When you are constrained from within by disciplining yourself to live by

priority, you don't have to be constrained without.

And so the true freedom is the ability to have self-discipline and

self-governance in the executive function of the forebrain and have foresight

and become a leader instead of a follower. The keys

to an extraordinary mental wellbeing.

And so if you have something to write with and write on,

that would probably be to your advantage.

I want to do a two way presentation today.

I'll talk kind of a top down approach and a bottom up approach.

I'll start with a bottom up approach first.

Whenever we walk through our day and we

perceive somebody or something around us,

above us or below us,

in other words we look up to them or look down on them,

and we infatuate with them or resent them,

or are attracted to them and or repulsed from them,

and we imagine them greater than us or lesser than us,

we in turn do the opposite within ourself.

So if we exaggerate them, we minimize ourself, relative to them,

by the law of contrast. Wilhelm Wundt,

psychologist over a hundred and something years ago,

stated this contrasting mechanism, that we have our perceptions are contrastive.

If we put somebody down, we exaggerate ourselves.

So anytime we infatuate with somebody or look up to them or admire

them or are attracted to them, we have a tendency to,

in comparison to do the opposite.

If we are conscious of their upsides,

we become unconscious of their downsides. And then in return,

we become conscious of our downsides and unconscious of our upsides.

If we are looking down on them and resent them,

we're conscious of their downsides and unconscious of their upsides.

And we end up being conscious of our upsides and unconscious of our downsides.

So if we elevate them and minimize ourselves, we go into sort of a shame.

And if we minimize them and exaggerate ourselves, we go into a pride.

When we're proud or shame, we're not being authentic.

And when we infatuate with them or resent them,

we're not seeing them as they are. We have a subjective bias.

Anytime we have a subjective bias on things around us,

we end up with a subjective bias within us,

and that causes a skewed or distorted reality.

It's literally a distorted reality about life, about ourselves and others.

And we're inauthentic and we're actually projecting false realities about

individuals.

So if we walk in a mall and we perceive somebody that they're more intelligent

than us, or more successful than us, or more wealthy than us,

or they're more stable in their relationship than us,

or more leadership influential than us,

or more physically fit than us, or somehow more spiritually aware than us,

we'll shrink and we'll have a dysmorphia,

a distorted view of our own physiology and psychology.

And if we go in the same mall and we look down on somebody and think they're

less intelligent than us, idiots,

less successful than us, failures, less wealthier than us,

impoverished, et cetera.

We also have a dysmorphia where we exaggerate ourselves.

And any time we exaggerate or minimize ourselves, we're not being ourselves.

We want to be loved for who we are,

but we're not going to be loved for who we are when we're not being who we are.

How can anybody even love us for who we are when we're not even being who we

are, so we exaggerate or minimize ourselves. Now,

every time we do this and we exaggerate somebody else and infatuate with them

and minimize us, we distort our neurochemistry,

all the little signal molecules that go between cells in our body and

particularly through the nervous system and hormonal system and the glands,

these throw these chemistries out,

based on the ratios of perceptions. So let me give you an example.

If I ask somebody,

I teach a program called the Breakthrough Experience and in the Breakthrough

Experience,

sometimes people come in there and have somebody that they're highly resentful

to, and we show them how to dissolve that with the Demartini Method.

But when they start, they could write down 15 negatives about this person,

real hate this person. And then I ask them, what are the upsides to them?

They're conscious of the downsides. 50 of them.

They can list all the things they despise about him.

But when I ask them what's the upside to them, they put maybe 5 or maybe 8.

If the ratio is five or 10 or 7 times more negatives

than positives, that's a ratio of perception.

And I could also have somebody that they're highly infatuated with and they

can't see any downsides to it.

And so now they have a ratio of six positives for every negative one.

Whenever they have these imbalanced ratios,

those imbalanced ratios alter neurochemistry and

but all cellular chemistry,

every cell communicates with other cells by little bio-molecules,

signal molecules, morphogens,

triggering other reactions in other cells. And the endocrine system

and the nervous system are specialized forms of these signal molecules.

