Hey, I'm Paige Killian, founder and CEO of everything

with style. I've built a business helping busy moms of

littles get organized in three simple steps. Like many of my

clients, I love being a mom. And I also desire more. If ever, you

felt that stirring in your heart, that whisper or really

loud voice that keeps you up at night. And I don't mean teething

toddlers and noisy teenagers, then you are in the right place.

Because this is not a solo mission. Whether you're a little

curious or totally ready to be a mom, boss, and use your God

given gifts to serve others, step into your calling, turn

your passions into purpose, and still make it to the carpool

line on time, then girlfriend, it's time to pivot. I've got

you. Now let's get started. Hey, thanks for coming back to

another episode of the time to pivot Podcast. I'm thrilled

you're here today so that we could talk about something that

I've been hinting about all week, if you've been listening

in our launch week, if you are catching this later, as it's

aired, I'm so glad you're here. And I totally believe that it's

meant to be. I feel like when I listen to other podcast

episodes, or when I go catch someone who is a speaker at an

event, or even a pastor in a church, I always feel like when

I hear that message that day, there's some part of it that I

was just meant to hear. So let's see if what we're going to talk

about today is impactful for you, I hope it is I want to talk

all about using the gifts that you have been given to serve

others. And sometimes serving others can be in your home,

serving your family, being a supportive partner, or even in

your business if you're stepping out and you're choosing to do

something outside of your comfort zone, or even really in

your comfort zone. Because you've figured out what your

gifts are. And you know that it is something that you want to

pursue to then bless other people, then that's really

exciting. So if you're in a place of not really knowing what

you feel like God has given you as a gift, I wanted to just give

you some suggestions. These are things that have helped me in

sort of pinpointing which areas I could focus on, so that I

could serve people more effectively, more efficiently.

And also do it in a way that makes me happy. Because

honestly, if you are let's say you've got a job that you need

to do, and with that job comes a certain description, but you

don't necessarily like parts of it. So maybe you like the

paycheck you're getting. Maybe if it's being a mom or a parent,

it is obviously we don't get a paycheck for that too bad, huh?

