I didn't say that, but I wish I had George.
Speaker:Don't tell me to find a path with benches.
Speaker:Last year, I did the California AIDS Life Cycle ride.
Speaker:It's a bicycle ride from San Francisco to Los Angeles, 545 miles.
Speaker:Don't tell me to find a path with benches.
Speaker:Yeah. If I'd been in my thirties, would he have said find a path with benches?
Speaker:No. He would have helped me figure out what to do with my legs.
Speaker:So they didn't hurt so I could continue doing what I was doing was walking, but so I
Speaker:could continue doing whatever exercise.
Speaker:And so that catalyzed my desire to work with and on behalf of older women.
Speaker:And at that time, I was working with a coach, trying to figure out what I wanted to
Speaker:do next. And she said.
Speaker:When I said I wanted to work with older and on behalf of older women, she said, Oh, your
Speaker:golden years.
Speaker:Everybody's giving you feeding, feeding for your idea.
Speaker:Oh, no.
Speaker:I mean, all of this was good in the sense that it fueled me and it's given me wonderful
Speaker:stories. But at the time I was just no, I said I.
Speaker:I want to help older women find that spark deep inside that will ignite their way into
Speaker:the world with their with everything they have to give.
Speaker:Right now, in the prime of their lives, in their fifties, sixties and seventies, because
Speaker:that's a prime of our life anymore.
Speaker:Oh, Prime Spark Prime.
Speaker:So that's what it was.
Speaker:It was not your golden years.
Speaker:It prime spark.
Speaker:And that's that's where that all came from.
Speaker:That's great. Those people were sent to you as messengers there.
Speaker:To get you go.
Speaker:That's right. At the time, I was livid.
Speaker:But, you know, in retrospect, I thought, Thank you.
Speaker:Thank you, Thank you.
Speaker:Oh, my gosh. So how old were you when you did that bike ride?
Speaker:Well, that's sort of a funny story in itself.
Speaker:I was 74.
Speaker:Wow. So actually, it was three years ago because now I'm 77.
Speaker:But when I was in the doctor's office, it was a year or two ago.
Speaker:Right. Right. And that I was at that time when I when I started training for it, I was
Speaker:73. And I had been very cautious about saying what my age was because I was still
Speaker:doing consulting and some in Silicon Valley.
Speaker:And you don't consult in Silicon Valley when you're 73.
Speaker:And so I, I just was very quiet about my age.
Speaker:But I opened the San Jose Mercury News one day and there was my picture with the
Speaker:headline, 73 year old woman to do AIDS Life Cycle.
Speaker:Okay.
Speaker:All right. It's out there.
Speaker:Okay. That's it.
Speaker:That's the end of that.
Speaker:Wow. That's quite an accomplishment.
Speaker:Yeah. I bikes and I don't do well together.
Speaker:So good for you.
Speaker:So you've talked about this reinvention a little bit, you know, from the employee to
Speaker:your own company now a podcast host and a motivator and inspirer of women.
Speaker:So what do you think is some of the most important things to confront or to address
Speaker:when you're facing transitions?
Speaker:I think three things, I guess.
Speaker:I think it's important to not know what's next and to and to not pressure yourself.
Speaker:I got to know. I got to know I got a new.
Speaker:Yeah. And and you will if you just keep working with it.
Speaker:So it's okay.
Speaker:When you first start getting that inkling, it's okay not to know.
Speaker:None of us knows immediately.
Speaker:But secondly, I would say that.
Speaker:Don't jump into something until you're ready.
Speaker:I went through a major transition, leaving corporate.
Speaker:And I wasn't sure at all what was next.
Speaker:But I was so ready that it was it was scarier to think of staying than going.
Speaker:And I don't recommend you necessarily get to that point, but at some point, you'll you'll
Speaker:be ready. And the third point I would say is and it's still scary.
Speaker:It is. It is.
Speaker:The transitions are very scary.
Speaker:And that's okay.
