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well. Thank you so much for listening. Here we go. Today I

want to talk about comparing and jealousy and insecurities. a

dear friend of mine I will not mention his name because maybe

he doesn't want that. He lives in California and grows avocados

posted a picture of himself on Instagram a couple of days ago.

And it was very, very, like awesome to see him and to read

his comment. And it was a very vulnerable comment. And he was

very open about how and secure he used to feel about his body

and stuff. And it just blew me off my chair. Because this guy's

so yeah, handsome and comes across as very secure. And then

to know that he's struggling with not feeling perfect and not

feeling. Yeah, as handsome as he looks like. It's just very, very

astonishing to me. And this happens all the time. Like as

soon as I scratch a little more on the surface. The people I

know. And the people are very handsome and beautiful and video

strong individuals. And you find out they don't really like

themselves. They don't really cheer for themselves. And they

Yeah, don't enjoy how they look. And locks are so important

nowadays. It's incredible. It's it's, yeah, even very sad how

locks become important in our society. When you look at

Instagram and Facebook and Hollywood and magazines and

everything. And there's this all the time. Like your ego can feel

at threat, if you say that in English can feel threatened and

wants to compare itself. And as I said just now it is your ego,

your part of yourself that is always in competition with

others that is always protecting and trying to serve you as best

as it can. But it usually fails because comparison and jealousy

drives us apart instead of bringing us together. So we end

up being lonely with our jealousy and our comparisons and

insecurities because we don't share it with people. And we

start believing them and it's kind of a vicious cycle. That

was that's why it was so incredibly beautiful to read

this about my friend because I had no idea about this and it

just

yeah, makes me wonder how much how many more people out there.

So be Beautiful during such awesome things, and not knowing

how amazing and important they are in our community on our

planet. So what is it about comparing and, and jealousy? I

think it's a natural thing that we do. But I think we can also

learn to guide our monkey mind or ego into more quieter, calmer

waters. So next time you notice you being jealous, I want you to

sink. So let's think it's another person, right? I want

you to think that, yeah, this other person might be more

successful on uncertain levels might look pretty, my hat might

have a little more money and stuff. And now observe your

monkey mind, observe what it says it says right away, or

she's got an easy and her life. And she probably inherited all

the money from her parents. She's probably a lazy one, and

has all the time and this world to take care of her physical

appearance, blah, blah, blah, you probably know how that goes.

So next time you catch yourself doing that, I want you to know

that you can change that story about that other person, and it

will not only make the relationship between you and

that other person better. Like even though we sometimes don't

have a relationship with people, we're not what people were

jealous about. But it doesn't matter, we're all connected. And

if we can start sending good energy to people that we are

even feeling a little jealous about, it will change the way

you feel about yourself, too. So next time you see that

beautiful, successful person, I want you to know, I want you to

tell yourself that that person had to struggle so hard and

focus so hard to get where he or she is right now. And that

beauty, yeah, you will always see the external features that

you might not have. But the real beauty, the radiation, the

radiant part of the beauty, I mean, is the comfort and the

confidence and the goodness that they feel, because they might be

doing good out there and supporting other people. And

they might feel awesome and healthy, because they take the

time to invest in their health. And being healthy will result in

looking beautiful. Now when it comes to weight loss, I also

want you to know that if you are a person that is more anxious,

regretful cleany attached, lives more in the past than in the

moment or in the future, then those people and I include

myself to those people tend to gain more weight, or have a

harder time to lose weight. Because on an emotional level,

your body is in protection mode, you want to experience pain in

the past, you still regret stuff. And for the future for

the present, your soul or your being wants to protect you from

that because you're such an intense feeler.

So of course, on a physical level, then you will have more

fat, storing around your hips, around your chest, around your

thighs, because on an energetic level, you are trying to protect

yourself and clinging on to old past situations that are still

influencing you to this day. Resentment maybe towards a

parent or a friend or an ex partner. Those emotional states

those mental states will not allow you to lose weight easily.

Again, because on an energetical level, your body your chemistry

is being told. We need to protect ourselves. So those

people that we look at and they're so beautiful and so

healthy. Trust me, those people put a lot of energy in their

health. And of course there's people who go Under and have

surgery and stuff, but I don't talk about those people. I talk

about the other beautiful people I talk about the people who are

able to let go of resentment of regret, who are in full

acceptance of themselves and embrace their flaws are aware of

their communication. Those people are the people that we

look at and feel so beautiful and so successful. But they had

to work so hard to get there. They didn't get it for free. And

you can get there too, you can do the work and be that

beautiful, successful person out there. We all can be, we just

have to believe in us and ourselves. By English really

sucks today. Excuse the MA. And we have to be aware of the work

that we want to do in order to liberate ourselves and to get

rid of those extra pounds. So, next time you're jealous, please

know that this person is good. It will make you aware of your

monkey mind. And it will maybe make you aware that you could do

a little more for your health. Or you could do a little more

for your mental health and meditate a little more. listen

more to my podcast here and come back to your center come back to

your heart. And then you will feel better about yourself and

less jealous about others and he will tend to compare yourself

less to other people and just enjoy other people's success and

see it as inspiration instead of a threat.

Thank you so so much for listening to the Borealis

experience today. I'm your host Aurora and I will be back out

there for you very soon again. Take care. Also today's World

Water Day soldering lots of water and appreciate all the

running fresh, drinkable water that is around you never take it