Because Don't you think we work harder at that than anything

else. And that that's a huge responsibility. But we may not

be getting a paycheck for it. However, there are definitely

rewards, right? There are definitely blessings that come

from parenting some days, we might have to look a little bit

harder than others. But I do believe that it is overall a

rewarding experience, even in those very trying and difficult

times and hear me when I say I've been in them. And so often

when I'm in the struggles of mom life, what helps me get through

it is being like okay, what good what positive can we focus on

right now? What

is going well, what do I feel like I have some semblance of

control over how can I focus on that and also just being really

grateful. So where can I focus my energy in gratitude. So if

you are just happened to be in that season of life, if you are

going through it, I just want to let you know number one, you're

not alone. Number two, what you're going through is probably

something that someone you know is going through as well. And so

saying some prayers and just be like, Lord, bring me some people

who are in the season so that we can go through this together. So

I feel a little less alone in that respect as well just know

that that is definitely something that I feel like I was

heard in those days when I was in the thick of it when I was

deep in the trenches, and I just was feeling like I am I the only

person going through this. And I honestly I just I just prayed

and asked God can you please just send me someone who's going

through this so that we can lean on each other? And he did? And

he did it in spades and part of that I actually shared on if you

have listened to the moms organization motivation podcast,

that's the first podcast I ever did. That one has, you know,

I'll drop a link to it and show notes. That one has a fairly

recent episode that I did. And I talked about my mom life group

that I'm a part of, they honestly, they pulled me out of

some of those dark, uncertain days. And I truly believe that

the women who were in that group, they were serving me with

their gifts, some of their gifts, were being a great

listener. Some of their gifts were wisdom, they had

experienced, they had gone through this personally, or they

had walked through it with a very close friend or family

member. And they had some advice to share. That made me feel less

alone. And it made me feel like there was a light at the end of

the tunnel. So definitely consider if you don't have a

group where you feel supported, then I love just looking around

your neighborhood, let's say you don't even go to a church, if

you don't have a church home, looking around your

neighborhood, wherever you are. Don't feel like you necessarily

have to go to that church. If that's feeling like something

maybe you're struggling with. I definitely feel like sometimes

whenever you're in a hard season, sometimes it's harder to

be at church. Because let's be honest, sometimes there can be

some resentment. And you're like, really god like why why

right now, why is this happening? So I understand that

feeling. Sometimes it feels like you want to be surrounded by

your friends in that time instead. Because why? Because

we're human, okay, because we're human. And we can be frustrated

sometimes with how our life is going. And we just need some

girlfriends to chat with. Or maybe you need like a small

group doesn't necessarily necessarily have to be

girlfriends. But it could be like a small group. So I talk in

that particular episode. And again, I'll link it in show

notes, if you want to check it out. I talk about the importance

of having that support during that time. So sometimes churches

can actually offer even if you aren't a member of that

particular church, they will actually offer mops, mothers of

preschool meetings, if that's a season that you're in, and if

your kiddos are in the preschool stages. Also, if you're not in

that a lot of churches will offer small group meetings or

they will offer like our church offers mom life. So that's moms

of all ages and stages doesn't just have to be the little

littles. And what I found is that when I can come together

with like minded people, we can find ways to encourage each

other by using our gifts, these things that God has given us to

really serve each other. And so outside of that, you may decide

you want to take that instead of just using it on the homefront

instead of just using it in those support groups that you're

in, but also take it out further to the community or outside of

your community. Perhaps even you have an online community that

you're working on serving right now. And you're thinking how can

I use my gifts for that, but you don't quite know what those

gifts are. I do love whenever I am uncertain, I will go to my

girlfriend, Kelly, Mo Beck, I have already mentioned her name

a few different times on this podcast. But she is my friend

first and my business coach. And so I will never forget feeling

like I was in a time of transition a time I needed to

pivot what I was doing in my home life and start a business

because I wanted to be able to bring in income. And I went to

her and met with her and just said, I don't even know where to

begin. And the first thing she said was, let's make a list of

your skills of your strong suits. And we know that as well

as the gifts that God has given us. So that's what we did. And

there was so much clarity that came from that just having that

other person to bounce those thoughts and ideas off of

because she said lip page, just like I was mentioning at the

beginning of this episode, here's that, you know, you can

have certain parts of your life that maybe you have to do so

like you either might be getting the paycheck and so you feel

like okay, I don't like this part of my job, but I'm going to

do it because I get rewarded in that sense. Or if you're a mom

and you're like, Okay, I know overall, it's rewarding, but

like I hate changing diapers, or I really don't like having to do

homework with the kids. Or it is really not fun to cook. I know I

have to feed my children but I just I don't get joy from

cooking. That's okay, that doesn't, that doesn't mean that

you're not a great mom or that doesn't mean that you're not a

great employee. If there are parts of your mission or your

job that you are required or asked to do. That just means

that some of those things you might have to Like, you're down

and just say, Alright, I'm going to do it, I'm just going to do

it, not going to worry so much about it or stress so much. And

I'm going to focus on the gratitude. But then there's this

other part of you, that definitely feels joy from these

parts of your job or your mission that you're on. And

those are the things that I believe God has given you to

bless other people. And by the way, when you're blessing other

people, that really comes back to you that serves you that

feeds your soul, you know, it makes you want to go on because

you feel like you're helping someone. So what is it today

that you could write down on a piece of paper, or jot down in

your little notes app on your phone? That is a gift that you

feel you have? No, don't think that's saying when you're

writing that down, if if you have a hard time saying good

things about you, that's why I highly recommend getting around

other people who know and love you and and like totally know,

your heart, you know, know really where you're coming from.

You can say to them, I'm struggling right now, I feel

like I need to do a better job of using my gifts. And I just am

having a hard time really knowing what they are. So I was

at that place. And when I talked to Kelly, she said, let's write

these things down. And that is how I arrived at becoming a

professional organizer. And working for myself. We talked

about my entrepreneurial spirit. I will share with you later on

that I have been an entrepreneur my whole life. I have always

loved creating things and figuring out something I could

do to help somebody else. I just I get filled up by that so much.

And we can talk later, it's coming up about exactly some of

those things that when I was a kid I did. And it just has sort

of morphed into being an entrepreneur as an adult. And

now being a mom, I'm a mompreneur. So if you are a mom

or not, but if you are a mom, and you are really struggling

these days, because you feel like I want more, and I want to

serve, but I have no idea where to start. I'm gonna say start in

prayer,

right? Just like immediately be like, can you show me? Can you

show me what I'm supposed to do right now? And can you please

make it enjoyable? Because that's the thing is if you can

take your gifts, and you can actually create a business, or a

way to serve, if you're volunteering or something like

that. It's going to make it more sustainable, you're going to get

more out of it. And you're going to want to do it more often. If

you like it, right? So do focus in that area on what do you like

to do? What is it that you genuinely feel called or

interested to focus on? And then once you get in that space of

figuring out your gifts, start thinking about how could I take

that and give it to someone else, sell it to someone else?

teach it to someone else? So that you're sort of paying that

forward? Right? We've been given these gifts, and the Bible

actually talks about how we are asked to steward our gifts

responsibly. So if we've been given these gifts, God is asking

us to be good stewards of those, right? Use those in a way to

serve and I am telling you that blessings will come from this

blessings will abound doesn't necessarily mean it might always

be easy, might be a real struggle sometimes because

you're like, Okay, I'm feeling like you gave me these gifts.

I'm really trying to be a good steward of these gifts. But

things are difficult. Things are tricky. Things are complicated.

I feel hurt by some people's reactions when I'm trying to

help or to serve. And I just want to encourage you to

continue serving from a good pure place of wanting to help

someone and also remembering that sometimes they may not

realize that they're needing that and you have to be patient.

It's one of those things where you really have to make sure

that they're in the space to come around to be open to it.

