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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Are you doing all the things, running your business, loving your people, chasing your dreams, but still feel like something's missing

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: in this episode. We're getting real about the one piece we've been taught to suppress our feminine power. We've mastered the hustle, the home, the healing, and yet so many of us are disconnected from the most potent source of our magic. The truth

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you can finally have it all. When you come home to yourself.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: this is your permission, slip to reclaim the innate wisdom in your body and awaken the part of you that's been waiting to rise, hi and welcome to the You world order, showcase, podcast where we feature life, health, and transformational coaches, stepping up to be the change they seek in the world. I'm, your host, Jill Hart, the coaches, alchemist on a mission to help coaches and entrepreneurs amplify their voice and monetize their mission and get visible

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: leveraging podcasts and substack. Today we are talking with a Jonita d'souza. Jonita is a feminine lifestyle and self leadership mentor for women who teaches emotional intelligence to busy women so they can be busy and still feel sensual in their bodies, using their womb wisdom to make decisions and to show up in the world in their authentic expression. Welcome to the show, Jonita, it's great to have you here.

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Jonita Dsouza: I'm so excited. Thank you. So much for reading this bio makes me feel like, Wow, the U world, I love the name of your podcast you world order, and

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Jonita Dsouza: so excited to be here with you. Jill, thank you for creating this.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Well, it's all you guys. It's the coaches out there that are really making a difference in the world.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So let me ask you the big question, are you ready?

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: What's the most significant?

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: What's the most significant thing in your opinion, as individuals, we can do to make an impact on how the world is going.

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Jonita Dsouza: Hmm!

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Jonita Dsouza: It's self-trust.

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Jonita Dsouza: I really feel that this is something that we

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Jonita Dsouza: already have possess or exist in us. Yet we are really looking outside of ourselves, to feel something that we already always have always have had, and I feel that the more we are able to trust ourselves in all honesty in all authenticity, integrity, and purity, then what will come out of us will only be for the good.

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Jonita Dsouza: because we trust ourselves, and we allow ourselves to be in this world fully trusted. So we cannot go into the pathway of harming to someone else.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I like that. I like that a lot. It's it's kind of like we. We are

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: the infinite being. And instead of having to look outside of ourselves to find love or peace it.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We are love and peace, and if we could just like embody that others could feel the resonance and would allow them to just embody it too, and I think we would have love and peace instead of the fear that

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: runs around causing havoc in the world.

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Jonita Dsouza: Exactly, and if you know, when we do not trust ourselves, then our daily decisions are based on fear and judgment and scarcity, and that just ripples out more and more and more, and the whole perspective changes when we know that I can trust myself in this moment, and from here I make my decisions and all the small daily choices of the day.

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Jonita Dsouza: So I'm not living in fear. But I'm living in trust, and I project that.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So we're gonna talk about the dark feminine energy. Can you want to

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: kind of describe that for people so that they understand what we're talking about?

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Jonita Dsouza: Yeah, so dark feminine energy work came to me in 2017, I would say, and I particularly work with women. But this was more of my awakening and understanding into this concept, and it is different from the shadow work. When we do the shadow work, we look into the unhealthy traits in ourselves, and then we bring that out from the shadow and

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Jonita Dsouza: work with it. The dark feminine work is about looking into the darkness, where we have exiled our own power.

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Jonita Dsouza: And this is a crucial difference. The dark feminine energy is literally this wisdom inside of us that always, like, you know, points to us each time we are being our own repressors. Each time we are suppressing our own truth. And we women, we know men. We know when we do that we always know. But yet we do not listen, and we definitely don't respond.

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Jonita Dsouza: So my work around dark feminine energy is pretty much based on the archetypal energy of the dark goddesses that existed in many civilization, that their job or their idea was to mirror to us our own power, our own greatness that we have put in the dark.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's really fascinating. I I've never heard it termed that way, but I totally understand what you're talking about, and I'm sure there's not a woman listening who's not like, Oh, yeah, I do that.

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Jonita Dsouza: Yeah, yeah, it breaks my heart to see how this concept is being distorted in social media. Right now, when you look at dark feminine. All you see is Gothic makeup, or or how to seduce a man or woman in wearing black, and and this is nothing to do with dark feminine. This is again another patriarchal narrative of dark, feminine, dark, feminine work is really going into

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Jonita Dsouza: your own darkness and then bringing your repressed power back to yourself. So you come into the wholeness of your own light. And that's what the dark goddesses, let's say, Isis, Mary Magdalene Kali. These dark goddesses always have been teaching this to us, and so it really breaks my heart to see how this pure topic is being, in a way.