But each of these molecules, transmitters, modulators hormones,

neuro regulators, are based on the ratios of these perceptions.

So if you take a top or bottom down, bottom up approach,

you can change your perceptions and change your neurochemistry,

change your biochemistry, change your hormone structures.

And that's why if we get highly resentful to somebody,

our testosterone can elevate. Our cortisol can elevate.

Our norepinephrine can elevate. Osteocalcin can elevate.

Substance P can elevate. And oxytocin, vasopressin,

serotonin, and dopamine, estrogen will fall,

based on the ratios of perception. In fact,

we could even go as far as saying that every one of the transmitters and

regulators and hormones and signal molecules in the

of perceptions that we're holding in our actively engaged judgments

and stored in our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind stores,

all previous conscious unconscious judgment splits that have not been

balanced.

It stores it and stores it in the form of impulses or instincts based on

the ratios.

And so we are literally store our in our subconscious mind,

these impulses and instincts from previous pleasures or pains that we now

impose on new information that comes in that we're actively engaged in judging.

And that creates in a sense,

a perception on top of this receptivity that we have when we judge.

So what we do is we alter our chemistry as a result of our altering of our

perceptions. If we change the ratios of those perceptions,

we change our chemistry.

When you go and you hear about depression as an imbalanced chemistry,

that's a pharmaceutical promotional mechanism to make you think that, well,

you don't have any power to change that yourself so we need some sort of outside

chemistry to change it. I'm not saying that it doesn't have a place,

it's just not the first line of reasoning. If you, all of a sudden,

we're sitting in a room and all of a sudden a tiger jumped in the room and

started to put it's jaws around your neck.

And you looked around right at the last minute and the tiger was about to eat

you. If we did a blood chemistry and neurochemistry on you,

your cortisol would be off the roof, your testosterone be ready to go.

Your norepinephrine would be skyrocketing.

You would be ready to fight or flight or run or whatever, or freeze.

If you thought you couldn't do anything.

And all of a sudden estrogen and all that, they would calm down.

They would just come right down and plummet. And so you go, 'Oh,

I got a biochemical imbalance.' No you've got a perception right there that's

active, that's causing those changes and the changes in 200 milliseconds,

these chemistries change.

And then what happens is we store that in our subconscious mind,

if we never balance it and never go back and balance out that perception.

Every imbalanced perception is stored in the subconscious mind and there's a

skewing our chemistries in our brain.

And we don't get told that. We get told, you have an imbalanced chemistry,

but why, why is that happening?

It's not just out of the blue it gets imbalanced.

We've got incredible homeostatic mechanisms in the brain for balancing

electrochemistry, balancing neuro hormones and regulators and everything else,

unbelievable amount of homeostatic mechanisms,

but we keep perturbing it by holding on and storing in our

subconscious mind or our active judgments these ratios of perceptions that are

skewed and perturbing our chemistry constantly.

So if we don't take the time to neutralize that perception and don't neutralize

the chemistry, those chemistries affect physiology, epigenetics,

the plasticity in the brain,

and automatically eventually causes illness.

And illness is a feedback mechanism to let us know that we're storing in our

subconscious mind, imbalanced perceptions.

And it's trying to wake us up if it's interpreted properly and how to balance

it. So our mental wellbeing,

the keys to mental wellbeing is the ability to bring our perceptions back into

balance. We don't have control of the chemistry directly.

We have control of the chemistry through changing our ratios of perception.

We have control of our perceptions, decisions, and actions in life.

Change our actions, we change our neurochemistry, change our perceptions,

we change our neurochemistry. If we don't take command of that,

we end up at the pharmaceutical company depending on some chemistry.

And that is not the first choice as I said.

So anytime we are infatuated with somebody and we got skewed chemistries,

if we don't go in there and find the downsides to the thing we're infatuated

with, it will be stored in there.

