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Focus on what you can.

Focus on the good things that you have in life.

Figure out why you have them.

Any limiting beliefs that you might have.

Prove them wrong.

Why is that?

Where did that come from?

How is that wrong?

How is that not congruent by life?

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an animal with God on your back.

A life altering spinal surgery didn't end his story.

It became the catalyst.

Zach Del Monaco is a founder and mindset mentor who helps trades and construction

leaders scale profit first businesses and build relationships that last we'll

get practical about moving from Don't chase attract shaping values into a real

operating system and thinking like a CEO before your first million, without hype,

shortcuts or losing your soul grounded in resilience, purpose, and faith.

Let's dive in.

Zach, welcome to Seek Go Create.

Thank you.

Such a, pleasure and honor to come on

Cool.

All right, so Zach, let's go ahead and get started.

For those that are just absolutely watching and going, man, those

are two good looking dudes.

They gotta be close in age.

Tim 62, and Zach is how old.

23. About to turn 24.

so we got a good 40, almost 40 years that separates us, but that's cool.

We're going to highlight that some in this conversation and we're gonna

bridge some gaps for some people here.

First question, and this is kind of a man, it's not even really an

icebreaker, but I like to either go deep or light and I'll let let you choose.

Would you

Yeah.

to answer the question, what do you do, or who are you?

Pick it and answer.

What do I do?

Cool.

Yeah, what do I do?

I consider myself a visionary and a builder on a broad scheme.

And the reason why I say that is because my father owns a construction

company, which I'm also part of.

I've been doing it in the marketing area, but more so coming down

to Florida, almost C-suite area.

I've just been in love with building my whole entire life, building

stuff on social media, building construction projects, car dealerships.

I love creating more than consuming, so that's why I call myself a builder.

And along with the visionary, I seem to always be planning like

three to six months out in advance.

And I tell people, and then three to six months comes and it's

like, oh, we should do this.

And I'm like, I said that about three to six months ago, and now we're

just starting to think about it.

So a builder and a visionary, but really at my core, I, I'm a bridge

builder between the different generations, I have a passion with

helping connect the older generation.

for example, my parents generation 50, 60, seventies with a younger generation.

And I've been noticing and feeling that there's a loss of connection between

the two of the relationship of the bond of the next generation to come and

instilling the values that my father instilled in me, helping the younger

generation of men and even women with the values that I believe they should have.

Hmm.

work, resilience, persistence, consistency, waking up, being a gentleman,

opening the door, like the simple things.

And what I've been noticing is that a lot of people in their twenties and

thirties, they know that they want more.

They just don't know how to go out and get it.

So what I've been doing is helping them achieve that clarity in their life

and then holding them accountable to be able to go and achieve that end.

I've been able to take that not only from the personal life but also into the

business side as well with our Red Rock construction, being able to go into that

CEO mindset and become more of a leader than a person actually in the field.

So being able to help people in our company plan out their goals

that they want, how do we actually achieve them, and then restructuring,

reverse engineering our business so that we can grow and expand.

So that's, that's what I do at a core, and basically, I guess

you could say who I am too.

That's cool.

Yeah.

And you know, it's interesting, I had this conversation, I

think last week with someone.

it's odd, the tension that some people have are people of faith.

When you ask them that, it's like, okay, what would you rather answer?

What do you do?

Or who are you?

It's almost like they think they should answer the, who are you?

But oddly enough, we'd really prefer to say what we do.

And I'm not, there's not a right or wrong

Interesting.

because truthfully just as kinda like, you answered and said, what do you do?

But you really told me who you are.

Yeah.

Which is

that funny?

Yeah, right.

but a lot of people do the opposite.

They'll say, you know, here's who I am, and then they'll say, you know, I'm a,

I work for so and so and this is what I

Yeah.

A few questions that popped up as you were going through that.

what, do you have a position or title with a construction company or, or

are you just, what, what would you define your title or your role there?

They just categorized me as, chief of staff.

But what I consider myself doing is I went from being heavy in the marketing

side, creating social media content.

'cause I just loved doing that promotion, bringing in sales, bringing in attention.

But now what I'm really focused on more so is exiting that side and I

guess you could call it chief of staff.

I'm going around and I'm learning from my father and from another person

who we just brought on of really how to manage these crews, how to set up

the jobs, how to actually talk to the clients, to the customers that we have,

and then how to relay that message properly to the guys in the field, and

really how to drive people forward and align them in the vision that we have.

Because a lot of the time it's okay, we're going in for a long day of work.

Yeah, we're getting a paycheck, but where's the alignment?

Where, where are we really going?

Other than that paycheck?

What are we getting?

What are we building?

So creating that alignment and creating that team is something

that I've been focusing on a lot.

And in the process of doing that, I've been going to a lot of these mindset

and business events to help me learn the knowledge, learn the strategies,

and then actually implement them.

That's cool.

And,

Yeah,

cold?

But you told me you're in South Florida.

Is that, do y'all

yeah.

don't tell me you get cold in South Florida.

No, no, no, no, no.

below

I'm always sweating.

I'm starting to adjust.

the construction company's based outta New York, so the

cold winters, it gets freezing.

yeah.

We actually we're doing a building project down in southern Arizona.

Yeah.

putting a house in down there.

My wife and I are.

being homeless for a long time, it's actually a big step for us.

you know, when you live in RV and travel around, it's like, okay, huh.

we were looking at the work schedule you know, they were kind of telling

us, yeah, it's four and a half months.

And I'm going, okay, what about delays and all that?

They're, we don't have delays.

They're in Arizona.

There's no weather delay.

I mean, it, it, you know, we're going through the winter.

It might, know, dip below 70 or something like that.

