00:00:06 Shreya: There is a version of wellness that looks calm on the outside yoga classes, affirmations, spiritual practices. And yet underneath, so many women still feel anxious, disconnected, or stuck in survival mode. What if the missing piece is not more mindset work, but nervous system healing? And what is intuition isn't something you find, but something your body remembers. Welcome

00:00:33 Shreya: to the Wellness Reimagined. I'm your host, Shreya, and this is where we explore integrative, evolving approaches to healing, blending science, intuition and lived experience. Today we are joined by Hayley Coleman, known as the Psychic Nervous System Coach. She helps overwhelmed, high achieving women move from stress to an emotional chaos into clarity and calm by blending trauma informed nervous system regulation with intuitive insight. In this episode, we are exploring how stress blocks inhibition, how trauma rewires the nervous system, and why burnout happens even to self-aware spiritual people and most importantly, how to reclaim clarity and self-trust. Welcome, Hayley. I'm honored to have you on my show.

00:01:24 Hailey Coleman: Hi. How are you? Thank you for having me.

00:01:27 Shreya: I'm really glad to have you. when you first realized your nervous system was in survival mode. And what did that moment feel like in your body?

00:01:39 Hailey Coleman: So I have three children and I had three kids really close together. Um, and I went through really traumatic, uh, separation, um, at the time, and I wasn't sleeping, I wasn't eating properly, and I started getting panic attacks. Um, my panic attacks would come and they'd be full body panic attacks. And it was really scary. I started noticing that I couldn't control my anxiety, I couldn't control my panic attacks, and I just didn't like feeling that way around my children. Um, as a mother, you want to always try to be calm and, uh, feeling your best self so you can be your best version for your kids. And it really got to me that I was having these panic attacks almost every day, um, during my separation. And I started to I didn't want to go on medication, so I started to explore ancient history, uh, learning how to control our nervous system, learning how to control our gut health, and learning how to control our mind. Um, and it took me on this journey to where I am now, almost eight years later, um, helping other women around the world focus on their nervous system.

00:03:09 Shreya: That's really great, and thank you for sharing your story with us. And also sometimes I, I often hear this, I meditate, I journal, I do the spiritual work. So why am I still anxious? I'm really curious what is the biggest misconception people have about stress and intuition?

00:03:31 Hailey Coleman: Because it has to be a mind body, soul connection. So even if you're doing the things like let's say you're meditating every day, if your environment is still the same, you're still going to be triggered all the time. If you're still eating, um, not as well if you're not eating properly, if you're not gaining enough, uh, food during the day, if you're not drinking enough water, you can meditate all day long, but your system is still not connected. The biggest thing I noticed with my clients around the world is that if your environment stays the same And. And you're trying to do the work. Nothing's going to change. You have to. Maybe you need to delete friends. Maybe you need to delete your partner. Maybe you need to delete your family. Maybe you need to delete your job. Maybe you need to just be within yourself and start focusing on yourself. And a lot of people just say, well, I'm going to start meditating or I'm going to start doing breathwork. And sometimes that's not enough. And it's really important to figure out what is happening in your nervous system, where it's coming from, the root cause.

00:04:51 Shreya: Yes. So uh, it's not that someone lost their intuition, it's that their nervous system is prioritizing survival over perception, right?

00:05:03 Hailey Coleman: Yes. And once you're in survival mode, you really need to focus on everything around you to get yourself out. We all know that your gut health has everything to do with your emotions. So if you're having anxiety and big emotions, maybe your gut health is off. If you're having depression or anxiety or you're just constantly stressed, maybe your mindset is off. How do you talk to yourself every day? Are you truly working on your mindset? Retraining your brain? When I knew that I hit rock bottom, I knew that I needed to focus on my gut health internally, right? So that I could recalibrate my emotions. And I knew that I also needed to retrain my brain. Meditation wasn't working because my gut health and my mindset were off.

00:06:04 Speaker 3: Mhm. Yeah.

00:06:06 Shreya: So when someone is chronically stressed. What is actually happening neurologically that interferes with clarity?

00:06:18 Hailey Coleman: When you're that stressed, your cortisol levels are so high that your body is in a constant fight or flight mode. You need to find a way to lower your cortisol. You can lower your cortisol levels by food, so gut health you can lower your cortisol levels by stress management. So maybe that's breathwork. Maybe that's there's something called cognitive behavioral therapy. Essentially that's retraining the brain. Retraining the way you think, retraining the way you adapt to things. Um, and you kind of have to do all of it together. It's you can't get rid of the noise if your body and your environment are the same, if that makes sense. Yeah. So when my clients come to me and they're like, I've been stressed for years. I hate my job. My partner's stressing me out. My kids are stressing me out. What are you doing for you that is going to change your environment, that is going to allow you to reset your cortisol?

00:07:29 Speaker 3: Yeah.

00:07:30 Shreya: I think that reframes so much. I think it lets less about spiritual failure and more about biological protection that really feels both grounding and relieving.

