[00:00:00] Raggeria Goddard: It goes back to what I said earlier. Everything you need is inside of you. And for some of us, it's literally just stopping and reflecting on what we did, what we've done in our past. For me one of the biggest thing, like, I don't subscribe to imposter syndrome, To me it's one of those newly term that we put out there and everybody like, yeah, I do have that.

[00:00:24] It's believing in yourself and sometimes it's a matter of just going back and like I said, reflecting on what you've done. For me, it was going back, rewriting my resume and like, man, I did that, I did that and I did that too. Like just owning what you've done. Owning what you have, owning who you are, right?

[00:00:43] And don't listen to the noise. People always gonna try to downplay you, especially if they want what you have or wanna get where you are or wanna push you down so they can take your spot. So why are we allowing somebody else to tell me about me. I know what I've and when God gives you a plan or gives you a premonition to do something, me bouncing it off, Christy don't mean nothing.

[00:01:06] God gave it to me, not Christy. So what Christy says doesn't really matter, right? And that's where we have to, as women stop listening to and comparing ourselves to everybody else. We're all unique beings and we all have our svalue and our passions and our power, and we have to walk in our queendom. We have to own that.

[00:01:25] Christy, I dunno. I might have to cancel her. .

[00:01:56] Christy Rutherford: All right, we are live. Why is it at every time I get ready to get live with somebody, I forget, Raggaria that I don't be asking people for they bios. I don't right. I don't do right.

[00:02:06] Raggeria Goddard: We live though, so we live All right.

[00:02:09] Christy Rutherford: We live though cause we are, alright. So look ladies and gentlemen, welcome. It happens every week. At least I'm consistent.

[00:02:20] Welcome to Why Se's Winning. I have the phenomenal. The incredible, the brilliant, the gorgeous Raggaria Goddard with us today, we're going to be talking about how to work remote, but live in your dream location. So Raggaria, is a global innovation accelerator and innovation manager at General Motors.

[00:02:47] Hello? Global. Global. Not local, but global. That means that she's the ish. Okay. She was also a risk analyst at Bank of America, she's worked at Wells Fargo. She got her b a from Michigan State, and then her bachelor's in business administration from Eastern Michigan University. Raggaria, really is this private equity venture capital.

[00:03:14] She's all into vc, is that a right? Is that an accurate description?

[00:03:19] Raggeria Goddard: That's right.

[00:03:20] Christy Rutherford: When I think of you, you work at an enormous and phenomenal organization and you have a great role, but I still see vc, right? So everything, ladies, what we talk about is, yeah, we're right here, but it's like, what's the ultimate dream?

[00:03:36] So anyway, so welcome Raggaria.

[00:03:39] Raggeria Goddard: Thank you.

[00:03:41] Christy Rutherford: All right, so, what was going on with you, Raggaria. This is always my first question that I ask the ladies. What was going on with you when you say, you know what I need to do something different. I need to change what was going on.

[00:03:54] Raggeria Goddard: A lot of things was going on. I was feeling stuck. The pandemic was coming down on us and we were actually, we were in the pandemic and I had already done the first three months of the pandemic stuck in my house in Michigan in cold weather, and I said, I can't, like, I needed to do something different.

[00:04:12] And so I honestly thought the change of location would help me get over being stuck in some of that unsettled uneasiness that I was happy. And so I just, you know, kind of packed up a car and got on the road. I didn't have a real destination, but I knew the cold weather in Michigan was not the destination. So I started driving south and basically I landed in Miami, Florida.

[00:04:37] Christy Rutherford: Lemme tell you something about people who always pick at single people with no kids.

[00:04:44] Raggeria Goddard: Can't answer that.

[00:04:46] Christy Rutherford: Hallelujah.

[00:04:47] Raggeria Goddard: All day long.

[00:04:50] Christy Rutherford: Hey y'all about leave me alone, talking about I need to be married with kids. She said she packed up her car and just started driving.

[00:04:58] Raggeria Goddard: With no real destination. And I have some friends that live down south, south stopped along the way and they're like, you're doing what? I'm like, don't judge me. Don't judge me.

[00:05:08] Do I have a place to lay for a day or two to rest up? Okay, thank you. And I kept moving.

[00:05:14] Christy Rutherford: But here's the thing, Raggaria, what well a lot of people don't understand is that you are searching for a feeling. And a lot of times we want to feel different. And you think that it's in retail therapy. And I started to put a post up today, be like, if y'all crazy and if y'all out doing Black Friday, shame on you.

[00:05:31] I ain't do it cuz I ain't wanna catch the heat, but I'm must stand in this interview. So you were searching for a feeling. And even if you don't know, you'll know it when you find it. Like when we're shopping, you'll be like, what you looking for? You'll be like, I don't know, but I'll know it when I find it.

[00:05:44] And you went from Michigan to Miami? and you was like, yeah, this is it right here. So, all right. So, what made you want to, cuz you said you thought that was gonna be it being in Miami and then what was, I would say the click. Who is calling me? Girl? What is, I'm sorry, they supposed to be on silent.

[00:06:04] Raggeria Goddard: Man, we all trying to get to Chrisy.

[00:06:06] Christy Rutherford: No, be like, oh my God, my phone has never ringed before. Okay. So, tell the listeners about what was going on when you decided to. That's my wifi people, they gotta hook up my wifi, at the Bahamas, it don't work right.

[00:06:20] What was going on when you decided to work with us. And what was the messaging that caught your eye on that?

[00:06:26] Raggeria Goddard: A couple things. You know, I changed my location, and I did honestly feel better. I'm an outdoors person. I love warm weather and so that helped a lot, but I still didn't feel like I was getting over the hurdle. And I had tried all these different things, you know, read books and talked to other people, and I still felt like I was not getting over the hurdle and this was something I could not do alone.