So anyway, so chief of staff is like a big role.

my wife in a lot of the positions that she steps in, she is, she's been executive

assistant, she's been project specialist, she's a scrum master, all that type stuff.

kind of a catchall, which means you can kind of end up doing stuff all

the way from the highest C-level decisions down to maybe even.

Cleaning out the ba, I mean, it could

Yeah,

what are the things that you're identifying are your superpower

not the things you're doing?

We do a lot of stuff

yeah,

be stuff we have to do, and we know we're okay at it, but

like, what is it that you like?

I was created for blank.

yeah.

It's funny you asked that question because for a long time I actually struggled with

that question, not knowing what that was.

I understood it recently, over the past two months, I came to a conclusion about

that, which when you talk about light up, what I light up about is when I'm

on stage or on camera and I'm talking.

I'm explaining something or I'm talking about mindset or

business or how to do something.

I'm coaching someone through an issue or I'm talking to people in

the office when the morale is down and I'm raising it, my energy,

which people say is just contagious.

And again, I bring back the example of a bridge builder of a diversion.

Zach, this is what other people say.

Zach, your energy's contagious.

You just, we were having a hard day.

And you come in, next thing you know, we're all cracking up.

The energy spikes and people telling me that.

It's interesting 'cause I look back on that and I'm in

my head, is that really true?

I actually wanna find the thing that lights me up and then the more I do that,

like even these podcasts, it lights me up.

I had no energy.

And then at the end of it, I'm like, you know what?

I know.

That's what lights me up because I feel the, I go into flow, I

feel the Holy Spirit flowing.

So.

That is what lights me up and I'm able to take that in whatever direction in

business, in relationships, personal life, public life, you name it.

Hmm.

So the good thing is, is that has, like you said, bridge builder, encourager,

and you know, one of the things that's kind of interesting, I thought as I was

asking the question, I'm going, sometimes I almost wanna reel something back in.

But I'm glad it, I'm glad that question came out I think it's gonna lead

to some of the things that could be tension between generations, because

the cynic from someone in my generation would say, Zach, you're 23, 24 dang

years old, you don't have a clue yet.

Yeah,

and we'll get to that in just a moment.

yeah.

respond.

I'd love for us to mix it up a little bit.

But before we

Yeah.

tell me about your dad.

Tell me about what his superpowers are and what drives him.

Because what I've noticed is there, there's some people that are like.

Just like parents.

And then

Yeah,

that there's like, these generations skip.

Like my dad super quiet still now.

He was very good at what he does.

What he did, he was in education and a superstar.

Some of it I didn't realize till after he passed.

Unfortunately, we had his funeral out too long ago.

but he was quiet And I'm like, you out.

yeah,

people give me energy stages.

yeah.

In fact, sometimes you have to watch out 'cause it could become a

Mm-hmm.

tell me about your dad.

At his core, he's a problem solver, family man, and problem solver.

Everything that he does in business is, what's a problem?

Let me fix it.

And I honestly think that's his drug of choice, which sometimes is not the

best when he's trying to be present in business and then in family, because

we'll be in business and I'm used to just him solving problems all the time.

What is it?

Okay, good.

he moves so quickly, it's, that's his gift.

But then bringing it back to the family, you have, I have two sisters and my mom.

So there are more in the frame of, I just want to tell you how

my day was, tell you my problems.

I don't want you to fix them.

And it creates a lot of back and forth tension, which is funny, but I think that.

I'm a lot like my dad in the fact that I'm go, go, go problem

solving, like I want to create.

what I will say is he's very family based, which he also gave me the values that

he instilled in me To a fault though.

And why I say that is because he has a big family and sometimes in

the past he would go to try and help them, like be the savior in a way.

So sometimes it would drag us back.

And because of that, you're not just dragging yourself back.

Now you have your wife, now you have your kids, now you have all these

other opinions and voices to deal with.

And if it works out, amazing, but if it doesn't work out now you gotta deal with,

they said all this and yet I did that.

But at a young age, why?

I love that.

On the positive side, on the upper side is because when I was younger, he used to

take me around to all of his job sites.

So I was meeting people that were fifties, sixties, seventies, very

successful in the car dealership area.

He was always instilling me the values of communication of character.

If you say you're gonna do something, you better get it done, you finish it.

And if you can't, you man up.

You do whatever is right in that circumstance to recover, to help fix it.

And always prioritize family, always prioritize the communication

and the relationships.

So I got that from him.

And in the process he did something very smart with me, which I always tell younger

kids, like, do this with your parents.

He started bringing me around to these mastermind events and it was number

one, a bonding experience to the business events and the mindset events.

'cause we'd grow together.

But he would take me and at the time I was horrible at speaking with people

and to go, this is how you do it.

He'd introduced me to someone, he showed me and then he goes, okay, Zach threw

me out in like 500,000 people audience.

And he is like, okay, meet this person, meet that person.

So he pushed that into me and then he started to nudge me

into the more of the confidence.

Okay, go up to that person.

Asked that leader what their name is, so you now know them, okay, leave

a place better than you found it.

Leave a tip, make someone smile.

So through doing that, it looked like I matured so much more.

'cause now people are like, are you, you're 28, right?

And I'm like, no, I'm 23.

And they're like, wait, what?

You, you sound and you look older.

I wish my son, I wish I wish my children had someone like that around you.

And that those are what I believe are the good things that he instilled in me

that I can now take into my life, but also instill in other people my age.

Yeah, it's interesting when you say someone's a fixer.

if someone's wired as a fixer and they're trying to fix everything, including things

that people haven't asked to be fixed,

Yeah.

a father trying to fix their kids that are maybe getting

old enough to where they don't.

Think or want.

They probably need to be, but they just don't want to be.

There's some tension there.

That's some generational type things

Yeah.

And, but I think it's so cool that he puts you in positions that forced you to

be stretched different things like that.

do you think, were you, are you being groomed to do something in the business?

