Hey, I'm Paige Killian, founder and CEO of everything

with style. I've built a business helping busy moms of

littles get organized in three simple steps. Like many of my

clients, I love being a mom. And I also desire more. If ever, you

felt that stirring in your heart, that whisper or really

loud voice that keeps you up at night. And I don't mean teething

toddlers and noisy teenagers, then you are in the right place.

Because this is not a solo mission. Whether you're a little

curious or totally ready to be a mom, boss, and use your God

given gifts to serve others step into your calling, turn your

passions into purpose, and still make it to the carpool line on

time, then girlfriend,

it's time to pivot. I've got you. Now let's get started. Hey

there, welcome back to another episode of the time to pivot

podcast. So if you have listened to the previous episode all

about how my story is your story, I want you to understand

that even if some of the things that I shared about starting out

as a teacher and wanting to do some things in the classroom to

contribute to those amazing Growing Minds, then moving on to

being a mom on a mission who needed to help my kid, we needed

to work through some things I needed to be able to offer him

support even when I didn't know exactly what to do for him. But

we were trusting the process, we were asking experts, we were

leaning on others who knew how to help us. And then we were

implementing those things that we were being taught. As we were

learning about this, that was a very, very important part of my

journey, my story. And I'm curious, if you were able to

find any sort of support, or if any of that really resonated

with you and something that you are going through in your

journey right now. Then, after helping my son, I really felt

compelled not only to contribute financially to my family,

through starting my own business, my own company, and

really figuring out what my message was on that next

mission, not just to help my family, but also to make a

greater impact, and to serve other moms who were going

through some of the same stuff that I had gone through that I

was going through. And I wanted to be there to support those

moms, and show them some of the things that I had learned some

of the strategies that I had put in place in order to go from

this goal to the end and seeing a light at the end of the

tunnel. That's what I wanted. So today's episode is all about

talking about that strategy. What was that? How did I come up

with it? How is that going to be useful and effective in applying

it to your life? Here's what I want to say it started out in

those early days of being a kindergarten teacher many years

ago. Don't ask me how many because that's not necessary to

know. But a lot of years ago, I was in the classroom and I was a

young person before I was a parent. And I realized the

importance of simplifying a process with littles because

those little four and five and six year olds, depending on

whether or not I was teaching in the summertime, those incoming

kindergarteners are the ones that were coming off the heels

of preschool, and then getting into a classroom and

kindergarten. And they needed some structure. They needed some

guidance. But what I learned is that it had to be simple, or it

was going to be overwhelming and stressful for them. So when I

was in the classroom, and we I always use this example, if we

were outside and we were at recess, and it was time for them

to make that big transition where they would go from crazy,

wild, fun, free energy to in the classroom, to focused to sitting

down receiving a message from the teacher and then

implementing those things that they learned there was going to

have to be some sort of structure and strategy in place.

And again, it had to be simple. So it wasn't overwhelming or

stressful for them, right? Because they're four, five and

six year olds. So here's an example. I would say to them

three simple steps to go from point A to point B and have that

be successful without the overwhelm. Okay, here's the

example of going from outside to in Inside I would say, Hey guys,

I'd like you to go inside, use the restroom wash your hands.

