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Kevin Lowe: Three nights in a row, he woke up at exactly 3 a.m., drenched in sweat,
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Kevin Lowe: and he was confused because the dream was so real.
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Kevin Lowe: But in fact, it wasn't just your dream. It was a calling.
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Kevin Lowe: Today's conversation speaks to anybody who's ever felt unqualified,
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Kevin Lowe: Unseen, or unsure of your purpose.
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Kevin Lowe: My guest today, Reginald D., he knows what it's like to carry the weight of
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Kevin Lowe: feeling less than, or like he would never amount to anything.
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Kevin Lowe: But fortunately, he also knows what it feels like to finally understand that
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Kevin Lowe: God had other plans, bigger plans for him than he ever could have realized.
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Kevin Lowe: Today's episode is about you hearing that quiet voice, even when the world is
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Kevin Lowe: loud, reminding you of your true purpose, of your calling.
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Kevin Lowe: So if you could use the story to inspire you, to motivate you,
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Kevin Lowe: to remind you that, my friend, it's not over till it's over,
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Kevin Lowe: then that is today's interview with Reginald D.
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Kevin Lowe: So if you're in a season of waiting, of wondering, of wondering if it's all worth it,
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Kevin Lowe: wondering what lies next for you, well, today's conversation is going to remind
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Kevin Lowe: you that one thing is for certain.
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Kevin Lowe: Nothing from your past disqualifies your future.
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Kevin Lowe: So my friend, let's go ahead and dive into my conversation with Reginald D because
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Kevin Lowe: I promise you today's conversation is going to move you.
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Kevin Lowe: My name is Kevin Lowe, I am your host, and today is episode 406 of Grit,
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Kevin Lowe: Grace, and Inspiration.
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Podcast Intro Theme Song: I got Grit, Grace, & Inspiration on my mind...
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Kevin Lowe: What is going on? And welcome back to Grit, Grace, and Inspiration.
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Kevin Lowe: I'm your host, Kevin Lowe. And today, I have the pleasure of being in the studio
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Kevin Lowe: with a guy who, man, am I excited to get to introduce you to none other than
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Kevin Lowe: the real Reginald D. Reginald, welcome to the podcast.
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Reginald D: Thank you so much, Kevin. Thank you so much for having me, man.
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Kevin Lowe: Oh, man. Well, Reginald, dude, I have been so excited for this ever since we
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Kevin Lowe: met, ever since you had me on your own podcast.
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Kevin Lowe: I've been excited, though, to
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Kevin Lowe: get to explore your own story and where I would love for us to start at.
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Kevin Lowe: And I don't know exactly where it's going to take us, but I know I believe it
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Kevin Lowe: was back a ways back in maybe like 2005.
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Kevin Lowe: You had a series of dreams. Would you mind sharing with me a little bit about
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Kevin Lowe: that story to kick us off?
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Reginald D: Absolutely, Kevin. Absolutely. So, yeah, back in 2005, it was a point in my
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Reginald D: life I was kind of quiet, I guess, kind of trying to find my own way in life.
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Reginald D: And I was kind of to myself.
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Reginald D: All I wanted to do is, you know, go to work, you know, come home,
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Reginald D: go to church, serve in the church and stuff like that.
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Reginald D: It wasn't making a whole bunch of noise and anything like that.
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Reginald D: And I just wanted to seek God and see what his purpose was for my life.
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Reginald D: And I had to get quiet, I felt, to do that.
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Reginald D: So I started having these dreams at night and it came to me three nights straight
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Reginald D: and it woke me up at three o'clock in the morning.
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Reginald D: And the dream was I heard myself speaking, but I saw a church,
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Reginald D: a white church, and then a whole bunch of people outside of the church in this field.
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Reginald D: And I dreamed that three nights straight and it woke me up at three o'clock
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Reginald D: in the morning each night, man, I woke up in sweats.
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Reginald D: It was crazy. So I knew after the third night that God had called me and was calling me.
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Reginald D: And I got up on my knees after that third night and told God, you know, I will go.
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Reginald D: I will go carry your word because I knew that's what he wanted me to do.
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Kevin Lowe: Wow. So at that point, you were already a pastor?
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Reginald D: No, at that point, I was just going to church. I wasn't a pastor or anything like that.
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Reginald D: So after I went and talked to my grandfather, told him about my dreams,
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Reginald D: And then my cousin, he was actually a pastor in the church my grandfather started.
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Reginald D: And we all talked about it. And then I told them that God was calling me to
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Reginald D: ministry. So they actually licensed me to be a minister.
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Kevin Lowe: Okay. Okay. Fascinating. Fascinating. Well, speaking about family,
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Kevin Lowe: let's back up in your story a little bit and give me a kind of an idea.
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Kevin Lowe: Where exactly did you even grow up at? And I mean, I guess the big kind of picture here,
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Kevin Lowe: you know, tying it back together is I'm kind of curious, what led you kind of
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Kevin Lowe: on this path of, you know, wanting to get into ministry?
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Reginald D: Well, the thing about it, I grew up in Greenville, South Carolina.
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Reginald D: I grew up in a very religious family.
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Reginald D: You know, we had pastors and preachers all throughout our family.
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Reginald D: My grandfather passed his own churches and built his own churches.
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Reginald D: My uncles was pastors. And so it was a very religious family, man.
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Reginald D: That's all we did a lot of times was church. And that's all we was pretty much
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Reginald D: that was our foundation.
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Reginald D: But I didn't really, you know, I'll tell you one part of my life.
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Reginald D: I didn't want to be in ministry at all.
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Reginald D: You know, as I got into my younger years in life, I wanted to explore life.
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Reginald D: I didn't want to do the church thing. I wanted to, you know,
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Reginald D: do what you do when you're 21, 22 years old and, you know, trying to go out
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Reginald D: and have fun. that part of life.
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Reginald D: I wasn't really pursuing church like that. And I think one point I had to quit
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Reginald D: going all together because I just didn't want to do it no more.
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Reginald D: I grew up in it. I think I was kind of burnt out in it, but somehow God always,
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Reginald D: you know, he always steered me in the right direction, even when I steer myself
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Reginald D: in the wrong direction. So that's
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Reginald D: how I ended up coming to grips with what my purpose was and who I am.
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Reginald D: And that's how I ended up, he started showing me those dreams and things like
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Reginald D: that and that's how I knew that it was real.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
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Kevin Lowe: Now, when we speak about family and stuff, when you think of being a kid growing
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Kevin Lowe: up, was there any, like, in particular figures in your life who were really,
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Kevin Lowe: like, instrumental in those formative childhood years?
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Reginald D: Well, I'll tell you what. I grew up in a single-parent home.
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Reginald D: My mom's a single parent. She had me and my sister. I shot her wetlock.
