What do you want for your children? Where do you see their lives going? You

can choose today to change the trajectory of your family. How

are you going to show up now that you know better? It's

quite simple. If you know something's not right, you

don't have to go along with it. Are you going to step up and actually

start taking action over your life? You

have a choice and your children are relying on you

to make the right one. Welcome to Krystal Rowe

Impact, a space dedicated to empowering you

to be the change that your bloodline has been waiting for. Join me

and together, let's inspire change. It's

not to offend anybody, but it's to make

you realize that it's not too late to make a change. And

that statement is, your kids either want to be like

you or nothing like you. Now,

what are you teaching your kids? How

do you behave around them? How

are you showing up and contributing to your child's

life? Are you equipping them, empowering

them to face this world? Do they have

the skills and the knowledge to deal

with the challenges of life? Bullies.

Do they know how to handle their own emotions? Are

you parenting from a place of pain? Do you treat

your kids how your parents treated you? Did you

grow up wanting to be like your parents or nothing like

them? Is that a negative thing or a positive thing? Just

take a moment and reflect on those

questions. Has it made you feel uncomfortable? Well,

guess what? I'm not judging you. I'm simply sharing with

you the questions that I have asked myself. Now,

it wasn't easy to ask myself those

questions, especially about my kids and

what we went through. And I needed to

realize if my parenting was giving life

to them or if I was taking away

from them. Now I've had to learn how

to lead by example. And I started

to lead by example with my healing. That was the first place

that I realized that I needed to make

a priority so that I was able to

parent my children from a place of

choice and not a place of pain. I

needed to change my behaviors, my habits, the

way I thought, the way I acted. And I needed

to learn how to actually speak life into

their lives and to not take that away from

them. I needed to learn how to hold my tongue

and not say shit that they didn't need to hear or even know

about. And a really powerful tool

that I learned actually with my first child was

the five love languages. And it's such

a powerful tool. So if you don't know about the

five languages, you can easily Google it and find it.

I recommend reading the book. It's amazing. And

it has actually changed the way I look at relationships, not only with

other people, but with myself as well. And

so with each of my children, I now

realize that they need certain things

from me. And as a parent, you

always want to give everything to your kids or you give

them the rest of you. We're busy out

in life and at work and we give the best to everybody else.

And unfortunately, we tend to just give

our kids the rest of what we've got left. And

it's not always our best. And what I

am realizing now in my life and my parenting within

my relationships with each of my kids is

that they're all so different and they're all so unique and

that I can't parent from

a place that I used to parent from a few

years ago, even a year ago. And I'm always evolving

and I'm always trying to adapt because my children are growing too.

And I remember thinking to myself, what am

I giving my kids? What am I teaching them? Am I

enough? And in all honesty, it was all about

me. It was all about how I wanted my

children to be or how I wanted people to see my

children or how I wanted them to feel or

think or act or whatever it

was. And when I actually took that and

put it aside and realized that my kids need

things that they need, not that I

need. And so I'm just in the season now

where I'm trying to learn and discover exactly what

it is that they need from me. And I

remember seeing this quote and it went along the

lines that if we don't influence

our children, the world will. And

that means if we are not giving them the tools, if we are

not giving them the strength and the empowerment, the courage, the

bravery that they need to

face this challenging world, this

unpredictable world, if they are not prepared, the

world will hand it to them. And I

don't know about you, but I'm not prepared to let my children

go out into a world that is so unpredictable and

figure it out. It is my duty. It's

my job. And my husband's job,

we're a team, we work together to balance each

other out and to support each other and to bring a

united front and show what a

beautiful relationship is, what a healthy relationship is,

what a strong connection is.

And when our children actually see that, they want to become like

that by default. When

we experience pain and hurt, abuse,

violence, we grow up and we think we

never want to bring that into our lives. We never want

to be like that. Some people, unfortunately, are

so consumed by it that they do conform that

way and project those hurts onto

their families, to their partners, to their children's and to those

around them. But Heritage Impact

is about empowering people to dive

deep into a transformational journey and to be

the change in their bloodline, to break the

generational cycles of trauma transfer, and

to actually be the one that says, this shit ends with me. And

I was the one that had to say that

it ends with me and my children will not experience

domestic violence and they will not see holes in the

walls and they will not hear yelling and

screaming and swear words at each

other, at the parents, because it doesn't give life. It

installs fear. It installs guilt. It

installs shame. And those are all low vibrational

frequencies that actually make us live from a

place of suffering. And when we're suffering, we can't can't

live. We just exist and we're on this hamster wheel

and too many of us know what that hamster wheel is like and

when we are just on there we're not living, we're just

simply existing and I can't allow my

children to live a life of just pure existence. I

want them to be empowered, to go after

whatever they want, to have the courage to

seek and and pursue dreams and

to have loving, healthy relationships. And that

starts within the home. And when we pass on

those tools of clear communication, of

goal setting, of affirmations, of

energy, of empowerment, of

safety, security, stability, When

we are passing those tools down to our children, they

become that because they choose from

what you give them. You're

either showing them how to be a drug addict, an alcoholic, an

abusive partner, or you're showing them how to

show up in the world as a positive influence. What

are you going to choose? You can choose today

to change the trajectory of your family. You can choose

today to say enough is enough and this shit ends with me. It

won't be easy. The good shit never

is. But if you decide, I am

here, I have the tools within Heritage

Impact, to actually guide you through certain

processes, to be able to shift from

where you are now to where you want to be,

to make a conscious choice that you were going

to raise people that are going to go out in the world and

actually make a difference. What

do you want? What

do you want for your children? What do you want for

your children? Where do you see their

lives going? How

are you going to show up now that

you know better? That's

one of my favorite sayings, when you know better, do better. It's

quite simple. If you know something's not

right, you don't have to go along with

it. You have a choice and

your children are relying on you to make

the right one. Actions speak louder than words. So

are you going to step up and start making better choices? Are

you going to step up and actually start taking action

over your life, taking control over your life and

the choices? I saw this statement and

it really hit home for me. And it said that

you can't choose who your children be friends

with, but you can choose the environment that they

choose their friends from. And that's so powerful, but

it's also a reflection on what environment you are

creating at home. Are you creating one

where they can thrive in, where they feel safe in,

where they feel seen and heard? Are

they comfortable? And if not, what can

you do to create that? The power

is within you and I believe in you. So

take courage, strive,

be brave. And if

you are ready to take the leap

into a transformative life, head

over to Heritage Impact and check out the programs that

we have. But remember that the

power is within you, the answers are within you, and

you can be the change that your bloodline has been waiting

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