This is that first one where you're going inside, we're

getting them to go to the bathroom, right? Because we

don't want them sitting on the carpet trying to learn a lesson

and then a page about going the bathroom. I got it. Right, like

just holding their focus, we want to take away anything

that's going to distract them from what their end goal is. In

this case, it's learning a lesson, right? Okay, so

bathroom, we're going to check that off the list. Here's

another thing that I would say for their second step. Take your

lunch bag, right? Because recess is usually on the heels of

lunchtime, so we'd go to lunch, and then we would have our

recess playtime, right? They burn off all those calories they

just ate and then they'd be ready to focus. Okay, so I would

say, make sure you take your lunch bag and go put it in your

cubby. So that part was really because if we got to the carpet,

and it was time to learn, maybe they didn't need to go to the

bathroom because we checked that off. But oh, no. What if

somebody forgot their lunch bag outside? raising their hands

again? Oh, Pay Page PAGE PAGE. I love my lunchbox outside, can I

go get it in a derail everything that we're working on again,

right? Okay, so we take that out of the equation, because they

get that friendly reminder, as they're walking in. They're all

like showing me their lunch bags. As they're going to the

restroom as they're washing their hands as they're putting

their stuff in their cubby, then that final third step is have a

seat on the carpet. And they would have these little squares

on the rug. And they would know that that was their spot, that

was their learning spot. That was their focus spot, they would

go to that place. And then I would know that we had tackled

any of those issues that were going to come up in those first

couple of steps. And we were ready to focus, we were ready to

go from what that lesson was to then applying it in their lives.

Alright, so those first three steps from going that first big

transition outside to inside, play time to focus time was go

to the restroom, wash your hands, put your lunch bag in

your cubby, join me on the carpet. Okay, the next set of

threes, after I taught the lesson would be go to your table

group. Okay, because the last thing you want is to dismiss

somebody to go to do something. And with all that four, or five

and six year old energy, they just break, they go all over the

place. You say, Okay, we're done on the carpet, we're done

learning the lesson, boom, they go in 30 different directions,

right? If you've ever been in a classroom, you know, it's so

funny because I would have the moms come in, or the dads come

in, or the family friends come in the grandparents, if they

were in town, to read to the kids, or like even you know,

being a second grade teacher years later, it was the same

thing, we would have the royal reader at our school, they would

come in and it was so hilarious, because on the way out, they

would look at you and they would just be like, I am exhausted.

How do you do this? Every day, for the amount of hours, that

was a 20 minute royal reader moment, and I am exhausted.

Every year for that big energy, I thrive on that big energy, not

so much the chaos but the reining in and really using

their energy to focus and get big things accomplished in the

day, whether that was kindergarten or second grade, or

even in my own home. I love that. Okay, so as I was saying,

we would have that lesson, and then it would be time for the

next three steps. And I would say Okay, guys, you're gonna

need to go to your table group. All right, that would already be

established, they would know what table group they were

sitting in for that particular week or that particular month,

kind of like their square on the carpet, right there was that

assigned spot for them. So that was very clear, the essential

thing they needed to do was go to their table group, then write

your name on your paper, right? Because how many of you know

whether you're a parent, and you see a note from a teacher when

their homework comes home? Please write your name. Or maybe

you've been a teacher in the classroom as well. And you know

how frustrating it is when so many, you know, pieces of paper

and drawings and handwriting look the same. And you're trying

to figure out who's is this? Who does it belong to? So I would

tell them, write your name on your paper. Third step. Look at

me when you're ready. So that look at me when you're ready. It

was kind of like sit on the carpet and be ready that final

focus Step. Look at me when you're ready. So I know you're

at your table, your name is on your paper, right? You're taking

ownership of what you're about to do. And then you are looking

at me, it is clear that you are ready to implement what you've

just learned. We're going to do this together. Here we go. Big

things are about to get accomplished. Right. Okay, so

thank you for listening to that. First of all, I then took what I

had learned That strategy, that three steps strategy, and when I

went into people's homes to organize when I started my own

business in 2016. And here's what I realized I was working

with moms, sometimes dads, but usually I was working with moms.

And while their capacity to learn and retain information is

way more than a four or five and six year old, right, we're very

much more evolved. We're more mature, of course, that guess

what, we have a lot more in our brains, we are thinking about,

okay, pages here to organize, we need to get this done before the

kids get home or before I have to go to carpool. Okay, okay, we

need to get this done. Because I've got to get dinner on the

table tonight. Because I've got book club, all the ladies are

coming over and I'm hosting or I've got this great event, I

need to make sure we get this done so that I can go get dinner

on the table, because I'm going to go, okay, you know, apply

whatever you might think might be going on in these moms,

hearts and minds. They were overwhelmed. I was in their home

to organize because they were overwhelmed. And they needed

help. And that was a huge first step. They asked me to be there.

