We are a blended family of 16 children

and trying to get that many beautiful, amazing souls together had

its own challenges. Culture is a huge part of our

family connection. For me, when I grew up without that culture,

When you sit with yourself and know who you truly are, then

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ora and welcome back to the Krystal Rowe Impact Podcast. And

today I'm actually going to be introducing somebody so

important to me. I'm extremely excited and

before I get into it, I just want to give a little bit of background

about this extraordinary person that I

absolutely adore. He's my biggest fan.

He's my best support and he

is my husband. my amazing

husband, TJ Rowe. Welcome to my podcast, my

Well, our podcast. I'm not nervous at all. So

one of the reasons we're bringing TJ on today as a co-host

of this podcast is because we have

joint ventures and we have a mission and a

purpose that is a beautiful blend of

masculine and feminine energies. And we just wanted to

share a little bit about how we got together and our

journey along the way and how this

Maybe, but yeah, our journey together has

been nothing short of amazing and

obviously it's had its challenges. a

reblended family of 16 children

that make up our unit. And obviously trying

to get that many beautiful, amazing souls together had its own

challenges. But one thing that we

were committed to was healing

and our personal growth. So those were

the big two factors that has made

us be as strong as we are today. Stronger together.

stronger together. And that's why I love being able to do

this podcast and bring you along on this journey now,

even though you're a little bit reluctant. It's

where we're at in that next level. So yeah, welcome.

So one thing that I absolutely love and adore

about you is your mana and

your connection to your culture. So Do you

Yeah, absolutely. So

yeah, basically I've just said what

my mountain is, my river, my waka, and where

I'm from. So where I'm from is the west

side, the west coast of New Zealand, a place called Taranaki.

Although my roots began there, on my

grandmother's side, my father's side, but I was born and bred in Hastings,

Yeah, and then made my way over here. It's a

beautiful place, has its own little stigma

I love, I love it. Like, there's one thing, like

moving to Australia that I struggled with

was taking my kids away from culture.

And yeah, going home, every time I go home, it's just

Oh my gosh. We've only just begun. I

wasn't brought up around there, but it's just something about

every time I visit, I just feel this intense

Culture is a huge part of our family connection

because it was almost stolen from

us when we were growing up. So for me, I didn't know

much about culture. or my background and my grandparents never

wanted to talk about it. So it's something that we've had to take on

ourselves to bring into our home and

to actually teach our children. It's all

by choice, it's purposeful and there

is huge intention around that connection because for

me, when I grew up without that culture, that

sense of identity, I was extremely lost. And

it's taken a lot of work and a lot of healing and

a lot of, yeah, searching and

so much to find that connection. So we really bring it back

into our home purposefully because

you are so connected to your culture and it means

Yeah, it does. It just takes us back to the old days, like we're all

raised in villages and communities. And

like, as time got on, we kind of separated from

those communities and that environment where everyone sort of

helped each other out. And, you know, different whanau

or different people have their jobs to do different things like fishing,

hunting and all this sort of thing. So as a collective, we all, we

all, yeah, we were all one, like work together. But

nowadays it's like, it's like a race. It's like a

competition. We're all competing against each other to

try and get that. get that step up above somebody else,

which is, I feel that while we're

losing our connection and being disconnected from that

kotahitanga, the togetherness. Yeah,

so I think community is very important. Surrounding

ourselves in environments where we can all just grow together and

help each other out. I feel my generation, we're

trying to encourage our next generations to

bring that back. Because it did get lost for a number

of years, a number of years. Like my parents, they never spoke in

the home te reo Māori because their parents weren't allowed to

Even when you were wanted to learn

Yeah, so when I first left school, I actually

left school at 15 and did an art course. And

I just love art. I love what it does for me. And yeah,

then I wanted to do a te reo course when

I was really young. I wanted to learn te reo Māori when I was young. And one

of my elders actually approached me and said, why? It's

not that world anymore, you know? you're

going to get nowhere with it. That's just an example of how our culture was

lost back when I was growing up. But it's

amazing to see our people rising up now. Yeah,

it just gives me goosebumps every time I hear about it or see it.

And why is it so important for you to see that

in our kids? the love and the passion that

they have. Like, we have this thing called Māori

Monday, and it's one of our days off, but every

morning, instead of good morning, most Mondays, it's Māori

Monday, and the kids come running out and they're so excited. What

does that do for you? And why is it important for

It's like an opportunity to teach my kids another word, you know? Like,

I don't, I don't, I'm not completely fluent.

