Hello and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

your host Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful

journey called life. Today I'm recording my episode for you out

doors. So you might be hearing birds and bees in the

background, maybe a little bit of wind. I hope you liked this.

I hope you feel good. I hope you feel safe. I hope you feel

appreciated and loved and if you don't, I hope I can be a

stepping stone on your path to reconnecting with yourself to

finding yourself to finding your purpose to be on the path that

is right for you. It was my birthday yesterday and I want to

thank you so much for all the birthday wishes. All the love

and appreciation you sent me that was just incredible

overwhelming. But I was able to stay calm, not feel anxious and

just read a sea view your love and appreciation. So thank you

so so much. I will be live on Facebook here in a couple

moments. And if you can't make it if you want to watch the

video later on, you can just find it on my timeline or under

Aurora Eggert coaching. I will be talking about what I'm about

to do and launch here. In the next couple of weeks and months

for you. I will be hosting workshops, I will be starting in

southern Alberta and pincher Creek and Lethbridge maybe in

the Crowsnest pass and then go from there where after the wind

carries me or wherever you booked me into. If you tell me

you live in Timbuktu, you booked a room, to hold a workshop for

people to feel better about themselves, to help them reach

their potential also for small business owners to have

excellent leadership skills for them to motivate and inspire

their employees. For school teachers, I'm going to offer

workshops to feel Yeah, less burned out and on top of things

for young fathers, old fathers, young mothers, old mothers to

have a deep and nurturing connection with their children.

I will hold workshops for singles, for people who want to

find their mate and still feel like they are not tapping into

their true potential and are kind of searching around and

being desperate to find somebody but also anxious to get out

there again. And for couples, for couples who want to have a

deeper relationship with their partner again and there, I can

just focus on men just on women, or I take in couples, as little

groups. And then yeah, you guys, tell me in a second session,

what you need, what you want, I'll get ready. And then on the

actual date, you will learn lots about yourself about the people

around you. And I'm just so excited to be out there in the

world, not just behind my computer recording podcasts and

live video is for you, but to actually interact with people

and now COVID is more or less over. Let's hope for the best

there. And yeah, I want to be out there and connect with you

in real life. Today I want to talk about your thoughts. So I

talked about anxiety and nervousness in my last episodes

I highly recommend you going back and listening to those

episodes first because as I mentioned in every episode, this

podcast is kind of a build up. So if you're just jumping in

right now go back to season one and really learn how to truly

connect to yourself and then we build from there. Little

stepping stones for you to get to know yourself and connecting

with others on a deeper level.

And then last episode I talked about your thoughts and

emotions. Where do your thoughts come from? Where does your

emotions come from? And all eyes Share here is my opinion, my

experiences what I have learned, this is not medical advice. This

is no substitution for any counseling of psychotherapy. But

what I've learned is that our body deeply influences how we

feel. And our feelings deeply influence how we think. And our

thoughts are sometimes deeply conditioned by our environment,

how we grew up the social settings that we were exposed

to, at a very young age made us do not make us conclude about

ourselves in a certain way. And sometimes we made the wrong

conclusions about ourselves. Sometimes we got to question our

beliefs, our conditioning, and on tangle ourselves from

beliefs, conditions that are holding us back that are not

serving us anymore, that keep us stuck in a comfort zone, that

doesn't even feel good. So today, I want to talk about your

thoughts. Because last episode, I talked about your thoughts and

emotions. But I also want to make sure that you know that you

are not your thoughts, you are not your behavior. Your behavior

is strongly connected to your identity and how you feel about

yourself and others. And same goes for your thoughts. But if

we learn to detach ourselves from our thoughts, and to know

that we are actually the entity behind the thoughts, right, and

this is what you learn when you meditate. And if you're still a

newbie, when it comes to meditations, when you still have

huge resistance to meditation. Don't worry, I was there for a

long time, I resisted to meditation for the longest time.

And I'm still no expert. But what I know it does for me is

that I learn to watch my thoughts. And you can do that

right now here, don't worry, I'm going to, I'm not going to force

you to meditate here with me. But let's think about a pink

elephant. Let's think about a juicy lemon. Let's think about

the smile of a loved one. Now, you think of the elephant, the

lemon, the beautiful smile. And all I did is inspire was words,

something you could be thinking of now, do I know how your pink

elephant looks like? Do I know in which direction he looks? Is

he moving? is he standing still? What about the lemon? Is it a

whole lemon? Is it a half lemon? What about the smile of the

person you love? I have no idea who that is. But you have a very

precise image of those three things in your mind. And so do

I. And that's again, a very important thing to remember that

the map of the world of your partner of the people around you

looks very, very differently than your map how you perceive

things. And another thing I want to dive into today is that you

are the entity behind these thoughts now. Right, these

thoughts pop up. Because you saw an elephant before you saw a

lemon before you saw your loved one smiling before so you can

recall this memory. So your mind is just such an incredibly

awesome tool that you need to learn to use to your advantage.

