Well, welcome Lisa, thank you so much for taking the
Unknown:time to being on good real.
Unknown:Dr. Friedman, thank you so much for having me on. This is such a
Unknown:delight, knowing that you're in France. And I'm just honored to
Unknown:be here. Thank you.
Unknown:Well, I was very happy to read your book, because I always love
Unknown:reading my guests books, but this one touched me very much,
Unknown:because it is such a wonderful combination of two modalities
Unknown:that I just find fascinating. Of course, psychotherapy is
Unknown:something I do but the other one is astrology. And the
Unknown:combination of both is something I have to admit I wasn't so
Unknown:aware of until I read your book. So what is actually psycho
Unknown:astrology. This is something that you came up with, or is it
Unknown:something that exists?
Unknown:Well, it's certainly existed. I put the words together and
Unknown:trademarked psycho astrology, because like you're saying, I
Unknown:saw this really unique intersection of where our
Unknown:personal psychology intersects with our natal astrology. And
Unknown:for me that has to do with the placement of Chiron c h I r o n.
Unknown:Specifically, I am trained as a psychotherapist, and astrology
Unknown:has been kind of a newer language for me to familiarize
Unknown:myself with, I see astrology as a symbolic language that can
Unknown:help us understand patterns in our lives, propensities, the
Unknown:gifts we have. And yet it's through our freewill and taking
Unknown:personal responsibility that we can live in to those potentials,
Unknown:or choose others for ourselves. And I found that unique that
Unknown:Chiron in your birth chart will be present in a sign Chiron will
Unknown:be an Aries, Taurus, Libra Scorpio, it's different for
Unknown:everyone. And that leads to a deeper understanding of the area
Unknown:of our lives that we might hide or edit from others. And even
Unknown:from our own awareness, because we tend to judge ourselves, we
Unknown:might have low self esteem and not want others to know that. So
Unknown:we'll compensate in different areas to try to hide that part
Unknown:of ourselves, for example, yet it causes us to feel sometimes
Unknown:even ashamed, or less than, and we know that that sense of
Unknown:unworthiness really can have some negative effects in our
Unknown:lives of it might show up as depression or anxiety or not
Unknown:quite living in the way you most deeply desire. So I'm just going
Unknown:to pause to check in with you. I'm curious what you think about
Unknown:that?
Unknown:Well, one thing that I find surprising about Chiron was in
Unknown:your book, you kind of laid out how to find the placement of
Unknown:your own Chiron and you know, usually in astrology, it's very
Unknown:specific time of your birth, the place of your birth, and but
Unknown:that seemed to be a very wide range of yours, that was
Unknown:basically determine your Chiron placement. So for me it was in
Unknown:Pisces, for example. And it was through a stretch of I think 10
Unknown:years. So that does that mean that really all those people
Unknown:born during this time have the placement in Pisces? Or is there
Unknown:a more specific way to determining where your Chiron
Unknown:is?
Unknown:It's actually both things that you're saying. And Chiron does
Unknown:spend about eight years in a sign. So people in your age
Unknown:range of eight years will all share Chiron in Pisces, which
Unknown:has to do with a core wounding and your sense of the immaterial
Unknown:world that could include spirituality, or a lack thereof.
