Hello, hello and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm very happy to be

spending time with you today.

I'm a life coach and love coach. And if you ever feel like

reaching out to me because you feel stuck in love you feel

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meant to do for the next couple of months and years to come.

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you so much for everybody listening.

Today I want to talk about the truth.

Us humans, we have a difficult relationship with the truth.

I feel that from an early age on we are being conditioned and

shown that it is okay to lie that it is sometimes even

totally necessary to not share your truth in order to not face

weird consequences that are going to impact you negatively.

So I want to ask you this week, what is your relationship with

the truth? How truthful are you

with others, but especially with yourself?

I think we know every time we're not being truthful. We know when

we tell somebody outside of us outside of our family or or even

friends

when we are not 100% truthful. But we do it anyways. Because

sometimes there is something else there is way more important

than the truth, our truth.

And it can be very different for every person out there. It can

be very subjective. It can be harmony, wanting to stay

connected with people at all cost.

Look at the wife, for example. Her

biggest priority is to maintain a beautiful family picture for

the external world to see.

It is her utmost priority that people look at her and see that

she's beautiful. She's capable. She's a provider, she's a

helper.

Her husband is always there to support and yeah, they work as a

great team.

The children

are part of the family. So for her let's say it is very

important on what other people think.

Now her husband starts cheating on her

and on some level she knows that is wrong. But would be what

Sorry, what would be way worse still is to call him out on it.

And to then have drama,

a breakup divorce separate

Asian, the kids having to move somewhere else, that would be

way worse. So this woman now decides to not see the cheating

of her husband. She doesn't live in denial of it, she knows

exactly what's going on. But she chooses to ignore it, because

she doesn't want to face any consequences if she calls him

out.

So her truth is, we have an intact family, we are happy, we

are working as a team.

Yet she knows that everything is fucked inside of her household.

And that

creates a huge disbalance within her, but also within that

family, because he's going to try and overcompensate and so

on, and so on. This is just one example of a person choosing

something different over being truthful. And the reason why we

do that is because we've learned in the past that a negative

consequence, a harsh reaction from another person, once we

speak our truth

is bad for us that a negative consequence or harsh reaction

will on the long run, cause pain, separation, anxiety, and

we don't want that in life.

Now, if you've listened to my last episode, about being

authentic and living your truth, you know already that yes,

sometimes we have to pick discomfort over comfort, and

trust that in speaking our truth,

we maintain a healthy balance within ourselves. And we also

give our external world the opportunity to be authentic and

truthful. And in balance

and negativity and fights and short term. You know, anxiety

and discomfort are part of life. And it is sometimes more

important to face a little bit of discomfort instead of long

term comfort, but at the expense of your health,

at the expense of really having a healthy relationship.

So test yourself this week, and maybe over the next couple of

weeks and months, especially over the Christmas holidays.

Because I feel that's the time when we tend to be Yeah.

Least truthful because we are meeting with family again. And

we want to create harmony, we don't want to create friction,

at least some of us.

We want to have a sense of belonging, we want to have a

sense of completeness of wholeness, you know, and we

don't want to be that stick in the wheel that is being

truthful. And by just observing yourself and taking mental notes

of when you are lying most. That can create a change already,

right? I'm not encouraging you to now all of a sudden throw one

tooth bump after the other especially during Christmas. We

don't need extra friction right now. I think we're all exhausted

enough and irritated. But to just observe yourself and to see

who's the person I lie most to? Isn't myself. Is it a person

that I call my friend? Is it my parents? Is that my children?

Who am I most afraid of? Telling my truth? Again? Is it your

parents? Is it your caregivers? Is it your friends? Is it your

spouse? And then why is that?

And to know that we are being conditioned to always go with

the feel good will always go with the positivity. Yeah, you

got to be positive. You got to be encouraging

hopeful, you can never be in a bad mood because that's going to

drag people down. Well, that's not authentic. If you are having

a shit day, and trying to lie about it, people will sense

this. And this is another very, very important part.

To talk about when we talk about truthfulness is trust

worthiness.

The more you lie into your own pocket, so let's go back to the

woman who is happily married and her husband is cheating, but she

doesn't call him out on it because it's more important of

what people think. It creates a disbalance inside of her right

there is resentment and hatred and disappointment inside of

her. But she chooses to suppress it because it's more important

for her to have the beautiful family image. But like I love to

say we're all animals, we sense weird wives from kilometres

apart.

And so this woman will have more and more difficulties to connect

with people that love truthfulness, and that love

authenticity. Of course, she's gonna connect great with people

who do the same bullshit than she does. But with people who

can cut through the bullshit and want to know a person on a

deeper level, they will sense from a mile away that something

is fishy with that woman.

And no matter what it is, is she overcompensating? Is she

depressed? Is there something else going on, but no one can

live alive for too long, and the people who choose to usually get

sick because inside of your body body, your hormones going to get

out of whack and your body is going to rebel. And everything

is gonna go down a rabbit hole. So

explore a little bit be curious, be a detective. What is your

relationship with the truth? Is it something that brings you joy

and makes you feel alive and good?

Or is it something that makes you shy away and doesn't make

you feel good and you feel you'd rather adapt than telling your

truth?

Thank you so much for listening to this episode here today. If I

was able to bring value into your life, if I got your

brain stimulated the right way, please leave me a comment or

even a rating on Apple podcast and a review. It would mean the

world to me, you know I'm working on this podcast here for

the last year and everything is for free that I offer. And I

would love to reach more people in distress more people that I

can help around the world. All right, take really good care of

yourself. And I will be out there very soon again. Bye bye.