Welcome to the

Peak Revival Podcast.

My name is Ner Herto.

Today I'm gonna talk about

the real reason you keep

pushing yourself even

though you're exhausted.

I'm gonna share the five

drivers to ambitious women.

So understanding my drivers

was really insightful for

me and it explained so much

and it was a little bit of

a relief because if you are

anything like me where you

keep pushing and everyone

tells you to slow down or that

you should take a break or

why can't you just be happy

with where you're at, etc.

if um, people are saying that

to you, then you must know

that there is a driver that

is pushing you to keep going

and identifying that driver.

Just brings a lot of clarity

for you, takes away a lot

of guilt and makes a lot

of sense, and allows you to

operate within that driver

with a lot more capacity.

When we don't identify our

drivers, when they're not

clear, when they're not

made aware to us, then it

can lead to exhaustion.

It can lead to stress,

anxiety, mental health issues,

poor sleep, mood swings,

brain fog, and so much more,

which all of it undermines

what we're trying to do

and pushes us into burnout.

So first one is a

visionary driver.

This is someone who is driven

by potential to understand

their own potential, but also

to reach self-actualisation.

Now, self-actualisation is

about becoming everything

you are here to become

so it can create meaning

and purpose in your life.

And it was a coin term

by Abraham Maslow and he

said, everyone is striving

for self-actualisation.

And so within your work, you

may find, as I really identify

with this driver, it's one of

my top drivers, is that I love

to just see how far I can go.

Right?

I've done this.

I've been able to create that.

I've been able to have

this, what else can I do?

Right?

So it's a like a curiosity

to see where, how far

my potential can go.

But it's also to become

the best version of myself.

It's also to become, you know,

that person that I was meant

to become in this lifetime.

The second one is

the mission driver.

This is when you are

driven because you have

a big mission in life.

There's an impact that you

want to make or a legacy

that you want to leave.

And so.

Your kind of mantra will be,

I'm here to make a difference.

You know, my work is here

to make a difference.

And you're really

driven by that.

There's a core desire or

a core driver to make a

difference in the world.

And often for women, they're

in leadership roles, right?

They're founders, they're

coaches, they're CEOs.

They're consultants,

they're change makers,

and they're really

connected to this mission.

And again, this is another

one of my top drivers

in the work that I do.

I could be doing any kind

of work in the world.

I could have any kind of

business, but I choose

to have this one because

I love to help people.

I have done work where.

helping and making

a difference wasn't

part of that role.

it was really kind of

soul draining for me.

And so if you have a

mission driver, it is really

important for you to make a

difference in the work that

you do and make an impact.

Driver number three is

the high standards driver.

This is about having

stability control.

It's driven to do things

or everything at a

really high standard.

And so normally women

with this driver are

responsible for many

things like teams, clients,

kids, finances, et cetera.

And they're not driven by ego.

They're driven because

they want to do it.

Really well.

They wanna do a really good

job at everything that they

do, they're often seen as

very reliable, very capable.

A lot seems to land on their

lap and they push themselves

hard to maintain that

image, and so they end up

having a lot on their plate.

The fourth driver is

the success driver.

It's about recognition.

It's about achieving,

it's about I wanna be

the best at what I do.

So whatever field that

you're in, if you feel

yourself striving to really

stand out and be the best,

this is obviously one of

your drivers may be, hidden

to you at the moment.

And so it's not coming from a

place of vanity, it's coming

from a place of deep ambition

to be successful, to achieve.

And women often measure their

success through goals, through

metrics and performance.

And there's a real thrill

of achieving for the

sake of achieving, right?

And so it's like getting,

something accomplished really

fires them up with energy and

they fall in love with their

whole process of achieving.

So it's this real success

and achievement driver.

And number five and the final

driver, and these are kind

of the top drivers, right?

There could be some

subtle drivers in there

as well, and maybe some

things from our past that

have become a driver.

But these are the top five.

The fifth one is the

Redefine a driver.

This is where.

you want to have success,

you wanna have it all, but

on your terms, and this,

there's a rule driver for

freedom and ease and balance.

Okay?

So a woman who wants success,

but not if it costs her

her health,

her happiness, her peace

or her relationships.

And so I really see this

as a true high performer.

Someone who has.

The business, you know, the

finances, the relationship,

um, the wellbeing, the

health, all in check.

Otherwise, I kind of

see it as you're just

a high achiever, right?

You're pushing yourself

really hard and everything

in your life kind of, the

wheels fall off, right?

And that's not really

a high performer.

High performer has all of

those in check, and so.