Unknown:And it manifests in of a pattern of where you'll put other people
Unknown:first, but to an extreme, where you'll feel depleted and often
Unknown:others might not know and you could actually harbor a secret
Unknown:resentment for doing so much for others. And because they don't
Unknown:know that you are over extended for example, you know, they
Unknown:might be surprised that you suddenly are angry about it or
Unknown:you might say something kind of cutting or edgy and others it
Unknown:might push them away when what you desire is more closeness is
Unknown:some more help is some more co creation together. And Mother
Unknown:Teresa is an example she had her Chiron in Pisces and she
Unknown:obviously healed that so deeply to be of service to the world in
Unknown:huge ways. So it's really about learning to put on your oxygen
Unknown:mask first, as they say, in aviation, and then aid and
Unknown:assist others to give from your overflow. And I sense this is
Unknown:something you have most certainly naturally healed in
Unknown:your life. Dr. Friedman, Is that Is that accurate? Well, your
Unknown:work that work in
Unknown:progress, because it's definitely something that I feel
Unknown:that was, you know, something I enjoyed about your book that are
Unknown:very accurate in regards to that what you call core wounds that,
Unknown:you know, we all are dealing with now I call it survival
Unknown:pattern. And I certainly attribute that to my upbringing,
Unknown:which was very much me being the designated to help her and
Unknown:Peacemaker. That's why my name is freedom and man of peace. So
Unknown:that's definitely something that resonated with me. And, and I
Unknown:can very much see how this is something that's also in that
Unknown:specific generation that I grew up in, you know, very
Unknown:predominant where children were often just put into that role
Unknown:having to be those little helpers and little pleasers. And
Unknown:but what I'm wondering is with Chiron, how do you see that as
Unknown:you know, the the Chiron effect is actually something that stars
Unknown:create? Or is it just a map that basically gives us then the idea
Unknown:of okay, you are in that area right now, where this core wound
Unknown:is quite, you know, a parent or predominant what, what is the
Unknown:Chiron effect?
Unknown:Sure. And before I go there, Dr. Friedman, just to let people
Unknown:know that, though, someone eight years of your age range will
Unknown:share the same Chiron placement, as we were discussing Chiron in
Unknown:Pisces, but based upon if you have your time of birth, that
Unknown:will reveal the house, the astrological house that Chiron
Unknown:is in. And that's different for everyone, whether it manifests
Unknown:in the first house versus the third, the first house having to
Unknown:do with self esteem, the third house having to do with
Unknown:siblings, and communication. And so just to delineate that, that
Unknown:if you do have your time of birth, you'll be able to read
Unknown:about that added layer of where Chiron manifests in your life,
Unknown:if it's personally or in your professional life. But even if
Unknown:you don't have your time of birth, knowing what your core
Unknown:wounding or vulnerability is, will help you you'll pretty much
Unknown:know where that manifests intuitively, if Oh, you know,
Unknown:your patterns, which is what the Chiron effect is the Chiron
Unknown:effect is the patterning in our lives, that we can only go as
Unknown:far as our largest limiting belief. And if you think about
Unknown:that, for a minute, it's kind of a unique way to look at things
Unknown:that we can go as far as wide and deep, as we believe is true
Unknown:for ourselves. And that's the people places and things that we
Unknown:habituate that we orbit, I see us all and I talked about in the
Unknown:book, we're like little solar systems, we're planets,
Unknown:habituating, our friends, the places we go to these people,
Unknown:places and things daily, weekly, monthly, yearly. And that
Unknown:becomes, we orbit them, and they orbit us. And for the most, you
Unknown:know, I see a lot of people being mostly happy with their
Unknown:orbit with their little solar system that they've created. But
Unknown:often there's one area of our lives that it's like, wow, if I
Unknown:could only be have more financial success, or if I could
Unknown:have more professional recognition, or I'd really love
Unknown:to be in a relationship romantically that successful or
Unknown:enhance the one that I'm in. And so that's what the Chiron effect
Unknown:speaks to, it speaks to really looking at the thoughts that we
Unknown:have, we have up to 60,000 thoughts per day. And I talked
Unknown:about though, we're not able to identify or capture all of
Unknown:those, we don't need to, it's just a matter of every day if we
Unknown:could capture one or two of our negative and fear based
Unknown:thoughts, and really look at it and say, Hey, I don't want to
Unknown:believe this. I don't want to be limited by my beliefs about
Unknown:myself. I choose to release, for instance, that I'm not good
Unknown:enough for that I can't have what I want. And I replace it
Unknown:with wanting to believe that I can actually live the life of my
Unknown:dreams that I can actually have that financial backing that
Unknown:support that flow and ease in my life. And I give affirmations
Unknown:that you can write and take away like for Chiron in Pisces, their
Unknown:affirmations like I forgive myself. I love myself as I am. I
Unknown:am enough And you can take these and write them down. And I carry
Unknown:an affirmation around every day that says everything is always
Unknown:working out for me. And it's in my wallet. And when I go to pay
Unknown:for something, it's like a nice little surprise. And it's in
Unknown:this way of reprogramming our minds our subconscious mind. In
Unknown:fact, it's our life starts to change, our orbit starts to up
Unknown:be upgraded, our frequency is higher and clearer, and we start
Unknown:to have some new experience some new people come into our lives,
Unknown:does that help illuminate what the Chiron effect is?
