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John and Connie: Hi, and welcome

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to another episode of Celebrating

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Small Family Businesses.

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Today, we are celebrating, not

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separating, celebrating John and Jen

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Chan from Vancouver, British Columbia.

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Hi, John.

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Hi, Jen.

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John and Jenn: Hello.

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Hello there.

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John and Connie: So, we connected through

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a wonderful service called Podmatch.

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I'd love to give them a little shout out.

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I'm glad we got connected.

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So, how, tell me a little bit about

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your business and your origin story.

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How did it get started?

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John and Jenn: So I'll take this one.

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I think we've been

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working on this company.

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So we run a marketing agency called

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2X and we've been running it since

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2016 or so, starting off as a

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conversion rate optimization agency.

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So if you're not familiar with

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conversion rate optimization agency,

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we're basically a design consultants.

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Where we'll do redesigns and it

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will measure for for improvements

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and that started in 2016 But this

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is actually our second company.

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Um, the first time we started working

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together was a software company

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back in 2013 So almost, you know 10,

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11 years ago at this point where,

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um, we wrote and sold software.

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And so we had a productivity

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app that I was practicing and

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learning how to code on the side.

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And, uh, she brought, she joined

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in to help support me with that

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project and it became a company.

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And, um, and yeah, we've been

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running the agencies since, and, uh,

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that's kind of like our background.

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John and Connie: Cool.

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Alright.

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And, and, did you guys, was that your

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first meeting when, when Jen joined

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you, uh, to, to build the software?

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John and Jenn: No, actually

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we met at a conference in 20.

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2011, right?

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It's 2010, 2011.

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Cause it's like right at the

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cusp of like December of 2011.

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Um, yeah, we met at a conference

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and we were pretty much both the

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youngest people there and just clicked

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and, you know, in ways that we just

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kind of connected and then it just

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kind of became that afterwards.

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We didn't start working

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together until 2013.

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So it was a couple of years.

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I was still on my last year in college.

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University.

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So that was that was that

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John and Connie: Wonderful.

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Wonderful.

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So, conversion rate optimization,

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you, you can explain that, right?

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Sure.

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I

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John and Jenn: We started as an

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optimization agency.

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We're currently a advertising agency.

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So we run ads for e commerce and

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SAAS businesses, um, software

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businesses, mostly on the e commerce

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side, because we also have a Bought

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e commerce stores ourselves or

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e commerce businesses ourselves.

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We have two brands under our own name

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Um and run it for that as well so a

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little bit on the venture side a little

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bit on the agency side for client

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servicing, but Um, john can probably

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tell you more about what is the end

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goal of the whole entire business Uh,

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he's probably going to be more adequate

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to actually give you the whole spiel

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John and Connie: Okay.

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Okay.

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Well, what I'm hearing is that you're Wow.

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Leverage.

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You don't sleep a lot.

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John and Jenn: No, fortunately you see

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these eye bags are like right out there

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It's um, she picked it right away.

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John and Connie: That's that's her.

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Um, so you..

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Conversion rate optimization is kind

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of like fine tuning the, the ad.

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So you've, you've got that experience

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on the back end and then you come

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into now you're running ads and you're

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also eating your own cooking by.

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Running your own brands and, and

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testing and, and refining on your

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own, you know, like spending your

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own money to do, to back up what

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you're doing for other people.

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That's awesome.

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John and Jenn: Absolutely

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You hit the nail on the head.

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John and Connie: Awesome.

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I hit the nail on the head.

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You hear that?

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Yeah, there you go.

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Impressive.

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So, uh, I, I, one of the questions

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we like to ask is, what's a, unique

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proposition or, , what, what's kind of

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sets you guys apart in your industry?

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I might have just said it,

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but I want to hear you say it.

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John and Jenn: Of course.

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Yeah, I mean, if you look at the career

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history, so I'll start there and I'll

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kind of explain the work that we do,

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what's unique about the way we do things.

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In my case, I had basically

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three major arcs in my career.

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I started off as a user

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experience designer, so I

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came from a design background.

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I dropped out of school.

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Um, but I learned how to code in

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high school and then that became sort

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of like the, the backbone for the

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foundational skill sets around if I

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make a webpage, who are the people

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behind the webpage that I'm servicing.

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And I, like, I was some skills that,

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um, I did that at a university for about

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four, four and a half years working

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at university, not studying there.

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So I, so I did a for, for a while

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and that sort of led into the

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conversion optimization agency.

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Um, but part of the reason why we

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started a software company was because.

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In 2012 or so I joined, , in our

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industry, a well known software

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company called Basecamp or 37 signals.

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They rebranded.

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Um, and so what they do is they sell

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project management software and they

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invented a, uh, programming language.

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And so through working with them,

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I got to see how they ran a remote

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company, , firsthand, cause they wrote

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and published a lot of work around that.

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, and they wrote and sold

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their own software.

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And so being able to see those

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types of things, it, it really You

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know, I learned a lot from them,

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but I also kind of rubbed off on me.

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And so when I came back here,

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um, they're based in Chicago.

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When I came back to Vancouver and growing

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the software company, it kind of got us

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like through a period where we learned

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a lot more about technical skills

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of the development side of products.

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Um, but towards the end of that

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company, we started realizing and

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thinking to ourselves, At least

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incorrectly so, initially, where we

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thought we weren't good at marketing

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because we were able to sell a

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product that people generally loved.

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We're good at design.

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We're able to write software,

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but we couldn't figure out the

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distribution of that software.

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And so, you know, throughout the

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years, we've always believed in

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teaching what we needed to learn.

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And so initially, we, we, Dipped

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into consulting by leveraging the

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skill sets that we already had.

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But over the course of the years,

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we realized that media buying and

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running advertising campaigns was a

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more effective way of approaching it.

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And as you get into the question of

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what makes us unique, very few people

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have that kind of history of being

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a designer and then we get into a

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technical sort of skillset and then

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layering that on top of marketing.

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And so our consumers that we serve

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when we run ads, they go through

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the entire Can you see an ad?

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You click on the link.

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There's an experience of what happens

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when you get to the website or the landing

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page all the way through the checkout.

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And we can think about that entire life

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cycle of the journey and later, how does

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the advertising campaign bleed into the

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messaging on the website to the checkout

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experience of how they consume the

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product in order for them to come back?

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And I would say that most shops,

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understandably so, are supposed to

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be specializing in each of those

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segments in those areas, but very few

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would be able to tie it all together.

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And also have the ability to have

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analytics, um, measure from point

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A to point B, um, from start to

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finish, um, with the recognition

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that sometimes data can be wrong.

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There's a lot of nuance behind the

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technical side of it, where if you're

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not a developer, it hard, it's hard

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to do that type of work as a marketer.

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John and Connie: Dang.

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That, that's a lot.

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I, I understand.

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Actually, I, I could

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quickly show my ignorance.

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Uh, yeah, , like, attribution , of sales,

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of, , where it came, there's, there's

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different ways of attribution from,

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you know, first click and last click

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and in between and, and all that stuff.

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And, and yeah, tracking all that

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is an , somewhat inexact science

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because of the different platforms

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and because people are people, right?

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John and Jenn: you hit the nail on

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the head again because it's, it's,

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it's a very hard problem because

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there are technical barriers to it and

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there's also platform barriers to it.

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So for example, if you're on

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advertising on meta, um, it used

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to be that was very easy for, um,

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meta to track what happens on the

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consumer side all the way to purchase.

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Um, but with Apple coming with.

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Better consumer privacy

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protection settings.

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What does it actually

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mean for the advertiser?

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And so when you're reading numbers in

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your advertising campaign in determining

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how do you set budgets or to diagnose

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if a particular ad creative or ad

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campaign is, is it on the ad creative

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side of things, or is it on the landing

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page of side of things, and then the

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measurement is not fully accurate,

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how do you know which one to look

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at versus which ones do you ignore?

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Right.

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And so if you layer that on top of

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the statistics behind it and say,

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this one is statistically significant,

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this one is not, this way you can

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run an experiment to get to the point

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of, um, be able to interpret it.

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This one you cannot.

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Um, those are all, uh, tools that are,

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are available to us, um, because we

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come from that kind of background to

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think about things technically, and

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also being versed in analytics and math.

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John and Connie: Okay, yeah, I think

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probably the, the average marketing,

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small marketing firm is, is more, just

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more focused on, you know, how much

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budget we'll get, we'll get you, you

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know, we'll run the ads for this long and

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we'll spend your budget and good luck.

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John and Jenn: Right.

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It's like, we'll get and get our ROI.

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We know we spend this money and

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we can get this return back.

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Um, but how does it exactly play out?

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And, and again, it's always, the

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devil's always in the details.

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Right.

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And how do you, uh, uh, prioritize

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certain budgets versus others?

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For marketing efforts towards

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one efforts for the other.

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Um, You know, that's the kind of thing

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that we've developed over the years

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that we now recognize that is a very

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unique strength to us, especially if

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we're tasked to audit another brand

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or another agency's ad accounts.

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We usually find a lot of issues where

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it's like, yeah, they're not supposed

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to know that, and neither are you.

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And therefore we can

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do something about it.

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The other thing it's like, I

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can add is probably, um, John, you can

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probably speak a lot more into is, um,

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What kind of going back to what you

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were saying, I was like, what kind of

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distinguish between us versus others in

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the industry, um, of When we actually go

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and look at a client or potential client

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or even our clients right now We don't

Jenn Lo:

often talk about having profitable skip

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profitable and scalable ads And what does

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that really mean john probably have a

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better better better way to explain that

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than I do So maybe you can actually talk

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John and Jenn: sure I mean, it's one

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of those things where it's tables big

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for any marketing campaign You have to

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make sure it's profitable and I think

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I see not always I see sometimes people

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approach marketing You Um, from the

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perspective of just wearing a marketing

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hat, whereas realistically you should

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be wearing a finance hat, right?

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And so marketing and finance, they

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both work hand in hand from both from

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a finance, uh, planning side of things,

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but also being able to read a P and L.

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So if you know that, you know,

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the unique economics of an ad

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campaign, is it be profitable?

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What does that look like in terms of

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the profile of the business, in terms

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of your EBIT and your net margins?

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Um, is the company profitable?

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If you can think about strategic

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options for do you fundraise or not?

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Are you looking to sell

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the business or not?

