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I'm your host, Blakely Ramsey, strategist, systems girl and execution coach for entrepreneurs who want structure that sells in a business that feels like peace.

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I have been working on a speech that I am doing for a corporate group this afternoon and it is so stinking good.

And I was like, you know what, I need to bring this to the podcast because this needs to be said now.

I think a lot of us think about nervous system regulation and we think about this monk that is like sitting on a mountain and they're meditating all the time.

Or we think about this completely stress free life where our nervous system is just regulated all the time and everything's great and everything's wonderful.

And so I think with that mindset, so many of us, especially high achievers, we go, oh, you know what?

Nervous system regulation is not for me.

I just need more motivation.

I just need more willpower.

I just need to be more disciplined.

And don't get me wrong, there is a time and a place for willpower and motivation and discipline.

Those are definitely things that I think are core virtues and core values.

But when it comes to truly having that quantum leap, doing, you know, living the U squared lifestyle, getting to that next level that you want, it is so important to have a true regulated nervous system.

And I have experienced so many different things over the last year when it comes to nervous system regulation.

I feel like I kind of walked into it backwards.

I had no clue that I was regulating my nervous system at the time.

I didn't even have any idea that my nervous system was dysregulated.

And that's why I'm so passionate about speaking to these groups, because it is so important for all of us.

It impacts every single part of our life.

Now, if you are new around here, you might not know, but I have been in a plethora of different jobs.

So started working when I was 12 in the restaurant industry.

I was in the restaurant industry roughly from 12 to 24ish.

And I worked pretty much every front of house position you can have.

I was the silverware girl, the cashier, bus tables, I waited tables.

I was front of house manager, I was general manager.

I have pretty much covered every single portion of it.

So I went from restaurants to corporate sales.

I was wine and spirit sales.

I had a pretty big area, all of south Arkansas.

I had Big box.

So, like, Walmart, Brookshire's, Walgreens, different stores like that.

I had all of my, you know, just regular liquor stores.

And then I had on premise as well, so restaurants that carried a pretty good skew of wines.

And then I also had convenience.

So every gas station in South Arkansas that sells wine, I was their sales rep.

So the majority of them, I got to go talk to in person.

Some of them were just, you know, called in.

But I had a big area, and it was a lot of pressure.

So I went from very high pressure job in restaurant to very high pressure job in sales.

And then I was just like, let's just keep piling it on.

I went into real estate, and you want to talk about some high pressure?

I went from getting my license in 2019, kind of, you know, wobbly on my little real estate legs, trying to figure things out.

2020 hits.

And I don't sell a house for the first six months of the year because the world was shut down and nobody knew what was happening next.

To the end of 2020, it was like the floodgates open.

Interest rates were low.

Things were crazy.

Everybody was buying.

Everybody wanted to sell.

Everybody wanted to buy.

It was like the hot thing to do.

And then I feel like that that wave was like, all 2021, all, almost all 2022.

And then 2023, things slowed down.

You know, rates went up, Market didn't crash, but it definitely shifted dramatically.

And 2023, it kind of started to feel a little off.

Like, I was like, I know I've been busy, but something.

Something's just not right.

Like, something's not clicking anymore.

And so I 2024, I was like, okay, I'm about to experience complete burnout.

Like, I've got to figure out what's going on and what my plan is next because I am headed down a really steep path.

And so a lot of the things that I talk about in these speeches and on the podcast are literally things that I have learned, like, hands on.

It's not, oh, I read a book or listened to a podcast or, you know, how to coach.

And all of those things I've, you know, experience and were very helpful, but I didn't experience them until after I realized that my nervous system was wildly dysregulated.

And after I already tried so many different things, was kind of piecing everything together.

And so this is not like, theory.

This is literally like, what saved my life.

I know that sounds so dramatic, but it truly was what happened.

And I had this moment in 2024.

It was May of last year.

My husband and I were in Colorado.

We were on vacation.

And you know, time zones are crazy when you're traveling, so especially when you've got clients that aren't in the same time zone as you already.

And then you jump another time zone.

Things are just so off.

And I woke up on vacation and I had a text from my client.

