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You are now listening to the voices of Junior and Dominique.

And this is Dad's Friends and Tequila, where dads come to hang out, friends gather, and the tequila float.

And that got to float.

I'm a daddy.

Is you a daddy?

Hey, I've been a daddy.

You a dad.

I'm a daddy.

You know what Jeremy say they call me daddy.

Hey, the reason why we started the podcast, so we can share our experiences of fatherhood and becoming men and also share our palates for the taste of tequila.

Man, that's good to hear.

But let me tell you, the purpose of this show, all right?

Is.

Is for the men.

Okay?

I don't have a problem with women listening because everybody can teach everybody, but this is a show for the.

So men, feel free to open up and be men.

Talk like me.

Listen, understand where exactly that you're not alone as a man.

But more importantly, the most important thing about this show.

Yeah.

We gonna talk about the difference between a father.

Yep.

And a dad.

Okay.

Cause a father just shoot the club.

Yeah, he gonna shoot it up and then he gone.

Yeah, he papa was a rolling stone.

He rolling.

But daddy stick around.

It don't matter if it's one.

It don't matter if it's 15.

Yeah.

You know what I'm saying?

Yeah.

That's what that is.

I love leaving it in.

Oh, I'm gonna leave it in, but

I'm gonna take care of the responsibility afterwards.

But first of all, I'mma leave it in.

As long as you know I'm leaving in.

Hey, I'mma leave it in.

Hey.

Yeah.

Hey, what's up with y'?

All?

Hey, welcome to the show, man.

Y' all know who I am.

I'm Junior.

This my boy, Doni.

Hey.

Hey.

And y' all know this is Dash.

Friends, Tequila.

Welcome to the show, y'.

All.

Hey, what's good with it, bro?

Hey, Whoa, whoa, whoa.

Oh, my bad.

Whoa.

Gotta do something wrong.

I need you to know that we introducing you to a daddy party.

Oh, this is a real life daddy party.

This is the daddy party, bro.

This is the second time ever.

Yeah.

That I've been on, on broadcast with my boy.

Hey, we live.

We live, baby.

Hey, and you know when we start the show, before I ask you, how you doing?

Yeah.

What's going on with you?

You got to start the show with a shot.

Hold on, hold on.

After we take this shot.

Hey, you know I got something to say.

Yeah, I got something to say, bro.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Woo.

Yeah.

Hey, you got something to say?

I always got something to say.

I got something to say.

Okay, so tell me about.

Just tell me about your week.

What's going on, bro?

Man, you went all the way back to seven days.

Yeah, bro, you know I'm aging.

I forgot yesterday did I use restroom.

No.

But not the week.

Been slow, bro.

Like not too bad.

I can't complain about it.

You know, me and you link up all the time.

Yeah.

You know, we shoot the.

About the show and stuff like that, but other than that, man, I really can't complain.

Me and my son, my boys just hanging around the house, Me and my old lady just kicking it, you know, spring break, you know, coming up, so.

Yeah, like spring break, man.

We gotta prepare for that.

Yeah.

When you was on spring break no more.

Yeah.

My daddy didn't like spring break neither.

I see why now they gonna be in the house.

Yeah.

Eating up all my food.

Eat up everything.

Yeah.

You know, grocery bills now these days is through the roof.

It was a lot when you was in school.

Yeah.

It's even more when you at home now.

You go to the store, don't grab a baske.

I'm telling you, you grab a basket, bro.

I look, no lie.

I used to work at Walmart, Dominique.

And my store manager and he was like, it's.

I think it was probably like 20 some thousand a year.

If a, If a customer grab a cart, if you walk in the store, you know what I'm saying?

Because you're gonna just throw in.

Yeah.

You know what I'm saying?

You're not.

Even if you don't have a list, you gonna throw in the bed.

And that's that, that's how, that's why spring break, man.

You know what I'm saying, man.

But other than that, Dominique, like my week been.

It's been slowly but surely, bro.

Just trying to, you know, get stuff together around the house and, you know, get ready for work.

That's about it.

Yeah.

If y' all ever see the eyes go up and not pay attention to the camera, it's cuz we, we Dads and we men and we got the game on.

It's going to be a game, a football game, a basketball game.

So we watching the game as well.

But you still got my full undivided attention.

Okay.

Yeah.

But right now, Golden State winning 2019.

They paying Knicks right now.

So, so I asked you about your week.

Let me tell you.

Yeah.

Come on with it.

And you know, I start the show every time, I start mine off every time the same man trying to get closer to God.

Still reading the Bible, trying to get my kids more familiar with it, trying to, trying to raise them up in it.

It's a struggle sometimes, brother.

Cuz worldly things of course are, are, appear to be a little bit more fun.

Yeah.

Than what God is telling me to do or getting closer to God and trying to follow him instead of following what everybody else is doing.

Yeah.

So it's a journey.

But I'm always going to start the show off with that because that, that really make me feel good.

Well, that's the grounding.

You hear me?

It's something about having God inside, of course that just brings out the, I heard somebody say it once, the closer you get to God, you learn how to learn.

You learn how to love your wife better.

The closer you get to God, you learn how to love your kids better.

That's facts.

And I, I, I guess I'm saying it wrong.

It ain't even getting closer to God.

The more you love God, the more he teaches you how to love your wife or love your kids.

God is all loving, right?

Yeah.

God is love.

And so I'm going to always start to show off with that when it comes to the kids.

Man, it's been a slow week.

So if y' all don't know, I have my oldest every day full time, but my twins is shared custody.

And so this week was my week with the twins, cuz it's just me and my oldest baby.

I miss my twins.

Can't wait to see their big kid.

But I'm just with the oldest baby this weekend.

It gives me more one on one time with her.

Right.

And not having the shared time that she's used to when the twins come around.

And you've been around my oldest baby, of course, you know, we think we can be quiet.

Yeah.

Until she come around and she teach you what the meaning of quiet is.

Cuz if you don't make me talk, it's a quick answer.

And I go to my room and I ain't got nothing to say.

But you know what hurt your Heart when dealing with something like that.

Tell me about it.

Sitting outside that closed door and listening to your baby laugh, yell and get excited and you ain't involved.

To talk to her big head friends like, hold on.

What about daddy?

You on little daddy?

Yeah.

Why?

Yeah, but it's the same when I'm think thinking about my twins.

They ready to go back to mama house.

Are they ready to be around their friends?

Are they ready to go here?

They ready to go there.

Like I've been a dude that has ran away from feelings my whole life.

I don't want to deal with them.

Yeah.

I'm happy.

Yeah.

I'm mad.

Yeah.

That's it.

Ain't nothing.

That's it.

I ain't.

I ain't allowed to cry.

I don't want to do all that.

Ain't going back and forth.

And then you had kids and.

And Junior.

I'm dealing with feelings.

I don't know what it is, man.

I don't know what it is.

Look.

Why am I crying?

Like why am I getting teary eyed?

They did nothing wrong.

They doing the same thing I did.

I didn't want to hang with my daddy.

I want to hang out with Junior.

Yeah.

I didn't want to hang out with my dad.

I want to go play basketball.

And when I was a kid, perfectly fine.

Yeah.

You need to stop tripping.

Yeah.

Why are you acting so emotional?

Yeah.

Then you become daddy.

Yeah.

Everything changed on me.

When I say I'm emotion.

My.

My woman was telling me last week, she said cry almost every day.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Cuz y' all hurt my feelings and stop hurting my feelings.

I got feelings too.

I'm just saying.

So.

So for me it's been a great week.

I can't complain.

I have a thing that I say in my household to everybody I talk to.

It's the greatest day ever.

Yeah.

The reason it's the greatest day ever is cuz any day God allows you to wake up.

Tell me about it.

And you got the strength to walk.

You got the strength to talk.

You got the strength to take care of yourself.

You may not have a job.

Right.

You may not have money.

Yeah.

You may have everything going wrong, but you can still migrate through life.

100.

It's still the greatest day ever.

100 though.

And it's really a mindset.

And so while we're talking to dads, it's a mindset.

If you tell yourself you're a bad dad, guess what?

You are.

You're a bad day.

You're a bad dad automatically.

But if I remind myself that I'm.

I'm the best dad ever.

Yeah.

That's what your kids see.

Yeah.

And everything that we put on kids like my, my, My money is low.

Kids don't know that.

No, they don't.

All they know is.

And they can care less about daddy, I want this.

They can care less about this.

I can tell you they about to put us out cuz we getting evicted.

You know what my kids gonna say?

Yeah.

What we eating tonight?

Yeah, I ain't worried about nothing.

Cuz when it came to bills, that's on you.

Yeah.

About me.

They being kids though.

So you have to remember that.

That even though life is hard.

Yeah.

Life is great because I'm still here.

100.

I can make it better today, I can make it better tomorrow.

And you know what's funny?

Why don't you say what's funny?

But one thing that you said that a lot of people need to hear and, and so they can.

So we can elaborate on it, is that you said you have shared custody with your kids.

Yeah, me too.

Yeah.

You know what I'm saying?

So me and you in the same boat when it comes to that.

But I know it's a lot of dads out there that have the same thing.

But always make sure you stay on point, you know what's going on in your life and you want the best thing for your kids because you only can do so much, you know, in 24 hours, but make sure you put all the effort you can, you know, and try to make sure you pouring into your kids every day, you know, But.

And that's a big thing though, Dominique, because I think now mines are my old.

My firstborn is 17 and my oldest boy is 15 now.

So it's like, you know what I'm saying?

Like times is flying, bro.

Like

I was watching the video, I said, matter of fact, I said to my kids, because it's a.

It's a dad in the doctor's office

and he forgot.

He didn't know nothing.

He don't know nothing.

And I'm listening to you talking, it's the same.

It's.