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There are different levers that are

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available to you from a marketing

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perspective that I talk a little bit

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less about because I think I understand

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that most intuitively understand that.

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But to Jen's point, it's, it's

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not just dollar in dollar out

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and making sure it's profitable.

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We should, you know, always track

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it down to the, uh, the unique

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economics and see what the overall

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strategy of the company is.

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And I think that's the biggest

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piece of what just just separates us

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as a business to others that is in the

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industry that is doing similar services

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to us and why people why clients choose

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us over the others just because we do

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ask those tough questions and like hey

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um not just looking at your ad creative

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not just looking at your ad account

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how much are you trying to sell spend?

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How much are you trying to let go?

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What is the end goal of the company at

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the like next 6 months, next 12 months?

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What is the margins and net things

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that you're trying to actually reach?

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We look at all those things to

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think about how should we go about

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putting a plan together for the next

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6 to 12 months of working together.

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John and Connie: Wow.

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Okay.

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Yeah, you're, you are heads and

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tails, over above everything

Jenn Lo:

else that we've, we've done.

Jenn Lo:

We've talked to and other companies.

Jenn Lo:

Yeah.

Jenn Lo:

Wow.

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Good job.

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So, shifting slightly to, yeah, I mean

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I'm geeking out here, but Exactly.

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We need to get out of here.

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We are talking about family.

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So, um, what do you love most

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about working with family?

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John and Jenn: I have lots to

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say, but why don't you start?

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I think it's a tough one.

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Cause I'm like, I, I didn't really start,

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start loving it in the first place.

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I actually didn't want to work with him.

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Um, I worked with him initially

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just because of, okay, I know he

Jenn Lo:

was struggling with something.

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I know I'm good at that to

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actually be able to support that.

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Um, my personality is very

Jenn Lo:

much of a very supportive role,

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um, throughout my entire life.

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Anyways, so I support anywhere

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and anyone that is around me.

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So When he is asking, when he

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asked, I was like, yeah, of

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course I can do that for you.

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And I'm here for the long run anyway.

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So I'm like, okay, I'm going to be here.

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And it was supposedly temporary.

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Then it became a serious afterwards.

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I'm like, okay, well, since I'm

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here already, let's just go with it.

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Um, so it's just going

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through this rollercoaster.

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And I just went on this board of

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train, thinking I was going to get off.

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The next stop, but no, it just kept going.

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Uh, what I kind of loved about

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working with him over years, I

Jenn Lo:

think we started working together

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when we were in the 20s, right?

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So mid 20s, uh, through the next

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like 10 years of working together,

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we grew together as a Individuals

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and as partners and as lovers and

Jenn Lo:

as like now we're married, right?

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So there's a lot of growing up that

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we were doing together, and I think

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it's quite interesting and it's not I

Jenn Lo:

don't think a lot of couples that have

Jenn Lo:

worked together and is in business

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together have gone through that as well.

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So, that's like part of

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the actuality of our story.

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Uh, of where, how we grow up

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together and now going into

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business throughout that 10 years.

Jenn Lo:

Uh, lots and lots of things have changed.

Jenn Lo:

Personality have changed.

Jenn Lo:

Our mindset have changed.

Jenn Lo:

Our habits and like, things that we,

Jenn Lo:

do have changed, our perspectives

Jenn Lo:

have changed over time as well.

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And learning from this, I think

Jenn Lo:

learning from him, he's taught me

Jenn Lo:

a lot throughout that 10 years.

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I mean, I learned a lot from her too, so

Jenn Lo:

that's not, it's not, it's not always what

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Smart boy!

Jenn Lo:

It's a two way, it's

Jenn Lo:

definitely a two-way street.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: For me.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: my

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: No, I'd actually love

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to expand on that because I think um, I

Jenn Lo:

also want to hear from Jen first because

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You know for me i've always thought

Jenn Lo:

about this and and it's come up in past

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podcast interviews as well But I think

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for me what I loved about working with

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her It's it's not for the faint of heart

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as you must, you know Hear from now from

Jenn Lo:

all the different families that you've

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interviewed Working with families can

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be very complex and the power dynamics

Jenn Lo:

and you're dealing with finances.

Jenn Lo:

You can see a lot of issues with conflicts

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But I think one of the guiding principles

Jenn Lo:

in the way that we've worked together

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and we've always looked at, you know, Is

Jenn Lo:

it a good idea to start a business with

Jenn Lo:

your girlfriend and and mix finances?

Jenn Lo:

The litmus test has always been around.

Jenn Lo:

Um, not how well we when things are

Jenn Lo:

working Well, of course, there's gonna

Jenn Lo:

be trials and tribulations in any

Jenn Lo:

business, but it's how well did we fight?

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And so when I think about, you

Jenn Lo:

know, when things are going bad or

Jenn Lo:

when things aren't going really as

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well, she's always been my rock.

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And, and, and to have someone to

Jenn Lo:

have that level of empathy and

Jenn Lo:

understanding of like, Oh, we just

Jenn Lo:

got screwed over in a business deal.

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Or we just had this really bad

Jenn Lo:

interaction with certain thing.

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She felt firsthand was like, Oh,

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I know exactly what that means.

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And to see me being in a depressive

Jenn Lo:

state and for her to just roll up her

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sleeves and get back to work, like it's

Jenn Lo:

just, it's, it's hard to express the

Jenn Lo:

kind of, um, loyalty and strength that

Jenn Lo:

you have in, in one another that, um,

Jenn Lo:

You cannot find, uh, in anywhere else

Jenn Lo:

because, you know, in most cases, it's,

Jenn Lo:

it's supposed to be transactional.

Jenn Lo:

You're business partners, you know,

Jenn Lo:

you have your personal life and then

Jenn Lo:

you have your business life separated.

Jenn Lo:

The downside is also that it's

Jenn Lo:

mixed to in her case, you know,

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when she needs personal boundaries

Jenn Lo:

outside of business, right?

Jenn Lo:

Those are the kinds of things

Jenn Lo:

that I'm sure you hear a lot about

Jenn Lo:

where those things can be mixed in.

Jenn Lo:

Um, there's, there's other downsides.

Jenn Lo:

I'll speak a little bit of that

Jenn Lo:

as well with, you know, power

Jenn Lo:

dynamics, for example, right?

Jenn Lo:

Whenever you get into like, let's

Jenn Lo:

say performance issues or, or fights,

Jenn Lo:

you can't just easily break up.

Jenn Lo:

You can't easily just tell the other

Jenn Lo:

person and fire the other person.

Jenn Lo:

Those things should always be

Jenn Lo:

an option available to you, but

Jenn Lo:

navigating those challenges are

Jenn Lo:

very, very challenging, right?

Jenn Lo:

How much it is, is it my fault?

Jenn Lo:

How much is it her fault?

Jenn Lo:

It gets really personal really

Jenn Lo:

quickly that you can't have with an

Jenn Lo:

employee or regular business partner.

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Um, And so I think all of those things,

Jenn Lo:

you know, built into like us growing up

Jenn Lo:

together and learning through a lot of

Jenn Lo:

things together as, as, as you look back

Jenn Lo:

in the years, every year, there's still

Jenn Lo:

challenges, but every year it gets better

Jenn Lo:

and you can't, but help be optimistic

Jenn Lo:

about, you know, we're in our thirties

Jenn Lo:

right now, but you can't, but help be

Jenn Lo:

optimistic about what's to come for us.

Jenn Lo:

And at least for me,

Jenn Lo:

that's how I feel about it.

Jenn Lo:

And I joke with her, like, you know,

Jenn Lo:

cause every time we get into any

Jenn Lo:

type of new business or start a new

Jenn Lo:

thing, she's always like the one

Jenn Lo:

that's bearing a lot of the workload.

Jenn Lo:

And I'm always the one that's.

Jenn Lo:

You know, dealing with all the fun

Jenn Lo:

aspect of, of starting something

Jenn Lo:

new or taking a new thing on.

Jenn Lo:

And, um, but I always joke, it's like,

Jenn Lo:

you're coming with me on this one, right?

Jenn Lo:

It's so, it's so it's because

Jenn Lo:

for me, it's like, you know,

Jenn Lo:

it's easy for me to bring her on.

Jenn Lo:

Um, but then there's, you know, real

Jenn Lo:

challenges of, of should I do it?

Jenn Lo:

Because it's our strength and weaknesses.

Jenn Lo:

And how does that actually play out

Jenn Lo:

with, you know, what is the advantage

Jenn Lo:

of running this particular business as

Jenn Lo:

a couple versus keeping it separate?

Jenn Lo:

Yeah,

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Wow.

Jenn Lo:

You guys are such deep thinkers.

Jenn Lo:

I mean, yes, I, I, I, I was

Jenn Lo:

getting choked up there.

Jenn Lo:

So what you were saying about, you

Jenn Lo:

know, the, you know, the rock and,

Jenn Lo:

and knowing that she's there, uh,

Jenn Lo:

totally, I, I totally experienced that.

Jenn Lo:

And, you know, in our case, it was

Jenn Lo:

my family business that Connie was,

Jenn Lo:

you know, Connie moved, you know,

Jenn Lo:

We moved on to a family property.

Jenn Lo:

We live next door to my

Jenn Lo:

parents out in the country.

Jenn Lo:

And, you know, I worked at the

Jenn Lo:

business, you know, all the time.

Jenn Lo:

And then Connie would come

Jenn Lo:

to work at the office some.

Jenn Lo:

And, you know, it's I just, thank God she

Jenn Lo:

was there, because, you know, you guys

Jenn Lo:

don't have the two generation dynamics,

Jenn Lo:

I don't think, from what I'm hearing.

Jenn Lo:

I, you know, I had the, I was the

Jenn Lo:

son that, you know, waiting for

Jenn Lo:

permission to grow up, as I call it.

Jenn Lo:

And, um, and there were, yeah, there's

Jenn Lo:

been, there was several times when

Jenn Lo:

Connie was the, she had the objectivity

Jenn Lo:

to say, Whoa, this doesn't make sense.

Jenn Lo:

And, and, you know, she would, and she

Jenn Lo:

would go to bat for her position, you

Jenn Lo:

know, her belief there that this was

Jenn Lo:

right for the company and the family

Jenn Lo:

even, as a, an in law that, you know,

Jenn Lo:

didn't have that blood stake and it was.

