Welcome to the Elevated Edit Podcast.

I'm your host, Blakely Ramsey, and the goal of this podcast is to discuss all things personal development, wellness, and the art of editing your life in an elevated way.

From mastering morning routines to mastering your mindset, we're going to sift through the noise and empower you to take elevated action.

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Hello, and welcome back to the Elevated Edit Podcast.

I hope you all had a fantastic holiday weekend.

We certainly did.

We ate a lot of food, we watched a lot of holiday movies, and we stayed pretty close to the house.

We did get out and go run a couple of errands, but other than that, we really did not do much.

One thing that we did do was we did a lot of reflecting on the last year, and we also discussed what we want 2025 to look like, not only from a professional perspective, but from a personal perspective as well.

And in that reflection, one thing I realized is that I am finally entering a season.

I will say that I'm entering the season.

I'm not there yet, and it's fairly new, but the season I'm entering is one where I no longer feel stuck.

And you can probably relate to feeling stuck.

It is one of those seasons where life's challenges just seem to keep knocking you down, or you feel like you're not making any progress towards whatever your goal is, and all around, you just feel stagnant.

And feeling stuck can certainly be frustrating because when you're in the middle of it, it feels like it's never going to end.

And one of the things that I think has really helped me overcome this stagnant feeling, this feeling of being stuck, is that I have really worked on my mindset.

And to summarize, where I feel like my mindset has headed is that I have cultivated a growth mindset.

And a growth mindset can shift our perspective in so many ways, and it can put us on a path towards working smarter and not harder towards our goals.

Goals and passions.

And y'all know I'm all about that right now.

I have been, thankfully, in a lot of rooms, in a lot of masterminds.

I've listened to a lot of podcasts, read a ton of books this year, and that is really the.

I wouldn't even say marker for success, but I feel like that's when you know that you're, like, on the right path.

It's not necessarily going to be easy, but you can tell when you're working smarter and not harder.

Things are just aligned.

They are more simple.

I never want to say easy because I.

I don't even like doing things the easy way.

Like, you can ask anybody.

I typically like to do things the most efficient way.

Let's go ahead and do it right the first time.

But when you are aligned with your goals and your passions and you have that growth mindset, you'll find that you are easily working smarter and not harder.

And it just makes everything so much better.

And one of the best things about a growth mindset is that it can shift your perspective in such an impactful way because it changes your focus.

So you are shifting from focusing on perfection, and that can look like a lot of different things.

I have to be perfect before I can start.

I tried and I failed.

You know, I wasn't perfect.

I did the thing and it didn't go well, or somebody made fun of me or whatever the case is.

It shifts your perspective from focusing on that to focusing on progress.

So instead of using the last narrative, we can now flip it to, you know what?

I failed, but I learned these 10 things.

And so the next time I try it, I'll be improved.

Or you know what?

I failed.

But I think they say it takes like a hundred no's to get to a yes.

So, like, I am 99 no's away from my next yes.

And you're literally, you can take the same situation, but if you've got a growth mindset, when you're looking at a situation, it just opens up many doors.

It opens up so many opportunities.

And honestly, it just feels better to live that way.

But in order for us to really understand this, let's define the opposite of a growth mindset.

And that is a fixed mindset.

So a fixed mindset is the belief that your abilities, intelligence, and talents are static traits that cannot be changed or improved.

And people with a fixed mindset often see the world as something that's challenging, something that's really hard.

So they look at their failures as indicators of inherent limitations.

They look at a no as something that's concrete.

Oh, well, they told me no, so I can never have that.

Or I tried once and I failed.

So that means I'm a failure.

You know, it's a very all or nothing mindset.

Um, it is very just exactly how it sounds.

It's a very fixed mindset.

Another phrase that I personally feel like is a fixed mindset is, well, that's just the way it's always been.

Well, that's just how it's always been.

Or I am Bad at X, Y and Z, and I can't change it.

So I feel like I was like that for a long time.

Like, math is an example.

I would just be like, oh, well, I'm just not good with numbers.

I'm just not good at math.

And hear, like, lately I've worked with people and read books and done things, and I'm like, oh, I'm actually not bad at math.

I was just.

I just had that fixed mindset.

You know, I told myself because I hadn't done well on a few tests in high school, that I was quote, unquote, bad at math.

And instead I should have used it as a marker for, well, maybe this is what I need to work on.

Maybe this is what I need to improve next time.

So we've defined fixed mindset.

Let's give a really good definition to a growth mindset, really quick.

And so a growth mindset mindset is the belief that abilities, intelligence, and talents can be developed and improved through effort, learning, and persistence.

So it is completely opposite vocabulary as a fixed mindset, which I love.

But people with a growth mindset are embracing challenges and they are seeing failures as opportunities to learn.

And I think another really important thing when it comes to a growth mindset or people with a growth mindset is that they believe that they can continually grow and evolve.

So they believe people can change.

They believe that they can change, and typically they believe they can change in a fairly short amount of time.

I certainly think that.