Like I know the basics, but obviously know a lot more

than our kids. And if I can teach them a word every Monday and

they use that word throughout the week, you know, that's

Yeah, and they love it. Like, they love learning about our culture. And

And very briefly, I want to go back to Parihaka

and if you can give us a quick breakdown of

the people and the peaceful people. because that

is one of the qualities that I absolutely love and adore about

you is just that peaceful energy

that you give, whether it's in protection or

like creating a safe and secure environment or just

an open-ended communication for not only our

So yeah, Parihaka was a very, it's known to be a

very peaceful whenua, peaceful grounds.

My ancestors there, Te Whiti o Rongomai and

his troops, they were very peaceful, very peaceful tribe.

So peaceful that they actually gave, you

know, the white men who came over to try and

take over You know, he was happy to share. So

he gave them land and built fences around our

own villages and stuff to, you know, this is ours, this is

our village, this is our community. Happy to, you know, give

you this part and that part, but they wanted

more. So caused destruction and stuff within

our lands. Te Whiti o

Rongomai and his men, they still had this peace within. They

didn't let anything break their peace with inside them. I

don't know, I feel that's something that I really relate

to. Over these years, especially these last couple

of years, I've done a lot of work in creating

that peace with inside me. Maybe that's why I feel so connected to

Yeah, beautiful. Bringing it up and out and

being able to share that with other people is part of our

strength that we've come together and created. And

that's what I really love about us, is that even

though we've only been together a very short time, we're very

sure of our connection, and

we were very sure of our commitment, not only to ourselves,

but to the best version of ourselves and the healed version

of ourselves. So we've worked really, really

well together in order To get to that

So you might be wondering how we actually met and how we became

to be and is just basically the

Yeah. No, actually it was over a series of

a few catch-ups. Like I

asked you to, to come, I don't know. Be careful.

I think I, I asked you to come and catch, if you wanted to

catch up and then you were

like, yes. So no, we, we did catch

Yeah. And then I just got this vibe and I wanted to check in

on you. And then we sort of caught up and we were like,

oh, she'll go out on another night as friends.

And we went out a couple of times. And then

it was all over. It's

really hard to pinpoint the exact moment. I

think, you know, it could have been the first moment that you seen me at

the cafe, at your auntie's event and you, well, what

So Crystal was actually a good friend of my, one of my sisters

and um, So I went to a couple, you

know, been around the cafe, went

and bought food a couple of times from her cafe and had a couple of events there.

And yeah, just. just

hearing this woman talk and just being

so powerful, just attracted

me so much. And yeah, I

did say, I think I need to get me some of that, someone like that.

You did reach out to me. So I got a message from her and we weren't

even friends on Facebook or nothing like that. I got a message and

Crystal said, um, Hey bro. Um, uh,

you know, I know you've got a lot of boys and, um, you've

raised them some great men. Um, just wondering. I'm

just reaching out because I'm struggling with my oldest son at the moment.

And yeah, we just started chatting from there. And I actually offered to

take Laken, her oldest son would have been about eight

Six, seven. Yeah, I offered to take

him for the weekend and just chill with my boys and took him surfing on

the Gold Coast. And yeah, he really loved it. She

was like, Crystal was really appreciative.

You had the cafe to run in for your kids and

We had to decide because we had, you

had nine kids at home. I had my

six. And once we sort of

passed that friend stage, we

knew like instantly there was like something special. And

if we were to grow that, we had to put in a hundred percent. So

very quickly we ended up living together, doing

our kids together, navigating through a

few things. And at what point was it when you

Wow, throw me in the deep end. I think, honestly,

how I knew you were the one is that I

was being real and I'm being true to myself. I

had pulled off all my masks that, you know, that, that

men have, and I was really sitting in my

truth and my power. And when I, when you do that, When

you sit with yourself and know who you truly are, then

that person you want, your soulmate, it will come

to you. She will come to you. And I

just felt like, and that's when I felt so aligned. Yeah, because

the first time in my life, I actually sat with myself and was true

to myself, ripped off all my masks and all these things I

needed to do and be for the outside world. But

I truly dug deep into myself Yeah,

it was like another part of me came towards me and

I think it's really important for women

as well to follow what what TJ

has shared about taking off the masks and

aligning with your true self so that you can actually

be seen whether it's in this world as

a physical being or in the outer world and

let your soul actually be seen. I think

that's the important thing is allowing our true selves to be

seen And that way we can be accepted by our

other, whether you call it your twin flame or your soulmate,

you've got to really, really show yourself.

And when you do that, the right person will appear for you. If

there's anything you guys want to know about my journey or

TJ's journey or anything more about our journey together

and the way we blended our families and connected

and really brought in something

different. I think our relationship is

very unique and very different in the way that

we have come together. And it's

a very intentional and purposeful family

and relationship. So make sure you follow

along for our next episodes because TJ is

sticking around. He's going to be joining me on a lot more episodes and

we're going to dive deep into some amazing topics and

really take off those masks and share

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