Jenn Lo:

Even as his dad was

Jenn Lo:

standing there blustering.

Jenn Lo:

But we've got to do something!

Jenn Lo:

And it's kind of like, oh no, we don't.

Jenn Lo:

You know?

Jenn Lo:

You need to stop.

Jenn Lo:

Now I'm talking about our story.

Jenn Lo:

But yes, I can completely relate.

Jenn Lo:

And what you said about

Jenn Lo:

the different dynamics.

Jenn Lo:

Sometimes that's what's Well,

Jenn Lo:

I think it's what scares some

Jenn Lo:

people about family businesses.

Jenn Lo:

Like if they're going, you know, either

Jenn Lo:

going to start one or maybe go to work for

Jenn Lo:

another family's business, that, you know,

Jenn Lo:

how are those dynamics going to play out?

Jenn Lo:

How is it going to impact them?

Jenn Lo:

Because , ultimately for the family

Jenn Lo:

business owners, it comes down to,

Jenn Lo:

We have to prioritize something, and

Jenn Lo:

usually, you know, the family is going

Jenn Lo:

to last longer than the business.

Jenn Lo:

I mean, worst case scenario

Jenn Lo:

and best case scenario, right?

Jenn Lo:

And so , there's times when you just have

Jenn Lo:

to prioritize the family, and if there's

Jenn Lo:

a performance shortfall or something,

Jenn Lo:

you know, weakness in somewhere, yeah,

Jenn Lo:

you don't just replace that person

Jenn Lo:

like they would in corporate, right?

Jenn Lo:

You make do.

Jenn Lo:

You figure it out.

Jenn Lo:

You communicate.

Jenn Lo:

You share, you rebalance the load,

Jenn Lo:

even if it's a little unbalanced.

Jenn Lo:

That's worth it for

Jenn Lo:

the rest of everything.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Absolutely.

Jenn Lo:

And I think that's, that's, that's,

Jenn Lo:

this is why I would say that family

Jenn Lo:

businesses is not for the faint of

Jenn Lo:

heart, because in, in, in a very broad,

Jenn Lo:

like generalization, it's bad advice to

Jenn Lo:

start a company with family members or

Jenn Lo:

lovers, because again, it's, it's, Because

Jenn Lo:

generally speaking, um, most people aren't

Jenn Lo:

going to be prepared or able to manage

Jenn Lo:

or deal with the conflicts that come up

Jenn Lo:

because they're so complicated, right?

Jenn Lo:

And they're so like intricate and,

Jenn Lo:

and there's like the aspect of

Jenn Lo:

betrayal and loyalty and whatever

Jenn Lo:

that's all mixed in, they're the

Jenn Lo:

basis of great dramas for a reason.

Jenn Lo:

You know what I mean?

Jenn Lo:

And, but the thing is like, you know,

Jenn Lo:

at the same time though, but when it

Jenn Lo:

works, Oh my God, it really is beautiful.

Jenn Lo:

And, and when it works, it's like,

Jenn Lo:

you know, we get to go and like travel

Jenn Lo:

and vacations together and we bring

Jenn Lo:

our work together and, you know, you

Jenn Lo:

know, having long walks at the park

Jenn Lo:

and we're talking about business and

Jenn Lo:

we're at the sauna and we're like,

Jenn Lo:

I'm talking about this new thing.

Jenn Lo:

It's like, because it's so integrated.

Jenn Lo:

Right.

Jenn Lo:

Like when it works, it's, it's

Jenn Lo:

beautiful, but it's, it's one of those

Jenn Lo:

things where it, you have to be a

Jenn Lo:

long term thinker right from day one.

Jenn Lo:

There's no, there's no,

Jenn Lo:

there's no second option.

Jenn Lo:

Right.

Jenn Lo:

And so if you're committed for

Jenn Lo:

better and for worse, right.

Jenn Lo:

Because for us, it's like, we

Jenn Lo:

got into it almost by accident.

Jenn Lo:

It wasn't a very thought through answer.

Jenn Lo:

Right.

Jenn Lo:

Which is, yeah, I'm refraining from

Jenn Lo:

joking about how she moved into

Jenn Lo:

it because we would never had the

Jenn Lo:

talk about like moving in together.

Jenn Lo:

I just woke up one day and she

Jenn Lo:

just had more clothes at our place.

Jenn Lo:

And I'm just like, wait a second.

Jenn Lo:

I think she infiltrated the house.

Jenn Lo:

You know what I mean?

Jenn Lo:

And so sometimes I even joke around,

Jenn Lo:

even married where it's like, this

Jenn Lo:

is the best sleepover ever, right?

Jenn Lo:

It's like, you just haven't left, but in

Jenn Lo:

business it's always been like that too.

Jenn Lo:

And again, you can't recommend that to

Jenn Lo:

someone because that's not a good idea.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Well,

Jenn Lo:

you couldn't plan that.

Jenn Lo:

No.

Jenn Lo:

That, that, because it happened

Jenn Lo:

organically, that, you know, I

Jenn Lo:

think that's what makes it work.

Jenn Lo:

You learned it, you know, by inches

Jenn Lo:

rather than, okay, we're going to make

Jenn Lo:

a plan and tomorrow we're going to do

Jenn Lo:

this thing, you know, it was as gradual.

Jenn Lo:

So you just felt your way into it and

Jenn Lo:

your communication evolved along with it.

Jenn Lo:

And I think that's such a big key.

Jenn Lo:

There's a communication.

Jenn Lo:

We're not trained, right?

Jenn Lo:

We're not trained for those challenges.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Because you can't

Jenn Lo:

be, there's nothing in school or

Jenn Lo:

in regular life that can prepare

Jenn Lo:

you for those types of dynamics.

Jenn Lo:

But here's the fun part that,

Jenn Lo:

you know, I think right now

Jenn Lo:

I'm coming to terms with that.

Jenn Lo:

Um, I'm realizing that we're actually a

Jenn Lo:

lot less alone than we realize because

Jenn Lo:

every now and then, you know, we're, this

Jenn Lo:

is like 10 year of us working together.

Jenn Lo:

We're starting to meet more and more

Jenn Lo:

other couples, especially people that

Jenn Lo:

have been around this longer than we have.

Jenn Lo:

And next thing you know, we're like

Jenn Lo:

talking about, yeah, we're having this

Jenn Lo:

fight over this really silly thing.

Jenn Lo:

And then they're like,

Jenn Lo:

ah, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.

Jenn Lo:

Uh, you young kids, let me tell you about

Jenn Lo:

the time I fired my wife from her job,

Jenn Lo:

you know, and it's just like, man, it's

Jenn Lo:

like, We realize that a lot of those

Jenn Lo:

dynamics that is on one hand, very unique

Jenn Lo:

to us, but just like, you know, on a broad

Jenn Lo:

level, just, just like entrepreneurship,

Jenn Lo:

forget about working in a family business.

Jenn Lo:

You start realizing that as lonely

Jenn Lo:

as it was, you're actually not alone.

Jenn Lo:

There's other people that have

Jenn Lo:

been through very similar or even

Jenn Lo:

worse situations that you have.

Jenn Lo:

And I find solace in that.

Jenn Lo:

And that's why, you know, as

Jenn Lo:

part of this, this conversation.

Jenn Lo:

preamble to this interview, I got so

Jenn Lo:

excited because it's whenever I see that

Jenn Lo:

kind of dynamics, I know you two have a

Jenn Lo:

lot of really wonderful stories that we

Jenn Lo:

just don't even have a chance to hear.

Jenn Lo:

Because you guys have been in

Jenn Lo:

this game longer than we have.

Jenn Lo:

And you know exactly

Jenn Lo:

where we're coming from.

Jenn Lo:

And that's why it's like, to your

Jenn Lo:

point, you know, you choked up because

Jenn Lo:

it's like, you felt that because we

Jenn Lo:

went through that for the first time.

Jenn Lo:

And it won't be our last, right?

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Right?

Jenn Lo:

Exactly.

Jenn Lo:

Yeah, what I was trying to remember

Jenn Lo:

before, you talked about fighting fair.

Jenn Lo:

You know, and that's, that's actually

Jenn Lo:

a phrase I was, I want to build

Jenn Lo:

a product around at some point.

Jenn Lo:

So, we do , consulting, a blend

Jenn Lo:

of consulting and coaching

Jenn Lo:

for family businesses because

Jenn Lo:

that's where we come from.

Jenn Lo:

And we're not trained,

Jenn Lo:

but, but knowing how to.

Jenn Lo:

To have a constructive disagreement,

Jenn Lo:

that's a, you know, that's a skill.

Jenn Lo:

It's a skill set, and it's

Jenn Lo:

something you have to practice.

Jenn Lo:

But it's based on some,

Jenn Lo:

some understandings.

Jenn Lo:

Like, you know, like, I know

Jenn Lo:

if we disagree, she's not going

Jenn Lo:

to pack her bag and leave.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Yeah.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Thought about

Jenn Lo:

it once or twice, but I didn't.

Jenn Lo:

You know, there was, earlier

Jenn Lo:

in my, in my career, this was

Jenn Lo:

something we had to learn.

Jenn Lo:

You know, I had to learn.

Jenn Lo:

When it, that it was okay to,

Jenn Lo:

that it was going to be safe to

Jenn Lo:

argue and it wasn't going to be.

Jenn Lo:

Well, and he's an only child, too.

Jenn Lo:

So he doesn't understand the joy

Jenn Lo:

of going up and smacking your

Jenn Lo:

brother just to hear him cry.

Jenn Lo:

Okay?

Jenn Lo:

That was more fun.

Jenn Lo:

But he didn't

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Things you can

Jenn Lo:

do in a family business that you

Jenn Lo:

can't do in a regular employment.

Jenn Lo:

You can't just like walk

Jenn Lo:

up and smack my, uh,

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Exactly!

Jenn Lo:

You know?

Jenn Lo:

Sexual harassment is a thing.

Jenn Lo:

But it just, you know,

Jenn Lo:

for him to have to learn.

Jenn Lo:

How to play a game with somebody else,

Jenn Lo:

and not like his parents, who would either

Jenn Lo:

let him win or beat the crap out of him.

Jenn Lo:

You know, he had to figure

Jenn Lo:

out that with me, he was safe.