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Reginald D: Everybody else, her siblings, there was 11 of them, and everybody else got married and had kids.
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Reginald D: You know, I guess they did. Somebody got pregnant and then his wife got married.
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Reginald D: I don't know how it went down, but at the end of the day, my mom was,
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Reginald D: you know, I was born out of wedlock.
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Reginald D: And it was kind of different coming from a religious family because they had
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Reginald D: this old school mentality when it comes to religion and things like that.
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Reginald D: And if you're born out of wedlock, you wouldn't want to amount to anything.
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Reginald D: And I was told that by some of my mom's siblings basically said that about me
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Reginald D: when I was like, I'm at nine years old. And that was one of the biggest things
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Reginald D: that really, really hurt me.
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Reginald D: And it's one of the biggest challenges in my life. I think, man,
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Reginald D: I'm 53 years old. I think that was the biggest thing I had to really mentally overcome.
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Reginald D: You got to look at it this way. We're already poor, man. We don't have any money.
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Reginald D: We're already struggling. If you want any support, you will want it from your family, you know?
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Reginald D: And it just seems like I wasn't getting it from them. What was instrumental
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Reginald D: in my life was my grandfather. I used to go down to his house in the summertime
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Reginald D: when I was out of school and stay with him, him and my grandmother.
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Reginald D: And, you know, he built a convenience store with a meat market and a rep next
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Reginald D: door to the house. And then the church was the next door to the convenience store.
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Reginald D: And I used to watch them run the business. I used to go in and help out and things like that.
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Reginald D: And that's how I really learned how to do business, actually.
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Reginald D: And he was very instrumental in my life by showing me, first of all,
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Reginald D: love. Then he showed me leadership.
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Reginald D: And then he showed me how to actually be a man.
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Reginald D: And he would not let anyone make me feel like I was less than because I was born out of wedlock.
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Reginald D: I remember one incident. We was at their house at a family barbecue.
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Reginald D: My cousins and their moms and, you know, my mom said, they packed up in the
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Reginald D: car. I was like, hey, we're going to run to the mall, but we'll be right back.
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Reginald D: So all the kids were piled up in the car.
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Reginald D: So I just headed to the car, thinking it was all right for me to jump in since
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Reginald D: we was coming right back anyway.
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Reginald D: And one of my aunts looked at me and said, where do you think you're going?
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Reginald D: And I was like, I'm going with you all. And she's like, no, you're not.
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Reginald D: And they left me out of the yard, man, by myself, just standing there,
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Reginald D: you know. And my grandfather got...
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Reginald D: He was furious about it, and he kind of gave a piece of his mind of what he felt.
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Reginald D: And then my mom was pretty much saying, you know, telling my grandfather,
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Reginald D: she was like, Dad, don't even worry about it. Don't worry about it.
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Reginald D: And I remember him pulling up this money out of his pocket, this water money.
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Reginald D: He gave it to my mom and said, hey, take this boy to the mall and get him anything you want.
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Reginald D: So now I'm at the mall passing my cousins that I should have been with going
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Reginald D: there with bags of stuff in my hand.
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Reginald D: It was crazy, man. And I'm still saying, even though I'm getting all the stuff
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Reginald D: I want or, you know, my grandfather gave my mom the money, you know,
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Reginald D: I'm still saying, man, it shouldn't be like this.
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Reginald D: You know, it shouldn't be like this. So it really put me in a different headspace growing up.
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Reginald D: And I had to really thank my grandfather for mentoring me and keeping me level
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Reginald D: headed, because I think when things like that happens to young people,
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Reginald D: period, kids, that's your foundation.
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Reginald D: It can do it can do something to you. You can end it up derailing your life
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Reginald D: because you got all this animosity.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Now, I have to ask, just because I've never heard of it before,
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Kevin Lowe: back then when you were growing up, this whole thing about viewing children
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Kevin Lowe: born out of wedlock is kind of something less.
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Kevin Lowe: Was this typical in that area where you grew up at? I've never heard of that before.
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Reginald D: I would say it just depends. I'll say it's regular.
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Reginald D: You know with a lot of southern religion congregations
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Reginald D: and things like that it's kind of the teaching is tougher
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Reginald D: i think and i think a lot of it has been misinterpreted and
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Reginald D: things like that well i know it is and that's how they used to just view it
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Reginald D: back when i came from some people just say hey you're born out of wet law you're
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Reginald D: not gonna not gonna amount to anything now i did not know that until it was
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Reginald D: told to me when it was told to me i thought i was the first one i ever heard or something like that.
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Reginald D: And then as I, you know, we know when something hits you and something damages
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Reginald D: you or hurts you, you can feel that pain around you.
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Reginald D: So then I started hearing things from different people or not even my own family
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Reginald D: talking about not, you know, being born out of wedlock and not being worthy and things like that.
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Kevin Lowe: OK, OK, understandable. Wow. Wow.
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Kevin Lowe: Well, there's another story from your childhood, and I'm going to assume it
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Kevin Lowe: was probably a little bit later on than the story you just shared with us.
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Kevin Lowe: But a lot of us as teenagers, we get jobs, a lot of times first jobs instead of drive-thru.
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Kevin Lowe: But you have a really powerful story that I believe helps to really illustrate
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Kevin Lowe: the kind of person that you have always been.
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Kevin Lowe: Would you tell the story of how you got a job at the Burger King and why that even came about?
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Reginald D: Absolutely, Kevin. Absolutely.
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Reginald D: So, like I said, I grew up in a single parent house, just me and my old sister.
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Reginald D: One day, my mom came home from work, and she cooked dinner, and she fixed our
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Reginald D: plates and put the plates on the table, and we came to eat.
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Reginald D: And I noticed there's only like two pieces of chicken there.
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Reginald D: And I was like, you know, I was going to forfeit mine if that's what I had to do.
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Reginald D: And I asked her mom, I said, Mom, you're not going to eat? She said,
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Reginald D: No, I just cooked enough for you and your sister.
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Reginald D: She said uh i'm not hungry i ate a
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Reginald D: had a big lunch today which i knew it
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Reginald D: was a lie we just didn't have enough food and i'm
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Reginald D: sitting here struggling with this thing because you know here
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Reginald D: i have two women you know my sister was younger than me but she's still a young
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Reginald D: lady in the house and we struggling to eat man that's that was kind of crazy
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Reginald D: to me and i i remember you know saying to myself and i was laying in my bed
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Reginald D: and i was like man that's not fair you know it's not fair and i contemplated
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Reginald D: doing all kinds of stuff, man.
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Reginald D: I said, man, maybe I need to get out here in the streets like you see people
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Reginald D: do and you may need to sell drugs.
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Reginald D: I don't know what to do, man, but we can't live like this.
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Reginald D: That's just the way I was feeling about it. But I'm glad I didn't go down that
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Reginald D: road because God gives us common sense.
