Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, and I'm very happy to be

spending some time with you today. It is, yeah, end of

October, it's getting gray and cold out there. So please be

reminded that I'm offering coaching sessions now. If ever

you feel blue, dark, uninspired or stuck, I'm there for you,

too. Yeah, empower yourself. And I will provide you with tools

that can sweeten up your life for sure. I received the most

awesomest compliment here the other day, I was called a secret

weapon, secret weapon of love, light and empowerment, because

the person who had connected with me didn't tell his her

friends. And he she started working with my tools and his

environment, her environment started reacting very positively

to his her change. So yeah, I was feeling very joyous and

excited about it. Because that's exactly my intention. I want to

provide people with tools that I back then didn't have to dig

myself out and lighten the weight, and help people to be

Yeah, happier with themselves, the more happy we are with

ourselves, the better people we can be in society, and the

better parents, friends sexual, like romantic partners, and I

think we all win. We all win. If we start looking inside of

ourselves first. Today, I want to talk about being unstoppable.

i There's so much stuff out there, you know, inspirational

coaching stuff. And I hope I don't sound too cliche here if I

use that word unstoppable. But feeling being unstoppable is

something that is really hard to describe it is that little alarm

clock in the morning, that doesn't feel like an alarm

clock, it makes you spring, jump out of bed and be productive

because you are so excited about what you're doing and pursuing

your purpose and connecting with people. And whatever you do. It

doesn't really matter. It is an intrinsic motivation. That

pushes you to do incredible stuff that pushes you to

accomplish things that back then or maybe even still now you

think how am I actually doing this? And it is because you know

your why? Maybe you have read a couple books on that already.

And you can just roll your eyes and skip to the next episode.

But maybe that this is new to you. If we know why we get up in

the morning, and it is a very strong intrinsic motivation. We

are capable of doing the impossible. Look at the person.

You know I'm picking jobs now where people usually look down

on look at the street sweeper, who is doing an amazing job

because he just loves knowing that people enjoy a clean

sidewalk. Look at the McDonald's employee who absolutely is

blooming and and shining and beautiful at her workplace.

