Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be

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episode from me, then please don't hold back. Today Hi, I

just made myself a tea. And it smells so extremely good, a wild

berry tea. So amazing. And I just painted my fingernails and

I'm letting them dry. Now. I'm a very clumsy person. So whenever

I paint my fingernails, I love to have a couple minutes of

doing nothing before I go about my farming, or house cleaning or

whatever it is where I would otherwise ruin my Fresh, fresh

paint. So right now is a perfect time to dry my fingernails, I

want to talk about aggression, aggression, I feel especially

when it comes to women, aggressive women, aggressive

behavior among women. It's just a topic that is so exciting and

that I could talk about four hours and I could listen to

people for hours and hours teaching about it.

Also, I find suppressed aggression usually results in

depression. Depression is something I'm really familiar

with. I basically went from how to back to, from how to back to

planet earth. Sorry, I meant within the next the last couple

of days, it

was really very juicy in the darkest ways. And yeah, I talk

about it lots on my, my Facebook, if you're more

interested in, in finding out more about it. We all have a

dark side, we all go through a really tough phases in our

lives. And some times there is you know, something that has

happened a trauma, an accident, something happened and it

triggers those feelings, but sometimes it those feelings just

overwhelm you from nothing, and they accumulate and become more

and more and yeah, it's just a whole shitshow when it comes to

aggression, aggression, I feel is an emotion a go to emotion is

very acceptable in some ways in our society, but in a lot of

ways. It's not acceptable. Because yeah, it's very

uncomfortable to be aggressed by someone else, right? I'm totally

fearful of men and women, physically. Certainly mentally

but also physically. When Yeah, somebody is being aggressive

with me. I'm like a paralyzed body. But it is part of life. It

is part of human experience. And I really hate when people like

are all lovey dovey rainbow unicorns and aggression is a bad

thing. Aggression, aggression can be it's really not something

we want to see. Because that's not possible. I believe strongly

that it is is part of human nature. And any person who

wanders around who walks around on planet Earth, and says they

never felt aggression is Yeah. Lying. It is just not possible.

We learn as adults maybe to suppress it more. But then as I

said, at the beginning, it turns into depression. Aggression can

be channeled, you can put your energy, your aggressive energy

into your work, you can be very assertive, you can be very

ambitious, you can get lots of shit done when you are, you

know, using your aggressive energy to do so. It is your

drive. And then Yeah, unfortunately, you can take it

out on other people too. And that's not a good thing. So what

I'm not saying here is that we should tolerate more aggression.

No, no, no, no, no, this is not what I'm saying. What I'm saying

is that aggression is here is there part of our human

experience. And some of us, most of us can learn to channel that

energy into a more productive outcome instead of destructive,

you know, with, with opinions with speeches, with with

variable attacks, we can be extremely aggressive, and we can

ruin relationships, we can ruin communities, we can shoot

ourselves in the foot. And that is when we use aggression

against ourselves against other people. But we can use it in a

beautiful way to you know, somebody who knows exactly what

they want, and then taking the steps towards that goal, and

their dream is being aggressive. But not against other people.

But he's using she is using that energy to get things done to

bring their dreams closer. Now, when it comes to social related

relationships, sorry. It is really important to understand

like I'm here best case scenario, when I'm in pain when

I'm depressed when I'm in major discomfort. I'm not behaving

like a depressed person. You know, the stereotype would

behave if there is any, like sitting on a couch and crying

all day long, being in fetal position, and only eating chips

and watching Netflix. That's not me when I'm depressed. When I'm

depressed, I'm aggressive with my surroundings, I'm impatient.

And that makes it extremely difficult to connect and for

people to really understand what's going on with me because

they want nothing to do with the aggression. Of course, they push

me away, they attack me back. All I want, though, is to be

like, taken in, in the RMS and to to be asked, Hey, are you

okay? Can I help you? Can I be there for you. But of course,

that's the last thing a person wants to do when you aggress

them first. You know, it's still something I need to make sense

of in myself. It's still something that I'm slowly

learning to make sense of, and I'm slowly trying to get better

at that when I'm scared when I'm frustrated when I feel

powerless, helpless, insecure, then I'm aggressive. That

doesn't help me at all. Doesn't help my relationships at all.

Especially as a woman I feel especially being a woman. It is

expected from you to be emotionally sound, to be

perfectly able to express your feelings and to gracefully

approach situations that make you feel insecure. But yeah, I

missed that day at school, when it was taught to to us at a

younger age. So understand that my message today is not to

tolerate more aggression and to to say yeah, aggression is cool.

And that's why I can lash out on people. No, we have to learn to

make sense of our aggression and be our own best friend and

little detective there. And when somebody else is being

aggressive towards us, just cut through and ignore the energy

and the emotion that is being like, thrown at you. And ask

them directly, hey, you seem pretty upset. How can I help

you? What is wrong? Which toe is hurting? You know, sometimes

it's physical pain to sometimes it's hunger, and season one, I

have one pretty juicy episode where I talk about how physical

discomfort can turn you into an absolute monster. And it's

really interesting and fascinating, awesome to be aware

of this, because it's so easy to appease to give your body what

it needs, just drink a little bit more water, just eat the

right foods. And that will in turn affect your mood as well.

Your mental health. So being aware of our aggression, and

becoming a friend of aggression, and not trying to suffocate it

anymore, especially us as women, to not push it down and then let

it out in some weird ways, you know, manipulative and passive

aggressive and what not. There's so much stuff out there is so

many fun inventions that we made. Because we think that

aggression is a bad thing. No, I think if we learn to accept it

more, then we can learn to dissolve it more as well. Like

faster, when it comes up. We make sense of it. We maybe talk

about it, express ourselves, and then we can let it out. Let it

bleed out, let it flow out. And then move on in joy. And yeah, I

think that was my message for today. Thank you so much for

listening. Of course, I'm burning to know what you're

thinking. Do you agree or do you disagree? What I say here, and

either way, reach out to me on Facebook, I usually post this

episode and then a little video to it. And then just comment

below and I'm really yeah, very excited to hear what you think

about all this. Alright, take really good care of yourself. I

will be out there on Thursday again. And yeah, until then,

drink lots of water. Take your vitamins, and go out for a walk.