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Kevin Lowe: You ever just stop and think just how hard we all work to fit in?
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Kevin Lowe: I'm talking about being sure that we got the right clothes, the right car.
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Kevin Lowe: Live in the right neighborhood.
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Kevin Lowe: Heck.
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Kevin Lowe: To be sure
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Kevin Lowe: We got the right coffee cup, just to be sure that.
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Kevin Lowe: We don't stand out,
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Kevin Lowe: To be sure that we fit in with the crowd.
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Kevin Lowe: And yes, I am talking about all of us.
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Kevin Lowe: We tend to think that this just happens in school. My friend,
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Kevin Lowe: no, because if we're honest, we know it happens in the workplace just like it
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Kevin Lowe: did back in elementary school.
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Kevin Lowe: But the truth that I want you to understand and why today's episode is even
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Kevin Lowe: happening is I want you to understand that fitting in might get you accepted,
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Kevin Lowe: but it will never allow you to stand out.
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Kevin Lowe: So that is why today I'm going to show you that the most impactful thing you
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Kevin Lowe: can ever do for yourself is for you to run your own race, for you to throw yourself
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Kevin Lowe: Your own party.
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Kevin Lowe: For you to be you. My friend, I've said it before and I'm going to say it again.
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Kevin Lowe: The world needs more of you.
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Kevin Lowe: This is episode 405 of Grit, Grace and Inspiration.
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Kevin Lowe: And me, well, I'm your host.
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Kevin Lowe: Kevin Lowe, a guy on a mission to inspire the world. And yes,
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Kevin Lowe: that includes you to never give up on life,
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Kevin Lowe: Even when it may feel like life is.
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Kevin Lowe: Giving up on
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Kevin Lowe: You.
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Kevin Lowe: I do it through this podcast. I do it through my role as an inspirational speaker,
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Kevin Lowe: Which, side note, by the way.
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Kevin Lowe: Are you part of a company, an organization, an association, needing an inspirational
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Kevin Lowe: speaker for your next event?
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Kevin Lowe: If so, please be sure to check out kevinspeaks.org.
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Kevin Lowe: So you can learn more as to what I can bring to your stage as an inspirational speaker.
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Kevin Lowe: I will include a link to that website at the top of today's show notes.
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Kevin Lowe: But again, it's just simply kevinspeaks.org.
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Kevin Lowe: So with that said, my friend, let's get on with today's episode so that you
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Kevin Lowe: can get back to being you.
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Podcast Intro: Yeah, I got grit, grace, and inspiration on my mind.
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Kevin Lowe: With every interview that I get to record
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Kevin Lowe: For this podcast.
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Kevin Lowe: There's always something that I learned from my guests. Some of my guests,
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Kevin Lowe: They have stories that are inspiring.
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Kevin Lowe: They're motivating. They're empowering.
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Kevin Lowe: Sometimes they just bring words of wisdom, a point of view that
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Kevin Lowe: Just kind of lets you see.
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Kevin Lowe: Things from an angle maybe you hadn't thought of before.
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Kevin Lowe: When I did the interview with Tick Maynard, he was featured in our last episode.
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Kevin Lowe: That would have been episode 404.
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Kevin Lowe: There were so many takeaways, but one of the biggest was a lesson that I learned
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Kevin Lowe: from the way he showed up to a championship.
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Kevin Lowe: It was called Road to the Horse, where the world's best horse trainers gather
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Kevin Lowe: together and they compete against one another.
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Kevin Lowe: Now, if you heard my interview with Tick Maynard, which if you didn't,
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Kevin Lowe: my friend, please be sure to go back and listen to episode 404.
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Kevin Lowe: Such a powerful conversation about more than just horses,
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Kevin Lowe: More than about this competition.
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Kevin Lowe: But about life and how amazing it is to do it like Tick has done it with something
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Kevin Lowe: that he loves, and that includes horses.
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Kevin Lowe: But in regards to what I'm talking about is when he was getting ready for this
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Kevin Lowe: competition, which is invite only, it is exclusive.
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Kevin Lowe: He was faced with a dilemma. Does he show up as himself like he'd always been or does he try to fit in?
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Kevin Lowe: And even as an adult, even as somebody at the top of his game,
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Kevin Lowe: he was struggling with this.
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Kevin Lowe: Do I try to be like everybody else? Does he show
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Kevin Lowe: Up with the typical cowboy attire?
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Kevin Lowe: The Wrangler jeans, the Stetson hat, the cowboy boots.
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Kevin Lowe: Or does he show up like he'd always been?
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Kevin Lowe: Because Tick, he was raised in a family that they rode horses.
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Kevin Lowe: And they did it in a style that is called English. Now, I don't claim to act
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Kevin Lowe: like I know much about horses or about riding horses.
