Hey, I'm Paige Killian, founder and CEO of everything

with style.

I've built a business helping busy moms of littles get

organized in three simple steps. Like many of my clients, I love

being a mom. And I also desire more. If you've ever felt that

stirring in your heart, that whisper or really loud voice

that keeps you up at night, then you are in the right place.

Because this is not a solo mission. Whether you're a little

curious or totally ready to be a mom, boss and use your God given

gifts to serve others step into your calling, turn your passions

into purpose, and still make it to the carpool line on time,

then girlfriend, it's time to pivot. I've got you. Now let's

get started.

Hello, there, welcome back to another episode of the time to

pivot podcast, as I have been recording all of these previous

episodes. And I've talked about how we can sometimes feel guilty

about pursuing more in our lives if we already have certain

responsibilities. I've talked about that self doubt that can

creep in. And we may not have the confidence that we need to

move forward. I've talked about fear, fear of failure, fear of

maybe what are people going to think fear of disappointing

somebody fear of what if we don't make it and we just crash

and burn. And we just tried this really hard thing, and it didn't

work out, Oh, my goodness, that's embarrassing. Or maybe

you are, like me, a recovering perfectionist, and you want to

do something so very well. And if we don't have all the details

figured out if we don't have all the information that we need,

sometimes just getting stuck and stopping and not moving into

what may very well be our purpose. Well, I know. And this

is something that I really only recently have discovered and

learn to be true, is that everyone has a calling. And it

can vary depending on what season of life we're in. But

everyone has this calling, just like I believe that God gives us

all these gifts that He wants us to use, that we can use them to

serve others, whether it be in our homes, or out in the world.