Unknown:Yes. And a lot of people that do have a problem with astrology
Unknown:would say, well, am I a victim of my stars? And how do they
Unknown:suppose to influence me? And what is this to do with how I go
Unknown:through life? So just for those people that are, you know,
Unknown:already feeling like, well, this is too, out there for me, how
Unknown:would you ground astrology into their consciousness?
Unknown:Sure, Dr. Friedman, you know, that's why I began with that
Unknown:when we first started our conversation, that astrology is
Unknown:a beautiful symbolic language. And like I had said earlier, it
Unknown:it offers you some potential patterns, some gifts, some
Unknown:propensities that you have in your life. And yet, it's free
Unknown:will, it's taking personal responsibility for ourselves.
Unknown:That's how we change. So astrology is the diagnostic
Unknown:point, to look at where your Chiron falls in your birth
Unknown:chart, and therefore illuminating on a spectrum, what
Unknown:I call core wounding on one end and vulnerability on the other.
Unknown:For some of you, if you've experienced childhood abuse and
Unknown:trauma, this would be a deeper wound of neglect of abandonment,
Unknown:for instance, and for others of you, you might have been
Unknown:naturally healing yourself, because the body heals
Unknown:naturally, just like when we get a cut, you know, immediately,
Unknown:there's healing that starts and we don't have to do much at all,
Unknown:but put a bandaid over it for the body to heal itself. And our
Unknown:psychology is the same, we're really made to heal naturally.
Unknown:And so for you, for others, that might be an area of
Unknown:vulnerability, that you're you have awareness that, you know, I
Unknown:might lack the skills of, for instance, a healthy, romantic
Unknown:relationship. But yet, you've been reading you've been
Unknown:studying, you've been in therapy, to really beef up and
Unknown:strengthen and support yourself and having communication skills
Unknown:and learning to listen more empathetically, for instance, to
Unknown:others and yourself. So you'll find yourself on the spectrum.
Unknown:And I believe in personal responsibility, it's up to us.
Unknown:And I talk about in the book that though the things that have
Unknown:happened to you might not be your fault, especially in the
Unknown:instances of trauma and abuse, it is our responsibility to heal
Unknown:ourselves from what has happened to us by by accident, or by our
Unknown:own doing. And I see that journey really being about
Unknown:forgiveness. And I know Dr. Friedman, I was taught that
Unknown:forgiveness is for others. Yet forgiveness is also for you. And
Unknown:it's really the thoughts you're thinking in your own mind about
Unknown:yourself, to learn to be a supportive coach, to learn to
Unknown:really tune in to what you most deeply need today, and start to
Unknown:show up and give yourself those things. And I'm curious what you
Unknown:think about that being in the healing profession?
Unknown:Well, I feel forgiveness especially is a very important
Unknown:aspect of the healing of self and the healing also, of our
Unknown:relationship with ourself. And, and one of those things that I
Unknown:find so interesting about this whole concept that you
Unknown:introduced, is that for many people, they get stuck in the,
Unknown:in the symptoms, you know, in the symptom of I'm feeling
Unknown:depressed and feeling insecure, or I'm feeling down on myself
Unknown:and I love your cat there in the background walking around.
Unknown:Thank you. She loves being in interviews. Oh yes, alertly my
Unknown:cats do that too. And all that sweet.