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Reginald D: He gives us the ability to create what we need for our lives without doing it the wrong way.
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Reginald D: So we ended up going to Burger King one day and we really didn't get Burger
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Reginald D: King, you know, probably every four or five months.
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Reginald D: That's like our treat, like on a Friday night when mom would get a little extra cash from something.
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Reginald D: So we go to Burger King and we're standing in line and I saw the manager was
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Reginald D: talking to my mom and I kind of picked up and he had the hots for my mom, right?
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Reginald D: So I went, I looked at him. I said, hey man, I said, I need a job.
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Reginald D: And my mom spoke up and she said, no, you can't, you can't work.
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Reginald D: You're in school. You're not, but 13 years old.
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Reginald D: I said, Ma, I said, I need a job. She said, you're not old enough to work.
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Reginald D: And the manager spoke up and said, yeah, he can if you sign a waiver.
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Reginald D: And I was like, OK, all right. And then so I pulled my mom out of line.
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Reginald D: I said, Mom, I said, listen, I said the other day, the other night I seen you came home hungry.
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Reginald D: We didn't have enough food. You went to bed hungry. You working three jobs,
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Reginald D: playing for seven choirs in the church and going to college.
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Reginald D: And you still went to bed hungry.
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Reginald D: I said, I'm not going to let that happen. I said, if you say it,
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Reginald D: I need you to sign this waiver so that won't happen again.
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Reginald D: She signed it with agreement that I kept my school grades up and things like that, which I did, man.
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Reginald D: And then after that, I was the fry king, man. I was the guy on the french fries.
00:14:20.971 --> 00:14:26.611
Reginald D: That was me. But yeah, man. And then when I got paid, that chick came to the house.
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Reginald D: It didn't go in my pocket. Came straight to the house. My mom put food on the
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Reginald D: table and do whatever she had to do with it.
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Kevin Lowe: Wow. I love that story so much.
00:14:37.011 --> 00:14:44.831
Kevin Lowe: For so many different reasons. But I think the biggest reason is it just shows,
00:14:45.351 --> 00:14:47.731
Kevin Lowe: even as a 13-year-old boy,
00:14:48.591 --> 00:14:53.771
Kevin Lowe: the kind of heart and the kind of love that you had even at such a young age.
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Kevin Lowe: I think it's just a powerful story that even as adults, we could all learn from
00:15:00.511 --> 00:15:07.531
Kevin Lowe: that one little story in amongst your whole life story. I think is just, it's so powerful.
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Kevin Lowe: And thank you so much for sharing it.
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Reginald D: Absolutely. Absolutely.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. So continuing on, when you're in school and we always kind of reach that
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Kevin Lowe: pivotal age of graduating and stuff, what direction at that point were you headed in life?
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Reginald D: Well, when I was in school, it was kind of weird because when I was 13 years
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Reginald D: old, then I then I go into high school and things didn't really change that
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Reginald D: much. I mean, mom did work hard.
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Reginald D: She did get home ownership in my ninth grade year, but she bought the house
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Reginald D: and then had to get a new car because the car was messed up and things like that.
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Reginald D: So things still, it was better, but I still had to help out because she still
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Reginald D: had the responsibilities.
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Reginald D: And one thing I didn't want to happen in high school because I went through
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Reginald D: a state in school where I was bullied it for being poor.
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Reginald D: I felt a kid came up to me and just out of the blue, man, it just spit on me,
00:16:13.634 --> 00:16:18.354
Reginald D: spit in my face, called me poor, and then scuffed up these shoes because we
00:16:18.354 --> 00:16:20.054
Reginald D: was outside and it was kind of muddy.
00:16:20.174 --> 00:16:23.354
Reginald D: He took the bottom of his shoe and stepped on these sneakers.
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Reginald D: My mom paid, I think she paid like 10 bucks for these things,
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Reginald D: man. It wasn't even like we wear now.
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Reginald D: It's the cheapest of the cheapest, and he scuffed these shoes up,
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Reginald D: which I'm like, dude, you know, my mom worked so hard for that.
00:16:35.454 --> 00:16:41.774
Reginald D: So needless to say, that outcome didn't come out too good, but not the real.
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Reginald D: It is what it is, man. You know, I wasn't upset about the situation that he spent in my face.
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Reginald D: You know, I was upset more that he scuffed up these shoes and my mom working
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Reginald D: so hard to provide for us, you know.
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Reginald D: But then, you know, when I got to to high school, I got to high school and I
00:16:58.991 --> 00:17:04.691
Reginald D: was I had a way of I worked it so good, you know,
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Reginald D: that I was working three jobs in high school and going to high school.
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Kevin Lowe: Wow.
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Reginald D: And I was doing that because I was like, hey, you know, you get into high school.
00:17:16.531 --> 00:17:18.691
Reginald D: People are going to be looking at you poorly. They're going to be looking all
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Reginald D: kind of ways and things like that. And then I had my sister coming up right
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Reginald D: behind me, coming to high school. And I didn't want her to come looking less than.
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Reginald D: And you know how kids get, you know, the older you get, the worse it gets.
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Reginald D: So I was able to buy the name brand shoes. I was able to buy the stuff that,
00:17:33.131 --> 00:17:35.471
Reginald D: you know, that mom couldn't get us, you know.
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Reginald D: And I was still happy paying bills, you know, in the house.
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Reginald D: So I just took it as if, you know, it was my that was my assignment.
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Reginald D: And a lot of people I've been asked this question.
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Reginald D: And just like, man, how did you feel as a kid growing up knowing you had to
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Reginald D: do all that stuff? What about your childhood?
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Reginald D: And I'm like, oh, what about being a child? I said, I was still a child,
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Reginald D: but I was just, it was just my moment.
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Reginald D: And it's just what I had to do. This was the hand I was dealt at the end of the day.
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Reginald D: And I accepted it. And I tell anybody, you know, sometimes situations are situations, man.
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Reginald D: And you got to accept it and understand that you're in it in order to overcome it.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Now, growing up, just kind of rounding out this
00:18:20.451 --> 00:18:26.231
Kevin Lowe: bit of my childhood, growing up, did you guys live close to all of your relatives?
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Reginald D: Yeah, yeah. We lived fairly close in the same city.
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Kevin Lowe: Okay, okay. Awesome, awesome. So now, as family and stuff, we were talking about
00:18:36.731 --> 00:18:40.171
Kevin Lowe: when you were a child and kind of being this outcast.
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Kevin Lowe: Did that ever change as you got older? Yeah.
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Reginald D: Yes, it did. I'll be honest with you.
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Reginald D: Yeah, it changed. It did change. It's changed a lot, I think.
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Reginald D: I think it's because of the accomplishments that they're seen through me.
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Kevin Lowe: Yes.
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Reginald D: You know, respect is there. Absolutely. It's there. Yes.
