Welcome to Love Notes Rhonda.

And today I want to tell you what happened to me at the drugstore.

So here I am at the drugstore, getting my prescription, walking around, doing some shopping while I'm waiting.

And right before I went to the drugstore, I decided that I was gonna go get my favorite Starbucks drink.

I don't get Starbucks drinks very often, but I just felt like it's a day, and it's like I wanted one.

Well, I went to one Starbucks or on the app.

I went to, looked at one Starbucks on the app, and my drink was sold out.

Went to another one, sold out, another drink, sold out.

So I finally find it in the fourth Starbucks.

Now, maybe if it was a different day, I would have given up yet.

I live in Los Angeles, so there's a whole bunch of Starbucks really close.

And so I decided to keep going.

That's part one.

And then I'm gonna tell you what happened at the drugstore.

So this is part one.

How would you feel if you were looking on an app, wanting something, Starbucks, anywhere that you go?

Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf, Caribou coffee, Favorite coffee shop, favorite tea store.

And it was sold out.

Would you get irritated?

Would you get annoyed?

And if you went to 1, 2, 3, 4 stores and it kept on getting sold out, you couldn't get what you wanted and you wanted it now, what would you do?

How would you feel?

Would you let it go and be like, okay, no big deal, I guess I'm not getting my favorite drink today?

Or would you get irritated?

Would you start muttering under your breath like, God, I can't believe they don't have anything today.

Why don't they have what I want?

Hang on.

Like, what would you do?

See, I think these are the moments that define our lives.

It's not necessarily the big decisions that define our lives.

It's these little tiny moments that define our lives.

Because these little moments determine and help us choose better, more fearlessly when it becomes a big thing.

So what would you do?

Maybe you'd let it go.

Maybe you'd be like, whatever.

Maybe you'd be like, oh, thank God, I can't get that drink.

Oh, don't need it anyway.

Or would you get irritated?

So that's one part of the story.

I want you to think about how you'd feel if you really had a craving, a real hankering for something.

And normally you could get it.

Today you can't.

And at four different stores.

So you have to go out of your way to finally get it.

And then how Would you go into that store, by the way?

So I went into that store and I was like, oh, my God, gang, did you know that you're the only store within, you know, a mile radius that has this favorite drink?

They're like, really?

And I go, yeah, you're going to be busy today, right?

I wanted them to know how important and valuable it was that they had what I wanted.

And I wanted them to anticipate, like, gosh, you guys might be really busy later.

And I wanted to enjoy them, and I wanted them to enjoy me, and I wanted it to be a pleasant experience.

Part two, Going back to the drugstore.

So here I'm at the drugstore, waiting for my prescription, walking around, deciding, like, well, I'm here instead of coming back, I'm gonna get a couple things that I probably need.

So I walk to the vitamins, and I'm walking to the headache medication, and I'm going to get melatonin.

And I'm, like, walking all over the store.

I'm getting a hair accessory.

Just walking all over.

And this woman who is working and stocking the shelves, I ask her in the 20 minutes I was there twice, like, where's this thing?

Where's this thing?

And so she would point.

Aisle 11, aisle 14, aisle 2.

So I was all over that drugstore.

All of a sudden, about, I don't know, 12, 15 minutes into this, I realize I no longer have my Starbucks.

Where did I drop it?

Where did I leave it?

So what would you do if you realized 15 minutes later, 12 minutes later, that the Starbucks you just got and took a long time to get you now left somewhere in this store?

What would you do?

Would you get irritated with yourself?

Would you call yourself some unpleasant names?

Would you start walking around pissed off?

Would you just be like, well, I guess I'm not going to drink that Starbucks.

Would you give up?

What would you do?

So this is what I did.

First of all, the realization that I didn't have it anymore.

It was like, oh, my gosh.

Oh, gosh, what did I do?

Wait a minute, where's my Starbucks?

And, oh, wait, what?

What did I do with it?

Wait a minute, I just had it.

So I actually started, obviously going down every aisle that I had been in, and I ran into that same person who was stocking shelves.

And I said, hey, I left my Starbucks somewhere and I can't find it.

Do you have any idea?

Like, how could I, you know, could you help me or what?

You know?

So she started helping me find my Starbucks.

Not only that but she got another person there to start helping me find my Starbucks.

And I'm going through the aisles, they're going through the aisles.

And I had been down this one aisle already that had the toothpaste in it and the melatonin and all these lovely things.

And I didn't see it.

Wasn't there, wasn't there, wasn't near where I was looking.

And one of the women, again, this is like three to five minutes we're looking for.

It goes, it's here and it is across the shelf from what I was looking at.

So somehow I must have turned around, put down the Starbucks, turned back around and looking at toothpaste.

And I looked at the Starbucks and it was just sitting there.

And I said, oh my gosh, did somebody like drink it and put it back?

Cause I had anticipated, like, well, maybe somebody just took it and started drinking it.

You know, they found a free Starbucks, like, yay for them.

And so I opened it up.

They go, no, nobody, they would have taken it.

I was like, you're right, you're right.

And so then I opened it up and it was completely full.

Cause I hadn't even had a sip.

And I take it, pick it up and start sipping on it and enjoy my Starbucks.

That happened all within, you know, like a 20, 25 minute period half hour.

When it comes to looking up where I could find that darn drink I wanted from Starbucks.

There were so many places in the past where I would have been irritated or I would have given up or, or I would have been kind of getting in a grumpy mood, right?

I would have started maybe blaming somebody or you know, in the past would have ruined my day.

It would have really bugged me and I maybe would have blamed myself because aren't I the one that put the Starbucks down?

And you know, so I would have.

There were so many places in that 20 minutes where I could have ruined my day or ruined that hour or blamed somebody or blamed myself, called myself some choice names.

And maybe in the past, I know I probably wouldn't have asked anybody because I would have been embarrassed that I left my drink somewhere.

I wouldn't have gone to that woman and said, hey, by the way, I lost my Starbucks somewhere along the day.

Can you help me?

And in the past, I would have never done that.

I would have been so embarrassed that I lost it.

I would have felt so stupid that I put it down.

So these are the moments when I really see my growth and transformation.

I really see like, wow, I have grown so much, because I know what I would have done in the past, and I don't do it at all now.

And more importantly, I don't even think of doing it.

It's not even in my consciousness.

It's not even an option anymore.

I don't even kind of go there.

That's really freeing.

That makes me feel really proud of myself.

So think about your changes.

Think about what you would have done if you were in my shoes.

And then ask yourself what you want to do next time.

Practice, practice, practice.

Awareness.

Awareness.

Awareness.

And remember that awareness isn't to beat ourselves up.

It's to make a change.

Until next time, be fearless.

I love you.