And I believe that if we are being called, here's the kicker,

we are capable, we're capable of doing these hard things. Now,

that doesn't mean that there's not going to be failure or mess

ups or imperfections or roadblocks along the way. That

doesn't mean that we're not going to be facing really

difficult situations, possibly scary situations. I mean, what

if you're being called to step onto stage, and it doesn't even

have to be a big stage. This can be like doing something in a

virtual group where you're asked to show up and say something,

you might even be called to start serving as a leader in

maybe your church, and somebody wants you to do a Bible study,

and you're like, oh my gosh, I've never led a Bible study

before. But I believe that God is putting on my heart that this

is something I'm supposed to be doing right now. Even just a

book club, you know, maybe it's just getting together with some

friends in your neighborhood, or some of the mom friends that you

know, from someplace that you guys do stuff together, and

you're wanting to host them in your home, you're wanting to

talk to them about something that you're working on, and

you're scared or you feel like I don't know if I can do that, you

know, enter whatever your hangups are in place here. But

here's what I know, if we are truly being called to do

something, and that is in alignment with what God has

planned for us. We are capable. And the nice thing about knowing

that and just straight up taking comfort in the fact that we're

capable of doing these things that God is calling us to do,

then we don't have to worry about all the details that can

bog us down. We can hit that paralysis by analysis. That's

something that I've shared on my mom's organization, motivation

podcast when getting organized and trying to move forward in

your life. And we get stuck, we get stopped because of overwhelm

because of stress. And we get paralyzed. We start analyzing

all the different ways that we could go about doing something

and then we don't do it stops us in our tracks. But I would like

for you to start thinking about what you're being called to do,

and knowing that you're capable of it, otherwise you wouldn't be

called. You know, there are a lot of times in

In the Bible where God has shared different callings for

people, and he does that, like, oh, my gosh, Moses, Joe, we hear

about the patients of Joe, we hear about how Moses had a

speech impediment we hear and he was called to carry people

across this thread seen. I mean, he was called to share with us

the 10 commandments. I mean, if he just said, Okay, God, you're

calling me to do these things. But I don't know, if I'm

capable, for whatever reason, then, don't you think that the

world would look so different these days, he calls us and he

calls on the people that he believes they are capable of

doing it, despite all the things that we might think are wrong

with us. Despite all the things that we may think these are

reasons that nobody's gonna listen to me, or nobody's gonna

follow me, or nobody's gonna value what I have to say,

because of all of these human faults. Let me tell you about

human faults. They're relatable. I know, I don't want to work

with somebody who thinks that he or she has everything figured

out and that they aren't perfect. I don't want to work

with someone like that. Because that's going to hold me to an

unachievable standard. If I'm working with someone who feels

like there is a perfect way to do it. And if we deviate from

that at all, then we're not doing what we're supposed to be

doing, or it's not going to be as good. Did you ever do that

when you were in school and have those group projects, and then

you got paired up with someone who maybe has great leadership

qualities, and is totally capable of really doing great

things in the classroom, but they kind of stink at making you

feel like if you don't do it their way, you're wrong. And if

you don't do it in this certain particular way, that you're

gonna mess it up. I didn't like working with people like that in

groups. I liked working with people who were like, well, I

mean, I'm going to share a way that maybe I might do something,

let's hear what you have to say page, how might you tackle

something, and then let's just figure out how to move toward

that end goal with our ideas in mind. And we would know that we

might not get it right, we might not nail it the first time, if

we had a problem our teacher wanted us to solve. We might not

figure it out at the exact moment. I'm having flashbacks,

like chemistry class when we had to perform these experiments.

And sometimes we might have to try out things. And we were a

little bit uncertain. But we also were like, Okay, well, you

know, we've got this blueprint, we've got this format, we've got

a couple of people here working together as a team who are going

to try to move the ball forward and see if we can figure this

out. And it felt so good to be with someone who, yeah, was

confident, but maybe didn't feel like their way was the only way

to try it. It was nice to know that there was someone else who

was going to be with me, who was kind of flawed, who was a little

bit like, alright, we're uncertain. But let's tackle this

together and give it our best shot. That's the person I wanted

to be paired with. Because then I knew I didn't have to be

perfect and have everything figured out in order to make

progress. So I just want you to know today that if you have this

self doubt, that is coming up for you. It's okay to feel that

and acknowledge that. But also know that if you're being called

to do something, it's because you're capable, and you're

capable. Despite all these things that might come up for

you as excuses or reasons why you think you can't do it. You

are capable. Otherwise, God wouldn't ask you to do it. All

right. There are certain things in my life that I don't feel

like I'm ever going to be called to do. I don't think God's ever

gonna call me to be a fighter pilot. I don't think he's ever

going to call me to be a pilot on any plane. And the reason is,

because that doesn't feel in alignment with what I'm wanting

to add what I'm called to do my purpose, my legacy that I want

to leave for my family. It just doesn't feel like it's in

alignment. And I don't think I could be wrong, especially with

my fear fights, okay. Which what do we know? Just did a podcast

episode all about this fear is a liar. Just because I'm afraid of

heights doesn't mean that heights are going to get the

best of me and take me down forever. I can conquer those

fears. I also love roller coasters. How weird is that? I'm

afraid of heights but I also love roller coasters. And it is

definitely a Mind over Matter thing. Right? I get up there and

I get ready to go on this big scary roller coaster. And I tell

myself, don't be afraid at the heights because you are going to

have so much fun there.

are going to be so many. Turns out, you know what now that sort

of playing out this metaphor, I'm like, of course, I'm going

to start the time to pivot podcast and talk about

roadblocks and scary situations in times of transition. And just

being along for the ride. I'm now thinking about how I'm feel

about roller coasters. I love them, they get me so fired up.

So excited, I will wait in those long damn lines, because I know

that it is going to be a roller coaster of fun, there's going to

be some scary parts that come up trusting that those roller

coasters are secure, there has to be a really, you know, big

trust factor there. If you are getting ready to go on this

ride, whether physical in actual life or metaphorical. You need

to trust that there's a foundation there. For me, I

always talk about the faith, having faith that God is my

driving force in my life, having a support system of friends and

family around me making sure that I am leaning into the

advice of mentors and coaches, and advisors in my life, having

that good firm foundation, and allow you to feel that fear,

knowing that fear might be there to protect us. But it also can

lie to us and keep us stuck. And also trust that we are going to

be capable of going on this wild crazy ride. And it turns out,

it's not all going to be in vain. Because there are these

lessons that we're learning along the way. And we could be

making really big impact in our lives in the lives of others.

Because we are choosing, you are choosing to lean into that fear

or doubt or guilt or whatever's going on for you. And trusting

that if we are truly called to do this thing we're capable of

doing it. Maybe not perfectly. But that's okay. Our mess can be

our message, right? Mess up and share that with people. It's

important to share your story so that people don't think that you

got to a place all on your own. We've asked for help for others

around us. We've trusted ourselves that we're capable of

doing it, we've trusted that God has a plan for us, making sure

that all of those things are working together to support you

tapping into all of those things to know and trust. We're not

alone in this, there is a bigger plan, there is a bigger picture.

And your efforts aren't going to be in vain.

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making it a best seller and back to the show.

So I wanted to share with you this really sweet thing that my

husband got for my daughter. And it is a message that was framed

and it sits in her room. Because listen, it's not just about us.