00:07:43 Hailey Coleman: Yeah, you have to. You can't just meditate. You can't just pray. You have to be able to change something, whether it's in your body. So I always start with gut health, uh, because our emotions are always made in our in our gut. So if our gut health is off, then our emotions are most likely off, which Then can give us anxiety or depression or mental health symptoms. Um, but on top of that, you also need to focus on your mind. So that's why I always say mind, body, soul. Because our soul is our meditation, our spirituality, our faith. Um, and it's very, very important to have faith based system, whether you're praying to your spirit guides, whether you're praying to your different gods, um, every, every faith is different. But we all still have someone or something that we pray to or talk to. It's a part of our human nature. It's at a soul level. So that's our soul that we need to focus on. And then our body is we need to be able to recalibrate our stress in our body. So if our cortisol levels are high there's a lot of different symptoms. Sometimes your hair starts falling out. Sometimes you start gaining weight. Maybe you're super puffy. Um, a lot of times you see, like the puffiness around the face or the midsection, or maybe you're losing weight. Um, brain fog is another symptom. Uh, forgetful memory is another symptom. Um, and then maybe anxiety or depression, right? Yeah. And so if you're having symptoms of high cortisol, then you need to focus on your gut health and recalibrate your hormones in your body. And you can do that all through diet and nutrition. And then the last piece is the mind. We need to retrain our brain to think that we are safe. Our body is safe. We have hope. We have faith, and we have the tools in front of us to change our path. Um, I'm going to take it a step further because as a psychic, I try to use my science background and my coaching background, and I pair it with my psychic gift. Um, there is a lot to do with past lives and how the past life lessons are happening in this lifetime. So if you're doing all the things, let's say you're doing the mindset work. You're focusing on your body and your food, and you're focusing on like the meditation, the breathwork, the stress management, and you're still finding that you're triggered. It is a huge possibility that is from a past life that you are reliving over and over again. And I have had so many clients do past life sessions with me, where we uncover the one root cause of why they're having all these symptoms from a past life, and we work through it, and then they don't have those symptoms again. It's so crazy.

00:11:11 Speaker 3: Yes.

00:11:12 Shreya: And you speak about how trauma rewires the nervous system. How does trauma quietly shape the way someone makes decisions years later, even if they consider themselves healed?

00:11:26 Hailey Coleman: Trauma is a really funny thing because it changes our brain. So when we have a traumatic event, trauma can be different from what I've experienced to what you've experienced, but it's just the way our brain handles that trauma. Um, if we have a traumatic event, we either fight, flight or freeze, and that in itself can trigger anger, sadness, all these emotions that come up and we can be healed for years. And then all of a sudden something triggers us and it retriggers that trauma. But it's important to work with somebody like a coach or somebody who has trauma experience to teach you the tools to work through the trauma triggers for when they happen, because you can have a trigger ten, fifteen years from now and it just totally sets you off. And you, you think you're healed for that amount of time. So it's a very important I worked with coaches. I was taught very, really, really amazing ancient tools to work through trauma and triggers when it comes up. I highly recommend, if you are struggling with trauma, to hire a coach, um, to help you with the tools initially so that you are equipped to help yourself with the triggers that come up.

00:13:10 Speaker 3: Yeah.

00:13:11 Shreya: I think that's that's really powerful. what tends to happen when someone tries to think their way out of trauma responses instead of regulating their body?

00:13:23 Hailey Coleman: Um, it just means it's going to keep happening if you try to ignore it, uh, say, like you're just you've been retriggered and you're just trying to ignore it or you're just trying to not to think about it. And a lot of people, um, this is where addictions come in. So a lot of people try to ignore the trauma and triggers, uh, with addictions. Uh, addictions can be shopping. It doesn't have to be drugs and alcohol. It could be. Maybe it's an exercise addiction or an eating addiction or a shopping addiction. Right? Like they a lot of people, if they're not working through their actual trauma and their triggers, are leaning towards addictions.

00:14:12 Speaker 3: Yeah.

00:14:13 Shreya: I agree, and I think it almost like the mind is trying to override a body that doesn't feel safe yet.

00:14:22 Hailey Coleman: Yeah. And and then the people who are dealing with that want to ignore those symptoms or those signs by focusing hyper focusing on the addiction that they are now interested in. it. So instead of focusing on self and working through that trigger and hiring a coach to help you. I see it a lot where they pour themselves into an addiction instead and it's sad.

00:14:58 Speaker 3: Yeah.

00:14:59 Shreya: And also like when someone realizes that they are they are dysregulated. The next question becomes now what? So if someone listening and feels stuck in stress, where would you suggest they begin?

00:15:17 Hailey Coleman: So that's a really great question, because what I find with my clients is sometimes they don't even notice that they're dysregulated. So you need to you need to really sit with yourself and say, what is my norm? Is it normal for me to yell all the time? Is it normal for me to, like, shut down and go silent? Is it normal for me to be shaky and anxious every day? Like what? What is your norm? And anything out of that norm will be a stress response. And how are you handling that stress response? Are you? How did you eat that day? How did you sleep the night before? Did you just get triggered by something or somebody? Are you. Are you allowing yourself to hire somebody, a coach, or work with a doctor to learn the tools so that when you are dysregulated, you have a little toolbox that you can use at any given time. Maybe it's breathwork. Maybe it's going for a walk. Maybe it's writing in a journal like you said. The biggest thing, though, is being is teaching yourself the tools to help you through the dysregulation, to help you through the anxiety and the triggers so that when you're triggered, you already have the tools in front of you. So I like to tell my clients when you when you are feeling your best self, that is when you should be learning these tools, not when you're in crisis mode. Not, you know, like not when you're in panic mode. When you are having a really good day. That is when you should learn the tools to help you through your stress and trauma.