Jenn Lo:

He could get in my face and

Jenn Lo:

go, and I'd go, yeah, yeah.

Jenn Lo:

Yeah, and that's kind of a metaphor.

Jenn Lo:

And we were fine.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Yeah,

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: That's kind of a

Jenn Lo:

metaphor for, for, for other things

Jenn Lo:

too, you know, but, but it's, uh, The,

Jenn Lo:

the other thing that you said about the

Jenn Lo:

isolation, I really want to touch on

Jenn Lo:

that, because I, I think that's, you

Jenn Lo:

know, part of why we're doing this is

Jenn Lo:

for outreach to other family businesses

Jenn Lo:

to listen to family, and hear what you

Jenn Lo:

just said, which is that, You know, the

Jenn Lo:

number one rule in my family business

Jenn Lo:

with my father was don't talk about the

Jenn Lo:

business to anybody outside the family.

Jenn Lo:

You don't, you don't talk about it.

Jenn Lo:

It's our business.

Jenn Lo:

It was because it's, because

Jenn Lo:

it's family, so it's, there's

Jenn Lo:

a more personal sense to it.

Jenn Lo:

And so it is isolating.

Jenn Lo:

I think, to some degree, we all

Jenn Lo:

feel like our problems are unique.

Jenn Lo:

You know, they're bigger than,

Jenn Lo:

you know, other people don't

Jenn Lo:

feel it the same as, or whatever.

Jenn Lo:

Nobody else has done it just like we have.

Jenn Lo:

But in the family business, yeah,

Jenn Lo:

I think, just like you said, they

Jenn Lo:

are unique to us in that they're us,

Jenn Lo:

but at the same time, there's common

Jenn Lo:

themes that are so common that we just

Jenn Lo:

don't hear about because people are a

Jenn Lo:

little leery about talking about it.

Jenn Lo:

Now his dad had no problems going

Jenn Lo:

and sitting at a bar someplace and

Jenn Lo:

telling his accountant and his lawyer

Jenn Lo:

all this stuff, but, you know, it was

Jenn Lo:

different where he, you know, he didn't

Jenn Lo:

find a mentor or a coach that could,

Jenn Lo:

you know, work his way through this.

Jenn Lo:

And that's what we're trying to do, is

Jenn Lo:

we're trying to save people from all the

Jenn Lo:

crap that we went through and making all

Jenn Lo:

the mistakes we did, and we made them all

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: right.

Jenn Lo:

And I think that's hugely

Jenn Lo:

important because I realized

Jenn Lo:

that for us, I think we're lucky.

Jenn Lo:

And in that sense that I think, you

Jenn Lo:

know, even when we're young, we had a

Jenn Lo:

few guidings, like guardrails, in terms

Jenn Lo:

of like values and principles that I

Jenn Lo:

think like saved us from from, you know,

Jenn Lo:

disaster in a lot of different scenarios.

Jenn Lo:

But you know, one of which I talked

Jenn Lo:

about, you know, And again, these

Jenn Lo:

things were because I think we're lucky

Jenn Lo:

that we just happened to have that.

Jenn Lo:

And so for all the trials and tribulations

Jenn Lo:

and some of the lessons, if we didn't

Jenn Lo:

have those, it could be disastrous.

Jenn Lo:

And, and a lot of waste of time,

Jenn Lo:

a lot of wasted effort, a lot of

Jenn Lo:

wasted, you know, uh, money really

Jenn Lo:

just to, to get, get ourselves going.

Jenn Lo:

And so to have that dedication

Jenn Lo:

towards serving that particular.

Jenn Lo:

area of practice.

Jenn Lo:

I think it's really important.

Jenn Lo:

I'm glad you guys are doing that.

Jenn Lo:

And even doing this podcast, because

Jenn Lo:

even some of the topics that we're

Jenn Lo:

talking about today, it's hard to share

Jenn Lo:

that in a regular, you know, different

Jenn Lo:

episode or different podcast environment,

Jenn Lo:

because they wouldn't have known to

Jenn Lo:

ask, or they wouldn't have known to

Jenn Lo:

pick up on that, or that right there.

Jenn Lo:

That's really important.

Jenn Lo:

I can, let's, let's, let's expand on that.

Jenn Lo:

And I think, you know, to my point earlier

Jenn Lo:

around You know why I love these type of

Jenn Lo:

impromptu conversations around these type

Jenn Lo:

of things because it's like when you when

Jenn Lo:

you ask me that it's like oh man like like

Jenn Lo:

it just comes up and and But you're right.

Jenn Lo:

It doesn't get told.

Jenn Lo:

It's hard.

Jenn Lo:

It's hard for those things to

Jenn Lo:

be told because in most regular

Jenn Lo:

conversations, having a conversation

Jenn Lo:

with an accountant or a lawyer,

Jenn Lo:

it's not going to come up, right?

Jenn Lo:

It's like, you can talk about

Jenn Lo:

like, oh, I'm having issues with

Jenn Lo:

this, but it's just, there's

Jenn Lo:

certain dynamics and nuances.

Jenn Lo:

It's really hard to capture.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Yeah, they haven't

Jenn Lo:

had that experience and they're,

Jenn Lo:

they're going to kind of back off.

Jenn Lo:

They don't, they don't

Jenn Lo:

really want to talk about it.

Jenn Lo:

They want to be your friend, but

Jenn Lo:

they don't want to, they're not

Jenn Lo:

qualified to really give advice.

Jenn Lo:

Is it, have you got a therapist?

Jenn Lo:

Something like that.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: the professional

Jenn Lo:

setting of like, okay, well, it's

Jenn Lo:

your accountant, it's your lawyer.

Jenn Lo:

Say it's all about the business.

Jenn Lo:

Like, what's the business problems?

Jenn Lo:

How can I help you solve it?

Jenn Lo:

Um, I think John came about this.

Jenn Lo:

Um, a podcaster with some part and

Jenn Lo:

Andrew, Andrew Wilkinson, and they talked

Jenn Lo:

about it this phenomenon phenomenon

Jenn Lo:

about, um, having people around you

Jenn Lo:

that you can be vulnerable with.

Jenn Lo:

And then.

Jenn Lo:

The circle the more successful you are the

Jenn Lo:

more that you need to be very selective

Jenn Lo:

to your circle And who you can actually

Jenn Lo:

share those type of information with

Jenn Lo:

how you said it was like hey We don't

Jenn Lo:

if we're a family business We don't

Jenn Lo:

talk about our family business outside

Jenn Lo:

of family or whatever it is or share it

Jenn Lo:

with other people I think there's a bit

Jenn Lo:

of a what I kind of liked about how they

Jenn Lo:

shared it was Um, there is always going

Jenn Lo:

to be that five people around you that

Jenn Lo:

you can be very vulnerable with because

Jenn Lo:

they can, they will not judge you.

Jenn Lo:

They will not actually be like, , make

Jenn Lo:

you, they will not be, , what's that word?

Jenn Lo:

Judgmental.

Jenn Lo:

Yeah, they won't actually be malicious

Jenn Lo:

with you or anything like that.

Jenn Lo:

They are actually there for you.

Jenn Lo:

So you can actually share anything

Jenn Lo:

with them for that particular purpose.

Jenn Lo:

And then anything outside of that

Jenn Lo:

is like, oh, just the acquaintances

Jenn Lo:

that's like, okay, it's like might

Jenn Lo:

be business acquaintances or like

Jenn Lo:

anything that is like could be friends.

Jenn Lo:

You could actually share some

Jenn Lo:

information, not all the information.

Jenn Lo:

Then you have the wide circles, like,

Jenn Lo:

hey, absolutely nothing about that.

Jenn Lo:

That they would not hear inside

Jenn Lo:

stories about your, what is going on

Jenn Lo:

in your business, how your business

Jenn Lo:

is doing, how much are you making,

Jenn Lo:

how you're charging, blah, blah, blah.

Jenn Lo:

Those are all All the other things guys,

Jenn Lo:

I think that's actually quite helpful in

Jenn Lo:

terms of how we go about thinking of our

Jenn Lo:

next step for ourselves as well as we grow

Jenn Lo:

our business as we become more successful

Jenn Lo:

as we grow our wealth and our riches.

Jenn Lo:

Um, and As our business grow bigger and

Jenn Lo:

bigger, because there is a way that we

Jenn Lo:

need to actually cipher and filter through

Jenn Lo:

the people that we are around with a lot.

Jenn Lo:

And kind of like poker, you got to

Jenn Lo:

like read the people around you.

Jenn Lo:

It was like, Hey, what are they here for?

Jenn Lo:

Where are they not here

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Exactly.

Jenn Lo:

And reevaluate on a, on a regular basis.

Jenn Lo:

Do I still need this person in my life?

Jenn Lo:

Because, you know, especially at

Jenn Lo:

our age, we've cycled through a lot.

Jenn Lo:

And, uh, and then we have a hardcore

Jenn Lo:

group that, that no matter what.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: there's an interesting

Jenn Lo:

dynamic about being in a family business

Jenn Lo:

that I want to touch on because I think

Jenn Lo:

when we talk about being in business

Jenn Lo:

and having a circle of friends that are

Jenn Lo:

close to you that you can share anything

Jenn Lo:

with is hugely valuable, but one of the

Jenn Lo:

things that comes up with family business

Jenn Lo:

specifically, especially if you have

Jenn Lo:

scenarios where you're sharing with your

Jenn Lo:

friends, like, for example, I can talk

Jenn Lo:

about my business with my friends, but if

Jenn Lo:

I'm having partner issues or the person

Jenn Lo:

that I'm combating with is my wife, Yeah.

Jenn Lo:

It becomes an ethics issue because

Jenn Lo:

after you talk to a friend or you

Jenn Lo:

talk to somebody else, they still know

Jenn Lo:

and they have to interact with them.

Jenn Lo:

And so that dynamic is something

Jenn Lo:

that comes up in family because

Jenn Lo:

like, it's not about gossiping.

Jenn Lo:

It's about working through problems.

Jenn Lo:

And in the absence of that, if a

Jenn Lo:

third party sort of person that

Jenn Lo:

can sort of, um, you know, that's

Jenn Lo:

what I can see, for example, being

Jenn Lo:

a coach or, uh, even a therapist.

