This podcast is for you, the Modern Man. I'm Dr Anne Truong,
Speaker:your host. I'm an intimate health medical doctor and best
Speaker:selling author of the book, Erectile Dysfunction Fix. I'll
Speaker:do a deep dive into sexual health and performance and how
Speaker:it affects men of all ages and backgrounds. So let's get
Speaker:started, and be sure to visit my website at
Speaker:sexualhealthformenpodcast.com for more information and
Speaker:resources from the show. See you on the inside.
Speaker:Hello there, Modern Man. In today's episode, I have Jim
Speaker:Edwards, multiple serial entrepreneur, one of my coach to
Speaker:help me with my marketing and copywriting. And he had so many
Speaker:accomplishments it's hard to even list. But the reason why
Speaker:he's here today is because I've asked him to come and share how
Speaker:an entrepreneur journey is, and if ever, how he maintain his
Speaker:health to the best possible shape he is. I can tell you,
Speaker:seeing him personally, he is in pretty good physical shape. And
Speaker:I'm gonna dig and find out how he does that and leading a busy
Speaker:business as well, and kind of see what the intersection
Speaker:between sexual health and entrepreneurship is at this
Speaker:point, coming from the famous Jim Edwards. Jim, welcome.
Speaker:Well, thank you, Dr Anne. I'm excited to be here. A little
Speaker:nervous about what you might ask me, because I know you'll ask me
Speaker:anything. So I'm excited to be here, and thanks for having me.
Speaker:Okay, so let's dive into this. Jim, how do you keep in such
Speaker:great shape and have a successful business? What's your
Speaker:secret?
Speaker:A few things. One, I go to bed at the same time every night,
Speaker:and I wake up at the same time every morning.
Speaker:What time is that? What time you go to bed?
Speaker:I go to bed at 8:30 and I get up at 10 minutes to 5. Okay, so
Speaker:I'll read non-fiction. I get in the bed at 8:30 I'll read non
Speaker:fiction for about 10 minutes, until my Kindle slaps me in the
Speaker:face, and then it, you know, it's like, "Okay, time to go to
Speaker:sleep." And then I wake up at 4:52 actually. I know that
Speaker:sounds weird, but this 4:52 is what I have my thing set to. I
Speaker:get up, I take my dogs out, I stand in the yard and while
Speaker:they're doing their thing, I visualize my perfect self for
Speaker:about 10 minutes. I literally stand there and visualize not
Speaker:what I'm going to do today, not the stuff that I'm going to
Speaker:accomplish, not my goals for pre five and 10 years down the line.
Speaker:I visualize myself as my perfect self, the person who's capable
Speaker:of handling anything, the person who calmly achieves, the person
Speaker:who works out, the person who maintains control over what he
Speaker:puts in his mouth. Then I go upstairs, I drink black coffee,
Speaker:I sit on the pot, and then I go work out. I try and be in my
Speaker:home gym by six o'clock, and I work out for anywhere from 60 to
Speaker:90 minutes, then I sit in the sauna for 30 minutes. And when
Speaker:I'm sitting in the sauna, I'm usually working on that's like
Speaker:the beginning of my day. So I will think through stuff. I will
Speaker:have conversations with myself about thinking things through. I
Speaker:have special paper that I write on that I get from a place
Speaker:called right in the rain. I found that when I used to sit in
Speaker:hot tub, but then I got, I got a sauna, which I love more than
Speaker:the hot tub. Then I have the thing that I've been thinking on
Speaker:all night while I was asleep, usually that just like pours out
Speaker:of me while I'm sitting in the and they've shown something
Speaker:really cool about the sauna sitting there for a limited time
Speaker:with that raised temperature, for whatever reason, just really
Speaker:engages my brain. And I do some cool thinking. Then I go back to
Speaker:the house, take a shower, take the dogs out again, and then I
Speaker:come over the office, and I try and be in the office by quarter
Speaker:to nine. I don't always make it by quarter to nine, you know, 9,
Speaker:9:15, so somewhere in that 30 minute window, and then I feel
Speaker:pretty ready to take on the day. And then you're talking about
Speaker:health stuff, but the health and the entrepreneurship and the
Speaker:making money and everything it's everybody thinks of it as
Speaker:separate. So you hear of like work life balance. And no, it's
Speaker:all life. There's no such thing as work, life balance. It's just
Speaker:life. How are you living your life? And so I actually don't
Speaker:see a difference between when I'm working out and thinking or
Speaker:I'm running down the road and thinking as when I'm sitting in
Speaker:front of my computer and thinking, you know, sometimes I
Speaker:do my best thinking when I'm doing pull ups. And then I have
Speaker:flip charts set up in my gym. I have flip charts and whiteboards
Speaker:everywhere. And ideas come to me, I'll stop in the middle of
Speaker:working out and outline the entire thing, and then keep
Speaker:working out. And then, as far as, like, what do I eat? I've
Speaker:struggled with the over the years with my weight. I'm in the
Speaker:process of losing 25 pounds. I got six to go. When my dad died
Speaker:last year, and then my mom got sick and a bunch of other stuff.
