Hello, and welcome to the Warriors experience. I'm

your host Aurora. And I'm so happy to be spending some time

with you today. It's just going to be 10 minutes, 15 minutes,

maybe a little longer. But it's time where you can just focus in

on yourself and relax. disconnect from a busy life. I

really like that new little entry years. So I'm really

excited to post this episode. I hope you like it too, by the

way. So yeah, the other day I was talking about playfulness

and how you should try out new things that excites you, or

where you know, you're going to fail. But eventually we'll get

better at it and learn. I just went skiing today on like

backcountry skis. And it's a very weird new thing to try out

because I'm only alpine skiing otherwise. And I fell pretty

hard and hurt myself pretty badly. But in the end, I can

just, yeah, laugh about it and be excited to try it again and

know that Yeah, I might get hurt. But I'm going to do it

differently next time. So, so much to trying out new things,

and really being playful and stuff. Today, I want to talk

about your truth. Yes. Do you live your truth? Do you speak

your truth? Do you live an honest life? I think that's a

very uncomfortable topic to talk about for some. And for others.

It's very inspiring, energizing and mind opening. So I will try

and talk to both today. What is your truth? And how honest Can

you be with the people around you? especially if you live in a

committed relationship? monogamous, committed

relationship? If you live with roommates, or if you are in

really good contact with your family? How about your friends?

How much do they know about you? And how truthful Can you be with

them? It is hardest, I think to have these conversations where

you know, you're gonna speak your truth. And the person who's

listening, the person who's sending a sorry, sitting in

front of you might not receive it well might not accept you

respect to. After you spoke your truth, they might see you

differently. A relationship might change after you spoke

your truth out. But what can we do about it? Should we just

suppress our truth and try and figure it out on our own? I

don't know. Some people have to some people are way too scared

to open up and share the truth is a lot of cases out there of

people who are craving a same sex relationship and they just

can't make that leap because they are still too scared of

what the judgment of others is going to feel like and the sharp

opinions of society. So they decide to live in a closet and

not come out. And is that good for their soul and for their

health? Not only mental health, but physical health? Of course

not. But they still see the price is too high to come out.

And they prefer to keep it a secret what they're desiring.

What if you are in a partnership where you all of a sudden don't

know if you want to have kits? You get along so well. You both

have jobs, you're happy together. And initially when he

met he talked about having kids but now you changed your mind.

What about these big topics? What if we don't talk about

them? And what if we talk about them? I think the most Important

thing I learned is that you have to talk about it. And you have

to stick to your guns.

And you also have to communicate it in a way that the person

really understands and sees you and maybe can see how hard it is

for you to talk about it. And at the same time, being very

vulnerable, I think it's very important to also know exactly

where you stand, and then stick to it. Because a lot of people,

when they hear something they don't want to hear, they're

gonna distract away from the topic, maybe, or they will

attack you, or they will be defensive about it. Have a

strong reaction. And sometimes we don't expect that. But if you

can anticipate it, and know, okay, there might be a strong

reaction coming up from the other part. But I know what I

want, I know what is best for me, I know what brings me joy.

And I will not move away. Step away from that path I'm on, or

different direction I want to take on. So let's take your

parents, maybe your parents see working in a specific job, maybe

your dad has a company. And ever since you little he can see you

working in that company. But ever since you're little, you

can see that he doesn't really support your artistic side, he

doesn't really understand that becoming a movie director is one

of your biggest dreams and would make you feel so fulfilled and

awesome. So what do you do about that? Do you have to submit to

your parents wishes? Or can you go out there and live your truth

and be proud of yourself at the same time, and not wait for

them? To give you approval, or to be proud of you that will

come eventually that will come as soon as they see that you're

happy, and really shining out there. But you can wait for it.

Because people sometimes can't give you that approval because

they didn't receive it. And what you're trying to do out there is

so far off that they just can't give that thing to you. And I

said that before when it came to approval? How is evolution

possible if you don't step out of the box of your family? A

couple people out there I know are born into families where

they have to make that first step into a new world.

Otherwise, it's just going to be a continuous circle of a good

little mediocre life, that this person was not born to live,

that person has to break out and risk to maybe be rejected for a

certain time. But trust that it's only going to be for a

certain time and those people will turn around if they truly

love you and see your happiness, and that you're living your

truth. It is really so inspiring. When you see someone

and their flow, when you see someone speaking their truth,

and that's something that is so admirable, someone who knows how

to set boundaries and knows how to say yes, but also to say no.

So what I want you to do today or maybe over the next couple of

days is reflect reflecting about your relationship. And how

truthful Can you be with those people around you? How do they

react when you speak your truth? And can you speak your truth in

a kind way, in a very confident way so that the other doesn't

feel attacked or rejected. Of course if you're in a committed

relationship, mana gammas What's your guy's style so far, and now

all of a sudden, you feel like Oh shit, I want to be with

different people, I still love that one person. But I also want

to be with different people. That's a very scary conversation

to have, because you guys might not be on the same page. But can

you trust that there's a way to be truthful, but still

respectful with the other person? And yeah, maybe it means

that you guys have to break up and you have to find someone who

is okay with open relationships. But you can't just go out there

and start cheating and start living a double life that's

gonna hurt your soul and your health way more than if you

decide to have that very deep and honest conversation. I feel

a lot of times when you talk with people who went through a

divorce, you can also see there that communication was not

always open and honest. Like the guy who is the provider and does

all the money making work. And instead of talking to his wife,

his partner, and telling her that he's overwhelmed, and that

he needs support and all that jazz, you know, if she truly

loves them, then they're going to find a way that he feels more

supported. But if he decides to start drinking, instead smoking,

going out to the bars, maybe committing adultery, having sex

with others, that it's not going to make it better, it's going to

temporarily make him feel better, and make him feel

supported and understood. And help him to cope with that

stress.

But long term, it's totally going to ruin himself and the

relationship. So I think if we learn to, from the start, be so

honest, and also realistic about what we need and want. There'd

be less breakups, less divorces out there.

Yeah.

I think that's it. That's my message for today. You can't be

radically truthful. from one day to the other if you see yourself

now living a lie or not being completely honest. But you can

slowly steer your steering wheel into that direction and start

being more honest, more transparent with people. And you

will see it will change your relationship in such a beautiful

way. They will be able to relate with you on a deeper level. All

the people who don't like your truth are gonna fade out and

move away and that's okay too, because you're gonna attract new

people into your life that are more in alignment with

you. So

now, I want to thank you for listening to this. I hope it was

not too much of a swallow bitter pill to swallow. I will heal my

wounds now from my little accident today. take really good

care of yourself. If you want to connect with me, and then

Instagram, the Borealis experience or on Facebook,

Aurora Eggert and yeah, I'll be out there tomorrow again. Thanks

for letting me be very raw, genuine and truthful here. I

never have to put on a smiley face, or happy face. I enjoy

that deeply. The way