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Reginald D: You know, but I mean, but I packed up, man, I worked, I lived in probably located
00:19:07.307 --> 00:19:13.047
Reginald D: five different times in 10 years, you know, chasing opportunities and things like that.
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Reginald D: So it hadn't been easy, but but it paid off.
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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Yeah. Amazing. So I guess in this story that you have,
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Kevin Lowe: what was kind of maybe some series of events or that turning point that ultimately
00:19:30.227 --> 00:19:34.247
Kevin Lowe: kind of got you on this direction that you've been on in life?
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Reginald D: I think it's a number of things. I think it's from the childhood and all the
00:19:38.907 --> 00:19:42.087
Reginald D: experiences that I went through in childhood, because you got to understand
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Reginald D: now, I talked about being born out of wedlock.
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Reginald D: So I had to go through that whole thing in my life without my dad in my life,
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Reginald D: which I knew my dad existed.
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Reginald D: My dad was a police officer in the city, but wasn't a part of my life.
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Reginald D: It was my grandfather who really changed me.
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Reginald D: But I had to really do something about that because I carried that animosity a lot.
00:20:06.447 --> 00:20:09.507
Reginald D: You know, my dad not being there because the crazy part about it,
00:20:09.787 --> 00:20:14.647
Reginald D: him and my mom reunited when I was like 30 years old and I'm 53 now.
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Reginald D: And they got married. So they've been married over 20-something years.
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Kevin Lowe: Oh, wow.
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Reginald D: Yeah. And it was one of those things after they got married,
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Reginald D: I'll be honest with you, I still couldn't kind of let this thing go that,
00:20:25.727 --> 00:20:28.527
Reginald D: you know, he wasn't in my life, you know, after a while.
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Reginald D: But, you know, but then I ended up thinking about a few things and thinking
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Reginald D: about you know, certain things.
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Reginald D: And usually I just I mean, God just steps in and you got to let things go,
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Reginald D: man, at the end of the day.
00:20:42.307 --> 00:20:45.067
Reginald D: You know, you got to let things go. And then you got to understand things happen
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Reginald D: for a reason. And I remember a message that was preached at churches on Father's Day, actually.
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Reginald D: And the pastor got up and he said, do not be upset if your father is not in your life.
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Reginald D: He said, there's a reason God didn't allow him to be in your life.
00:21:04.107 --> 00:21:09.487
Reginald D: He said, that's why the person that's in your life is in your life right now and is mentoring you.
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Reginald D: So that stood out. He said, because he did
00:21:12.927 --> 00:21:15.787
Reginald D: say this he said because the reason god probably didn't allow
00:21:15.787 --> 00:21:18.667
Reginald D: your dad in your life when you were young because he would have did more
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Reginald D: damage than good oh wow so that showed me that's the reason my grandfather had
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Reginald D: you know have me in his life and that's how i grew into who i am because of
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Reginald D: him you know then my dad comes later on but by the time he gets there 30 years
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Reginald D: old i'm already built you know what i'm saying.
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Kevin Lowe: Wow. Wow. Okay. Okay. Now, I guess, so where does it go from there?
00:21:44.144 --> 00:21:51.244
Kevin Lowe: Where does becoming a pastor, getting into just, you know, really getting back into the church?
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Kevin Lowe: We talked earlier about, you know, there was a season of your life where you
00:21:55.104 --> 00:21:58.644
Kevin Lowe: kind of got burned down a little bit and you stepped away from the church.
00:21:58.804 --> 00:22:03.784
Kevin Lowe: How do you rebound that to get back doing what you're doing,
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Kevin Lowe: you know, involved with the church, all of that?
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Reginald D: Well, I think it's a series of things that happen, you know,
00:22:10.924 --> 00:22:17.144
Reginald D: because when I was licensed to be a minister, a lot of people came to me and
00:22:17.144 --> 00:22:20.004
Reginald D: were saying, hey, you want to be a pastor one day.
00:22:20.764 --> 00:22:24.944
Reginald D: Right. And I think they're looking at it. I knew they was looking at it.
00:22:25.144 --> 00:22:28.424
Reginald D: They're looking at my family and all these pastors I got.
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Reginald D: And I think they think this is one thing that's on our lives that every last
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Reginald D: one I was supposed to be a pastor. Right.
00:22:33.984 --> 00:22:34.164
Kevin Lowe: Yeah.
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Reginald D: And they act like, you know, pastoring is the ultimate call when it comes to
00:22:38.464 --> 00:22:39.664
Reginald D: God, but it's really not.
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Reginald D: It's what you call to do is the ultimate call to God, whatever he calls you
00:22:45.664 --> 00:22:46.524
Reginald D: to do. It could be anything.
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Reginald D: So I began to minister and started ministering in different locations,
00:22:53.204 --> 00:22:54.824
Reginald D: got different speaking engagements.
00:22:55.344 --> 00:22:59.504
Reginald D: And I went to one church and I spoke there.
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Reginald D: Then I got a call on this day from the board. And it was like,
00:23:02.864 --> 00:23:06.204
Reginald D: we're looking for a pastor. Would you think about being our pastor?
00:23:06.644 --> 00:23:08.484
Reginald D: And I was like, yeah, I would.
00:23:09.244 --> 00:23:12.024
Reginald D: So the guy said, well, let me call you back. And then he said,
00:23:12.104 --> 00:23:14.884
Reginald D: let me work some stuff out. So he did whatever he needed to do.
00:23:15.484 --> 00:23:19.244
Reginald D: Then he called me back and he said, yeah, they on board with you being the pastor,
00:23:19.364 --> 00:23:20.364
Reginald D: but they got one question.
00:23:20.944 --> 00:23:24.064
Reginald D: And I was like, what's that? He said, are you married? I said,
00:23:24.164 --> 00:23:26.984
Reginald D: no, I'm not married. He said, well, you can't be our pastor.
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Reginald D: Yeah so that's another religious mindset kind of stuff of you know one of those things,
00:23:35.064 --> 00:23:38.044
Reginald D: and uh it happened to me again at another church they asked
00:23:38.044 --> 00:23:41.324
Reginald D: me to be their pastor they found out i wasn't married they said no you can't
00:23:41.324 --> 00:23:48.124
Reginald D: you can't be our pastor now at this point i'm like okay god you know i'm being
00:23:48.124 --> 00:23:53.984
Reginald D: obedient to what you want me to do but what was playing back in my mind at nine
00:23:53.984 --> 00:23:56.804
Reginald D: years old saying you weren't going to be a mouth or nothing,
00:23:57.084 --> 00:23:59.924
Reginald D: you know, basically you ain't good enough, you know, and that's what I'm thinking,
00:24:00.244 --> 00:24:03.324
Reginald D: you know, am I just not good enough, you know, because whatever,
00:24:03.564 --> 00:24:07.124
Reginald D: maybe this born out of wet law thing is really some kind of curse on me.
