Okay, so I have to ask this is just totally random. It's got nothing to do with
Stephanie Maas:anything. So on your chair, is that a blanket?
Steven Kotler:It is a blanket.
Stephanie Maas:Is it to protect the chair?
Steven Kotler:It's literally to protect the chair, mainly because my dog. Well, the dog who's
Steven Kotler:in the office with me is 120 pounds. He's very big. His claws are significant. And he will at
Steven Kotler:least once a day come over, like try to pull me and he destroyed the previous desk chair. So I've
Steven Kotler:learned.
Stephanie Maas:Okay, well, so you want to actually dive into some things?
Steven Kotler:I'll go wherever you guys want to go.
Stephanie Maas:Rockin. Okay, one of the things I think's worth noting is in your group of advisors,
Stephanie Maas:you have 14 advisors on your website, 11 of the 14 are doctors. And a lot of what you focus on is not
Stephanie Maas:just these concepts, and the research that you've done to prove them, put them into action hone
Stephanie Maas:them, whatever is they are backed by this idea of science, medicine.
Steven Kotler:Okay. So at the heart of most of my career, as a first journalist than as an author of
Steven Kotler:writing books about these topics. Then, as a neuroscientist leading international team of
Steven Kotler:researchers into these topics, the progression has been focused on peak human performance. And by
Steven Kotler:peak human performance, I only mean getting our biology to work for us rather than against us.
Steven Kotler:That's all the definition of peak performance is it's getting our biology to work for us rather
Steven Kotler:than against us. And at the heart of that biology at the heart of my work is a state of
Steven Kotler:consciousness, known to researchers as low, you may call it runner's high or being in the zone or
Steven Kotler:you play basketball as being unconscious, you're a jazz musician, you're in the pocket, the lingo is
Steven Kotler:endless. Flow is technically defined as an optimal state of consciousness, a state of consciousness
Steven Kotler:where we feel our best and we perform our best, more specifically refers to any of those moments
Steven Kotler:that we're all familiar with rapt attention, total absorption just gets so focused on the task at
Steven Kotler:hand, so focused on what you're doing that everything else just starts to melt away and
Steven Kotler:disappear. Sense itself self consciousness, the inner critic voice in your head that's always on,
Steven Kotler:it's always telling you, you're too fat, too dumb, too ugly, right? It shuts up. Finally, thank God,
Steven Kotler:time passes strangely, most commonly, just get so sucked into what you're doing that five hours go
Steven Kotler:by, and like five minutes. Occasionally, sometimes it's slow, it'll slow down, you're gonna freeze
Steven Kotler:for impact. And throughout all aspects of performance, both mental and physical, go to the
Steven Kotler:roof. So at the flow research collective, what we do is we study, I'll tell you about why this is
Steven Kotler:the answer to like the science questions, the neurobiology of peak human performance, what's
Steven Kotler:going on in the brain and the body when people are performing at their very best, and flow is a big
Steven Kotler:part of that equation. So the reason, there's so many sort of neuroscientists on my board and that
Steven Kotler:sort of stuff, and the reason we do all this work is this psychology of flow, which was very well
Steven Kotler:established over the course of the 20th century, but the end of the 20th century, they were
Steven Kotler:starting to train people using the psychology. And the problem with training from psychology is
Steven Kotler:psychology is very, very individual. Right? It's shaped by nurtured, shaped by nature, and really
Steven Kotler:fundamental things to peak performance. Like, where are you on the introversion extroversion
Steven Kotler:scale, meaning like, if you're super introverted, I can't teach you anything if there are other
Steven Kotler:people around because you're handicapped, right? Those kinds of things, where what are your risk
Steven Kotler:tolerance is like, and what are they like in different situations, right? People have one level
Steven Kotler:of physical risk tolerance and other level of emotional risk tolerance or sexual or
Steven Kotler:intellectual, take your pick, right? Those are very individual psychology is very individual. But
Steven Kotler:if you go one level down, you go to the neurobiology, neurobiology is shaped by evolution
Steven Kotler:and its constant volume. And so if you're looking to make things reliable, and repeatable
Steven Kotler:neurobiology is your tool. I got very lucky in my career, I started as a journalist, and I was
Steven Kotler:interested in interesting performance. I was also interested in neuroscience, it was a language I
Steven Kotler:sort of spoke, and I probably the psychology I always felt like when I was trying to just improve
Steven Kotler:myself as a writer, as an athlete, as a whatever, I was getting so confused, and they're decent
Steven Kotler:things. nitpicking arguments over crazy little details. And I'm like, none of this is practical.