Speaker:It just I started stress eating, and I just decided that I was
Speaker:gonna, you know, life's not perfect, so when half stuff
Speaker:happens, I just said, "Okay, this is the day I'm gonna do
Speaker:it." I actually started using the Weight Watchers app and just
Speaker:to create that mindfulness of what I was putting in my body.
Speaker:Anyway, I mean just being mindful of what I eat, going to
Speaker:bed on time, getting up on time, having that schedule, taking my
Speaker:vitamins and good stuff like that.
Speaker:Okay, so congratulations, by the way, for working on the weight
Speaker:loss. It is not easy, being an entrepreneur, yeah, it's getting
Speaker:harder getting older, but working and weight loss. Because
Speaker:when you're focusing on your business, the stress level goes
Speaker:up, cortisol hormone goes up, which then increases weight
Speaker:gain, because it really created imbalance in your testosterone
Speaker:hormone, especially for men. But one of the things that you do,
Speaker:what I'm seeing, is that you spend like, three hours in the
Speaker:morning for you. Well, yeah, taking care of yourself from
Speaker:5am, you don't get to the office until 9, so it's really all
Speaker:three hours investment in your health.
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:Is that every day?
Speaker:Monday through Friday, and then on Saturday, I usually sleep in
Speaker:and snuggle up with the wife. And then I my wife, not any
Speaker:wife, and then I try and get in the gym for like, an extended
Speaker:cardio session, or just to make up for something I might have
Speaker:missed during the week by eight o'clock. And then Sunday is like
Speaker:completely nothing. No working out, no work. The only
Speaker:technology would be my XBox. I have one complete full day of
Speaker:rest every week, minimum. Preferably two.
Speaker:Okay, I love that one complete full day. So I really want to
Speaker:dive into what you just said earlier. So essentially, the
Speaker:bottom line is that you spend three hours a day dedicating to
Speaker:your health. Mental health, as well as physical health, and
Speaker:which is not easy. But then you get up at 5am so you create,
Speaker:like a jump start for the day. I love that. And so what you said
Speaker:was that you spend visualization of your perfect self. Can you
Speaker:kind of dive into that, what that means?
Speaker:Sure, so in order to create anything, first, you have to be
Speaker:something. In other words, you can't create value if you're not
Speaker:already a person of value. And so a lot of people visualize
Speaker:their goals, which I do that as well, you know, like cars and
Speaker:money and vacations and shit like that that is very fleeting.
Speaker:If you want to take it back a step, in order to create that
Speaker:stuff, you have to be the person who's capable of creating big
Speaker:things. So instead of visualizing big things
Speaker:exclusively, I visualize myself as capable of anything, and then
Speaker:that creates the momentum and the confidence and the magnetism
Speaker:to attract those bigger things, and that also gives me an
Speaker:opportunity to work on things that I might struggle with, like
Speaker:charging high enough prices or increasing my prices, or
Speaker:patience. Because I know it's hard to believe Dr. Anne, but I
Speaker:can be impatient sometimes. You've never seen that side of
Speaker:me, but just working on patience or understanding or empathy,
Speaker:those kinds of things. A lot of times, I'll choose one thing,
Speaker:and I mean, it would get kind of weird with it. Sometimes I, if
Speaker:there's something I'm doing that I don't like, I will envision it
Speaker:almost like a tumor or like a substance I have to get out of
Speaker:my body, and I will visualize excising that, whatever it is.
