Hello and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host Aurora. And if you're longing for a place where you

can rest and recharge your batteries, unwind from a busy

day, reflect about yourself and your life. And this is the place

to be.

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feedback. And I'm very grateful that I get to serve you and make

your life a little better. And yeah, my name is Aurora Eggert

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if you're struggling with

relationship stuff, then I can help you too.

So that being said, I want to dive in. In today's episode

about the story, you tell yourself, we all have a story.

Chances are you are in your 20s 30s 40s, maybe 50s If you

listen to my podcast, and we all went through some stuff, some

really good stuff and some really nasty stuff. And I want

to talk about the more nasty stuff today without going into

details. But the story we tell ourselves about our history, and

about who we are today is gonna frame like give you a frame and

to or push you into a frame

of person that you are in society. I hope my English was

good enough to express myself here, forgive, I'm not native

English. And sometimes I struggle with my words, the

story you tell about yourself is going to define how you show up

in this world. So let's say you are a heavyset person, and

you're very unhappy with your

physical appearance.

But years back now, you decided that this is who you are, this

is where you're going to be for the rest of your life. How then,

can you imagine losing weight if let's say you join Weight

Watchers or decide to start a diet, because from the outside,

you got to do the right thing. But your internal compass is

still gonna guide you to what you believe you are. And weight

loss is just one little part of the story. Let's take a guy who

wants to gain weight. And he's constantly struggling with food

and weightlifting.

But compares himself to the big guys in the gym, or outside in

the world and still sees him as the smallest guy in the group

wherever he goes. While this guy is also not gonna gain weight,

because on a mental level, emotional level even he is

keeping himself small.

Then we have other stories. Let's take myself

I went through a fair share of abuse in my 20s

emotional and physical and there was a point where there was a

friend or an acquaintance who asked me like, are you going to

live your life now?

Oh, being a victim after this happened to you. And she was not

even meaning it in a mean way. Like she was not looking down on

me, I think at least didn't come across, as if. But it really

made me think. And I really thought, yeah, like, every time

I introduce myself and a group or to a new person,

I tell that little bit of a story about my immigration and

who I was blah, blah, blah. And then you get to know that person

better. And they ask deeper questions. And then you notice

that you always repeat that same story. And you live by that

story, too. And it is not a bad thing to share your story.

That's not what I mean by that. Share your story, deal with it,

but then also get over it and emotionally.

I wanted to say detach, but detach. It's not what I want to

say here. But give yourself the freedom to become a new person

every day.

I know when you look into the mirror, you probably see the

same person every day. But if you start the work from inside,

if you start to see yourself from the inside with different

eyes, then you can also have different experiences in the

outside world.

A lot of times we go out there into the dating world with

pre written script on how the person has to be that is suiting

us. But let me tell you something the day I dropped that

sheet that I had written down on how my partner has to look like

it opened my mind to a beautiful new world.

Maybe you are not into smoking. Yeah, maybe maybe you reject

people who smoke. But maybe that person is only smoking now and

will change in the future. I know there's people out there

now smiling at me hahaha always women thinking they can change

men

are the say is that little habit that annoys you so much? Is it

really dictating? And like, allowing you to not get to know

that personnel? That one little thing?

And that person who smokes, does that person has to say

I'm a smoker, and this is who I am. And I'm always going to

stick to that no matter what.

No, that person can also question his or her behavior.

When it comes to more traumatic stories, when it comes to abuse,

neglect, when it comes to

people really harming you in the past, then you need to dig that

shit up. Oh, now I was saying a bad word. I'm learning to be

more clean with my language because I got restricted here.

You need to deal with that stuff that was really harmful to you.

But you also have to learn how to see yourself as a new person.

Without that scar,

you have that scar, but that scar

is not going to define who you are today. Because that's when

you put yourself into a little box. And everything that happens

outside of a box you will either not see or live in denial with

and it prevents you to live a beautiful juicy life.

Today I was asked on how meditation can help you when you

suffer from anxiety and

in group settings, you get nervous and and stuff like that.

And I answered when you start meditating when you start

observing your thoughts, then you will quickly see where you

have resistance where you have adversity where your monkey

brain is going nuts and trying to hold you back from going into

that direction. And I said this is where you have to go deeper.

Because what we resist most of the time is that the thing that

we should actually work through what we are scared of most

As rejection and shame, and being excluded from a group of

people or society, and sometimes our fear of rejection, took over

our life and really prevents us from being naturally out there

and curious and open.

It is really critical, again, to go see a professional, if you

went to a fair share of trauma and still haven't processed it,

what I mean is, what happens after, how can you free yourself

from that stuff again, and it is in facing it, and sitting with

it in meditation, or talking to a close friend. And then letting

it go.

Family is also a very good place to look at and to observe.

There's a couple of people out there,

me included who have been born into a family that not

necessarily understands you, or shares, same values as as you.

And that's not a bad thing, because it forces you to grow up

with an open mind.

At the same time, it makes you feel very insecure about who you

are and what you have to give to this world. So again, there, if

you look at your family structure, look at people who

are born creatives, and are born into a family of intellectuals,

and they make him feel bad now because he is not interested in

what they are interested he wants to pursue his passion. Of

course, if he doesn't have a rock solid confidence

boost behind him, he's not going to be secure about his decision

making about being a creative artist. But he has to go out

there and

find people that are like minded and find people that will

encourage his passion. Because this is the only way evolution

can happen. If we all stay in our families and do what our

families have done before us. That's beautiful too. And I

don't blame or shame anyone who decides to do that. I'm talking

to the people who still haven't come out yet who are still

struggling to show who they truly are. And it is these

people that we need out there because there's too many people

hiding right now in that closet and not wanting to come out and

share their beauty and share what they can bring to this

world because they keep themselves small. And that is

not that you should blame your family. They do their best they

have their beliefs and perception. It is your duty. It

is your

heart you say you have the power to go out there and find people

and pursue your passion. Get out of your box. Be open minded, be

open hearted and don't believe those negatives believe negative

beliefs about yourself

when it comes to weight loss, weight gain, self esteem, and

especially your purpose in life.

I hope you enjoyed my episode today. I hope it was not too

triggering at merciful triggering to some degree.

My name is Aurora. I'm your host here on the Borealis experience.

You can contact me on Facebook. Aurora Eggert is my name or you

join the group the Borealis experience. And if you have any

requests regarding meditation or inspirational talk, I'm here to

serve you. I hope you have a good rest of your day. take

really good care of yourself and drink lots of water