[00:06:49] And I had been watching Christy for a while. I'd seen her post on LinkedIn. . One of the things that kept centering, I kept hearing her say, is the problem is not everything else, and everybody else, the problem is you.

[00:07:02] And I was digging deep trying to do this on my own. Like, I don't see where I'm creating a problem. And so after one conversation with her, it was just a quick consultation, maybe 15, 20 minutes.

[00:07:14] She just did this really quick deep dive in self-reflection. I had a self-reflection after the call. And even after I got off the call, I still was a little bit saying, ah, I'm not sure if that helps.

[00:07:24] But then I was like, you know what? At the end of the day, and all this time I haven't figured it out. And if that woman can give me a self-reflection in 15 minutes, and she's never talked to me ever before or never met me, clearly she has something offered that I need.

[00:07:39] Christy Rutherford: Mm, that's good. Cause here's the thing, we busy women, high achieving women, we don't have a lot of time to self-reflect because we're on to the next goal one.

[00:07:54] And we wanna conquer the world and we wanna do something completely different. Two, and we don't trust a lot of people cause most of the people who are giving you advice and telling you what you should be or what you should be doing is to their benefit and to your demise.

[00:08:12] Does that make sense? So to have a person who clearly be like, yeah, this is what I see. One, because most high-achieving women, we do the exact same things, and it is not that we're paranoid, we can't listen to a lot of people because we've been taken advantage of so much.

[00:08:27] So what would you say was one of the things that was said, right, because this is the thing about women.

[00:08:32] Black women especially, and it's not necessarily black women. What I've learned is a lot of ambitious women, we try to do it all on our own. Like, we wanna do everything on our own. And if it is been five years, you know, like we don't have forever. When are we gonna shortcut this thing and listen to somebody? And allow somebody to assist us.

[00:08:55] Cause I tell people all the time, I got multiple coaches, I need a lot of help. You know that, Raggaria you be like, you need a lot of help. I need a lot of help.

[00:09:03] So what's one thing that I said that made you be like, Hmm, if I got that one thing, that would be gold for me.

[00:09:10] Raggeria Goddard: I think the one thing that appeared to me was you asked me about my childhood, and you know, I think, a lot of us say, I had a decent childhood. There was nothing that stood out to me. And then so you peeled the layer a little more and you said, so tell me about your parents. Tell me about your upbringing.

[00:09:26] And I went on and talk about, you know, how my dad was a driver. Like, he really drove us, me, I have two. He always drove us to be our best. And just from that, I don't even know what else was said, but just from that small little indication you said, you can't fail, because your dad was a driver, you can't fail.

[00:09:46] And so you are not gonna step out and do something unless you know 100% that you're gonna succeed at it. And like, it sounds so simple, but it was a freaking light bulb that went off. I was just like, wow, like, that's true.

[00:10:00] And that was kind of it. I was just like, you know what? If she has that kind of insight, I definitely need to work with her in addition to, now that I know this, what do I do with it?

[00:10:11] So knowing is half the battle, but now you gotta put something into practice to get over that hurdle. And so one of the biggest lessons I learned in your course and I've shared this with so many people and they're like, that's so true. When you talk about the rocket, you know the rocket launches and it has all these things with it to get up in the air, the fuel and all that.

[00:10:30] But once it gets up in the air, it has to let those things down because you no longer need them. You're already up there. And so I think that's where I was like, I had gotten to a point that now I gotta offload some things so I can continue to go higher. And all the things that I try to do on my own, I never got to that point.

[00:10:49] Like, okay, maybe there's some things I'm holding onto that I need to unleash for me to go to the next level.

[00:10:56] Christy Rutherford: Woo. Ooh, that's good one. When you said being a driver, you could fail. I got chills. I ain't want to be like sticking my elbow. People like, what is she sticking her arm in the camera? Like, we don't realize until we stop, and have self reflection and have somebody say something, you can't fail that drives you.

[00:11:19] And this is the thing, ladies and gentlemen, for a person who can't fail ingrained since childhood, her dad did an amazing job. She's not a failure. She is the global manager of innovation. I mean, straight rockstar. But at a certain point it worked for you up to a certain point, and then now it's working against you because now you don't know what's slowing you down.

[00:11:43] You don't know what's wearing you down. And so, the saying is what got you to where you are won't get you to the next level. And the next level is really peace and joy. Because you have the capacity to get in your car drive for days, end up by Miami, and then be able to rent a spot.

[00:11:59] So you a little bougie. You're not be calling you bougie, right? You're a little bougie. Only bougie people can live in Miami. Does that make sense? You've earned it, but now you're like, this is part of it, but this ain't it. I was searching really what you wanted was peace.

[00:12:17] And for a person who can't fail, don't never have peace, never, and you won't step out and do something big because which is what we want to, at a certain point. Like the next thing has to be big because you're like, oh no, if I fail at that, and you'll think that you're letting yourself down, but it's all psychological.

[00:12:41] So, what was one thing you know, for the women, and the men on the line who can't feel like they can fail, what's one thing that you did that relieved you of that pressure?

[00:12:55] Raggeria Goddard: One thing that I did that would relieve me of that pressure mindset. So changing my mindset. One, you're really big on giving us material to really help you navigate through mindset and shutting off the noise. So some of that, I can't fail, that's noise, that's noise that I pulled onto.

[00:13:12] That's that recorder that I play over and over in my head. And until I can silence that, I can press pause or shut it off or throw it at the wall, whatever it is. Until I got that off of my desk and outta my head, I could not hurdle over the barrier. I was just stuck in this perpetual state.

[00:13:29] And I know there's so much more for me to do. Like you said, the next thing is bigger than what I've already done. But as I inched to it, I kept inching back cuz I was like yeah, not yet, I still need to do a little more research, but everything I ever heard about someone talking about their next level.

