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I am so happy you are all here.

I am delighted to welcome back a dear friend of mine and a brilliant coach, Candy Motzek.

And we have had lots of really, really interesting conversations over time, and a lot of them lead back to listening.

And so I'm going to pose a question to everyone listening.

How would your relationships change if you listened more and talked less?

And I just want you to think about that for a moment.

And, Candy, I wonder if you could jump in because you have so many brilliant thoughts about this that you.

That you've shared over time.

But we've had such interesting conversations that are kind of, you know, not your typical.

Well, this is what you need to do.

One, two, three.

Right.

It's the kind of thinking I don't want to say out of the box, because that's such an overused term, but that just like seeing the corners that not you don't see yourself.

Right.

So would love to hear your thoughts on this.

Yeah.

And so I think that listening is one of the things that we can completely transform our relationships with.

I know that it's really.

You've probably heard this before about, you know, listen or listen to understand before you respond.

But we still live in a world where we talk a lot, we have a lot of opinions about things.

And it's not just even the talking where the words come out of your mouth.

It's when you're in conversation with somebody and there's talking inside your head.

Right.

Like you're not even listening to what they say.

And so I think that then there's this complete lack of connection, and we don't even realize we're doing it.

And we actually think we're listening, but we're not.

So I really like this topic because it's something that you don't need a huge amount of practice.

You don't need to go and get your master's degree.

You can just take a couple of easy steps and actually shift how you do it in the moment.

You can.

It's.

It's that idea of becoming more aware.

Right.

Aware of what you're doing.

Because what you just said, so many of us do, we listen to respond, we listen to what's being said, and we're already formulating 10 seconds in how we wish to respond to that.

Yeah.

Instead of listening to here, listening to understand, listening to connect, we're all guilty of it.

So how do we tap into.

What can we do to really tap into that awareness, that space of slowing, you know, whether it is slowing things down a little bit or shifting.

So when I took my coach training originally, and I know they still teach the same principle, they teach three levels of listening.

And so each of us listens at three different levels, but we're just not conscious of it.

So sometimes the first and most important point is just being aware that it happens.

And when you kind of recognize it, then you can decide for yourself.

You know, this awareness, like you said, bringing it into consciousness is everything.

So the three levels of listening are like this.

The first level, level one is where you're in conversation with somebody and you're listening to them overtly.

You know, you're looking at them kinda, but inside your head you're thinking, oh, that's stupid.

That'll never work.

Oh, gosh, I forgot to buy milk at the grocery store.

Hmm.

I wonder if I have time to slip down and put, you know, my load of laundry into the dryer.

Oh, gosh, I hope I didn't put in my new shirt.

Into the dryer.

So you've got this inner monologue happening while you're standing there sort of kind of listening.

And we're probably more respectful to people that are outside of our family even, right?

But people inside of our family, the ones that are actually the closest to us and mean the most to us, that's.

Those are the ones that it's so easy for us to slip out into.

That level one listening.

Level two listening was always described to me like the first date.

It's like that, the Disney film with the two dogs with this single strand of spaghetti.

They're gazing into each other's eyes, right?

And they only have eyes for each other.

And that strand of spaghetti that they're sharing, they don't even realize they're eating the same strand until all of a sudden, there they are.

So you're, like, totally infatuated and engrossed and just like, you can't even see anything else.

You just see that other person.

So that's level two.

And then level three is where you're listening to the person.

You're listening to the words.

You're listening by looking and seeing their mannerisms.

You're listening to the speed of how they talk, the space between their words, what's happening in the space around them, and what's not being said.

So that's a much more holistic listening.

And the best example that I've ever heard of that is when you are at work and you arrive a little bit late for a meeting, and you walk into that meeting room and everybody stops talking, and you could just cut the energy in there with a knife.

It's like, oh, gosh, something happened.

What happened?

What happened?

That.

Where you can feel that something was going on.

So that's an indication of how you can feel that third level of listening as well.

Wow, that is.

That's such a great visual for all three of them.

Because I'm sure as we're all listening, we're thinking, yeah, I've done all of those, probably more of one and two.

And we aspire to do number three.

But that kind of listening requires focus, and it requires also the ability to stop doing anything else that you're doing.

Right?

So whether it's.

I.

This is my example that I kind of go back to often and think about, you know, when it's like 10:30 at night and you're exhausted and you've.