00:17:33 Shreya: And I really Appreciate how practical that is. And like also, healing is not linear. So when someone feels, uh, they like, uh, they have regressed into anxiety or old patterns, what's really happening?

00:17:54 Hailey Coleman: Again, it's like anything that can retrigger you or like for me. I'll give you an example. I've been on my healing journey for almost eight years. I, I do all the things I do. I'm a nationally certified breathwork coach. I'm a nationally certified cognitive behavioral therapist. I am a psychic. I meditate like I do all the things. I focus on my gut health. I know exactly what my body likes with food. I work out. So I'm I'm a person who does all the things. And I actually a couple of weeks ago I regressed. I had a really crappy week. I was retriggered and the one thing that got me out to realize. Hailey, you're you're retriggering yourself was a couple of my friends said to me, Hailey, you're quiet. Are you okay? And it it instantly sparked something in me. I was like, you know what? Yeah, I have been quiet for a couple days. I haven't been doing my meditations. I haven't been eating right. I haven't been sleeping properly. You know, I had I it was almost like I got lazy not doing all the things. And then I got triggered and my stress response came back. So. For it was such an interesting thing because I told, I told two or three of my I call them my circle, my circle of friends. Um, I let them know all of my traumas, all of my triggers. I let them know how I react, and instantly they picked up on it and reached out to me and they're like, why are you quiet? What's going on? Um, so that's also a huge a really, really great tool, right? Is if you have even one person, even if even if you don't have close friends, if you have someone you work with, that somebody you see frequently, let them know, hey, when I get quiet or when I start getting anxious or whatever, you're not the norm is be like, reach out to me, please. Um, because that that itself, my friends, are like, what do you need? Have you been doing your stuff lately? I was like, no, I got a little lazy. Okay. Um, but it just goes to show. Yeah, that it can happen. Like, I live and breathe this lifestyle and it can still happen to me. Right. Because I stopped doing my things for a week.

00:20:46 Shreya: Yes. That's that's really beautiful that you explained it. And I think that makes, like, sit backs feel less like a failure and more like information. And also. Yeah, also like I have a reflection question. Like for the women who are listening right now and who feels overwhelmed, maybe disconnected, even question her intuition, what would you want her to gently remember tonight.

00:21:16 Hailey Coleman: That you have a purpose, that there is hope? Um, that we're always presented with a path ahead for us, and sometimes it just takes having that conversation with a friend, a family member myself. Even if you want to reach out to me, um, I have I do have some openings in term or I have, I have one like you can just book like a one time session to with me. Sometimes it just takes having that conversation to be like, I got this. I have some hope. I have some faith. It's okay. Everyone has their highs and their lows and we all have a purpose. But sometimes we just need to be reminded of our purpose. And whether that's through someone like myself or a friend or a family member. Sometimes we just need to be reminded that we all have a purpose in this life.

00:22:22 Shreya: Yes. And this is truly a very powerful and very insightful conversation with you. And if after this, my listeners want to connect with you, then what's the best way?

00:22:34 Hailey Coleman: Um, through my website. Yeah, I would love that because on my website, it's just a quick little connection. Um, and they can reach out to me, I will email them back and they can either they can set up a one time session with me. I do have private coaching as well, but a lot of people like the the forty five minute one time session where we figure out the root cause, uh, we figure out, um, why they're feeling this way, whether it's a past life thing, whether it's something triggering them. And then I give them tools to help them as well. So I have a ton of ancient tools that I've studied that helps resolve our nervous system. And because I use my psychic gift as well, I can tune into your past, your present or your future. And we work together with science as well as my psychic gift to solve what's happening, to make you feel your best self so that you feel like you have a path ahead again.

00:23:44 Shreya: Yes, and I will make sure to attach all these details again in the link so that the listeners can find it. And to my listeners.

00:23:53 Hailey Coleman: Yeah, I also have, um, if they want to connect, not just through my website. I have my here's my Instagram as well put in the chat. It's, uh, just live dot empower. But you'll see, you'll see my face on there. And yeah, you can reach out to me. I have clients all over the world. So I work at I work twenty four hours a day. Why not? Yeah.

00:24:23 Shreya: This is really amazing. And for my listeners, remember, wellness is not about doing more. Sometimes it's about softening into safety. So your body, your intuition and your purpose can speak again. And if this episode resonated with you, then share it with someone who might need this reminder. And as always, take a breath before you move into the rest of your evening. This is the Wellness Reimagined. I'm your host, Shreya, and we'll see you next time. And do not forget to hit the follow button. Subscribe and feel free to share your thoughts because your ears deserve premium content. Thank you.