That don't make you a bad dad.

I'm just being daddy.

Yeah.

Like how old are you?

Yeah.

How much you weigh?

Yeah.

Are you allergic to something?

Yeah, but do you take medicine?

But the funny thing is the nurse asked him the question.

He was like, are you allergic?

Like you like.

You know what I'm saying?

And I didn't take it as him being a bad dad, it's like right now, I know for a fact you are overly involved in your kid's life.

But when it come to how old are your children?

Yeah.

Hey, look, Dominique, it's funny, I remember

they used to be five, but look,

this how I know, and this is how I try to keep up.

And I can get the number wrong, but I know for a fact I'm in the same lane.

So when I have my birthday, my wife have a her birthday, we go even and my kids, all of them go odd.

So I can say 19, 27, whatever.

As long as it's an odd number, I know I'm right.

Yeah.

But when it comes down, if I up and say, hold on, I'm four, that's an even number.

But shoot, I think he might be 16.

Nah, that ain't right.

Because I know for a fact, you

know what I'm saying.

That's the only way I know what I'm saying.

And the funny thing for me is if somebody asked me my age, especially with it getting close to my birthday now.

Yeah, I forget my age.

Like it's.

It's not a bad dad thing or a bad man, but I got other things I'm thinking about.

Thing on my mind is the age.

Dominic, how old are you?

Third, I'm 30 something.

I'm going on 40.

That ain't telling me how old you are.

Ask my kids, ask my woman.

They got the answer.

They might know.

But that's the last thing I. I ain't worried about that at all.

At all.

Zero.

That's what it is.

But now look, we live in.

In the lab, in the studio.

It's a daddy party, baby.

Dad, friends.

Make sure y' all subscribe to our channel too, please.

Come on.

YouTube, right?

Yeah, we live, baby.

YouTube, YouTube, Spotify, Instagram.

Make sure y' all tag in on us, bro.

Hey, Dominique, you know what time it is, right?

Yes, the trivia time.

It's trivia time.

Give me some claps.

Give me some claps.

Like last show, we went one for three.

No, one for two.

Okay.

Because I took a shot.

You took a shot?

Yeah, with the first round is always a free round.

Like we don't take shot, but the second round, if you miss, you gotta take that shot.

So right now we getting a warm up.

So what you picking now?

You go for it.

No, you don't be scared.

No, you enjoy.

I went for it last time.

We ain't talking about yesterday, we talking about today.

Hey, somebody go to YouTube.

Come on.

All right, all right.

Scared.

I'm gonna go.

I'm gonna go so easy.

No, I ain't gonna do that.

Let me go music.

Let's go.

Let's go music.

Don't look away.

I'm gonna show them for you.

Let's go.

I ain't tripping.

I'm gonna show them first.

So you know I ain't cheating.

I ain't no cheating.

Let me read it, though.

All right, I got you.

Hold on.

Let me read.

Which mathematical symbol was the title he achieved?

Which mathematical symbol was the title of Ed Sheeran's first album in 2011?

Eddie Sherman, Ed Sheeran.

That's the one with the.

Was it My body Rock My body thing.

Ain't that new?

He got red hurt.

That's all I know.

I. I got a couple of songs, but I know he got ready.

What's the answer?

So is it A?

And what's the answer?

The A.

The addition, B division.

Okay.

C, multiply.

Yeah, sure.

You said.

Which album Was this in?

2011, his first album.

Let me look it up.

Nah, you'll cheat.

I told you I'm bad.

Okay.

Let me do.

I'm gonna go.

A edition.

Yeah, A edition.

All right.

Okay.

Cause I'm a hate.

Yeah, there you go.

Let it go.

If it ain't the one womb womp I don't care.

Let's go.

All right, so your turn.

You came over here to music.

So I'm going.

Start over here.

Moving.

TR There.

Go.

All right, let me show them first.

Don't even look.

Show them first.

So y' all can see the answer.

Yeah, it's the bold one.

All right, cool.

Let me read it now.

All right, Let me read it.

Don't worry about it.

You can't read.

Let me read it.

No, I'm good.

All right.

All right.

How many V trap children or in there in the Sound of Music?

Read again.

How many Von Trapp children are there in the Sound of Music?

A, five, B seven.

I mean, I'm sorry.

B six, C seven.

I'm gonna read it again.

How many Von Trapp children are in there in the Sound of Music?

Yeah, five, six, seven, Right?

Five, six, seven.

You ain't going to get.

I got.

I got confidence in me.

I don't.

B6.

Okay.

My boy.

He fine.

Okay.

He trying to keep up with me.

I got him.

Yeah, yeah.

Seven, sir.

Yeah, I'm.

Put it in.

Yeah, there go.

That's why your kids don't like it.

Right there.

That's it.

That's it.

There you go.

All right.

So Listen, listen.

So as.

As I. I gather myself right here, and I'm thinking about it.

Okay.

It's things.

What you just showed me right here.

It's things in life that we just don't know.

We just don't know.

Man.

When the last time you.

Ed Sherman, listen.

And we was talking about, like, I know my kids age.

Yeah.

I know what my kids are allergic to.

I know what.

What sickness my kid has, whether it's a cold or.

Or whether it's eczema, whether.

Whatever it is.

But where your brain takes you.

Yeah.

Is.

It's all over the place.

100.

You know what I'm saying?

And.

And it's.

It's.

It's kind of crazy to me that as much as, you know, you forget just as much.

And it's.

It's funny you brought that up because.

And when I take my kids to the doctor, I'm not thinking about registration.

I'm not thinking about.

Or anything happened.

I'm not thinking about none of that.

I'm thinking about the result.

I just want the solution.

Hey, what's gonna.

What.

What we need to do.

Yeah.

You know what I'm saying?

How old is your baby?

I don't know.

When you're born, all that stuff.

Gone.

Just take care of the problem.

Can we get.

Get to the end.

And that's.

And it's.

And it is.

It's.

It's a.

A crazy thing.

But it's a good thing because Zoe

called me right now, because kids don't care.

Kids don't care.

It's on daytime.

But.

But it's a crazy thing.

And I really was talking about that to set up this question, but, you know, before I ask you a question.

Yeah.

We got to do something.

Yeah.

We got to take a shot.

We gotta take a shot.

You know that.

Get it.

There you go.

Junior?

Yes, sir.

How is your mental right now with

being a dad right now?

If you can't answer the question, I understand.

I get it.

You scared.

I am, But I ain't telling nobody else.

I'm very just.

It's just the people listening.

I'm very scared.

I ain't gonna even hold you.

I'm a real daddy.

I tell you what.

I'm scared.

Oh, yeah.

Because.

Okay, I'm.

I'm in the stage of.

I got a little fear because of my daughters.

They getting older, you know?

Well, I just say, not just my daughter.

My kids are getting older.

You know what I'm saying?

So now they starting to experience life a little different, you know?

What I'm saying than I grew up.

My oldest, you know, she's working and you know I got a grandson and grandson.

Hey man, chill out with that.

Your ugly, you know he ugly like he always do some like this.

I'm trying to express my feelings, but no it's.

But for her I just, I'm always worried about it.

Make sure she's safe and stuff like that, you know, doing her day to day.

And my second born, she's going to college.

So that's a different experience for me, you know what I'm saying?

Not just her going, it ain't cost to go to college.

Don't think you know what I'm saying.

And it ain't five dollars.

No, I got five.

Yeah.

Matter of fact she owed me five dollars.

So she.

Every time I get on the phone, I mean no lies like hey what my $5.

She will hurry up, get off the phone.

You sound like brother Allen.

Hey look, I'm holding her to it too.

So I change it up, I'll be like hey look I need two dozen quarters, I need three dollars and ones.

Oh, I said I need a two dollar bill.

I change it up.

But my boys on the other hand, they growing too and it bro, it's just, it's scary.

I'm scared for them too.

But I just, I just want to make sure that they always safe, you know, wherever they go or just, just mentally too, you know what I'm saying?

Make sure they strong minded, you know what I'm saying?

But I have a little fear just because I don't want to let them go.

I had to let my oldest go.

I didn't want to let her go, you know, because she growing up, she got a life to live and stuff like that.

But you know, they getting older, they leaving the house and bro, it's just simple fact that damn my babies, you know what I'm saying?

And eventually we do have to let them go and grow up and be, you know, be grown ups.

But that's why I'm here with them.

My mental is just that just then too.

I know it's probably one of the next topics.

Just make sure I can, you know, support them in anything that they do.

Yeah, no lie, no lie.

And me and you were talking and it was something that a comedian said.

And you're gonna hear this joke a lot because I really like the joke but especially when it comes to my girls as a dad, the scariest thing on earth is somebody's trying to penetrate my child.

Man.

Tell me about it.

And that's not something I'm ready for.

And before you can even get to that, I got a problem with.

Yeah.

You looking at my child.

And so Junior, we.

We don't just show up and do the show and talk on the mic.

Yeah.

We also get together and break down how we want the show going.

That's true.

And get to where your mind, where your head space is.

Where my head space is.

And we actually talk to each other.

Right.

And you were over at the house the other day.

And my baby is getting ready to go to a kentier.

Yeah, you should have seen his face.

And.

And my baby is very respectful.

She dressed respectful, junior.

Okay, so it went to shorts, where you hanging out?

Yeah, it's down to, you know, mid thigh high thigh.

Yeah.

Your shirt is pulled down and you ain't got your stomach, all that, but the shirt comes down to right above the top of the shorts.

Yeah.

So when you raise up you little stomach out and.

And I get it.

Yeah.

You know what I'm saying?

Cuz I was young.

Yeah, I get it too.

And when you.

When you know you look good, I want to show you.

Yeah.

I want to show you just how good I look.

And she didn't do anything wrong.