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Kevin Lowe: But from what I learned from Tick is this style of English,
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Kevin Lowe: They don't wear the typical cowboy attire. No, they have the tight pants that
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Kevin Lowe: are tucked inside of the tall.
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Kevin Lowe: Knee-high boots. They wear a helmet. They don't wear a cowboy hat.
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Kevin Lowe: It's all this a little bit more sophisticated way of riding a horse.
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Kevin Lowe: And so despite the fear of not fitting in,
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Kevin Lowe: Of being afraid that he would look weird, that he would feel like an outsider.
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Kevin Lowe: He did it anyways. He stayed true to who he was. And you know what happened?
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Kevin Lowe: He won the whole dang thing. And not just once,
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Kevin Lowe: But twice.
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Kevin Lowe: He's a two-time Road to the Horse champion. An amazing accomplishment.
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Kevin Lowe: And.
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Kevin Lowe: I have to
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Kevin Lowe: Believe that part of it.
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Kevin Lowe: The reason it all happened the way it did,
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Kevin Lowe: Is that Tick.
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Kevin Lowe: Decided to show up as himself, to remain true to who he was.
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Kevin Lowe: And my friend, I share this
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Kevin Lowe: Because I believe.
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Kevin Lowe: It's a lesson that we all need to be reminded of.
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Kevin Lowe: No matter how old we are.
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Kevin Lowe: No matter what stage of life we're in, we all need a reminder that
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Kevin Lowe: Who we are.
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Kevin Lowe: Is who we're supposed to be. We're not supposed to be like everybody else.
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Kevin Lowe: We're not supposed to look like everybody else.
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Kevin Lowe: We're supposed to be who we are.
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Kevin Lowe: So this got me thinking, how many times do we, maybe without even thinking about
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Kevin Lowe: it, adjust who we are just so we can fit in?
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Kevin Lowe: Think about you at work. Are you who you really are at work just like you are at home?
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Kevin Lowe: In your meetings, do you tend to be a little bit quieter just so that you can
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Kevin Lowe: fall in line to do what you think you're supposed to do? Are you a parent and
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Kevin Lowe: you're in line waiting to pick up your kids?
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Kevin Lowe: Are you comparing your car, your life to the others? Or do you fall
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Kevin Lowe: Into that trap of.
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Kevin Lowe: Seeing the friends with their big brand new home and suddenly the house that
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Kevin Lowe: you always loved no longer seems like it's enough?
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Kevin Lowe: And you start going online.
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Kevin Lowe: Researching new homes, bigger homes.
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Kevin Lowe: All with this sudden idea that comparison.
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Kevin Lowe: It's beginning to rob you of what you already loved.
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Kevin Lowe: And when I talk about comparison, I mean it's true, my friend.
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Kevin Lowe: Because comparison is a trap, a horrible trap that some people stay stuck in their entire life.
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Kevin Lowe: Equally so, conformity, well, that's also a trap in its own way.
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Kevin Lowe: because all that's going to do
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Kevin Lowe: Is it robs you of who you are.
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Kevin Lowe: What you like.
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Kevin Lowe: Maybe you don't like the kind of house that everybody else does.
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Kevin Lowe: That's good. Maybe you don't like to have the same color car.
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Kevin Lowe: That everybody else is. Awesome.
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Kevin Lowe: I love that. We all have way too many people who try to fit in.
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Kevin Lowe: To want the same thing, to act like they like the same thing as everybody else.
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Kevin Lowe: We need more people who like something different. And I want you to be the person,
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Kevin Lowe: the trendsetter, to start setting that forth.
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Kevin Lowe: And talking about trendsetter, I can't help but think of two different stories from my childhood.
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Kevin Lowe: Now, I'm not going to act like I was anything special
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Kevin Lowe: As a kid.
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Kevin Lowe: I was just a kid. But I remember distinctly third grade.
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Kevin Lowe: I had to switch schools, which if you can remember,
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Kevin Lowe: That's a big deal.
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Kevin Lowe: To leave all your friends and have to go to a whole new school, it's terrifying.
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Kevin Lowe: And if there's ever an opportunity for us to fall victim to this idea of fitting
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Kevin Lowe: in, it's in that situation. And yeah, I can remember that I had my older sister
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Kevin Lowe: And I always kind of took my fashion from her friends,
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Kevin Lowe: Thought they were the cool kids.
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Kevin Lowe: And so me, I was rocking my chain wallet.
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Kevin Lowe: Yes, I had the total skater surfer vibe going on.
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Kevin Lowe: I think that was about the time when Vans had first come out.
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Kevin Lowe: Yes, I know. I am aging myself with that. But, you know, we had the Vans,
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Kevin Lowe: The corduroy billabong jacket.
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Kevin Lowe: And, I mean, heck, third grade JNCO jeans hadn't even really hit the scene.
