Remember that time when you had an amazing idea at

work, and just as you opened your mouth to share it, a coworker

talked right over you. Or maybe it was that

family gathering where it felt like no one would take

you seriously, even on topics that you know a

lot about. I feel

the frustration just thinking about it.

We're diving into communication strategies to get you

heard, respected, and acknowledged. This means

assertive communication without aggression, countering

age bias, and using your voice and

presence to command a room.

Hey, friend. Ever feel like those old fashioned

ideas about aging just don't fit you? If you're ready to

own this incredible chapter with grace, style, and a touch of

sass, this is your space. Welcome to the aging with

grace and style podcast. I'm Valerie Hatcher, and I'm here

with empowering tips, inspiring stories, and a whole lot of

fun just for us, women over 50. So grab

your favorite beverage, turn up the volume, and let's get

started.

Communication isn't just about what you say. It's

about whether they let you say it at

all. Ageism, subtle sexism,

sometimes it feels like we have to fight to be

heard. Today, we are taking back

our power. Let's be honest.

As women, we're often raised to be nice,

to not make waves, to always be agreeable.

And sometimes that translates into not speaking

up when we should or letting others walk all

over us. Well, let's be done with that

nonsense. Being assertive is not the same

as being aggressive. And it's key to

making your voice count. Think

about the difference between these communication

styles and action. Here's a common scenario.

You deserve a raise, but you're worried about asking your

boss. So then there's the passive communication

style, which would be mumbling, avoiding eye

contact, something like, well,

maybe if there's extra money in the

budget sometime

And then there's the assertive communication style, which is

confident and clear, which would be something like, I've

consistently exceeded expectations in my role, and I've taken

on additional responsibilities. I'd like to discuss a

raise and reflect my contributions.

Then lastly, there's the aggressive communication style, which is

shouting in in an accusatory tone. I

deserve a raise. You're lucky to have me, and if I don't get one,

I'm walking out the door. As you can see,

the assertive approach gets your point across directly and

professionally. It shows you value yourself and your

work. I statements shift the dynamic

and focus on your needs. I feel I

need. I propose.

Unfortunately, even in 2024, ageism

is a real thing, and women over 50 can encounter

it in both subtle and not so subtle ways.

From those dismissive comments about not understanding

new technology to being passed over for opportunities.

It's frustrating. It's unfair, and it

often impacts us both professionally and in our

personal lives. Think about being

ignored for challenging projects at work,

because there's an assumption that you'll be retiring soon

anyway or not being considered for that

leadership role on a volunteer board because they

think you won't connect with the younger crowd.

Those assumptions are insulting

and outdated. Now we could spend

all day complaining about it, but that won't change much.

What I want is to give you are some

strategies. Our age can be a source of wisdom,

expertise, and an unmatched perspective.

So let's make sure that we're always

highlighting our value. So let's tackle

those specific situations that I just mentioned.

If you're passed over for a project, try this. I'm

surprised I wasn't considered for the project. I have extensive

experience in this area, and I'm eager to contribute.

This directly challenges the age's assumption

without being confrontational, or

for those volunteer situations, try,

I noticed the focus is on engaging younger participants.

I believe my knowledge of this area would

be valuable in the outreach process.

This positions your experience as an asset,

not proof of being out of touch.

If you follow my podcast, particularly

last week's episode, you know, I talk about how

presence isn't about how you look. It's

about how you carry yourself and how you use your

voice. But it's shocking how often

we overlook these powerful tools.

Think about someone that you view as confident.

It's probably not just what they say, but

how they say it. Good posture,

a steady gaze, a voice that carries without being

loud, those things project authority

and self assurance before you even

open your mouth. Unfortunately,

the opposite is also true. Fidgeting,

slumped shoulders, or a voice that gets too soft at the

end of sentences, those nonverbal

cues can accidentally undermine your message,

making you seem less certain

or capable. But wait, there's

something even more fundamental than posture or your

voice, and that's being prepared.

When you've thought through what you want to say

and you have your main points clear in your mind,

that confidence naturally comes through in

both your verbal and your nonverbal communication.

Now I know it's not always possible to

fully rehearse before a big meeting or a conversation,

but even jotting down a few key points

that you wanna hit or practicing opening

statements out loud, It makes a huge

difference. Remember

communication is not a passive act,

Own your voice, own your experience,

and show them just how capable,

how insightful, and how absolutely

unstoppable you are. This week.

Your challenge is to pay attention to your

own communication style. Is there

an area where you can be more assertive?

Is there a situation where a powerful

reframe could change the game? Even

just a small tweak to your posture

or your voice can make a big impact.

We've only just scratched the surface of this topic.

Being a powerful communicator helps you

succeed in every area of life.

Until next time, keep speaking your truth,

keep seeking understanding, and keep shining

your light.

Thanks for hanging out with me today. I hope you're feeling

inspired and ready to own your awesomeness. I

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