You know, whether you've just stopped working or you just have had a really long day, you just need that, like, 30 minutes of like quiet and you're sitting on the couch and whether you're on your phone on TikTok or you know, playing Candy Crush or maybe even reading a book, which would be so lovely and such a good use of your time.

And then your teenager walks in and they have all these things to say to you, right?

And you know, this is a golden opportunity and yet you're so tired.

So you're in that space of like, I literally just want to like do nothing, right?

And you have to put all of that aside and like click in and to your point.

And I actually think this is what makes that level one type of listening easier to practice, is because you are using all of your senses, right?

You're using the visual cues that you know about your child, right?

You're obviously using your hearing to hear what they're saying, but you are feeling their energy.

We all know what our kids energy feels like, right?

And the different types of energy that they, that comes off of them and all of those little subtle cues that you're getting.

So you have to be locked in.

And I, I do think that takes practice and it does take that.

You know, you do go through one level one, you're like, I just, please leave me alone.

I love you, but leave me alone.

Yeah.

The good night.

Just be 30 seconds tonight.

Like, yes, yes, totally.

And then, you know, perhaps in those moments we skip over level two or just, you know, when we realize that we're needed for level three, we can, we can click in there.

But I do, I love that those visuals because I think that makes it so much easier for, for each of us to know what we're, what we need to work on to be better listeners.

Where we get tripped up, right?

What things tend to distract us.

I think for many of us that would be our phones, right?

Like, I've had to like throw my phone to like a different couch just so it doesn't even like begin to distract me.

Like just lock it in, right?

So, and God love them, like especially my 17 year old, like never even notices.

Like once she launches in, she is in and lots of everything's just coming, right?

So good.

I just want to say that there are so many parents that would be so jealous that their 17 year old wants to talk to them.

You know, how many kids, when they get to 12 or 13, and you know, it happens at different ages for all kids, but there's this time where sometimes they just don't want to.

They just don't want to talk to you, right?

That how how was your day?

Not even.

Not even a word.

Right.

So.

Sometimes it's just a look.

Yeah.

Yeah, yeah, Right.

That's.

Sometimes me, I'm just looking at them.

It's not just one.

The hormones are going all the way, right?

Oh, my gosh.

Yes.

Ah, yeah.

Where it takes every fiber of your being to, like, keep all of everything that's going on with you just locked in so it doesn't spill out onto them because it's not their stuff.

But you're like, yeah, totally.

Oh, my goodness.

Yeah.

So I wanted to, you know, like, your first question, I don't think I actually answered that.

And I think about what would be the change if we listened more and talked less?

And it's kind of interesting because you would have.

I have this idea that listening is an act of love and that this is one of the ways that we really can show our love for anybody.

You know, like, it doesn't have to be your love for your child or your partner or a friend, just, you know, your love for somebody else as a human, that you give them your attention.

And when I listen to you, it shows that I respect you, that I accept you, that you are valuable, that you're.

There's the, you know, our human need to feel validated.

And if you matter enough for me to listen to you, then that is powerful stuff.

Right.

Like, think about how, you know, life would be if every person, youth, adult, senior, actually had the feeling that they were listened to, that they were respected and accepted a little bit every day.

I think that that would transform the world.

It absolutely would.

Yeah, it absolutely would.

Because think of how many people just feel invisible.

Right?

They don't feel seen, they don't feel heard.

And those are the two most important ways that you can show any human being that they are cared for.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And so this, you know, like, we were talking.

You're talking about the evening when you're already tired and you've, you know, your teenager walks in.

But, like, what about the person that helps you check out at the grocery store?

You know, like, are they just a faceless, nameless individual with a uniform and a name badge?

Or is there an opportunity there just to actually say, hey, how was your day?

And actually connect with them and create that connection, you know?

Yeah, yeah.

Even I think an eye contact and just that sincere.

A lot of this can be, you know, nonverbal communication.

Right.

But that shows that you're.

You are present there in that moment with them.

It's powerful.

Yeah, yeah, it really is.

And it's funny because it's a.

It's a tool in your coaching toolkit as a coach.

But it's such an important.

Such an important.

I can't even use the word tool.

Such an important component of being a human and being in relationship with people.

I was thinking about.

So what do you do if you're sitting there talking to your teenager and you realize that you're self absorbed and you're in level one and you're thinking about the laundry and how do you make that switch?