And let's say we get into a relationship and we're highly infatuated with them,

we have a fatal attraction,

and then three or four months later we find out they're not who we thought,

we were blindsided by what we were ignorant of in the unconscious.

And then we get slammed by this other side that we didn't anticipate.

And now we resent them.

And we had this infatuation for a while that was throwing our chemistry off.

And now we have this resentment.

While we were infatuated we couldn't see the downsides.

Now that we're resentful, we can't even see the upsides.

So these are constantly skewing it.

And so if we end up with this resentment on them and we want to avoid them and

not want to see them again, we're going,

'I don't want to deal with people like that',

the next time we're in a relationship we see somebody that's got the same color

hair or dress the same or the same perfume or something,

it can remind us of that and skew up the subconscious mind to throw those

chemistries off.

And we're constantly being bombarded by stimuli to remind us of things that

we've never balanced. And we add to the imbalanced chemistry,

that then we go in and say, well, you have a problem, you need a drug. No,

you need to go back and be accountable.

Accountable means to be able to bring your perceptions into counting and

balancing them out. So in the Breakthrough Experience,

which I've been teaching 32 years,

I developed a methodology called the Demartini Method,

which is a methodical science reproducible duplicatable system to ask

questions,

to be cognizant of what you were unconscious of to

to balance out the chemistry to liberate yourself from grief and the

depressions and frustrations and fantasies and nightmares and

anxieties,

and all the things that distract you from being present and empowered.

Because if you don't have command over those in your own life,

and you keep expecting somebody out there to rescue you,

or keep some pill for every ill to take care of you,

you're disempowered in comparison to what you're capable of. Now,

I want to go into them, and that's the bottom up approach.

But I want to now take it from the, a little bit different,

from the top-down approach. We live by a set of priorities in life,

a set of values that are unique to us. Whenever we live by our highest values,

whatever's most important, most priority in our life,

the thing that fulfills our life the most,

the thing that we spontaneously can't wait to get up in the morning and do we

do, the blood glucose and oxygen goes into the forebrain.

When we live by lower values and feel like we're putting out fires and never

getting around to what's really important to us.

'Wow, what a day? What a hell of a day.'.

We automatically are in our lower values and we automatically get our blood

glucose and oxygen into our hindbrain. A hindbrain is for hindsight,

and it learns by trial and error, which is inefficient.

And the forebrain is for foresight to be able to anticipate things,

mitigate risk, and be able to bring yourself into objectivity.

When you go into the forebrain and you're living by priority and you get

objective, you get balanced, you look for both sides, you embrace both sides.

You're more aware of both sides and you respond, prepare for both sides.

If you're in a relationship with someone and you're infatuated them,

you're blind to the downsides, you have a fantasy.

And then when they turn into the opposite, you now have a nightmare.

But when you have objectivity,

you see both sides and ask the questions to reveal the unconscious so you're

fully conscious. So you can see both sides and keep an objective view.

When you do, you're less polarized when you're less polarized,

you have more resilience, more adaptability, because when you're neutral,

you don't fear the loss of that, which you seek the fantasy, the infatuation,

and you don't fear the gain of the resentment,

the nightmare that you've created in your mind.

So you're not sitting there in fear of loss of that which you seek,

or the fear of gain of that what you're trying to avoid,

you're just feeling present.

So if you live by the highest priority actions and live by and fill your day

with the highest priority actions on a daily basis,

you automatically increase resilience, increase adaptability,

and go into your executive function.

And your executive function is responsible for inspired vision,

strategic planning, executing plans, and self-governance.

And the way it does it is it takes the forebrain and it goes down

into the amygdala, which is the impulse and instinct center,

and it calms it down by regulating glutamate,

which is a stimulant during the day and GABA, which is an inhibitor at night,

and regulates the facilitation and inhibition and calms

infatuation,

resentment that cause all the polarization and skewed views of reality,

which causes imbalanced chemistry.

So one of the most powerful ways of keeping yourself

priority.