[00:13:45] Everything you need, you already have. It's already in you. You don't need to do more research. Your research is really procrastination, right? So it's just a matter of getting level set, getting your mind right, taking a pause, silencing the noise, and that happened through meditating that happened to through doing yoga.

[00:14:05] So daily movement that also happened through listening to like the different recorders, like growth mindset, all these different resources that are out there that kind of help you kind of see the, you know, there's all these stories that can, and there's all these different stories that are told, but there are also some that resonate with you more and what you think about what you do all day, who you're around, all that has a huge influence on you.

[00:14:28] And that was another, that was probably part two of it is like, okay, what does my circle look like and how does my circle help me get to the next level? And maybe they don't get to go with me to the next level. I love you, I'll love you here in that state, but when I go here, you might not get to go with me.

[00:14:43] I'll continue to hang out with you here and there, but you're just not part of my master mindset to go to that next level.

[00:14:52] Christy Rutherford: Ooh, you dropping nuggets, you dropping it on them. Alright, so let's talk about noise right quick. Whew. People ask, why did I, you know, I lived in DC for three weeks.

[00:15:03] Did you know I moved to DC for three weeks?

[00:15:05] Raggeria Goddard: I do. I do.

[00:15:08] Christy Rutherford: Got an apartment and everything.

[00:15:09] Raggeria Goddard: I get it. I totally get it. If it's not right. It's not right.

[00:15:14] Christy Rutherford: Is that right? When you searching for a feeling, you be like, this man, this ain't it. Pack it up. I'm leaving. But the noise of today, Raggeria is insane.

[00:15:27] Like, I don't really know what's going on. I just see the peripheral, but then I see this. Maybe I should have had my second cup of coffee before it was gonna mess up my lipstick before we got on this line because we gonna keep a rugged today. Are you ready?

[00:15:44] Raggeria Goddard: How about you?

[00:15:45] Christy Rutherford: Okay. Like, it was a post that was like, you know, find a person who can love you with your mental health battles. You know what I'm saying? I was like, where y'all come up with this stuff? Whatcha talking about? Right? Like, y'all two, you've got mental health problems that you've admitted to.

[00:16:11] He got mental health problems that he admitted to. Y'all gonna drag each other down the hell.

[00:16:16] Raggeria Goddard: I'll run up to the ground to see the sunset, with your mental illness together? No.

[00:16:20] Christy Rutherford: Both of y'all. Both of y'all. Cause whole people don't put up, and this is the thing about mental health, right? Like, there are levels to these things and we talk about, I get it.

[00:16:31] I cracked up somebody who cracked up and hit the bottom of the ocean, and almost drowned I thought I died five times and got back up. It's the mindset, what you were talking about. A lot of the mental health challenges is paying attention to like the darkness of the world and everything that's going on. And everybody is fighting.

[00:16:50] We fighting for, you know, the vaxxers, the anti-vaxxers. Wear the masks, don't wear the mask. Send the kids to school. Don't send the kids to school. You know, like going to the workplace. Don't come into the workplace. Along with being trapped in the house and having fear. Some people don't think the covid is real.

[00:17:06] Some people have lost family members to it. So the noise of today, ladies and gentlemen, is enough to drive you insane, but you don't have to wear it as a cloak.

[00:17:16] Raggeria Goddard: Say that one more time.

[00:17:17] Christy Rutherford: You don't have to wear it as a cloak. You don't have to say, I have mental health issues, so love me while I got them.

[00:17:26] You're owning that. You don't have to be crazy. Coming from somebody who was crazy. And, Raggeria this is before we even get to work. this's before you even get to work with your greatest enemy.

[00:17:41] Raggeria Goddard: With your coworkers. Yeah. This is all in your mind, in your environment. Before you walked out the door.

[00:17:47] Christy Rutherford: I'm sorry I went, don't hold a tangent on that, so lemme bring it back a little bit. So you talked about meditation, you talked about your circle being noise.

[00:17:55] Talk a little bit about about, because for all the people who are struggling and owning this mental health, you know, these challenges, which a lot of people don't know what it means. Like, you crazy coming from somebody who's crazy. I get it. So I can talk all the trash in the world.

[00:18:08] Talk to the listeners about what is one specific thing, one or two specific things, and give it to them in a little bit in detail so they can understand the power of meditation, because I don't think that people really get it.

[00:18:22] Raggeria Goddard: When you, let me give you an example that I did not realize was happening to me on a daily basis.

[00:18:29] In the morning, you wake up, your eyes open, you laying in the bed and you running down this checklist, I gotta do this, I gotta do that. Oops, I forgot to do this. I forgot to do that. That's how you started your day. And so that will carry you through the day the rest of the day.

[00:18:45] So you get outta the bed feeling like you're behind ,or you already overloaded. That's the wrong way to start the day. If you start the day, if you, what I do have to do, and I still do it sometimes, and I have to say, stop it, and I have to kind of shut down that noise.

[00:19:02] Make it kind of just go silent, and you can't stop your thoughts from happening, but let them flow by, don't go down the rabbit hole with the thought. If you say, oh, I gotta drop the kids off at school, okay let that float by. But just starting your day off with solitude, gratitude and just a moment of silence before you jump out of the bed and hit the ground running.

[00:19:26] So that was huge. And then getting more detailed and more involved in that is like literally get out of the bed and then take a moment to literally sit, you know, in Indian style and like your back straight breathing, and really like take at least 10, 15 minutes to meditate.

[00:19:46] Like, you stop your mind from going in the morning, but then also like literally take that moment to just sit and meditate and breathe. Even if you're counting, if you can distract your brain to do something else other than think of all these thoughts which might be counting or for me, I love water, so I'm thinking of the ocean and the sunset.