The redefiner drive, which

is definitely something that

I recognize in myself is

that making sure that health

and wellbeing and family are

up there just as much with

success, kind of they sit

on the same line rather than

losing all the things around

you, including your health

for the sake of success.

So for this one, she's here

to redefine success, right?

That includes both achievement

and wellbeing, and she's

driven to build a life

that feels good, looks good

from the inside and out.

So why does this matter

to know our drivers now

as I've gone through them,

you've probably recognized

quite a few for yourself.

There's definitely

two top ones for me,

and there's a third.

So you mean you could

have bits of from

all of them, right?

But there's definitely one

or two that are sitting

top priority for you that

are driving you day to day.

It is important to know this.

The reason why it matters to

know you're a driver is that

it stops you from fighting

with your own nature.

Now, what I mean by that is

that most high performing

women have been told some

version of, why can't

you just be satisfied

with where you're at?

You need to slow down.

You are already doing so much.

Why are you doing too much?

And so.

When a woman reads about her

driver, particularly if you're

a visionary or you know, have

the mission or impact driven

something inside you clicks

and goes, oh, there's, there's

nothing wrong with me, right?

I'm just wired for more.

And that's just how you

came to this earth, okay?

and I don't think we need

to read more into it than

that, but that's how you're

wired and that's going

to bring you fulfillment

in your life is to keep

following your own nature.

So when you understand your

driver, you can stop resisting

the way that you are, and

you can actually just build

a system that supports you

with your unique wiring.

The other reason it's really

important to understand

your drivers is that

you recognize your own

unique stress triggers.

Each driver has its own

unique stress trigger.

Okay?

And I'm gonna go more into

this in the next episode,

next week, because there

are specific patterns,

and when they're left,

unchecked can lead to.

You know, mental, physical,

and emotional stress.

So visionaries can often

get overstimulated and

it leads to frustration.

Mission-driven women

hit compassion fatigue.

The high standards woman

gets stuck in perfectionism,

which leads to anxiety.

The achievement focus

woman can burn out from

overdrive and overdoing.

And the redefine a driver

struggles with inconsistency.

And so it often leads to

a lot of mental overwhelm

or mental clutter.

So the key thing is to know

what your driver is and

intervene early because there

is a shadow side, which I'm

gonna go into next week, uh,

before it leads to burnout.

Knowing your driver also

leads to your own kind

of personalised path to

recovery and resilience.

So not every woman

needs the same kind

of rest and recovery.

And so if you are a

visionary, then you need

mental space and clarity.

If you're an achiever, you

need strategic recovery

and mental sharpness.

If you are a redefiner,

then you need structure that

feels aligned and doesn't

feel too restrictive.

So understanding your driver

gives you the right type of

restoration so you do feel

renewed and so you're not

resting using other techniques

and still feeling tired.

The fourth reason why

knowing your driver

makes a big difference

is it dissolves the guilt

around wanting more.

Okay.

I hear women say, I

should be just happy.

I should be really happy.

My life is great, and

there's nothing wrong

with wanting more.

Right?

That just means it doesn't

mean that you're ungrateful.

It means that you're

expansive, right?

And bringing awareness to that

means that you can be both a

powerful leader and a present

mother without carrying

guilt for either role.

And lastly, knowing your

driver helps to protect

your mental health, right?

Because a many women attach.

Their worth to their

outcomes, their roles

and responsibilities.

And when that cracks.

So when we have a health

issue or a business

challenge or a financial

challenge, we can feel lost.

We can feel anxious

and even depressed.

so when you understand

your inner driver, it

can root your identity in

your aligned purpose, not

just your performance, not

just your outcomes, not

just your achievements.

So what I would love you to

do now is leave a comment and

let me know what are the top.

One or two drivers that

you recognize for yourself.

And if it was a, this was

a bit of an ah moment for

you as well, like if it

was really nice to hear the

drivers call down and go,

yeah, actually that is me.

And that makes a lot of sense.

In the next episode,

I'm gonna share with you

what is the shadow side

of our drivers, right?

There's always a shadow

side and how we can build

capacity around our drivers.

So obviously our driver

helps us to push us through

this life, but if we are

not aware and we don't.

Build capacity

around it, right?

If we're not upgrading

ourselves each time

we're going through, I

guess a new upgrade in

life and in business,

then we can't hold more.

We reduce our capacity

and we can burn out.

So I'm gonna talk about the

shadow site and how each

driver has its own capacity

building strategy in order to.

Keep you at high performance

without burning out, without,

you know, feeling mentally

and physically exhausted

without having poor sleep

or any of those impacts that

we can feel when we don't

build the capacity around it.

But in the meantime,

limit a comment below

if there is a option to

leave a comment below on.

What are your drivers.