And I wake up early.

Like, I on vacation, I can't sleep in.

So it's like 5:30 in the morning.

And my client was texting me and he was like, hey, I need to schedule a call with you at 2:00 clock this afternoon.

And I just remember all day I was.

I like, had this like, anxiety about me.

We were eating breakfast and I was anxious about the call.

We, you know, went on a.

Whatever.

We like, went on a hike.

We went sightseeing.

I was stressed about the call.

We're watching a movie.

I'm stressed about the call.

We eat lunch.

I'm stressed about the call.

And then I was like, so worked up about it.

And I told my husband, I was like, I'm gonna go on a walk and take this call.

Like, maybe that will help level things out.

And so I'm on the top of this hill and I'm looking out and I take the call.

And it wasn't that bad.

Like, my client really didn't have.

He honestly probably didn't even need to talk to me.

The whole thing could have been a text message, but I was listening to Shaboozi's bar song.

And the line where he says, why the hell do I work so hard?

It just.

I'd heard that line a thousand times.

I'd screamed it at the top of my lungs in the car.

But in that moment, I was like, whoa, I am making this so much harder than it needs to be.

I am.

It wasn't that the phone call was hard.

It wasn't that texting him back was hard.

I made it hard because of the way that I responded to it.

And I was like, okay, I've got to figure something out.

Like, this is.

I'm making this harder than it needs to be.

Because I am.

I'm someone who is high achieving.

I love working hard.

I love problem solving.

So what is the deal here?

And so why the hell do I work so hard?

Just, like, kept playing in my head over and over and over again.

And after that trip is really when I.

I started to dive into all of this and dive into like, what was happening.

And I realized that it was my reaction to the phone call that was the issue.

It was my reaction to the text message that was the issue.

It wasn't the text and the call itself.

I mean, those two things.

It took me maybe 15 seconds to reply to his phone call and it was maybe a three minute phone call.

It wasn't that big of a deal.

But my reaction extended it into the entire day.

I missed, essentially missed a breakfast with my husband, I missed a lunch with my husband, I missed watching a movie with my husband because I had a poor reaction.

And I had a poor reaction because my nervous system was dysregulated.

So nervous system dysregulation can look like cognitive overload, it can look like unregulated stress, and it can look like unprocessed emotions.

So a lot of us think of stress in terms of, oh, can I pay my bills this month?

That is stressful.

I've got a big load at work.

This is stressful.

I've, you know, maybe got a personal relationship issue that is stressful.

And yes, those things can provide a lot of stress to our lives.

But some of the things that we don't think about are all the little micro stressors that we experience during the day.

So if we're scrolling on TikTok and we see something that bothers us or offends us or scares us, we might scroll past it.

But our body carries that stress.

So it's like a little ping of stress.

And think of how many times you scroll past something that makes you react to it.

All of that is stress that you are holding in your body.

Every time you're at a red light and somebody honks at you, if you're in a storm, somebody bumps into you.

Like all these little tiny things that we don't think about, they are stored in our body as unprocessed emotions.

If we don't do something to regulate our nervous system.

Now, when we are thinking about this, I want you to think about the four survival states.

And a lot of us think about this in terms of like, oh, well, that was my ancestors.

Like, I don't really deal with that anymore.

But ironically enough, we are living in the same body now that our ancestors had.

And biologically, we are pretty much the same.

Like, yes, we form some new neural pathways over the years, but for the most part, our nervous system is very similar.

And so these survivors, the survival states that our ancestors used this fight, flight, freeze and fawn.

Well, they didn't have fawn back then.

We added that because we're Getting a little soft, y' all.

But these are the same survival states that our ancestors had.

But back then they were experiencing stress that was a lot different than what we experience now.

So, you know, they leave the, the cave or the hut and, you know, they see like a lion chasing them across the savannah.

It's like, you run, run, run, run, run.

And then, okay, the lion goes away, my stress goes away.

You know, they, they felt that, that stress.

They felt that fight or flight response.

But then they also, the trigger went away.

It was like, okay, the lion left.

I, I'm good.

They, they were able to get out of that response.

