Hello, welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your

host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time with

you today. I hope you're doing well out this spring, and

sunshine and warm weather where you live. Because where I live,

there is lots of snow and soda depressing. Alright, today I

want to talk about the energy, the vibration, the mood that you

send out into this world. Because this is what you're

gonna attract into your life. That may explain a little bit.

If you imagine being a radio station, and all the people

around you have their own frequency, they have their own

rhythm, their own views, they own perceptions, right, we

talked about it before, in season one. So the people who

will feel attracted to you are the people who can relate to the

stuff that you put into this world. And it's not only what

you speak, and where you spend your time and what you do with

your life, it's a little bit more subtle. It's how you relate

to your environment, how you communicate, how you express

yourself, how you solve problems, how you approach

obstacles, how you cheer When you are happy, and how you cry,

or are depressed or sad, when the going gets tough.

People will choose you if they can relate to you, if they feel

understood. And if they feel as if you can understand them,

they will not so much look out for you or want to be next to

you. If you keep challenging their beliefs, if you keep

challenging their way of living is very interesting. When you

start healing when you start shedding your old skin, people

will start to get attracted to you and old people or other

people. I meant people that were in your life will vanish and

move out of your close circle of friends. So it is very important

that you are aware of what you send out into this world in

order in order to understand how people react to you and how they

relate to you. And the only way to really find out about the

energy that you put out there is to sit with yourself and to

observe your thoughts and to feel your feelings. It is most

of the time, uncomfortable, especially if we've been running

away from our stuff. For the longest time. When you start

sitting down with yourself in silence, all that stuff that you

are trying to distract yourself from will come up your thoughts

and your feelings. And it is okay and perfectly natural to

feel very uncomfortable and to feel like wanting to escape. But

it is in that moment that we just have to stay and sit there

and see what happens. Because this is how you can dissolve

past pain. This is how can you can realize I'm still resentful

with that person. I still am upset because of that situation

in my past, or I'm still beating myself up for the mistake I've

made or I still believe life is unfair. And every two years

everything will be ripped apart again. And what is the point of

creating and building if change and destruction is part of life.

So when you observe these sites, when you observe yourself

thinking, oh my god, this is so useless, I'm wasting time. This

is your monkey mind. And your monkey mind, also called your

ego will always prevent you from going down deep, it will try to

distract you, it will try to come up with better ideas, it

will try to keep you in your comfort zone. And it is that

entity that will challenge you. As soon as you leave your

comfort zone, as soon as you want to be that new, better

person, it's going to try and hold you back in that state of

mind and that lifestyle, and that addiction, but you can free

yourself from it. As soon as you observe what is going on in your

head, you can change it, you can be aware of it. And every time

that thought, that feeling comes up, you can re evaluate the

situation, instead of reacting and jumping back into

distraction mode or reaction mode or fighting mode. I lost my

train of thought. But this is what I believe is the only way

to get better and to move on and to change and to start believing

in yourself again, is to sit with your stuff for a little bit

to observe it and then let it go. And then you will also be

aware of what you send out there. If you're always that

whiny, little bit. Who's sad about this circumstances? Well,

people cannot take that for long, they can help you and

support you. But you will see very quickly that their support

will get less and less. And they will try and find more and more

distance between you guys.

And that's a very tough reality to face. But this is just how

people react when they feel overwhelmed. It has nothing to

do with them not being supportive anymore. It has to do

with you overwhelming your surroundings. So seek out

professional help and deal with your stuff. And show people that

you can take care of yourself. Because you're responsible for

yourself. No one else, people can be your friend and they can

listen and they can support. But don't make them your employees,

because they will sense that and they will find a way to escape

from that role as fast as they can. So again, if you sit with

me here and meditation and stuff comes up, and stuff is too much

to handle, then reach out to a professional and get the help

that you need. But if it's not that uncomfortable, just a

little bit uncomfortable, I invite you to sit with it and

feel and reflect about it. And try to let God try to make

peace. ring that friend and apologize or talk to that

relative and forgive them instead of being harshly

sticking to your beliefs that might not be serving you.

Whenever you meditate. Whenever you spend time with you alone,

you will also very quickly feel Hey, am I doing well? Am I okay?

right now. And if not, grab into your tool pocket and grab out

that thing that makes you happy again, without it being Netflix

or food or substances, drugs, or any other kind of addictions? We

talked about that too in episode one. I think it was that we need

to know what makes us happy makes us genuinely feel good.

And when you sit in meditation and you realize oh shit, I'm not

feeling good. Then you just help yourself first. And then you can

always reach out to a friend and tell them hey, I'm dealing with

this and I'm trying to help myself but I'm reaching a point

where it's getting tough and, but give them something that

shows them that you are helping yourself first. They cannot be

your crutch. They're not professional counselors or

doctors. They're your friend and they appreciate you but you have

to Do the work. So maybe this is inviting for you to sit a little

more often with yourself and to meditate with me here. And maybe

I just reached the exact opposite. And you're like, No,

no, no, no, no, this is not what I want to deal with. Well, it's

your choice, and you will heal at your pace and not at my pace.

This is just an invitation. This is just a suggestion. This is

how I was able to help myself and I want to share it with the

world because I know there's enough people out there who can

relate to this. So thank you so much for sitting with me today.

Or maybe you went for a walk and reflecting about this. What is

the energy you put out there? Are you strongly opinionated and

have very judgmental, strong believes that you're trying to

kind of influence and convince people? Or are you a very lean

back person who just see what happens and goes with the flow

and is very open minded. There's a huge difference in that and

you will see that and how people react to you. Thank you so much

for listening to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

Aurora, and I'll be out there for you tomorrow again.