Unknown:And you know and so that you with the psycho astrology also
Unknown:help people to really go beyond the symptoms of the emotions
Unknown:because in our society, we are often so focused on Well, I am
Unknown:anxious, that's what I need to focus on. Or I am someone who
Unknown:has struggled with low self esteem. That's what I focus on
Unknown:it. And we are not going to what's actually underneath that,
Unknown:you know, of course, we can always chase the symptoms we can
Unknown:always try to, you know, make ourselves feel a victim of our
Unknown:emotions and we're not seeing them really as just little
Unknown:messenger that tells us hey, there is a core belief there is
Unknown:a core wound. That is really the origin of what you're feeling
Unknown:your feelings are not wrong. similar to ours being a map. I
Unknown:think our feelings need to be seen as maps to So, I feel like
Unknown:you know, being able to forgive ourselves also for how we feel
Unknown:and realize there is nothing wrong with our feelings. It's
Unknown:just something something that, you know, connects you to
Unknown:something deeper, is a part of the journey that I'm teaching my
Unknown:clients and that I have been on as well, because it's, I think
Unknown:it is a way to find back to wholeness, which ultimately what
Unknown:healing is about. But we talked about my, you know, the core
Unknown:wounds of, or the Chiron core wounds of the Pisces, what other
Unknown:examples do you have that, you know, what other signs and core
Unknown:wounds
Unknown:are work with, you know, one that I think is interesting that
Unknown:I've been working with clients recently that have this
Unknown:placement of Chiron in the sign of Gemini. And that speaks to a
Unknown:core wounding slash vulnerability again, on that
Unknown:spectrum, having to do with empathetic attunement. And
Unknown:that's just a fancy way of saying that when you were
Unknown:growing up, there was this Miss attunement to your emotional
Unknown:needs. And it left you feeling like people didn't understand
Unknown:you, that you were often misunderstood. And it's so
Unknown:frustrating to be misunderstood, stood or feel like you're not
Unknown:being heard, I think all of us have had that experience from
Unknown:time to time where someone doesn't get us or we say
Unknown:something, and we believe it to have been quite clear, but
Unknown:someone else hears a completely different, has a different take.
Unknown:And it's it causes a miscommunication, that then you
Unknown:have to clean up and there's some frustration and, and even
Unknown:like, you know, how did you even think that's what I said it
Unknown:wasn't. But for the person with the Chiron in Gemini, it's a
Unknown:really profound and pervading experience of being
Unknown:misunderstood. And this person might have even been bullied,
Unknown:when they were younger, or conversely, they were the ones
Unknown:to do the bullying, they might have been bullied in their
Unknown:family and with their siblings, or bullied their siblings. And
Unknown:so as they're an adult in the world, having this you know,
Unknown:sense of being misunderstood, they might either close down and
Unknown:not really share their emotions at that deep level for fear of,
Unknown:of those things happening again. And so they're feeling kind of
Unknown:depressed and cut off from their authentic selves. And you know,
Unknown:for for just not showing up not being authentic are saying what
Unknown:they truly think or feel. Or conversely, in the shadow of
Unknown:Chiron in Gemini, they they're perceived as being that no at
Unknown:all, kind of person. And again, that's really painful when
Unknown:people think you're a No at all. Because, you know, 10 out of 10
Unknown:times, you really just want to share something of value and
Unknown:importance to listeners, but the way it's coming across again,
Unknown:it's like this not being empathetically attuned to. So to
Unknown:heal that placement, it has to do with, you know, gaining some
Unknown:other communication skills. And first and foremost, identifying
Unknown:what you most deeply need. And it's centered around really
Unknown:being heard, really being seen, you know, being valued for who
Unknown:you are. And it starts by valuing yourself, valuing your
Unknown:own contribution, your own thoughts, your own, what's
Unknown:important to you matters, knowing, you know, at your
Unknown:deepest core value and worth that what you have to say
Unknown:matters. And then progressively, taking a few trusted even one
Unknown:trusted person, and working on this together, and even
Unknown:exercises like you know, saying something and then asking, What
Unknown:did you hear? What did you hear me say? And it's a communication
Unknown:skill, as you know, when couples and relationships sharing some
Unknown:of your deepest needs and then checking in and saying, What did
Unknown:you hear and then mirroring back, if that's accurate or not,
Unknown:and kind of tweaking it till both people are really hearing
Unknown:and empathetically attuning to each other? So I just think
Unknown:that's a really interesting placement to work with.
Unknown:Yeah, that's an I think that's a very common one, I certainly
Unknown:have plenty of examples in my clientele who had been
Unknown:struggling with that and, and I think that that lack of empathy
Unknown:and the lack of empathy with yourself is something also that
Unknown:you know, many of us maybe not even in that placement, but
Unknown:beyond that are struggling with and it's one of your, you know,
Unknown:kind of pillars of healing with forgiveness, this empathy. And I
Unknown:wonder how do you help people to feel more empathetic with
Unknown:himself?
