The work needs to be done, but when two people

do it, it lessens the load. No matter how we get to

that destination, as long as we arrive together, that's

what matters. When we stop operating from a place of guilt and

shame and lack of, and just live in a place of love,

we just have so much more to give. When we fill up our

cups, we can overflow them into our children and

into our businesses. Not only just filling up a cup

for ourselves, but filling a cup for the collective. Welcome

to Krystal Rowe Impact, a space dedicated to

empowering you to be the change that your bloodline has been waiting

for. Join me and together, let's inspire change. Welcome

to the Krystal Rowe Impact Podcast. And today's episode

is about nurturing relationships in entrepreneurship. So

today I'm going to share with you about when TJ

and I first got together and the power of

the choices we made. So

both single parents with lots of kids. Um,

at the time I had six kids at home and

TJ had eight and we were

both busy full-time parents running

businesses and we fell in

love and we fell for each other really,

really quickly. And one thing that

we sort of realized was that The

most important thing for us was our family, for our children. And

we had made such extreme sacrifices to keep

our families together. And if we wanted

to be together, we were going to have to blend them. And

as crazy as that sounds, blending, what

was it, 14 kids under the one roof, was

going to take some commitment. It was going to take some planning. And

we had to really realise if this was

exactly what we wanted. And in order for that to

happen, we actually took time to go

away. We got a little eco-cabin up

in Mullaney and we spent two days looking

through our lives, figuring out exactly what

it would look like if we were together. And

it's a 100% team effort. We have to

be committed. We had to work out how

everybody would feel, the dynamics, the energies,

what he was bringing to the table, what I was bringing to the

table, how we could actually create

a beautiful home and family for everybody. And

sometimes it doesn't always work out that way. Sometimes we

wake up and one of us is extremely tired.

And a beautiful tool that we use, I actually seen

this statement that it is a 100% team effort. And

some days you can only give 30%. And... that's

when the other person steps in with that other 70. And it's actually really,

really beautiful because we are a team. It's

not 200% in life. It's 100% collectively.

And so when we can't emotionally or

energetically, physically bring to the table everything

that we need, we turn to each other and say,

today I'm only feeling 30%. And

the beautiful thing is you get to be the one that says, I got

you. And probably if

I'm being honest, there's more times that TJ says to me, I've

got you with his 70% to carry

us through. But when we have that

open communication and we consider the

other person and really understand, you know, what's

going on for them? Why do they only have 30%? Is

it that they've got a sore back or is it that

time of the month or is it an

emotional attachment somewhere else or a memory or

a grievance? And when we can effectively communicate

to each other, we are able to be

able to have grace and compassion and kindness.

And it's easy to step up and go, yeah, I've got you.

I've got that 70%. Let's go. What are we on? Where

are we going? What are we doing? And it's not about like, I've

got to carry the load. I'm doing all the work again. It's

not about that because it's about getting to that

100%. And most of the time we beautifully work

together and equally share the load. But

the beautiful thing about living in harmony with

each other is that open communication. When

we share the same values and the same goals, no

matter how we get to that destination, as

long as we arrive together, that's what

matters. When we nurture our

relationship, our personal relationship, it

actually gives us time to be able to

invest into our goals. into

our business ambitions and what we aspire to

become. And it allows us to support

each other in achieving that because the

work needs to be done. But when two people

do it, it lessens the load. And it's such

a privilege to be in a nurturing relationship. And

I love to be able to share and to show

people that you can actually figure

out this thing called life. You can set

boundaries and put those in place and have non-negotiables

that you will and that you won't accept in your life. And

as long as you're on the same page together, you really

can achieve anything. Again, the things that

TJ and I have actually accomplished in such a

short time of coming together and realizing

that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together and the commitment and

getting married and actually starting new businesses and

building businesses is profound. It's actually

unbelievable the milestones that we

have reached and the goals that we have

achieved. But one of the things that we

realized And I'm so grateful that we realized

it early on in our relationship was that we needed time

for each other. We needed to make time

to prioritize not only breaks within our

work schedule, but breaks away from our crazy

and hectic lifestyle. It's not that we couldn't cope, but

we were able to always come back fresher and more

focused and more driven and more We

had more capacity. When we fill up

our cups, we can overflow them into our

children and into our businesses. Not only just

filling up a cup for ourselves, but

filling a cup for the collective. And that's, that's

an awesome thing to be able to realize that we are not

just one person. We are a collective, we are

a partnership, we are a team. And when we

realize the importance of nurturing each other.

It's a game changer because you're not only focused on

you, you're focused on the other person. And when you care

about somebody so much, you want them to be the best version of

themselves and you will do whatever you can do at whatever cost

to make sure that they achieve, that

they are happy, that they feel loved. Because

when we're not operating from a place of love and success,

We fall short because then we're striving for more, we start

looking in other directions. But if you're getting everything

that you need from the home, from your partner. It's

a really beautiful place to be. It's a place of

accomplishment. And I think one of the

points that I try and focus on and

try and project within Heritage Impact is that

if you didn't grow up receiving relationships like

that, you can actually create it by shifting through

some of the limiting beliefs or the

worthiness or the lack of. Because when

we stop operating from a place of guilt and

shame and lack of, and just live

in a place of love, we just have so much more to

give. And I truly believe that we

all have a special gift inside of

us that is love. And

we are human beings and we're designed to give love

and to receive love. So

when you make it a priority to nurture your

relationship, it comes back tenfold. When

you show up for the people that you love the most and

you make them a priority, you're putting yourself

first as well. You put them first, you put you

first, and you all win. In summary, nurturing

relationships create a sense

of fulfillment and belonging. Feeling connected to

your partner on a deeper level gives you a sense of stability

and ultimately that creates confidence. So if

I can encourage you to do one thing in your

relationship is to not take your partner for granted.

To value them, to appreciate them, to

acknowledge them and to simply love them. Thank

you for listening to my podcast today. And if

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