Steven Kotler:I don't know what to do with this. And when I got into the neurobiology and figured out you could
Steven Kotler:train from it, it really worked. And we, you know, at the flow research collective, teamed up with
Steven Kotler:folks at Stanford and USC, and UCLA and et cetera, et cetera, and study that neurobiology that stuff
Steven Kotler:and then we use it to train people in 103. Ready countries, which are intensive 1000s of people
Steven Kotler:every month. And this is everything from like just individuals, right? Soccer moms and soccer, dads
Steven Kotler:and insurance brokers and you know, podcasters, and take your pick all the way to professional
Steven Kotler:athletes, members, Special Forces, and then companies or with like Facebook or center
Steven Kotler:audience, blah, blah. The point I'm trying to make is wildly diverse group of people. It's an intense
Steven Kotler:training, you go through with it like a PhD psychologist, as a coach, we see us a 70 80%
Steven Kotler:increase in flow on the back end. And the reason I'm telling you all this stuff is the reason you
Steven Kotler:see so many doctors The reason the neurobiology matters so much as we want this liable and
Steven Kotler:repeating over anyone, anywhere. That's the benefit of all the science. And we're also really
Steven Kotler:big fans of the collective of what I like to call cognitive literacy. If you are interested in V
Steven Kotler:performance, understand what's going on in your brain in your body, when you're actually
Steven Kotler:performing at your best. You're just I'm just arming you with information, right? Like, it's
Steven Kotler:really important to us. And you can actually, it's also fun to teach people neuroscience, because
Steven Kotler:most people think neuroscience is an incredibly difficult thing that they're never going to be
Steven Kotler:able to learn and it's scary and all that stuff. And so it's very empowering to people not only
Steven Kotler:like when you start, you know, hey, this is how your brain works. And people start getting it
Steven Kotler:using neuroscience, this thing that they didn't think they could learn to actually massively
Steven Kotler:improve their performance on a day to day basis. It's a very sort of empowering to watch people go,
Steven Kotler:Oh, my God, I can learn something like this. And I can use it. And I can, you know, impact by day to
Steven Kotler:day life. It's cool. When I came into flow signs, my goal was to put it on a hard science footing.
Steven Kotler:This is what I wanted to do with my life. Because I came in as a journalist, I didn't specialize
Steven Kotler:when I first started looking at the puzzle. And people were having trouble solving. And I was
Steven Kotler:like, that's because the answers are in all these different disciplines. And scientists don't talk
Steven Kotler:to one another. They're like everybody else, they're balkanized in their disciplines, and
Steven Kotler:people don't actually realize how like even neuroscience how balkanized it is into like tiny
Steven Kotler:micro disciplines, and they don't talk to each other, they talk to journalists, who talk to
Steven Kotler:everybody, or, you know, now in our approach, we take a very multidisciplinary approach to
Steven Kotler:neuroscience for this very reason, because I want people from all these different disciplines, so
Steven Kotler:people who don't think like me, people who have wildly outside perspectives, who can, you know,
Steven Kotler:come hammer on my ideas, our ideas, and our research and all that stuff. So long answer.
Stephanie Maas:You commented on something in there, I think is super true. You mentioned the
Stephanie Maas:idea of this biology, neuroscience. You know, some people just have fears around it. I think a lot of
Stephanie Maas:it's intimidation, you know, it just seems so foreign. It's almost like it's so language. So
Stephanie Maas:specifically, when you talk about, hey, getting our biology to work for us, not against us, can
Stephanie Maas:you put some legs under that table for me.
