Hello, and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host Aurora, and I'm very, very happy to be spending some

time with you today. As you noticed, I haven't been posting

an episode. In the past couple of days, I will post episodes

now, Wednesdays, Fridays, and Sundays, the workload is just

Yeah, increasing. And I want to organize myself so that I can

deliver exceptionally good content for you, and at the same

time, be sustainable with my energy levels. Also, maybe you

didn't know this fact, to boost a podcast writing a review is

the strongest currency you can use. So I invite you to take a

moment after you listen to this episode today. And leave me a

review or a comment on Apple podcast. It would mean the world

to me to read what you think would you feel and yeah, it will

help this podcast out immensely. Alright, let's dive into today's

episode. It is going to be about jealousy and online dating.

Those two topics have been requested by two people, two

dear listeners. And I felt like putting it together in one

episode, because it just goes together very well. And I feel

feel you will benefit from it immensely when it comes to

dating and your self worth. Let's start out with jealousy.

Jealousy is a nasty little bugger of feeling that makes

comic figures turn green, and yellow and all kinds of colors.

It is a feeling that can really eat you up from the inside. And

to be honest, social media, where we spent most of our times

when we're not working or socializing or

pursuing hobbies, is really something that can ignite that

ugly feeling inside of you

with today's episode,

and I posted an episode about jealousy already, but with this

one, especially, I want to help you to feel better about

yourself and to feel less jealous when it comes to other

people. Maybe you're pretty good at it already. And you don't get

too distracted, to sucked in to the negative feelings that

social media can bring out. But maybe you're still struggling

with that. So this episode is perfect for you. Also, when it

comes to online dating, I will share some tips and tricks with

you on how to not scare off a girl that you're interested in

on how to not be a creep.

Alright, jealousy. Next time you feel jealous, I want you to look

at yourself, and to really be honest with yourself. So you

might be jealous at somebody who looks perfect on social media.

The thing about looks is that first of all, we can all use

filters nowadays. And second of all, people who put a lot of

time and effort into their physical appearance

are hard working, dedicated people. It is really, really

tough to see how. Yeah, some people just think oh, yeah,

well, she was born beautiful. He was born with big muscles. And

that's it. No, I think that if you change the story about it

and know that these people put a lot of energy and effort into

that. And that you can do exactly the same with your own

personal results. It changed the whole dynamic of jealousy a

little bit. So instead of feeling jealous, and upset and

irritated, feel inspired. And when it comes to physical

appearance, you know like the long shiny hair, the curse the

big muscles. That's just a little part of what makes you

jealous.

The radiant energy that

A contentment, the acceptance that those people live in, is

what I believe we are jealous of, because this is so hard to

achieve. And this is so much of what we crave feeling and of

what we want to be close to.

So if we know that, about jealousy when it comes to

physical appearance, again, that's just a small part of

being jealous about somebody. But then know that these people,

first of all, put lots of effort and work into it. And know that

you can feel the same way these people feel once you start

investing in yourself. And that doesn't mean putting on tons of

makeup and running to the gym. That means yes, exercising and

taking good care of your body. But then finding something a

hobby, that gives you joy, and that makes you feel so good

about yourself.

Give me a second here, maybe you think oh my god, Aurora that I

don't get what, what it has to do with people making me jealous

on Facebook. Bear with me. Once you have found what truly gives

you joy, you will be happy to share it. Maybe you are a person

who loves to ski Do you love your machine, you love to work

on cars and ski doos and you reach like beautiful parts of

the world with your engine, and can take beautiful videos, then

share this about your life share what excites you, what makes you

feel good, and what you're good at. And once you do that, you

will see that you will be like a magnet, you will attract people

into your life that have the same interests, or that you made

really curious about yourself.

And what does this has to do with online dating? Well, I

believe everything. Because you know, when we meet somebody is

usually like old fashioned in person. And you not only listen

to their words, you watch their body language, you maybe

see how they interact with other people, you can read all these

little messages in between the lines, the nonverbal cues.