Is there any pressure there?

Or is it like, Zach, do whatever you want.

You know, you could do some stuff here, but if you want to go out

and, I don't know, dig ditches, be a YouTuber, be a, oh, heaven forbid

a podcaster, you know, go do it.

what's the story there?

Both,

Okay,

both.

I don't, there wasn't ever a Zach, this is who you are.

you're running this company, but there was more of an opportunity there.

Zach, you can do this.

This is for you.

I, over the past few years have assumed that role of, okay,

I wanna actually take this.

You're not forcing me to, but I like where this is going and

I see a bigger vision for this.

Therefore, I'm gonna invest more time.

What I will say, which is very different from most parents, I

believe at most ads, is that.

My dad always encouraged me.

I guess my parents say, but more so my dad always encouraged me, like, if you wanna

do something, do it, but do it all away.

Like you're the best.

Like in your mind, you have to always keep on learning, keep

developing, but in your mind you need in a humble way, you are the best.

So whether that's going to make videos, starting a podcast, going into acting,

going into construction, whatever it is, I'm behind you all the way.

And one of the reasons that he fell on that side so hard is because, like

I said, I was doing the social media content for a construction company and

something happened where after four years of posting consistently almost

every single day, this was my passion.

I got a call one day basically saying, you have to stop everything.

'cause we were gonna go into a partnership, a whole big ordeal that

fell through, I basically broke down.

I didn't talk to him for like two days straight.

I wouldn't answer his call, wouldn't answer anything.

That moment literally shattered our relationship.

Trust has to be built through years, they say, and can be

broken in an, in an instant.

And I never understood that until that moment.

But

over the coming months, we really put more time into talk with each other and

really understand what we were feeling.

And I told them, listen, a lot of people don't believe in what I'm doing.

They don't see what I'm doing, but I do.

And I kept on painting the picture from 'em and I said, listen

dad, like I know what I'm doing.

I've learned from the best I've learned from the people that my friends that

have blown up doing this, and this is what I see and this is what I want to do.

And he saw how much I was hurt and how lost I got when that was cut off for me.

In the process, he said to himself, I'll never hinder my son again.

I'll never pull him back from something that he's passionate in doing.

I'll always be behind him 100%.

And that's pushed family out.

That's pushed friends out.

But it's made my relationship with my father, my family,

and our team so much stronger.

And I thank him every single day for that because of now what I'm

doing over this past year and what the future looks like now.

Because they, my family, my parents, my dad can actually see that.

And now I see in his eyes like he understands and he's proud.

And he's like, Zach, you know what?

You go, you do it.

I'm gonna push you.

Someone asked what?

What you do?

My son does this, my son does that.

Like I'm happy about it.

You don't understand what it is.

Well, I do check this out.

So it's a complete different frame of mind from a lot of

people, his generation and again.

Bless God bless him for being behind me.

if he wasn't behind me, I wouldn't be where I am and I'd have a

really bad relationship with.

Hmm.

So, so this is like getting a bit predictive.

You mentioned earlier that you were able to see things, six months out.

I actually sometimes categorize that as strategic, to me, sometimes visionaries,

that word, I'll say this, it might be semantics, sometimes visionaries

are thinking just like way up in the clouds and it's just like, oh, you

know, gonna, wrong with any of this.

Drive Lamborghinis and, eat cashews and all kind of stuff.

You know, live, live large.

Uh, the cashew joke is a bad joke.

It's an old movie thing, but don't worry about it.

It's older than you are, But strategic though, is someone who could see kind

of where a business is 90 days out.

The, the reason I know that's the strategic because strategic is my number

one on strength finders, and it's what I do when I work with organizations.

I am always thinking 90 days, 90 days, 90 days.

The reason 90 days is so significant for me, it's just far out to where

you, are looking ahead, you can't sit around and do nothing today,

sometimes vision, like five years from now, we're gonna blah, blah, blah.

don't have to do anything today.

90

Yeah,

you gotta start doing stuff today.

So, so I, I mean, I'm, I'm

I like that.

arguing with you, but I'm kinda saying, the way you set it, you

set it more in a strategic way, probably with the vision sprinkled,

I agree with you on that.

tell me about, because I'm guessing you do work some people that

are the generation above you.

Above you, or, you know, twice, your age or 40 years beyond, like I am.

me some things that are, some tensions there, some things that

you notice that, and, and you know, some of 'em maybe you work through,

some of 'em you just deal with.

Some of 'em might come to a head, but just tell me some of those, because

I'd love for us to pick apart some of those if we could while we're

Yeah.

I think one of the biggest ones is the.

Age difference and experience and knowledge.

Where I think you said at the beginning of this call, what's

a 23, 20 4-year-old know?

Like, what are they gonna talk to me about?

it's the heavy bias and being able to understand that, not take it a bad way,

but kind of wow, someone respectfully.

I think that's something that I've had to learn how to do over and over

because a lot of people that I meet with my dad, they'll shake my hand.

They won't really take me seriously.

they'll just look at me and, you know, give them a firm handshake,

look them in the eyes and like, okay, wow, I didn't expect that.

And then my dad, Hey Zach, what do you think about this?

I say something and then you sprinkle in the little whoa moments, you know.

But I, I think even more than that is sometimes I tell my dad,

'cause he always wants me to like.

Tell people what I do, like who I am that are, that are his age.

and I say I could say that, but I think an even more powerful way of doing that,

of releasing the tensions is literally, dad, you tell them, like, coming from

someone else that is their age that they relate with, is even more powerful.

That, that's definitely one of the, one of the tensions that I see is the

age difference and, and knowledge.

Like, who are you?

What, what do you got offer?

Yeah, the good and the bad of the generation is that unfortunately

everything, most things in our culture really is pressing towards division.

Yeah.

male,

Yeah.

you know, race, whatever country what, whatever.