[00:20:07] Those things move all those thoughts outta my mind. And it's funny, it feels like you're not doing anything, but when you get up, you're breathing a lot easier. Your heartbeat is a lot lower. And then also as you start off in a day, things are more gliding, then it's like this rigid, like you're running into the next thing.

[00:20:29] And then for me, if I have to get in my car, something that I've been pondering over all week, all of a sudden the answer comes to me like, oh, you should just do this literally, and that's because I silenced the noise. Otherwise, if I got up and kept running that thought, it might've happened, but it would've got lost in a shuffle.

[00:20:47] So like just calming things down, breathing easier, like I just said earlier, everything you need is already inside of you, but you have to give it space to grow.

[00:21:01] Christy Rutherford: Yeah, that's good. That's good. James Allen talked about becoming the conscious master, and let's be clear, the thoughts that I expressed, Raggeria ain't connected to them.

[00:21:13] Okay. On the mental health thing, I wanna back up a little bit cuz I expect some smoke, but it's gonna be what it's gonna be, right? Because the thing about, I'm not downplaying mental health did it, did it, crack up Humpty Dumpty on the ground for four years and got up and this is what I learned.

[00:21:32] I had the power to control the circumstances that led to my demise. And I had the power like, and I didn't do anything. So that's why I'm passionate about what I do because, I mean, I talked to a lady last week who survived stage three breast cancer. Stage three. She in the third stages of recovery from stage three breast cancer, Raggeria, and talking about her problems of her job.

[00:21:59] Hold up. What? why we talking about your job? What's wrong you? Anyway, moving on.

[00:22:10] Raggeria Goddard: My favorite picture that you always showed us is a woman sitting on a bench. Saying she stuck. No. Oh, equivalent of us being an elephant chained to a pinch and saying, we're stuck.

[00:22:24] You the elephant, you can move anything. But yet you're saying you're stuck. That's the same example you just gave.

[00:22:30] Christy Rutherford: This is the same thing and this is the thing you think that is your job that's making you miserable is not the job. You're showing up to work miserable, blaming the job. I'm like, no, you was miserable before you got there.

[00:22:42] So to to be stuck, and to feel like you're not moving forward. Your soul wants you to be greater. You can go wherever you want to, but until you address what's really going on, and it's a small thing, I can't fail. Great. Let's address that.

[00:22:58] So talk about, cause I talked to a lot of people now, Raggeria who say, you know, I want to live on the beach or I wanna live here, but I can't.

[00:23:07] And I'm like, no, you can, you just don't have the courage or you out spending your money on purses. So people have enough money. You don't have to live in a penthouse when you go somewhere. And I ain't saying that you ain't, you know, live at bougie.

[00:23:22] I see the picture in the background, but what do you think stops people from, you know, really going out, and living where they want to because now with working from home remote people can pretty much live anywhere they want to. What do you thinks that's stopping people?

[00:23:36] Raggeria Goddard: It's fear. It's fear of taking that next step, and it's also taking it all at once. So, like I said, when I got in my car, I didn't know where I was gonna land.

[00:23:46] I just knew I wanted to be somewhere where it was warm. But if I'd had sat here and thought about, okay, I need to take this, you know, started running down all these things I need to do, I need to take with me, and then, I obsess over where I'm gonna stay. When you start to make it bigger than it needs to be, you'll never do it.

[00:24:04] Make it bite size, right? So, what is the bare minimum you need to get started. Do that. Pack your car. What are the bare necessities you need to take with you? Pack that get started. It's a matter of like putting it in chunk sizes, and vital side sizes that you can take in and get going, get to the accomplishment.

[00:24:26] It seems like a big endeavor, but it's really not as big as we all make it out to be. And to your point the cost-wise, I think a lot of us are very wasteful, right? When we talk about these bags and these shoes, and, you know, vacations and maybe even a type of car if you were willing to sacrifice on some of those.

[00:24:46] If money is the thought process where it's the barrier. If you were willing to sacrifice on some of those things that can get you that apartment in Miami or in a Bahamas or wherever it is that you wanna go or whatever it is that you wanna do, but sthere's always some sacrifice in some way, form or fashion.

[00:25:06] Right? I went with two bags. There was a lot of things I didn't have with me, but you know what? I made it work. It wasn't a big deal. And then in whatever I needed, I could figure out how to get what I needed. But, you know, it's a little bit of sacrifice on the front end for the big happiness on the back end, right?

[00:25:25] Christy Rutherford: All right. So you said a lot. I took notes. I take notes and everybody talk. She's so brilliant. Y'all baby taking notes. Y'all ready? Get all that right there. All that. Okay. So the law of sacrifice, the law of sacrifice is when you let go of something of a lower nature to receive something of a higher nature, that's a law.

[00:25:43] So my apartment in DC was actually more expensive than the condo I live here on the beach.

[00:25:53] But this is the thing she said, I got in my car and I just moved. Ludacris say, when I move, you move

[00:26:06] You're never gonna feel like you have enough. You're never gonna feel like you are enough. You're never gonna feel, and this is the thing, what people do, Raggeria. They had you called your friends before you got in the call? You'll still be in your apartment right now. Cause they'd be like, girl, you be, I'm on my way. I'm be in your house in two days.

[00:26:23] What? You know, it's okay. I got you. But had you called and asked, you know, your top three for permission, which is what people do, what would they have done to you?

[00:26:33] Raggeria Goddard: What day you come and what time? Well, maybe next week, they're putting you on a schedule. But you gotta be prepared to deal with their schedule or not.

[00:26:41] So I was prepared to get a hotel room, like no one had to offer me a place. But I just have such a wonderful, I'm so blessed with my community that a lot of people did offer me a lot of help along the way. However, if that wasn't an opportunity, I was gonna shove out those ducks for a hotel room.

[00:27:00] Christy Rutherford: Yeah. Because here's the thing, right? Like you had money. I'm cool if you let me stay, but my coming is not based on you allowing me to stay with you. That's the thing. Does that make sense? I don't need, I like you. Does that make sense? And this is the thing, people put barriers in front of them.