Unknown:Well, I think it starts with the work that we do Dr. Freeman that
Unknown:we empathize to our clients experience. And for you
Unknown:listening or watching it's, it's most simply put as putting
Unknown:yourself in their shoes, suspending your own judgment,
Unknown:suspending your own experience of reality, and really just
Unknown:trying to feel into often I'll just close my eyes, as someone's
Unknown:talking, be it a client or a friend, and just really just Try
Unknown:to imagine, you know, myself, if I was having those thoughts if I
Unknown:was having that experience, okay, I can see how they would
Unknown:feel this way. And it's really a true just temporarily setting
Unknown:aside your own paradigm and beliefs in life, to just feel
Unknown:into this other person's experience, because we all make
Unknown:sense in the context of what we've lived. And when you have
Unknown:that ability to put yourself in someone else's life experience,
Unknown:to understand why they're showing up or not showing up a
Unknown:certain way. That's how you really connect through empathy.
Unknown:It's like a superpower to me, it's not meaning that you're
Unknown:abandoning your belief system or changing your mind. But just for
Unknown:a few moments, you're actually seeing what it feels like to be
Unknown:in this other person's experience. And I know that if
Unknown:we did more of that, our world would be such a kinder plays
Unknown:such a more collaborative place, there would be less competition,
Unknown:there would be more cooperation and understanding. And so I
Unknown:invite you to do that in your life today, be it with your
Unknown:spouse, your partner, your friends, your clients, the
Unknown:person at the grocery store, just to practice some empathetic
Unknown:listening to really listen, and not be thinking of what you're
Unknown:going to say next. And if you're on the spot, you can even say,
Unknown:Hey, I was really deeply listening to you. So I need a
Unknown:moment to gather my thoughts about this, you know, and people
Unknown:will be maybe taken aback at first, but in a really positive
Unknown:way, that you're actually listening, that you're, you're
Unknown:asking questions and care to hear, it can really enhance and
Unknown:expand all of your relationships to practice this.
Unknown:And I think we can probably really learn a lot from just
Unknown:feeling where other people come from, rather than just having
Unknown:our own judgments. But what I wonder is the empathy with our
Unknown:own self, because I think often we are so disconnected from
Unknown:ourselves that we don't even feel our feelings, we don't even
Unknown:have a sense of this is where I came from. Because we are, you
Unknown:know, either in our own judgments with ourselves, or we
Unknown:are believing that we have to be different, or we should be not
Unknown:this or that. So how do you help people to get more empathetic
Unknown:with himself, you know, self compassion, self empathy,
Unknown:whatever you call it.
Unknown:Yeah, and it's the same process is you would with another, but
Unknown:you're just imagining yourself, you're really taking time to
Unknown:slow down. And for some people that actually might be there,
Unknown:they're so in their feelings, that it's like you're blinded by
Unknown:your emotions. And we all know what that feels like. It's like
Unknown:you're so in this experience of I think anger can be like that
Unknown:depression can be like that anxiety can be like that, where
Unknown:you're just so in the experience of it, that you lose
Unknown:objectivity. And it's such a powerful experience that we
Unknown:often want to just shut it down and, and maybe medicate too
Unknown:soon, for instance, before going into asking some questions that
Unknown:my book offers you like, what, what is happening right now for
Unknown:myself? What is triggering this feeling? When have I felt this
Unknown:before? Is this familiar and to slow down your reactivity by
Unknown:tuning in by going deeper, or being curious about this emotion
Unknown:that you're having? Like is if you're curious, like on this
Unknown:journey to understand more, and it's by slowing down and being
Unknown:with that feeling, instead of wanting to eradicate it,
Unknown:suppress it, medicate it, drink it away, drug it away, you know,
Unknown:have seek peak experiences, to kind of take you out of
Unknown:yourself. And while you know, all those things can be enjoyed
Unknown:in moderation. You know, it's really about leaning into first
Unknown:what does this emotion want me to learn? Because it's
Unknown:communication. Like you said earlier, Dr. Friedman, these
Unknown:emotions are trying to get us to notice something within
Unknown:ourselves. And so to take some time there can really illuminate
Unknown:something that is actually going to make you happier and
Unknown:healthier and feel better, if you can, if you can go there
Unknown:with yourself.