The nether way is to go in when you have had distortions and you haven't gone

back and neutralized them,

using the Demartini Method from the Breakthrough Experience,

is a very powerful tool on taking methodically one by one,

every one of those imbalances and neutralizing them one by one.

The moment you neutralize all that subconscious baggage,

you get to live a super conscious life.

And a superconscious life is one that's in a sense poised and present and

purposeful and prioritized. You know, when you're living by your highest value,

you're living purposefully. When you're living purposefully, you're prioritized.

And when you're going basically going into something that's productive and

something that's poised, that's where you live the most empowered life.

So prioritizing your life and then doing the Demartini Method on the

subconscious baggage can transform your perceptions in life.

And it's not what happens out there. You know, people come up in the last year,

they say, 'well, you know, corona has done this to me.' No, it hasn't.

Your perceptions of corona has done things to you.

And you have control of your perceptions. You can make it a Saint Corona,

you can make it an evil thing. If you turn it into an opportunity,

you turn it into growth factor. We have amazing resilience,

amazing adaptability to whatever happens to us, if we have the right attitude.

William James said that the greatest discovery of his

can alter their lives by altering their perceptions and attitudes of mind.

And that's true.

We can take command of our perceptions and take command of our actions and

prioritize our actions and prioritize our perceptions.

The way you prioritize your perception is you take whatever's happened and ask,

whatever you think is challenging or negative or whatever,

how's it serving my highest value?

How's it helping me fulfill what's most meaningful to me?

In the Breakthrough Experience I take things that you've resented,

things that you've got, you would never want to go through again,

and I help you find out the upsides, the benefits to it,

and allow you to see how it's helping you get what you want.

So that way it doesn't matter what goes on out there,

you know how to take command of perceiving it in such a way that you win.

And when you realize that that's your power,

then instead of going to a pharmaceutical thing,

to try to get a gloomy dooming mood into something that's elevated and then have

side effects, because every drug has its side effects,

you can normalize your own physiology without the side effects.

Instead of having to go in there and,

because the brain is automatically trying to neutralize it.

What happens is we automatically are unconscious of things.

One of the greatest things we want, and we talk about mindfulness today,

that's a big, common word that's out there in the field.

But mindfulness is full consciousness.

When you're conscious of something that you're infatuated with and unconscious

of the downside, you're not mindful. You're half mindful.

When you're conscious of the downsides, unconscious of the upsides,

you're not mindful. You're half mindful.

But when you're seeing both sides and you're fully conscious, you are mindful.

And when full consciousness occurs,

that's because our intuition is trying to wake us up to the unconscious

information to balance it.

So the intuition is trying to whisper awareness to you of what you're blind

to. So if you're infatuated,

your intuition is trying to point out the downsides.

When you're resentful it's trying to point out the meaning and purpose and why

there's upsides to it.

If you're strong enough to listen to the intuition and you ask questions that

strengthen your intuition, which is what the Demartini Method is,

you wake up full mindful - mindfulness. And that liberates you,

instead of being in bondage. The Buddhists say that the desire for that,

which is unavailable, the impulses that you're infatuated with,

and the desire for that which is unavoidable,

the nightmares that you're trying to avoid, is a source of human suffering.

So as long as we're sitting there, our physiology is going to create illness.

Now, what happens is when we get these neurochemistries imbalanced,

and biochemistries imbalanced,

we create what is called an epigenetic alteration in the expression of genes and

protein manufacturing, which is enzymes and structural protein,

which creates symptomatology in the body and the body's symptoms are feedback to

us to try to get us to back in balance.

In other words when we're perceiving more drawbacks than benefits to something,

it activates the sympathetic nervous system, that causes oxidation,

so epigenetically it creates acetal mechanisms in

order to neutralize the oxidation with a reduction. And if you're basically

infatuated with something and you get the parasympathetic nervous system on,

the parasympathetic nervous system causes reduction and calming mechanisms like

for sleep, and what happens then it creates methylation,

which is the other side of the equation. So when you do one,

you create a reduction. In the other side, you create an oxidation.