Steven Kotler:Let me give you a bunch of really simple examples. So flow states have triggers,
Steven Kotler:preconditions that lead in more flow, you will more flow in your life triggers or your toolkit,
Steven Kotler:there are 26 known triggers, there are probably way more, that's just what we've discovered. So
Steven Kotler:far, they all have one thing calm, flow can only show up when all of our attention is in the right
Steven Kotler:here, the right now on the task at hand. That's what all the triggers do. They were a bunch of
Steven Kotler:different ways neurobiologically, but they drive our attention into the now on to the task at hand.
Steven Kotler:So this tells you that one of the first triggers the most obvious trigger is complete
Steven Kotler:concentration. So when we train this, some of how we teach people about concentration is manicuring.
Steven Kotler:The environment, part of our biology is that we have a salience detection system, when novelty
Steven Kotler:shows up in the world, we notice it, right, this kept us alive. The problem is, we have cell phones
Steven Kotler:that are literally designed to abuse this, right. They've been built, designed to resemble slot
Steven Kotler:machines and how they try to get your attention. They use novelty to try to get your attention. We
Steven Kotler:are not more powerful than this is hardwired biology, we're not going to win that fight. So we
Steven Kotler:teach people to practice distraction management, turn everything off ahead of time, right? Manicure
Steven Kotler:the space because you're not your biology is going to win, you're not going to win this war, you
Steven Kotler:literally are not going to win this war. How long should you completely concentrate on the task at
Steven Kotler:hand? There's another question, right? And there's an actual precise answer to this. You gotta start
Steven Kotler:by starting right. If you can get 10 minutes, 20 minutes, 30 minutes, it's fine. And let me
Steven Kotler:emphasize something here. When we talk about flow is peak performance. One of the things that goes
Steven Kotler:through the roof is productivity. And we know this so McKinsey giant business consultancy went around
Steven Kotler:the globe, they spent 10 years trying to figure out how much more productive executives are in
Steven Kotler:flow than out of flow, on average was 500% more productive. So this means you get to work on
Steven Kotler:Mondays, but Monday in a flow state to Tuesday through Friday off, you get as much done as your
Steven Kotler:steady state peers two days a week in flow old days, which is difficult, but you're 1,000% more
Steven Kotler:productive than the competition's huge boost in productivity, okay. So you will get time back for
Steven Kotler:your life by I've manicuring a space for complete concentration. I'm asking you for time, we're all
Steven Kotler:busy, right? Everybody is busy, you're gonna end up being so productive in this time that you'll
Steven Kotler:end up with getting time back. But research shows that you want 90 minutes to 110 minutes for
Steven Kotler:complete concentration. Why 90 To 110 minutes? Well, it turns out, as I said, you want to start
Steven Kotler:by starting, you get 10, if you can get 20. But the brain has a built in focusing slot, that's
Steven Kotler:nine out of 10 minutes long. Well, that's weird. No, it's not. Why because we know we go through
Steven Kotler:sleep cycles, sleeping cycles, they're 90 to 110 minutes long, that's a REM cycle, that's a full
Steven Kotler:sleep cycle, just like we have a sleep cycle, we have a focus wake alert cycle, it's the same line.
Steven Kotler:So it turns out that as you train yourself to kind of focus and Biller, it's very easy to build up to
Steven Kotler:this 19 or 20 minutes, you have to get longer, there's all kinds of stuff you have to kind of
Steven Kotler:sort of do to extend beyond that. But to learn how to focus that long, it sort of built in. So these
Steven Kotler:are just simple flow examples of getting our biology work for us, rather than against us.
Steven Kotler:Another one is you want to start your work session, your complete concentration session. And
Steven Kotler:of course, with your circadian rhythms. This is a no Duff for most people. But like, I wake up at
Steven Kotler:four o'clock in the morning, that's when my brain does its best work. I'm married to a night owl,
Steven Kotler:we're all a little bit different. And if you can, if your job permits it, you want to start your
Steven Kotler:work session in accordance with your circadian rhythms, practicing distraction management on the
Steven Kotler:front end, and with this 90 minute slot.