But she did everything wrong.

Junior.

You was there.

I was when she walked in and said, my ride outside.

Yeah, she got a ride to Kenna.

And it was from a parent.

Hey.

But before this, she said that I'm ready to take a shower, but she on the way.

You know what I'm saying?

So she's like, you know, she about to leave.

She about to leave and I'm fine.

Yeah.

Yeah, you good.

She got on whatever.

Yeah, she's chilling at the house.

Yeah, she good inside the house.

I ain't gotta worry about nobody looking at you.

Yeah, we at the house.

Yeah, but when she put it on, I don't know how to say this correctly, but I do my baby fine.

Okay.

She.

She.

She slim, but she thick.

And she's always been that way her whole life.

And so as a man, I can tell you you gorgeous as daddy.

Yeah.

And leave it at that.

I can tell you you beautiful.

You the most beautiful thing in the world.

And leave it at that.

But when you leave my presence, he ain't telling you you gorgeous.

To leave it at that.

He ain't just giving you a compliment.

I'm after something.

And you said something to start the show that really just opened me up.

You said I have a little fear.

Jerry ain't got a Little fear.

And you know, because you was there.

Yeah.

And you giving me wise counseling to.

To not jump off the ledge.

Because where I was with it is as soon as you get to the party, daddy pulling up it quick.

And you know this because I said this.

And they're like, nah, you can't be that way.

Yeah.

You have to allow your child to grow up.

You got to allow her to.

To trust you to be a part of her life.

So she's not trying to hide anything.

She's free to open up.

And like I told my woman, when I talk to her, she gave me wise counseling as well.

Yeah.

Not taken away from wisdom.

Yeah.

What she said.

But what I can tell you the truth of where I am mentally.

And what I said is I ain't trying to hear none of that.

I ain't trying to hear.

She.

I don't care.

Y' all not.

Y' all not really understanding that it's gonna be boys in this world.

Yeah.

That's looking at my child, not how I look at my child.

Yeah.

See, I look at my child, my children, utmost respectful.

And remember when I talked to you, I got Cason, who's.

She's beautiful in the face.

Yeah.

But she.

She got the body.

Her body is becoming a woman.

Yeah.

And then I got my twins, and so they're not developing in.

Into the grown up status, but I can look and see like, hey, my.

Ain't none of my kids ugly.

Yeah.

My little girl.

Yeah, she looked good, bro.

Yeah.

My little boy.

Yeah.

He got something daddy never had.

He got them eyes.

So you look like daddy.

And ain't nobody ever told me I was ugly.

Yeah.

So you look like daddy, but you got the greenish grayish eyes.

And if the sunlight hit right.

Are they blue?

Hold on.

Your eyes changing colors.

I know what women look at.

Yeah.

You can't touch my son.

Yeah.

There's nobody in the world that's good enough for my kids.

I feel.

And I gotta learn the same thing my daddy learned.

And you want me to accept that that's hard.

I can't accept that.

Do you know what I did in my past?

That's why I got that fear, Dominique.

I'm scared because I knew how to talk to parents.

Hey, Dominique, you said this years ago, and it resumed as soon as you said it.

You know, when it comes down to the girls, you know, I gotta worry about thousands of penises.

But when it comes down to the boys, I just gotta worry about just them.

Just.

Just one.

When you got that girl, though, then you gotta worry about thousands of them.

Because.

Because a woman can't leave the house.

Yeah.

Without at least 10 dudes throughout the day.

Yeah.

That's trying to holler.

Yeah.

So it's just like, that's the fear of.

For the girls and for the boys.

This is like, hey, man, hey.

It's gonna be there.

It's a diamond dozen.

Just.

It's gonna be there.

So it's just like, don't.

That's my line of fear.

Because they growing up, Dominique, to the point where they going to be adults.

And you know, I said this on one of the previous shows, like, I want to be able to raise my kids to be adults.

You know what I'm saying?

Cuz my mama did it, my daddy did it.

You know what I'm saying?

I'm an adult and I'm grown as hell.

I got kids now, they got grandkids.

I want the same thing, but at the same time, I'm scared.

And.

And you know.

You know what the scariest thing to me is?

The scariest thing to me is I know I'm doing a pretty damn good job.

You doing a hell of a job

as being a dad.

You done a hell of a job.

But is it good enough for you not to make the same mistakes I made?

Is it good enough for you to go down the path that I got made up in my mind?

Because I talk to my girls now and I'm telling them, y' all shouldn't even be worried about dating anybody until you 30.

No, I'm gonna say till you die.

You know what I'm saying?

So I'm just saying.

So for.

For me, it's the scariest thing is, am I really doing good enough?

I know I'm doing a good job, junior, because I heard somebody say, it ain't about the presence, it's about the presence.

Yeah.

So it's two different.

Two different words.

And I'm very much present.

Yeah, I'm right here.

You have daddy presence, and I'm teaching you and I'm talking to you and anything you gotta to.

To know if I don't know the answer, like I said on the last show, I'm gonna go figure it out.

Yeah.

Because I need you to know everything.

Yeah.

But is that good enough?

Yeah.

Because I'm looking back at my dad, and my dad was good enough.

Yeah, he was real good.

And I did all the wrong things.

All the wrong things.

And now when you turn it around, it's not so much of karma.

It's.

Are you Gonna go down that lane.

I went.

Yeah.

And I went down the lane where I love my kids to death, but I should have had kids when I was married.

Yeah.

I love my children to death, but it's hard for me to express to y' all how daddy actually lived his life before y' all were born.

I can't tell you everything about my past.

And the reason it is because I chose to do everything wrong.

And even now, my kids are going to tune into this show.

Yeah.

They gonna watch.

Yeah.

They're gonna eventually watch.

And my kids are me.

Yeah.

All mine is, so.

So if me and you sitting here talking noise, they gonna talk noise.

Yeah.

Side note, I did the trend.

I don't know if you saw.

I did the trend.

It said, describe me to the police if I went missing and you didn't

have a picture on the book.

I saw it on the book, bruh.

Every single one of my kids, all three of them describe just a black man.

Well, all of them said, I got a big head.

My youngest daughter said, I got a big booty.

Yeah.

My son said I got a mustache.

So you just describing black men.

So when the cops come looking for

me, for anybody, look, they are right by your.

I'm looking for a short, big head black man.

Well, it's a hundred of them, right?

Talking to each other.

And it's.

It's.

It's.

Yeah.

And it's.

It's.

It's.

It's to a point where it's.

I understand you're a child.

Yeah.

I want you to be here, but I don't want to grow you up too fast.

It's true.

And you going with this battle in your mind of bruh.

I simply gonna tell you the truth.

I don't know what I'm doing.

I'm lost.

But see, you know what, Dominique?

We always say this on the show.

Every time.

When has ever been a book on parenting?

Man, we say it on the show every time because it's the truth.

Like, it's books out there.

But at the same time, nobody give us a book to read about.

Hey, look, when they turn a 15, they gonna be in puberty.

Then all of a sudden, all this attitude stuff gonna change.

They gonna want to talk about this.

They're going to be antisocial.

They're going to do all that.

No.

Heck no.

Don't eat.

I ain't.

Because time is still moving and they still growing.

I'm still trying to figure out too, where.

Where the pamphlets go.

Like, my favorite time was also my worst time from 1.

Oh, that's my best time.

That's the best time to me.

But watch what?

Watch what I tell you why it's the worst time?

Because my kids were.

They, they daddy and their mama did a great job.

I'm not gonna lie to you.

They.

They were potty trained.

So no.

None of my kids were stealing diapers past about 14 months.

Yeah, they do.

They know.

They know.

Yeah, I use the pot.

Yeah.

And, and even, even with it one to four, you can't get up and do anything else.

So your, your mind tells you if it's a problem to cry.

You listen to everything daddy say.

I can do no wrong.

I can say no wrong.

Everything about daddy is, oh my God, that's my daddy.

But after you say, oh my God, that's my daddy, I got to turn around and do something for you, cuz you can't do it for yourself.

Yeah.

And now you want to go into the next form of.

So my oldest start cooking for herself, bro.

She learned eight, nine.

I told you.

She started doing her own hair at like 6.

Oh yeah.

Cuz I'm.

I'm not letting my daddy touch my head.

My daddy do a ponytail.

It's one right here.

It's one over here.

Her scattered all over the place.

You couldn't tell me I didn't do a great job until your child say no, I do it myself.

So basically messing up.

I did a terrible job.

I did a horrible job.

And, and so you going through these different forms of life, these different, these different pockets that your kids go through.

Cuz you were just talking about you got the attitude, you got the puberty, you got when daddy could never do anything wrong.

Yeah.

I was the coolest dad ever.

I was best dad.

They just wanted to say dad, daddy, that's it.

And, and I went through all of this and through all of it, you said something about that child's book do.

Is it a book out there on raising your kids?

N. It ain't.

And even if it was a book, your book can't break down.

Yeah.

My child, this over here.

Because that book might go.

Exactly.

Yeah.

But my child don't act like that.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And so even when I'm talking to you, you allow me to get it off.

Yeah.

So I feel better about myself, but I still ain't got no answer.

Look, what's the solution?

And as a man, I want the solution.

Yeah.

I'm telling you the problem.

I don't want the roundabout.

No.

No man wants to go around and

Round tell me right now what I need to do.

I want the straight line to that right there.

And nobody's gonna get that.

Yeah.

Because some, some people deal with the daughter that is scared of life.

But that, that ain't the best thing for daddy to deal with either.

Some people deal with the daughter, that.

That's a hoe.

Yeah, that ain't the best thing to deal with.

Some people deal with a child that's only focused on the most important things in life.

So she handles her business in school.

She get to be corporate America and she running things and she's the boss, but she doesn't pay attention to anything else.