And once you make that connection, and you're like,

Okay, I think they're on the same page as I am like, I think

we're ready to move forward. That is when all of the magic

happens. Okay, that is when it is time to celebrate because

that's when you too can move forward together. Or I say you

too, but you could actually be serving a great group. You could

be serving a large community, and it's really special. It

really truly does feel magical when you get to that place.

swear you are seeing that the things that you are trying to

offer out of love and help and genuine support that people are

receiving. And they're getting excited, and they're getting

fired up. Because you may have been blessed with an incredible

gift. That puts you in some positions that make you really

scared that makes you afraid that make you nervous and

anxious and all those things that the Bible says to cast on

God, so you're not taking on yourself. But again, we're

human, and we can feel really scared and we can feel really

nervous. I'm gonna talk more about, you know, have you heard,

feel the fear and do it anyway, I'm going to talk a lot about

really pushing past that fear and trusting that God does have

this awesome plan for you. He does actually have these gifts

that he has really personally given to you specifically,

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life is not a solo mission. Thanks so much for making it a

best seller. And back to the show. So I was actually looking

up because I always just like to look and see what the Bible says

about some of this stuff before I get going on it because I want

to make sure it's coming from, you know, like a right place a

good place. And here's something that I really landed on that I

really like it James 117 says every good and perfect gift is

from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights,

who does not change like shifting shadows. Guess who

sometimes just like shifting shadows, US people? Oh, gosh. I

mean, whether it's hormones, whether it's uncertainty,

whether it's feeling like an imposter, like what are we doing

here? Whether it's not choosing to be a good steward of our

gifts and saying, Okay, Lord, maybe you've gifted me with

this, but like, I am just not down with serving in that way.

Because I'm not into it, or I don't get it or I'm really

scared. Know that when we lean into the fear. And we are

trusting that there is a plan, that those gifts you've been

given, they are not going to be given to you in vain. I promise

you that there is definitely a mission that is meant to go on

for you. And it is going to pay off even if it's hard and scary

at times, but I'm promising you because I've just seen it play

out so many times, not just in my life, but in so many

incredible friends and family's lives, when we are sharing the

gifts that God has clearly blessed us with. Oh my goodness,

magic. I keep going back to that word magic. I mean, the truth

is, it's not magic. It's real. It's real. It's not. It's not

fantasy. When I say magic, it is it is real. But it is this

magical feeling of wow, this is so much more than I could have

ever imagined. Because his plans to prosper you. They are so much

bigger than ours. Like even if we dream so gigantically huge.

It's so crazy, because what He has planned for you is so much

bigger. And don't remember, this is absolutely something that you

can do to serve in your family. If you feel terrified by the

thought of taking these gifts out into the world, because

that's just like, maybe you're just an introvert and the

thought of that just feels like overwhelming and scary. That's

okay, start at home. What better way to have impact and bless

people we love by starting in the home. So make a list today.

What are things that you're good at? What are things that you

enjoy? What are things that maybe if you talk to someone

else, I do highly recommend that like reach out to somebody who

you feel safe with who you feel like you could trust and say,

I'm just curious, what do you think maybe started with saying

like, I really feel like you are great at this. I really feel

like you are gifted in this area. And I'm curious, do you

feel like you get a sense of gifts that I have to contribute

because I'm in this place in my life where I'm just feeling like

God is calling me to serve and I am kind of stuck. I don't really

know what it is that I can tap into to do that and I'm just

curious, from your perspective, if you think that there are

things that I might be good at, alright, so you can say it in

like a non gross way. Like, hey, tell me how great I am. Don't

say that. Unless you're joking, and you can be like, Hey girl,

wondering if we could go to coffee, and you just talk to me

about how great I am. Okay? You know, if you want to do it from

like, a funny joking perspective, you can do that.

But at the end of the day, get serious about it. This is a

really serious, you know, like, we're truly called to take these

gifts, Steward them in a responsible way, and serve

others and bless others by that. And again, I cannot stress

enough how cool it is, when you're blessing others, that you

feel so blessed by that as well. So, just wanted to put that

thought on your mind today and encourage you to do that. And

also, stay tuned for future episodes, where I'm going to

talk a little bit more about spiritual gifting. So I want to

take a little extra time to do some research on this. But a

while ago, I did this amazing Bible study. And it opened up my

eyes to something I never, ever would have guessed or thought

about. And I took this quiz. So I'm going to put a link to the

quiz when I do that episode, for you to take. And it's all about

your spiritual gifts when you are called to do these big great

things. And you need that how it's, it's a really cool quiz

that can really just help you kind of pinpoint spiritual

gifts, which are a little bit different than you know, like,

for me, I talk about loving to organize and can go into a space

and see that and figure out a way to get rid of the clutter

and put in containers that will be helpful and aesthetically

pleasing, right, because I like the pretty part too. Okay. So

that's a different type of gifting. I'm excited to talk to

you about it. So I hope you'll come back for more of that. And

I'm also looking forward to talking to you next episode

about how sometimes there's this duality to us. All right, look,

I'm not saying we have multiple personalities, but I am saying

that sometimes there are different parts of us that can

actually work together to serve to, you know, like, contribute,

you know, contribute in a way that will be helpful and

encouraging and uplifting. So stay tuned for that. I think it

might surprise you. Thanks so much for listening today and I

will talk to you on the next episode.

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