00:24:07.304 --> 00:24:09.984
Reginald D: You know, I don't know, you know, I don't know why the door's being shut in
00:24:09.984 --> 00:24:13.584
Reginald D: my face when I'm trying to walk into what he has for me.
00:24:14.164 --> 00:24:17.504
Reginald D: So I'm going to tell you how amazing God is. He's going to end up showing you
00:24:17.504 --> 00:24:22.164
Reginald D: one day when you start down yourself, he'll show you. So I got another call
00:24:22.164 --> 00:24:27.744
Reginald D: to go speak at this church after I was fed up and I went to speak.
00:24:29.084 --> 00:24:33.204
Reginald D: And that night when I went home about 10 o'clock that night,
00:24:33.584 --> 00:24:37.644
Reginald D: that pastor called me and I don't even, you know, this is my first time ever at this church.
00:24:39.075 --> 00:24:46.915
Reginald D: Pastor called, and he said that his congregation received me so well that he
00:24:46.915 --> 00:24:48.855
Reginald D: was willing to step down and give me his church.
00:24:51.295 --> 00:24:51.735
Kevin Lowe: Wow.
00:24:52.395 --> 00:24:55.555
Reginald D: So that was confirmation right there. God was like, yo, see,
00:24:55.735 --> 00:24:57.495
Reginald D: I'm telling you, you're better than good.
00:24:58.175 --> 00:25:02.715
Reginald D: You're good enough for this thing. I didn't accept it because I was just like,
00:25:02.815 --> 00:25:05.855
Reginald D: no, I'm just burnt out with it and things like that. But God was just trying
00:25:05.855 --> 00:25:10.275
Reginald D: to show me that when I thought that I wasn't good enough, he was like,
00:25:10.375 --> 00:25:12.815
Reginald D: yo, see, I told you, you are you good enough.
00:25:13.675 --> 00:25:17.135
Reginald D: The man want to get his whole church. So he said he probably didn't talk to
00:25:17.135 --> 00:25:18.295
Reginald D: the congregation about it. Yeah.
00:25:18.735 --> 00:25:19.095
Kevin Lowe: Wow.
00:25:20.215 --> 00:25:23.955
Reginald D: Yeah, that was one of the things. So what I did, I just started assisting my
00:25:23.955 --> 00:25:26.675
Reginald D: home church and I was over the outreach ministry in my home church.
00:25:26.695 --> 00:25:28.615
Reginald D: And we did a lot of outreach work, man.
00:25:29.055 --> 00:25:35.835
Reginald D: It was amazing to me how effective we were. in the community.
00:25:36.395 --> 00:25:40.695
Reginald D: And we just started going, you know, downtown into the streets and started talking
00:25:40.695 --> 00:25:41.715
Reginald D: to people, ministering to people.
00:25:41.935 --> 00:25:45.875
Reginald D: We wasn't pushing God and religion on people. We were just hanging out.
00:25:46.095 --> 00:25:49.455
Reginald D: You know, we just, we just, these church guys, man, we just hanging out.
00:25:49.555 --> 00:25:51.775
Reginald D: We eating hot dogs, we eating hamburgers with everybody.
00:25:51.995 --> 00:25:54.635
Reginald D: We don't want nothing. You know what I'm saying? We just want to hang out.
00:25:55.495 --> 00:25:59.955
Reginald D: So we started doing that and I ended up, a couple of guys came to church with me one Sunday.
00:26:00.315 --> 00:26:03.835
Reginald D: I picked them up in an old 89 Buick Park Avenue.
00:26:04.855 --> 00:26:07.575
Reginald D: It's like two of them. I'm like, I already know this thing going to make it
00:26:07.575 --> 00:26:08.755
Reginald D: to church. And now we're going to try.
00:26:09.455 --> 00:26:15.035
Reginald D: But we ended up hitting the streets, man.
00:26:15.195 --> 00:26:24.735
Reginald D: And I think within a month, we had this, I think it was this 16-passenger van, church van that we had.
00:26:24.755 --> 00:26:30.475
Reginald D: We ended up packing that thing out, you know, within a month's time and bringing
00:26:30.475 --> 00:26:34.115
Reginald D: people to church. and then, you know, hanging out with them out to church and
00:26:34.115 --> 00:26:35.515
Reginald D: going out to eat and things like that.
00:26:35.695 --> 00:26:40.515
Reginald D: And then I think within two to three months, we had this old church bus that
00:26:40.515 --> 00:26:42.055
Reginald D: somebody donated to the church.
00:26:42.215 --> 00:26:44.815
Reginald D: Nobody never drove this bus for no reason whatsoever.
00:26:45.115 --> 00:26:47.495
Reginald D: It had been sitting back there in the woods for like years.
00:26:47.915 --> 00:26:52.495
Reginald D: And we was like, man, we got like, we was making more than one trip in this van, picking people up.
00:26:52.615 --> 00:26:55.415
Reginald D: I'm like, man, we're going to be, you know, we're going to run out of time and
00:26:55.415 --> 00:26:58.315
Reginald D: even get church to be over by the time we get there calling people back and forth.
00:26:59.635 --> 00:27:02.755
Reginald D: So we got this bus, man. We pulled the bus out.
00:27:03.135 --> 00:27:07.195
Reginald D: You know, we got the keys to the bus. And I was like, man, we got to find somebody
00:27:07.195 --> 00:27:08.495
Reginald D: who was getting this thing started.
00:27:09.575 --> 00:27:12.535
Reginald D: So got a guy at a church that was with Canada. We worked on that thing.
00:27:12.615 --> 00:27:15.475
Reginald D: We worked on that thing, man. And he got it started.
00:27:16.175 --> 00:27:19.375
Reginald D: So we got this big bus. I don't even know what the thing was insured.
00:27:19.955 --> 00:27:24.275
Reginald D: I don't know. I don't know what they had on that bus. But we got the bus running, man.
00:27:24.375 --> 00:27:29.115
Reginald D: And then we ended up going downtown picking up people. And it was like 56 passengers bus, man.
00:27:29.335 --> 00:27:32.435
Reginald D: And we were just packing our bus out every Sunday.
00:27:33.233 --> 00:27:38.433
Reginald D: For church. And then we ended up ministering at this transitional housing where
00:27:38.433 --> 00:27:42.133
Reginald D: people come out of prison or they come out of addiction centers or whatever
00:27:42.133 --> 00:27:48.413
Reginald D: like that and live on their own in this motel that they're paying wazoo money to live there,
00:27:48.513 --> 00:27:51.073
Reginald D: but they don't have a stove, they don't have an oven or anything like that.
00:27:51.193 --> 00:27:53.453
Reginald D: You got to fend for yourself with the grills they got outside.
