Welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm your host

Aurora. And I'm very happy to be spending some time with you

today.

Today I

want to talk about masculinity, power,

leadership,

reclaiming your masculinity. Is this episode only for

men?

Absolutely not. We all have both energies roaming inside of us.

And before I continue, I want to remind you to

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the episode. I feel we have a huge problem with masculinity. I

feel a lot of men out there struggle with what, what is

masculinity, really what do women want? What is our role in

society, and the same goes for women as well. But I want to

focus on the masculinity today. And the women who express their

feminine, a little more than the masculine, still have that

masculine part and side of themselves. And if they're not

okay, with masculinity in the x journal, they will also not

accept and embrace their internal masculinity. So what

are the little steps that we can take? In order to make peace?

Again, I think we have to look back in time First, we have to

look at patriarchy that was ruling the world for so long.

And that was shaping our society so strongly. And you will see

that, yeah, there were a couple men in power. And most

households, it was the guy who was earning the money. But what

about the guys who suffered from that as well? It was not only

women. Some of them enjoyed it thoroughly. But some women

suffered enormously under the patriarchy. But what about the

guys who suffered under it? It was crippling to their soul. It

was restrictive, it was violent, it was not good for most men.

And we have to see this, we can't put every man into that

box of patriarchy and assume that every man is longing for

that structure of society. Because it is not the case. I

invite us all, to ask more questions, to go more into depth

into what we really need, and what we really want. And at the

same time, we have to become more authentic, we have to

authentically, fearlessly express what we need and want.

And in order to do that, or surprise or surprise, we have to

know who we really are. Are you the son of your father and your

mother? Are you the boyfriend of such and such? Are you the

friend of such and such and such? Or are you your individual

self and you make your decisions based on what you feel is inside

of you and has to be expressed to the outside? And same goes

for you. If you are expressing your feminine on this planet?

Are you the daughter of your father or your mother? You such

and such? wife, mother, sister, who are you and what is it that

you want to express in this world because as soon as you

express who you truly are and show up authentic To be as who

you are, you will live such a fulfilled life, you will be able

to enrich and encourage, and inspire others. And you will

attract people that are meant to be on your journey in your life.

I feel we all struggle with the word, power, and leadership, we

all have a very twisted feeling. When it comes to power, and

leadership, we think it's a bad thing to claim power, it's a bad

thing to be powerful. Well, what will happen if you believe

that it is bad to express a longing for leadership and

entrepreneurship, in very subtle ways, this suppressed energy

will find a way to manipulate your way through life, to

manipulate your relationships, and to play tricks on you.

Right, yes, suppressing and energy that wants to be

expressed, that wants to be out there to support others and lead

others, yet you decide to suppress it. And what is going

to happen with that energy, it's going to turn into depression,

into bitterness, into manipulation, and lots of

suffering. Instead of waking up and living your truth, you

decide to stay in that closet, you decide to dim your light,

and to not share with people with what you identify with,

truly with who you are. In this world. When it comes to

masculinity, masculine energy is forward is penetrating is

sometimes maybe a little bit forceful, but it doesn't have to

be threatening. If we women learn to stand are a woman and

to be empowered, we will not be intimidated of that energy

anymore. And feel that need to castrate and to humiliate and to

blame and shame, we will take that energy and receive it. If

we feel this is the right person to do it with, we will receive

that energy and we will in turn, become this super magical power

of feminine energy who wants to nurture and who wants to create

and who wants to be dancing and singing? Yeah, we will be

receiving the masculine energy instead of trying to manipulate

and control it. Blaming and shaming and overly telling how

we want things to be and and need things to look like which

is controlling. We will appreciate and trust the

masculine again, trust that the masculine energy that we all

carry inside of ourselves is good. It wants to come out. It

wants to be expressed the right way. If you're struggling with

porn addiction, let's say as a guy, and you feel you want to go

out there and date women, but you only want sex, you don't

want any relationships. Chances are you doing it for the wrong

reasons. You watched porn for too long. And you want to get

that energy out. You want that experience you want to be inside

of a woman's body as fast as possible. And then you're going

to make mistakes. If you have the wrong intentions. to

approach women, you will pay the price. You have to have the raw,

very vulnerable, strong intention to connect with a

woman and to wanting to meet up with her and to get to know her

and to feel out her energy and then become intimate with her.

You don't want to scare her

off.

You don't want to violate her. You want to listen to your

instincts, but not to any sick like extension of your

addiction. So you have to be brutally honest with with

yourself with how you project yourself, and how you present

yourself. And the deep intention you have, when you want to unite

with a woman. All too often, we go out there and want a date and

have the wrong intentions. And this is where women become very

angry and upset and fearful and then end up rejecting you.

Because maybe you are not aware of this weird intention that you

actually have in meeting up with a woman, you have to become

brutally honest with yourself that you want a deep connection,

that you want to feel understood and supported, that you want to

feel uplifted sometimes.

And at the same time, you want to do exactly this, for the

other part, for the feminine, and the masculine part that you

want to unite with. And as a woman, you have to be brutally

honest, when you go out and date, what do you want? Are you

still thinking that you can trick a guy into a relationship

with sex? Are you still thinking that it is not a good thing to

be upfront with a guy and telling him what you are

available for and what not, we have to learn to empower

ourselves again, we have to learn to be confident again,

with what we want, and what we need. We cannot shy away from

this because it is bringing too much drama into this world. That

is unnecessary suffering. So if you are a woman living in your

feminine energy in a beautiful, feminine aura, then at times,

you have to be confident, and you have to trust your masculine

energy to clearly express what you need and want. So I hope it

was not too confusing. With all those energy talks. I hope you

can make sense of this. My main point is that we have to come

together again, we have to ask more questions. We have to make

less assumptions. And trust that we want the same from each

other. We want to feel understood. We want to feel

nurtured, we want to feel uplifted, and maybe even create

a business or a family build something together. But first,

we have to trust ourselves. We have to trust our intentions.

Second, we have to know ourselves better. And thirdly,

we have to not be scared of

clearly

expressing our desires, not your fears. Stop feeling and being

caught in what you don't want and blaming and shaming other

people. But start expressing what you want. Thank you so much

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