Speaker:That's okay. I mean, unknown is scary.
Speaker:That's right.
Speaker:But it doesn't mean we don't do it.
Speaker:That's right. Sometimes sitting in the discomfort is where you need to be.
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:And when you were starting to formulate this idea of the prime spark, did you have any
Speaker:inkling that you were going to be doing a podcast?
Speaker:No.
Speaker:Had you ever done anything like that before?
Speaker:Well, it's a bit I mean, for for a year, a couple of years ago, I had an online radio
Speaker:show, right. Radio show called Prime Spark.
Speaker:And I loved it.
Speaker:I love doing it.
Speaker:But it sort of ran its course.
Speaker:And then when?
Speaker:I podcasting doesn't just come in, but I became aware of it and I thought, Oh, well, I
Speaker:really liked the radio show, maybe I'd like to do podcasting and I love to do it.
Speaker:I mean, you know, it's really it's really fun.
Speaker:It's fun. And you meet great people and you're on a lifelong, lifelong learning
Speaker:transition as you go through it, too.
Speaker:That's right. That's exactly right.
Speaker:It's it's learning from the people you're you're talking to.
Speaker:And it's a constant learning of technology because things keep changing all the time.
Speaker:Absolutely. Yeah.
Speaker:So as a leader in the women's movement in the sixties and seventies and now with the
Speaker:older women's revolution, talk to me about what you think has changed, what progress
Speaker:we've made and what still needs to be done.
Speaker:Well, I think we've made a lot of progress since the fifties and sixties seventies.
Speaker:Women's role in society has changed.
Speaker:I mean, there's there's no questioning that.
Speaker:I think there was a very funny thing going around on the Internet recently about, oh,
Speaker:this was an old ad I don't know if it was really old, but it was made to look old and
Speaker:it could have been a real ad because there were ads like this.
Speaker:There was a woman sitting on her knees at a Christmas tree, and she had her eyes closed.
Speaker:And she was wishing, wishing, wishing and her male partner behind her had placed under
Speaker:the tree. Her gift, which was a vacuum cleaner.
Speaker:And the saying was something like George spent the next several weeks in the hospital
Speaker:with many multiple injuries, but that kind of thing was real.
Speaker:I mean, I remember when I was growing up, when we got television or we would watch a
Speaker:young. Twirl in the kitchen, showing off her refrigerator.
Speaker:Remember? Oh, my gosh.
Speaker:So from all those days, we certainly, certainly have made a lot of changes.
Speaker:There's still a lot to be done.
Speaker:I think that.
Speaker:Three things jumped in my mind that that definitely still need to be done.
Speaker:One. We need to have more women in higher levels in all or all kinds of organization.
Speaker:We're doing better in government.
Speaker:We're doing better in corporations, but we're certainly not there yet.
Speaker:So we need to have more women in higher levels.
Speaker:We also finally need to get equal pay for equal work.
Speaker:Why is that a question in 2022?
Speaker:And so we need equal pay for equal work and we need.
Speaker:Affordable, top quality child care.
Speaker:For many women, that is a real stumbling block.
Speaker:And for women who have to work in order to support their families, that is.
Speaker:Just so unequal and it's not fair.
Speaker:And so we need better child care.
Speaker:I mean, we need better childcare for all working women, but particularly for women who
Speaker:really don't have the means to hire top quality child care.
Speaker:Yeah, yeah, that's so difficult.
Speaker:I remember dealing with that.
Speaker:So the younger women now, I think took for granted a lot of the changes that we had
Speaker:fought for until Rowe v Wade was overturned.
Speaker:So I think that was a wake up call for them.
Speaker:Yeah. Are you finding ways to work with younger women also to spark this prime spark
Speaker:revolution?
Speaker:Oh, Wendy, that's a great question.
Speaker:I want to do that because.
Speaker:Um, for a lot of reasons.
Speaker:But if we're going to change how older women are seen and treated in our society, younger
Speaker:women have to be involved in it because they are at some point going to be older women.