I think that I could change anything within, you know, given a year or two.

And I might be a little delusional when I think that.

But, you know, just having that mindset of, like, okay, I maybe don't like this personality trait about myself, or I don't love that I don't know this skill, or I wish I knew more about this, or I wish I was better at this, or I wish I could do whatever it is.

Just having the thought of I can certainly change.

That, I think is really important.

And it opens up your life to so many opportunities.

So just a quick example, I have been scared of paid ads on social media for a long time now.

Like, it just seems really overwhelming to me.

I have always just kind of when I run an ad, I, you know, throw a hundred bucks at it and call it a day.

And I feel like I had just kind of retired into a mindset of like, well, I'm just not good at ads.

And I.

I don't know, I literally had such a fixed mindset about it.

Like, it was Just one of those things where I just.

I wasn't even putting forth any effort to get better at it.

And, you know, through this year, things have come to me.

Things have kind of lined up well.

And I saw an ad.

Hilarious that that's how it turned out.

But I saw an ad on the Elevated Edits Instagram feed.

So it's funny because my personal feed and my.

The podcast feed are so different.

It's almost like the podcast has its own personality.

And it's.

It's.

I love that feed.

Way better.

It's way more inspirational.

But I saw this ad for a summit.

Literally, the only thing the summit is going to cover is paid ads.

And I went back and forth because the ticket's a little pricey, but I was like, you know what?

This is something that I have really, like, kind of had a fear around.

I'm definitely not comfortable with it.

And it's something that could definitely, you know, take my business, take my brand to the next level.

And so I bought the ticket, and so, you know, paid for the ticket, got the email confirmation, all the things.

And I went through the speaker list, and I followed all of the speakers on Instagram.

And I have actually found a new podcast that I love that I've learned so much from just because I bought the ticket for that course or that summit.

And so I really do.

I think that, like, if you've got that growth mindset, you think you can change, you think you can improve, keep your eyes open, opportunities fall in your lap, and then, like, so many things fall into place under that.

And like I said, like, I've learned so much from this podcast that I found.

I haven't even made it to the summit yet.

So I'm really, like, I'm so excited, and I want everyone to experience that growth mindset and think, you know, when problems come up or when issues arise or you run into a situation that you're not good at, or you find something that you fail at, think, how can I grow from this?

And.

Or another way to phrase it is, hey, I tried something and I was really bad at it, but I know I can learn from my mistakes and I can improve next time.

A recent failure I've had is that I hope Jessica listens to this episode.

I can't ride a bike.

And I tried to ride my bike around the palace of Versailles, and I failed, and I cried a little bit.

But you know what?

I was like, what can I learn from my mistakes to improve next time?

And I'll know next time maybe I shouldn't book a bike tour through a really busy city in Europe.

Maybe the next time I try to ride a bike, we try to ride a bike, you know, like, in Smackover somewhere that's a little slower, a little calmer.

We're gonna have to do.

We're trying to work out when we can do the episode on Paris and Barcelona.

But y'all have got to hear the story about the bike situation, because it was funny from my perspective, because Jessica just knew how to handle me when I was, like, embarrassed.

A lot of people don't.

They come on too strong.

And that makes me, like, I get like a caged animal, like, backed into a corner girl did not even look back over her shoulder.

When I fell off that pipe, she was gone.

She was like, she's a girl.

Woman.

Oh, it's such a good memory.

Okay, I'm sorry.

I got sidetracked.

I had to giggle at that memory for a second.

So key characteristics of a growth mindset.

And now that I know what a growth mindset is, I can, like, pinpoint it.

And other people, like, I'm like, oh, wow, they.

They definitely have a growth mindset.

Like, that person is like, growth mindset all the way.

Have so many friends now that I have, like, studied this and I can put a word to it.

They are like, growth mindset, like, 200%.

They are just, like, shooting for the stars all the time, constantly looking at for opportunities.

They don't take no for an answer.

They don't care if they fail.

If they fail, they're already trying again.

So I am fortunate to be surrounded by a lot of people with a growth mindset but key characteristics.

So they focus on abundance and opportunity.

They have the mindset that there is enough to go around, that there is always more.

There is no, like, lack in their vocabulary.

There is just abundance of whatever it is that they are needing.

And there's always opportunity.

They look at challenges as opportunities.

They see failure as feedback, and they really try to always look at the positive in a situation.

Another characteristic is this person believes in constant learning and growth.

We can always change.

We can always improve.

We can always get better.

Whatever it is that we are working towards, this one is huge.

But another characteristic is this person has a high awareness of ego.

So I have read a lot of books about the ego over the last couple of years, and, you know, it all goes back to self sabotage.

But our ego does not want us to fail because our ego wants us to be comfortable and always look like we know what we're doing and just walk around and basically stay in our comfort zone, not try anything ever, not ever look stupid.

And it really holds us back.

So high awareness of ego is huge.

And then the last characteristic is this person remains humble and curious.

