Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host Aurora, certified life coach and companion on this

beautiful journey called life. Thank you so much for being here

and spending some time with me. I love

being here. And hopefully, I can bring value into your life and

hope and love reflection inside and help you to connect to

yourself on a deeper level. Because the better we know

ourselves, the better decisions we're going to make in the

future, the happier with becoming. And happy, strong and

the video is a person who enlightens and inspires others.

And I feel we all have that kind of potential. So if I can be a

little stepping stone on supporting you on your journey

and helping you become your strongest version, then yeah, I

would feel totally honored. Today I'm going to talk about

your normal.

What is your normal?

And once we know what our normal is, I feel it is incredibly

important to do an inventory check. So to say to question, Is

that normal? Are those habits, the way we think the way we

engage with others? The way we go about our life in general?

Is that serving us on our path? Or could we make little

adjustments and changes, sometimes little changes,

sometimes radical changes. But it is very important to hold on

at times to make some space and time. And to check in with

yourself. And this is what I'm here to do for myself but also

with you today. It is fall season. The days are getting

shorter, it is cold and windy outside at least here. And

nature gives us basically the time to reflect and to slow down

a little bit right now before the Christmas craze.

I'm not very enthused about the Christmas craziness. It's part

of our lives here in the Western world. And I feel if you are

very,

you know engaged and active during Christmas, it is even

more important to make some time right now and to see if your

compass is calibrated for you to become your strongest version

and your happiest self.

So if you look at your daily life, if you look at your little

habits, you probably got really used to brushing your teeth a

certain way you got used to drinking a certain amount of

water maybe or eating certain foods, playing games and

hobbies, going to work

having very specific

interactions with people. Maybe it's always the same people that

you interact with.

Maybe it's always the similar conversations that you have with

these people.

What about your sleeping pattern? What is normal to you

when you sleep? Are five to six hours normal to you? Is that

eight to nine hours? Is it interrupted sleep? Or do you

sleep through the night?

How do you interact with your pets?

What about your children if you have any?

Right we we are animals of habit. We love our little

habits. We love our rituals.

But it is really important to question them at times because

if we engage in these rituals and habits because of the wrong

reasons, because our parents have done and grandparents are

because we because we have done them for so long.

That's not a good enough reason. So question your little habits?

What is your normal? What is the box you live in? And when I say

the box, I'm gonna say,

your identity, right? We all perceive ourselves a certain way

and behave a certain way.

And if we could just sit there and drop the walls of that box

for a second and see, what do we want our identity to be made up?

What kind of person do we want to be in this world?

What kind of thoughts do we want to sink? What kind of feelings

do we want to feel?

I know a couple of people who got so used to a very stressful,

fast paced life,

that their nervous system is so used to stress

and speed that when they go on a holiday, when they allow

themselves to relax, they get sick.

Because their body is not used to

being relaxed.

What kind of pace Do you like?

What kind of pace is actually true or to yourself?

I use spreading yourself thin when it comes to socializing.

When it comes to social gatherings when it comes to

interacting with your friends, maybe acquaintances?

What about your household?

Is there a certain messiness that is normal to you?

And is your space full of clutter? That is normal to you?

Or could you actually let go a little bit more of stuff? And

yeah, you got used to that stuff. But can you also see that

if you were to make space

that you would make room for novelty.

Our physical space and environment deeply affects our

mental health,

or my emotional health.

And sometimes, if we go through old pictures, old stuff.

We realize we're clinging on to these things because of some

emotional reasons, but they don't really make us feel good

anymore.

When it comes to your conversations, what is normal

there?

A very, very interesting thing I have observed in recent years

is, the more I work on myself, the more I become true and real

with myself,

the more my interaction with people change. And even to a

point that a couple years ago, I was the one running after

people, you know, always playing the active part of getting

together and organizing trips or events, or whatever it is. And I

realized I was doing that for the wrong reasons I was doing

that because I thought otherwise I'm not worthy. Otherwise,

people wouldn't reach out to me because

I have to run after people to stay in touch.

And with becoming more at peace with who I am, and embracing my

winners and my goodness and my darkness as a whole.

I, in very unconscious ways started to communicating

differently.

And the people around me would notice that and also

unconsciously start to behave differently as well and

communicate differently.

So it's very interesting to notice like, why are you doing

the things you're doing?

Why are you reaching out to that friend? Why are you not reaching

out to one of your parents? What is behind what can be resolved

what can be the possible maybe

At first uncomfortable conversations, you could have to

change our relationship dynamic. Because maybe the normal you

living in right now, is not that great. It's a compromise. It's

you avoiding, it's you still being resentful.

It is important to ask yourself these questions.

Because I don't want you to lay on your deathbed and

to feel regret.

I want you to have your best life possible. And to have that,

I believe, we have to ask these questions. And we have to get

out of autopilot mode and

check in with ourselves with our relationships.

And you'd be surprised that once you make changes that involve

other people, every change, no matter if it involves other

people or not, will affect other people. But the changes you make

that directly instantly affect other people

are going to be for the most part beautiful changes.

You will be able to release anger or resentment you will be

able to communicate clearly

to resolve

to have insights about another party's stance.

And this is how we can hear relationships or let them

further goal but with being at peace with ourselves and the

other person.

All right. I'm gonna leave you with that.

Stay connected.

And reach out if you have questions or if you have any

requests when it comes to Episode topics. And if you feel

you are ready to engage in a journey,

a feeling of growth if you want to explore your full potential.

Don't hold back and message me and we could set up a 20 minute

sync up call for instance and see how I could help you.

Alright, I'm gonna leave you with that. take really good care