00:27:53.793 --> 00:27:57.953
Reginald D: And I was like, man, we started basically pouring into these guys like,
00:27:57.973 --> 00:28:01.353
Reginald D: man, you already on your own. I don't know why you give these people all your money.
00:28:01.773 --> 00:28:05.573
Reginald D: You might as well get your own apartment or something where you got access to everything you need.
00:28:06.033 --> 00:28:10.213
Reginald D: You know, but make a long story short, a lot of these guys, I can't tell you,
00:28:10.333 --> 00:28:15.193
Reginald D: Kevin, how many phone calls I got from some of these guys' wives that I had never seen.
00:28:15.433 --> 00:28:19.593
Reginald D: And it was like, I don't know what you did to my husband. He is a changed man.
00:28:19.773 --> 00:28:22.673
Reginald D: He came back home to his family. Da-da-da-da-da-da.
00:28:23.073 --> 00:28:27.333
Reginald D: And it was amazing, man. I got numerous calls from people's wives.
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Kevin Lowe: Wow. Wow, that is It's absolutely amazing.
00:28:32.013 --> 00:28:38.093
Kevin Lowe: Absolutely amazing. Now, I want you to kind of school me a minute because I
00:28:38.093 --> 00:28:41.253
Kevin Lowe: kept using the term, you know, pastoring, pastor.
00:28:41.853 --> 00:28:45.613
Kevin Lowe: Then we're talking about being minister, ministering. What is the difference?
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Reginald D: So pastor basically has his own church.
00:28:49.773 --> 00:28:50.333
Kevin Lowe: Okay.
00:28:50.833 --> 00:28:53.033
Reginald D: And a minister is just a minister that's in the church.
00:28:53.193 --> 00:28:53.653
Kevin Lowe: Okay.
00:28:54.293 --> 00:28:58.093
Reginald D: That speaks and goes around, does all the stuff, just depends on what's what,
00:28:58.233 --> 00:29:02.293
Reginald D: whatever he does. But the pastor is the one who gets up every Sunday morning
00:29:02.293 --> 00:29:04.233
Reginald D: for the most part and preaches.
00:29:04.493 --> 00:29:09.813
Reginald D: And basically, he's a shepherd of the flock, the whole church. Got his own church.
00:29:10.113 --> 00:29:15.533
Kevin Lowe: Okay. Okay. Amazing. Now, you talked about moving around quite a bit.
00:29:15.753 --> 00:29:18.493
Kevin Lowe: Was that for working at different churches?
00:29:19.253 --> 00:29:22.653
Reginald D: No, no, I was just working at this company that I was working for.
00:29:23.033 --> 00:29:23.313
Kevin Lowe: Okay.
00:29:23.733 --> 00:29:28.033
Reginald D: I was just taking opportunities just to, you know, it was kind of amazing.
00:29:28.033 --> 00:29:31.933
Reginald D: But it really brought out the leadership in me to the point where it's,
00:29:32.113 --> 00:29:36.333
Reginald D: you know, that's where I learned the grunt of it and what it really was.
00:29:37.095 --> 00:29:40.915
Reginald D: Because they were moving me to all these locations, and every location they
00:29:40.915 --> 00:29:45.075
Reginald D: asked me to go to was one that was a zoo.
00:29:45.575 --> 00:29:48.675
Reginald D: I never got sent to a good place to do it. It was running fine.
00:29:49.655 --> 00:29:52.875
Reginald D: All the world that's a zoo, I was like, oh, man, man, I got to go.
00:29:53.135 --> 00:29:57.135
Reginald D: They were like, go turn this around. Go turn this place around. I'm like, Jesus Christ.
00:29:59.255 --> 00:30:03.275
Reginald D: But I was fortunate to do it, and it really, really showed me who I was and
00:30:03.275 --> 00:30:08.635
Reginald D: who I am as a person. because, you know, I've seen a lot of people with the same company.
00:30:08.755 --> 00:30:11.015
Reginald D: They went and sent them somewhere and they didn't make it, man.
00:30:11.115 --> 00:30:14.995
Reginald D: A lot of them didn't make it. They ended up losing their careers and things like that.
00:30:15.435 --> 00:30:20.575
Kevin Lowe: Of course, of course. Well, I want to get to the podcast, but before we can
00:30:20.575 --> 00:30:25.315
Kevin Lowe: get to the podcast, which everybody's going to see why I say that when we get
00:30:25.315 --> 00:30:28.355
Kevin Lowe: to it, how did you and your wife meet?
00:30:28.815 --> 00:30:32.995
Kevin Lowe: And what is the kind of the story in that relationship?
00:30:33.755 --> 00:30:38.375
Reginald D: Well, it's funny. I met my wife at a barbecue where.
00:30:38.375 --> 00:30:40.475
Kevin Lowe: Every good relationship begins.
00:30:42.335 --> 00:30:48.335
Reginald D: I met her at a, um, at a barbecue back in, I think around 2015.
00:30:49.095 --> 00:30:52.815
Reginald D: And, um, when I first met her, I was like, Oh man, you know,
00:30:52.915 --> 00:30:55.135
Reginald D: I was blown away, but I don't think she was digging me too much.
00:30:55.735 --> 00:31:00.255
Reginald D: You know, so I had to keep on, you know, had to keep on pushing that and pushing
00:31:00.255 --> 00:31:04.955
Reginald D: that, you know, So we finally started dating, you know, and then she lived in
00:31:04.955 --> 00:31:09.195
Reginald D: Virginia and things like that. So we went back and forth seeing each other.
00:31:09.375 --> 00:31:14.735
Reginald D: But with all said and done, we get married in 2020, got married.
00:31:14.935 --> 00:31:18.995
Reginald D: And we just been, I don't know, man, it's been great, actually.
00:31:19.255 --> 00:31:23.775
Reginald D: It really has. She's really brought out the best in me because I think I was
00:31:23.775 --> 00:31:26.475
Reginald D: burnt out on being single, you know. Yeah.
00:31:27.615 --> 00:31:32.335
Reginald D: I can't even try to take care of yourself and take care of other people out
00:31:32.335 --> 00:31:35.795
Reginald D: here in the world and things like that and outside the door.
00:31:36.455 --> 00:31:41.155
Reginald D: But it was God sent her to me. And we went to church one day,
00:31:41.735 --> 00:31:43.775
Reginald D: I think maybe 2022 or something like that.
00:31:44.015 --> 00:31:48.715
Reginald D: We came home from church. And basically I told her about this dream I had, right?
00:31:49.235 --> 00:31:52.835
Reginald D: That I was talking about, those three dreams. I don't think I ever even ever told her that part.
00:31:53.655 --> 00:31:57.715
Reginald D: And I told her about it and we came home from church one day and she said,
00:31:57.815 --> 00:32:00.495
Reginald D: hey, I need you to stand up against the wall. I'm going to take a picture of you.