And humble kind of goes back to the ego because you do have to be humble to have a growth mindset because you're going to fail a lot, you're going to fail publicly potentially.

People might make fun of you, they might talk about you, and you just kind of have to put your head down and keep going.

And then curiosity, always just kind of questioning things, trying to see what's around the corner.

How can we change this?

What would it look like if we did it this way?

Just always searching for new ideas.

So with all this, y'all know I am all about taking elevated action.

So let's discuss how you can cultivate a growth mindset yourself.

As always, awareness is my first step.

You truly cannot change anything until you are aware of it in the first place.

So with this situation, notice when you're in a stuck mind, when you're stuck in a fixed mindset and don't expect yourself to be perfect, like just aim to be aware of it.

You know, if you, if you hear yourself going like if there's something you really want and you ask for it, like say you want a raise and you meet with your boss and your boss is like, well, you know that whatever they say, not the right time, we don't feel like you deserve it.

Don't take that as just like a complete and final no.

Just say, you know, look at it as an opportunity.

Look at it as something, okay, well, I maybe need to try something different.

I need to create a new system at work.

I need to provide a new, you know, set of values or I might need to find a new job.

And that kind of leads into the next one which is reframing your thoughts to how can I learn from this?

Instead of going from that fixed mindset where when you mess up, you see it as a failure, you see you just like down in yourself, you look at it and say, how can I grow so that I can improve on this next time?

So awareness, reframing your thoughts and then this next one is really important and it's really hard, especially if you've got people in your life that you're very close with, that you love.

But you have to surround yourself with growth minded people.

This has been such a game changer for me this year.

I have built an accountability group and I'll Say that again.

I have built an accountability group.

I had to be very intentional with it.

I had to pay to get in rooms.

I had to pay to get some of these people's time.

I had to invest.

It wasn't, oh, well, I'm just going to sit here and hope that people with a growth mindset come and hang out with me.

Like, I was very intentional.

I was very specific about this.

But having an accountability group that is very honest and that has a growth mindset is so massive, because I think, what is the phrase where you are the.

Like, if you want to see what your life is going to be like in five years, look at the five people that you hang out with the most.

And that's so true.

And look, it's not.

This is a warning.

It is not always easy hanging out with people with a growth mindset because a lot of times they will push you farther than you want to go.

Like, when you hang out with people that have a fixed mindset and you're complaining about your job or the price of groceries, countries, or the economy or the president, those people are going to be like, oh, I know, it's so awful.

Oh, my goodness.

Oh, whoa.

Oh, there's nothing we can do.

Oh, we just have to sit over here and just, oh, poor us.

When you start hanging out with people with a growth mindset, it's like, okay, yeah, economy's not great.

Okay, whatever.

I'm not gonna get political on this podcast.

But they're like, okay, now what can we do about it?

Like, that's cool.

That's an external.

An external situation.

But what are we going to do to move forward?

How are we going to reframe our thoughts?

Use this as an opportunity?

How are we going to grow?

How are we going to learn from this?

And so hanging out with people that have a growth mindset can literally change your life more than almost any other.

Self development, personal development, whatever it is, hack or tactic or habit that you're trying to implement, like, that can be the game changer for you, and it's huge.

And with that, you want to make sure that you are distancing.

Distancing.

Can't speak today.

Distancing yourself from negativity and fixed mindset.

One way that I have really tried to intentionally do this lately is deleting Facebook from my phone.

I can still access it from my computer, but, you know, it's not as fun to get and scroll on your computer.

Um, and I found that I only, like, check it once or twice a week, and I get on there and I'm just like, this is not the vibe.

And I get right back off.

So that one has been huge.

Just kind of staying away from the negativity, staying away from people who constantly want to complain and do nothing about it.

It can really kind of pull you closer to you having your own growth mindset.

And last but not least, express gratitude daily.

What you focus on grows, so focus on the good.

I want to say that again, what we focus on grows, so focus on the good.

If you're constantly focusing on negative problems issues, you're constantly going to have negative problems issues.

But if you focus on abundance and opportunity and joy, that's what you're going to find.

So be thankful for what is right in front of you and you'll get more of it.

I try.

I've tried lately to every day thankful for my husband and our cats and our other animals in our house.

And then I just keep going on and on and on because I definitely want to keep all of the good things in my life and I want more of them.

I do.

I want all the good things.

And remember that small shifts lead to big changes.

So start where you are.

Don't get down on yourself if you aren't perfect at this right away.

Don't get down on yourself if all of a sudden you start paying attention and you realize that you have a fixed mindset about 90% of the things in your life.

Awareness is the first step.

Awareness is the, in my opinion, most important step because you can't fix something that you don't know.

You can't fix something you're not aware of.

And don't be scared.

Don't be scared to, like, look at your mindset and look at how you're looking at things.

It's really important and it can be a total game changer for you.

Hope you got a little something out of this episode.

That's my hope.

If you can walk away from each episode with at least one little tip or tidbit or even just like a tiny spark of inspiration or motivation, then my job here is done.

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