Speaker:And if there's something I want to install, there's something I
Speaker:want more of, I will visualize it as like a glowing orb or
Speaker:glowing substance that I literally either install in my
Speaker:heart or install in my head. I know it's out there, but I mean,
Speaker:it works for me. But if you think about you can't accomplish
Speaker:anything if you are not the person who is able to accomplish
Speaker:it. So why wouldn't you visualize being the person who's
Speaker:capable of accomplishing anything before you envision the
Speaker:other stuff? So, it's worked for me
Speaker:But it's like you're focusing on yourself and kind of like your
Speaker:future self or the self that you want to be, but not so much the
Speaker:goals to get there. Is that right?
Speaker:Right. Because I want to focus on who I need to be to
Speaker:accomplish all of the things that I set out for myself,
Speaker:whether it's my to do list for the day or my plan for where I
Speaker:want to be in the next five years. That's the thing that
Speaker:people don't do. They visualize their goal in trying to attract
Speaker:their goal. But if you don't become the person who's capable
Speaker:of manifesting the goal, you're never going to get the thing you
Speaker:want. You're not.
Speaker:I love that. Oh, we have to quote that line. That is one
Speaker:line that we got to quote that line. So to practice that, and
Speaker:it seems like you mastered that, how would you recommend somebody
Speaker:dealing with anxiety?
Speaker:So what is anxiety? Anxiety is fear about something that you're
Speaker:afraid might happen. And so fear is based in either false
Speaker:evidence appearing real. It's fear of something that might
Speaker:happen, or fear that something's going to keep happening. But
Speaker:either way, you've got to become someone or to recognize that you
Speaker:already are someone who is capable of dealing with it if it
Speaker:happens, or is capable of changing the circumstances if
Speaker:it's happening right now. So again, dealing with anxiety,
Speaker:typically, I have found if I'm feeling anxious, it's because
Speaker:there is something that is undone. I have not done it yet,
Speaker:or something I have not learned yet, or something that I am
Speaker:afraid I won't be able to figure out. So I've also reprogram my
Speaker:mind that wherever there is resistance, that's where I need
Speaker:to lean in. That's actually a clue. That this is an area not
Speaker:to run from, but to run to, so that you can solve that shit and
Speaker:get it off your plate. Because most people run away from their
Speaker:problems instead of turning around and punching their
Speaker:problems in the face.
Speaker:Because it's easier. It's easier to do that. So how do you get
Speaker:the courage to do that though? It's easy to say, and the reason
Speaker:why I'm kind of diving into that is that that's a subject that I
Speaker:hear a lot from the men that I work with that are entrepreneurs
Speaker:and executive, is that performance anxiety in the
Speaker:bedroom, but also just anxiety and stress that they're dealing
Speaker:with. That is flowing into their personal life as well.
Speaker:So couple things. One, anxiety also is comes from when your
Speaker:focus is not in the present that you can control, but it's either
Speaker:in the past, where you're worried about something that
Speaker:happened and whether it's going to catch up with your ass. Or
Speaker:you're worried about something that's going on right now that
Speaker:you haven't done anything to address. Or you're worried about
Speaker:something in the future that might happen but might not
Speaker:happen. It's also about getting very present about where you
Speaker:are, what you're doing, and what you can control right now. And I
Speaker:have found, as far as anxiety is concerned, is that if I know
Speaker:that I have done everything I could do today, to the best of
Speaker:my ability, 99 times out of 100, when my head hits the pillow,
Speaker:I'm able to sleep just fine, because I know I did everything
Speaker:I could do and should do today and tomorrow I will do the same.