And the age thing is part of it.

you know, here's the thing.

We just recently hired, I might have mentioned this, I dunno if I said

it before we, hit record or after record, but we recently hired, someone

in the financial department at, at the company we're with, and we were

really wanting to hire someone younger we're looking for someone that's got

the energy, the accuracy, the speed.

But also needed some humility to say, I, I can learn from you old dudes to get.

Some info to help.

And so, you, you know, we actually went through our entire

process with that in mind.

There was one other thing though that was very important, and I wanna say

this and then I'll let you respond.

We have a fairly mature organization.

We're somewhat related in the construction industry and all too,

but we do engineering and material supply and things like that.

And we knew that this person had to have quite the backbone and

confidence to not back down when some people were pushing them around.

You know, sales guy that's pressing

Yeah.

or, you know, we had today one of our big customers that they, they

owe a little bit, so we were gonna, cut them off, let 'em know well he's,

Yeah.

so tell me, this is something I'd love 'cause I think it fits into mindset.

Yeah.

how someone balances.

Confidence and humility you don't tick off, older dudes.

and this is a hard question

Yeah,

I don't know if you will know the exact answer, but I'm just

interested in what you have to say.

that is a great question.

I heard this quote today from this video, and there was a guy that said,

be humble in your personal life.

Be a shark in business.

Hmm.

And that really hit me.

I've been told a lot of times in my life to be humble, don't be blah.

Right?

I've learned this from one of my close friends and mentors, Jeff,

being able to be in that industry of construction where you need

a backbone, there's a way to.

Be humble yet be confident.

And I think that the way that he showed me is you don't disrespect anyone.

You show them respect, you treat them how you wanna be treated.

But at the same time, when you have these little conflicts, when

you have these little battles of, hey, the stairs are supposed to be

here, and they go, no they're not.

No they're not.

You better know that they are supposed to be there and you better come with evidence

and you better say it in the correct way.

And in doing so, you'll establish number one respect.

But number two, you'll show your confidence that you have behind that

'cause you know that you're correct.

I think that is definitely a way that he's shown me how to balance the two.

And I think that

in business, a lot of people ask me the question of how

do I become more confident?

And I've learned two things through the mindset Number one,

confidence is just comfort.

I'm comfortable in my own skin, I'm comfortable in what I'm doing.

And number two, it comes from doing it over a repeated amount of times,

consistency over a long time.

So you're comfortable 'cause you've done it so much.

So to conclude your question, I go back to that example with Jeff.

I think there's a fine balance.

And to be honest with you, I think I'm still searching for that answer today.

But right now it's just that being able to be wise, know what you're

talking about before you ask the question, before you answer the

question, and being able to back it up.

Not being rude, not being arrogant and what you're saying.

But show respect.

Everyone wants to have respect.

Everyone wants to be treated fairly.

Everyone wants to be treated like they're, they're amazing,

like they're a king or a queen.

Show them respect, treat them like that.

But when you go in for a question and when you go into to have a, not a debate,

but talk about a specific discussion that you might not both agree on.

Come backed up, ready to go.

And when you do that, and when you show, Hey, I could lead the

guys, I can do this, I can do that.

I have experience.

Watch, watch their eyebrows.

They're gonna go like this.

They're gonna be like, oh wow, this, this person really does know.

He is testing me right now.

And I go, oh, and it worked.

and then the guy came back, shook his hand and said, amazing job.

Yeah, so you're being tested and it is,

yeah.

you do have to earn,

Yeah.

trust.

You have to earn that.

And sometimes there's skepticism.

I think one of the reasons why, and this maybe gets back to the mindset

and some of the things that you're, attempting to instill in, in the

generation that you're in, I, I actually see a large number and I, you know,

I don't know how to measure this.

I see a large number of people in that generation that do not

have what we'll call confidence.

They do not have the comfort in their own skin.

They're, they're, they're kind of questioning things.

They come to situations what I'll call a weak posture.

And, and listen, I, I, I think we all need to be careful.

Yeah.

that the thing that actually softened, or I don't know, ripped

me to shreds, depending on how you look at it, was 2008 to 2012.

You know, that kind of took me out of, my thinking that I could control the world

and run it and all that type of stuff.

so sometimes we are humbled and I want to,

Yeah.

that in just a little while.

'cause I think you've had a situation

Yeah,

has done that.

And we may not have 'em listening in 'cause we may

yeah,

them.

But what would you

yeah.

to that person?

Let's just say they're in the younger bracket.

That they're still timid, cautious, cetera.

'cause see, here's what I'd rather do.

I'll, I'll just be blunt.

I would much rather have a guns blazing Zack come into my business

or into and, and I might smile and smirk going, okay, yeah, we'll see.

Because what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna put you in a position

where you're either gonna

rise up or be humbled a little bit.

Then I'm gonna, then I'm gonna come in and say, okay, now let's get started.

Yeah.

there's some that can't even see that.

What would you tell 'em?

What's the mindset?

How can they work on just upping their game so that they don't get eaten,

Yeah.

step into business situations?

By the way, what you just said, I absolutely love, and I agree with 100%.

I truly believe that my generation and the generation a little bit

below me, way too soft, way too soft.

We need, what I was taught is the duck feathers, right?

When water hits you, it repels right off.

we need some wake up calls, we need some big wake up calls.

we need to be shattered.

We need to be broken down and rebuilt.

That's why I love, like my dad's generation, because even in

construction, I'm now getting used to it.

The guys are like, do that.

I'm like, it's heavy.

I dunno if I can, they're like, yo, stop being up and just do it.

And I'm like, you kidding me?

the last time you sat around with your dad?

Said, Hey, let's talk about our feelings.

Oh my gosh.

right now?

And there's some people listening in going, oh, it's

like, I don't, does not compute.