But guess what we needed to simplify the organization

process. So here came that three step strategy again. So I

finally thought you know what, I need to actually make this

something specific, I need to actually make this my plan,

everywhere I go, I'm going to test this strategy and make sure

that it's tried and true. And if it's really good, it's not just

going to work in kindergarten, it's gonna work when we get

organized, because it's a three step strategy that's like a

beginning, middle and end to set your goal and accomplish your

goal, right in three simple steps. And if you ever listened

to the moms organization, motivation podcast, the other

podcast that I started out with, you will hear me say in the

intro for every episode, that it has to be simple, or it just

won't get done. So if I went in their homes, and I was like,

Alright, we're gonna get organized today. And it's gonna

take us about 15 to 20 steps. What that is overwhelming, that

immediately feel stressful. But if I come in, and I say, Hey,

you ready to get organized in three simple steps, that feels a

lot less stressful, that feels a lot more achievable, where you

are actually ready to get going. Because once you've done the

first step, and you're rounding the corner to the second step,

you only have one thing left to do. That's so fast. And that's

what I realized, those busy moms needed, they needed something

that was simple, and they could see results in fast. Okay, so

stay with me, I went and met my girlfriend, Kelly Mobic, over at

marmalade cafe, on uh, gosh, Kelly, if you're listening, I

wish you were on my she's gonna come on the show. I think I

mentioned that on the other episode, she's gonna come on,

she's gonna talk about taking the lead in your life. She is my

friend and my business coach, and I absolutely adore her. And

our story started out when we were working together with this

sort of side hustle thing that we had. And I just, I really

just I loved the way that she showed up in life. And so we

became fast friends. And so I knew when I wanted to start this

business, and I wanted to really get clear on what this three

step strategy was. And I wanted to figure out how to turn that

into a business to help other people to serve other people.

She was the girl I was gonna go to, and she immediately helped

me name those three steps. So the three E's philosophy, it

begins, has a middle, and it ends with three words, three

steps that begin with the letter E, Simple enough, right? Your

essential, your enhancement, and your extra, your essential, this

is your must have or must do. Okay? So like, if you think

about the kindergarten analogy, you absolutely must go use the

bathroom, because I don't want you to be distracted on the

carpet, your enhancement, this is the thing that add style or

value to that in the kindergarten example. That's

making sure you remember to grab your lunch bag that was outside

and go put it in your cubby. So again, you're not distracted,

you are continuing to move the ball forward and getting focused

to implement whatever this big thing is that you're about to

do. The third step your extra, this is what's going to take

that to a whole new level. This is the cherry on top. This is

sort of the thing that's gonna bring it home. And that was when

I would say, showing me on the carpet, it was very clear that

at that point, they were fully focused. They were there. their

end goal was to get from outside to inside and be ready to learn

and ready to listen. So I took those three steps and I was

like, how are we apply this to an organization? Your essential

so often when I would go into people's homes, the first First,

most important must have must do is the essential purge. He got

to purge the stuff that's clutter. Even if it's awesome

stuff, I would also talk about how like sometimes your stuff

that was so cool, but just wasn't getting used took on that

annoying title of clutter. Because it was just in a way it

wasn't getting used, even if it was so great or you spent a ton

of money on it, right? But listen, if it started becoming

clutter, and it wasn't serving you in your life, we needed to

do a good purge, get it out of there, that was the essential

must have or must do do the good purge. I'll talk about grabbing

your bags with handles and just going through and putting things

in. If you want to learn more about that you can head over the

moms organization motivation podcast and listen to episode

one, three E's philosophy, that's going to tell you a whole

lot more about how to apply these things in an a way of

organization. Okay, so I'll pop that link in show notes here as

well. Let's talk about in organization, the enhancement,

what's going to add styler value to this purge. If you're getting

rid of this stuff, well, how many of you have seen that stuff

end up like in the trunk of your car, you had the best of

intentions or like in your garage, and then it goes from

clutter in your house to in your garage or it gets in your trunk.

