Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful

journey called life.

Ah, I'm so excited to be recording this episode,

I'm so excited to connect with you. And hopefully I'm creating

something that brings you value that on one level or another in

one way or another helps you to connect back to yourself and to

find ways to live your most authentic life that you could

possibly dream off. Today, I want to talk about your

advisors. The people that you have in your life that you seek

advice from, that you look up to, that are role models, that

are people in your life that helped you in the past, find

your ways. And sometimes it's family members, sometimes it's

friends, sometimes it's professionals. And what I'm

learning right now is that sometimes we are so lost,

sometimes we are so desperate to find a path to feel clearer to

know what is going to happen in our life and where we're going

to end up that we seek advice from people who on the surface

seem very competent. And two in the past helped you greatly. But

maybe in other instances, they were not good advisors. But you

couldn't see that because you were so lost and desperate that

you just wanted any kind of advice from outside. Because you

felt that anything could help you get unstuck and feel found

again. I'm going to give you a little example right now. So I

just got engaged recently, which is very big and very exciting

for me. And my mom, back then didn't really have a wedding

celebration, she only signed papers with my dad. And that was

it. And my grandma had a wedding celebration that she doesn't

like to look back to it was a weird wedding in a backyard even

in a garage. And it was I don't know, she felt very weird on

that day. And so now that I got engaged, they started talking

about wedding and celebrations and wedding dress. And people

who know me know that I was never the kind of girl who

dreamt up anything about weddings, wedding dresses. I'm

pretty Yeah. Neutral about it, I want to say. And now that I'm

engaged, I'm feeling excited. And so I started talking with

them about possible celebration and wanting to choose my wedding

dress with them. And my grandma took me aside yesterday and told

me that, yeah, the world is going through a recession. And

my mum didn't have a proper wedding. She didn't have a

proper wedding. So she really hopes that I'm not going to get

too excited about a beautiful dress and celebration, because

this is not what life is about. And that was it. We left and

later on coming back home. I told my soon to be husband, my

fiance about this and he got so mad and I couldn't really

understand why. And he just said, Yeah, well, they had their

experience and they will be advising you in their ways what

feels best for them. But maybe that's not best for you, maybe

you want something else. And maybe you can find ways that you

get to express yourself in a way that is most authentic to you.

And not according to some other people's plans, even though it's

your family. So from that experience I want to share with

you and make you aware that sometimes you will be asking for

advice, you will have people sharing their opinion with you.

And you will put yourself in a position of I don't want to say

victim, but a position of desperation where you seek

advice, and you will take it and you will drink it like a magic

potion. But maybe there's a little bit of poison in there,

maybe there's a little bit of jealousy in there, maybe there's

a big chunk of limiting beliefs in there that you then swallow

in from another person. And if you make and base your decisions

on those advisors, and mentors, you will end up in a place in

your life. That will not feel like you that will make you feel

very limited and small. Because of course, the limiting beliefs

of other people are not yours. So sometimes we have to be brave

enough to sit in discomfort to sit in not knowing and

uncertainty. And to really go within to allow silence, to feel

yourself to experience yourself and from that space. Make

decisions that are most authentic to you. And you got to

strengthen that muscle because you will have people very close

to your heart, giving you advice that is not good for you at all.

And it is not that they are mean tempered, ill tempered or, you

know, don't want the best for you. They want the best for you.

But sometimes what they think what is the best for you is not

the best for you. And this is so extremely tricky, especially

when you're close to these people.

So

whatever it is you seek advice on, is it career, is it

relationship? Is it marriage, is it you know, big life changes

that you want to make in the future. Always be aware that

people have their own limiting beliefs, they have their own

agenda. And they will give you advice from their space of

knowledge. There's very few people out there who have big

empathy and big knowledge and give advice for free. That is

then serving you 100% and helping you grow. And sometimes

you got to ask several people and have several opinions, but

it is always, always always important. To go within and to

really dig deep and find out who you are. What makes you you what

is the life that you want to create for yourself. And

especially if it is different to the life that your parents or

caregivers lead. You have to seek advice from people who are

leading that life already who have done the steps and when you

seek advice from them, also be critical. Don't just step into

their foot prints because you are not them. But you can listen

to their advice to their opinion. And counter check like

check. If it resonates with your soul with your inner truth.

Nobody except you knows what is best for you. Nobody knows you

Tension, sometimes you don't even know your own potential.

This is why I'm so, so, so passionate to help people get to

know themselves. Because it is from that space that you're

going to make decisions that are good for you. And it is from

that space that you will find courage enough to distance

yourself from people that you desperately want to be in a

relationship with. But that don't help you when it comes to

your personal growth. You might feel very lonely at times when

you start making decisions that are not in alignment with those

old people, so to say anymore. But if you want to lead a happy

life, I live true to yourself, you will have to bring up some

courage. All right, I'm going to leave you with that. I love you

so much. I care so much about your well being and hope that

you always know that there's somebody out there, willing to

listen to you and wanting to connect with you. You're not

alone. And I will be out there on a more consistent basis

again, and I'm very excited to show up for you. And for my

little podcast here. So until then, take really good care if

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