I mean, I wish I could

Yeah.

I'm sorry, Zach.

I can't, I mean,

no, no.

but let's, no, we're not, we're not gonna go there.

I'm, I've been on both sides and I can mesh between both sides, which is good.

Which is why I guess, they call me like the, the bridge builder.

But I try to example two weeks ago where I was telling someone, I'm like,

you know, I'm still pushing.

I'm having a fantastic day, but like my back, my legs, I just a workout.

It's killing me.

I didn't get a good sleep.

And one of my friends turns to Saturday and he goes, yo, I don't deal with.

I look at him and I go, sounds good.

Let's get in the car.

Let's go back to work.

Let's put some steel up.

Like just straight to the core.

but getting back to your question, I'd say that, and I, I guess I'll talk to

specifically the younger men 'cause that's who I am and that's where I'm targeting

specifically, is that get around people.

Get around people who you wanna be like, I don't care if that's YouTube videos.

finding people online, finding people in person, going to a specific

location, but get in person with them.

Join a coaching program, join a private coach, go to a mastermind.

Get involved with maybe your father or your uncle, but people who

have those values, Let's get up.

Let's work hard.

I'm gonna shape you.

I've been to a bunch of different events and every time that I got pushed past

my limits and held accountable in the process, I've changed and I've developed.

And for younger men, I'd say that the biggest thing that they can do

with self-confidence and clarity is focusing heavily, heavily on their

mindset and personal development.

If you spend, my friend did the 70 30 or 80 20 on developing your mindset

half of the day, then going out and implementing and working and doing it,

yeah, you might not be doing what every other kid, young adult, your age is

doing, going out, partying, or whatever.

But I'll tell you one thing.

You're gonna go through the fire and you're gonna get shaped doing it.

And next thing you know, you're going to mature and outgrow everyone.

And because you've been through so much stuff and learned from people that are

older than you, and they're gonna push you and they're gonna break you, and you're

gonna wanna throw up, you're gonna wanna crawl in a hole, whatever, that's good.

'cause that's, that's what's shaping you.

And the more that you are able to work on that mindset of

understanding, okay, I feel like this.

Listen, it's just a feeling.

What other feeling can I get?

Okay, I'm motivated, I'm inspired by these people.

They're pushing me.

Sometimes I don't feel like doing it.

That doesn't matter.

What did Dom and Jeff say?

They said, get it done.

And when you get it done, you're gonna feel better.

So I did that.

And next thing you know, your mindset is gonna be the thing

that's taking you to the next level.

people are gonna start looking at you different.

You're different.

You're gonna start connecting with the generation above you more.

And next thing you know.

People are gonna wanna start being around you.

this goes back into, by the way, the don't chase attract.

Because for such a long time I was always chasing money, girls fame

views, and it was so unfulfilling.

And then at one point I'm just like, screw it, number one,

I lord, I give myself to you.

Use me, show me the way.

And I just obsessively every single day focused on exactly what I just said.

And I invested my time.

I invested even my money into these people and they showed me the exact blueprint.

That's why when younger people, ask me that question and I tell

'em that answer, they're like, I don't know if I wanna do that.

I don't know if I wanna invest.

That's a lot of money to invest.

I don't, I dunno, if I wanna wake up, wake up that early.

If you do the same, you're gonna be in the same exact position that you're at.

And the reason why I'm raising my voice and saying it like this is 'cause so

many people say that, and it's so simple.

Again, stop being so, go through the.

So Zach, one of the things I wanna come back to, the don't, chase a track.

'cause I think that's, I think that's important.

It's foundational.

I think it's one of the things that drew me to, to what you were doing

and wanted to have you as a guest when you came across our desk.

one of the other things that people in generations will

say is, haven't lived enough.

You haven't experienced enough, you haven't.

haven't been beaten up.

You know, what's the Tyson quote?

You find out what somebody is when they get punched in the face.

Yeah,

you've been through a few things.

You've had some stuff and you know, there was, something obviously you're

a healthy, good looking young dude, but yet you've had some health challenges.

tell me more about what you've been through

yeah,

it's shaped you and impacted your mindset

yeah,

you're thinking right now.

yeah.

100%. By the way, that's one of my biggest pet peeves is when people say

you haven't been punched in the face, or they take advice from someone else of

an opinion of someone else, how can you know respectfully, how can you know what

I've been through when you haven't even spent the time in person or looking up me,

what I've done, what I've been through?

First do that and then form your own opinions respectfully.

That's fair.

So.

Unfortunately, most people think their situation's

Yeah,

others.

so let's,

yeah,

playing that.

So, at a young age, I had extreme trouble talking to people.

I couldn't talk to anyone.

I would stumble over my words.

I had anxiety, and I basically overcame that by putting myself in these

positions, like these events going and talking to people over and over.

And I developed myself.

That was a little hurdle.

Looking back the bigger thing that has happened to me was, I think

about three years ago was I had 48% spinal curvature in my back.

So I had an S-curve, scoliosis, and I went in for, an eight hour surgery, and

they basically straightened my spine.

I have eight screws and two rods going down my back now.

That was one of the hardest experiences, journeys in my life, physically, because

I lost all of my muscle in the process.

I could not get up, I could not move.

I had to relearn how to stand, how to walk, how to run,

how to get back in the gym.

That was a huge, massive struggle for me, which humbled me, but

gave me more confidence in the process as I came back from it.

And along with that put me in a really dark spot where I

didn't wanna talk to anyone.

I didn't really wanna do anything.

And that's when I realized that

that's when I took a huge dive into the mindset and personal development

and physique and health, because I realized that if I didn't have my

health, I didn't have my strength, then no matter what I did in life.

My focus, all my energy would be feeling like crap.

How can I get out of that feeling?

How can I get outta that state that I'm in?