Unknown:Yeah, often doing exactly. The softening with ourselves. And I
Unknown:just talked to a client today who was really struggling with
Unknown:anxiety for a long time and in every time she felt anxiety, she
Unknown:basically wanted to run away from herself. I think a lot of
Unknown:people can relate to that feeling of overwhelm and it is
Unknown:too much but when she learned to just soften her gaze and the
Unknown:anxiety and understand more, this is actually where it comes
Unknown:from. This is what triggered it. This is the child inside of me
Unknown:that was obviously in that moment, wanting to please
Unknown:someone and didn't get the response he hoped to get and
Unknown:that created anxiety and fear of abandonment and everything
Unknown:changes and that's why I find like you know, your your
Unknown:placements and your Chiron effects are so helpful because
Unknown:it does really pull To that, what we need to ask what we need
Unknown:to look at in regards to understanding better, why we are
Unknown:feeling and why we are thinking and why we are acting the way we
Unknown:have been acting and so very, very helpful tool for people to
Unknown:have now people can actually do the test, I think on your
Unknown:website to find more specifically, their their
Unknown:placement. So how do they get there? What's your website's?
Unknown:Yes,
Unknown:sure, my website is no law therapy.com and ol@herapy.com.
Unknown:It stands for New Orleans, Los Angeles therapy. That's the two
Unknown:places that I live. And I'm at Nola therapy on Instagram,
Unknown:Facebook and YouTube as well if you want to follow me and reach
Unknown:out and connect there. And it just simply takes having your
Unknown:date of birth and place of birth to find the sign your Chiron is
Unknown:in. And there's in fact a chart in the book to do that. There's
Unknown:also an interactive website at Nola therapy.com. If you click
Unknown:on the button that says order my book, it'll take you to the
Unknown:interactive plugin where you can enter your your birth
Unknown:information, you don't have to buy the book to do that. There's
Unknown:actually a synopsis about the book so you can see if it's for
Unknown:you some links to order as well. But you can find out your Chiron
Unknown:before even buying it. And and you know, see what that's about
Unknown:for you more specifically. But it's been such a good tool, Dr.
Unknown:Friedman, for even in my own life, I've been a therapist over
Unknown:20 years, I've been in therapy almost the same amount of time.
Unknown:And I wrote the book because I felt frustrated with myself. And
Unknown:with the process of like, oh my gosh, do I really have to think
Unknown:about that experience from my childhood again, like, Are you
Unknown:kidding me? Like do I have to keep going back to the story of
Unknown:the problem. And so it was through meditation that I just
Unknown:asked, you know, the universe, Universal Mind, God, Spirit,
Unknown:whatever you call that energy. I just said like, what's next,
Unknown:like what is beyond this. And that's when I started to hear
Unknown:Chiron which I knew loosely was a reference and Carl Jung's work
Unknown:about the collective unconscious. And as I felt pride
Unknown:in led to research more, I saw how Chiron connects to our
Unknown:patterns. When Freud talked about the repetition compulsion,
Unknown:and the object relation is talked about this patterning in
Unknown:our relationships that comes from our childhood template of
Unknown:how we were loved or not loved enough, for example. And I
Unknown:started to see these really profound connections between
Unknown:this Chiron placement and psychology and spirituality. So
Unknown:you know, that's where I got excited, because it's helped me
Unknown:to heal my sense of value and worth, Chiron and Aries, and
Unknown:then really be able to offer this to others that you can do
Unknown:on your own or bring it to your therapist bring it to the person
Unknown:you're working with, to just really hone in on the main area
Unknown:of vulnerability that your patterns have been sourced from.
Unknown:So your pattern is self worth.