Speaker:So part of it is just being really present and being very,
Speaker:very purposeful in your action, because that anxiety is coming
Speaker:because you haven't taken an action you should take, or
Speaker:you're worried you won't take action when you should, or
Speaker:you're worried about actions you did take, and it's just worrying
Speaker:about crap, handle it. And you say, you know, it's easy to say
Speaker:and it's hard to do. No, it's not. Stop being a wuss. Too many
Speaker:people are like looking to make excuses or have just you can
Speaker:make excuses, or you can get results. You can take action, or
Speaker:you can sit there and whine about it. And I think that's
Speaker:important to understand, is that it's not easier to say than do.
Speaker:It's actually easier to do than it is to say, even if you're
Speaker:doing in a half assed way, because a half hearted action,
Speaker:at least getting you know, I can say I worked out today if I did
Speaker:a push up. But if I'm out in the gym and I'm dressed for the gym
Speaker:and I do a push up, I might as well do another one and crap.
Speaker:I'm already down here, so let me go until I can't do any more and
Speaker:crap. I've you know, it's just get the momentum going. So I
Speaker:don't think it's easier to say than to do. I think it's stop
Speaker:being a wuss. We got a lot of wussies in this world.
Speaker:I like that, we got a lot of wussies. So how do you manage
Speaker:stress?
Speaker:Part of how I manage stress is that three hours that we talked
Speaker:about. get enough sleep. Don't do dumb stuff. Don't do shit
Speaker:you're ashamed of. Half the reason why people can't get
Speaker:enough sleep is because they're doing stuff that they know
Speaker:either isn't way, or they're only making halfway action, or
Speaker:they're doing weird stuff. If someone were to follow you
Speaker:around with a camera for a week, would you want to publish that
Speaker:documentary or burn the film? You know, are you doing
Speaker:everything you can every single day? I can't answer that. Every
Speaker:day that I do it, I fall down in my sin, but that's the ideal
Speaker:that I strive towards. Plus, if you work out consistently, you
Speaker:eat right, you treat people right. You know what the hell
Speaker:you're trying to do in your life. You've got a purpose. You
Speaker:stand for something, you got morals and all this stuff, and
Speaker:hey, man, I'm a screw up too. The better I get, the more I
Speaker:realize I have to learn. But when you do those things that
Speaker:automatically handles a whole lot of anxiety. But okay, if
Speaker:you're fat, you eat wrong, you're wasting time all day.
Speaker:Cheating on your wife, or you're looking at porn all the time and
Speaker:jacking off, or whatever you're doing, and you're wasting your
Speaker:money, and you're not being a good steward. You have no
Speaker:spiritual connection in your life whatsoever. Yeah, you
Speaker:probably ought to be stressed out, because there's a whole lot
Speaker:of singles signals coming at you that you're not living right.
Speaker:Interesting, interesting. So how do you define confident man?
Speaker:A confident man? A confident man, I believe, is a man that
Speaker:knows that he can be a protector, that he takes care of
Speaker:his family, that he is able to handle things physically. I know
Speaker:that if somebody attacked me, I could give them a run for their
Speaker:money. I mean, I might come up. No, I'm serious, if somebody
Speaker:attacked me, I'd give them a run for their money, and they might
Speaker:kick my ass, but I know that I would, they'd think about it
Speaker:tomorrow. And I know that I could protect my family. I know
Speaker:that I could drag one of my family members from a burning
Speaker:building. I know that I can handle myself in business. I
Speaker:know that I can stand up on stage in front of 5000 people,
Speaker:or stand in front of a room of third graders reading Dr Seuss
Speaker:and be just as impactful on them as I am on the 5000 people that
Speaker:want to learn entrepreneur stuff. So a confident man is a
Speaker:man that's living his purpose, who is the best he can be,
Speaker:physically, mentally, spiritually and financially,
Speaker:doesn't cheat on his wife and takes care of his kids and old
Speaker:people. How's that?
Speaker:Yes, I like that definition. And believe it or not, many men
Speaker:struggle with that and with our society nowadays, it's always
Speaker:been a little blur.
Speaker:No, there's not. No, there's not. I'm gonna push back on
Speaker:that. A tiny bunch of the population hijacked what a man
Speaker:is. A man is a freaking man. And you know what a man is? Okay?