And then it's like out of sight out of mind, you totally forget

it. So I would often say an organization, the enhancement,

what was going to add style or value to that good purge you

just did is actually take it to a donation site, or send it to a

friend who needs that as a handy down so that those awesome

things that you want had now get to go on and serve other people.

So that was a great enhancement, okay, to that good purge you

did. And then the final the extra in organization. This is

when we were putting in proper containers, and maybe even going

another step and labeling them properly if you really wanted to

get super organized. But the fact is, you would then have the

stuff leftover after that good purge. And after you donated it,

or maybe you sold it to get some ROI. Maybe you reinvested that

money that you got from those things, and you put in the

proper organization bins, so you could contain what was leftover,

and you would see what you had at a glance, right. So that's

how the three E's philosophy, then applied to getting

organized. So now you're here. And we are talking about times

that we need to pivot and lean into perhaps a calling that God

has given you, perhaps these gifts that you feel like you

have and are not being used, because you are maybe a busy mom

of littles who just desires more, and you don't know what to

do with it. Well, let me tell you, it can be done using a

tried and true simplified strategy. I am not just a mom, I

am not just a professional organizer, I am not just any of

those things. We are so many things. And I am now stepping

into this new role as a strategist. But guess what? I've

been doing it all along in these other areas of my life. So I'm

telling you this, because I want you to think about what's going

on in your life. What is something that you have been

doing over and over and over again, that you are really good

at that you can then take and share it with somebody else

because it's going to be helpful for them. Think about what are

you doing in your life, something that you've done that

simple, overly complicating things is detrimental to our

forward motion. So I knew when I created this three E's

philosophy, this simple three step strategy, it had to be

simple, or it wasn't going to work. Because people get

distracted, we're busy, we got stuff to do. And we also you

know, things come up in our lives. So if you're being called

to do these big things, and you're getting stuck in the

house, you gotta figure out a way to simplify it. So let me

ask you, what might be the essential thing right now that

you could focus on to start moving the ball forward and

getting your message out and using your gifts to serve

someone else? What is it? And hey, listen, I want to make sure

that you understand that I'm not saying you have to go out and

start a business and you have to go, you know, take these great

gifts and skills that you have to the world you can be doing

big things and impact your family at home, or your church

or your local community. You can be an incredible wife and serve

your partner by figuring out this essential thing that you

could do to move the ball forward to get closer to

whatever your end goal is.

A quick reminder, you can now get my book in four different

ways. Head over to Amazon and search up I've got you

girlfriend. The subtitle is Getting organized and living

this mom life is not a solo mission. You can find it there

on ereader. That's through the Kindle app, paperback,

hardcover, and the audiobook. So if you're enjoying this podcast,

I have a feeling you may love the audio book. Again, it's

called I've got you, girlfriend, why getting organized and living

this mom life is not a solo mission. Thanks so much for

making it a best seller. And back to the show. Okay, so that

is your essential your must do or your must have, let's just

focus in on that for a second. What is it that you feel like

you could do a small thing doesn't have to be a big step.

Because here's the beauty of the three E's, you can do the first

part of it and three simple steps. And then when you've

accomplished those things, you then think, Okay, I did it. I

did the first part. Let's pick three more things I can focus on

next is the idea is not getting caught up in that overwhelm, and

that stress of like, oh my gosh, I gotta create this big huge

thing. I got to organize my whole entire house. Okay, or I

got to share my gifts with the world, too. I start creating

online courses, do I get a website? Do I get business

cards? Do I start an email list? Do I start speaking to people?

Do I write a book? And then you get stuck in the how? Right? So

I want you to just think what is one simple step one simple

thing, this essential thing that you can do to move the ball

forward. Okay, next, I want you to think about the enhancement.

This is something that's going to add style or value to that.