You know, so now you've got that awareness and then you're like, oh, gosh, I'm here anyway, and they want to talk.

Wow, that's amazing.

How do I switch?

How do I notice?

How do I switch?

And so this is something that, you know, coaches learn how to do.

And so what you had just said about first to begin with, just look at the person.

Just actually take your gaze and look at them and not give them the death stare, you know, like this, this is not like glaring at them to look at them, but look at them.

Look at, like when they're talking, are their hands flapping around?

Are their shoulders tight around their neck?

Are they smiling?

Are they open?

Or are they.

Or is there tension rolling off of them?

You know, so look at them and look at how they're being.

And that in itself is a component of listening.

Right?

It's not just the words, it's what's not being said as well.

Right.

Just as much so.

Just that you notice, oh, gosh, I'm in my own head worried about my laundry and there's something going on.

I decide that I want to listen and then I turn and I gaze at them.

And just that alone will help to switch you.

Totally.

Totally.

That was going to be my next question for you.

So I'm so glad you said that because you read my mind and that is such a.

You're absolutely right.

Even that little step of pulls you outside, pulls you out of your head, right?

And gets you engaged and noticing, kind of taking note of what they're doing.

Are they pacing?

Are they standing?

Are they sitting?

What is the pitch of their voice?

You know, is it so fast that you cannot understand?

Right.

Or you're like watching every third word.

So, you know, and I think there are certain things that are very, very particular to age and just behaviors are highly.

I just find so highly entertaining as I think, you know, I was just sitting here thinking to each of my, each of my kids at different ages, just the, the ways that they when they decide that they want to talk to you, it's never like a formal, like, could we possibly have a conversation at 4:00 today?

Right?

Yeah.

You know, they come bop in your office or they sit on the desk.

Right in front of you, right?

Oh, you want to talk?

Do you?

Okay.

They're literally mid sentence and you're like, oh, wait, yeah, they're totally, like, they're clicked in.

I've got to, like, shut this down.

Because anything that they have to say is, you know, it's important if they're wanting to talk.

Even checking in, I think, you know, it doesn't always have to be something important, but even those moments of checking in, you know, I think about when you're, like, checking in with your partner or checking in, you know, catching up for 10 minutes with a, you know, a good friend.

How do we do that?

Right?

And I mean, let's take it one step further.

What if we're connecting like this on Zoom?

So you and I have known each other for about a year and a half.

We've only known each other on Zoom.

I would never even know how to talk to you if I met you in person.

Right.

Because then you'd have an entire body.

Instead, right now, you're this, you know, from the waist up, individual.

I don't.

Do you wear shoes?

I don't know.

You know, what I typically wear?

This is what I'll show you.

That's right.

Oh, cool.

Oh, my little slipper.

Nice.

Because they're comfy.

Thank you.

Cool.

Those are better than what I've gone on.

See, now, now, everybody.

Yes.

Now you all know what I wear when I'm.

But they're cute and they're fluffy.

They're cute and comfortable, and I don't need to have my feet on camera.

And even if I did, they're kind of cute.

So.

But yes, I know it's the craziest thing, but this is like being able to.

I think that's one of, like, the magical things when so many of us have had to create relationships over the past few years this way to really.

I think it's actually forced us to be better listeners because we really have to.

And I think we've all not realized that we're doing it right.

It's such a subconscious thing.

But we're looking for, you know, facial clues.

We're looking for the tone of voice.

We're looking for, like, how is the person moving?

And you're never quite sure if you're looking at someone or not.

Because oftentimes our cameras are in, like, weird places.

So we feel like we may be staring at the person we're talking to, but our camera is somewhere else.

So it's, you know, so you don't have that piece of, like, necessary eye contact.

Yeah, right.

So, I mean, that's a whole different level of listening.

And so because I coach only on zoom, that's.

I.

I do really notice how much I look at what's happening with their body.

And it sounds, you know, like you can tell some.

Everybody has a tell if they're uncomfortable.

They do.

There's something that they do.

Right.

So.

And so it's like, oh, okay, we're in uncomfortable territory because your left shoulder is up around your ear and your right shoulder is normal.

Oh, okay, I understand that now.

Right.

And so that just.

It helps to inform me about what's going on.

The problem with noticing at that level is that it can make somebody feel self conscious.

And so you need to be quite respectful about how you bring that across.

Because then if I say, hey, every time you're uncomfortable, your left shoulder goes up around your ear and your right shoulder stays normal.