And so now it's.

Man, I want my baby to learn what love is.

Yeah.

And so as much as I'm scared and talking this noise and I want my child like this, that and the other, bro, it's nothing in life where it's just gonna be good.

Now you gotta deal with the bad.

Now you got to deal with the bad and the ugly.

Dominique.

And I was gonna bring some in, but you had some good points in what you were saying.

And I'm gonna do what you did last.

So when you break this down, I forgot what I was gonna say because, look, because you had so many parts like that, you know, that he didn't know that you know all this.

But I'm gonna try to figure it out before we go.

You, you good.

But let's just continue on that because now it's what we look at as, you know, all our kids.

Right?

Oh, that's what I'm gonna say.

But you got, you got some dads, you know, that's out there still trying to figure it out.

And that's what we did, you know, I'm saying we didn't really just like, you know, give up, you know, when the time got tough on, you know, certain situations.

Because everybody, you know, has a, you know, a, A ceiling they see and they don't think they can go above that ceiling.

It could be at the one year old who can't deal with the crying all night, you know what I'm saying?

Or who can't deal with the, you know, the potty training.

Like it's always a.

A ceiling to the point where somebody get maxed out, but they don't know how to get through with it.

Right.

So I'm just going to talk to the dads real quick.

But never, never, you know, give up on, you know, what's important to you, if you know for a fact your kids are important to you always, you know, try to continue to, you know, push forward.

Because there's plenty of times I didn't call this guy right here just to vent on, you know, what's going on in my life when they're dealing with my kids.

And not saying.

He gave me a, you know, an answer, but he let me get it off to the point where, you know, I feel relieved and get back to the, you know, the show and it.

And, and by getting it off your chest and having somebody to talk to, you realize something because you got a great point right there.

There is no ceiling.

I am going on.

I forgot my age again.

39.

I'm going on 39.

And guess what my daddy is dealing with right now?

What's that?

Still trying to figure out how to be daddy to me.

Yeah.

I'm not in this household.

Yeah.

He don't pay my bills.

He's not taking care of my kids.

He's no longer taking care of me.

In, in a sense.

Yeah.

But he's still trying to figure out how to show up as daddy in my life.

There is no ceiling because it never stops.

Yeah.

I never stopped being dead.

Right.

I just figure out how to relate to my child, how to get through to my child, how to, how to stand in this rain with you.

Yeah.

Or bring the rain down on you.

See, that's what, that's what goes back to even the first time dads, I'm gonna say the 10 year old dad, like, that's been in the game for a long time.

Like you gonna, you're gonna get to a point where you feel like you, you know, you think you've done it all or you can't go no more, but you can.

It's just some effect and trying to figure it out.

What's the next thing.

Because I heard this, I think it was years ago.

You know, it's only something that you don't know because you don't know.

And what that is, is you got to go out and find it.

Yeah.

Because somebody might have that graduate that went to college and went to, you know, they grown now.

But you pushing that, you know, needle to try to get your kids there.

But they can give you an inside scoop on, hey, look, I did this, you know, I was trying to think about this.

But shoot, ain't gonna lie.

It hurt us.

It set us back a year or two.

But it's just simple fact of not giving up.

Yeah.

Because, bro, I ain't Dominique.

It been plenty of times, bro, I'm like, man, this yeah, like.

And no lie.

And it's.

It's a.

Something about having a child that changes everything or puts thing in.

I ain't gonna say changes everything.

Puts things in perspective for you, junior.

So my dad brings up all the time, this right here, this smoking.

And I done went from smoking weed.

Yeah.

Smoking black.

And miles.

And I was with you.

And now I'm on the vapes.

Because they're, they're.

They're healthier than the blacks.

Convenient.

Very much convenient.

Convenient.

And.

And it's not a smell.

And I ain't got to worry about putting the smell on my child or my child having to deal with this when they come into the room.

And that's what I'm thinking about.

And my dad reminded me of something.

You know, your kids are looking at you.

They're looking at everything you doing.

That's facts.

And it's not going to be put into perspective for you until your child picks it up.

And now your child is smoking.

And that looks different.

Well, it's.

It's everything.

So my child, my son, two years old, Junior.

Two?

Yeah.

Two.

Like.

No, I'm sorry.

Going on two.

Because he's sitting there and he's sitting on the couch.

And I know you.

You going on two or two years old.

Because your.

Your leg's not even out off the cushion.

It's just right here.

You spread your legs and they still on the cushion.

And it's a woman.

And we're all on couches sitting down.

Yeah.

Well, because little man is sitting right here.

Ain't nowhere else to see.

Right.

And I' ma act just like my daddy.

And I don't even realize I act just like my daddy.

So he scoots back, spreads his legs, and tell her, sit down right here.

That's cute.

Yeah.

My little man.

Look at him.

And then you keep paying attention.

And as he's telling her to sit down and she's getting closer, he puts his hand down.

Yeah.

Are you telling her to sit on your hand?

Yeah.

Hold on.

That played.

Yeah, in my mind.

Because now you really are acting like your daddy.

But I want you to act like your daddy and be a superstar in basketball or school or something else that's elevating you in life.

You acting like your daddy on how I view women.

Whoa.

I'm not showing you what love is.

I'm showing you daddy just love the.

The attention of women.

But they go back to.

Now you try to put all your flowers in the dark.

Yeah.

And your kids gonna show all of them.

Know What I'm saying, so.

Because there's plenty of times I've done that.

Like, I go outside, I smoke or whatever, and they pop outside and they see me.

But it's only a certain amount of time until they find out what you're doing, right?

Because now, like, my oldest, like, you know, she never.

I never really smoked around.

It.

I try not to smoke around and stuff like that, but one of the times she caught me smoking a couple times, you know what I'm saying?

And.

And the point that she saw me smoking, it was like she was just, like, trying to figure out, like, what is he doing?

You know what I'm saying?

To the point, like, you know, why is he doing it?

Then all of a sudden, she tried to do it herself.

But it's just like, they are paying attention, Dominique.

Every.

So they paying attention to everything, Everything, everything.

Everything you do.

So you have to monetize, like I would say.

Monetize.

Just be aware that, you know, your kids, they're like sponges, and they really trying to, you know, see what's really going on in life, because this new to them just how it was new to us.

You know what I'm saying?

Yeah.

No lie.

It's 50 to 35.

And.

And.

And.

And they don't have stiff.

I don't know what New York doing.

I told you.

It's Draymond.

Ooh, picked his pocket clean.

Draymond.

And so Junior.

Yes, sir.

You told me that anytime we do trivia.

Yeah, I'm sorry.

I'm sorry.

The next time we do trivia.

Yeah.

We would have to take a shot.

We do.

And I believe I'm first.

Yeah.

Yeah, you are first.

And I didn't mean to cut you off.

You still had something to say.

You.

You.

More than three?

No, no.

Because after this take you shot.

I got something to say.

I always got something to say.

I'm just saying.

So what?

I pick movie.

Yeah, you pick movie.

Let's do sports.

Trip.

All right, let's go sports.

Cry.

He gonna get it wrong.

I don't even know if I'm showing it right.

Can y' all see that?

The bowl.

That's the answer.

All right, here we go.

What is the only NFL team.

Team in an nf?

Oh, I said one.

NFL.

I said it wrong.

I can't even read.

Here we go.

What is the only team in the NFL to neither host nor play in a Super bowl as of 2022?

A, Buffalo Bills.

B, Cleveland Browns.

C, Green Bay Packers.

B, Cleveland Browns.

Yes, sir.

We're gonna give him a clap.

Hey, I ain't taking no shot.

And this is the shot round.

This is the shot, right?

Yeah.

You going to take a shot?

No shot.

Come on.

I'mma do say what you see.

Turn your head.

There you go.

No cheating.

You cheater.

I'm talking about they try to look like Mo.

Try to make sure I get it right.

Let's go.

Oh, yeah.

The funny thing is I know the answer.

I forgot the answer.

Yeah.

Growing pains.

I just want you to know.

Your head be such a ugly ass.

You man.

I got it right.

All right.

So.

So.

So I enjoy the conversation.

We going in?

Yeah.

Yeah, we talking.

You feeling free?

We've been talking, but I want to ask a question while we going on.

But, you know, before I ask any other questions or try to go any deeper, you know what we got to do first.

We gotta take a shot.

Take a shot.

Yeah.

Mm.

And I really want to give you a chance of which direction you want to go.

Hold on.

Why you take that shot?

I know I took the shot.

I got something to say.

I got something to say.

You hear me?

So I'm gonna give you.

I'm gonna give you a.

Which way you trying to keep this conversation going?

Do you want to speak on co parenting?

Blended families.

Okay.

Do you want to speak on.

Are you a better dad than husband?

Okay.

Or do you want to speak on?

What's one thing you are trying to get better at?

At being a dad.

Let's go co parenting, bro.

Oh.

Co parent.

Co parenting and blended family.

I like that.

Because I know it's a lot of people out there that co parent.

That.

That, that.

That either co parent or you're dealing with your.

Your significant other bringing in a child that.

That ain't yours.

Right.

So to speak.

Because I. I don't do step.

No.

I don't do step.

I'm not calling you my stuff.

Yeah.

Okay.

So I don't do that at all.

So you want to start off?

You want me to start.

No, you.

I went for a last time.

Y' all were trying to get me to go first,

so I really want to get you going for it.

You know, the alcohol burn.

That's it back.

That's it back.

My bad.

I'm put there right here.

I'm gonna put my beer right here.

So

I'm gonna keep sitting up.

That's gonna keep me going.

Yeah.

So for me, when we speaking on this, I got a couple of things.

I. I do deal with co parenting now.

Okay.

All right.

Not with my Oldest.

But with my twins I do so my oldest I have a full time, literally full time every day, all day.