Stephanie Maas:Fantastic examples and super relevant, which brings me to another thought. And
Stephanie Maas:I think based on your tenure in this industry, it seems like please correct me if I'm wrong, it
Stephanie Maas:seems like in the beginning, there was so much of this studied around especially athletes, you know,
Stephanie Maas:really getting them to get to the next level. And then I would say over the last 30 years, maybe...
Steven Kotler:It was athletes, and it was artists, and the fault lies with both myself and
Steven Kotler:were probably the two great popularizers of flow ideas. And Mike checks me I started out as an
Steven Kotler:studying rock climbers in his initial study group, and he dancers and artists. And so that got into
Steven Kotler:the literature. And then I made it worse because I wrote it on about athletes and flow. And when we
Steven Kotler:heard about it the most, it was also, like Jimmie Johnson in the 90s co opted chicks and the idea to
Steven Kotler:bring the Dallas Cowboys a couple of Super Bowl victories and got a lot of attention. A couple
Steven Kotler:other things happen in sports. So like, it got the attention. But you're absolutely right. In fact,
Steven Kotler:if you go back to the early research on flow, early research, who gets the most flow? In the
Steven Kotler:early research, there were two things that showed up. One most common flow state on Earth is reading
Steven Kotler:period. So reading is the most conflict in earth. And let me give it let me take it a second one
Steven Kotler:because this is even crazier. Is it going to the bathroom? No. Flow examples, these will say, like
Steven Kotler:I meet people on you know about airports, they're like, oh, yeah, the executive director, the flow
Steven Kotler:research collective, we're obviously an organization of plumbers. So okay, bad joke is
Steven Kotler:side. Second most common flow said in this early research, I don't know if it's still true. So
Steven Kotler:there's two versions of the flow, there's individual flow me and a flow state you and a flow
Steven Kotler:state or this group flow, it's a shared collective virtual flow state could be interpersonal flow to
Steven Kotler:people lost in a great conversation, group flow to flow fourth quarter comeback in basketball, or
Steven Kotler:football, or a great rock concert band is totally comes together, or Communitas. This is flow, it
Steven Kotler:scales huge when you go to a rock concert, and everybody merges with the music near all clapping
Steven Kotler:and sank. And that's Communitas. Right? It's float scale. So the most common besides reading is
Steven Kotler:interpersonal flow to middle managers in an office environment, have a conversation at work, they get
Steven Kotler:so sucked into the conversation that a couple hours go by. So neither of those examples, as you
Steven Kotler:can imagine, involve artists or athletes. And it was so hard until we got a language around into
Steven Kotler:that all the neurobiology until all this stuff came up. You know, whose flow mystical experience
Steven Kotler:was. I mean, that was the first question. I looked at it my very first book on flow. I was talking to
Steven Kotler:surfers, and they kept saying yeah, every time I'm in a tube, I become one with the ocean. I just one
Steven Kotler:with the ocean, which like, that just sounds like a wild ass Misool experience. And today we can
Steven Kotler:talk about these things out loud. Go back to the 80s and 90s and try talking about like, among
Steven Kotler:serious people, right? You're just gonna get laughed out of the room. But Dr. Andrew Newberg,
Steven Kotler:my first mentor had just done the very first brain imaging to image Tibetan Buddhists and Franciscan
Steven Kotler:nuns during ecstatic meditation when they felt the nones would feel one with Jesus and the Buddhists
Steven Kotler:were one with the universe. And I called him because I saw his research I registration was
Steven Kotler:like, dude, am I what we're seeing with the surfers in this like state that I think we're
Steven Kotler:calling flow is that the same thing is going on? And he to his amazing credit, said, Well, I don't
Steven Kotler:know, but it sure sounds similar. So let's find out together. And that was my sort of gateway. It
Steven Kotler:wasn't just that I was curious about this and I was working on this stuff he was that one of the
Steven Kotler:best neuroscientists in the world said, I don't know. But that's a good question. And I'll help
Steven Kotler:you figure it out. And so that was sort of how all this started. But it was really in the beginning,
Steven Kotler:it was really complicated to try to be looking at mystical experiences, are we looking at biological
Steven Kotler:experiences, or the psychological of what's going on? Not all these were questions that were have
Steven Kotler:been answered over the past 30 years, but 30 years ago, when I got started, we didn't have a clue. As
Steven Kotler:to scientists, we spent the 90s. With a whole community of people, we had to prove that
Steven Kotler:spiritual experiences were good for people before anybody would take this seriously. So there's all
Steven Kotler:these studies that go back to the 90s that discovered religious affiliation produces health
Steven Kotler:and longevity. And you know, now we know why and where that comes from, and everything else. But
Steven Kotler:literally, like there's tons of studies where you had to in the 90s, you act before anybody size
Steven Kotler:would take it seriously had to prove that like spirituality, mysticism, immune flow was good for
Steven Kotler:people before you even take it seriously. So it's been a long, slow kind of process.