They're like, they're.

They can't even think about what to talk about because they're so busy trying to monitor what's happening with their body.

Right.

It's terrible.

I wanted to just say that there is a little physical trick.

Not just the looking, Looking.

Gazing at the person, but there is a.

It's easier to listen if you physically relax.

That is another thing that I found.

So, you know, just like your podcast, just breathe often.

Just take a breath and allow your body to relax a little and gaze at the person.

And that can really help you kind of get clicked into the listening.

And then from a.

I guess it's a corporate standpoint, if you're at home and your kids come home and they're like, they want your attention right now.

Something's going on.

A way that you subconsciously can show them that you're actually paying attention is to swivel or turn towards them and point your feet at them.

If your feet are pointed at the person, like, if they're standing over in the doorway and you're like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm listening.

And you really believe you're listening.

They may not feel heard, but if you actually turn and point your feet to them, then they will actually feel like, okay, she is paying attention to me.

He is noticing me.

They are engaged here in this conversation.

And so just that small thing of, like, move Your feet so that they're pointing at the person.

And this works for anybody.

It even works on zoom.

If I'm talking to you and I'm kind of over, like, this, you're like, hello, what are you doing?

Right.

What are you doing?

It's so true.

Because have you ever been on a call when somebody's been, like, doing work and they're like, over here, like, doing this?

Yeah.

Yeah.

And you can tell they're, like, totally engaged in another project, and you're like, are you there?

Right.

Yeah.

So take a deep breath.

Relax.

Just breathe.

Move your gaze to the person.

And then for somebody who, you know, like, if you're like, hey, I really am paying attention to you, turn and move your feet and point your feet towards them.

And that will also start to train you.

The person who wants to listen that, oh, we're in listening mode now.

I've just turned and I faced them.

Now I am focused on them.

And so those little things can really make a big difference.

They can.

And I'm so glad you said the thing about the breath, because that is such a subconscious thing that we, you know, do or don't do.

Yeah.

So to take that really deep breath and kind of helps get you centered, Recentered.

Right.

Like, with that person.

Yeah.

Pulled away from whatever else you were doing, and you're there.

And.

And especially, you know, in the case we never quite know what our kids are going to bring us.

Right.

Or.

Or anybody really, for that matter.

But kind of if you're in a more calm state and just present, then whatever they're telling you, whatever you're hearing, whatever you are learning, you are able to learn in a space that is not like this.

Right.

Like, just all what's going to happen?

What's going on?

Oh, my gosh.

Right?

It's okay.

Here we are.

All right.

Yeah.

No, this also applies when they just want to.

Like, they don't even want to talk.

Like, maybe your kids are big talkers, but mine aren't always.

And they're adults now in any case, but sometimes they just kind of want to be close to you.

Right.

And so you.

It's not that you have to create a conversation so that you can listen, but again, and they might just come into your space and kind of flop down on that chair beside you, and they're like.

They're not saying anything, but you're like, oh, oh, hey, what's good?

What's going on?

Right.

And so just to kind of allow yourself to be present, and maybe that's all they need is just that it's not that they always need to express and be heard and listened to.

Sometimes they just need the connection.

And so you can use that kind of level three listening, the more holistic level three listening, just to connect with them.

Right.

Doesn't have to be words, it doesn't have to be a verbal conversation.

Right.

It's just like, hey, how's it going?

Great.

And then that's enough.

Right, Exactly.

And I think too, that speaks to, you know, as much as I think we can get inside of our own heads about I need to look for this, I should be thinking about this, I need to be aware of this.

And just like taking that minute and being like sometimes they do just want to be around us, to take in our energy.

Right.

Because they just need to be, you know, in that space of, you know, comfort or just know that they are unconditionally loved, that they are seen, that you've, you've got them and, and that it's, you know, a space that you also can allow to be messy because that makes it comfortable too.

Yeah.

So a lot of unspoken ways to listen as well.

Very much.

There was something else here that I think is as our kids grow older and we practice listening to them and also, you know, this is for partners and heck, I'm still learning as well.

Partners and family members and everybody when we show them respect by listening to them, it really, the spin off is that we trust them, that we know, we believe that they can take whatever is the next step for them.

We don't think that we need to kind of rush in and fix it for them.

Like we, that that's a big deal.

Like as a parent to have trust that, okay, well, this is what's going on.

