Hello and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host Aurora, mental coach, life coach. Love coach. And

yeah, welcome to 2022

I'm wishing you a happy new year from the bottom of my heart. I

wish you contentment I wish you peace. I wish you positive

adventures, the right stimulation for the brain, not

too much, not too little. And,

most importantly, health, you can go without health. Health is

the most important thing in the world. That is what I've learned

last year. And I will carry it over into the new year.

Today I want to talk about playfulness. How playful Are

you?

I feel playfulness can be seen when someone is relaxed when

someone is confident

when someone is in a good headspace

and all too often I see people living a very healthy lifestyle.

You know, they eat right, they exercise, they have a job, they

have a function functioning relationship. They have a car,

they have a house, you name it.

But somehow they feel dead inside they feel Yeah, not okay.

I struggle with mental health.

And it can have many shapes and shades and forms on how people

feel internally. But one thing I've learned is that the more I

allowed playfulness in my life. And the more I've learned

even to rewire my brain, my nervous system to enjoy and

allow playfulness, the better I was doing. And it is much easier

if you surround yourself with people that are playful and

silly. And

you know, if you have children, they will want to have a story

you read or they want to go to the playground or they want to

play Lego puzzle or whatever it is. If you are surrounded by

children, Let them guide you into playfulness into a space

where you can totally switch off your brain. Just be present

experience yourself and others and allow room for mistakes and

failures. And if you make a mistake, if you fail, then laugh

about it and be gentle on yourself.

So what I said here previously, like rave wiring your nervous

system sometimes

we are so caught up in our to dues. We are so caught up in

self care practices. And we end up doing them

like engaging in them like a chore like oh my god, I have to

still brush my teeth or oh my god, I have to wash my hair.

I'm gonna do it quickly. I'm not gonna make time because it's

just washing my hair anyways. But if you start

rewiring your nervous system with the little things in life

already, and you know, give yourself a smile in the mirror,

or really indulging in the washing of your hair and

sending like group deep gratitude into that practice.

Appreciate every hair that you enjoy on your body, enjoy your

body.

And what I mean, right now is not in a sexual way but in a

sensual way. Be present with you. Laugh at yourself, because

life is twice as funny if you can laugh at yourself, trust me

on that.

And truly be present. I really wish there

for you, this year, for the new year, if you have any new New

Year's resolutions or intentions, then add this to the

list. If you have nothing,

then have that one intention for the year.

And we can also call it or label it. Simplicity. You know, when

you look at our lives, how fucking busy we are all the time

with, with staff,

on our phone, at work, without chores, trying to maintain

healthy relationships, trying to keep our house tidy, trying to

keep people around you happy, trying to remember all your

passwords, trying to keep up and keep up with social media, which

is not possible. But you get my drift, like, we're trying to

keep up all the time with stuff that is totally overwhelming.

Our nervous system is not made for that kind of stress. And it

is totally okay to engage in that kind of stress at times and

to want to keep up and to be awesome at it.

But I want to encourage you to also have downtime, times of

simplicity, times of

joy is playfulness, where you try something new, where you

cook something new, and maybe it doesn't taste good, or it

doesn't look good, but you had fun preparing it, dancing, and

feeling totally awkward at the beginning, but doing it anyways

because it feels good. And trust me, you will get better at it.

If you allow it.

So many times it is our lack of allowing ourselves to fail,

being playful with ourselves that will prevent us to

try out new experiences, new hobbies, new views, new ways of

approaching people.

You will need huge resistance if you haven't been playful in the

last couple of months or years because life was just too tough.

Life was just too uncertain. You will meet huge resistance. You

will have people inviting you to be playful and you will find an

excuse not to engage in it. You will come up with your own ideas

on how to be playful and your mind will come up with excuses

on why to not engage in that for too long.

I even go so far and kind of mentally schedule playful times

and I'm so lucky because my partner is more on the playful

side he gets lots of shit done and is an amazing human being

all around. But his playfulness muscle is way stronger than mine

and I I always learned from that. I learned from that and

he's making me feel very confident when I fail at the

beginning or when I look silly. We just laugh together.

So yeah, simplicity. Declutter. Get rid of stuff. That doesn't

bring you joy. I have so many people around me who love online

shopping more than ever since COVID. And they don't see how

every little item in your house sucks energy from you. And if

you have too much energy in your room, then it starts sucking

life energy out of you and makes you feel

depressed at some point even

the more you can get rid of stuff that you don't need. You

can give it away you can donate it you can bring it to a close

by church if they receive donations at the moment.

There's so many people out there who cannot afford stuff but

desperately need stuff. And there's so many people out there

who live so cluttered like quarters and they wonder why

they always feel drained and it is because they

Your space is not tidy and not clean and not liberating.

So simplicity decluttering letting go of stuff that sucks

energy of you that is just too much.

Letting go of people who don't really add to your life but suck

energy out of your life and take up way too much space. And you

feel drained after communicating with them. And drawing people in

who are playful, who helps you build your playfulness muscle.

It is incredibly important to relearn that we've all been

playful once when we were little. And we unlearned we

pushed playfulness out of alive because it is not really

constructive.

But it is a state of being

when you are engaging and playfulness

and not a state of doing and this is what I think we have to

support each other to Yeah, be more in that state of have to

enjoyment

and sometimes it's not enjoyable. Sometimes it's plain

painful but being present in the moment, opening your heart

opening your eyes

allowing no distractions

and

enjoying yourself.

Yes.

That is my first message I want to send out to you on this

beautiful third of January 2020 to allow simplicity. Allow

playfulness, seek out playfulness and rewire your

nervous system for lightness and joy and go against the

resistance that will come up.

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All right. I will meet with you very soon again. And for now.

Take good care of yourself.