Whereas we, today, a lot of us experience the stress from a cell phone notification or a social media notification or some kind of.

It's usually around notifications.

And where, where does that stress go?

It never leaves us because we have our phone in our hand all of the time.

So where our ancestors, they had, they honestly naturally regulated their nervous system because as soon as the threat was gone, they were able to come back into their body and go, okay, the threat's gone, I'm good.

Versus you and I, we, we carry our threat around in our hand.

We have it, you know, glued to our, our hip or inside our ear.

We're constantly texting, we're constantly scrolling, we're constantly swiping.

And so we're constantly getting these threats.

And our body literally does not know the difference between a lion chasing us and something offending us on social media.

And so we react in the same way as our ancestors did to a lion or a tiger chasing them across the savannah.

We react the same way when we see a text or a thread or something that we don't like.

And when you think about it that way, it's like, whoa.

Like, we really are reacting to these as if they were real threats.

And a lot of us aren't letting those emotions process through our body.

And it's really starting to affect so many people.

So when you think about the survival states in terms of modern day, a lot of people are looking at these nervous system responses and they're calling them their personality.

So fight can look like controlling, micromanaging, criticizing, anger.

Flight can look like restlessness or rushing or avoiding or procrastinating.

Freeze can look like just going numb or feeling that stuck feeling or just completely shutting down.

And then fawn can look like people pleasing.

So if I just make everybody else happy, everything will be good.

I'll be safe.

Or you're just overextending yourself all the time.

And the sad Thing is, is that so many of us, because we're not aware of the fact that that is a nervous system response, we take that on as a personality flawless.

We go, oh, you know, I'm just someone who has to micromanage everything.

That's just how I am.

Or I'm just someone that procrastinates.

Like, that's just my personality.

Or I'm just.

I'm always late.

That's just how I am.

I just can't change because I'm always late.

And so we take that on as our personality, but really it's a nervous system response.

And the goal is not to, like, fight against these things.

We can't change our.

Well, we can't change our.

Our biological tendencies.

I'm not going to go into that.

On this podcast, we have the body that we are given is the body that we have to react with.

And so the goal is not to, like, fight against it, it is to work with it.

Like, how can we be aware?

How can we give our body what it needs?

How can we work with our nervous system to achieve the goals that we want and have the relationships that we want and, you know, experience all the things that we want in life?

And so I want you to think for just a moment of a stressful situation that you had from last week.

I want you to just.

It can be work, it can be personal, whatever it is.

I just want you to think of a stressful moment from last week.

Okay?

If you've got that in your head, I want you to think of which mode you slipped into.

Did you go into fight mode where.

Where you were angry and you wanted to micromanage, you wanted to control it?

Did you go into flight mode where you were just like, I'm just gonna pick up my phone and avoid this.

I'm just gonna procrastinate.

I'm gonna.

I'm just gonna rush through something.

I'm very restless.

Did you freeze?

Were you just numb, stuck?

You just shut down?

You just don't even want to talk about it, want to think about it?

Or did you fawn where you were like, I'm just gonna overextend myself and make everybody happy.

I'm gonna.

People please my way through this.

And the cool thing is, is that when you become.

The minute that you become aware of the fact that it is a nervous system response and it is not something that is quote, unquote, wrong with you all.

I mean, I'm not joking you.

There will be such a layer of, okay, that makes so much More sense.

Okay, that makes me feel so much better.

I'm not joking.

The moment that I realize that a lot of my things and responses that I thought were personality traits, I thought something was wrong with me goes back to the text message.

I was like, there's something wrong with me.

Like, why am I reacting this way to a text message?

But I realized it was because my nervous system was dysregulated and it was a nervous system response.

And that gave me so much power.

Like, it made me feel so empowered because I was like, okay, there's nothing wrong with me.

I just need to regulate my nervous system.

And just as an aside, I do feel like I'm in a season of life where my nervous system is very regulated.

And it's very nice to feel that way.

But it is easier to maintain a regulated nervous system than it is to regulate your nervous system.

So I want you to give yourself some credit and some grace.

If you are in a state where you were just like, my nervous system is shot.

