Recently on my social media,

I received a question

concerning therapy, and

is somebody who's complaining that

they're sitting there telling their story

and talking,

but there's no practical activities

going on between them and the therapist,

it's just the therapist just listening

to their story and they were feeling like

there wasn't a whole lot

accomplished. And frankly,

I would agree. In fact,

some people who ramble on and

banter about how they've been

a victim of some event in their life

or how things aren't working or how

frustrated they are,

or angry or something,

what they tend to do is

enhance the oligodendrocytes,

which are the myelinating cells of

the brain, and enhance the amygdala,

which is our survival center,

instead of wake us up and give us reason

and activate our executive center.

So talking intelligently about

a solution I can see value

in.

But just rambling about how you've been

a victim of history instead of a master

of destiny, I find not

the most productive.

Now there's different

therapies and different needs,

and some people have a love to just

talk, and some people by talking,

they get gradual insights.

I think it's a bit inefficient

and slow and sometimes actually

counterproductive. I would rather ask

very precise questions to the person,

have them answer concisely,

help them see things that they've

overlooked in their awareness,

make them conscious of unconscious

information so they can be more fully

conscious, see

the hidden order in

the chaos that they're,

ideally starting with,

and come to a point where they actually

see that things are on the way,

not in the way, and something

they can be grateful for,

instead of something that's baggage.

Anything you're not

thankful for is baggage.

Anything you are thankful for is fuel.

So I would much rather

ask questions to a client

in a session and have them

cognitively come to reason

and see a balanced orientation

instead of a polarized emotional state

that causes an amygdala seeking or

avoidant response, survival response.

And help them become more governed, more

executive in function, more reasonable,

more objective,

and allow them to see

things that had overlooked,

and become enlightened and mindful.

So they end up having less distress

and more eustress and more wellness

orientation and more productive,

creative, strategic, action oriented.

So, yes, I,

I would consider if you're not feeling

like you're getting a result from

somebody just letting you talk and ramble,

I would suggest that you either govern

yourself and find strategies that

you can govern yourself

by, or ask the therapist,

is there alternative ways of doing it,

this seems to be really slow and

unproductive to me. Speak up,

or find somebody who does an

alternative approach. You know,

I would much rather use my

my Demartini Method approach.

I'm biased on that, obviously

<laugh>, so please factor that in.

But I would much rather ask very concise

questions that help you see the hidden

order in life so you can be grateful

for life and move past the story that

you may be running your life with.

So that's just my feeling about it.

There's different people

with different perspectives.

I'm not right or wrong about it,

but I just found it way more productive

for myself and the people I've gotten to

work with.

And helping people get in touch with the

magnificence of their life instead of

the insignificance and the frustration

of life not matching a fantasy

that they be expecting about life.

So hope that's the answer that you were

seeking or could be useful in some way.

But if you're not fulfilled

in your therapy, speak up,

and ask for something alternative or

go and check something alternative out.

Thank you.