Speaker:Because I can tell you what a man's not. A man is not a guy
Speaker:that acts like a wuss. Okay, yes, you can be sensitive, but a
Speaker:man acts like a man. That's when men feel the most fulfilled.
Speaker:That's when men feel the most impactful, and that's when men
Speaker:have the most positive effect on their families and on society.
Speaker:Is when a man acts like a man, not toxic masculinity. But we
Speaker:know the difference between being a wuss, being a man, and
Speaker:being a toxic asshole. Be a man.
Speaker:I like it how you define that. And so we're both entrepreneur,
Speaker:we both have businesses. How do you prioritize your health. Why
Speaker:is that important for you to do the three hours, five days a
Speaker:week, spending time on your mental health as well as your
Speaker:physical health? Why? Why is that and what prompted you to do
Speaker:that? Because when we wake up in the morning, there are 10,000
Speaker:things to do and so forth, and the first thing you want to
Speaker:compromise is your workout, right? You got a lot of things
Speaker:that you need to do.
Speaker:100%
Speaker:Yeah. So what prompted you, and then I know that you're very
Speaker:regimented. You do it every day. What prompted you to create that
Speaker:dedication routine?
Speaker:Because in my 30s, I was fat as hell. I was 260 pounds. I was in
Speaker:terrible shape. I couldn't walk to the mailbox without getting
Speaker:out of breath. I couldn't make love to my wife. I got out of
Speaker:breath doing that. And I had a doctor, I was diagnosed with a
Speaker:heart condition, and told that I had heart failure. And I said I
Speaker:was not willing to accept and I was making millions of dollars.
Speaker:I was very successful, but I realized that I could be
Speaker:successful and dead, and I also realized that if I'm broken
Speaker:physically, I can't win mentally. Here's the thing, I
Speaker:almost feel like I'm cheating when I work out and when I do
Speaker:this stuff, because it makes me so much more mentally sharp. I
Speaker:can do more in two hours than most people can do in a day. I
Speaker:can do more in a day than most people can do in a week, and I
Speaker:can do more in a week than most people can do in a month, and I
Speaker:can do more in a month than most people can do in a year. I can
Speaker:do more in five years than most people will do in their
Speaker:lifetime. And so it's a very selfish thing that I do when I
Speaker:take care of myself like that in the morning, because I am so
Speaker:primed when I get in here to my office that from 9 to 12, I
Speaker:crush what anybody can do in a whole day. I mean, I'm moving
Speaker:from one to the next to the next, and confidently getting it
Speaker:done. And the other thing I constantly tell myself, though,
Speaker:while I'm doing it, is that don't worry about what's next.
Speaker:Focus on what you're doing right now. Don't look at your watch.
Speaker:Don't look at how long this is or isn't taking. Just focus on
Speaker:this task and doing this. Tasks to the best of your ability, to
Speaker:completeness. The other thing I do, it allows me to do is
Speaker:shorten that gap between moving from one task to the next. A lot
Speaker:of, Oh man, I'm glad that over shoo. I deserve a break.
Speaker:Bullshit. You don't need a break. You take about a five
Speaker:minute reset thing, and then you move on to the next thing,
Speaker:chucklehead. I mean, most people only get about an hour done
Speaker:before lunch and an hour done after lunch with three hours of
Speaker:bullshit on both sides. It's true, so it's very selfish for
Speaker:me to get the race car revved up and be able to run around that
Speaker:track at 200 miles an hour, instead of in the you go going
Speaker:25.
Speaker:And you think the secret of you being so efficient and your
Speaker:relativity is tied on to that three hour that you dedicate to
Speaker:your health.
Speaker:Yeah. Plus, I'll be 58 in November, I can do 20 pull ups
Speaker:in a row without stopping. That's pretty good for a 58 year
Speaker:old man. So it also gives me a lot of confidence and a lot of
Speaker:just pride in myself, not bragging and stuff like that,
Speaker:but just I feel good about who I am, and that lends itself to
Speaker:better performance at work and in the bedrooms.
Speaker:I'm glad to hear that, because that's kind of where we're
Speaker:heading that. So are you satisfied with how you are in
Speaker:the bedroom, and then I assume yes, because if you're
Speaker:physically taking care of yourself, then your bedroom
Speaker:performance will follow.