Because she knows she's preparing food for people. And

she knows that the money she's making she can use to help her

mom who is sick at home and it makes her feel empowered and

makes her feel important and belonging to society. So those

were just two small examples, but I know you know what I'm

trying to say They hear sometimes we look at people and

we're just wondering, Hey, how like what is driving them? Why

are they so like in such a good mood? And why do they do such

good work? It is because they live and work in alignment with

their purpose and their values. And it is only then that we can

be sustainably successful, and being content and happy. And

then being content and happy, as I said at the beginning, we can

we be way better partners and parents, and daughters and sons,

and whatever role we are playing. I hope this makes sense

to you. So the most important thing is to find out why you are

doing what you're doing. And it really doesn't matter what your

motivation is. It has to be in alignment with your values, it

is most likely serving others it is never harming others. And it

is not an easy to copy explanation. You know, some

people say yeah, because I just love money, and I want to make

money. I don't believe people who just have a simple answer to

such a complex question. It is a complex question, when you look

at it on a deeper level, and today, I want to share with you

what is driving me so intensely to do what I'm doing. And I hope

this will inspire you. I hope you will get to know me on a

deeper level. And maybe we can connect over this on Facebook

and you just share with me what you learned or what you disagree

with, or what your why is. So I'm not going to make this a

super long story. But I'm going to wrap a couple decades into a

couple of sentences for you to not waste unnecessary, valuable

time but for you to know me on a deeper level and finding out

what my why is. So it is 10 to 15 years ago I was still a

physiotherapist and I really loved my job I poured my heart

into it. I really enjoyed seeing people getting healthier feeling

better in their body than when they first came to me. But

slowly and surely I worked myself into a burn out a very

intense one. emotionally and mentally I was a total rap

wreck. And at the same time, the guy that I was dating the guy

that I imagined building a life with my sweetheart from primary

school actually broke up with me. And the way he broke up with

me it was so crazy Shetty we were entertaining, let's say a

long distance relationship. And from one day to the other. He

didn't reply to my messages anymore. Yep. So yeah, I burn

out. And heartbreak in combination is certainly not a

recipe for success. And additionally, I'm not a person

who really likes to share pain Yeah, to some degree but back

then I was so much in pain because

it was so intense on so many levels. You know, I was in pain

at work. I felt that I was less and less effective. I was less

and less. Yeah, good at my job because I burned myself out. And

then my heartbreak made it really hard for me to function

and to get up in the morning and to Yeah, believe and love. And

to to know that yeah, this is temporary. It is painful and it

is going to go away. I couldn't see the light. I couldn't see

anything, any anchor anything I could lean on. There were no

books. There were no YouTube videos. There were no podcasts,

and no one in my friends circle who could really understand and

relate Due to my pain because I chose to not 100% Share and that

was, in retrospect, a big mistake. But yeah, I cannot undo

it right. So my boss at the time recommended that I was in need

of seeing a therapist up psychotherapist. Without big

resistance I agreed. And I went to a couple sessions and reached

the point where she really made me feel that I am too stubborn

to feel better. Heartbreak is part of life, and I should get

the fuck over it. And I should focus on my job more. And maybe

what I have not mentioned is that she closely worked together

with my boss. So my boss was, yeah, very kind and suggesting

that therapist to me. But all he wanted is for me to Yes, feel

better, but also to come back and do the work that I left

behind. And that pressure and that weird negativity from that

therapist just made me Yeah, repel. I felt like a total

failure. I felt like, yeah, the biggest wreck that there is, and

nothing that this therapist said, could help me now don't

get me wrong, there's awesome therapists out there. And she

was probably one of them. But it was just not a good match. And I

choose to not go to any more appointments. And then I got

physically sick because my emotional pain and my mental

pain was really taking a toll on my body now. So it just got

worse and worse and worse and worse. Long story short, it took

me 10 years, you know, to first engaged in my shitty soothing

habits again, you know, excessively doing sport totally

was gone from my friends and family binge watching movies.

Not really taking good care of myself. So I wasted so to say 10

years, not really addressing my pain and kind of navigating

through life in a half acid way. And then I ended up immigrating

to Canada, thinking that all my pain, everything I can leave

behind and start a new life. Well, surprise, surprise, this

is not how it goes. All your pain catches up with you one

day. And it is then that I realized, okay, if I want to

make this move to Canada worthwhile, I need to work on

myself, I have to get rid of my baggage and address it first and

then let it go. But there is no way around it. Fuck. I thought I

can just emigrate to another country, go through the very

painful and long immigration process and then be fine. No,

that was not the case. I brought all my shed over here to North

America, and then had to look at it. First panic attacks. And

then yeah, I started addressing it because the panic attacks

were really influencing my life in a very, very negative way

that I couldn't move freely anymore. So I started my journey

with with a coach and he just tremendously helped me to undo

undid my, my stuff that I was successfully suppressing. And he

gave me tools, he recommended books to me. He again, suggested

ways of approaching my problems. And then he let me go for a

couple of weeks. And then I tried the tools and was really

feeling I was getting somewhere. I was digging up my past looking

at it and making peace with it and able to move on. And all the

tools that I learned during that time and I'm still learning

right I'm still not 100% there. I was so amazed by how simple it

is. But we just have to start believing in ourselves again. We

don't have to Yeah, walk around and just think that oh, I'm the

biggest wreck and nobody can help me because I'm so damaged.

No you're not you're probably not as damaged as I was back

then. And this is not To make your problems, less important,

but it is to emphasize that we have to have the balls to

address it. And we have to stop thinking that we can live around

our problems, we have to address them once and for all and then

move on and start creating new drama and mistakes. No, that's

just a little joke. You make better decisions, once you faced

your, your stuff, and you moved on, trust me, the last thing you

want to do is to go back and make those weird decisions

again. So you find closure with stuff that you didn't think you

could find closure with. And, yeah, and learning all these

tools, I now thought of people who might be in the same

situation that I was 10 years ago, and how helpless I felt and

there was no anchor, there was nothing out there I could hold

myself on to not to become dependent on but to have some

kind of guidance and hope. So I want to be that person for

people, I want to be that person who can give you hope and

inspiration and those tools that make life so much easier. And

that is my why the pain that I suffered back then. And the well

being that I feel now is how I want people to feel in the

future, who are still suffering now. I believe that people go

through pain through suffering, and learn from it, to then

support others, and to then provide shortcuts. Yeah, because

that's evolution, how else can we evolve as human species, if

we keep those healing tools and techniques to ourselves, we have

to share it with others. And you pick and choose whatever is good

for you. Of course, I'm just going to, yeah, connect with

you. Like, I wish somebody had connected with me back then. And

I'm gonna give you everything that I thought I needed back

then. And in doing so, I feel I'm in service of humanity, I'm

able to heal my trauma further, because as I said, I'm not

completely healed, I'm not perfect. But we grow together.

And if I was to hold back, my tools, my healing abilities, I

would feel very selfish. And as if I had no purpose. So when the

alarm clock rings in the morning, this is what I have, in

the back of my mind. I think of a girl, I think of a guy who's

deeply heartbroken, who just lost everything. And I want to

be there and say, Hey, it is okay, where you're at. It is

shitty. And we can go we can walk through this together, you

will reach out to me whatever is good for you. And then we find

out what best healing methods are available for you. And,

yeah, that is my why, in a nutshell.

It is that that urgency that I feel that I want to be the glue.

You know, we have the therapists, we have the

counselors, and sometimes we feel not quite ready. Sometimes

we feel fear, or sometimes we think it's not necessary. And I

can be the one in between telling you, hey, at this point,

it'd be awesome to see a counselor because they have even

better tools to heal the past. I'm here to support you in the

present moment and make you really strong for the future.

And maybe you stick to me, or maybe you go and see a

psychotherapist and they can help you on deeper levels and we

can find somebody who's really, yeah, suiting you, but to be out

there and to if it's just one person. Give them the hope the

guidance, the inspiration that life goes on when you lose

everything. And you can rebuild yourself and find a better way

of living a stronger way to connect with yourself and your

environment. Thank you so much for listening to my little

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