Jenn Lo:

Helpful with is because you have that

Jenn Lo:

arm's length sort of like, um, way to

Jenn Lo:

solve that particular problem, but it

Jenn Lo:

comes up with family where your friends,

Jenn Lo:

when you can't share that or talk about

Jenn Lo:

it in a way without the other person

Jenn Lo:

being impartial, because they still

Jenn Lo:

have to interact with the family member

Jenn Lo:

afterwards when your family friends,

Jenn Lo:

they're still interacting with them.

Jenn Lo:

And so it just, it just adds to that layer

Jenn Lo:

of, um, and again, going back to being

Jenn Lo:

lucky, it adds to a layer of complexity

Jenn Lo:

about running a family business.

Jenn Lo:

But being lucky aspect of it is that.

Jenn Lo:

I think we've had multiple instances

Jenn Lo:

where we've had friends not take sides.

Jenn Lo:

That they know that there's a

Jenn Lo:

second half to the story when they

Jenn Lo:

hear the other person complain

Jenn Lo:

and have that dumped on them.

Jenn Lo:

They know that their job as a friend is

Jenn Lo:

to like, Yeah, John was being mean to you

Jenn Lo:

and he shouldn't have said those things.

Jenn Lo:

He said that in anger and

Jenn Lo:

all those type of things.

Jenn Lo:

That must be really hard.

Jenn Lo:

How did it all come out?

Jenn Lo:

And then come talk to me afterwards,

Jenn Lo:

completely normal and be like,

Jenn Lo:

Hey, what's going on in your world?

Jenn Lo:

And what's, what's happening?

Jenn Lo:

That, and then it's like, you know,

Jenn Lo:

how do you have friends like that?

Jenn Lo:

And when you have someone

Jenn Lo:

like that, again, it just,

Jenn Lo:

you know, touches our heart.

Jenn Lo:

But at the same time, it's, it's

Jenn Lo:

one of those things where it was.

Jenn Lo:

It was tricky and hard to navigate,

Jenn Lo:

especially early on when, um, when I

Jenn Lo:

was uncomfortable with her going to our

Jenn Lo:

friends or, you know, if, if I didn't

Jenn Lo:

do that on the other side, how do we

Jenn Lo:

navigate doing that in an ethical manner?

Jenn Lo:

Like that's, that's a very family business

Jenn Lo:

specific sort of like trait that it's,

Jenn Lo:

it's hard to talk about or come across and

Jenn Lo:

know what the right or wrong answer is.

Jenn Lo:

For sure.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Yeah, we've

Jenn Lo:

had some of that because I

Jenn Lo:

don't have a lot of filters.

Jenn Lo:

who knew?

Jenn Lo:

And he might have a few more than I do.

Jenn Lo:

So, you know, might.

Jenn Lo:

So we've had to negotiate that

Jenn Lo:

because I've had to either apologize

Jenn Lo:

or say, you know, it is who I am.

Jenn Lo:

You know, suck it up.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Yeah.

Jenn Lo:

But again, it's one of those things

Jenn Lo:

that just adds a layer of complexity as

Jenn Lo:

you navigate that kind of relationship.

Jenn Lo:

It's not just the two of you

Jenn Lo:

or the three of you or the

Jenn Lo:

family, like the family unit.

Jenn Lo:

It's, it's the extended circles

Jenn Lo:

around it and having them like, how

Jenn Lo:

do you integrate them or not integrate

Jenn Lo:

them with the part of your life?

Jenn Lo:

It's, yeah, it just adds

Jenn Lo:

another layer of complexity.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Right?

Jenn Lo:

And we are all born into family

Jenn Lo:

businesses, if you think about it.

Jenn Lo:

You know, all of your, your

Jenn Lo:

views on money and relationships

Jenn Lo:

came from your, your parents.

Jenn Lo:

And how they view it.

Jenn Lo:

Well then, how do they view it

Jenn Lo:

out, you know, their parents.

Jenn Lo:

And then, so it's generational.

Jenn Lo:

So that's another thing that,

Jenn Lo:

you know, being aware of that,

Jenn Lo:

you know, is, is this mine?

Jenn Lo:

Is it still relevant at this point?

Jenn Lo:

If it's not, then update, move it

Jenn Lo:

out and bring in something new.

Jenn Lo:

And that's been another hard

Jenn Lo:

thing to, to get past sometimes.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: for sure, for sure.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Yeah, we, we met, we had

Jenn Lo:

a mentor back in the day that, um, was,

Jenn Lo:

was a leadership development program.

Jenn Lo:

And, and he, he was, you know,

Jenn Lo:

trying to up level people's thinking.

Jenn Lo:

And so his, his thing was, If

Jenn Lo:

you're, if you've got a roof over

Jenn Lo:

your head and you're, and you're

Jenn Lo:

eating regularly, you're running

Jenn Lo:

a successful business, okay?

Jenn Lo:

You've got cash flow in and cash

Jenn Lo:

flow out and, and, you know,

Jenn Lo:

you're, you're, you're managing

Jenn Lo:

resources, you're running a business.

Jenn Lo:

And if you think of it like that, you're

Jenn Lo:

not as small or ignorant or whatever

Jenn Lo:

as you think you know you're it's it's

Jenn Lo:

everything else is just a matter of

Jenn Lo:

scale after that you know and and wow

Jenn Lo:

what a he was a wise man so that's

Jenn Lo:

the that's part of what that is about

Jenn Lo:

and yeah the um so why don't we go on

Jenn Lo:

to this one well i think we've um is

Jenn Lo:

there anything that you know now that

Jenn Lo:

you wish you'd known when you started

Jenn Lo:

about being in business together

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: I do, but

Jenn Lo:

I'm not going to start.

Jenn Lo:

Jen, you go first.

Jenn Lo:

If you need, if you need time,

Jenn Lo:

I can go first, but I just

Jenn Lo:

don't want to hijack the mic.

Jenn Lo:

Yes.

Jenn Lo:

I wish, I think, I think I

Jenn Lo:

wish, uh, can I say it wrong?

Jenn Lo:

Of course, you can say anything you

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: we can always

Jenn Lo:

edit if, if, we can always edit

Jenn Lo:

it out if you're not happy.

Jenn Lo:

Mm

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: you want.

Jenn Lo:

It's fine.

Jenn Lo:

Um, I think I wish I've known that

Jenn Lo:

he had ADHD before we started a

Jenn Lo:

business together, but then he

Jenn Lo:

wouldn't have known himself as well

Jenn Lo:

because he got diagnosed quite late.

Jenn Lo:

Uh, so I think that.

Jenn Lo:

was probably the biggest barrier and

Jenn Lo:

challenge to how we work together

Jenn Lo:

and how we need to adapt to working

Jenn Lo:

together because I'm very much of a

Jenn Lo:

doer and like executioner and like

Jenn Lo:

just get out of my way and like okay

Jenn Lo:

well tell me what I need to do what is

Jenn Lo:

the angle you need to actually get to

Jenn Lo:

and like I'll get it all done for you.

Jenn Lo:

Traits of ADHD kind of In that way, it

Jenn Lo:

makes it a little bit more complicated

Jenn Lo:

when I have to work with him.

Jenn Lo:

He overthinks a lot.

Jenn Lo:

He takes a long time to

Jenn Lo:

actually go and execute things.

Jenn Lo:

He might actually procrastinate a lot.

Jenn Lo:

There's like a lot of things that just

Jenn Lo:

is a barrier to getting him to the end

Jenn Lo:

destination of what he needs to do.

Jenn Lo:

Great thing about it.

Jenn Lo:

Is that he is a starter of

Jenn Lo:

any type of great ideas.

Jenn Lo:

He's a good thinker.

Jenn Lo:

He's a good ideation person He knows how

Jenn Lo:

to go with very dealing with chaos at

Jenn Lo:

a very Split of a second of like trying

Jenn Lo:

to problem solve a lot of things very

Jenn Lo:

creative um, that's great that that's

Jenn Lo:

the great thing about him and his his his

Jenn Lo:

uh situation It takes a lot of time and

Jenn Lo:

effort for us to kind of find that mold of

Jenn Lo:

like, okay That piece of Puzzle together

Jenn Lo:

to kind of like, how do we actually work

Jenn Lo:

with that and how do we come across?

Jenn Lo:

Come together with our strengths and

Jenn Lo:

weaknesses and like okay if your weakness

Jenn Lo:

is ADHD, how can I actually fit my

Jenn Lo:

pieces so then I can actually I can fit

Jenn Lo:

perfectly with your ADHD in that way.

Jenn Lo:

That's a lot of Adoption that needed

Jenn Lo:

to be happening throughout the last 10

Jenn Lo:

years We're like not not even last like

Jenn Lo:

five five six years of like diagnosing

Jenn Lo:

him and then now have to go like Okay,

Jenn Lo:

now I know you had this scenario or

Jenn Lo:

the situation now I have to go and

Jenn Lo:

deal with it How do I deal with it?

Jenn Lo:

I have to also talk to him and communicate

Jenn Lo:

with him very differently from how I've

Jenn Lo:

communicating with Communicated with

Jenn Lo:

him before because it wasn't working.

Jenn Lo:

You know, why don't you get it?

Jenn Lo:

And it's just like now I know a lot more

Jenn Lo:

about ADHD and I know a lot more about

Jenn Lo:

what he's going through I can Slowly

Jenn Lo:

become more empathetic of how he's

Jenn Lo:

going through things and I was like,

Jenn Lo:

okay, what are you trying to really do?

Jenn Lo:

Help me go through your thought

Jenn Lo:

process Go through that for me, and

Jenn Lo:

then let me simplify it for you.

Jenn Lo:

Um, it's probably the biggest thing

Jenn Lo:

I would say I, I wished I knew

Jenn Lo:

much sooner than it is, uh, after.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Okay.

Jenn Lo:

In programming lingo, I think

Jenn Lo:

what I'm hearing is that you're,

Jenn Lo:

you're more of um, a sequential

Jenn Lo:

program and he's multi threaded.

Jenn Lo:

Sure.

Jenn Lo:

Absolutely!

Jenn Lo:

Mm

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: I was gonna say, if

Jenn Lo:

you're familiar with, um, I think

Jenn Lo:

this is the teaching in the U.

Jenn Lo:

S.

Jenn Lo:

where it's, um, we're the classic

Jenn Lo:

visionary versus integrator.