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Jonita Dsouza: you know, distorted, and

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Jonita Dsouza: I really struggled with it in the beginning, and I think this is the right place to speak about it, because it's the New World order, right? So. And we spoke about censorship and stuff. When, in 2017, when I started talking about this dark feminine concept, I experienced a lot of.

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Jonita Dsouza: I experienced a lot of hate from the spiritual community because we are supposed to be love and light. Right? Why are we talking about the dark? And because many don't understand. And then there were women who unfollowed my work. But then there were some curious ones who really resonated. Like, as you said, I get what you're talking. I need to see what's there for me. More, and I was channeled to host a retreat

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Jonita Dsouza: I remember, in Glastonbury, in the Uk, which is like the heart. Chakra of the world, right, a very spiritual hub in the Uk. And nobody would vent me the place because of the topic.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I think people just tie it so much with the dark arts, and it's really it's just like the yin and yang of

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: of existence. There are. There's light, and there's dark, and instead of just attaching negativity to dark, we should look at it as just the other side of light, and we all have places that we store stuff, and if we don't pull it out of the closet, I mean, it's not light in a closet. It's dark in there, because, you know why waste the energy to light it. Nothing's there.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: But if you're if you're sticking all of this repressed

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: personality, let's call it that into the closet, and you're just showing up in the light as this person that you fundamentally aren't. But it's who you've been told you have to be in order to get by in society for people to like you, or to

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: allow you to be part of their community.

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Jonita Dsouza: Is it? Well, that's.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's I'm so excited to see the change happening.

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Jonita Dsouza: Yeah. And you know what, somehow, as a society, we have been programmed. That dark is bad. Dark is bad. Dark is ugly, dark is evil. Yet there has been like a lot of spiritual significance in all those civilizations from the beginning of time. If you really think

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Jonita Dsouza: the wisdom came in the dark. There were times where Buddha he meditated in the dark for really long to to gain enlightenment. There was the disciples of Yeshua asked him, How long do we stay in the dark? And his response was Until and until you begin to see in the dark.

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Jonita Dsouza: and then, if you look at South America. Different rites of passages, all those plant ceremonies. They are always done in the dark. You look at the Pyramids in Egypt. It's in the dark Buddhist monks practice darkness and death meditation every day. So all this

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Jonita Dsouza: has potent significance. The dark holds so much intention, sorry, not intention, but intensity of growth, potentiality of growth, the seasons, the dark right like. We don't even like the dark season anymore, because it triggers us. The dark really triggers us, and hence we resist, we numb, we ignore, and.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: That's where the growth happens, though it's where growth starts. You can't plant a seed on top of the ground in the light.

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Jonita Dsouza: And think.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's gonna root, it won't. And the root is where all of the energy starts and it it's in the dark.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and you don't.

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Jonita Dsouza: Okay.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You don't see anything for a long time, so you have to go into the dark, and

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I hope that you're.

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Jonita Dsouza: Generation. It's it's, you know. We come from the dark like we come from a womb. Womb is a dark place. That's our 1st meeting with the park, and and you know the feminine is the the yin is the dark in the Yin Yan.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Why?

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Jonita Dsouza: And the dark. By nature the feminine is the dark, but it's not that. It's bad, or ugly or evil.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's a potentiality.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yes, it's just the opposite of white. It's just like or light. It is just complimentary.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it simply is. It's not this whole good, bad, evil.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: a not evil thing. We just kind of need to get rid of labels because labels

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: keep people from exploring things that they really should explore, because their life will be much richer, and they'll have the potential to grow if you don't get yourself into a space of darkness. Even Yeshua said. Go in your closet and pray.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: not expecting that you're gonna have a light on in your closet. Right? I mean.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: They used to cover their head with their shawls. They have prayer shawls, it's used. They cover their head with their prayer shawls.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: creating darkness, because that's where things germinate, and you can't have life without germination. It it like.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I'm sorry I didn't make the rules worse, but.