Just take that in for a second. And you might be thinking like I

don't even know that means add style or value. Remember when I

said when I was talking about the organization process, and

you might get really overwhelmed with that big huge purge, you

simplify it right? You just take that bag with handles, and you

just go throughout, you don't feel like you have to do your

whole house, you pop into your kid's closet, and you're like,

what are they not wearing anymore? Because they've

outgrown or they just don't like McGraw that thing I'm gonna put

in the back. And then oh, you know what, they outgrew those

shoes, I'm gonna go ahead and grab those, or oh, you know what

soccer season's over. And I know those shoes are not going to fit

him or her next season. So I'm gonna go ahead and put those in.

So that enhancement part is then sharing that with somebody else.

So that those things that work that you just did isn't in vain,

it's not just gonna then go to die, and nothing progresses from

that. That's the thing about the three E's, you don't just want

to be one and done. You want to be one. And then you want to be

the second thing too, that's going to keep that forward

momentum going. So whatever that might be for you. What is

something that you think will complement what you just did

that first step? What's something else you can do? And

don't forget, it doesn't have to be big and huge to have great

impact. All right, think about that. Whenever it came to that

enhancement of the sharing that with someone else, donating it,

popping it in the mail, or going and taking it to your

girlfriend's gate and dropping it off out of her dog barks at

you, okay, this very specific because this is what I do on the

regular instead of at the gate, shoot her a text and be like,

Hey, I dropped off another bag of stuff for your girls. Okay,

so like, what is it that you could do to add style or value

to that first step, and it doesn't have to be big. But if

you can imagine that if I left those things after I did that

good purge in my house, if I left those things in my garage

floor, or in my trunk, and they rode around with me for two

whole months, and they were in the way every time I popped it

open to put some groceries in, you know, or put in like the

folding chairs because we have to go to a volleyball event or

it's a baseball game or you know what I'm saying? And like those

bags that I should have donated or sent to my friend is there

still back there? Keep moving the ball forward, go do that,

enhance it, do that next step. What is it for you? Alright, and

now, right, the third step, this is what is going to take this

work that you have just done to a whole new level. This can be

like the end and end product or it can be the first end, like

the end of the first part of what you're going to do. Okay,

so I use this example whenever I was writing my book, sounds

crazy, but the essential for me was to open my dang laptop.

Because what I knew is that I needed to simply sit myself down

and get the ball rolling. I may not have known that day exactly

what I was going to write about. I may not have known the title

to the chapter, a little quote as input in the beginning or

maybe some scripture reference that really stuck with me that

inspired some different chapter or paragraph in that chapter. I

didn't have to know all that. I just needed to do what I call

the 1% rule. Well Well, let me be clear, I didn't invent the 1%

rule. I've heard this from so many different people where they

talk about getting 1% better. And I found a way to apply that

to in this case, I'm just getting organized, which you can

do that, I'll get back to that later. But in the 1% rule, I

decided, You know what I'm going to do 1%, toward getting my book

written, getting my book out in the world, guess what it is, I'm

going to open my laptop, because once I opened my laptop, I'm

going to start writing, even if writer's block comes, I decided

I was just going to start brainstorming, I was just going

to start putting things down, just that 1%, that forward

motion, that was my essential, that's what I had to get done.

