Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora, life coach and companion

on this beautiful journey called life. Welcome to the show,

welcome here, I hope you feel good. I hope you feel safe,

supported, confident, simply good about yourself. And if you

don't, I hope I can create a space for you where you feel

comfortable to reflect and rest and recharge your battery. This

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for your heart, for you to feel good. And also offering the

Borealis experience, nature walks from now on. You can count

contact me on Facebook. Sorry, I had to clear my throat here. And

yeah, shoot me a message. If you're curious, I invite people

to be in nature with me, pour your heart out, rant there vent.

And then let all your mental and emotional garbage in the forest

and clear your path to your healing to your success.

Sometimes we need that neutral person that we can talk to.

Because especially if you live in a small community, it is very

hard at times to be yea open with the people around you

because you're scared of judgment, you're scared of them

starting to treat you differently once you open up.

And yeah, I just want to be that person in the southern Alberta

community for now. Where you can just come and spend some time in

nature and pour your heart out. Of course, I'm offering this to

our people around the world who are interested. But yeah, when

it comes to distance, we would have to meet over zoom. But in

the future, I will also be traveling to your place to your

city to hold workshops. If there is any requests. I'm open to

that I want to serve more people and make sure that yeah, we are

all doing all right and good, if not fabulous out there. Alright

enough with my chatter. Today, I want to call it the self worth

session. self worth, I feel we all have an attachment to having

to accomplish things in order to feel worthy, and I don't know

when it all started. It must be, you know, rooted in our families

that we have to be a good girl we have to be a good boy in

order to belong and be part of society and specially have a

family. So we have to do certain deeds in order to feel

accomplished in order to feel worthy. The problem now is if

you closely connect your worth to an outcome of an activity or

to another person judging your performance, so to say like Do

you see what the problem is there like you are making

yourself very vulnerable to other people's judgments,

expectations, and especially to your own yet. It's not always

other people

Who put expectations on us, sometimes the harshest

expectations come from ourselves. Let me give you some

examples here, let's pretend that you were born into an

academic family. Turns out though, that you are a badass

artist, he loved the arts, you love to express yourself through

music, movie, acting, colors and paintings. And the academics is,

yeah, it's an interesting field for you, but you're not

passionate about you, you are passionate about the arts. And

it can be very different to like you can be born into an artistic

family and being the only academic person and they're so

we feel ostracized, we feel weird, about our passion, we

don't feel understood. And yet, if we start following our

passion, we will feel as if our family is not supporting us,

because you are starting a new path. So you're gonna be linking

your worth, to how much the people around you approve of

your decisions, and how happy you make them in taking certain

decisions. So you put yourself out there and believe that your

worth is deeply attached to an outcome to the way you perform.

And that is very dangerous. Can you imagine a world where your

worse would be? Impeccable, untouched. No one could ever

challenge it, not even yourself. You are out there, you're trying

out new things you are putting yourself out there and risking

rejection. And then you face failure, obstacles and

rejection, which is perfectly normal as an entrepreneur and

normal person. Every person goes through that. But your worth is

being crippled. You feel as if your worth is diminishing, the

more you encounter, struggle and difficult situations. And what

I'm here to tell you today is that your worth can't be touched

or diminished. Imagine it being a seed, a beautiful plant,

growing and nourishing, fertile soil. And it is growing in an in

an environment where it's protected from negative sought

doubt, harsh judgments expectations that little plant

can just grow and be itself. So by envisioning your worse by

kind of taking it out of your system outside of you, and

putting it into the palm of your hand for instance and if you're

having a hard time imagine imagining this just pretend for

a second that you can take your worth your preciousness, your

new uniqueness into your hands and then I want you to look at

it with the most sweetest, tender eyes with the most

respect that you can feel for something outside of you. And

know that from today on nobody and nothing can touch you're

worse. You also cannot add to it you know some people think oh I

need diamonds. I need bikes. I need clothing. I need

accomplishments because this is when my worth is bigger. No this

is not how it goes.

It's just like makeup you know like so often we see women who

wear tons of makeup and we simply don't understand because

they're so absolutely gorgeous. Yet they feel the need to having

to wear makeup but it is an inside job that they do. Don't

feel worthy. And the same thing goes for guys. The more you are

trying to feel worthy is through external stuff, likes, comments,

on Facebook, on social media, or whatever it is that approves of

you, or throws a thumbs up or a love heart at you. The more you

make yourself dependent, and you kind of put your power into the

outside world, and that is not okay, because the outside world

is pretty unpredictable and pretty scary. And I don't want

you to be hiding now. But what I want you to do is to not make

your worth dependent on your outside world, just simply

imagine you are in your 30s, your plus 30, male, female,

freshly divorced, or never been married, you have no children,

or you have children and they don't want to see you. And all

of a sudden you feel worthless because of these circumstances.

Yeah, believe or see that if you're born into a family that

expects you to have children by the age of 22, and you have to

have a running marriage and a house and a garden full of

beautiful flowers. Yet you are not living up to that. Are you

supposed to feel like a piece of shit? Are you supposed to feel

worthless and hide behind addictions behind self health

books? No, do not give your power away. Your worth is with

you is within you. And nothing and no one can touch it. And if

you're 65 and still have no children and all your siblings

around you and your cousins have tons of children and happy

marriages. So what if you are crippled by this expectation

towards yourself and by other people, you're not only

crippling your soul, you are also not going to show up in

society as the person we need you to be. You are so worthy of

being listened to, you are so worthy of feeling seen. And you

also have kind of a duty to be out there and to kick ass in

whichever way you want. The more authentically you express

yourself, they're more happy you are with your job, the more

valuable you are to society, and not by abiding to some weird

expectations that you simply can't fulfill because they're

not in alignment with your True Nature. But by being your true

self, wanting to be out there to serve your community, and to

shine a light that inspires others to do the same, who still

feel stuck and crippled by their own expectations, and by their

feelings of unworthiness. All right, I'm going to leave you

with that. I love you so much. I care so deeply about you. I'm so

happy you're here. I appreciate you so much. Because if you

listen to this, it means that you want a change for the

better. You want to grow. You want to make peace with your

past and not be a victim anymore. And you want to show up

in your community as yourself no matter what. And trust me if you

have a good heart, if you have good intentions. You will feel

as if you're jumping into a cold ocean and swim in waters that

you've never tested

before, but people will support you and cheer for you. And I

will be the first out there who routes for you. Alright, I hope

I was able to kick your ass in the most graceful and kindness

way. take really good care of yourself. And I will be out