Stephanie Maas:But I think what is so great, though, yes, but your process to it, and the way
Stephanie Maas:you've done your research, legitimizes it. And I think that's where you get this buy in? I mean,
Stephanie Maas:one, I think human curiosity, people start looking for it.
Steven Kotler:It was also really important to me, you can't do peak performance without flow you
Steven Kotler:cannot like, so if you're at the top of your field, I don't care what your field is, if your
Steven Kotler:top 30%, for example, you're doing this stuff, like I've spent my career around the world with
Steven Kotler:the most exceptional, extraordinary people who've done the impossible, right? That was my focus as a
Steven Kotler:journalist, is those moments in time where impossible game possible? How did it happen? Flow
Steven Kotler:is always part of the equation. So I bet all these people who have done the extraordinary, none of
Steven Kotler:them, not any of them started out extraordinary. Scary. I like you and me. They're average people,
Steven Kotler:what they figured out is how their biology work. And they did it over and over and over and over
Steven Kotler:again. And across the boards across the boards. This is true with every everybody I've met. And I
Steven Kotler:say that I went out of my way, for three and a half decades to meet the most extraordinary people
Steven Kotler:on the planet. It was my job. And so I did it for a living for a really long time. Who are you? What
Steven Kotler:did you do? How did you do it? I started to realize I was like, Well, wait a minute, these
Steven Kotler:people are just like us. So I want I want flow, I want to bring it into the mainstream. I want
Steven Kotler:everybody to have access to this. Because a world where we're all performing at our best. The other
Steven Kotler:thing they said of this is when we're in flow state automatically expands empathy and
Steven Kotler:environmental awareness. We could talk about why that happens if you want, but so do I really care
Steven Kotler:if insurance broker number 99 are salesman or saleswoman number 237 is really better at their
Steven Kotler:job? Not a ton. But do I really think the world is better place if they're more empathetic and wise
Steven Kotler:and environmentally aware? Yes. So like, my trade is like, every wants flow, you can have it I want
Steven Kotler:a more apathetic, environmentally aware, wise world. And so to me, like my desire to break into
Steven Kotler:the mainstream is not about performance, it was more about but the mainstream also, I'm interested
Steven Kotler:in what people can do, right? Like, these are just ordinary people who did extraordinary things in
Steven Kotler:their life over and over and over, because they understood how flow work and how to get into this
Steven Kotler:state, and how to utilize the properties, some of the other components of peak performance. So I'm
Steven Kotler:always interested in that when I meet people, I'm always like, Okay, well, what's possible in your
Steven Kotler:life? What could you what might you be able to do? So flow makes us 500% more productive, it doubles
Steven Kotler:learning rates to soldiers in flow. This is studies done by the US Department of Defense,
Steven Kotler:learn to enter 40 to 500% faster than normal creativity, we did some of this work that it's not
Steven Kotler:Harvard University is Sydney, spikes 400 to 700%. Depending on how you're measuring that you've got
Steven Kotler:to stop and ask yourself, like, what kind of impossible challenges aren't you going after? What
Steven Kotler:would you go after, if you could be 500% more productive if you cut learning times and a half or
Steven Kotler:600%, more creative? And innovative? Those are huge numbers. I think that that's those are real
Steven Kotler:questions. So just scientifically accurate questions that we add. That's what the science,
Steven Kotler:performance is possible for all of us. So those are the questions that you have to sort of start
Steven Kotler:to ask yourself that I'm real to you or to me, it's really exciting and fun. And when I said when
Steven Kotler:I said I wanted to smuggle this stuff into the mainstream, I want empathy. I want environmental
Steven Kotler:awareness. I want wisdom, but I also want to see what everybody can do with this stuff. I mean,
Steven Kotler:really tired of meeting people who are dead before they're dead, really bugs me. I always tell people
Steven Kotler:like look, aging is sort of a fact of life old is a mindset and for biologic reasons that mindset
Steven Kotler:sets up in October. Want ease, and it has a massive impact on performance and our ability to
Steven Kotler:access flow on all this stuff. And so anything that I can do to explode those ideas and make us
Steven Kotler:make people understand how much more they're actually capable of, to me, that's good. That's
Steven Kotler:fun. I like that.