The only outside help I get is from my sister.

She go to my sister house any chance she get.

Because I'm tired of you daddy.

Yeah, okay.

Yeah.

But with my twins I deal with the co parenting because they're they, their mom is a mom, good mom.

Not gonna take nothing away from her.

I also have dealt with a blended family because unless we come out and tell you, you don't know that me and my sister have two different biological dads.

Because I got a daddy who has my or who gave me my mindset.

I don't do stuff you mine once I tell you you mine.

Right?

You mine, right?

And I'm gonna remind you of everything that you got that's like me that you're getting from me that you you receiving from me.

Yeah.

And on both ease.

The hardest thing to deal with to me is dealing with everything not coming how you wanted.

But when you break it down and and and see it when you pay attention.

Let me say that, let me say that.

Let me say that.

Cuz I do remember what I'm talking about right now.

When you pay attention to it.

Co parenting, blended families are just your kids.

Nobody has all the answers.

No you don't.

And so you're looking for this thing that all humans like deal with and that's the control issue.

Like I don't have a problem with the twins mom unless she's talking to them or doing things that I wouldn't do.

I don't have a problem with.

I don't.

I'm not dealing with a stepchild or a child that's coming in.

But my woman is.

Nobody has a problem when they listening to you.

That's true.

It's.

I have a problem when, when they don't listen to me.

Are they doing what what they daddy allows them to do?

Because that's not how I think.

And it goes into what we were just talking about of you just can't stop you.

You can't live in I'm wrong.

You only have to remind yourself that you're right.

Because just because I love different than Junior or just because I think you should be doing this and it's different than Junior.

What me you were talking about if we have the same goal in mind.

It's that old saying that we heard our whole life.

It's more than one way to skin a cat.

It is.

But the problem I have in co parenting and blended families and I Gotta get abs and I gotta get mad.

Yeah.

Is why you ain't doing it my way.

Right.

You see, I started on the right foot.

Yeah.

Why are you shaving the back first?

Yeah.

That ain't how you supposed to do it.

Yeah, but am I skinning the cat?

Yeah, we both are.

I am.

Yeah.

But we start at the right foot.

And so it's really trying to come outside of my, my, my, my mental of.

I gotta learn how to do something that they taught us as a kid.

Yeah.

Share.

Yeah.

I don't want to.

Yes.

Facts.

I ain't telling you you're a bad mama.

Respects.

I ain't telling you you're a bad daddy.

Respect, though.

But why you ain't listening to me.

All right, Exactly.

No, I agree with you 100%.

But you know what?

For me, it's more of the.

Because I. I deal.

I deal with the.

The co parenting and because my wife, she had one before I met her, and I had two before we both met and we had one together, so we both co parenting then, too.

Of course, my other two, they have their own mom, but at the same time, mine's just more being considerate, you know what I'm saying?

Just being considerate.

What's going on, not just in your household, but in my household too, you know what I'm saying?

Because we.

I can't sit here and not, not.

I can't say, not think about what's going on, but just having a sense of she might.

Or he might, you know, need this or not have this or xyz.

Right.

But when it comes down to me, when it comes down to co parenting, it's all about trust for me.

You know what I'm saying?

Like.

You know what I'm saying?

Like, trust me on knowing that I'm a raised, you know, our kid in the way of going in this direction, but you can't be afraid to talk to me about, you know what I'm saying, what's going on with my kid, because I don't.

My household is totally different from your household.

But are you trusting her as well, though?

But I have you struggling with it.

I struggle with it.

Okay.

I do.

Okay.

The only reason why is because of what I'm.

What I'm seeing.

Okay.

So.

And what I mean by that is, okay, cool.

Well, he been with you.

She been with you for five plus years, living with you five plus years.

And I got you for a year.

And I'm seeing the traits of what I don't allow in my household.

Yeah.

You see what I'm saying?

So.

So now it's like, all right, cool.

I get that's what your mom do, but this how daddy rock.

So you have to see both sides.

But when.

When you.

When you tell them about how daddy rock, does it automatically make it wrong with how mama rock?

No, I just tell them, look, this is how I get down, okay?

Because I don't.

I ain't put no shade on how your mama do stuff.

That's what I want to hear.

Right.

You know what I'm saying?

I'm not talking about.

I'm not gonna do that.

That's how.

That's how your mama get down.

I get that.

That's cool.

But over here, this is how we do it.

You know what I'm saying?

Because I'm not.

I'm.

And I say this all the time.

I tell my kids all the time, your last name is Miles.

You know what I'm saying?

Even for my oldest, I've been knowing her since she was nine years old.

I treated just like my own.

Your last name is Miles.

And this hot.

This is how we get down over here.

I get you over there.

I get that.

But at the same time, look, don't forget where home is.

Yeah, I get you over there.

Come on with it.

You know what I'm saying, Pastor Miles?

Yeah, look, I'm a preacher today.

It is Sunday.

It is Sunday, Dominic.

Come on with it.

So.

But.

But it's the trust factor, Dominique, because I'm not.

I'm not taking nothing away from you.

I'm not.

But just be considerate of me because I'm a considerate of you.

You know what I'm saying?

But at the same time, as adults, we have to communicate as adults.

Because I'm the first one to reach out.

Especially I don't say I'm the first one.

I'm not.

I can't say that I lied.

I'm sorry.

But I'm saying I'm the person that will call.

And, hey, look, is this true?

Because you know for a fact this.

This shouldn't be.

Because you gotta hear my opinion, Dominique.

Because we.

We're co parenting.

Because I'm gonna hear yours, but you can't dismiss mine.

Yeah.

I'm trusting you to do X, Y, and Z. Yeah.

When I show up, I'm trusting you.

Make sure everything is right.

Facts.

But if I come around and everything not how I thought in my prop, I have something to say.

Yeah.

So now you have to hear my opinion.

Yeah.

Especially you want me involved yes.

So as a parent, I'm always involved with my kids, Dominique.

And I'm not gonna cut you off.

Go ahead.

You got the floor, J. I just like to throw it out there.

Go ahead.

Because, you know, I forget quick

when

I'm breaking it down.

You breaking it down.

So for me, it's.

You just said that you have to hear my opinion.

Yeah.

As a parent and you looking at both sides because it is a dad podcast.

It is.

So you're gonna let me know how dad feels.

Right.

Ok.

So you want her considered of your, your opinion up front, correct?

Yeah.

All right.

Every time you make a decision, are you considering her opinion up front?

I am.

Because I have to.

Because if you considering me, I got to consider you.

Okay.

And then with that, what if on both ends, the opinions are not really meeting in the middle?

Yeah.

Is it, is it still going to be Junior's this considerate individual that I can.

Let's, let's go your route first.

Okay.

And if it feels we can go this route or is Junior having the mindset of now we got to go

this route because daddy is right now, see, I, I got to come down to the point where we meet in the middle.

Okay.

I got to get there because why, Dominique?

I don't do drama, Dominique.

I don't, I really don't like drama, Dominique.

I don't like the back and forth.

Okay?

So we can't move until we get to disagreement.

I don't care if you wrong.

I don't care if I'm wrong.

But we have to come to a point where we got a solution that's best for the kids.

So the kids is the most important thing.

Heck, yeah.

So even, even if we're done.

I don't like you.

Yeah, you don't like me.

Right?

They don't take away from the kids

being the important, the most important thing.

Most important thing.

Because the kids, that's the reason why, you know, the kids is here.

You know what I'm saying?

Like, they didn't ask to be here.

Dominique.

We said that on the last show.

Hey, they didn't ask to be here.

Still asking my dad to pay my bills.

I didn't ask.

I didn't ask to be here.

You left it in.

I'm just saying.

You left it in.

My mama love to get mad.

You did.

You did this.

Yeah, so.

But it's like, But I, I, I, I got to be able to come to a.

Because I can't sit here.

And, and I know for a fact you have an Idea.

All right, cool.

I'm gonna lay mine out.

Okay, cool.

Once I lay mine.

Now if you push mine to the side.

Okay, you got it.

You got.

You ain't trying to hurt me.

You ain't been considered to me.

You don't know my position.

You don't.

You don't know where I'm at in life.

You don't know none of that.

Am I telling you?

No.

That ain't got nothing to do with you.

I'm talking about that one over there.

The one me and you had.

So we have to be able to sit down and come to an agreement and come to a neutral site to the point where we both have a yes.

You know what I'm saying?

Because it.

Dominique, it can keep.

We can go all week.

Dominique.

I'm long winded.

Dominique.

I can.

I can talk all day.

I can yell.

Jay, you done said it like, like 10 times on the show.

I got something to say.

I got plenty to say.

I can play the quiet road.

I can play.

Playing the quiet role.

And I can play dumb row too dumb.

But I can play the.

I got something to say until I get on your last boy.

I. I talking and don't need water.

And you know how they had a white R that go around your mouth?

I don't care.

You keep talking.

Still talk.

I still.

I get it out.

I.

But we go all night.

You got up.

But it.

But I want the best for.

For us.

Yeah.

You know what I'm saying?

Like, not for us, but for the kid.

Yeah.

Because, I mean, I can have five dollars.

You got five?

Yeah.

She need ten?

Yeah.

You got.

Do you have it?

Yeah.

But if you tell me your situation, I'm being considerate.

Yeah.

But if I tell you mine and you shoot my to the side, that's the problem.

And, and, and I. I like the example you just used.

Because when it's.

When it's solely about the kids.

What if I don't have my five?

Are you okay with paying attention and not.

Not treat me different?

Right.

Okay.

But when you don't have the five.

Right.

You know what my thought process is?

Yeah.

It's my kids anyway, regardless.

And so for.

For me, when you're talking about the co parenting and the blended family, it's about coming together and raising this child right.