Okay, and that worked. So what is 1% better in your life today,

that you could start the ball rolling on this essential thing

that you've got to get done, in order to have your gifts shared

with the world. Think about that. The enhancement to that

what's going to add style or value, when it comes to the book

writing what it was, was actually packaging that up into

this outline, creating this outline where I knew where I

wanted to go with what my message was, if for you, you're

writing a speech, you feel called to share something with

somebody, maybe you're going to share your testimony at church,

maybe you're going to stand up and you're going to pitch

something in your office, or you're going to share something

with your company, or you're going to have a family meeting,

and you guys are going to talk about something that's really

important you guys need to do whatever it is that you're

focused on right now, you need to figure out what that next

step is, that's going to complement that first one. And

then that final part, that extra is really going to make it

saying, Okay, what what is really going to be that like

cherry on top, take it to a whole nother level. This is

awesome. And I cannot stress to you enough, this does not have

to be some massive, huge undertaking. All right, it can

simply be what is that next step that's going to kind of button

up that thing that we're working on. So that then we can move on

to the next three steps. Alright, so that's the three E's

philosophy, I want you to keep that in mind. Because as we go

forward on these next episodes, and we're talking about

different things that you can implement, or you're hearing

these incredible speakers, I'm so excited about some of these

speakers, I know our economy cannot wait, they have added

style and value to my life. And I cannot wait to share their

messages with you have them share these lessons that they've

learned as they've pivoted through and stepped into this

new calling step into these things, these, these gifts that

they've had to share stepped into this. And they are going to

share a lot of the ways that they have really leaned into

that hard stuff that struggle, that total uncertainty, I want

you to keep in mind when these things resonate with you, and

you're hearing their stories and they start inspiring you to get

out and share your message and your gifts with the world. I

want you to think I'm not going to let overwhelm and self doubt

and guilt and all that crazy stuff creep in, I'm going to

keep it simple. I'm going to shoot for 1% better, I'm going

to focus on what my essential next step is, even if it's

little. And then when I do that, I'm going to figure out

something that's going to complement that it's going to

add style or value to what I just did. And I'm going to get

that enhancement in there. Like I'm going to do that next step.

And then I'm going to do that final thing that really gets me

in the place that I need to be when writing that book. For me.

It was getting help. It was asking for the help that I

needed to move the ball forward in getting that book out into

the world. I needed to have the editor, I needed to find the

book coach, I needed to get that publisher who knew what they

were doing, because I didn't know. And that's okay. I didn't

know was the I don't know going to stop me from starting out

with step one. And step two, no, let me just tell you, by the

way,

trying to figure out if I want to just like really go all the

way in on it. I'm just gonna do it. I'm gonna say you might feel

seriously under attack right now, you might seriously feel

like these things that you want to accomplish that you are being

called to do. You might be feeling like all these

roadblocks are coming up for you. Let me just tell you as I

am recording this podcast episode, I am coming off the

heels of having COVID for a second time and losing my voice.

I am coming off the heels of finding out this little baby

tooth I've had for my entire life that's about 42 years old

that she might need to come out and then I might need surgery.

And I'm thinking oh my gosh, why is all this happening to me

right now? I am trying to launch this big podcast that I feel so

passionate about. I feel like I've got to be doing this. Why

is something coming for me and trying to derail me literally

taking my voice away, literally pulling a tooth out of my body

and causing me to have to have surgery surgeries on my mouth to

try to silence me. All right. Like, if you're feeling right

now, like you have more to give and you desire more, and you

just feel like it's roadblock after roadblock. And there are

big decisions that you've got to make, I get it, you are not

alone. And we're going to figure out how to move forward. And

we're going to use three simple steps, we're gonna use the

strategy. All right, not just a mom, not just an organizer, I am

a strategist. And without sounding gross, and weird and

vain, I'm just going to state that this is a gift that I have.

I love a strategy. And it lights me up, to be able to have other

people who are trying to figure out how to use their gifts and

move forward. I love being able to chat with them and be like,

let's put a strategy in place. Because somebody out there and

maybe a lot of people out there, and maybe it's just your kids on

the homefront, they need to hear what you have to offer, we're

going to figure out a strategy to get you there. And we're

going to keep it simple. Because we don't want to get

overwhelmed, we want to get stressed. We're going to keep it

really simple. And we're going to keep moving forward. So I

hope the three E's are something that you're going to go back to

time and time again and be like, Okay, I'm feeling overwhelmed.

I'm feeling stress, deep breath, we're going to simplify. What is

my essential? What is that first thing I need to do? 1% better,

what can I do today to move the ball forward? Next, what's going

to enhance that? What's the second step I can focus on? And

finally, what is that extra what is going to make it really tied

up with a bow and seeing. And if you need help with that, I would

love to help you. If you would like to go right now to

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given me support. And it's time for me to pay that forward. What

can we do? Let's get some strategies in place to help you.

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