Stephanie Maas:Yeah. Do you mind I want to give you my dad's phone number, would you give him a
Stephanie Maas:call and talk to him about this age as a mindset, guess what he's getting for Christmas, your book?
Stephanie Maas:I just want to comment on one thing, and there's something I think that is so human to what you
Stephanie Maas:just said, because I heard in the beginning some of your journey of how and why and this and that,
Stephanie Maas:but it's such an incredibly lovely side to you. Yes, you do want to see what people are capable
Stephanie Maas:of. But I want to see more empathy and environmental awareness to me. And I think to a
Stephanie Maas:lot of us, that's your why then that's lovely.
Steven Kotler:Well, that's I animals have always been my wife, my wife and I run a dog sanctuary to
Steven Kotler:hospice care for dogs now for 20 years.
Stephanie Maas:But you obviously care about humans, too. Yeah. I'm pretty introverted. And I'm
Stephanie Maas:like, I did you make a living off trying to make people better?
Steven Kotler:No, and I do I do. I, I don't like people as much as people think. All right. I don't
Steven Kotler:I don't I like animals much more than I like people I'm really open about that. I find it very
Steven Kotler:difficult to convince people that like, ecosystems are more important than their needs, which is a
Steven Kotler:lot of the job. But if I can get you into flow, the states sort of start to do that automatically.
Steven Kotler:That's easier. This sales job or out environmental awareness is too hard. It's too big of a lift,
Steven Kotler:I've been tried for 40 years, you should end up shouting at the rain. So I've sticky This is the
Steven Kotler:backdoor.
Stephanie Maas:But that's great. By making people better. You get your end goal
Steven Kotler:By making people better, they become better, right? Like, you want peak
Steven Kotler:performance. That's cool. I want to see what you do with the peak performance. Because if I'm just
Steven Kotler:training you up in flows, you can like sell more widgets in your you know, widget sale light, like,
Steven Kotler:okay, really, I mean, like, I'm interested in like, not blow my frickin mind when I started
Steven Kotler:this. The other thing that's really important here, Stephanie. So when I started out my career,
Steven Kotler:I was interested in neuroscience, I was interested in peak performance, I started an action sports,
Steven Kotler:right. And I was living in these communities. And this was during the 90s, the 90s, and action
Steven Kotler:sports and surfing, skiing, rock climbing, snowboarding, all of it, it's talked about as like
Steven Kotler:the era of possible more impossible feats got accomplished stuff that never been done before. We
Steven Kotler:didn't think it was ever gonna be done than ever before. But I was in these communities. I was
Steven Kotler:seeing it firsthand, talking to them, flow was always in the mix of like how they did it, right.