Jenn Lo:

Right.

Jenn Lo:

So it's like the, I'm the person

Jenn Lo:

that's thinking, looking ahead.

Jenn Lo:

And she's the one that has to

Jenn Lo:

deal with a lot of the, the thing

Jenn Lo:

gets get thrown back to her.

Jenn Lo:

And I think she's being delicate about it,

Jenn Lo:

but I think to her point in the work, she

Jenn Lo:

was mostly coming from, you can sort of

Jenn Lo:

hear the, the, the, the stress and agony

Jenn Lo:

of like having to deal with me because

Jenn Lo:

I actually realized that halfway through

Jenn Lo:

it and, and in being self aware about,

Jenn Lo:

Oh, those things aren't natural and it is

Jenn Lo:

chaotic and problematic for someone

Jenn Lo:

who has to do with all the mess

Jenn Lo:

that I created in a sense, right?

Jenn Lo:

But to her point about being great with

Jenn Lo:

problem solving, you know For example

Jenn Lo:

coming into this interview without

Jenn Lo:

necessarily to read all the questions

Jenn Lo:

in advance and and thriving on that kind

Jenn Lo:

of thing Um, it just meant that uh, we

Jenn Lo:

really did have to rely on our strengths

Jenn Lo:

and weaknesses like every family or any

Jenn Lo:

business partner Um, that was us As our

Jenn Lo:

own maturity, as we grew and learn about

Jenn Lo:

one another, um, it's one of those things.

Jenn Lo:

And, um, so I'm, I thought she was

Jenn Lo:

gonna talk about something else, but I

Jenn Lo:

thought that's, that's a great example

Jenn Lo:

because it's true is, is, um, as you

Jenn Lo:

think about any type of like, you know,

Jenn Lo:

trait that we have with each other,

Jenn Lo:

how do you integrate with one another?

Jenn Lo:

And how do you make sure that

Jenn Lo:

whatever, you know, personal

Jenn Lo:

ticks or, you know, aspect of it

Jenn Lo:

doesn't cause a lot of

Jenn Lo:

stress on the other side.

Jenn Lo:

Um, I think for me, one of the things

Jenn Lo:

that I kind of wish I learned earlier

Jenn Lo:

on, um, relates to that, but it's around

Jenn Lo:

being respectful about our differences.

Jenn Lo:

I think when we first started working

Jenn Lo:

early on, um, I talk fast, I think

Jenn Lo:

fast, I do a lot of different things.

Jenn Lo:

I also had a few years ahead of her

Jenn Lo:

in my career, um, because I was like,

Jenn Lo:

The writing was on the wall, right?

Jenn Lo:

I dropped out of school.

Jenn Lo:

I had three different career shifts

Jenn Lo:

within a course of 12 years, right?

Jenn Lo:

It's like,

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Read the room.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: It's like, no

Jenn Lo:

hints at all along the way, right?

Jenn Lo:

It's not like I was dropping it

Jenn Lo:

at her just to pick up the slack.

Jenn Lo:

But, but the broader point was like,

Jenn Lo:

um, Because I had the dynamic going

Jenn Lo:

into the initial working relationship,

Jenn Lo:

it meant that, um, you know, the first

Jenn Lo:

company I was building incorrectly.

Jenn Lo:

So I kept being the

Jenn Lo:

smartest person in the room.

Jenn Lo:

And I say that with quotes

Jenn Lo:

because I wasn't right.

Jenn Lo:

It's, it's, and even if I was technically

Jenn Lo:

smart, there's a lot of aspects about

Jenn Lo:

business that you cannot lead with that.

Jenn Lo:

And I know that now, right.

Jenn Lo:

And it was through a painful process

Jenn Lo:

of, you know, a lot of, a lot of

Jenn Lo:

late nights and a lot of fights,

Jenn Lo:

but over the course of the years.

Jenn Lo:

As you know, she learned about

Jenn Lo:

my traits and learned about

Jenn Lo:

our strengths and weaknesses.

Jenn Lo:

I learned to be respectful about the

Jenn Lo:

skills that says she brought to the

Jenn Lo:

table that weren't directly based

Jenn Lo:

on technical skills of being a coder

Jenn Lo:

or being a designer of those type of

Jenn Lo:

things because she didn't have that

Jenn Lo:

background, nor is she supposed to.

Jenn Lo:

And where that plays out really well,

Jenn Lo:

especially in the current business

Jenn Lo:

that we have today is our different

Jenn Lo:

perspectives in thinking about we're

Jenn Lo:

advertising to a wide breadth of people.

Jenn Lo:

people, right?

Jenn Lo:

If I talk too fast and that rubs

Jenn Lo:

people in the wrong way or sends

Jenn Lo:

it, that's a certain preference.

Jenn Lo:

She balances out really well.

Jenn Lo:

If I have a certain trait about thinking

Jenn Lo:

about things in a certain way, she

Jenn Lo:

provides a counterpoint to that very well.

Jenn Lo:

When we're selling products, if I'm

Jenn Lo:

not the end consumer, because you know,

Jenn Lo:

I'm a male demographic focusing on

Jenn Lo:

these type of products and I understand

Jenn Lo:

messaging from these type of messages,

Jenn Lo:

she'll look at things from a very subtle

Jenn Lo:

level and be like, Hey, notice that.

Jenn Lo:

Yeah.

Jenn Lo:

That's really important and that

Jenn Lo:

will completely overlook and so being

Jenn Lo:

respectful of the other person's

Jenn Lo:

strengthening weaknesses and helping them

Jenn Lo:

encourage and flourishing that I think

Jenn Lo:

that's hugely valuable and it's one of

Jenn Lo:

the things that we haven't gotten to like

Jenn Lo:

multi generational, you know, running

Jenn Lo:

a business as a family in that sense.

Jenn Lo:

Um, but it makes me think a lot

Jenn Lo:

about, you know, whether if our

Jenn Lo:

kids work in this business or not.

Jenn Lo:

You know, hopefully not, maybe they're

Jenn Lo:

only doing their own thing to explore,

Jenn Lo:

but helping them encourage and flourish

Jenn Lo:

in their own way that are unique to them,

Jenn Lo:

I think is something that I, I, I wish

Jenn Lo:

more people recognize and hear about.

Jenn Lo:

That we took many years of very painful

Jenn Lo:

conversations and late nights to get

Jenn Lo:

past, which I'm glad we got past now.

Jenn Lo:

Um, but it's one of those things

Jenn Lo:

where it was very easy to overlook.

Jenn Lo:

Right.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Exactly.

Jenn Lo:

I couldn't say it any better.

Jenn Lo:

Wow.

Jenn Lo:

Yeah, we can relate.

Jenn Lo:

Yeah, because I'm dyslexic.

Jenn Lo:

So I look at the world entirely different

Jenn Lo:

than he does and he's a perfectionist.

Jenn Lo:

They don't necessarily go together.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Yes.

Jenn Lo:

Works when it

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Well, and even Even

Jenn Lo:

to go to the labels of strengths and

Jenn Lo:

weaknesses, you have to tread lightly.

Jenn Lo:

Because, you know, what's um,

Jenn Lo:

what can seem like a weakness

Jenn Lo:

can actually be a strength.

Jenn Lo:

You know, it's kind of situational.

Jenn Lo:

Like you said, you know, in a

Jenn Lo:

chaotic situation, um, you know,

Jenn Lo:

she's, to be able to figure a way

Jenn Lo:

through much faster than I am.

Jenn Lo:

I know for spatial relationships,

Jenn Lo:

that's a different kind of chaos.

Jenn Lo:

But like, when we were younger,

Jenn Lo:

we were going to pack a car

Jenn Lo:

full of stuff to go on a trip.

Jenn Lo:

I'd look at the pile of stuff and I'd

Jenn Lo:

look at the car and I'd say, You're

Jenn Lo:

going to have to take some stuff back.

Jenn Lo:

It's not going.

Jenn Lo:

And she'd look at it and

Jenn Lo:

say, Oh yeah, it'll fit.

Jenn Lo:

And she was always right.

Jenn Lo:

Always right.

Jenn Lo:

And those kind of things, you know, I just

Jenn Lo:

had to learn to appreciate and not fight.

Jenn Lo:

He still fights, but I just ignore him.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Once in a while.

Jenn Lo:

It'll come around.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: There was a book

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: but

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: ago, Men are from

Jenn Lo:

Mars, Women are from Venus, and that

Jenn Lo:

really helped me level up on that scale.

Jenn Lo:

It was an early day, but it helped.

Jenn Lo:

Appreciating the differences.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Oh, for sure.

Jenn Lo:

And I think for us, it's, it's

Jenn Lo:

again, hard in a, uh, family setting,

Jenn Lo:

because even if you recognize the

Jenn Lo:

strengths and weaknesses of a regular

Jenn Lo:

business partner, it gets personal.

Jenn Lo:

And so when you see the other person's

Jenn Lo:

weaknesses, to not fault them, take

Jenn Lo:

them to a fault and to associate that

Jenn Lo:

with things outside of your life, it's,

Jenn Lo:

it's, that's another can of worms too.

Jenn Lo:

But it's because it's, it's one

Jenn Lo:

of those things where, again, Um,

Jenn Lo:

having strengths and weaknesses is

Jenn Lo:

an important trait of any leadership

Jenn Lo:

or any position in business.

Jenn Lo:

But in a family setting is to not,

Jenn Lo:

um, appreciate the person's strength

Jenn Lo:

and not, you know, taking the role or

Jenn Lo:

fighting over it or that kind of thing

Jenn Lo:

is one aspect of it that would come up.

Jenn Lo:

But the other aspect of it is on the

Jenn Lo:

weakness side that you don't, um,

Jenn Lo:

take it on that person personally.

Jenn Lo:

It's, it's, it's, it's, there's an element

Jenn Lo:

of that, that it's very easy because like

Jenn Lo:

you said, When you're done at work, next

Jenn Lo:

thing you know, you're going on a road

Jenn Lo:

trip and you have to pack the car and to

Jenn Lo:

carry that emotion or that, or that mental

Jenn Lo:

understanding of the other person and

Jenn Lo:

separating that within that environment.

Jenn Lo:

And then going back to work the

Jenn Lo:

next day afterwards, it's like,

Jenn Lo:

tough

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: It is.