Speaker:Sure. I mean, here's the thing, though, also. Now my wife is
Speaker:eight years older than me, so she went through menopause, and
Speaker:our relationship has changed over the last 30 some odd years,
Speaker:we went from, you know, bunny rabbits to now, I get as much
Speaker:satisfaction from cuddling and being close as I do the other
Speaker:stuff. I just do. I mean, it's much more intimate in a lot of
Speaker:respects than the other stuff. Plus there's not the cleanup. So
Speaker:I'm not saying we don't, but I'm saying it has changed for me
Speaker:over the years as well. And so I grabbed my wife all the time and
Speaker:cuddle her and kiss her, and tell her I love her. And to me,
Speaker:that level of intimacy is on a consistent, multiple times a day
Speaker:basis, to really hold somebody, look them in the eye, tell them
Speaker:you love them, mean it. And everything, to me, is just as if
Speaker:not more important, because again, attaching the feelings to
Speaker:that and that sort of intimate emotional interaction is
Speaker:something that you can do for the rest of your life,
Speaker:regardless of whether the plumbing breaks down, or whether
Speaker:you're taking the blue pill, the yellow pill, or somebody's
Speaker:pissed off or wants to stay up and watch reruns of Conan. I
Speaker:mean, it doesn't, it's important, but it's physically
Speaker:not as important, if that makes sense. And I'm not blowing it
Speaker:off. I'm just saying that's kind of what I've seen. Everything
Speaker:evolving. I don't have to prove my manhood with my wiener, if
Speaker:that makes sense. You know, I don't get that sense of, you
Speaker:know, I have to feel like a man, because I can go for 17 and a
Speaker:half minutes while she's going, "Jesus, will he ever be done?"
Speaker:That kind of thing, it's just, it's kind of stuff you want to
Speaker:know or not.
Speaker:No, that's you. That's uniquely you. But I do want to circle
Speaker:back we said, when in your 30s, you in poor health. You weigh
Speaker:260 pounds. You even had ED then as well, too, in your 30s. So
Speaker:you make the decision to turn your health around. And what did
Speaker:you observe with your erectile dysfunction. What was the
Speaker:evolution that?
Speaker:Well, I didn't have ED. What I had was, like, I got out of
Speaker:breath. I'm going out and then like like I had to stop. Yeah,
Speaker:there wasn't an ED problem. There was cardio.
Speaker:It's a cardio problem. That's concerning. Yeah, 30s.
Speaker:Yeah, I know. Yeah. I was fat and fat. So what did I do? Yeah,
Speaker:I made a decision that I was gonna get my ass up early in the
Speaker:morning and I was gonna walk. And so I said, Okay, I can get
Speaker:up. I know I can walk. I can walk. So the first morning I
Speaker:walked like 15 minutes, the next morning I walked 30 minutes,
Speaker:then the next morning I walked 30 minutes, but I walked about
Speaker:50% further than I had walked the day before. And so I started
Speaker:walk. I just walked every seven days a week. I was walking in
Speaker:the morning, and I started losing weight, and also started
Speaker:being mindful of my food choices. Then I decided, okay,
Speaker:my weight loss slowed down. And I said, Okay, this is what I'm
Speaker:going to do. You want detail? Here's detail. I saw the Boston
Speaker:Marathon bombing, and I saw a guy wearing a backpack, and on
Speaker:this thing, it said, tough rock. So I looked it up, and I learned
Speaker:about rocking, and I said, Okay, I can wear a backpack, and every
Speaker:pound I lose, I'll put a pound of sand in the backpack. That
Speaker:way I'll be carrying the same weight to keep my weight loss
Speaker:the same. And so I got up to where I had added 35 pounds of
Speaker:the backpack, and I was like, Shit, this is heavy. So I
Speaker:stopped adding more weight to the thing. And then I got
Speaker:involved with a company called Go Rock. I did started doing
Speaker:these challenges and stuff with special forces people, and I
Speaker:just kept increasing what I was doing to be in shape. I ran a
Speaker:half marathon, and then a few years later, I actually did the
Speaker:Boston Marathon with 35 pounds on my back. And so that was kind
Speaker:of a full circle moment with what I had seen on TV. That was
Speaker:the start of my fitness journey. So we did 26.2 miles in eight
Speaker:hours and five minutes with a fat toddler on my back.
