Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora and life coach and companion on

this beautiful journey called life. I'm excited to connect

with you, I'm excited to spend some time with you. I hope you

feel good. I hope you feel safe and loved and supported, seen

and heard. And if you're not feeling good, right now, if

you're feeling a little bit off, and secure, uncertain, stuck

lost. I hope my podcast here can bring you some values some

clarity, and inspire you to love yourself more than ever, I want

to create a space for you where you can rest and recharge your

batteries where you can be yourself when you can, where you

can express yourself and feel understood. And also very

excited to announce that I have a physical location in the

forest, where we can meet in person for coaching or

relaxation classes. Or we can also meet over zoom if you're

living a little bit farther apart. And I'd love to hear your

story. I'd love to hear what's going on in your life, what's

bugging you? What's going well, and find out how I can support

you to become your strongest most resilient version. I'm

sitting outdoors today, lots of bees, lots of wolves, lots of

flies that you might be hearing in the background. And maybe you

can hear or feel that I have the sun warming up my back. It feels

so good. I have my face in the shade and my back in the sun and

it just feels so amazing. I hope you're gonna experience that

someday soon, if not today. All right, let's dive into today's

episode. Today I want to talk about the way your brain, your

mind loves to be addicted to anxious and negative thinking.

And the reason why the mind is addicted to negative thinking,

and anxious thinking is that at some point in your life, it has

learned and when I say it, I mean the mind or your ego, that

this world is not safe, that we can be hurt, we can feel

disappointed, we can be rejected, we can be utterly

scarred and wounded. And this world is not a safe place. And

it can be circumstances or it can be specific people that have

hurt you in the past. And so your mind remembers this pain

and will try everything, everything, everything,

everything at a high cost to protect you from future pain. So

it will come up with anxious thoughts and negative thoughts.

You know those thoughts of doubt and suspicion? Thoughts that

yeah, you can trust this world you cannot trust people because

it wants to protect you. Well imagine your mind your ego, like

over protective parent or guardian. And they take care of

you and tell you do you want to go outside and play in the

garden? Well, I think you should stay inside because outside of

this house. Outside of our gates, there is harm and threat

waiting for you. And you keep you know wondering about the

life beyond the gates of your house beyond or on the other

side of the door, the entrance door and you keep asking hey

today I want to do this today. I want to experience that and your

guardian keeps saying no we shouldn't be doing this. Let's

stay inside let's stay on the couch and maybe read a book or

watch TV because this is a safe place to be this is a safe place

where you will not get hurt. So I think you're getting you're

getting my point here your mind acts like a guard In trying to

protect you at the same time, keeping you in a very confined

space, mind, space, emotional space, and space where it is

very hard to connect with other people, new people, or to

experience new things in life and to grow and to learn and to

expand to love. So your mind keeps you in that small space of

anxiety and negativity because it wants to protect you, because

of a past pain, like wound disappointment. Now, if you can

cut through this in the future, and learn to discern what is

really a threat, and what is my, you know, default system, trying

to protect me from but that might not need protection from

any more, then you can live a life in self control in love,

and openness and curiosity and engagement with the people and

environment around you. So I think my message today is that

you become a detective of your thoughts, and you no longer

identify with your thoughts. And it's hard for me to say that

there is good thoughts and bad thoughts, thoughts, because they

all serve a purpose. But when it comes to anxious limiting

beliefs in the future, I want you to question these thoughts

first. So it can be thoughts of judgment, it can be, like all or

nothing thoughts, like, always or never, right, this person

always is late, this person never cleans up after

themselves. This party I'm not going to attend, because it's

always boring. When I go somewhere. I'm not going to go

to the grocery store, because it always makes me anxious. Like,

these thoughts are repetitive, and are annoying and are

limiting. And I want you to dissect these thoughts in the

future. And to question them as if it was, you know, an over

overly, overly smothering parent or a friend who is always

questioning things and always read when you come up with an

idea. Oh, let's do this that Yeah, but no, I don't think so.

And then they share their limit limiting beliefs. So to

personify right to turn into a person, your negative thoughts,

your anxious beliefs, and to really ask and wonder, really,

is it always the case? Right? Is it always boring when you go to

parties and gatherings? Are you always anxious when you go to

the grocery store?

Are all women. Scary and not worth of trust? Are all men

cheaters. So it's very easy to identify these limiting beliefs

and thoughts because they're usually very radical. And

they're usually very one sided. And once you give them a little

bit more attention, or dissect them question them, you will

find out very quickly that no, it is not always the case. No,

it is not never. And no, there is other angles to approach this

scenario. Or when it comes to a person. We can ask questions

before making assumptions and conclusions about a person with

limiting beliefs and anxiety. We can ask questions, right? If

you're about to date a new person, and you were very hurt.

In the past, your mind will come up with some fabulous ideas on

how to get rid of that person and why they are not

trustworthy. Because you're putting yourself out there

again, you're doing something brave, and your mind will try to

keep you in a situation where you can't potentially get hurt

again. But what that does if you follow it without questioning

it, is that you close yourself up to new experiences and you're

shutting yourself down. I'm in front of love, in front of

goodness, goodness that could happen to you. So to discern and

to question and to ask, and to maybe even write down all the

stuff that comes up. And then when you look at the stuff that

you're writing down to see all this is my heart speaking, this

is me speaking from a place of trust, love, courage, curiosity

and engagement. And then maybe you can read further. And then

you can notice Oh, and this down here is my overly smothering ego

and mind that drags everything under the dirt and sees only the

negative only the bad, wants to be aggressive and assertive, and

always feels as not enough. This is my herd in a child that steal

things that are not lovable. And that way you can become the

master of your thoughts. And no longer the victim of your

erratic and negative thinking and conclusion making an

assumption making it is so so important to allow space and

time and silence to get behind your thinking. How do you

process this world? How do you engage with people relate to

people, and if you don't like what you see, if you constantly

have an outcome, or scenarios that you really don't like, then

you have to go down to the bottom. And notice your thinking

patterns, especially the negative and the anxious ones,

because those are the ones that keep you caged in. All right, my

dear friend, this is the message of today. As always, I'm excited

to receive feedback from you, or episode requests. And as I

mentioned, at the beginning of the episode, I have a physical

location now called the year experience. Check it out in the

show notes, where I invite people who went through divorce

and heartbreak and, you know, rough phases in their life to

come on out and to work on themselves to liberate

themselves from past pain, in order to step into the present

and the future, with a confident and courageous heart. And, yeah,

that is it for today. I'm sending you out into the rest of

your day, beginning of the day, end of the day, with so much

love, and I'm excited to connect with you very soon again. Take

care. Bye bye