Speaker:And so for that reason, I really want them to be involved.
Speaker:I really want them to be involved because I think we've made a very difficult world for
Speaker:younger women.
Speaker:I think it's really hard and I would like to provide some support and guidance
Speaker:and alleviate some of the difficulties, if possible.
Speaker:And so what I'm what I'm just getting ready to start actually, is what I'm calling a
Speaker:Prime Spark Co mentoring circle.
Speaker:And what I intend for that is to have older women and younger women work together in
Speaker:pairs in co mentoring because we have at least as much to learn from them as they have
Speaker:from us. And so I'm I'm hoping to do that fairly soon.
Speaker:We'll see. We'll see if it goes.
Speaker:Oh, I just wanted to say something and it went out of my mind.
Speaker:But anyway, yes, I think.
Speaker:Oh, I know. I think that one of the real difficulties we have now is what we have that
Speaker:keeps being highlighted and made worse are the the the difficulties between generations.
Speaker:And we need really want to stop talking about, you know, Gen Xers and Zs and, you
Speaker:know, we're we just are all who we are and there's a continuum of age and it doesn't
Speaker:have slices.
Speaker:I mean, time doesn't have those kind of slices.
Speaker:So I would really like to do these co mentoring circles so that both younger and
Speaker:older women can see we have a lot more in common than we knew.
Speaker:We do. We do.
Speaker:Sarah In fact that my show last week was all about we need to stop the shaming and blaming
Speaker:between the generations.
Speaker:Yes. And find ways to.
Speaker:I mean, there is differences in the languages and differences in the, you know,
Speaker:Gen Z, my grandchildren's generation does speak different languages sometimes, and they
Speaker:text differently and all of that.
Speaker:But like you said, it's a it's a co mentoring.
Speaker:We can learn from them.
Speaker:They can learn from us and break down those barriers.
Speaker:I love that idea.
Speaker:So let me know how I can support you on that one.
Speaker:Oh, fantastic. I would love that one.
Speaker:Yeah, that would be awesome.
Speaker:So, you know, talking about all of the work that we've done over the years for the
Speaker:women's movement, I also was very involved.
Speaker:There are times like it's very frustrating, right?
Speaker:I mean, we've worked so hard and and then we get socked in the gut.
Speaker:So I'm curious what you do when you feel frustrated to kind of dig yourself out of
Speaker:that hole and get back up and go, no, we still have a lot to do.
Speaker:Yeah, that's, yeah.
Speaker:I mean, I think that for a lot of us when Ro V Wade was overturned, it was just a gut
Speaker:punch. I mean, I suppose I should have seen that coming.
Speaker:But until it got close to actually happening, I thought it never would.
Speaker:I just. Right.
Speaker:Settled law.
Speaker:It was settled law, wasn't it?
Speaker:Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker:So that and I just a couple of weeks ago saw the movie she said, which is absolutely
Speaker:superb.
Speaker:I haven't seen that yet.
Speaker:You got to see it. And everybody who has any contact with a younger woman, if she will
Speaker:agree to go with you or just go.
Speaker:Younger women need to see that movie.
Speaker:So I don't know, Wendy, I yes, I get very frustrated.
Speaker:I just I get.
Speaker:Oh. What a waste of time.
Speaker:I mean, you know what?
Speaker:And then I think about.
Speaker:Well, now, wait a minute.
Speaker:You know, look at the changes that have happened.
Speaker:Look at some of the good stuff that is happening now.
Speaker:And so if I let myself feel really blue for a while, then I will gradually come back to
Speaker:an equilibrium, because that's just sort of the way I'm made, I think.
Speaker:I also have a meditation practice.
Speaker:I don't know what I would do without it because it helps me stay.
Speaker:You know, This too will change.
Speaker:Yeah, Yeah.
Speaker:It will change.
Speaker:But it's not I mean, for for any anybody who is is involved at all.
Speaker:It's not easy.