Speaker:No, 35 pounds is a lot, but that was the weight that you lost,
Speaker:right?
Speaker:I lost more than 35 pounds. I got down to 190. So I lost 70
Speaker:pounds in about a year.
Speaker:You lost 70 pounds without medication.
Speaker:Oh, yeah, absolutely.
Speaker:Without taking medication. You did it the hard way, and
Speaker:obviously it's sustained until now.
Speaker:I've had three separate events where I got, you know, most
Speaker:recently, I got up to 230 but a lot of it's muscle. I mean, it's
Speaker:a different kind of 230 but it was still there's a lot of fat.
Speaker:I mean, I was like, oh, yeah, I'm just bulking up. No, I was a
Speaker:fat ass, again, to a degree, but I just made the commitment. In
Speaker:the last couple of months, I've lost close to 20 pounds. I've
Speaker:got six more to go.
Speaker:How'd you lose the weight?
Speaker:Moving more and eating less? It's not complicated. I mean,
Speaker:it's moving more and eating less, yeah, and eating smarter.
Speaker:I've learned you use the Weight Watchers, right?
Speaker:Yeah, I use the Weight Watchers app. You just track it up.
Speaker:So it's really going down to the basic. But the hard part is, you
Speaker:know, as an entrepreneur, you don't have a lot of time for
Speaker:that. And I guess you justify by saying.
Speaker:That's not true though, you don't have a lot of time for
Speaker:that. We all have the same 24 hours in the day. Elon Musk has
Speaker:the same 24 hours in the day that you and I have. It's how
Speaker:you choose to invest. And something I started doing a
Speaker:while back, I'm gonna show you this real quick. There's
Speaker:something else I do to be mindful. See, most people are
Speaker:not mindful enough of their time and what they're doing. You see
Speaker:those? Okay.
Speaker:What is is?
Speaker:Those are eight. She's like, "What is it Jim?" Okay, those
Speaker:are eight silver dollars. Even though they're $1 they're each
Speaker:worth about 40 bucks. And I have this stack of them on my desk,
Speaker:and I have a simple piece of paper with a vertical line with
Speaker:a vertical line on it, okay? And in the morning, all eight of
Speaker:these start out on the right side, and I give myself credit
Speaker:for the investment of an hour of my workout and stuff in the
Speaker:morning. So then at the top of each hour, once I show up over
Speaker:here and start working, you know, but I'm It's nine o'clock.
Speaker:It's not 8:30 It's nine o'clock. I have my ass in here. Okay, so
Speaker:at nine o'clock, I pick up one of these, and I ask myself a
Speaker:really simple question, did I wisely invest the last hour in
Speaker:my business? And if the answer is yes, it moves over to the
Speaker:left hand side. If it doesn't, it goes back on the pile. And
Speaker:every hour that I'm sitting here and I'm working at the top of
Speaker:the hour, I ask myself a question, did I wisely invest
Speaker:the last hour of my life? If yes, goes over on the left. It's
Speaker:a real simple little five second thing, but it forces me to
Speaker:evaluate whether I'm wisely investing my time or not. And
Speaker:I'll be honest with you Dr Anne, I never make it through the
Speaker:eight coins. I started doing that, I might sit my ass here
Speaker:for 10 hours, and I have never once made it all the way through
Speaker:all eight coins. Now what does that tell you? Are we investing
Speaker:the time that we all have every day to the best. I don't want to
Speaker:hear that bullshit of you don't have enough time. We all have
Speaker:the same amount of time. It's how are you choosing to invest
Speaker:it and use it. Sorry to correct you on your own podcast. But you
Speaker:want to know how I think.
Speaker:That's right. Well, that's your perspective, and I totally
Speaker:respect that. That's your perspective. We hear that a lot,
Speaker:right? I don't have time. I don't have time for this. It's
Speaker:like, that's why it's so hard to lose weight, because you don't
Speaker:have time for this and that. It's really about prioritizing.