Yeah.

My child shouldn't be dealing with us doing the wrong thing.

And what I mean by that is we didn't work out.

For whatever reason, we didn't work out.

But that has nothing to do with the child because Number one, the child didn't ask to be here.

Right.

And number two, as a child, I remember being a kid.

All I'm worried about is me.

That's it.

I ain't worried about nothing else.

Ah, Is it food in the refrigerator?

I can give you 10,000 excuses of why I want to do what I want to do and not what you asked me to do.

I can give you.

I can give you three 10,000 reasons on why I need this or I want this, and I don't want that over there.

You know what, Dominique?

I ain't mean to cut you off.

I don't remember last time I asked my mom and daddy everything.

All right?

And.

And.

And it took me getting good and grown.

I remember.

And I think I told you this before.

Case in.

My first born was born, and I'm watching her, and it's.

I don't know if.

If all the dads out there was prison when they child was born, but I've been.

I've been around for a natural birth.

Yeah.

And a C section.

Yeah.

I don't care which one of these.

They Nasty.

Nasty.

So I remember when my first born was born.

And I won't get into too much detail, but women go through a lot.

They do.

They have my utmost respect because women go through a lot.

They do.

When it's.

When it's time to push that child out, bruh.

Yeah.

It's a whole lot coming out.

Yeah.

That I don't want to see.

Yeah.

And.

And on top of that.

Yeah.

My child is sliding through all this.

Yeah.

My vagina.

It's coming.

It's coming out this end, it coming out that end.

All of it's coming out, and you got to pull the child through that.

Yeah.

So it's nasty.

But after they clean my baby off, because it wasn't until they cleaned my baby off.

Okay.

I. I told you, Joe, when she came out, I'm on this side of her mom, and I'm right here.

And when she came out, my baby came.

So if you.

You.

Me on the side of her giving birth, my baby came out with the face looking directly at me.

Yeah.

And I didn't need my daddy around.

I didn't need my sister around.

I see my face right away, and I told you, I came into this situation, I didn't believe she was mine.

Right or not.

I didn't believe.

I didn't want.

Yeah.

I didn't want to believe that.

Yeah.

Right now, not.

Not now.

Not now.

Life is going good.

I want to blast.

And I'm looking at her come out and it's like, that's mine.

And as soon as I got through holding my baby and I healed her for, for so long.

Yeah, I couldn't let go.

I noticed your mama.

Yeah, but you mine.

Yeah, I notice your Amy, but you mind the doctor saying this, that and the other.

Y' all got to wait.

I got my baby.

And as soon as I, I, I, I gave the baby back.

I didn't get a baby back to the mama.

I know that feeling.

I gave the baby back to the doctor.

Cuz the doctor got to do such and such and such and such.

So the baby can listen to bed and y' all can hold the baby and do everything y' all doing.

And as soon as I gave the baby back, I walked off.

And she's asking me where I'm going, going, and I'm like, I'll be right back.

I leave out the room.

I got a good support system.

Yeah.

That's what made that's what's making me a good dad.

Yeah, I got a good support system.

Support systems out there and need those.

My sister was there.

Yeah.

She at the hospital.

My daddy hadn't made it yet, but, oh, no, I'm lying, I'm lying.

It's somebody else that had made.

My daddy and my sister are there.

And I've always said, not the full truth.

I said, I called him on the phone.

I didn't.

They there.

And when I come out to let them know and to come see the baby, the first thing out my mouth is I'm sorry.

Yeah.

What are you apologizing for?

You just had a baby.

You, you baby Junior.

You've been around my daddy.

Yeah.

He ain't got no filter.

I got something to say.

Yeah, I gave, I got the saying.

I got something to say.

Yeah.

Literally came from him.

Shout out to coach.

Shout out to coach.

Appreciate the saying.

Appreciate the saying.

For real.

Insult, insult.

So as soon as I said, what did you apologizing for?

Your baby just came.

Ain't you excited?

I am, but because my baby just came, I'm realizing everything you went through.

Yeah.

Like at that moment, I'm realizing everything my dad went through, everything my sister went through.

Cuz she had to step up, be mama.

Cuz my mama not around.

My mama is in a nursing home.

I'm sorry.

And is coming to the point where it's like, bro, when it's about the child.

Yeah.

When it's about the child.

Yeah, bro, you don't understand everything you're going to go through behind that child.

I put my family through a whole lot of things, man.

Who you tell?

We got.

We got 300 more episodes of them subscribing to us.

And y' all gonna hear about my life story.

Y' all hear about my testimony.

But.

But I need you to know right now what we talking about with the co parenting and the blended family and the dads and the moms that's listening.

Like I gotta go through enough just to raise this child right.

I don't need to add in what J.R. said.

Trauma.

Yeah.

I don't need to be having a back and forth.

Even if we can't see.

Yeah.

I gotta see eye to eye with you.

Yeah.

Because at the end of the day.

Yeah.

When that child turned 18, that child turned 21.

Whenever your child grew up.

I didn't grow up for a minute until we.

I was a grown child to women too.

And I need you to see something.

My job is to make sure you straight.

Life ain't about you no more.

It's gone.

And so when you talking about this co parenting and blended family stuff, the most important thing is whether that child came from your left nut.

Yeah.

Or that child came through your front door.

Yeah.

That's what's important.

100 it ain't junior being right.

Right.

It ain't Dominic being wrong.

Gotcha.

But.

But now I gotta.

I gotta piggyback off this.

Dominique.

Now as.

As the.

As the parent of welcoming somebody in.

In your life.

Oh.

You know what I'm saying?

Don't talk about it.

You know what I'm saying?

I'm scared now.

We going there.

So you bringing that kid that's not yours voice Dominique.

Into your life, into your arms, into your presence.

My question is, how do you deal with that knowing that's not your biological.

Because I know for a fact it's a lot of dads that have, you know, kids that's not theirs that didn't come from the left.

You know what I'm saying?

Not matter of fact, they didn't come from no nut.

Yeah.

But they, they in your presence every day.

They came from another man.

They came from another man.

Yeah.

But how do you establish accept that knowing that's not yours?

And so we started to show up.

Cuz you dealt with that.

Yeah, I did before.

Before I got to where I am right now.

I dealt with that.

And I had four of them.

Four beautiful children.

And the hardest thing in the life for a man is to deal with something else.

For to deal with some.

Someone or Something that's another man.

Yeah.

And it's a pride thing.

It is big time.

And you have to remember what we started to show off with when I started talking.

You said it.

God is love.

100.

So the only thing I can fall back on is love.

Facts.

And.

And it's.

I'm not telling you.

When you fall back on love, it's gonna be easy.

Now, who preaching now, bro?

Come on with it.

For me, Pastor, for me, I dealt with these four, and I still love them with all my heart.

G. That will never change.

And for me, it's.

It's something as simple as I'm willing to go through the hardest thing in the world.

Cuz the hardest thing in the world is to accept something that ain't really yours.

This ain't really mine.

That's like me driving around junior car.

I can't fall in love with it.

Yeah.

Because I got to give it back.

Right.

I gotta share it.

Right.

So the hardest thing is to deal with that.

But the biggest reward is when you see them receive it.

Yeah.

That's big.

You.

It don't matter if it's your child or somebody else's child.

Yeah.

You know how long you got to go through some to see them receive your love?

My babies love me from day one, Jay.

God.

The first words all three of my kids said, it was dad.

Dad.

Yeah.

I'm still.

I'm not still, but I still fall into the category of I'm waiting on your love.

Yeah.

Show me that you receiving my love.

Show me that you appreciate daddy.

Yeah.

It's harder because I know you mind.

Yeah.

I don't know.

Yeah.

Do you see me as.

As dad, right.

As stepdad, as.

As.

As guardian, as anything where it's like, all right, I see you sacrificing for me.

Yeah.

And the hardest thing is to keep fighting through all the emotion, all the let down, all the hurt, all the man.

They run to their mom and they daddy, and I'm right here.

Yeah.

So I got to keep going.

Yeah.

See, see, mine is the other way around.

See, mine is more like.

It's more like trust because you got to be, not just for you, your mama, too.

You got to be able to trust me that I'm a raise.

Help raise your kid in the same direction that me and you got going on.

Because first of all, you have to trust me on making sure.

And I'm gonna go side note because it's a lot of.

It's a lot of people out there that do stupid stuff to kids Facts.

You know what I'm saying?

Facts.

I understand why it's hard to get

that trust, you know what I'm saying?

So you got to be able to trust me.

Not just the baby.

Now you do.

The mama.

Yeah.

You got to be able to trust me and let you know for a fact, look, me and you on the same page.

Because now that we on the same page, now I can show you how I'm gonna raise my kids, because it's not going to change how I raise my kids.

Kids that came from the left or the right nut.

But overall, I just want to know her for a fact.

She has somebody to lean on or he has somebody lean on.

Go ahead, Dominique.

You got kids?

I do.

You ain't never seen the kid that came from the right nut.

They came from the left because they ain't never right.

I don't know.

They ain't never right.

I don't know.

Dominique.

Sometimes they do go right when you beat them, right?

No, when they clean up the kids.

You did right.

But I told you to do.

Yeah, I'm just saying you did it right.

Shoot.

That was the right nut right there.

But when you do something wrong, you on the left.

Use the lip.

But that's what I'm saying.

So it's like, don't dance.

Don't be cognitive of.

Even though that's not yours, but you're there.

You're present.

So you have to, you know, show them your present, because you never know when they gonna get this type of attention.

And you got to keep speaking into existence.

Right?

I'm daddy.

I'm daddy.

Whether I got to share you with

another dad, it doesn't matter.

I'm daddy.

But you know for a fact you can count on me.

Yeah.

And that's my main thing I want you to know for it.