Like, I can't even begin to describe to you how dysregulated my nervous system is.

Give yourself some grace.

It's going to take some time.

It's going to be a lot harder to get to the state of regulation than it is going to be to maintain it.

And I'll say this as well, as someone who I do feel like I keep my nervous system pretty regulated.

It is very easy to get to a point where you feel regulated and go, oh, I don't need to do all that stuff anymore.

Like, there will be times where I'm like, you know what?

I don't need to walk.

I don't need to journal.

I don't need to give myself white space.

There was a.

I experienced this a couple weeks ago where, you know, my husband and I started going to the gym.

So I just walked for years, you know, I think two years at this point, walked every day.

And I told my husband, I was like, I really want to get back in the gym.

Like, I want to lift weights.

I'm trying to look good this summer.

It's hot, girl, summer.

Trying to look good.

And so we went to the gym.

And in my mind, I was like, oh, well, going to the gym.

I don't need to go walk anymore.

Like, this.

I'm going to get.

I was just getting, you know, nervous system regulation from working out.

And so this will give me the same.

The same results.

And I was good for about two weeks, and then it was like my mind just went crazy and I Had scattered thoughts and I was stressed and I was depressed.

I was like, what is going on?

And I realized that going to the gym and lifting weights was not regulating for my nervous system.

Yes, it's great for my body.

It makes me feel good.

You know, the endorphins are pumping all the things.

But for me, I need a walk with no headphones, at least 30 minutes.

I need that every day.

Like, that is like my prescription to myself.

I don't take antidepressants or anything like that.

Nothing wrong with it.

I just, that's not the direction that I want to go.

But that is my prescription.

Like, if I don't do a 30 minute walk every day, at least 30 minutes with no headphones and no nothing, my body is like, my mind is just so tight, intense, and there's racing thoughts and I can't even, I can't, I can like barely swim my way out of it.

So just as an aside on that, maintain your regulation.

Don't get to a point where you go, oh, I don't need to do that anymore.

I don't need to walk anymore.

I don't need a journal anymore.

Like, I got this, I got center control.

It is easier to maintain regulation than it is to get to a regulated point.

But you still have to, you still have to keep doing the things that are beneficial to you and got you there.

Okay, now you may be thinking, how does this apply to business?

How does this apply to work?

Like, what are the real benefits?

Why are you talking about this on a podcast like this?

And the thing is, a regulated nervous system is truly one of the best work and business decisions that you can.

It's the best investment you can ever make.

I promise you it is.

Because if your nervous system is dysregulated, it is going to create a host of symptoms that are going to impact how you show up in your business or how you show up at your job every single day.

It's going to impact your critical thinking skills.

So you are not going to problem solve as efficiently as you can.

When your nervous system is regulated, you're not gonna be as creative.

So you know when you're, you know, when you're on, I know you can probably think of a moment, maybe even sitting in a meeting, and it's like everything that comes in, you're just, I, you're like, have so many ideas and you're just like raising your hand or maybe you're just shouting it out and you've got all these great ideas.

Your nervous system was probably Regulated, you were in flow, you were able to like sit down and be present in the moment and really listen.

And then the big one, the big symptom that is going to impact if your nervous system is dysregulated.

This is important now, but over the next couple years this is going become wildly important is your connection.

You cannot connect with someone else if you're not connected with yourself.

You can't connect with someone else if you can't sit down and feel present in the moment.

And connection is going to become so important as technology increases, as AI gets smarter.

And as you know, all these things change very quickly because they're going to change very quickly.

Human connection is going to become more important than ever.

Being able to sit down and look another human being in the eye and have a one on one conversation with them, or even sit on a zoom call and literally just look at them, listen to what they have to say and connect with them.

That is going to become the new like luxury like item.

Like the big thing that everybody wants is going to be that because knowledge is going to be a commodity, Fluff content is going to be a commodity.

You know, all these things that we have built businesses on the last couple of years, a lot of them are going to become commodities because we're going to have that in our pocket, we're going to have a VA in our pocket, we're going to have, you know, strategist in our pocket.

We're going to have all these things in our pocket with AI.