And as a result of it,

you neutralize the chemistries in the brain to try to bring you back into

balance. So if you get sympathetic activation, you

a reduction mechanism, which is basically hydrogenation. And if not,

you get the acetylation over on the reduction side.

So you get neutral automatically in the chemistry and the brain is trying to

neutralize it all times.

So if we don't neutralize our perceptions,

we keep perturbing and imbalanced out our chemistries,

which then put epigenetics, which then creates symptoms,

which then we call illness.

And the illness is a feedback to try to get us back to wellness.

If we don't know how to interpret it, our applied physiology,

and we just take the pill and suppress the symptom,

we don't get the message behind it,

we don't take accountability of our perceptions,

we then basically go down a loop and ignoring what our physiology is trying to

do. I've been spending the last 40 something years, 43 years of my life,

trying to educate people on what their physiology is trying to reveal to them.

So they don't have to go the other route. I'm not a guy,

I'm not the person who has been taking drugs, and, you know, not a drug guy,

I don't take aspirins and drugs and things like that for 48 years.

Because I drink water and I eat well,

and I've used my body to guide me to live wisely.

And I end up with more energy and more vitality and more clarity than most

people, only because I've used my physiology as a feedback.

I've used the Demartini Method as a neutralizer,

and I've got clearer mission in my purpose because I live by highest priorities

and delegate lower priority things. As a result of that,

you have unbelievable amount of energy,

unbelievable amount of focus and inspiration.

So if you want to master your life,

just know your physiology is trying to help you do it.

And the keys to balancing out our physiology and psychology

and wellness is to know how to ask questions to ourselves,

to make us conscious of the unconscious, to make us fully conscious,

to see both sides,

which is what the Demartini Method is that I teach in the Breakthrough

Experience, and the value applications, which is on my website,

doing the value determination process of determining what's really priority and

really important to you and stick to the highest priority.

The moment you stick to high priority, your chemistry returns to normal,

It helps you heal.

I always say that your purpose in life is the most efficient and effective

pathway to fulfill the greatest amount of voids,

which are the unconscious components, with the greatest amount of value.

So when you live by priority and you use the Demartini Method,

it liberates you from tremendous amount out of emotional baggage and liberates

you to have more freedom in life to do what you really love to do.

When you are constrained from within by disciplining yourself to live by

priority, you don't have to be constrained without.

And so the true freedom is the ability to have self-discipline and

self-governance in the executive function of the forebrain and have foresight

and become a leader instead of a follower,

reacting as an automaton and conforming and subordinating to the outer world,

because you feel disempowered because everything is,

the skewed ratios of perception. When you balance the ratios of your perception,

you liberate yourself to do something extraordinary.

So I just wanted to take a few moments to go through this on the keys to

wellness and wellbeing here.

And how mental wellbeing is really a feedback mechanism and how to use it

wisely. So when you balance out the ratios to perception with the method,

or when you get focused on priority, you have governance,

you are able to do extraordinary things with your physiology.

I think that's what we're designed to do,

I believe that every symptom in every area of life, our mental symptoms,

business symptoms, financial symptoms, social symptoms,

all those are because of emotional imbalances.

Until you can manage your emotions, don't expect to manage money,

don't expect to manage relationships,

don't expect to manage anything in your life. In fact, you can't manage,

anything you infatuate or resent is going to occupy space and time in your mind

and run you. It's the things that you balance that you get to run.

So if you're ready to go in balance your life, learn the method,

come to the Breakthrough Experience, come learn and do the Demartini Method.

Go online and do the Value Determination process. Start to live by priorities,

take advantage of these little webinars to stimulate you,

to remind you of the basic things,

grab whatever information you can that can help you along that way.

And join us for the other webinars we do,

the podcast we do, and, and just take advantage of this information,

because I'm certain, I've been doing this 48 years of teaching,

I'm certain that this information will be valuable if you just apply it in your

life. So that's the message today on wellbeing.

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