Jenn Lo:

It is tough.

Jenn Lo:

I love what, you know, you said

Jenn Lo:

at the beginning, it's not for

Jenn Lo:

the faint of heart, and it's not.

Jenn Lo:

It's not.

Jenn Lo:

But, you know, it's, there's that,

Jenn Lo:

I come from an investing side, so

Jenn Lo:

you know, there's risk and reward.

Jenn Lo:

The

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: yes,

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: more

Jenn Lo:

reward, there's more risk.

Jenn Lo:

It's gonna happen.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Absolutely when it works.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: And when

Jenn Lo:

it works, it's amazing.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Yes.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Wow.

Jenn Lo:

Um, do you guys, you don't have

Jenn Lo:

any other employees, do you?

Jenn Lo:

Is it just the two of you,

Jenn Lo:

or do you have a team?

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: We have employees, we have

Jenn Lo:

a team, , that are, we have, that are

Jenn Lo:

based all over the world right now, , it

Jenn Lo:

didn't used to be that way, we used to

Jenn Lo:

have more, uh, employees co located in

Jenn Lo:

Vancouver, , but the pandemic sort of,

Jenn Lo:

like, shifted that, and so, um, we're,

Jenn Lo:

we're a mix, mix of part time staff,

Jenn Lo:

, and one full time staff and a bunch of

Jenn Lo:

contractors, it's easier in the agency

Jenn Lo:

world to, to fluctuate based on demand

Jenn Lo:

and, , your sales velocity to manage

Jenn Lo:

fulfillment in a contract and setting.

Jenn Lo:

And so we've got the infrastructure

Jenn Lo:

now that we didn't have before.

Jenn Lo:

Um, and so in terms of

Jenn Lo:

roles now, we're still.

Jenn Lo:

Both handling account

Jenn Lo:

management and fulfillment.

Jenn Lo:

So we're still involved with the day

Jenn Lo:

to day operations of the business.

Jenn Lo:

And I lean more on the sales

Jenn Lo:

side and she's more on the

Jenn Lo:

marketing side of the business.

Jenn Lo:

And, um, when we first talked about,

Jenn Lo:

you know, the operations of the

Jenn Lo:

business that we bought and owned.

Jenn Lo:

Um, and so like 80 percent of the

Jenn Lo:

time, it's still most on the agency.

Jenn Lo:

The 20 percent time is on the venture

Jenn Lo:

and we have a general manager effectively

Jenn Lo:

that takes care of operations of

Jenn Lo:

those businesses that we meet with a

Jenn Lo:

regular basis, um, to make sure that

Jenn Lo:

things are still running smoothly.

Jenn Lo:

So that's our current setup right now.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Nice.

Jenn Lo:

Cool.

Jenn Lo:

Is there, is there anything in

Jenn Lo:

particular that you've learned

Jenn Lo:

from one of your employees that's

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Oh, lots.

Jenn Lo:

I mean, so I think I'll talk about

Jenn Lo:

the hiring process and I think

Jenn Lo:

that might be true for any general

Jenn Lo:

business, not just for family business.

Jenn Lo:

, I think the thing about hiring and,

Jenn Lo:

and leadership really, , is that, you

Jenn Lo:

know, any great hire should be better

Jenn Lo:

at you in their respective roles.

Jenn Lo:

And for an agency, it's a little bit

Jenn Lo:

harder because in the, , when you're

Jenn Lo:

selling a service and you're selling labor

Jenn Lo:

effectively, um, You have to be bringing,

Jenn Lo:

you're basically arbitraging talent.

Jenn Lo:

And so what it means is that generally

Jenn Lo:

for a marketing agency, you're bringing

Jenn Lo:

in more junior and intermediate

Jenn Lo:

employees and then finding ways to

Jenn Lo:

make sure that they incentivize to

Jenn Lo:

stay with you medium to long term.

Jenn Lo:

And so in terms of me learning from my

Jenn Lo:

employees, I think, you know, for me,

Jenn Lo:

it's about, , knowing how to step away

Jenn Lo:

and delegate and be, uh, so I talked about

Jenn Lo:

earlier, you teach what you need to learn.

Jenn Lo:

Um, um, I think the staff and the team

Jenn Lo:

has helped me, um, articulate a lot

Jenn Lo:

of the functional processes that we're

Jenn Lo:

doing that we've internalized that we

Jenn Lo:

otherwise would not have been able to.

Jenn Lo:

And so seeing them do better in each

Jenn Lo:

of the respective roles than what

Jenn Lo:

we would have done individually.

Jenn Lo:

Um, that's, that's

Jenn Lo:

always really rewarding.

Jenn Lo:

Any business owner can say that, uh, can,

Jenn Lo:

can, can understand and appreciate that.

Jenn Lo:

Um, and so I think that's, um,

Jenn Lo:

maybe it should be more specific.

Jenn Lo:

One thing that I learned

Jenn Lo:

from them, but I think.

Jenn Lo:

You know, broadly, you

Jenn Lo:

know, very general sense.

Jenn Lo:

Um, that's been my experience bringing

Jenn Lo:

people in and having them seeing them

Jenn Lo:

thrive in our environment because

Jenn Lo:

primarily we've been hiring people that

Jenn Lo:

are earlier into careers has been really

Jenn Lo:

rewarding and very fulfilling for me.

Jenn Lo:

And, um, maybe I'll come back to

Jenn Lo:

like a more specific lesson or

Jenn Lo:

thing that I learned from them,

Jenn Lo:

but Jenn, you have anything?

Jenn Lo:

I think I'm going to build

Jenn Lo:

upon just the delegation part.

Jenn Lo:

I think indirectly you've kind

Jenn Lo:

of learned how to delegate more.

Jenn Lo:

And I think when we started the business,

Jenn Lo:

it's just us, just you and I, right?

Jenn Lo:

So it's, it was more so that like,

Jenn Lo:

okay, we can bring on everything and

Jenn Lo:

anything that we can actually do.

Jenn Lo:

We always believe that we can

Jenn Lo:

actually go through with it.

Jenn Lo:

Um, Make things happen.

Jenn Lo:

Um as we grow as a company as we grow

Jenn Lo:

as a team We slowly had to learn how to

Jenn Lo:

delegate Parts of the business and parts

Jenn Lo:

of the task parts of the projects to

Jenn Lo:

other people and it's really hard It's

Jenn Lo:

it's it's a growing It's like a growing

Jenn Lo:

up process to as a business owner to now

Jenn Lo:

switching to be being being leadership

Jenn Lo:

and being management um in time in that

Jenn Lo:

like You need to have a you need to let

Jenn Lo:

go and know how to let go when to let go

Jenn Lo:

of like okay It's okay You need to put

Jenn Lo:

this piece to that person and trust in

Jenn Lo:

that person that they can actually go

Jenn Lo:

and fulfill whatever they need to do um

Jenn Lo:

now our Now that our team Um have worked

Jenn Lo:

with us for quite a bit of time now up

Jenn Lo:

to a year to three years now uh Some team

Jenn Lo:

members have now know the dynamics between

Jenn Lo:

him and I and know exactly when to just

Jenn Lo:

like, Hey, do not involve John or like

Jenn Lo:

let John know that no, you cannot do this.

Jenn Lo:

Let me take care of it and then teach

Jenn Lo:

him how to actually delegate and be okay.

Jenn Lo:

It's like, no, I don't

Jenn Lo:

need you to do this.

Jenn Lo:

I just need you to make a decision

Jenn Lo:

when I give you two, two options.

Jenn Lo:

You choose one, please kind of thing.

Jenn Lo:

Um, I think that's that helped

Jenn Lo:

him a lot in terms of, Yeah.

Jenn Lo:

Being aware of his, uh, leadership role

Jenn Lo:

and how he can actually be improving

Jenn Lo:

his leadership at that time, uh,

Jenn Lo:

for, for being delegating that way.

Jenn Lo:

But it's also to be more self aware for

Jenn Lo:

him of his ADHD is because he wants to,

Jenn Lo:

like, he, he wants, he knows he needs

Jenn Lo:

to be a better leader, but he doesn't

Jenn Lo:

quite know exactly how to actually let

Jenn Lo:

go of certain things and prioritizing

Jenn Lo:

what to let go and what not to let go.

Jenn Lo:

Um, I think the team right now

Jenn Lo:

have, found a really good soft spot

Jenn Lo:

to know exactly where to involve

Jenn Lo:

him and when not to involve him.

Jenn Lo:

They know when to ask me for things

Jenn Lo:

and they know when to ask Jenn for it

Jenn Lo:

because John's not going to respond.

Jenn Lo:

John's not going to respond for like days.

Jenn Lo:

So, I think that part have helped and

Jenn Lo:

as for me, I've learned really quickly

Jenn Lo:

to delegate and I was like, I can't do

Jenn Lo:

everything I've always been the one that's

Jenn Lo:

doing like operations and marketing and

Jenn Lo:

like, you know All the tasks that needs to

Jenn Lo:

be done for the agent, uh for the for the

Jenn Lo:

clients themselves as well for execution

Jenn Lo:

so now That I have a lot more help,

Jenn Lo:

I'm like, okay, I'm really trusting

Jenn Lo:

to actually just let them go

Jenn Lo:

through it when they are stuck.

Jenn Lo:

I know I need to be a backup for it,

Jenn Lo:

but I'm like, okay, but I'm not going

Jenn Lo:

to give you all the silver spoon and

Jenn Lo:

put everything into the instructions.

Jenn Lo:

Like, can you go and figure it out for me?

Jenn Lo:

I'm not going to give you

Jenn Lo:

the instruction for it.

Jenn Lo:

How about you give me a proposal

Jenn Lo:

of one to two different options

Jenn Lo:

and then let me out the rest or,

Jenn Lo:

or evaluate what your options were.

Jenn Lo:

Um, That never been that that never been

Jenn Lo:

something I've done previously either.

Jenn Lo:

I also had to go through a piece a lesson

Jenn Lo:

to kind of let go and like trust the

Jenn Lo:

team to kind of figure out some things.

Jenn Lo:

And the biggest shift is because

Jenn Lo:

my mental capacity was like just

Jenn Lo:

over the top 110 percent already.

Jenn Lo:

I can't.

Jenn Lo:

I can't stuff more things in there.