00:32:01.535 --> 00:32:06.035
Reginald D: And I was like, huh? And they're like, what's going on here?
00:32:06.555 --> 00:32:12.395
Reginald D: You know, so she took this picture and she said, you're about to start a podcast.
00:32:13.035 --> 00:32:15.875
Reginald D: And I was like, what is a podcast? I mean, I've heard of it,
00:32:15.895 --> 00:32:17.235
Reginald D: but I don't really know what these things are.
00:32:17.695 --> 00:32:20.295
Reginald D: But I was like, okay, this is what we're doing. This is what we're doing,
00:32:20.435 --> 00:32:24.095
Reginald D: right? Man, we started this podcast, Real Talk with Regina D.
00:32:24.695 --> 00:32:28.215
Reginald D: And once we started it, man, God has really blessed it.
00:32:28.215 --> 00:32:33.975
Reginald D: I mean, up to now, man, we got Apple Podcasts, top 200 shows in 105 countries,
00:32:34.175 --> 00:32:37.915
Reginald D: you know, and I'm like, every time, you know, episodes come,
00:32:38.035 --> 00:32:42.955
Reginald D: episodes come as I'm trying to get my momentum and trying to figure out how to effectively do this.
00:32:43.295 --> 00:32:45.535
Reginald D: You know, she's managing the whole thing.
00:32:45.895 --> 00:32:48.475
Reginald D: And man, we're looking, we in this country, we in this country,
00:32:48.575 --> 00:32:51.835
Reginald D: we in this country. We got all these five star ratings here.
00:32:51.975 --> 00:32:54.955
Reginald D: I mean, everything was just crazy where you took off.
00:32:55.875 --> 00:33:01.595
Reginald D: And then when I looked at all these countries, I was like, wait a minute.
00:33:02.315 --> 00:33:06.215
Reginald D: It finally hit me after that dream in 2005.
00:33:08.035 --> 00:33:16.255
Reginald D: That God was showing me the church in that dream to let me know this is not where I want you to be.
00:33:17.235 --> 00:33:21.895
Reginald D: And he showed me those people in the field saying, I'm going to allow you to
00:33:21.895 --> 00:33:23.715
Reginald D: reach the masses, a bunch of people.
00:33:25.276 --> 00:33:28.376
Reginald D: And I said, that's where this podcast came out.
00:33:28.696 --> 00:33:32.236
Reginald D: This is those people in all these countries, all those people in that field
00:33:32.236 --> 00:33:33.916
Reginald D: that God showed me outside of that church.
00:33:34.856 --> 00:33:35.256
Kevin Lowe: Yeah.
00:33:35.456 --> 00:33:40.196
Reginald D: Years ago, you know, and, you know, and God was just telling me,
00:33:40.256 --> 00:33:43.176
Reginald D: I'm showing you the church so you won't run in there and be a pastor like everybody else.
00:33:45.536 --> 00:33:49.936
Reginald D: It's not what I want for your life. So, and that's how it came, man.
00:33:49.956 --> 00:33:53.636
Reginald D: And it's been, and I know it's, I know it's on point because it's been just
00:33:53.636 --> 00:33:55.636
Reginald D: things. it's been a blessing.
00:33:55.636 --> 00:34:05.156
Kevin Lowe: So you have to wonder from the dream in 2005 to starting the podcast in what 2020?
00:34:05.836 --> 00:34:06.856
Reginald D: No, 22.
00:34:07.236 --> 00:34:13.196
Kevin Lowe: So even longer. So you have to wonder, was God just waiting all that time for
00:34:13.196 --> 00:34:17.976
Kevin Lowe: podcasting to become a big thing or for him to get through your thick skull?
00:34:18.216 --> 00:34:21.796
Kevin Lowe: Like Reginald, I'm telling you man I'm trying to show you.
00:34:22.956 --> 00:34:25.156
Reginald D: I think, I think, I think it's both of them.
00:34:25.176 --> 00:34:25.596
Kevin Lowe: Yes.
00:34:29.676 --> 00:34:33.396
Kevin Lowe: Oh my goodness. No, I love that so, so much.
00:34:33.916 --> 00:34:39.716
Kevin Lowe: Your, your podcast, what has been the biggest kind of a blessing for you?
00:34:39.856 --> 00:34:43.316
Kevin Lowe: Is it, you know, getting to just be on the mic, being creative?
00:34:43.516 --> 00:34:45.776
Kevin Lowe: Is it getting to, to meet people when you interview?
00:34:46.156 --> 00:34:51.436
Kevin Lowe: Like, what is it that just keeps you so compelled and driving forward with your show?
00:34:51.836 --> 00:34:53.276
Reginald D: People like you, man, you know that.
00:34:53.716 --> 00:34:55.056
Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Yeah.
00:34:56.476 --> 00:34:59.956
Reginald D: But yes, I mean, meeting people such as yourself, you know, I mean,
00:34:59.976 --> 00:35:02.896
Reginald D: when we first interviewed just before we got on podcasts together,
00:35:03.316 --> 00:35:08.136
Reginald D: you know, we had a blast, but you know, I think meeting, meeting people is one of them.
00:35:08.396 --> 00:35:11.916
Reginald D: But I think when you go back and you look at some of the reviews and things
00:35:11.916 --> 00:35:15.136
Reginald D: like that, and you read it and you hear things like, you know,
00:35:15.296 --> 00:35:18.276
Reginald D: how what I said changed somebody's life.
00:35:18.875 --> 00:35:23.155
Reginald D: And getting all that positive feedback on it, that's what keeps me going.
00:35:23.315 --> 00:35:26.395
Reginald D: If I'm making a difference, then that's what's going to keep me pushing.
00:35:26.915 --> 00:35:32.575
Kevin Lowe: Yeah, yeah, I agree. What do you think your grandfather would say right now?
00:35:32.735 --> 00:35:37.475
Kevin Lowe: If you got to sit down with him, what do you think he'd have to say about this
00:35:37.475 --> 00:35:43.875
Kevin Lowe: new age way you found to touch the lives of people all over the world outside of the church?
00:35:44.295 --> 00:35:47.995
Reginald D: He probably would tell me that he's not proud of me yet.
00:35:49.935 --> 00:35:56.555
Reginald D: So you got more work to do, boy. But now if I can hear his voice now,
00:35:56.795 --> 00:35:58.555
Reginald D: he's going to tell me he's proud of me.
00:35:58.615 --> 00:36:03.375
Reginald D: And he's going to tell me to, you know, keep pushing and keep being who you are.
00:36:03.635 --> 00:36:07.435
Reginald D: And his biggest thing is don't waver. Do not waver. Stay true to it.
00:36:08.015 --> 00:36:15.255
Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Yeah. I love it. I love it. Well, Reginald, your podcast is called Real Talk with Reginald D.