But I'll just sit here and I'll listen to you and a place of, of lack of judgment, you know, and so that's, that's the part that I always find a little messy.

If I'm listening, I'm like, I want to be present, I want to listen.

And then in my head I'm going like, oh, oh, ah, no, that sounds terrible.

You know, what will the neighbors think?

Oh my gosh, you know, like, will you be okay?

Will you actually get into the college that we want you to get into?

Like, you know, like there's all this inner judgment.

And so I really found that this one sentence just helped me so much.

And it still does.

I mean, my kids are adults and they still have good times and challenging times because they're Human.

And when you sort of start to feel that like the kind of the worry and the judgment and that like will it be okay?

That questioning.

There's just this one thought that my only job is to love them.

That's it, you know, and so that quiets my worry.

Like I know that my only job here is to love them.

And that includes accepting them, believing that they'll figure it out, believing that they're resourceful and that I respect them.

I can respect my.

A ten year old, I can respect a five year old.

Right.

Like that is huge.

There's nothing worse than being disrespected when you're a five year old and you've, you know.

Right.

Well, and I, you know, I think that when they're that age, there's often that feeling as a parent, like there's a ton of pressure you put on yourself as a parent.

Right.

I'm supposed to be teaching and I'm supposed to be.

They're supposed to be learning from me and they're supposed to be well behaved and I'm supposed to.

If they're not well behaved, then that's on me as the parent.

And you know, all the narratives that you have going on in your head now, I think that's probably, you know, definitely true for our generation.

I think it is definitely shifting, which is a wonderful thing in a lot of ways.

And really being able to see those little ones too is like, all right, little human, like we're gonna, we're gonna go get this together and figure it out.

Right.

Instead of this like extraordinary feeling of I've got it, like putting all your stuff on them, essentially.

Right.

I mean, that's essentially what it is.

And so whatever ever stuff you come into parenthood with, and that's what you're kind of end up dumping on your kid.

So I do love that that is shifting because these little people do have.

They're magical.

I mean.

Right?

Yeah, yeah, for sure.

So fun, you know, so much.

And I just, there's a, you know, like you've got a large audience of listeners and I really want them to appreciate how many kids don't have parents or allies that really want to love them and want to listen to them.

So this is stuff that you can do with your kids, friends.

It doesn't just have to be with your own family sometimes that just makes all the difference in the world, right.

14 years old and they happen to be over at your place eating pizza and you can listen to those kids too.

And that can turn their life Around.

Not everybody has a family life that allows for, you know, allows for relationships and got a lot of parents that are dealing with a lot of hard times.

Creating that space where kids feel like they can just be who they are.

Yeah, yeah, for sure.

Yeah.

That whole judgment free zone.

Oh, my goodness.

Yes.

We could go down a whole other road there.

But I would love to talk a little bit before we finish about your work, because I have a feeling there are lots of people listening who would be quite interested in what you do.

And I know we touched on it the last time you were on, so if you all have already heard Candy's first episode, you get to hear even more this time.

And it's awesome.

But, you know, there are a million coaches out there and coaches of all kinds, Right.

I mean, you and I do very different types of coaching, but I think that you, like me, do very specific kinds of coaching, and you coach people who are beginning coaches and even coaches who are on their path who are learning.

Right.

And like I said at the beginning, you have a way of.

Not only are you extraordinarily organized, so anybody who is coming from.

I know you came from a corporate background.

Not everybody's coming from that type of corporate background where you understand systems, you understand just the order of how a business should be run.

Right.

A lot of people are coming from lots of different areas.

So you are so good at being able to hone in on what that person needs to focus on in that moment to help them get to the next step.

So, you know, over time, as I've worked with you, I've gone back and looked at my different notes from our different meetings, and I think, oh, my goodness.

Like, I literally had.

I didn't have training rails on when you met me like I just had.

And I will tell all of you.

I don't know if I told this in the first.

You know, when we had our first episode together, but I remember when we first met, when we were in that very first call together, and there was something.

And this is why I firmly believe that you can have energetic connections with people over zoom.

Because I met you in that call and there was like.

There was.

I just knew.

I was like, I have to know this person and we have to work together in some capacity.

I wasn't sure what it was because I had no idea what you did, but I was like, the inner.

There was something.

And it's so.

It's been true over.

Over time.

And the way that you work with people is so very individualized.