And when it comes to online dating, it is so tough because

first of all, there's over 2 billion people out there on

social media. And second of all, we are being deprived of those

little social cues. So the best thing you can do now is we go

back to the jealousy part, as you find out what is it that

you're excited about? What is it where you're completely an adult

joyous, radiant mode, and then share this with the world. You

will not only reduce your jealousy when it comes to other

creators out there, but you will be able to shine brightly and to

attract the people into your life that want to connect with

you. Yeah, you will not be running around after the

beautiful girl that you saw a couple of pictures of and trying

to connect with her. No, they will come to you. And you can

still reach out to people and message them. And you will feel

that it will come from a way more confident place because you

know a little more of who you are and what you have to offer.

And for the other person it is exactly the same. You know when

it comes to dating women,

the most important thing is that you feel confident and good

about yourself and that you make her feel safe. Trust me there's

so many creeps out there so many weird people. And when you

manage to approach a woman with confidence and not scaring her

off, then you are one out of a million.

Who can Yeah, make it one step closer to her.

One thing you have to know and I want to share that with guys,

and you don't have to.

Yeah, you can keep it a secret and just keep it in the back of

your

Mind is that when a woman crosses an empty parking lot at

night, all by herself, she feels fear. And that fear is

accompanying us, or you say, accompanying us.

Do you friend of us through our entire life? Of course, if

you're going to ask 10 girls now, there's going to be the odd

one who says, No, I'm never scared. But nine out of 10 girls

are going to say, Yeah, I feel uncomfortable. And if you bring

that feeling up in a girl when meeting her, then you lose. If

you manage to make her feel girl safe, you are an absolute

winner, without making her feel weak, of course, but making her

feel as if she is worth being protected. Right? That is the

feeling we want to feel as a woman. And again, there might be

the odd feminist out there that I'm upsetting with this.

Awesome, I love upsetting feminists. But all women want to

feel safe and cared for. So how do you go about it? When it

comes to online dating? Well, first of all, have a beautiful

profile picture of yourself, where people can see who you

are. And again, if you don't feel confident with how you look

like, then you should work on that first. Then next,

see what kind of hobbies She's pursuing. And comment on that.

You know, girls want to receive compliments when it comes to

their physique. But if that's the first thing that jumps to

your mind, when you look at her profile pictures,

I have to stop here, because it is probably hard because most

women post physical stuff out there. But if there's just a

little bit that is more like a hobby, or animals or whatever,

then jump on that instead of commenting her physique already,

because this is what nine out of 10 guys are gonna do. And for a

woman, it's Yeah, weird, because when one side she wants to hear

it on the other side, she might want to, yeah, talk about

something else. And her beauty is just something that is there

but don't needs to be commented right away. So when it comes to

online dating, once again, put something out there that people

can see you and know what you're all about. That makes it easier

for people to connect with you. And second of all, when you

approach someone make it about their content, and what they put

out there, the effort they put in to that instead of getting to

physical and maybe even sexual, that's something that is a huge

turnoff, and will get you into the general inbox instead of the

primary inbox. So I hope these little insights help you when it

comes to dating, please always reach out to me on Facebook or

Instagram. Ask questions sent requests for episodes. I love

doing that so much. And when it comes to jealousy, see it as

inspiration to work on yourself and to do everything possible.

That makes you feel good. Of course, it's not going to be

watching porn, binge eating cookies and popcorn or running

after people who Yeah, you think are worth running after it is

about focusing on yourself and seeing what you can bring out in

yourself that brings you joy. And that in return will make you

turn into a magnet magnet that will attract wonderful people

that want to support you and want to be around you. Alright,

don't forget, sent me a little review on Apple podcast, and I

will be out there on Friday again, episodes will be

published Wednesdays, Fridays and Sundays. Thank you endlessly

for your support. I love spending time with you. And

yeah, take really good care of yourself. Bye bye