Steven Kotler:But he was these people. So if you know anything at all about peak performance, or how do you raise
Steven Kotler:a good kid, right, forget the right what matters. Well, Mom matters, nature inviter good
Steven Kotler:environment, the right schools, the right blood, all that stuff matters. And yet everybody I knew
Steven Kotler:these acts were athletes like that in the communities I was in. They came from broken homes,
Steven Kotler:they had bad childhoods, they have very little money, it very little education, there's a lot of
Steven Kotler:risk taking these communities, there's much substance abuse. And normally you put those things
Steven Kotler:together in a community, people die young go to jail, they do not reinvent what's possible for the
Steven Kotler:human species. And that's what I was seeing a fraud an in person all the time. So when I say
Steven Kotler:that anybody can use flow to do the extraordinary. I'm not like talking about I'm talking about the
Steven Kotler:people who started so far. You know what I mean? before they ever you hear a lot about people
Steven Kotler:talking about how people started second base with third base, these people were starting so far
Steven Kotler:beyond what before hopefully, it was a miracle that they even got an app that and yet it was
Steven Kotler:these people who reinvented what was possible for our species. And that was what really caught me.
Steven Kotler:In fact, actually, what I've discovered over time is, you know, who has a really tough time with
Steven Kotler:peak performance. It's not people who are really, really poor people who don't have a lot of
Steven Kotler:education or people who you know, all that stuff. It's folks who had a really easy time in high
Steven Kotler:school. If you were really popular if you were naturally smart, or naturally athletic and
Steven Kotler:naturally, really pretty in high school was really easy for you. And you didn't actually have to
Steven Kotler:learn how to be ready. And like all how to regulate your emotions and do all that stuff.
Steven Kotler:Those are the people that are very hard to train in peak performance. Actually, it turns out that
Steven Kotler:the more you got your ass kicked earlier on, it's almost it works for you later in life a lot.
Stephanie Maas:Okay, now I'm gonna have to have you talk to my high school senior. We literally
Stephanie Maas:were just having the conversation yesterday. That Don't worry, high school sucks. It sucks for most
Stephanie Maas:people. It's okay. It gets better than this life gets better.
Steven Kotler:One other thing I wanted to tell you since you have a high school senior because
Steven Kotler:this is something nobody tells kids nobody tells anybody. It's so important. So flow states have
Steven Kotler:cycles. They're not a binary it's not in the zone out of zones, a four stage cycle and you got to
Steven Kotler:move all the way through all four stages to get back into flow. You can't live in a flow state
Steven Kotler:there's no permanent always on flow state because the cycle, the front end Have a flow state is
Steven Kotler:called struggle. It is a loading phase, you are learning you are loading and overloading the brain
Steven Kotler:with information. And here's a couple things that we don't tell our children that are really
Steven Kotler:important one, when you're in this struggle phase and this loading phase, frustration is literally
Steven Kotler:built into how it works. You will get frustrated by design, you're going to we have working memory
Steven Kotler:it holds about four cusps wants to struggle properly, you have to overload it, you're
Steven Kotler:literally going to be frustrated. And most people and most kids are taught that frustration is a
Steven Kotler:sign that you're doing something wrong. Stop. This is failure. This is an in peak performance
Steven Kotler:actually signing, moving in the right direction, you're exactly where you need to be, doesn't feel
Steven Kotler:any better. But literally, this is how it's supposed to feel. And we don't teach that to kids.
Steven Kotler:And so they get these bad feelings that they think that doing something wrong and being kids. They're
Steven Kotler:self conscious, they're like it starts right it does all that other stuff, right? So you end up
Steven Kotler:with this spiral off of this negative feeling. And that negative feeling is actually a positive
Steven Kotler:feeling. It's a sign that you're moving in the right direction, because it helps us reframe
Steven Kotler:frustration. And it turns out, the more we struggle, the more frustrated we are, the better
Steven Kotler:chance we actually have of solving the problem in the end and learning the thing we're trying to
Steven Kotler:learn the more frustrated, the better. I've what I like to tell people is like take it to the point
Steven Kotler:that your head's about to explode in them walk away and just know that that feeling of my head's
Steven Kotler:gonna explode. I feel like a failure and it's actually a sign that you're doing exactly what you
Steven Kotler:want to do.
Stephanie Maas:Okay, I know you really are trying too hard to fight this. You're pretty much a humanitarian
Steven Kotler:Shut up.
Stephanie Maas:Did you just tell me to shut up?
Steven Kotler:I said out loud.