So that's what started, kicked off my mindset and health

journey was that spinal surgery.

And then on the financial side,

both personally and in business as a family, when I was a couple years

younger, I started a company around social media and it was amazing.

I was making 10 k plus a month.

It was great.

And I just, it wasn't my calling and I was burning myself out

both sides of the candle.

And I stopped and in the process might not sound like a lot, but in the process

I literally had zero money coming in.

So I remember a bank account, negative balance, not being able to afford

food on some weekends like fasting, which was a little taste getting

humbled of like, oh my God, look, I have all this stuff to nothing.

But on even deeper level, there was a time when my family and the business,

we got hit really hard, really hard to the part where my dad had to work what

I would consider 24 7 every single day trying to get back, hundreds of thousand

dollars in debt, coming back and it put a huge strain on the family but also on me.

'cause I was, in the business.

I'm part of the business and we're coming back from it, but.

That was another lesson in itself of being humbled of, okay, are you

gonna go spend money on these cars?

Are you gonna spend money putting it back into, an investment,

into stocks, into real estate, into your family, into donations?

So I consider myself having, and I'm probably leaving out a couple

different experiences, but been around the pole, but around whatever you

wanna call it, a good amount of times.

And if I haven't been the one to experience it, I've known people

who have experienced that as well.

Heartbreak loss.

I've lost many people in my life at a very young age.

I've been through heartbreak a couple times.

I've, you name it.

I feel like I've been through a lot of stuff for my age.

which is why it's funny when people say that of like, who are you?

Like, what, what have you done?

But again, it goes back to the thing I said before, which is I'd rather like

my dad or someone else say it to people than me having to try and explain it.

Sure.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So one of the things we've, you've sprinkled it in, but I think this

is a good time to bring the faith component into your journey obviously.

there have been ups and downs.

you mentioned the financial challenges of the family.

I

Yeah,

uh, you know, if you were to talk to our grown children,

they would say the same thing.

We had real estate

yeah,

into oh eight.

That was our, we thought

yeah,

great and everything like that.

The rest of that story is interesting, the ups and downs, even

though they're not yours Totally.

They're yours.

yeah.

tell me about faith was like in your household, if it was there, and how

that has, impact has had as you've gone through, things you've gone through,

heading up to where you are now.

Hmm.

It's been rocky, but I'm glad to say right now it's stronger than it's ever been.

So I grew up private Catholic school all my life and it's kind of like I

was, it's been shoved down my throat.

So at a young age I grew up Catholic in, into religion.

And then I guess around high school to college, I kind of

pushed it out 'cause I felt like I was living two different lives.

I felt like I was living the college life and having fun.

And then Sunday, you know, you go to church, maybe you skip a day,

you're not living like you should be.

It says in the Bible.

And I kind of pushed that away.

And because of that, I was trying to do everything on my own.

You name it, personal life, business life, whatever.

And I kept on finding that every time I tried to do something on my

own and I got it, I was unfulfilled or like it just wouldn't happen.

I was trying harder and harder.

Then I went to an event and I was just in nature and I was walking around.

And that's when I came back into much, much deeper connection with

faith to a point where I went to a group called Rise Up Kings.

And it's basically ex-military people taking you through training, breaking

you, like literally just breaking you.

And they instilled the values of Christ, of religion, of turning to Lord.

And that sparked my curiosity again, because I was studying a lot of different

successful people in different industries.

I was realizing that there was one common theme everyone talked about

giving back and about faith in the Lord.

Hmm.

If everyone's talking about that, there must be a reason.

And although there's all different denominations, it seems like everyone

is pointing to a path, to a higher purpose, to a higher universe, to God.

And then I started reading the Bible and I started learning, oh my gosh, two

years ago, I wish I had this answer.

And then through the Bible I started understanding, okay, it's not that

we don't fall into temptations.

It's not that you build this on your own.

It's that, yes, we do have these, but if you put the Lord as your rock, as your

bed, as your foundation, and you seek him first, everything else will come.

He will fill you with the love.

He will take away your temptations.

He will build your business.

And the biggest thing that I learned is that we were building our

business, but it wasn't with a focus.

In religion on God, and we got to like these crazy heights.

looking back now, I would call ourselves arrogant.

And then what did it do?

What happened?

We got humbled.

We got humbled.

God said, no, no, no, no, what I believe.

And he brought us back.

And in that process, I remember there was a night that I was in a church

and I began to cry, to break down.

'cause I was just, my being, my soul was just hurting so much.

And I just realized in that moment, I'm like,

this all means nothing.

Like the love that I'm searching for, the answers that I have, Lord, I get

it from what I'm talking with you.

Like the, the peace that I have and I'm looking for, for a girlfriend,

for love, for parents, for love, for money, for validation, for all this

stuff when I want to die someday.

And then in that moment, it's crazy.

A lot of different friends, a lot of different people that

I met started coming together.

And the one common theme, we're all rooted in Christ, we're all rooted in the Lord.

We all have faith and we live by what we read by the word.

And it's just so beautiful how the more time goes on, the more that

relationship deepens, the more opportunities come and the easier it is.

So that's been my relationship with, with faith, and I never, I'm trying to

instill that in my family even more, because out of all people in my family,

I'm the most spiritual, religious.

But I love sharing that with people even in my generation, because when

I see someone get that connection.

Surrender and just the tears and the joy.

It makes me feel so much more at peace, so much more fulfilled and, and lively.

And I, I have a picture right up, right up here above my computer.

Every person that I look up to that I wanna become, like

that's the one thing that they have in common.

They all say, praise the Lord for my success.

that's good.

So you go from religion to relationship and you start making it personal.

I notice that trend with the people that I communicate with and interview.

It's like there's something that occurs goes from.

You know, something superficial, something, maybe they're

Yeah.

to something personal and the journey, it continues.