Unknown:It's been this sense of value and worth that just I know about
Unknown:that outwardly, I've had successes and things that I
Unknown:really cared about manifest come to fruition, yet, I didn't feel
Unknown:like like I felt on that performance wheel, like I have
Unknown:to do more, you know, it's never enough, like this constant of
Unknown:achievement. And yet, I wouldn't allow myself to just delight in
Unknown:the achievement and be like, oh, like, I'm enough like that, if I
Unknown:never do another thing, it's plenty. And my value and worth
Unknown:doesn't have to come from this constant, you know, performance
Unknown:and achievement and, and offering value that it's okay to
Unknown:just do nothing. And you're still valuable. You know, if
Unknown:you're sitting there watching TV, or, you know, like just
Unknown:being quiet with yourself, and I think a lot of people can relate
Unknown:to that hamster wheel, it's often called of performance and
Unknown:you just get exhausted. And for me, it's been about, you know,
Unknown:feeling loved sourcing love, just from my beingness not my
Unknown:doing Ness.
Unknown:And so your formation that you're using is
Unknown:things like, I'm enough, I'm good enough as I am. That even
Unknown:in the wellness in the trip, personal transformation space
Unknown:and the higher consciousness community, you know, the key to
Unknown:the pursuit of healing of growth of like, oh my gosh, there's
Unknown:always more like these layers to discover. And certainly that's
Unknown:true. Yet on the other hand, to really balance that with a deep
Unknown:sense of I'm okay just as I am. And like pausing like more
Unknown:mindfulness. Mindfulness has been a wonderful practice with
Unknown:meditation in my life to just really be in the moment In The
Unknown:Now, and like, except without judgment, just like this
Unknown:unconditional love and this presence of the moment like that
Unknown:we're having that this is perfect. This is plenty. And
Unknown:like, you know, to really learn to appreciate and just have
Unknown:bring a little more stillness and presence to each day of my
Unknown:life and, you know, appreciate the flowers, the grass, you
Unknown:know, really like noticing your surroundings, even though you
Unknown:might have lived in them for 1520 30 years, kind of fresh
Unknown:eyes, you know, on your environments. And I'm curious
Unknown:what you think about that?
Unknown:Well, I can so much relate to it, because I certainly was an
Unknown:overachiever all my life, based on also some core wounds of not
Unknown:being told I'm good enough or smart enough or, and I think,
Unknown:for me, the value of achievement got replaced by the value of
Unknown:peace, really being at peace. And once I realize it feels
Unknown:actually so much better to be in peace, than always having to
Unknown:next you know, next hoop to jump through or next goal and next
Unknown:mountain top to reach. Mate, a lot of sense to me, at some
Unknown:point, I realized it's not sustainable to have another
Unknown:doctor read another book, another whatever, you just have
Unknown:to really realize, what is it for? What am I really looking
Unknown:for? And so yeah, it's living up to my name peace men, but not
Unknown:for others necessarily only, but also for myself, made a big
Unknown:difference. And so I think, you know, like you said, changing
Unknown:our beliefs, which is also changing our value system,
Unknown:changing our preferences, is really what healing is all
Unknown:about. But one thing I wanted to ask you as a last question,
Unknown:there is also Chiron, obviously affecting the whole planet.
Unknown:Since you know, you talked about these different time periods
Unknown:where Chiron has been present. And what do you feel like is
Unknown:right now or the planet dealing with? What's the global Chiron
Unknown:effect that we are right now in?