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Jonita Dsouza: That's so true. That's so true, and and we have been conditioned to somehow run away numb from the darkness that we feel. I like to call the emotions as our dark qualities, because they always lead us to our higher power, higher truth, and

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Jonita Dsouza: as a society we have been conditioned to numb it. When we feel heaviness of our emotions, we we do things to, we eat, we drink, we watch Netflix, we do whatever, but we don't want to just listen to our wisdom inside of us that is screaming, and we know what it is like

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Jonita Dsouza: every time I say this to any women, they all nod their heads like, you know, like us, we know exactly where we are repressing ourselves. We can be always blaming patriarchy for all the oppression the Government for all this oppression. But we are our biggest oppressors. Let's start from there.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah. And until we get a handle on who we are, we're not going to have the impact that we could have because the women are the creators we have the boom we have. We're here to birth the creative changes that are coming. It's just that

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: we have to help more and more of

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: men and women. It's not even just women that have this this part to them. It's just that

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: so many women are just like they're so oblivious to the fact that you have all the power girl you just need to like embrace it. It's okay. And you don't have to hide

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: who you are anymore, yeah, just stop it.

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Jonita Dsouza: Exactly. And if we really look around, all forms of creation also comes from dark and and even us, you know, whatever you have created Jill, this beautiful platform. It came from a dark moment like you were like this, is it? I am taking myself out, and I'm creating this. But if you hadn't experienced that darkness. Probably this will not be

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Jonita Dsouza: the case. Right? So all beautiful artwork music. It comes from pain, sadness like heartbreak, and we world, love it, pay millions for it.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: My husband likes to say, all humor is rooted in tragedy.

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Jonita Dsouza: Yeah.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So true, true, everyone it that way.

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Jonita Dsouza: I love it. And and it's upon us how we learn how to use our dark emotions, how we

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Jonita Dsouza: really go, allow ourselves to go into that without judging, without fearing, without really having even a destination to, because it just requires. So one of the things is of the dark feminine is that it's asking us to bring the unconscious to the conscious.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Emotions work kind of that way, too, if you think about it in terms of your thoughts being light because you're you're having a conscious experience. But your emotions are actually chemical responses to that

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: thought.

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Jonita Dsouza: Oh, and it it happens in your body.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Deep within your body. And if you spend a lot of time repressing all those thoughts, then you're going to have disease in your body, because a lot of times

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and I won't say all of the time. But there are times when people end up with cancer and different autoimmune diseases and stuff like that. They're triggered because something in your cellular structure is changing and it's changing because you're not functioning the way that you were designed to function. You're trying to get rid of these chemicals in a way that your body wasn't designed to get rid of them. They're signals to you.

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Jonita Dsouza: They are signals, and you are so correct because the physical body is like the final layer of signal that is screaming out, and and we have symptoms in our body that is screaming out in many ways, whether it's even bloating right? Like I had a level. 2 stage 2 of psoriasis all over my body, and when I started doing this work

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Jonita Dsouza: it began to heal itself. My skin began to heal, and I had been taking doing all those drug tests, steroids, and all of that. Nothing helped. But then, when I started working on my emotions, my psoriasis cleaned. It took me an year, but

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Jonita Dsouza: I could then say, like, you are right, Jill, we have to understand that our body shows responses in physical ways. If we ignore.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, I. And

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it's like, if you want, if you won't pay attention, we'll make it so that other people will try to bring it, your attention to it.

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Jonita Dsouza: Absolutely. Yeah, yeah, I love that.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: So can women deepen their relationship with their dark feminine.

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Jonita Dsouza: Yeah, one of the biggest ways is to connect with their emotions. I think this is the only way. When I started my journey I was.

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Jonita Dsouza: I was in the healing journey. I had psoriasis, and I was just in this depression. I was grieving the death of my father, and it led to psoriasis, and it led to everything, was falling apart, and when I found healing and I went on a healing journey it was a really eye opener, and I thought that

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Jonita Dsouza: how they how they say like it's going to be all love and light, and it was only momentarily, and then I was hit with so much sadness and anger. The more I was learning. I was getting more angry and upset, and and my spiritual teacher at that time, she said that when a woman begins to do her body work in connecting with her emotions she is met with emotions of anger, sadness, resentment.

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Jonita Dsouza: and this is normal.