Jenn Lo:

Like I really need to actually lower

Jenn Lo:

my mental capacity and that's the

Jenn Lo:

biggest mental shift for myself.

Jenn Lo:

It's like, Nope, I'm not going

Jenn Lo:

to try to solve this problem.

Jenn Lo:

I'm going to tell them these are

Jenn Lo:

the results and these are the

Jenn Lo:

things that I'm trying to solve.

Jenn Lo:

Can you go and figure it out for me

Jenn Lo:

and then come back with some options?

Jenn Lo:

Uh, that, that's the growing part

Jenn Lo:

of how we're dealing with the

Jenn Lo:

team and how the team is actually

Jenn Lo:

dealing with us at the moment.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: So much

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Well said.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Yes, so much there.

Jenn Lo:

Wow.

Jenn Lo:

So, on one level, I heard so much

Jenn Lo:

you said about early in that about

Jenn Lo:

delegation would also apply to a

Jenn Lo:

founder, trying to navigate the early

Jenn Lo:

parts of succession because there's, you

Jenn Lo:

know, very similar thought processes.

Jenn Lo:

You know, they've, they've been doing it.

Jenn Lo:

They know how to do it.

Jenn Lo:

They know they can do it their certain

Jenn Lo:

way and they have to learn to trust.

Jenn Lo:

And, and part of that trust is

Jenn Lo:

knowing that people are going to

Jenn Lo:

make mistakes and we have to be,

Jenn Lo:

you have to be okay with that too.

Jenn Lo:

And they got to make their mistakes

Jenn Lo:

in order for them to learn.

Jenn Lo:

Cause you're, you know, you're, that's

Jenn Lo:

part of them, how, how they recover

Jenn Lo:

from the mistakes is then what,

Jenn Lo:

how you learn to trust them more.

Jenn Lo:

And, and the other thing you were

Jenn Lo:

talking about, uh, reminded me of, uh,

Jenn Lo:

have you heard of, uh, Dale Carnegie?

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Yes.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: one of

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Do.

Jenn Lo:

Mm-Hmm,

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: techniques that he

Jenn Lo:

published in his book so many years

Jenn Lo:

ago was, you know, when somebody

Jenn Lo:

comes to him with a problem, he, you

Jenn Lo:

know, if it's not, "Okay, tell me

Jenn Lo:

your problem and I'll fix it for you."

Jenn Lo:

It's no, , if you're going

Jenn Lo:

to come to me with a problem,

Jenn Lo:

here's a form you fill out.

Jenn Lo:

What's the problem?

Jenn Lo:

What do you think?

Jenn Lo:

Uh, what are some several possible

Jenn Lo:

solutions and what do you think is

Jenn Lo:

the best possible solution and why?

Jenn Lo:

And you bring that to me

Jenn Lo:

filled out and we'll talk.

Jenn Lo:

And you kind of described that

Jenn Lo:

process in your, you know,

Jenn Lo:

in how you learn to delegate.

Jenn Lo:

Ha

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: But we should systemize

Jenn Lo:

it though, because we actually

Jenn Lo:

never thought about it that way.

Jenn Lo:

That was all like organic in the

Jenn Lo:

way we, I actually systemized, I

Jenn Lo:

read a book that actually clearly.

Jenn Lo:

But it is very, very similar.

Jenn Lo:

And I think it's very important to

Jenn Lo:

us, a young company that started as a

Jenn Lo:

startup to grow into a next phase of

Jenn Lo:

their company and the next phase of the

Jenn Lo:

company, if you are only thinking about,

Jenn Lo:

okay, well, we're, we're the best of

Jenn Lo:

what we do and we, we we're holding on

Jenn Lo:

everything so tightly and not really

Jenn Lo:

sharing the, the responsibilities and

Jenn Lo:

the tasks and everything that, that the

Jenn Lo:

roles, um, you'll always be just the

Jenn Lo:

two of you and your business won't grow.

Jenn Lo:

You really want it.

Jenn Lo:

That that's totally fine.

Jenn Lo:

If you actually want to grow a business

Jenn Lo:

just for the two of you, and there's a

Jenn Lo:

lifestyle business that way, but if you

Jenn Lo:

have bigger ambition to actually grow

Jenn Lo:

a business and grow it bigger, uh, with

Jenn Lo:

better, with, with more team members.

Jenn Lo:

And as.

Jenn Lo:

As a higher, higher, a bigger company,

Jenn Lo:

then you need to think about changing

Jenn Lo:

of the roles and how you're going to

Jenn Lo:

actually have passed down the baton to

Jenn Lo:

somebody else to actually go through.

Jenn Lo:

No, I'm not going to do

Jenn Lo:

with finances anymore.

Jenn Lo:

Hey, Grace, can you take this on?

Jenn Lo:

And like, you know, you just need

Jenn Lo:

to meet with me once a month, every

Jenn Lo:

two weeks to actually go through

Jenn Lo:

all the P& L and all the things.

Jenn Lo:

Therefore, I can actually go back

Jenn Lo:

to my CEO to actually talk about

Jenn Lo:

those finances, the high level stuff.

Jenn Lo:

But now you're shifting your role very

Jenn Lo:

differently from where you started.

Jenn Lo:

Five six seven years

Jenn Lo:

ago to now you're okay.

Jenn Lo:

Now you're a different stage of company

Jenn Lo:

You have to you need to be able to

Jenn Lo:

actually shift that mindset As you grow

Jenn Lo:

as a team as you grow as a company and the

Jenn Lo:

team Team members that you hire on board

Jenn Lo:

also need to know that is the end goal.

Jenn Lo:

That is the like north

Jenn Lo:

star We're trying to get to

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: too.

Jenn Lo:

You know, this is, this is where,

Jenn Lo:

you know, sharing that, this

Jenn Lo:

is our, you know, direction.

Jenn Lo:

And, and, you know, someday you,

Jenn Lo:

you, we may sell and you may be

Jenn Lo:

working for somebody else or, you

Jenn Lo:

know, whatever, that's, that's huge.

Jenn Lo:

I, I was also thinking that, you know,

Jenn Lo:

sometimes people grow a business like

Jenn Lo:

that and they find themselves in a

Jenn Lo:

role where they miss doing the work.

Jenn Lo:

They miss those early days.

Jenn Lo:

And so they actually sell the

Jenn Lo:

company and then go start another

Jenn Lo:

one and start over small so they

Jenn Lo:

can get their hands dirty again.

Jenn Lo:

And that's okay too, right?

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: For sure

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: They do it with

Jenn Lo:

a lot more money in their pocket,

Jenn Lo:

usually, so they can even enjoy, enjoy

Jenn Lo:

those early days much more without

Jenn Lo:

having to sweat the little stuff.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: I'm

Jenn Lo:

retired, now what do I do?

Jenn Lo:

Let's

Jenn Lo:

go find some work

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: There you go.

Jenn Lo:

This has been wonderful.

Jenn Lo:

It has been.

Jenn Lo:

So, um, my last question is always,

Jenn Lo:

you know, where can people contact you?

Jenn Lo:

I think I need to modify that a little,

Jenn Lo:

a little bit into who should contact

Jenn Lo:

you, like what type of business,

Jenn Lo:

and then where should they find you?

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: for sure.

Jenn Lo:

And I appreciate that plug.

Jenn Lo:

Um, so you can find us at 2X.Agency.

Jenn Lo:

That's the website URL.

Jenn Lo:

So the HTTPS, uh, two X dot agency.

Jenn Lo:

Um, you'll find our agency site and

Jenn Lo:

you'll learn about our different services,

Jenn Lo:

primarily in ad creative production.

Jenn Lo:

So if you're creating video ads or

Jenn Lo:

what's called UGC ads where users

Jenn Lo:

generated content ads, We primarily

Jenn Lo:

work with e commerce and software

Jenn Lo:

companies, as Jenn alluded to earlier.

Jenn Lo:

But in some cases we might have

Jenn Lo:

some B2B software companies that are

Jenn Lo:

looking for lead generation efforts.

Jenn Lo:

So if you're looking for, um, more

Jenn Lo:

customers or more leads, um, generally

Jenn Lo:

they're good to have a discussion with us.

Jenn Lo:

Um, they generally need to be, uh,

Jenn Lo:

A bit further along where they have

Jenn Lo:

existing sales and existing customers.

Jenn Lo:

So we can have data to look at

Jenn Lo:

to know how to improve whatever

Jenn Lo:

metrics and systems that they have.

Jenn Lo:

Um, but that's the place to find us.

Jenn Lo:

Um, you know, personally you can

Jenn Lo:

connect with us on Twitter and LinkedIn.

Jenn Lo:

So, you know, I'm John Chan on LinkedIn.

Jenn Lo:

There's a lot of us on there,

Jenn Lo:

but if you look for that under

Jenn Lo:

two X you'll probably find me.

Jenn Lo:

Um, and on Twitter I'm at J T C C H A N.

Jenn Lo:

I'm sure these will be links in the show

Jenn Lo:

notes that I'll send over to you as well.

Jenn Lo:

Um, but I think that's the

Jenn Lo:

best way to reach out to me.

Jenn Lo:

For me, for myself, it's LinkedIn as well.

Jenn Lo:

Jennifer Lo.

Jenn Lo:

Um, Jennifer.

Jenn Lo:

Yeah.

Jenn Lo:

I think it's Jennifer Lo.

Jenn Lo:

Um, and then, uh, on Twitter, uh,

Jenn Lo:

Jenn Lo underscore with two Ns.

Jenn Lo:

So you can probably reach me there.

Jenn Lo:

No,

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: that and

Jenn Lo:

get it in the show notes.

Jenn Lo:

Yeah.

Jenn Lo:

This has been so much fun.

Jenn Lo:

I'm so glad we did this.

Jenn Lo:

Thank you!

Jenn Lo:

I want

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: thank you for having us on.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: I wanna go to

Jenn Lo:

Vancouver now and have dinner.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Yes.

Jenn Lo:

Well, next time we're in Tampa,

Jenn Lo:

we also can actually come over

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: Oh yes, if you

Jenn Lo:

come to Tampa, please let us know.

Jenn Lo:

Yeah, we would love to see you anytime.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Thank you for having us.

Jenn Lo:

John and Connie: let's stay in touch.

Jenn Lo:

John and Jenn: Absolutely.

Jenn Lo:

For sure.