Speaker:It's not easy. And I think surrounding ourselves with people like you, with our
Speaker:girlfriends in any organizations that we are involved in, Yes, definitely helps us get
Speaker:back on track.
Speaker:So let's turn it around.
Speaker:What are you excited about now, looking out into 2023?
Speaker:I think one of the things I'm most excited about is I've been working with Prime Spark
Speaker:now going on three years because it was really 2020 when I don't have anything else
Speaker:to do, you know? It was.
Speaker:That's right. You were locked up.
Speaker:So even during the last two and a half to three years, there are there's a
Speaker:huge burgeoning number of people who are involved in anti ageism.
Speaker:That wasn't true even two and a half, three years ago, to the extent it is now.
Speaker:There are so many books that are being written there are it just go online now.
Speaker:I know some of it is because that's what I'm involved in and that's what I see.
Speaker:It's sort of like if you buy a red car, then when you go out all you see a red car.
Speaker:So I understand that.
Speaker:But it's but it's also accurate.
Speaker:It's also true.
Speaker:And so I think that the boomers, to use a generational term, are
Speaker:just absolutely not going to sit down and be treated like that.
Speaker:Doctor treated me well.
Speaker:I mean, we're different.
Speaker:I mean, we're different and we're we're just not we're just not going to allow it.
Speaker:It's just not going to happen.
Speaker:And there's this huge bubble of people coming along and they're just going to say,
Speaker:no, you know, this is who I am.
Speaker:Look at me. I'm vibrant, I'm alive.
Speaker:I'm not going to sit down and play whatever for the rest of my life unless I really want
Speaker:to. And if somebody really wants to, then go ahead, sit down and play whatever.
Speaker:But I want people to actually have the choice and not think that's the only way
Speaker:ahead, because it's not.
Speaker:I mean, look around at the numbers of people who are thriving in their sixties, seventies,
Speaker:eighties, nineties.
Speaker:That's right.
Speaker:I'm just going to get more so.
Speaker:So I find all of that really exciting and hopeful.
Speaker:Well, and I find exciting.
Speaker:One of the things that you have coming up in the beginning of 2023, and that's this
Speaker:women's conference.
Speaker:Tell us more about that.
Speaker:Oh, I'm so excited.
Speaker:Thank you for asking me.
Speaker:Conference is called Women over 50 Making the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life
Speaker:because I believe that it's not just a saying for me.
Speaker:I believe it. Women I talk to who are over 50, I ask every single woman I interview, Do
Speaker:you experience getting older?
Speaker:And she will say, Well, yeah, in my body I do.
Speaker:But other than that, I feel better.
Speaker:I feel more me, I feel stronger, I feel.
Speaker:And so I believe the rest of your life can be the best of your life.
Speaker:And so we're having this conference.
Speaker:I've wanted to have this conference for a couple of years now, and we kept trying to
Speaker:have it. And just as we would get ready to go forward with it, there would be another
Speaker:huge surge and everything would be shut down.
Speaker:And actually we couldn't find a venue that was open to large groups.
Speaker:I don't know if that's true in all the country, but it's true in California.
Speaker:And so finally, sometime last year, I said, okay, we're going virtual because we're
Speaker:having this. Conference.
Speaker:I this conference has to happen.
Speaker:I'm not saying it's the first conference for older women.
Speaker:I'm not saying that because the moment I say that there will be five emails saying I had
Speaker:one in Kentucky, I had one in Florida.
Speaker:So I'm not saying that, but I haven't been able to find it.
Speaker:So I'm saying we are among the very first conferences for older women and we have a
Speaker:wonderful line up of speakers for keynotes.
Speaker:We have wonderful breakouts and it will all be virtual.
Speaker:I know it would be fun to be together.
Speaker:I wish we could be together, but thank goodness for Zoom or whatever one uses
Speaker:because at least we can see one another.
Speaker:We can talk, we can listen to good speakers and oh, I want everybody to go.
Speaker:I think you'll really love it.