It's not a journey that ends or anything like that.

I actually believe it doesn't end as we, you know, move

from this realm to the other.

One of the

Yeah.

actually perceive,

Yeah.

I actually believe that one of the biggest challenges with all

generations, but especially yours, is this thing that we call social media.

Hmm.

ch it's, it's awesome and horrible at the same time.

Yeah.

lovely and just ugly at the same time.

You know, we're gonna finish up in just a couple minutes

Yeah.

attracting versus chasing.

let's talk a little bit about social media.

Oh, I love this.

find, see, I'm of the generation where we remember when, to say I

remember when there was no internet.

You know, I, I remember when Alexander Graham Bale in invented the phone.

No, I'm, I'm joking about that.

But, um, I did have a bag phone and a pager at one point early on in my life.

But, so social media like next level, soul test.

Oh yeah,

And it sounds like you were deep down into it, making money.

You were making it

yeah,

and then you weren't.

So what, tell me what that did for your soul and your mindset dealing with social

yeah.

as you were.

I'm an old soul, so I'm like, I'm really, it's weird 'cause I'm on social

media, but I'm the type of person to show off the phone, get outside.

Let's go for a walk.

Let's drive some quads.

Shoot some guns, whatever.

Let's just have a good time being together.

Let's go to the beach, have a walk.

I was so obsessed with social media two, three years ago that that was my life.

Like everything, and I was just focused straight up on, I want to make money

with, I wanna get views, I wanna do this.

And I achieved that, but I was so unfulfilled.

I'm gonna be honest with you.

Like, to me, none of that matters at all.

Like that's, it goes back into religion for me.

Like I'm trying to find validation.

I feel like a lot of kids my age are trying to find validation in posting

and what other people think getting my hair done and in my clothes and how

I'm speaking, what I'm saying on social media and posting these crazy videos that

grab guys' eyes and it sucks them in.

So I'll say this, social media.

Can be very bad and very good for how you use it.

Very bad in, in the frame of how your social media is programmed for you.

So is your feed showing you stupid stuff?

Just brain rotting stuff?

Is it showing you negative toxic things?

Because that subconsciously is going to get into your mind without you

realizing, and you're gonna realize why you have low energy, why you're

hanging around with bad people, why you're doing bad things, because

you're being, and this happened to me.

You're being programmed through social media for that.

You're consuming.

And then there's the other side of it where

the content that you're seeing is podcasts, is books.

It's how to structure business.

It's how to talk.

It's how to build confidence.

It's things like this that you're learning and you have

folders and you only go on for.

An hour, two hours at, at most, I wanna say an hour, 30

minutes to an hour at most.

And this is where discipline and the mindset comes in so hard.

if that hour ends, you're done, get off.

But then the same side to this is put out more than you take in.

So put out more value, push out, more value, don't get sucked in.

'cause these social media platforms are so specifically designed to hack our

brain to go into the subconscious where it's literally hypnosis that you're

just, you're in a different reality and this, this, you just, you get sucked in.

So that's what I always tell people is, number one, curate your

feeds on your social media to be productive, to be learning, to be

educating yourself and improving cut off at a, at a specific time gone.

And any other time that you go on social media.

It's to put out value, it's to communicate with the loved one, communicate with

a friend, make a plan, share a piece of content, bring in more eyeballs,

more engagement for your business to bring in more referrals And I think

this is so important, especially for anyone who's on social media that don't

fall into the trap that I was with.

I'm gonna get a million views, which yeah, I have a video that hit 10 million.

Like focus, if you're gonna do this on the engagement side, providing

value on connecting with other people.

Because I believe back in the day, that's what it is.

We thrived off of communication.

Don't use it on the negative brain rotting, toxic stuff that

90% of people do use it in the most productive way possible.

Yeah, it does have much power if we allow it to, and that's

kind of where mindset comes in.

I wanna ask one final thing because

yeah.

it was the thing I think, like I said earlier, that kind of drew me to you, and

it's the don't chase attract, statement.

the reason I believe it's important, I think Zach, I truly believe that it

probably took me till I was about 50 to 55 years old to truly grasp that.

And so it's fascinating to me.

I'm gonna ask you to talk about it here in our last few minutes.

talk about why it is that's become, foundational for you, how it's come about.

Do you think you've mastered it or are you still in the process?

That's a trick question by the way.

but talk about Don't chase, attract.

And then I'll have one more question or two

Yeah,

up.

so funny enough, this saying came

after a trip from Italy that I had and.

I'll share it because I think it could really help people out.

So I was on this, I was on a plane ride home from Italy, and there was this person

at the time that I really liked, right?

And I was coming back and I was getting over the high of being in Italy, being

with that person, being with my family.

And I started to get, I guess some people could call an anxiety attack on the plane.

And I'm like, why am I feeling this way?

Like, really searching.

Why am I feeling this way?

What's going on?

And I realized that I was chasing everything in my life up to that point.

Literally everything in my life I was chasing, okay, how do I make a next sale?

How do I bring in this money?

Okay, that girl looks cute, that girl.

Mm. Yeah.

Okay, let's, let's go after that.

Okay.

This business idea, e-comm, drop shipping, like scatterbrained

and I. Part of the time I wouldn't get ever.

The other time I would.

And when I get it again, I felt, I felt so unfulfilled and I wouldn't understand why.

And then it just clicked for me on that plane because

I'm like, what happens if I flip it?

What happens if I stop trying to chase other people, chase other things, and

I just go all in on myself because do I think I'm at my full potential?

No.

Do I know there's more things to, to learn and to become?

Yeah.

So what if I go all in on business, on mindset, on developing

myself, on my physique, and I create myself into this person

that always achieves a new level, that every month someone sees me, I'm at a

different height, I'm at a different level, and I'm able to bring that into

my family, create a better family, better relationships, better friendships, better

business, In the, the first saying on the on the plane was just to get this person

to like me back, to show me attention.