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Jonita Dsouza: This is normal, and this is the only way through. There is no other way through. And I had to really accept it for

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Jonita Dsouza: the process, because I was thinking I'm crazy because I was doing all the affirmations and and meditations, and I would feel good for 2 days, but then it would just hit me back.

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Jonita Dsouza: So I thought, I'm mad. I'm insane that I do not have emotional control. But the whole idea was that I was not connecting to my emotions. So this is the work I do, I teach, and it's so important for women is to connect with their dark emotions, especially the emotions of shame, guilt, fear, these are the 3 main I recommend women to start working with, so that they get to see what these emotions are

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Jonita Dsouza: leading into. And generally it's a more expansive feeling when we walk through those emotions rather than a tight contraction.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It. It is really interesting. How, if you can just sit with some of these emotions and not ignore them, you know. Acknowledge. Hey, this is what I'm feeling, and let it wash over your body and

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and just accept it, whatever it is that was triggering that and not have to have a lot of thoughts about how to fix it, or how to do anything with it, just

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: acknowledging it often is enough

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: to be able to move through it. But anytime you're growing in any way. It's like you're always going to be hit with this wall that you have to move through in order to get to the next space that's opening up for you.

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Jonita Dsouza: Yeah, I like that. You say that when we move through this, then we hit the wall, and then there's the next thing, and the next thing. And this is what I learned in this journey of this dark feminine energy that we don't have to get rid of these emotions. We don't have to overpower ourselves. I spent a lot of time and energy trying to overcome my fears.

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Jonita Dsouza: But what is it even overcoming? Because every time I overcame one fear. I had 2 more waiting outside the door, like, you know, the next level of my growth. It was a never ending journey until I understood that. Okay, I'm not going to chase this idea of overcoming my emotions rather than

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Jonita Dsouza: and instead, really look into working with those emotions like using them to lead my day, make me move forward, and my idea of healing changed then, because I was no longer seeing it as a 5 step process or a destination, but a way of living a way. I am living every single day.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah. And it's more empowering when people have a choice, and they realize that

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: life is life is circular, and there's an ebb and flow to it. And it's cyclical. And it it's not about

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: getting there, because getting there is death. Okay, let's just. I'll be clear about the destination is death.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We're all going to get there. Someday

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: you may as well enjoy the journey

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and and learn to appreciate the experiences that you're having on the journey, and some of them

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: might not feel all that. Well, because you've been trained not to

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: embrace them like anger is a anger is just an emotion. It doesn't mean anything. It makes you feel a certain way, and if you can acknowledge that feeling in your body

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and recognize it, if you don't want to feel that way very often. Then.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: if you know what what it feels like when it's starting, you can do something different to avoid having that flood of chemicals hit you, and that's going to make you feel the way you don't want to feel. But you can never get there unless you feel all those feelings first.st

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Jonita Dsouza: Yeah. And you're so right in this. We always also know our patterns of anger and shame. And whatever those emotions are, I know what are the things that make me angry? I know what are the things that I'm afraid of, or I'm guilty of, or whatever I know we know our emotional patterns. So we might as well, you know, program or re reprogram. I would say our because our intuition is based on all of these fear based emotions.

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Jonita Dsouza: Somehow it has a layer of fear, and we even into it from the foundation of fear.

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Jonita Dsouza: And it's our job to really change that foundation to self-trust again, and then and then work through those emotions because we exactly know what emotions hit us, when and why.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And it's not just in internal. It's it's the whole bio field, because we're not just like

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I don't end like right where my skin theoretically touches everything else.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: You actually exist in a sphere of energy that's around you and some people that energy is more and less. It's why, sometimes you can get near somebody, and you're just like Whoa! Nope! Go in the other direction. I don't even know that person, but I don't want to know that person. You can feel their energy, and sometimes you don't want them feeling yours.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Another reason not to make your kids hug people bad. Bad practice.

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Jonita Dsouza: That's so cute

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Jonita Dsouza: to activate our energy field. Our energy. I like to call it the our luminous energy field. And that's like, as you said, like a meter, a 1.5 meter around us. When we know how to activate that. With that, then we feel safety. We can hone in safety, and then we can choose what we want to allow and what we don't.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's kind of like bumpers, but if you don't know how to activate it, then you're you're hitting stuff with your your actual body energy, and and often that's very painful

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: rather than allowing that buffer in there to like, you know, like a cat's whiskers like

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it tells them a lot of stuff in the in the environment. Well, we actually have that, too.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: As human beings, we just, we're not taught any of this stuff growing up. So

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: we have people like you now, Janita, that can share this

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: amazing information with women and and men too. I mean everybody.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It's something that is available to everyone. It's just that women specifically have been like.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: programmed not to experience something that they are innately born with.