You can count on me.

And I'm never gonna stop showing you.

Why would I do that?

You know what I'm saying?

And that's what we said from the beginning.

It don't matter if it was my kid or if it was my old lady kid, bro.

It's like I. I really accept you as mine.

You know what I'm saying?

And we.

And we said at the beginning, like, I don't do the step.

I don't do the.

You know, this your baby and this my.

I don't do that.

If it's mine, it's mine.

If it's yours, it's.

It's what?

It's mine.

You know, at the end of the

day, all of it.

So my household.

So it's mine.

Yeah.

So I. I treat it like it's mine.

Like you gonna clean the dishes like everybody else cleaning dishes now?

You didn't pick that up.

How.

How you supposed to be picked up?

Whatever.

But at the same.

At the end of the day, look, I treat you like nothing.

I want you.

I mean, I treat you like the same.

I want you to be able to trust me because now I gotta trust you.

And I don't ever want you to see me treating the ones that came from my lift the different.

Different.

It ain't no different.

Different because you deserve it.

Right?

You did.

And all kids come in the same category.

What is that?

I didn't ask to be here.

Yeah.

So are you gonna give me love?

Yeah.

Are you gonna look for a reason to not give me love?

Yeah.

Oh, yeah.

I like how you're breaking it down.

But you know what's funny too, though?

I mean, I keep saying what's funny.

But what's different too, though, is Dominique, when you came in at different points, and what I mean by that is when I became.

When I got my blessed kid.

She was nine.

Yeah.

Yeah, she was nine, Dominique.

Yeah.

Yours was different for me.

Yeah.

You know, so you had grown.

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

When I came in.

In.

In that situation, one was teenage.

She was 15, 16.

Yeah.

One was coming in the teenage, so she like six, seventh grade.

And then the two youngest is little.

They're in elementary.

So I literally had every aspect of still being daddy because it ain't you grown.

And I'm moving on now.

I still need daddy in my life right now.

It.

But it's different.

So I got the.

The attitude and the going through puberty.

I got the learning that I'm getting ready to go through puberty.

And then I got the two where I just want to have fun.

Now hold on now.

So you can see this.

What age will use it when I came in.

Yeah, because that's.

Because you got to understand the mindset where he was at the time she.

Oh.

And we had a real life blended family, so.

So mom was 10 years older than me, and I was 10 years older than the oldest.

I'm 25, 26.

Yeah.

So mine, I was 25.

20.

Yeah, I was 25, 26, and she was nine.

So it's like we young, Dominique.

You know what I'm saying?

Young and trying to figure it out.

And now you fast forward.

Yeah.

Because your kids biologically was what, like little.

Little.

Yeah.

You Know what I'm saying?

So it's like that.

Like, you see where we.

You see what we said?

Like.

Like we wasn't, like, grown.

Like, how he is now?

Like, he.

He's 60, and I'm.

You know what I'm saying?

45.

You know, like, we young.

Like, we really young.

I got married at 25.

Dominique.

Yeah.

You know what I'm saying?

So I got married at 25.

So it's like, bro, we was young with, you know, older kids, and.

But that didn't change the mindset of us, you know, loving our kids the same at all.

Whatsoever.

Nah.

Whatsoever.

Hey, it's 58.

58 to 50 now.

They still win.

Yeah.

But they.

They trying to make a little comeback with Nasty, though.

That was nasty right there.

Poster.

Yeah, that's a poster right there.

But it's.

It's.

It's.

It might mean the cutting basketball, but.

But when it comes to this co parenting and blended thing, Jay, I've been dealing with this my whole life, so I had something a little different.

All right?

So I told you to start off like me and my sister don't have the same biological.

All right, what I. I need to introduce to the show.

Me and my.

My little brother, biological brother don't have the same mama, you know, but I've dealt with the blended family my entire life.

And what my daddy showed me, and it's funny, we talking about this.

My daddy actually was preaching a sermon today, and he ain't no pastor, but he led church today.

Shout out to Coach B.

He always taught us about love, and he had a saying, and he'll tell you, I told your mama, if you ever make me feel like she's not mine, I'll honor that.

But as long as you let me be daddy, I will always love her just like a daddy.

Oh, that's big, and that's huge for

me when you talk about this co parenting and blended thing.

The reason why it worked for them and showing me of how you love on somebody no matter what is because they made a decision of what we talking about right now, and it's.

We gotta come together.

Yeah.

Because it's easy for me to be petty.

It's not a woman thing.

Yeah.

That's a human thing.

Yeah.

I can be petty all day.

I can be petty quickly all day.

I can be petty.

Right now.

I'm gonna be petty, and I'd be glad.

So I'm gonna be petty.

So do that.

So for you to.

To grow up, be grown, and not ever use that against him.

And I don't know if you know this, but you dealt with my anger.

I got it from somebody.

Yeah.

I didn't just.

It didn't just.

I got it on both sides.

My mama was angry.

That DNA.

My daddy was angry.

But you know what I never heard.

But you know what I never heard them fight about?

If that's your child.

Yeah.

You ain't gotta fight about that.

Yeah.

We ain't gotta fight about you having a.

An opinion or a decision on raising this child.

Yeah.

I can disagree with you.

100.

But you know what?

The kids didn't know they was disagreeing with parenting on the child.

When they was fighting.

That was they stuff.

They wanted us out of it.

But when it came to the kids in front of y', all, it's gonna always look like we agree because it always has to be us against them.

100.

But we're not fighting you.

It's not a versus thing.

It's just, you got to understand, until you grown and can do things on your own, you're gonna listen to what mom and daddy gotta say.

Yeah.

Whether what you just said, whether mama wrong or daddy wrong.

What you don't know is mama told daddy he was wrong.

Behind closed doors, Daddy told mama.

I don't agree with you.

Behind closed doors, when we out here in the open, it's a quick.

You ask your mama.

Yeah.

It's a quick.

You ask your daddy.

Yeah.

And you gotta ask your daddy first.

Yeah.

And you got to talk to mama first.

Hey, let me talk to your mom and I'll let you know what's going on and.

And when you.

When you have it that way.

It's no way for the kids to grow up outside of.

Well, I can't put mom against daddy, and I can't put daddy against mama.

And you know what's funny you brought that up because now I'm gonna get a little deep in that because I, I told my kids this like three or four weeks ago.

I like, look, I don't do messages between me and your mom.

Y' all are kids.

Yeah.

Be kids.

Be kids.

You know what I'm saying?

That's.

That's for grown ups.

Us making a decision about y' all life right now financially or making sure y' all good.

That's between me and your mom.

They ain't got nothing to do with you.

Yeah.

You know what I'm saying?

Learn how to be a kid.

Yeah.

Go drink some Gatorade and some water or whatever, you know what I'm saying?

But right now, this is not your forte.

Yeah.

You know, stay.

This not your lane.

And I. I believe, too, parents, dads, that we gotta do more of that, you know, in the future.

Because it says, because kids are growing up faster than they are.

They got technology around Dominique.

They got, you know, a lot of stuff that we didn't have.

They got access to a whole lot of stuff.

Exactly.

This is.

That's the word I'm looking for.

They got access to a lot of things, but for us, we didn't.

So now for us, we have to communicate a lot better.

You know what I'm saying?

And then to pay attention to our kids a little bit more than what we did when we was growing up, because my mom used to kick us out.

Hey, look, y' all going outside.

Don't come back in because we ain't

got nothing to do in the house.

No way.

No way.

We had aol.

Yeah.

Look, you have to wait for the little man.

Remember that little man?

That little man, he just running.

And sometimes he don't even get to the third one.

He can stay in the middle.

You gotta.

You have to wait.

And I can leave.

Leave, leave and come back.

I can go outside and play.

He's still dialing up.

Yeah, that's.

We just showed out.

Hey, you ow me, though.

Yeah, you old.

You.

Ow you.

Ow you.

Hey, look.

Hey, y' all know we.

We in the studio.

Hey, Doing it.

You know what time it is, bro?

You know what time it is?

Trivia.

It's trivia time.

So go on.

Pe.

You go.

Don't be scared.

That's the alcohol.

Don't be.

Don't be scared.

I'mma do sports.

Let's go.

All right, sports.

Sports it is.

Let me show you.

Let me look over there.

You a cheater.

I'm trying to tell you

what name, okay.

Is used for the jagged teeth found on the front of a figure skate blade.

Oh, yeah.

Okay.

Is it A topic?

Yeah.

B.

Okay.

Rink tooth.

No.

C, Spur.

I'm gonna say.

Hey, topic.

There you go.

There you go.

There you go.

Hey, that was the old one, too.

I remember that.

I'm gonna go.

Say what you see.

Let go.

Say what you see.

Let me see it right now.

Let me show.

Show the cameras right there.

Y' all see that?

Yes, sir.

All right, let's see.

Let me show him.

All right.

Yeah.

Let me look at it real quick.

Yeah, Here we go.

Yes, sir.

I don't know that myself.

I'm just gonna say something.

I know I'm gonna be wrong.

Peter.

Peter.

All right.

The answer is a step backwards.

A step backwards it is.

Oh, hey.

Yes, sir.

Hold on, let me get him.

Yes, sir.

I'm gonna tell you like I told you last time.

That's why your kids don't like it.

Yeah, you took that shot.

Yeah, I tell you, a shot.

You know what I mean?

You know what I'm saying?

Hey, so pull up again.

You got to pull that up again, cuz.

Matter of fact, I'm going to take one with you.

I. I really want to take one with you.

So.

So I want.

I ain't going to ask you which one you want to go into.

I'mma go straight into it.

Are you a better dad than husband?

Oh, bro.

Yeah.

Rough.

I go for you.

No, you went for it last time.

I go first this time.

I'm sorry, babe.