[00:27:25] Like you are a queen at work, you a boss at work. And then when it comes to making a decision for yourself, I put this in a post a couple weeks ago. It's almost like you were a three year old on a tricycle and you hit a rock. It's over. You hit the first bump, you hit that first rock, and then you be like, oh.

[00:27:41] And they, my friends will let me stay with them. Cause you didn't know where you were going anyway. But when you move, providence will show up when you take the first step. Jesus

[00:27:58] I would stop. He was like, no, I'm on one day, y'all. I'm Ow One. Jesus didn't heal people until they demonstrated their faith first, he said, stretch out your hand. The man had to stretch his hand out before he healed them. He said, pick up your bed and walk like people have to demonstrate their faith first before what you asked for shows up.

[00:28:23] Or what you desire shows up. I'm screaming now. Why am I yelling, Raggeria, calm me down.

[00:28:29] Raggeria Goddard: Oh, I can't, ain't nobody do knows you.

[00:28:33] Christy Rutherford: Why am I yelling? We are mighty and powerful for everybody else, but when it comes to making a decision for ourself, we let the first small rock stop us and then blame other people for why we can't move forward.

[00:28:48] Right, so I'm nailing because I'm passionate about women getting out of their own way and stop living these measly miserable lives and blaming other people without buying five flat screens. But they won't put that same money into healing, what's ailing them.

[00:29:06] Raggeria Goddard: And here's the thing, women move miracles. We're miracle workers, right? If your child was trying to get across the country and you had minimum money, you will figure out how to get that child across the country. But if you had to figure it out for yourself, then there's all these barriers of what if or, well, how I'm gonna do, you don't think about that when it's a dire need for someone else, right?

[00:29:27] But for yourself, somehow we put these barriers in front of ourselves, so we have to show up for ourselves as well as show up for others. Right?

[00:29:36] Christy Rutherford: Yeah. So let's talk about work right quick. How did after doing the work, right, and reconciling some of the books for your past, how did that change how you showed up at work?

[00:29:51] And then we're gonna talk about your personal life. How did that change?

[00:29:53] Raggeria Goddard: I think it was more mind over matter, right? So once I realized my mindset was probably my trigger for the things tha I was, you know, feeling burdened for by at work. Once I shifted my mindset, some of those things, no longer bother me anymore.

[00:30:11] You know, there were specific things that I thought might have been going on and sometimes, you know, you think something's going on, you can't quite put your finger on it, or you're just having a challenge and you just don't know why. But once I realized like, you know what?

[00:30:26] I am creating this situation and I'm in control of it. And I can make it be what I want it to be. So if I wanna go in and be miserable about what somebody says, that's what it's gonna be. But if I wanted to roll down my shoulder and keep it moving, then that's what it's gonna be too.

[00:30:41] So, you know, whatever you think you can is what you can. Whether you think you can or you can't, you can, right? So, shifting, my mindset allowed me to deal with the things that were going oo with work a lot easier. It was not a problem. I was making it a sbigger problem than it was. Because my mindset was so cluttered with all these other things.

[00:31:03] Christy Rutherford: Oh, I ain't put myself on mute. I'm clapping in the background. I thought I was in the background, clapping, I'm making all kinda noise. She said, I'm creating a situation. That was good. Y'all didn't write that down. I'm creating a situation and if you understand, I'm creating it.

[00:31:20] You have the power to control the outcome. So many women are victims of circumstance, so you are showing up to work with all the noise in your head. They're just creating more noise. But once you start to silence, and reconcile the books and heal some things that are going on and do active work, because this ain't passive work.

[00:31:42] If your habit is checking your phone before you get out of bed, now you said, I'm feeling overwhelmed and I'm feeling behind. Before you even hit the floor, you're going have a miserable day. Now you show up work clean, or somebody say something, you be like, all right.

[00:31:57] Where it used to set you off, right? Piss you off. You talk about it at lunch. You have a honeymoon at two o'clock to soothe the soul of whatever pain somebody created for you. Not even like this, alright, and they're like, because they're expecting rage. Does that make sense? Or passive aggressiveness or heat that come off of people know at work whether or not you like them.

[00:32:22] They you be like this. Yeah. All right. Alright. And now you like this. Okay. And they're like, I like her.

[00:32:29] Raggeria Goddard: Yeah. That's it. What happened?

[00:32:33] Christy Rutherford: So, talk a little bit about how it changed in your personal life. Like how you feel personally. Cuz it's the same thing, but you're the same person. Now, navigating both arenas.

[00:32:46] Raggeria Goddard: A barrier is a barrier. No matter if it's personal at work or, you know, with your loved ones. It's a barrier. And once you start to pull those barriers down, that frees up your space, right? When you start to move things outta your way, now you can move a little easier. You can see what's what's in front of you a lot brighter.

[00:33:07] And so in my personal life, I think changing my mindset, like Christy, you heard all my revelations during the course. Like I was in a new city. I didn't know anybody. But I was getting out, navigating, just trying to find my way. And I found myself in circles that I couldn't have dreamed of.

[00:33:25] Like if I had crafted the perfect double 07 plan to get there, I probably wouldn't have gotten there. In the state that I was in before I started Christy's course, but once I started to remove these barriers, all those things that I was desiring, they were just coming to me.

[00:33:41] Like it was nothing I did special. It was just like placement and then also mental minds. I keep going back to this mindset, I felt clearer. I felt happier. When I go out and I'm talking to people, I'm presenting myself in a different kind of way that sometimes we don't know how we're coming across.

[00:34:00] And I think those opening, feeling more happy, created openings and more welcomeness that I was offering across, like things that were showing up on my face. But it is just like in my personal life, it just started to tear those walls down and open up better avenues for me.