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Jonita Dsouza: Yes, yes, and we under utilize our voice, I would say,

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Jonita Dsouza: it's not just to you and others, but to to speak a lot of times we can for me. What was really healing in my psoriasis journey was to start speaking to myself, like to start speaking to myself like, Hey, you're safe. I am safe. I love you. I got you. I trust you. I activate this within me, and I call upon this power. I did not ever use my voice. For myself.

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Jonita Dsouza: We have expectations for others to tell things to us, good things appreciation, but we don't do this to ourselves, and it is our responsibility to use our voice for ourselves to to create a beautiful field of energy. And and then the more we use our voice to ourselves.

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Jonita Dsouza: Life changes. It's so miraculous, and it's so easy. And it's so underutilized.

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Jonita Dsouza: It's life changing. If you do this on a regular basis.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: It really is, and

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it it also changes your thought patterns. When you start talking to yourself in a positive way, you stop having those those quiet.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: doubtful things that start

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: dripping poison into your body. And and you you recognize that, hey? I can have a thought, but I don't have to have. I don't have to attach an emotion to it. It can just be a thought.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: And you, you can start to make decisions about your thoughts which is so empowering.

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Jonita Dsouza: It is, it is. And you know, with with the voice, oftentimes I have women. They think, like, Yeah, yeah, I think good about myself, but I say like, No, no, it's not just about thinking it's about you saying to yourself, because our we never. We never stop from saying bad things about ourselves, it just comes so easily. But then, if you have to say good things about ourselves to ourselves, we start thinking like, what else should I tell myself.

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Jonita Dsouza: but the fact is that our jaws hold memories, and and it is so important for us to reimpose new patterns on ourselves through just speaking those things to ourselves. Nobody else is going to do this for ourselves. And if you want to feel safe in this world, if you want to have an impact and a presence.

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Jonita Dsouza: a power that we want to lead with. This is one of the crucial tools to use every day.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: We're told that we're bragging when we growing up. But I brag honey

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: right away. It's good. We need to start

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: bragging about the things we're good at.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: and you know we don't have to be good at everything

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: but the things we're good at we should own

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: we've worked hard for those things.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Just by virtue of the fact that we got to where we're at, and we're good at it.

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Jonita Dsouza: And if we really look back at the things that we have endured in our life, we can say a word or 2 good about ourselves to ourselves every single day. I swear.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Yeah, for sure.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: All right, Anita, how do you help people? Is it? One on one coaching? Is it group coaching? Is it just courses. How? How does all that look for you?

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Jonita Dsouza: It's a combination of all of it. Honestly, I also do in-person dark feminine retreats, and I do group coaching one on one. My one-on-one mentorship is, it's around visibility. And we use the dark feminine energy to become more visible in our gifts. And then there are some digital courses. So I just have a combination of things, whichever suits whoever in what season of their life stages of their life.

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Jonita Dsouza: Yeah, my work is available.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love that, and they can find you on Jonita d'souza dot com correct.

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Jonita Dsouza: Yes, exactly.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: All right, and then you have a dark feminine energy decoded.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Gift that you're giving to people. You want to talk a little bit about that.

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Jonita Dsouza: Yes, so it's an hour of Mistress class that I have created, where I go, and share with the origins of the dark the familiarities, the myths, and the benefits of working with the dark. And then it's also got a somatic practice. It's just an introduction to you, listening and feeling your dark feminine energy.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I like that. And it's nothing scary. Okay, guys.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: it's not scary. It's an empowerment.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Embrace the dark.

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Jonita Dsouza: Yes.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: Thank you so much for joining me today. This has been a great conversation.

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Jonita Dsouza: I just enjoy talking with you. I love the energy you bring into your podcast and this conversation has been so great, just because you held a beautiful space to this taboo topics. So thank you so much.

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Jill Hart-The Coach's Alchemist: I love it to learn more about Janita and to

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