00:36:15.875 --> 00:36:18.635
Kevin Lowe: For you, what does that mean when we talk about the real talk?
00:36:19.215 --> 00:36:23.715
Reginald D: Well, real talk is basically real talk and the crazy part about it,
00:36:23.915 --> 00:36:28.575
Reginald D: when I talk, a lot of this stuff is just my life, man.
00:36:28.835 --> 00:36:31.375
Reginald D: It's my experiences and what I had to go through.
00:36:31.855 --> 00:36:36.195
Reginald D: Just like when it says, I was told I won't amount to anything.
00:36:37.355 --> 00:36:40.855
Reginald D: And I try to tell people, you're never meant to be defined by someone else's
00:36:40.855 --> 00:36:42.755
Reginald D: doubt for you at the end of the day.
00:36:44.295 --> 00:36:46.455
Reginald D: Those words were seeds of fear.
00:36:47.142 --> 00:36:51.402
Reginald D: But you've got the power to grow faith. I mean, you can grow through this whole
00:36:51.402 --> 00:36:52.762
Reginald D: thing when things like this happen.
00:36:52.962 --> 00:36:56.562
Reginald D: So I'm just kind of speaking to, you know, my life experiences.
00:36:56.902 --> 00:36:58.362
Reginald D: And because there's been ups,
00:36:58.462 --> 00:37:03.382
Reginald D: there's been downs, there's been all this stuff. And it's been a ride.
00:37:03.662 --> 00:37:06.682
Reginald D: So we're really talking about Reggie today. I try not to sugarcoat something.
00:37:06.902 --> 00:37:12.522
Reginald D: And I'm sure not trying to put something in the atmosphere that's not achievable.
00:37:12.782 --> 00:37:16.702
Reginald D: You know, because I don't want to let anybody down. and somebody feel like they're
00:37:16.702 --> 00:37:20.242
Reginald D: let down or not good enough for life and stuff like that.
00:37:20.382 --> 00:37:23.342
Reginald D: It's just, it's going to take a little effort. That's all, and a little faith.
00:37:23.862 --> 00:37:29.262
Kevin Lowe: Yeah, yeah, absolutely. I love it. Well, Reginald, what is next for you?
00:37:29.382 --> 00:37:31.642
Kevin Lowe: What's on the horizon? What are you working on?
00:37:31.902 --> 00:37:36.062
Kevin Lowe: And most importantly, where can people stay connected with you?
00:37:36.582 --> 00:37:39.962
Reginald D: Well, one of the things we're working on is actually still, I mean,
00:37:40.022 --> 00:37:43.282
Reginald D: the podcast is, like I said, it has great momentum and we're just going to try
00:37:43.282 --> 00:37:46.682
Reginald D: to keep it going it and try to enhance a few things with it.
00:37:47.162 --> 00:37:51.842
Reginald D: The biggest thing that I'm trying to achieve right now, get some momentum with
00:37:51.842 --> 00:37:56.322
Reginald D: it, is the motivational speaking side of it to go around and do some motivational
00:37:56.322 --> 00:37:59.462
Reginald D: speaking and things like that to connect with it.
00:37:59.702 --> 00:38:04.902
Reginald D: But other than that, it's just to keep reaching people, keep doing what we're
00:38:04.902 --> 00:38:06.142
Reginald D: doing, and keep being creative.
00:38:06.502 --> 00:38:12.942
Reginald D: That's the biggest thing. Just keep being creative. Everything doesn't come to you every day.
00:38:13.122 --> 00:38:16.382
Reginald D: I mean, I'll be thinking one thing today, and then by Friday,
00:38:16.702 --> 00:38:19.242
Reginald D: something will blow me away and I'll be like, oh man, we've got to try this.
00:38:20.022 --> 00:38:26.302
Reginald D: Just being open to what God has for me and keep pushing and keep going and see
00:38:26.302 --> 00:38:27.262
Reginald D: what the end is going to be.
00:38:27.482 --> 00:38:31.682
Reginald D: As far as the podcast, Real Talk with Regina D, you can, on the podcast,
00:38:31.902 --> 00:38:34.802
Reginald D: you can go to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or any podcast network.
00:38:35.642 --> 00:38:42.122
Reginald D: Social media, Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, just put in Real Talk with Regina D you,
00:38:42.849 --> 00:38:44.129
Reginald D: And it'll pop up.
00:38:44.709 --> 00:38:48.809
Kevin Lowe: Yeah, fantastic. Now, what about if somebody was interested in learning about
00:38:48.809 --> 00:38:52.149
Kevin Lowe: you, about hiring you as a speaker?
00:38:52.389 --> 00:38:54.369
Kevin Lowe: Do we have a website or somewhere we can send them?
00:38:54.789 --> 00:38:57.529
Reginald D: Yeah, you can go to www.realtalk.org.
00:38:58.289 --> 00:39:02.989
Kevin Lowe: Easy enough. Easy enough. Well, I will be sure for anybody interested,
00:39:03.189 --> 00:39:07.369
Kevin Lowe: all the links to the podcast, the website, all the places are in the show notes.
00:39:07.949 --> 00:39:14.369
Kevin Lowe: Reginald, man, you are such a blessing. You're such an amazing guy who I am
00:39:14.369 --> 00:39:17.069
Kevin Lowe: so grateful that we got connected with one another.
00:39:17.249 --> 00:39:19.789
Kevin Lowe: And I thank you so much for being here today.
00:39:20.369 --> 00:39:22.049
Reginald D: Well, thank you so much, Kevin. Bless you, brother.
00:39:22.789 --> 00:39:27.649
Kevin Lowe: Oh, thank you. And for you listening today, my hope is that you heard something
00:39:27.649 --> 00:39:29.929
Kevin Lowe: today that can be an impact on your life.
00:39:30.089 --> 00:39:35.549
Kevin Lowe: There were so many words of wisdom left to us by simply Reginald sharing his story.
00:39:35.989 --> 00:39:39.969
Kevin Lowe: Maybe it's a dream that God gave you that maybe you forgot about.
00:39:39.969 --> 00:39:43.869
Kevin Lowe: Maybe it's time to think back, think a little bit bigger, think a little bit
00:39:43.869 --> 00:39:50.029
Kevin Lowe: better, and also remember that we always want things to happen yesterday. We want it today.
00:39:50.589 --> 00:39:55.509
Kevin Lowe: Sometimes, though, in God's time, which is the right time, it just takes a little bit.
00:39:55.809 --> 00:40:00.909
Kevin Lowe: It's just up to us to stay faithful and keep walking the walk, doing the thing.
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Kevin Lowe: I'm your host, Kevin Lowe, and this, of course, was another episode of Grit,
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Kevin Lowe: Grace, and Inspiration.
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