[00:34:21] Christy Rutherford: All right. All right, so let's talk about that, right? Cause we think that doors are closed. But the doors open when you are open. We talk about doors being locked on us, but the doors are locked when you locked up. So none of your internal circumstances changed and then it got reflected in your external, like you did the work to clean up inside.

[00:34:51] And it's worth it. Now, it's not easy, but it is worth it, and the hardest part is how long are you gonna hold on to what's no longer serving you? That's just the hardest part. So when I talk about being, you know, crazy for four years, I could have been done in eight weeks. I love being angry.

[00:35:13] That's a part of who I am. You be like, how's that serving you? Well, it's not no more. All right, fine, fine. God, take it.

[00:35:19] I ain't cussing people out when they make me mad. I be like this, that's not gonna work for you on this next level. I can't put you on stage and how you blacking out on front. What you gonna do now?

[00:35:28] Fine. Take that. Nah, just cuss them out on camera behind the scenes. Anyway, I was playing. So, let's talk about you know, what are your beliefs around the imposter syndrome, and then I want you to talk about executive presence because we're taught, people are taking these executive presence classes and it's teaching you to act like other people.

[00:35:53] Right, executive presence. They're teaching you how to be acceptable to other people by mimicking and mirroring other people. But that's not who you are. Once you showed up, Raggeria as Raggeria people are, I like you finally. Cause you like yourself. What are your thoughts around that? Cause I always, you know, I'm the loudest.

[00:36:15] But I tell people I produce fruit. That's just like me. That's my goal in the world. I gotta produce enough women so we can start to create a new narrative around the lies that we've been told that's holding us hostage and not allowing us to live the life that we desire. So what's your thoughts around that, Raggeria?

[00:36:31] Raggeria Goddard: It goes back to what I said earlier. Everything you need is inside of you. And for some of us, it's literally just stopping and reflecting on what we did, what we've done in our past. For me, one of the, biggest thing, like I don't subscribe to imposter syndrome. To me, it's one of those newly term that we put out there and everybody like, yeah, I do have that.

[00:36:56] It's believing in yourself and sometimes it's a matter of just going back and like I said, reflecting on what you've done. For me, it was going back, rewriting my resume and like, man, I did that, I did that and I did that too. Like just owning what you've done. Owning what you have, owning who you are, right?

[00:37:14] And don't listen to the noise. People always gonna try to downplay you, especially if they want what you have or wanna get where you are or wanna push you down so they can take your spot. So why are we allowing somebody else to tell me about me. I know what I've. And when God gives you a plan or gives you a premonition to do something, me bouncing it off, Christy don't mean nothing.

[00:37:38] God gave it to me, not Christy So what Christy says doesn't really matter, right? And that's where we have to, as women stop listening to and comparing ourselves to everybody else. We're all unique beings and we all have our svalue and our passions and our power, and we have to walk in our queendom. We have to own that.

[00:37:56] So that imposter syndrome. I think we should scrap that word just like we scrapped a lot of words. That's one of those words that we need to scrap. Cuz, I don't think we need one additional barrier for women to say, yeah, I have that too. You are a queen walking your queendom.

[00:38:17] Christy Rutherford: Ooh, go Raggeria. Y'all sign up for that chat.

[00:38:25] Raggeria Goddard: I'm just saying, man, for us women, it's so hard. You gotta look this way. You gotta talk this way, you gotta be like this. And none of that is true. Be who you are. Own who you are. Last night I was watching a documentary on Richard Pryor and same thing, he went through this whole thing and them telling him who he could be and how he had to be.

[00:38:45] And when he said, you know what, I am Richard all day long, and this is what you get, what you see is what you get. That's when that man came into his own, like he was one of the richest black men in the entertainment industry. We have to own our space and don't let somebody tell us where we supposed to sit or how we supposed to look or what we supposed to do, or how we supposed to live.

[00:39:10] Christy Rutherford: So I'm gonna say something completely since we all tap it, Raggeria, we counted that.

[00:39:16] Cuz I'm so bothered by the new beauty standards for sisters. Like we got eyelashes, we got snacks, waist trainers, waist that are this big dry freaking eyebrows you know, our eyebrows on. And then we got these wigs like, who told us we beautiful, natural. We got nails like that's money that you could be using to get a condo in the Bahamas.

[00:39:49] Don't tell me you ain't got no money when you got on $10,000 worth of accessories monthly, right? Who told us that we weren't beautiful? You said it. Why am I letting you tell me about me? So we let people tell us that we're devalued and don't have any value in articles before we even get to work. Then you show up at work saying, tell me I'm valuable.

[00:40:14] And they like, please, nope. And you're like, but am I valuable? And they're like, nah. And then you feel devalued and you never asked for it. So we're caught in this vicious cycle because we're waiting for everybody to validate us and value us, and we're not doing it for ourselves. People are just reflecting what you believe to be true about yourself.

[00:40:39] Raggeria Goddard: And you're never gonna meet the standard somebody else set for you. You don't. It's a moving goal post. You'll never find that. You set your own standard and you match that, and then you surpass that.

[00:40:51] Christy Rutherford: So what insight do you have for people? Because we do group. Right. And you know, there's no one of seven women in the group and I don't talk to everybody cuz I'm not for everybody, which everybody knows. If y'all don't know that now, Christy Rutherford ain't for everybody. It's cool though. But people think that, you know, oh, Christy, well I just wanna talk to you one on one.

[00:41:11] And I'm like, no, we have a group, we have a recipe. What was surprising to you about the group of women that you joined along this journey?

[00:41:19] Raggeria Goddard: I'll start off by saying I'm a very private person, so I'm the one that come in and look around first and then decide if I wanna interact, but in this group one, you see all these mirrors of yourself.