Speaker:I love your point idea.
Speaker:But if your perspective is I don't have time, your
Speaker:perspective is your reality. So if you constantly say, I don't
Speaker:have time, or I can't, guess what, you don't have time, and
Speaker:you can't.
Speaker:So before we end, I want to ask you, so this is one of the most
Speaker:challenging thing for men that we work with in the sexual
Speaker:health, is the performance anxiety. And oftentimes
Speaker:everything works fine, but then they start getting thinking
Speaker:about the what if or what has happened in the past. And
Speaker:oftentimes there's also the perspective that I gotta be rock
Speaker:hard. I gotta be satisfying her and all that. It's almost like a
Speaker:different perspective. And I see that more in actually older men,
Speaker:like in their 60s, which is even more challenge for them to do,
Speaker:because the older you get, it's harder to have a firm erection.
Speaker:In your opinion, how can a man, kind of reframe that to be more
Speaker:productive for him in a sense that he's not caught up in the
Speaker:what if and the past.
Speaker:That, to me, shows that you're focused on yourself. And if you
Speaker:truly are interested in taking care of your partner, then you
Speaker:should be focused on her and what's going to make her feel
Speaker:good? And here's the other thing, and I mean, again,
Speaker:there's this emphasis on your boner, but there's a whole lot
Speaker:of things that I can do to make my wife scream and have sparks
Speaker:shoot out of her butt that have nothing to do with my boner
Speaker:ability, quality, duration or other. And when I focus on her,
Speaker:I'm worried about her pleasure, not my pleasure. And if she's
Speaker:happy, I end up very happy. And so seriously, anxiety comes from
Speaker:not focusing on the present. It comes from focusing somewhere
Speaker:else. And so I would just offer that of your sexual interaction
Speaker:with your wife may, if you're worried about it, fold it in
Speaker:half, jam it in there. It'll probably work. But I mean, other
Speaker:than that, it's not just about the boner, it's about the whole
Speaker:thing. And if you focus on her instead of yourself and your
Speaker:worries about you, then that might get rid of fair share of
Speaker:that performance anxiety. For some people, I am not a medical
Speaker:professional and not qualified to give any type of medical
Speaker:advice. I'm just telling you from my personal experience,
Speaker:anytime I get all into me and my problems and my worries, nothing
Speaker:ever really works out. But when I focus on as an entrepreneur or
Speaker:as a husband or as a dad or as a grandfather, when I focus on
Speaker:adding value to those around me, I never end up on the short end
Speaker:of the stick.
Speaker:I love that. I love that. How you phrase it, and I asked it
Speaker:for everyone that I interviewed, everybody says almost similar,
Speaker:but a little different take, and I love the way how you approach
Speaker:it. So one last advice. What would you advise a man, how to
Speaker:stay feral, how to stay sexy, how to stay connected to his
Speaker:wife? What is your one advice you can give to the man
Speaker:listening to this podcast?
Speaker:If your wife is your best friend, which I believe she
Speaker:should be. If she is the one that you love the most in the
Speaker:world, which I believe she should be, then treat her that
Speaker:way. And if you do that, you'll do fine.
Speaker:And that is how we're gonna end, gentlemen. You have heard it
Speaker:from Jim Edwards, treat your wife like the queen, that she
Speaker:deserved. The love of your life that she deserved, because when
Speaker:you do that, she's happy, you're happy, right? And thank you for
Speaker:sharing that. So thank you for being here, Jim. I'm
Speaker:appreciative you share your wisdom, and I've actually
Speaker:learned something for you. I will copy your silver dollar
Speaker:idea and see how poorly I do, because I'm definitely not gonna
Speaker:get eight in a day, for sure. But it still will be something
Speaker:that it gives me quantitative data on how I'm doing. So thank
Speaker:you for sharing that I'm going to start doing that actually
Speaker:tomorrow. And so having said that, thank you for being here.
Speaker:And Modern Man, we'll see you in the next episode.
Speaker:Okay, Modern Man, you are not alone and you don't have to
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