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Kevin Lowe: I'm talking old school. But anyways, the chain wallet.
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Kevin Lowe: I would rock my cool guy chain wallet and.
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Kevin Lowe: Nobody else in the
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Kevin Lowe: School had it.
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Kevin Lowe: And yet, by the end of the school year, even the older kids had a chain wallet.
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Kevin Lowe: And I have to think, hmm, maybe I had something to do with that by being different,
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Kevin Lowe: by going against the grain. by doing something a little unusual.
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Kevin Lowe: Same thing happened in middle school into high school.
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Kevin Lowe: Is, well, you can tell I was growing up.
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Kevin Lowe: My style was changing drastically from skater kid to deciding to rock a pair
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Kevin Lowe: of pointy toe cowboy boots in the eighth grade.
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Kevin Lowe: And yeah, I was the only one. But it didn't take long before my friends,
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Kevin Lowe: they started wearing their own boots.
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Kevin Lowe: Again, sometimes what's cool is, is when we decide to do what we want to do,
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Kevin Lowe: it encourages other people to do the same.
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Kevin Lowe: Because being who you are, my friend, it's like a breath of fresh air.
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Kevin Lowe: It's enlightening. It's amazing. It gives people that chance to also be themselves.
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Kevin Lowe: Because the hardest thing that any of us can do is to be the first one,
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Kevin Lowe: to be the first one in line, the first one to show up with something outside of the norm. But if we do,
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Kevin Lowe: And we have the courage to.
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Kevin Lowe: Stand in our own, to believe in ourself enough,
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Kevin Lowe: Then just watch what can happen.
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Kevin Lowe: The ripple effect can be absolutely monumental.
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Kevin Lowe: So, my friend, I want to end today's short episode with a challenge. A challenge to you.
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Kevin Lowe: Wherever you are in life.
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Kevin Lowe: Wherever you're at in this season of life, I have a challenge for you.
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Kevin Lowe: If you have been showing up to work as a different version of you than you are
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Kevin Lowe: at home, I want you to try being more of you.
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Kevin Lowe: If you've remained quiet in the meetings and yet you're really not that person,
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Kevin Lowe: well, I want you to speak up. Yeah, it might seem uncomfortable.
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Kevin Lowe: And yeah, obviously it's work. So you got to be sure that you're following some
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Kevin Lowe: lines to be sure you don't end up without a job.
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Kevin Lowe: But what I'm saying is, is that maybe you've been holding back.
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Kevin Lowe: And if you would start to show up as you, who I'm here to tell you is the best
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Kevin Lowe: version of you, maybe work would become a better place.
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Kevin Lowe: Maybe you could make an impact far greater than you even realize because you start being you.
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Kevin Lowe: Or what about you and the style that you're into?
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Kevin Lowe: If you've been trying to just do what everybody else does, even though it's
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Kevin Lowe: really not you, well, my friend, start being you.
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Kevin Lowe: Wear something different, even if nobody else is wearing it.
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Kevin Lowe: If everybody else is constantly
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Kevin Lowe: Wearing drab colors.
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Kevin Lowe: And you're really into the bright stuff,
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Kevin Lowe: My friend, bust out the bright colors and rock it.
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Kevin Lowe: And I want you to be confident in it. I want you to walk
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Kevin Lowe: With your head held high.
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Kevin Lowe: Because you are being you. And it doesn't mean that it's easy.
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Kevin Lowe: It will be uncomfortable.
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Kevin Lowe: But the more you do it, the better you'll be. Because, my friend,
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Kevin Lowe: the worst thing any of us can do is to try to hide and to put on a mask and
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Kevin Lowe: pretend that we're something that we're not.
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Kevin Lowe: So whatever the situation you're in, I want you to take action and just be more of you.
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Kevin Lowe: It's as simple as that. I'm not
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Kevin Lowe: asking you to do anything hard or difficult. I just want you to be you.
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Kevin Lowe: Because as I've said earlier.
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Kevin Lowe: As I've said on many different episodes of this podcast, the world needs more
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Kevin Lowe: of you. We have enough of everybody else.
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Kevin Lowe: We just need you. So my friend,
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Kevin Lowe: If you love it, if you like it, Please be sure.
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Kevin Lowe: To share today's episode with somebody else who you feel could use a reminder
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Kevin Lowe: that maybe they're not showing up as who they truly are.
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Kevin Lowe: And you realize, wow, they could really benefit from hearing this.
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Kevin Lowe: We'll share today's episode with them.
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Kevin Lowe: It would mean the world to me. And until next time, I am your host,
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Kevin Lowe: Kevin Lowe. And this, of course, was another episode of Grit,
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Kevin Lowe: Grace, and Inspiration.
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Podcast Outro: I got Grit, Grace, & Inspiration on my mind