[00:41:31] So everything that in a group of seven women, every woman will say something that resonates with you. And that's where I think it helps, where you recognize like, wow, this is not just a Raggeria problem, or this is not just a me problem. This is something we are all struggling with and working in a group allows you to get a lot larger impact on what you're going after because you're learning from each other.

[00:41:59] There's somebody that will say something that you didn't even think of and in that term, but it resonates better if it's one-to-one. All I get is what Christy is saying to me, and she's probably just bouncing off what I just said, cuz she's the coach. But when you got other women in a group that are also struggling with various things or something that you may not even realize that you might be struggling with, but they bring it up and you're like, you know, I didn't think of it that way, but absolutely.

[00:42:22] So the ability to learn from others is huge. Secondly, when you go through the fire with the group, that's your core group, right? Any of these women I see again and they see my name. We're jumping in. We're we're right there. We're the soul Sisters all there. And so creating a tribe that you can have, that you can follow up with, even once the course is over you, I still have these people in my life that I know that I can reach out to if I got a problem or if I just wanna talk through something or just like celebrate a win.

[00:42:52] Sometimes you don't, like when I talked earlier, when you're launching to that next level, some of your core circle isn't with you, so now you need a new circle. And so some of these women that I've met in this group they're my new circle. If I wanna celebrate a win and I don't know who to go to, I can pick out the phone.

[00:43:09] We have a group text. We group texting each other. And so, it just creates a community of women that are similar to you, right? And then also as you're launching to that next level, it can be lonely at the top. And so all these are high achieving women. So not only did you get healed in a process, now you have a community that backs you up and you all might end up working for each other, supporting each other on each other boards.

[00:43:32] It's just endless opportunity. So to go to that next level, you need to create your tribe, your mastermind group.

[00:43:41] Christy Rutherford: So here's the thing, right? What I love about it is high achieving women. We beat ourselves up one, we the most paranoid cuz they after us, we knew it.

[00:43:54] You were like, they go ahead and slip and fall and slip on a rock. Oh, it's over. They're gonna take your job. In our minds, we're gonna lose it all. And the whole queen them is gonna fall down all at the same time and we judge ourselves and beat ourselves up the most because we have to be perfect and everybody respects us and we're on this mantle and we can't fail, right?

[00:44:13] So that's a universal problem that high achieving women have this small group, once you see that you're not the only one that suffers from this stuff. He'd be like, oh my God, I'm not by myself. I thought I was. I self-destructed in my head first. Then my body fell apart because I thought that I was by myself and I'm holding it in and it's not healthy to hold it all in.

[00:44:34] So after I fell apart and then I started talking to other women, I was like, wait, you got the same problem as me. Wait, you in South Africa, how you got the same problems I got over here? The US wait, you in France? You know, you in Taiwan. How you got the same you from Germany, how you have the same exact problem.

[00:44:51] So I'm not talking to everybody, I'm talking to a small select group of women. Because we gonna kill it and we're gonna crush the world. But we crazy and we can't tell nobody. And it's not, you know, crazy is our relative right? But we're suffering in our success and nobody cares because we're successful.

[00:45:10] And so to be able to unpack it and now be a part of a group of healed women, I said, when have you ever seen a group been in a room with a bunch of power women, where it is all love in the room? Ain't nobody bumping chest. We not talking about, you know, I am so and so, who's the VP of da, da, da. We don't care.

[00:45:26] It's all love in the room. And that's my goal, to create this community where, you know, we're healthy and we're healed and we're whole and we could just be human as opposed to being, you know, our position when we show up in the room. So, one last question, Raggeria two last questions cuz this was about living remote you know, living in your dream location.

[00:45:50] What has, I'll say your journey, I think it's been about six months. What has it taught you about, you know, just about life? Life in general? I just want you to give the overall, like where you are right now in life.

[00:46:07] Raggeria Goddard: I think it's taught me the manifestation. So creating a level of happiness and then manifesting what comes next, it sounds very cloudy, it sounds very supernatural, but like getting to a happy place will attract more happiness. It's like laws of attraction, right? When I got to Miami, I was super happy.

[00:46:29] Like, I go with the sun, it was sunshine. I could go outside. It was a covid environment, so I wasn't really doing a lot of interacting with people, but just being near the water, that's my happy place. But then it started to track more and more happiness, so it manifested all the things that I was thinking of in my mind or thinking I wanted to have those things just started to come to me.

[00:46:49] So I think overall on my life is recognizing, like trying to get to that happy place first, and then once you get to that happy place, everything else around you starts to look the same. So you're attracting more of that into your life. When you're in the dark, you'll attract more dark. So you're trying to, whatever it is that you're after whatever it is you're trying to succeed at.

[00:47:10] I think getting in a good spot, a good place, a happy place, and inner reflection and then manifesting, what else that you want to add onto to that.

[00:47:22] Christy Rutherford: All right. That's good. That's good. Okay, one last question. What advice do you have for women who think that, you know, Christy, a little special, right? I'm a little special. I ain't real special. Okay. I'm real special. But what advice do you have for women who say, you know what, I wanna be different and I think I wanna work with Christy, but I'm not sure. What advice do you have for people who are teetering on edge?

[00:47:44] Raggeria Goddard: I think you have to ask yourself, why aren't you sure? Investing yourself is the best investment you'll ever have. And so, if it's a money thing, who's more worth it than you are? And then if you're on the fence of like, you know, is Christy the one or is she for me.

[00:48:07] What's your alternative? I think you have to go around and see what else is out there, but if you're attracted to Christy, there's something there that I think probably is already working for you. So I think it's one, investing in yourself. Two, how much more time do you have to waste?

[00:48:21] like, how much longer are you gonna spend on this circle? Because that's a little bit of a level of procrastination. So how much more time you gonna spend trying to figure this out? And then three, what is your pause? Like, is it fear?