And so at least for me I'm like, okay, well I don't want to be scared about that.

So how can I look at it?

And going forward, trust and connection is going to be massive.

Having a personal brand and this doesn't mean you're posting on social media or whatever it is.

Personal brand is just going to replace reputation.

But it is going to be so important because people are going to crave that human connection.

I can't tell you how many times when I like get up and speak to a group that people are just like, it's like they're like craving somebody talking to them, like being in the room with other people.

People are just craving this human connection that's going to get more and more and more and more important and you are not going to be able to show up and connect with people in the way that you want if your nervous system is not regulated.

If you can't sit down and be present in the moment and not have racing thoughts and be able to truly listen to someone else and what they have to say and not sit there and listen to them and get ready for the next thing that you're going to say.

Truly, listen.

Just shut your mouth and listen to what they're saying.

Like, you're going to be so far behind.

And so having a regulated nervous system is going to impact your business in a multitude of ways, your job in a multitude of ways, your relationships in a multitude of ways.

It's just going to impact so many things and the goal of all of this.

And when I talk about nervous system regulation, I think some high achievers kind of like turn their nose up and they go, oh, that's not for me.

Like, I.

I don't want to stop goal setting.

I don't want to stop setting the bar higher.

I don't want to stop, you know, chasing whatever it is.

I get it.

I'm the same way.

I don't plan on setting my goals down anytime soon.

I want a heavier load.

I want more pressure.

I think pressure is privilege 100%.

But the goal is not to set the load down and set the goals down.

The goal is to make the load easier to carry.

So how can you make it a game?

How can you make it fun?

For me, I want to achieve so many things in this world.

Like, I have my sight set on so much, but I want it to be fun.

I want to enjoy it when I'm hit with a problem.

I want to enjoy solving the problem when someone comes to me and maybe they're dysregulated.

I want to be able to sit there and not judge and not attack them and like, let them process their own emotions.

Like, same.

In my coaching program, sometimes people can get very.

A lot of it's around fear.

You know, people get scared to admit that they're scared.

And it's such a freeing experience to be.

I don't like to say a safe spot because.

But to be able to sit there and listen to someone else and not react to what they're saying, even if you wildly disagree with it, and to hold space for someone else to process their emotions while they're talking to you is.

It's.

There's just.

There's nothing like it.

And that is always.

My goal is to, like, constantly improve, constantly get better, constantly get to the next level.

I like, I want that for my life and I want that for the people around me, too.

I want the people around me to constantly get a better version of me.

I have no plans to slow down at all, whatsoever.

In fact, I Am like, working every single day to crank it up even more.

But I want to do it with joy.

Like, I want to enjoy all of this.

I want to have fun.

I want to collaborate with people who are enjoying it as well.

I mean, business can be so hard.

It can be so.

It can make you feel so bad about yourself because you can just work and work and work and work and work and work and work and work and see no progress.

And for me, having a regulated nervous system, it not only makes the work more fun, but it allows me to get to that next level so much easier because I'm not just banging my head against the wall.

I am coming up with better ideas.

I am problem solving better.

I'm getting out of that red ocean where there's all the competition, everybody's fighting and slashing to a blue ocean, where I'm literally a market of one.

Like, I constantly want to level up, and I want to do it in the most fun and joyful way possible.

And I have found that having a regulated nervous system does just that.

Now, you might be thinking, okay, Blakely, okay, that's cool.

But I don't have time for all this nervous system regulation crap.

Like, I don't have time for all that.

You do.

I promise.

I'm the busiest people that I know.

There's someone in my mind right now, and she is so busy in the best way.

She's got three kids.

She is wildly successful.

I would say she.

She probably.

She probably has six figure months, if not every single month.

She runs a huge team.

She shows up on social media every day, and she has the most regulated nervous system I've ever seen of anyone.

She takes breaks all throughout the day and goes for a walk.

She journals every day.

She gives herself white space.

She almost regulates her nervous system more than anyone that I know, and that's the way that she can get everything done.

And I do feel like I'm stepping into that space, too, where I'm sleeping more than ever.

I am walking more than ever.