Unknown:Oh, that's a good question, Dr. freemen, you know, right now,
Unknown:Chiron is in Aries, and it entered Aries, I think, a year
Unknown:or two ago, I'd have to check that. So it'll be in Chiron will
Unknown:be in Aries for the next, like, say, six years. And so that
Unknown:speaks to a core wounding a vulnerability in the areas of
Unknown:value and worth. And I think we've been seeing that played
Unknown:out. Globally, and I'm just going to say in the way, you
Unknown:know, some that countries don't take care of their own
Unknown:inhabitants, I think we see that with health care, you know,
Unknown:like, not being accessible affordably in the US, I can only
Unknown:speak for, in my experience, but you know, I like and here in the
Unknown:US veterans, the high suicide rate, the homelessness rate of
Unknown:veterans, and there's not adequate services for them so
Unknown:that they have housing and mental health treatment, and
Unknown:such. And here, the schools in urban and rural areas, don't
Unknown:have books, or some of them don't even have plumbing. And
Unknown:it's like this, you know, value and worth of our own people and
Unknown:really needing to strengthen that. And so you can also pull
Unknown:up the birth chart of your relationship of your LLC of your
Unknown:business, and find out the Chiron placement, which has been
Unknown:so interesting. And therefore find out the area of
Unknown:vulnerability of your business, for instance, or in your
Unknown:relationship, it will help you understand whether you choose
Unknown:your first date, or the date you got married, I would check both
Unknown:and see which Chiron placement resonates more for kind of the
Unknown:patterns, the arguments you might have, or the places you
Unknown:both feel frustrated, and there might be an impasse, you often
Unknown:come to, it can help really open that up, so that you have more
Unknown:compassion for each other. And in your business. It might
Unknown:reveal, for instance, that you need to really read contracts
Unknown:more carefully if the Chiron of your business is in Libra, that
Unknown:has to do with professional and personal contracts. So it can be
Unknown:really illuminating to just play and enter dates, you know of
Unknown:your relationship, your business and see what comes up so that
Unknown:you can just have more awareness.
Unknown:Absolutely. And the beauty is even if something is not totally
Unknown:in the moment resonating with you, because you feel like no,
Unknown:that's not my problem. These core wounds are just so in
Unknown:general, affecting most of us that working on them, you will
Unknown:always gain something from it just like the core wound of self
Unknown:or this feeling like you know, you have to be the caretaker of
Unknown:the pleaser or the core wound of anything. These are things that
Unknown:we all somewhere dealing with because it's a part of the human
Unknown:condition. So, don't even think like, oh, I won a Chiron
Unknown:placement, just go through them all, because all of them can
Unknown:really gain for you a greater sense of awareness, a greater
Unknown:sense of empowerment and ultimately make you feel more
Unknown:whole and complete.
Unknown:I appreciate that Dr. Friedman and I've even used my own book
Unknown:when last year I experienced a person that I felt abandoned by
Unknown:them. And I turned to the chapter Chiron in the sign of
Unknown:cancer, core wounding by abandonment, and I was like,
Unknown:What did I say about coping with abandonment? And it really
Unknown:helped me to go through to remember, this is what I can
Unknown:tell myself, this is how I can soothe you know, my inner self,
Unknown:because often it's the self soothing we need when something
Unknown:happens that is unexpected or hurtful or disappointing. So I
Unknown:encourage you to definitely read all of the placements because
Unknown:once you've lived any life, you know, we've all experienced an
Unknown:abandonment of neglect. Not being empathetically attuned to
Unknown:or feeling cut off from community like where's our
Unknown:tribe, Chiron in Aquarius? And so I find it really helpful to
Unknown:pick up what I just need a little boost or refresher like
Unknown:how do I cope with this? So hang that.
Unknown:So people can find your book, I guess, everywhere. It's called
Unknown:the Chiron effect. And they can find you at again Nola
Unknown:therapy.com.
Unknown:That's correct. And you can order it, you know, at the big
Unknown:sellers like like Amazon, Barnes and noble.com. But even in your
Unknown:local bookstore, if you bring them my book, since it's through
Unknown:a publisher, they can order it for you from my publisher, if
Unknown:you'd like to shop local, like here in New Orleans, there's
Unknown:this wonderful blue Cypress bookstore and they carry my book
Unknown:so even if my book isn't being carried you can ask that they
Unknown:carry it which I would appreciate so much as well if
Unknown:you wrote a review because the reviews help you know the work
Unknown:get in front of more people. So I'd really be delighted if
Unknown:people were led to review
Unknown:Well, I certainly appreciated your book very much and I
Unknown:certainly will continue to recommend it to people thank you
Unknown:is a very beautiful well I have so much wisdom and and practical
Unknown:tools which I really appreciate. Well, thank you Lisa so much for
Unknown:being on good real and for bringing in this work that is
Unknown:born I think from you know that beautiful meditation and
Unknown:reaching out to the universe, which is ideal because I think
Unknown:it aligns us with our greater purpose. So happy that you did
Unknown:that.
Unknown:Thank you, Dr. Friedman. This has really been a delight to
Unknown:have time with you and our audience. Thank you.