Welcome to Love Notes, Rhonda.

And today I want to ask you, frankly, what is the one thing you must get done this year or you are going to kick yourself in the butt?

So we have how many days left of the year?

25.

26.

Right.

We don't have that many left.

So I am a date person.

You may not be, but I'm a date person.

And I cannot tell you how many things I've surrendered and let go in the last three months of the year, specifically in the last weeks of the year.

So right now, I'm on high alert to all the things that no longer serve me.

I'm on a high alert to all the tolerances in my life.

I'm on high alert to the things that just don't work for me, whether it's a drawer, whether it's a piece of clothing.

I threw a dress away today, by the way.

I had it on yesterday and I looked at it when I was wearing it.

I'm going like, this does not work.

And it's like, okay, well, is it something to give away or something to throw away?

Right.

Something to give away?

Something to throw away.

Which one?

Right?

And I just decided, no, it had this tear and this thing, and there's little things here and there.

And I'm like, nope, I'm gonna throw it away.

So when I took it off last night, I threw it away because I am not gonna put it back in my closet.

So there are things in my life that I am not gonna tolerate anymore.

When I looked at my office recently, I was like, you know what?

I love the way my office looks.

I think it's great and awesome.

Until now, right?

I had all these beautiful things up that people had made me and poems they'd written for me and all these beautiful things.

And it just made me feel so good.

And I had all my crosses up.

Cause I click crosses.

I just had all these things up that I just really cherish.

And then I went into my office a few weeks ago and I went, you know what?

This is too much for me.

I can't.

It is not supporting me to write.

It is not supporting me to have a blank slate around me in order to write all these things that I love.

I love gonna take em down.

So I took down every cross.

I took down every poem, which is like, if you know me, that's like a.

What?

What do you mean you took down the poems?

Don't worry, I've got an idea for them.

But I took down some things that people had given Me, that again.

I love these things.

I'm not getting rid of them.

I want to put them up somewhere.

But right now, I got to have a clean, clean walls in my office so that I can think more clearly.

So I took every single thing down, except one thing that is more natural, more muted.

And I painted every wall.

Yes.

I got my paintbrush out and I crossed my fingers that my can of paint that I had, you know, from a year ago was.

Would still work, and hallelujah, it did.

And I filled up all the nail holes, right?

All the nail holes.

And I sanded and did the whole thing.

And now when I go in my office, there are only two things on the wall.

One, this piece of cloth, ruggish thing.

I don't remember what they're called, you know, rug art.

And then a piece of wood with a mirror on the back.

And the office is just.

All my walls are empty except that, right?

And I just.

I'm like, oh, I can breathe.

I can breathe now.

Remember, I loved my office.

I loved those things.

I've had them up for, gosh, 10, 15 years and gave me such pleasure.

But where I am at this moment in my life is no clutter.

I went through my clutter cupboards.

I went through my drawer.

I did so many things.

So those are the things in my home that I've been doing.

But what about in my heart?

Or what about in my mind?

Or what about projects?

What about things I want to do, tasks I want to complete, dreams I want to make happen?

Well, I've been taking a piece of paper and being ruthless.

Like, okay, I've only got three and a half weeks left of this year.

What is reasonable?

What is actionable?

What can I get my team on board for?

What can the team do together?

What is mine to do alone?

What is realistic?

And what also not only just realistic, but pushes me a little bit and wait a minute.

What do I want to do around the holidays?

Do I want to take some days off?

I usually have many days off during the holidays blocked off.

And sometimes I do big projects during that time.

So I'm asking you to really think.

And I know I've been saying this a little bit over the last few months, right?

I've been kind of knocking on this door for a while, but I really want us to get on top of.

Okay, we have three and a half weeks left, gang.

What are you gonna do?

What aren't you gonna do?

What are you gonna take off your plate and say, I'm not doing, not doing it.

It's going to next year.

And what is it that's got to get done this year or you are going to kick yourself?

You are going to be.

Ugh.

You're gonna kick yourself.

Well, I don't want you to kick yourself.

I want you to be realistic, yet ambitious, yet gentle.

Right?

There's that combination of how do you be gentle but yet honor your ambition and your purpose and your passion and be realistic about your time and ask for support.

Right?

All these things.

See, we need all these skills.

We need to be able to ask for help.

We need to be able to say no.

We need to be able to say yes.

We need to push ourselves and we need to relax.

We need to be able to do all.

Because all those things we need moment by moment in our lives.

So the question is, what if you do not get done the next three and a half weeks, are you going to kick yourself for.

Well, write it down.

Create a plan and do it.

Do it.

If that means cutting out a dream, if that means cutting out a person, if that means cleaning out your closet, if that means making action on a dream that you put aside over and over again, whatever it is, it's time.

It's your time.

So let's do this.

Until next time, be fearless.

I love you.