[00:48:36] And so now you gotta figure out how do I get over that hurdle? And that's part of that is wrap back into like, this is what I would work with Christy.

[00:48:43] Christy Rutherford: All right, Raggeria. Thank you so much for joining us, dropping all these bombs. I got two pages of notes. Thank you for showing up, and being authentic.

[00:48:54] Sharing your story, sharing your advice, and really, you know, giving women the insight that they have the power to change their lives. Just get in your car and start driving. You're laying somewhere, and if you didn't land somewhere, you got somewhere to go back to. But just get in your car.

[00:49:16] And I love your story because it's like, I just got in my car, I'm gonna find it. And you went all the way to Miami, he was like this, this is it right here. That's a long way. I'm thinking about the map, be like, oh my God.

[00:49:30] Raggeria Goddard: I stopped along though. I stopped in many cities along the way, and I was like the, you know, little Red Riding Hood.

[00:49:37] Like, I tried this one. Nope, this one didn't work. But when I got to where I needed to be, I knew what it was when I got there. Right. So to that point is, you know what you're looking for. You may not be able to call it out, but once you get there, you know that's it,

[00:49:54] Christy Rutherford: All right. This Sebastian, what advice do you have for someone who wants to go into the remote workspace as a job seeker from West Africa? I got some advice for you. Do you have some advice Raggeria, what you got for him?

[00:50:08] Raggeria Goddard: What's your advice for someone who wants to go into the remote workspace?

[00:50:13] I don't know what you mean. Go into the remote workspace. Like are you already working remote, I guess is that.

[00:50:18] Christy Rutherford: I think she probably works for somebody in an office and now she wants to go remote.

[00:50:24] Raggeria Goddard: I mean at this point, we've been operating in an environment where most people have not been in an office, right?

[00:50:32] And so if you can do your job remotely, you can prove that you can do your job remotely and it doesn't change the quality or the performance of your work. I think you can make a case for that. So think it's a matter of making a case for what you assuming that you had already been working remote, like, you know, showing your value whether you're in the office or not, it's the same. It doesn't change.

[00:50:52] Christy Rutherford: So, she said a clarifying question and she says From West Africa, but here's the thing, my answer is the same. So women who learn how to break through self-limited beliefs, we believe that anything is possible. Like, we're not gonna say girl, you from West Africa is not gonna work.

[00:51:10] No, it works if you work it. It doesn't matter where you're from. The world has gone global. Why have you taken on the limitations of your current environment? The world is global. You're adopting the limitations and the limiting beliefs, you're putting the barrier there to small rock to say, well, I'm in West Africa. It can't work.

[00:51:34] Raggeria Goddard: Yeah. You've already answered the question before you asked the question. Sounds like.

[00:51:39] Christy Rutherford: She put the barrier in the question, so we're gonna end. So I think that, I want to. Raggeria, talked about the law of attraction. She moved and found where she wanted to be, make a move. And then allow God to show up while you're moving.

[00:51:58] Don't mean waiting on God to to send a leprechaun to your house and knock on the door, and look, Raggeria, the pot of gold is heavy. They like, oh my God, it's too heavy.

[00:52:12] I didn't know it goes like 500 pounds. You know, I can't carry this in the house. No, I gotta leave it outside. The leprechaun came and knocked on my door and left all the gold outside. It's getting rain on. You know, I can't carry no gold. What if I doing this real gold? Where am I? If you gonna sell it? I can't even melt it down and make gold chains. Ain't nobody buy them. Like, that's what they do.

[00:52:35] Raggeria Goddard: Rich people problems.

[00:52:41] Christy Rutherford: All right, y'all. Y'all can join us at ChangeNow@Christy.com to get my free case study, or you can join us in Total Fulfillment with Christy, which is launched on Wednesday. So this is the private community total fulfillment, TFWChristy.com. We would love to host you there, and it's videos for that.

[00:53:02] I've been building this thing for eight years, Raggeria, actually, I've been failing at it for eight years we going get this thing right one time and now is the time.

[00:53:10] Raggeria Goddard: It's already right. I don't feel like it's a failure. I've achieved, I succeeded.

[00:53:14] Christy Rutherford: Yeah. No. Oh, it's game on now. Cuz now I finally figured it out, but I never, but this is the thing, right?

[00:53:20] And we promise y'all won't get off. I've launched this thing eight different times, but I wasn't ready to be able to receive it. So, but I never stopped that. I never gave up. So now we've launched it. I got more people in the beginning than I got, like in the whole time that I was running it, you know, in the past couple days you be like, okay, we finally, it's right.

[00:53:41] It's now the right time. So, just because ladies and gentlemen, something big doesn't work for you in the moment, it doesn't mean that it's not right for you. It may just be the moment or how you're doing it isn't right, but if you just keep moving. Raggeria didn't stop in the one town and say, oh, this one town doesn't feel good.

[00:54:01] I'm gonna go back to cold Michigan in the wintertime. She said, I'm gonna keep driving, and then she went to the next place. She was like, yeah, this ain't it. Most people would've turned around after the second and third location. Raggeria, she was like this, I'm gonna keep on sdriving because I know, it's out there if I just don't stop.

[00:54:22] Raggeria Goddard: Yeah. I had some thoughts in my head of how it all play out, and it did not play out like that, but I was willing to work with whatever was given to me and made it work. You know, I got to where I wanted to be. And you said you've launched this thing eight separate times.

[00:54:39] I think it's refining, you know, anything you do the first time is not gonna be great. The first basketball shot that Michael Jordan shot was not great, but over time just kept and kept refining his craft and his skill, and he got better. Right? And that's for all of us. Whatever it is. You on mute.

[00:55:01] Christy Rutherford: Here we go. All right, y'all, we're out. Don't hang up, Raggeria, y'all take care. Have a great weekend. Stop spending your money if you're crazy.​