And you Are very good at really honing in on.

Okay, this is what this person wants to do and this is how I can get them to that spot.

So I'd love.

Now that I've love said a lot, if you could just add a little bit about what you are doing right now, which are a couple of cool things.

You are doing a couple of cool things now and you have a couple of cool things in the works.

Yeah.

So I think what the thing that I love the most is that working with new coaches, this is a group of people who have this.

There's a couple of themes.

They always knew that they were meant for more, but they didn't know what that was.

And now they've found it because it's like it's coaching and it's this kind of thing that I really want to do.

So that's super exciting.

And then the other thing that happens is that they want to have an impact.

Like, you know, like you want to make a difference with what you're doing.

And then they also want to make money.

Like fair and simple.

Right.

Like, why not have a coaching practice that makes money so that you can do great things with the money that you make.

So I work with people in a couple of different ways.

I love the customized piece and it reminds me of just that, honoring that each of us has a unique path.

Right.

Like, I might work with 10 coaches, but one of them has this great gift of working one on one with people.

And so, you know, how do we create something custom that satisfies their individual gifts?

And then another person might not know exactly what their preferred way is.

So then we get to go on a bit of a treasure hunt and figure it out.

And so that's.

That's the fun part is the custom is become a coach, know that you were meant for more, and this is the thing that you want to do.

And then figure out the way to do exactly what's right for you at this time.

So that's essentially how I work with people.

A lot of one on one work.

I love my private clients dearly.

It's just so rewarding to see people grow and create something that really works for them.

And then I will be moving more into the group space as well.

It's going to be more of a casual group where you can come in and be part of a community.

Because other coaches kind of get like, we get each other, right?

Your partner may not quite understand what you're doing, but the other coaches do.

So it's a community.

And then we'll have coaching.

And the coaching is the fun part because when one person is being coached and somebody else is listening, they can say, oh, that applies to me too.

Right.

And I.

Yeah, so that's.

That's going to be the next evolution is group coaching.

And then I have a fun little shop that I'm populating right now with all kinds of coaching tools and resources and fun things, too.

So I just.

It's a creative playground for me.

Honestly, I just love it.

I love.

And what's the name of the shop?

It is not the Candy Shop, but I should call it the Candy Shop.

So I.

I thought we had gotten there.

Yeah.

And it has to be shot ppe, you know, like within Squirrely writing.

Right.

Exactly.

Exactly.

Oh, my goodness.

So if people want to learn more, how can they find you?

And, of course, this will all be in the show notes as well.

So it'll be clickable and easy.

But just in case someone's, you know, likes to write stuff down.

For sure.

So the easiest way to get to know me a little bit better is to listen to my podcast, and it's called she Coaches Coaches.

So that's the quick and easy way.

And because you're listening here, it's super easy to go and find me after this episode, too.

Or you can visit my website, which is stepintosuccessnow.com and there's all the stuff in there.

So come on over and check me out.

And I'd love to get to know you more.

Absolutely, yes, please do.

And I can't imagine, you know, if you are anywhere in this spot.

I think one misconception is that, oh, there's.

There's too many coaches.

Right.

Or there, somebody's going to be doing what I'm doing.

Nobody can do what you're doing the way you're doing it.

Agreed?

Agreed.

100%.

There's space for everyone.

This is a very needed space to come into right now.

So certainly, if you feel like this is your calling, if you're curious, come check this out, because it may be something that you're not even.

You don't even realize that this is what you're interested in.

So, you know, it's the whole idea of you don't know what you don't know.

So here you go.

So, Candy, thank you.

Thank you.

Is there anything else that you would like to share before we wrap up for today?

No, I can't think.

I can't think of anything else.

But thank you so much for having me.

And I was really happy to talk about listening.

You know, it's, it's not something that gets a lot of focus, and I think that it's something that you can improve.

Like having just listened to this episode, you can go and you can do that.

Like right now, it's so applicable.

And it's just, just gonna, I don't know, it'll make your relationships better.

You're going to have so much more fun.

You're going to feel so much more connected with the people around you.

Absolutely.

And it's everything.

Every time you work on it, you just, it becomes a little bit easier.

Right.

You become a little better at it.

You figure out something that works well for you.

So I'm so grateful that you wanted to talk about this topic because it is one that is not discussed enough and is something that is super actionable.

So thank you, thank you, thank you.

Thank you for listening today.

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