I think I'm a better dad because.

I'm teaching and dad.

And I'm not learning.

I'm more teaching.

I'm learning, but I'm more trying to teach my kids, you know, to do better in life and then tutor.

I've been the kid, Dominique, you know what I'm saying?

I ain't really been a husband like that.

You know what I'm saying?

So I've been a kid.

So it's kind of.

Then I dealt with kids, you know, we dealt with the summer camp, you know what I'm saying?

So I think for the being a dad role, it's easy.

Remember, I forgot his name.

I think it was Nicholas.

And he's like, I think I told you.

He was like, oh, Joe, you got kids?

He's like, oh, dang, you got.

Man, they got a fun day.

Yeah.

You know what I'm saying?

So I think that part is naturally easy for me, easier for me because of, you know, I just dealt with a lot of kids, and I just love kids, so it makes it a lot easier for me.

Am I getting better as a husband?

Yeah, because it's a learning curve.

Look who said this?

I think it was.

Pastor Evan said it one time.

He was like, y' all gotta think about it as being a married couple.

It's two people coming together and.

And you're going off years.

Right.

So me and my wife, we're.

I'm gonna say, 15 years going in.

Basically, we were.

We're a teenager.

You know what I'm saying?

We're a teenager.

We're not even grown, so we still got a lot of stuff to learn.

Yeah.

You know, saying as each other.

Yeah.

Because we evolve every day.

Yeah.

Which our kids do too.

But at the same time, I'm guiding you basically, you know, as a dad.

And I think I'm better at that, you know, I'm saying aspect because of.

I'm just trying to teach you in a way to go, you know, what's best for you in that sense.

But, you know, I'm really kind of hit you with the.

Once you break it down, I forgot.

But so for me, I'm gonna be honest with you.

I'm a way better dad than a husband.

And I think that the reason why is when I tell the child something, I expect it done.

Okay.

I feel you.

And it's going to get done.

Yeah.

When I'm the husband, when I tell you something needs to be done.

Yeah.

I expect it done.

Yeah.

But I know you.

You can think for yourself because you've grown.

You grown.

And so now it's.

It's the riff raff, it's the back and forth.

Yeah.

Because as much as we can tell a truth about co parenting and we got to become bigger and grown like we are grown talking about grown things.

And your opinion of you different in my opinion of you.

Your opinion of me, it's different than my opinion of me.

Yeah.

And you got to go through this.

And your kids hold a mirror up to you, but when your kids hold a mirror up to you.

Yeah.

I don't have words behind it.

Nah.

When your wife holds a mirror up to you, she can get to the nitty gritty.

Yeah.

She got a whole paragraph.

And.

And with me, junior, just being open and honest with you.

I was talking to my woman today.

I'm a Pearson man.

I'm stubborn.

Stubborn.

And so for me, I know I am.

I'm stubborn and I'm stuck in my ways.

And it's.

It's hard to.

To come out for your woman.

It's way harder to come out for your woman than it is for your child.

Hey, hold on, Paul, right there.

You ain't coming out of you.

I forgot we in the new day and age.

I gotta.

I gotta find.

Hey, look, man, I had to make sure.

So coming outside of myself.

Thank you.

Thank you.

Please direct that coming outside of myself is easier for your child than your woman.

Yeah.

Because it's natural for me to think about.

I want to make you better in life.

Yeah.

I agree with that.

The first thing I think about when they come to my woman ain't so making you better in life is making sure I'm good in life.

And so you come at.

I'm coming.

I ain't gonna say no about nobody else.

Just me.

I'm coming at this relationship in a selfish way.

Yeah.

I'm not selfish with my kids.

Yeah.

So even on something as simple as a prenup.

Yeah.

J.R. heat.

I got millions of dollars.

Yeah.

Making my woman sign a prenup.

Why are you making that woman sign a prenup?

Because I don't want you taking the money away.

But when it comes to my kids, ain't no prenup.

All this is yours.

Yeah.

And so it's natural for me to.

To.

To think about building my legacy with my kids.

That's where your legacy is coming from.

And as a man, just being open and honest with you, it's hard for me to think about you being a part of it.

Even though.

Yeah.

We got kids together.

Even though if I die today.

That's facts.

It falls back on you.

Yeah.

It's hard for me to think about that because it's what we were talking about on the last show.

It's hard for a man who's actually a man who's actually a dad to get out of that Superman complex.

And you know the problem with a Superman complex in a relationship?

Tell me about two?

She not Lois Lane.

Because in a relationship, she gotta step up and handle her end.

And I can't save her all the time.

Sometimes she.

She's saving me.

And it's hard to get out of there.

Even when you saved me.

That was a fluke.

Yeah, that was.

Look, that ain't happening again.

You even know how to do that?

Like, what brought you to that solution?

What about you?

To the last solution.

Goddamn.

So for me, I understand up front.

And I think it's cool for everybody to.

To be open and honest when talking about this.

I think it's harder for me, or.

I'm sorry.

I think it's.

It's.

It's good that we have an open conversation about.

You know what?

As much as I'm working on myself as a day, I got to work on myself as a husband.

Yeah.

So all it breaks down to is I also got to work on myself in the business.

In the business world.

I got to work on Jerry.

You go to the gym.

Yeah, I do.

I got to work on my body.

Yeah.

I got to work on my.

My mental space with God.

I got to let him know he the number one priority.

So.

You always are working on something.

It's just.

It's one aspect where I hear a mouth behind it, and I don't want you to Be my mama.

Yeah.

But I want you to call me Daddy.

Yeah.

How does that make sense?

So I want you listening to my mouth, right?

I don't want to hear yours.

Yeah.

And so for me, it's not even a relationship topic, but it really is a relationship topic.

It is though, Dominique, because, like, when it comes down to.

Because it's, it's.

Now I have to be the loving, caring, you know, intuitive.

Oh, you know, person.

When it comes down to being a husband, when it comes down to my kids, I just gotta love y'.

All.

And I ain't always gotta be loving, right?

I can be hard.

I can do all that.

You know what I'm saying?

So it's just like, that's why, you know, I gotta apologize, babe.

I'm sorry.

I love you, but I'm a better dad.

But because this Dominique, I don't really open up.

Yeah, it's hard.

It's hard, bro.

So it's like, for me, it's like, I. I love you, baby.

But you, like you said earlier, like you did, you meant to do that, you know what I'm saying?

Did you try, you know what I'm saying?

Because now I'm thinking, right?

Yeah.

But I know you got the best interest in my, you know, in my life.

But at the same time, it's just like, you know, I. I just really don't.

I don't want to show you that side of me.

Honest to God truth.

Is the honest to God true.

Because you just said something.

The honest to God truth is I want my woman looking at me like,

you can count on me.

Yeah.

100.

And the problem is, if I want you looking at me that way, I can't look at you that way.

But I'm supposed to.

Yeah, like, but I got to, though.

Like, like, like, like, hold on.

You looking at me that way.

But like, you know what I'm saying?

Like, do I. I gotta do it.

You know what?

You right.

I gotta do it.

It's a two way stream.

Like, bro, that's the hardest thing in the world.

Because look, if you, if you, if you're a husband, you know, y' all are one.

Yeah.

So I have to look at you the same.

You know what I'm saying?

So it's like, if you're doing it, that's just like, if I'm pointing to you, you got to point to me, man.

So if I point to you, positive, you know, aspirations, like everything, we praying, all that, and I'm pointing to uplift you, and I'm Expecting the same.

Right.

But if I come around and you point to me and I ain't doing it to you, it's just like you don't feel away.

Right.

But then too, my question is, why are you here?

And.

And you know what I'm saying?

And so when you.

And I mean to cut you off.

No, you goodby, though.

And.

And so for me, the reason why I want to go straight into this topic, that's the alcohol.

Yeah, Ultras.

Oh, ultra.

Oh, you know what?

Don't worry about it.

I got you.

I got you.

So for me, when you.

When you thinking about it and breaking it down.

I'm sorry, when you paying attention.

I gotta stop saying break it down until I forget what I'm saying.

But when you pay attention to it, you really get the aspect of.

A lot of times, men get in their own way and we're getting in our own way because it's that old saying.

I told you.

I love the saying, you got too much dip on your chips.

Yeah, it's a lot of different.

You got too much dip on your chips, and you.

You feeling like you up here, you double dipping.

You know what I'm saying?

And you putting yourself on this pedestal, and she's some damsel in distress.

Yeah, you would.

Wait, Junior, I. I will forever be.

And it's with a woman on my side.

I will forever go help the damsel in the strips because she's a woman.

Yeah.

But you know what?

You don't want to deal with every day a damsel in distress.

I need you to have your own mind.

I need you to be able to take care of you if.

If I get locked up for the dumbest reason, because the cops are after me, okay?

They've locked me up for three months.

Hold it down.

I need you to.

I need to know in my mind that while I'm away, you holding my kids good, the house is good, you good.

And until daddy get back, I got it.

Yeah.

So why is it I want that?

Yeah, but the minute that woman opened up her mouth, I rather talk to my kids.

You know what, baby?

What?

Hey, you.

Let's go to Bron.

Look, let's go to Bron and go and get that Sunday that we were talking about the other day.

You know what I'm saying?

Like, swear, like, I don't want to deal with none of that.

This is easy over here, man.

And I can say no.

I can say, you know what?

We good.

Sit down.

I can do all that and.

And I'm not gonna make It a show about God, but it's even biblical.

And.

And God is showing you, like the first thing or the reason why it's so hard for men is cuz we have to understand the concept of everything that goes wrong.

Yeah.

Falls back on us 100% and 100%.

It's easy for me to do that with my kids 100%.

Cuz I got in my mind made up.

Y' all don't know anyway.

But you know what?

What you just said is the absolute truth.