Because I'm like, if I can be here, then they're actually gonna show me attention.

'cause they'd be like, oh my gosh, who is that?

Like, I wanna be with him.

And it's funny enough that as time goes on, you mature more to now I'm

like, that doesn't even matter anymore.

All I know is that through this thing that everyone loves, don't

chase attract the whole meaning.

The whole purpose behind it is focus on developing you focus on becoming

a better person on learning, on understanding more about you, emotional

intelligence, business, whatever it is, so that you could be the best person

showing up each and every single day.

And when you do that, I believe things will be attracted to you.

God will see, okay, my humble servant, you just graduated to the

next level, now you're able to.

Go fight for and receive the next thing that I want you to have.

You stop worrying about what everyone else is thinking of you, and you

start focusing, Hey, I'm comfortable.

I'm confident in myself.

'cause I've developed that.

And because of that, not only will things come to you in the process,

but the right things will be attracted and come into your life.

And instead of chasing, which is to me scarcity, lack of abundance,

you're attracted and it's pulling.

It's like a magnet.

A magnet just pulls all the right things that are magnetically attracted to it.

it's like what I say, when someone walks in the room and they have that

energy, you're like, whoa, why is that?

Because they worked on themselves.

They worked on themselves, and they have that energy that pulls

in and they know who they are.

So if you don't like them respectfully, you have your own opinion.

But that doesn't matter because internally, I'm attract you.

I'm working on myself.

I know who I am and anyone that's in my circle, we go out, we're driven,

we're respectful, but we get it done.

And people just start attaching onto that saying, people start loving

that saying, and I wake up and I lived each day in that mindset.

Yeah, the great thing about it, I love that, by the way, is that the

way, this is some things I heard.

Maybe from my perspective is you control what you can control.

You can't control what other people do.

You really can't control the results.

In a lot of business settings, you can control your actions,

you can control your mindset.

You can control your input.

You cannot control.

I mean, that's some of the things I learned through my

Yeah,

doesn't mean we're, negative about it.

That doesn't mean we don't go through the motions of doing what we know could work.

yeah,

But sometimes stuff happens

yeah,

what I can do minute by minute, whatever.

And so that there's a word you brought up earlier.

I'm gonna tie it back together and then we're gonna

yeah,

here.

at peace.

If you're chasing stuff or trying to do things that you don't really have

control over, but you, you're trying to, will it to be whether or not

someone is interested in you on a plane.

It sounds like it was a female, whatever,

yeah.

but yeah,

Hm.

those things that I might've said it earlier, the less I think about it,

I might have, I might've been on an interview earlier that someone who's

interviewing me, the less I think about it, it's the more I've got.

It's odd.

Yeah,

it though, the less I have.

It's really weird.

So, um, what a great conversation.

Tell me and everyone else how they can connect with you.

yeah,

and tell 'em why they might connect with you.

You know, I know you, you're communicating with people, you're

doing podcasts and different things like that, but just what can you

offer somebody to reach out to you?

So the easiest way to connect is zach del mongo.com, which is just my

name with an A, not an I at the end.

People get that mixed up a lot.

And then I Instagram, that's my main platform.

Follow me there for more free content.

And also that's probably the best place to reach out to me.

And then

why follow?

Why follow along with the journey?

Well, we're in construction, so if you're an entrepreneur, if you're

building something, my dad and I have this Red Rock scaling where we

help young driven entrepreneurs that are in the family business, help

them scale their trades company.

And then also just for clarity, life coaching, whether you're in your 18 to

25 or maybe even a bit older, feeling lost, but you have that drive like you

know you're meant for something else and you're looking for that accountability.

You're looking for someone to be by your side to help you achieve that.

You're looking to get into a bigger group.

Message me.

I'd love to jump on a call with you, talk with you.

but yeah, I love dropping on calls with people, seeing how I can help them, and

literally changing their lives fast, easy, simple, and, and getting results.

Bam.

don't, don't, don't chase a track.

Yeah,

if there's someone maybe particularly younger who's like, still just like,

I don't know, they, they're just needing a word of encouragement.

yeah,

give ' em a quick burst of something.

Just, you know, just like I said, take 30 seconds or less to just give

yeah,

we jump off.

yeah.

All right.

Quick burst is if you woke up today, there's a reason.

There's a reason why you're here on Earth.

Don't focus on the things that you can't control.

Focus on what you can.

Focus on the good things that you have in life.

Figure out why you have them.

Any limiting beliefs that you might have.

Prove them wrong.

Why is that?

Where did that come from?

How is that wrong?

How is that not congruent by life?

Anything that you have, don't take too much time to think.

Idea, action.

Go surround yourself with people who you wanna be like, and go at it like

an animal with God on your back.

You got this.

We're here for you.

Get after it.

Awesome.

That might be our stinger clip.

And I almost, you almost lit into rapping or whatever, like spoken word stuff.

So Zach del Monaco, man, I'm glad we got to talk.

This was a lot of fun.

I enjoyed it.

I really recommend that if, you were just stirred to just reach

out to him, connect with him on

Yeah.

or go to his site or, you know, take him up on a phone

call or anything like that, I,

Yeah.

you to do that.

I actually want to give a shout out.

I was at a wedding this last weekend and had a guy, Stewart Thomason

come up and say, Tim, I have been listening to your podcast.

He's a young guy, Zach, and he might be the one you were speaking to.

So Stuart,

Heck yeah.

And, I think he's a second cousin of my wife or something, and he, he came up to

me and says, man, I'm a seek go creator.

I said, that's awesome.

Mm-hmm.

shout out to you.

Thank you, Zach.

We have new episodes every Monday.

We are seek, go create and we'll see everybody next time.