Speaker:The the early bird price ends December 31st, so that is week and a half away.
Speaker:So you need to do it now.
Speaker:So please come and join us.
Speaker:And what what is that price?
Speaker:The early bird is 79 and the regular is 99.
Speaker:I mean, that's such a it's an all day affair, right?
Speaker:Such a great price.
Speaker:And some can't afford it.
Speaker:Send me an email and we'll work it out.
Speaker:I don't want anybody not to be able to go because she can't afford it.
Speaker:So let me know because we'll work it out.
Speaker:And what's the date?
Speaker:Sarah February 8th.
Speaker:Wednesday, February 8th, from 930.
Speaker:Pacific Pacific time and we're saying it's ending around 430 or five.
Speaker:But the last thing we're doing is having the online party.
Speaker:So that will go as long as anybody wants to grab their beverage of choice and party with
Speaker:us.
Speaker:So woo hoo for you that you are like figuring out how to do this whole virtual conference.
Speaker:That's very impressive, Sarah.
Speaker:Thank you. It's. We're doing it.
Speaker:That's. That's. I just.
Speaker:I just said, okay, this is it.
Speaker:We're doing this. I don't know how we're doing it, but we're doing it.
Speaker:You're figuring it out.
Speaker:And so, yeah, hopefully everyone will attend.
Speaker:Because you told me about some of the speakers.
Speaker:I mean, some very well known people will be speakers.
Speaker:So that's.
Speaker:Pretty exciting.
Speaker:Too. It's very exciting.
Speaker:Yeah. So when you made the change from corporate to your own company and now to
Speaker:this, were there some lessons that you learned that you wish you had known at some
Speaker:point when you were making those changes?
Speaker:I think. I think a little bit of what I said before, that it's okay to be scared, Sarah.
Speaker:You don't have to have all this figured out.
Speaker:I didn't have it figured out.
Speaker:I resigned from a very good job, from a very good company after 20 years without having
Speaker:the vaguest idea of what I was going to do.
Speaker:I just knew it was time to go.
Speaker:So I sold most of what I owned.
Speaker:But what? I was left in my car and drove to San Francisco from the East Coast because I
Speaker:knew I wanted to live in San Francisco.
Speaker:Then I spent a year trying to decide what I wanted to do.
Speaker:Now bless my company.
Speaker:They kept hiring me back as a consultant, so I had funding during that year, but I had no
Speaker:idea what I was going to do.
Speaker:And I finally realized what I wanted to do and I set about doing it.
Speaker:But what I learned was.
Speaker:You don't need to know exactly what you're going to do, what you do need.
Speaker:And this is something I wish I had paid a bit more attention to.
Speaker:You do need to make sure you are sufficiently funded for your basic needs.
Speaker:Because you don't want to make a big leap and then have to live on credit cards because
Speaker:that's devastating and you don't want to start from that.
Speaker:So I didn't I didn't have to do that because I did have this help, this backup from the
Speaker:company where I had worked.
Speaker:But I do know some people who have just gotten to the end and left whatever they were
Speaker:doing and without any kind of a plan at all.
Speaker:And that's not good because we don't make the best decisions when we're really, really
Speaker:scared and you don't want to get really, really scared.
Speaker:So I think what I learned, one of the things I learned was it's okay to be scared.
Speaker:It's okay to not know.
Speaker:But do have some kind of a plan to take care of yourself, basically, so that you don't get
Speaker:scared.
Speaker:Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker:That's so important.
Speaker:And you're right. We don't make good decisions when we are scared.
Speaker:No.
Speaker:Yeah. Hmm.
Speaker:So we're heading into the new Year, like I said.
Speaker:And, you know, I do like a word of the year.
Speaker:In fact, I'm going to blog about that this year.
Speaker:And some people do resolutions.
Speaker:And I was wondering if you do either one or if you have another practice that you take
Speaker:will take into 2023 with you.