I'm sitting in silence more than ever.

I'm consuming less than ever.

I am just in this place where it feels like I'm doing nothing, because the something that I've been doing my whole life was, like, consuming and trying and pushing and working longer hours and do more and more and more and more and more.

And I thought that was going to get me to the level of success that I wanted.

But now I'm realizing that doing less and being regulated when I do show up and when I am Working.

I am in the zone a thousand percent.

There is no, like, oh, I'm, you know, I'm in my head about it, or I'm overthinking.

Like, I'm just execute, execute, execute.

And then I know how to shut it down, hot girl, shut down.

And I can go home and be super present with my husband and super present with my family and super present with my friends, and I can have hobbies and enjoy life again.

And I just always had this feeling that to get to the level, the level that I wanted to, I was going to have to sacrifice all of this stuff.

And now I'm realizing that the more that I lean into nervous system regulation, the more that I can achieve.

And so nervous system regulation can look like long walks.

I love a long, quiet walk.

It can look like deep, high quality sleep.

It look like a white space and quiet journaling.

But I don't want you to copy what I do.

I want you to either journal and brainstorm your own nervous system regulation strategy or systems or whatever it is, little hacks, little ticks, tips, tricks.

I want you to hire a coach or I want you to go to ChatGPT and listen on this one.

I don't want you to say, hey, ChatGPT, how can I regulate my nervous system?

I want you to say, hey, chatgpt, ask me a few questions to help me find a nervous system regulation routine that is suited specifically for me.

That way you're not getting this random, because there's thousands of ways you can regulate your nervous system, but this way you're not getting something that is suited for someone else.

You were getting someone something that is suited for your season of life, your schedule, your things that you enjoy.

There are so many different ways to regulate your nervous system.

And so if you do go to ChatGPT, I want you to ask at that prompt, say, ask me a few questions to help me find a nervous system regulation routine that is suited specifically for me.

And I promise that the answer that you get, you're gonna be like, oh, this is so good.

So much better than I thought.

And then there's a couple questions that I want you to ask yourself when it comes to testing if your nervous system is dysregulated.

And sometimes I ask myself these questions just randomly in the middle of the day.

Like, I'll be like, I need a little check in.

I don't know what's happening right now.

I'll say, does my body feel safe being seen?

Do I feel safe showing up in email?

Do I feel Safe picking up the phone and calling someone.

If I don't.

Why, like, what is the root cause?

It's not that I'm not capable or that I'm scared of the other person.

There's usually, like, a root problem.

Most of the time, I just need to go for a walk.

Like, usually if I am to the point where I'm like, I just, like, want to shut the door, shut the blinds, close everything.

I just don't want to be seen.

My nervous system is dysregulated.

Does your body feel safe resting if you can't lay down and take a nap?

If you are, you know, getting in bed at night, you're exhausted all day long, and then the minute you get in bed, your body is like, your mind is wired up and you just can't sleep at all.

Ask yourself, like, does my body feel safe resting?

If it doesn't, why do you need to set up better systems?

Like, this is where you need to be honest with yourself.

Because it might be your lack of, you know, discipline or lack of systems.

You might need a better shutdown routine.

You might need a better morning routine.

You might need, you know, a better home system where, okay, like, we, like, me and Will have figured out if the house is a mess.

Blakely is dysregulated.

I don't know which comes first.

I don't know which one's a chicken, which one's the egg.

But our house has to stay clean.

We cannot have clutter.

Because I, like, go into, like, a frantic pace.

Like, this past weekend, our house was.

Our house never gets super messy because we don't have kids.

But it does get.

Both of us will just throw stuff because we're so busy during the week.

We'll just set something on the counter.

We'll set something, you know, on the coffee table, and then it just piles up, and before I know it, I'm just so anxious walking around the house, like, what is wrong?

And then we'll clean.

I'm like, oh, that's what it was.

And so figure out what.

Like, why does your body not feel safe resting?

What is it that you need to adjust or delete or adapt or work on?

And then the last one, and this one is going to sound crazy to some people, but this is the question that really rocked my world when I started asking myself this.