It is about making sure that we are leaving that legacy that we

are following what it is that God is putting on our hearts to

teach our children that they can do that too. So one of the

things that he did for my suite is the belt, we're gonna have to

get something like this for Duke as well as he got this framed

piece of art that says, What if I fall over my darling? What if

you fly? Flying seems to be a thing suddenly in this episode.

What if you are so scared of falling and failing and messing

up? And maybe even embarrassing yourself and having to say, oh,

boy, I was wrong. And I need to go about this in a different

way. That's still okay, you can still be on the right path and

be aligned with your purpose and your calling and still mess up

because we're human. But we're also capable. So what if you

fall? Yeah, we talked about that on last episodes where we talked

about that fear of failure. We talked about that. Go back and

listen to that episode. I'll make sure I link it in show

notes here. But what if you fly? My darling, my friend? What if

you fly? What if you freaking crush it? What if you just

absolutely nail it? And you learn these amazing lessons

along the way and your end goal is really

reached, and you are serving others in the biggest way

possible. What about that, if you didn't lean into all of

those crazy feelings and normal feelings, really normal real

feelings of anxiety or struggle, or stress or fear or whatever,

it's okay. All of those things are going to work for good on

that journey. And what if you fly? What if you really, really

do that, if you had, let all those things get in the way, and

you didn't even try, you could have missed out on the

opportunity to fly, to do these great big things to help others.

Use your story. Take what's going on in your life right now,

and figure out a way to make that be the message that you're

sharing with other people on your journey, the one that you

are fully capable of going on, because he just wouldn't put it

in your heart, if it wasn't something that you were able to

do. And know that God uses flawed people, He uses people

who might even be at rock bottom, to give them this

message of hope. So that they can turn their lives around,

they can have that big pivot in their life, and then impact

other people. let other people know that if you are at rock

bottom, or have you are on your way there, that there is hope.

That may be your mission, that may be what you are being called

to do. And you are fully capable of doing it imperfectly flawed,

confused, scared to death, and all. It's okay. Just trust that

there is more than you as a human being at work. So I want

to let you know that there have been lots of episodes already

that I've talked a little bit more deeply about some of these

things that might be coming up for you. But I cannot wait for

you to join me next week. Because my coach and my dear

friend, Kelly mowbot, who I have taken tons of advice from over

the years in life in business and parenting and all the

things. And I have used her words of wisdom and her advice

to apply things to my life. And I am telling you that more than

half of the stuff that I have accomplished in the last few

years, I credit so much to her services to her help to her

wisdom and encouragement and her experience. And I'm so grateful

for her and I am so so pumped to have you guys listen to our

episode, which I've already recorded, and you are going to

love it. I'm telling you, it's gonna give you so much

encouragement, if she talks about something. Our episode is

called take the lead in your life, she's going to teach you

and talk to you about what it looks like to take the lead in

your life. Even if you are an introvert, even if you don't

know what you're doing, we're going to talk about that

leadership role. Because she believes that leaders don't

wait, they create, they don't wait to figure everything out,

they start creating along the way, and they start getting

closer and closer to their plans, their purpose, their

calling. So you guys are going to absolutely love that. But we

also talked about some other things that came out that I

wasn't expecting in the episode. That's what's so fun about these

guest episodes in these interviews, I can have an idea

or a topic that I want us to discuss. But but then

inevitably, these amazing people inspire me halfway through and

they drop these incredible nuggets, or these gigantic mic

drop moments and these words of wisdom that are like, so life

altering. And one of the things that she's talking about is not

asking for other people's permission, even the people you

love your spouse, your kids, your friends, your co workers,

your boss, not asking their permission, but finding out a

way to create agreements with them. So it's mutually

beneficial for everyone, as you are on your journey to pursue

your calling, and to figure out what it is that God is putting

in front of you and to see the fruits of your labor. So don't

miss that episode. So I'm going to say it one more time. If you

are feeling called to do really great big things. You have these

big lofty goals, and you're having all those feelings come

up for you that might be holding you back. I want you to remember

and say this to yourself today, multiple times a day, every day,

put it on a post it on your mirror. If I am called, I am

capable. If you have a message on your heart that you need to

get out. You don't have to have everything figured out to start.

You can figure it out along the way. But if you are called to do

these things, it's because you are absolutely capable. So trust

yourself. Trust that there is someone out there

In this making sure that you are going to be able to carry out

these plans. All right, and I will talk to you next week for

our guest episode with Kelly melbet. Thanks so much for

listening and I'll talk to you then. Bye bye.

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