Speaker:Oh, Wendy, that's really interesting because I was just thinking about that last night and
Speaker:I realized that I'm not going to make New Year's resolutions.
Speaker:I'm not going to do it because I never keep them.
Speaker:Right.
Speaker:I mean, literally one year I watched myself wake up on January 1st and find the piece of
Speaker:paper I had written them on and cross them out.
Speaker:I literally did that.
Speaker:Other years, they've just sort of petered out.
Speaker:Like if you go to a gym, you watch that happen.
Speaker:It is so crowded the first week of January and it gradually gets less crowded.
Speaker:You just wait until February, you know, everything will be back to normal.
Speaker:And so I decided I'm not going to make resolutions and.
Speaker:I'm going to think about.
Speaker:In what ways would my life be more satisfying to me in 2023?
Speaker:I like that.
Speaker:And. What do I need to think about doing in order to, at the end of
Speaker:2023 realize that?
Speaker:My life has been more satisfying because I was able to.
Speaker:Da da da da da da da da da.
Speaker:Me. I have a great life and there are some things that I really would like to do
Speaker:differently. And so I'm going to I'm going to make it just easier.
Speaker:I'm not I'm not going to write it down.
Speaker:I'm not going or I may write it down, but I'm not going to write it down.
Speaker:In terms of 2023 New Year's resolutions, right?
Speaker:I would if I write it down anymore.
Speaker:Just just in terms of a reminder, I like what somebody I've read the other day,
Speaker:somebody suggested, oh, I don't I'm not going to remember this exactly, but it was
Speaker:like writing a letter to yourself.
Speaker:Your future self.
Speaker:Well, yeah, yeah.
Speaker:But it's like write it on 20.
Speaker:Write it on December 1st, 2023, about what you've seen that was different during the
Speaker:year, you know, and then hide it and take it out on December 31st, 2020.
Speaker:And I sort of like that.
Speaker:That seems like a gentle way of making some suggestions for yourself.
Speaker:And I like the word satisfied.
Speaker:How will I be satisfied?
Speaker:Because it doesn't have to be like this major overpowering, like New Year's
Speaker:resolutions, You know, I'm going to lose this much weight and work out this much.
Speaker:And because you're right, we don't live up to it.
Speaker:But that's what I like about the words, like this year.
Speaker:My word was acceptance and mastery.
Speaker:And I put them up on my board, you know, and I could look at them every once in a while.
Speaker:I'm going, okay, okay, how am I doing on those?
Speaker:You know, that's good, Wendy.
Speaker:I like that.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:So will you tell us your 2023 word?
Speaker:Are you going to wait to blog about it?
Speaker:I'm going to wait to blog about it.
Speaker:And then I.
Speaker:Yeah, encourage everybody to come up with their word and let's share them around.
Speaker:I know it's exciting.
Speaker:Fun.
Speaker:I like that stuff.
Speaker:Thank you. So, Sarah, as you know, I do it with Hey, Boomer, a lot of what you do with
Speaker:Prime Spark, and that is to inspire people over 55 to stay fully engaged, to recognize
Speaker:that we still have a lot to give.
Speaker:And I'm wondering if you have two or three takeaways that you would like to leave with
Speaker:the Hey Boomer audience and invite them to Prime Spark two.
Speaker:Yeah, see, let's see.
Speaker:One of the things that makes me positive is that you and I are doing so much similar
Speaker:things. That's very exciting to me, I would say.
Speaker:This sounds trite because it's so overused, but I do think it's important to really think
Speaker:about what is most important to me at this point in my life and going forward.
Speaker:And that might be really big deal stuff.
Speaker:I mean, it might be the climate is so important to me.
Speaker:So I really I really want to be involved in environmentalism.
Speaker:And maybe that's in your town.
Speaker:I mean, it doesn't you don't have to go to Washington and start lobbying unless you want
Speaker:to then go.
Speaker:But just what is most important and figure out how you're going to be involved in that
Speaker:going forward.