Does my body feel safe succeeding?

And if you really ask yourself that, and the answer is no, figure out why.

For me, personally, my body did not feel safe succeeding.

I was stuck at a certain income level I was stuck at a certain level with my content and just with life in general.

And I was like, what is wrong?

Like, why can't I get to this next level?

I'm working so hard, I'm putting in all the hours, like, why can't I change anything?

It's like I get one step ahead, I'm pushed three steps back.

And what I figured out was my body did not feel safe succeeding.

So my body correlated more success with more stress.

It correlated, okay, if she's this stressed out right now and she gets to the next level, she's just going to be ten times more stressed out.

So I subconsciously self sabotaged so many opportunities and so many things that came my way and jobs and chances for me to not just make money, but like, step into the new version of myself because my body correlated success with stress.

And so ask yourself those questions and everybody's going to have different answers.

Your answers are not going to be the same as mine.

But ask yourself those questions, like, do I feel safe?

Does my body feel safe?

And if it doesn't, why?

And like, what can I do to fix it?

And when you think about this, I want you to think of like, the old way of success is like hustle and more hours and gotta prove my worth and I just gotta be on all the time.

And the new way is that regulation is power.

When you are regulated and you are calm, you will feel a thousand times more in control.

Other people, like, will literally have people just come at me.

I had a client send me an email yesterday.

He ended up apologizing.

He did not scroll down to the bottom and read the whole thing, but he sent me this email and he ripped into me.

He literally said it was something along these lines.

He was like, your lack of professionalism is mind boggling to me.

I have been so disappointed in this whole, during this whole transaction.

You are, are, you have not done anything you said you were going to do, blah, blah, blah, blah.

I mean, he went in, it was like two paragraphs of him just going in about how awful I was.

And then seven minutes later, like, I saw it and I, I just didn't, I had no reaction.

I was like, my thought was, oh, he needs to regulate his nervous system.

And then seven, seven minutes to the dot, he emailed me back and he said, y' all are gonna, you're gonna laugh so hard.

He said, please disregard my previous email apologies.

I had my wires crossed when I tell you that I laughed so hard, but I could have reacted to that first email And I could have been like, oh, no, you could.

Blah, blah, blah, blah.

But I didn't, because I have power, because I'm regulated.

I don't have to let other people's reactions, other people's opinions, what everyone else has to say, everyone else's moods affect me.

I don't.

I refuse to carry other people's emotions at this point in my life.

I.

I'm too regulated for that.

Okay, but regulating your nervous system will impact every way of your life.

I promise you.

You will get more done.

You will make more money.

You will work less hours.

Everything will become easier.

The stuff that was so hard will become so, so easy, because regulated people, they move smarter, not harder.

You don't need more motivation.

You probably need more safety.

And when you do, everything changes.

Oh, that's so good.

I'm so excited to give this speech.

Okay, that's it.

The rest of it is, like, interactive questions.

That would be so cool to do, like, a live podcast and have audience members come up and do a Q and A on stage.

How fun would that be?

See, this is what happens when your nervous system is regulated.

You come up with really good ideas.

Okay.

I hope you enjoyed that.

Let me know if you did send me a dm.

Contact me.

I'm literally everywhere on social media.

Or if you want me to come speak to your group, I would be happy to do that as well.

I've been really enjoying.

Like I said, connection is a new currency, and I've been enjoying these in person groups so much.

I give the same speech, but every single time I give it, obviously, I adjust it a little bit beforehand, but I also like to read the room.

And if I walk in a room and they are super dysregulated, we gonna get up, we gonna shake it out.

We're gonna take a couple deep breaths.

We're gonna get regulated.

Like, every group is different.

And it's so fun because I consider that one of my superpowers is to be able to read the energy in the room.

And sometimes I have to be very mellow and very calm.

And then sometimes I can show my personality.

And it's just so nice, I think, because I'm behind the screen so much.

It's been so nice to be able to do these in person, and I really enjoyed it.

Okay.

I hope you got some value out of this episode.

I hope you have an amazing rest of your day, and I will see you in the next episode.

That's it for this edition of the Elevated Edit.

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