And what I mean when I say you are not your thoughts, is that

if you were to sit down now and just watch your thoughts

floating by as if they were in a river and you're sitting by the

shore.

It would totally work. You would maybe think of what is Aurora

seeing there again today. I don't know what she means. Or I

love her voice or I'm thinking of my grocery list that I want

to get into right after a Thinking of something that I

want to do later in the day. And then you can come back to your

breath, come back to your body, come back to the present moment.

See, so what I'm trying to do here is to make you realize that

your thoughts are constantly running are constantly

influenced about how you feel and about what is happening in

your environment. But you can step into observer position,

birds perspective position, and decide if you want to take these

thoughts. Seriously, is it really important to think of

that pink elephant right now of the lemon of the juicy one and

the person that you love, and she or he is smiling? Or do you

want to be thinking of something else. Now, if you were focused

on homework or on your job, you wouldn't notice that, oh, your

mind is wandering, you want to bring it back, you want to

focus. You want to get things done at work for your homework,

or whatever it is you want to focus on. So I like to see my

thoughts as a misbehaved little child, that child wants my

attention, that child is loud. And that child wants me to run

after her chaser play with her, she wants my attention. But I

decide to focus in on what is important. And I get to decide

what is important, I get to decide which sod I want to

follow and believe. And which thought I'm going to drop. And

you can do this work all the way back to very ingrained and rigid

thought patterns that you have, and bust them open and dissect

them and analyze. If it's really true. Let's take for example,

you were bullied at school, when you were six, the children were

mean to you. They were laughing at you, they treated you badly.

You tried to keep up with your homework and everything. But

your grades just got worse and worse. And the bullying got

worse and worse. And it was just a whole shit show at school.

Now, the conclusion that you make about yourself is I don't

matter, people laugh at me. So that means I'm not important.

And my grades are shitty. So that means I'm stupid. You take

that believe, threw out your puberty and to adulthood. And to

this day you struggle with ADHD, and have a hard time to learn

new things. Because you still think that you're stupid, you

have a hard time to connect with people because you still think

people think that you're laughable and unimportant and

just silly. So you are this shy person who's crippled on a soul

level. Because you still believe that old thought that you had

back then when you got hurt the first time around, you had to

make sense of the other people's behavior. And usually, as a

child, we make everything about ourselves, we protect others

because we need others we want to belong. So if something goes

wrong, we usually say to ourselves that something is

wrong with us. And if you carry this into adulthood, into your

relationships into your work, you will not be able to do your

best because you're not going to show up as the person you're

meant to be. You're showing up as the person you are after

downloading

these limiting beliefs. And that's so destructive and so

painful to watch as an outsider as a coach, because I can

usually see very quickly if not in the first session than in the

second session how precious and unique my client In this who's

sitting in front of me and opening up about their stuff,

but they themselves still see themselves as broken,

dysfunctional, and not worthy. Not enough. So once we learn to

hack into these thoughts, and know that the thoughts are

always going to be there, they're always going to run in

the background. And you are the entity who decides what to

believe and what not. You go back to knowing who you are

meant to be on this planet. And then you only hook into the

thoughts that are serving you on a level where you can grow and

nourish yourself, expand and do the same for others, helping

empowering inspiring others. Alright, so I'm going to leave

you with a little exercise. I want you to do this when you are

by yourself at home in a safe place. You are not operating any

machinery, you are not driving a bicycle. Or any motorized

vehicle you are at home on a couch or in your room, you close

your eyes. And you see what happens. I want you to see which

thoughts come up. It can be distraction, it can be oh my

god, I don't want to be sitting here because I got so much to

do. All I got to scratch my head, or I got to feed the dog.

Set a timer on two minutes. Two minutes is more than enough. And

just watch your thoughts float by and smile at how creative

your mind is to get you out of this position of reflection.

Your mind doesn't want you to reflect because this would mean

that you threaten the ego that you threaten of letting go of

thoughts that it wants you to focus on. And then you stop and

then you go back to whatever you wanted to do. Just two minutes

do it. Share with me on how your experience went and connect with

me. Please also know that this podcast is donor driven. It is a

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you with this. And yeah, find the links in my show notes. To

find out more about Aurora Eggert, coaching about donations

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gonna go directly back into my podcast here. And I'm gonna

leave you with that. take really good care of yourself. And until