Speaker:So I think I think that secondly, if you if you feel you need support to do that, get it.
Speaker:I mean, there's there's groups, there's coaches.
Speaker:You can find a supportive friend, but be careful about people, you know, because there
Speaker:are sometimes people who know us well don't want us to change.
Speaker:They really are comfortable with who we are and what we've been and how they've known us.
Speaker:So if you're going to talk to a trusted friend about this, make sure the person will
Speaker:support you in stepping out in whatever way you're dreaming, because that's not always
Speaker:the case. And you don't want somebody who's important to you talking you out of it.
Speaker:You want them talking you into it.
Speaker:So that support somehow.
Speaker:And and third, thirdly, I would say and realize that you are enough right now
Speaker:just the way you are.
Speaker:The world desperately needs your skills and abilities and wisdom right now.
Speaker:Look at the world.
Speaker:The world needs our old women's wisdom.
Speaker:It needs you.
Speaker:And so step out with who you are because you are enough.
Speaker:You for that. Sarah, That was beautiful.
Speaker:And I and I second that you are enough and ask for help when you need it.
Speaker:That's beautiful. Thank you.
Speaker:So let me tell people how they can find you besides the women's conference.
Speaker:So if you have questions for Sarah, you can email her directly at Sarah.
Speaker:Hart.
Speaker:At heart RomCom and Heart is HRT.
Speaker:Heart.
Speaker:And Sarah.
Speaker:Hart.
Speaker:And you can find her website and her blogs and her speaking opportunities and her
Speaker:podcast and everything else she's doing at Prime Spark Women w0men prime spark women dot
Speaker:com. And take advantage of this conference that Sarah has coming up.
Speaker:I hope to be there.
Speaker:I hope to see all of the hay boomer audience there women over 50 conference dot com.
Speaker:And I'm telling you if Sarah is behind it it's going to be remarkable so join it.
Speaker:Yes please do.
Speaker:One more thing I would like to say, Wendy, we even have some prime greeting cards that
Speaker:are available and those are on on the Web, on the prime Spark website also.
Speaker:It's a terrific gift for a woman over 50.
Speaker:They they champion older women rather than make fun of us.
Speaker:Nice.
Speaker:Yeah, they're really fun.
Speaker:Yeah. So let me just ask you all to recommend to your friends and family that they
Speaker:subscribe to. Hey, Boomer, they can find all of the podcasts there.
Speaker:They can get our newsletter of what we have going on.
Speaker:So that's email me at Wendy at Hey Boomer Dot Babies.
Speaker:Also, if you want more information about the Costa Rica trip, Sara, think about coming to
Speaker:Costa Rica with us.
Speaker:I am thinking about that.
Speaker:Wendy used to be so fun.
Speaker:So email me at Wendy at Hey Boomer Dot Biz and check out all the other trips that Rhodes
Speaker:Scholar offers. In fact, some of them, you don't even have to go anywhere.
Speaker:They're virtual trips so you can go to road road scholar dot org slash Hey Boomer and
Speaker:check those out.
Speaker:So let me tell you all, this is my last show for 2022.
Speaker:I'm going to spend the next two weeks thinking about my word, organizing my office
Speaker:planning for next year.
Speaker:And I hope that you find the people that you love and the people who love you to spend
Speaker:this holiday with and have a wonderful holiday season.
Speaker:And I will be back on Monday.
Speaker:Day, January nine.
Speaker:Collie Jan.
Speaker:With Joe.
Speaker:Gloria And Joe is a financial planner.
Speaker:He has some interesting ideas about living a life of financial fulfillment in retirement.
Speaker:Things like having your money work for you.
Speaker:Giving to causes.
Speaker:What do you want? What do you think about retirement?
Speaker:So just some important questions to think about.
Speaker:And I like to leave you with the belief that we can all live with passion, live with
Speaker:relevance and live with courage.
Speaker:And we are never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.
Speaker:My name is Wendy Green with Sarah Hart.
Speaker:And this has been.