Hello, hello, and welcome to the Borealis

experience. I'm your host Aurora. And I'm very happy to be

spending some time with you today. I hope you're doing well.

I hope is is easy and flowing for you at the moment. And if it

is not, I hope I can bring some peace, value hope into your

life. Today I want to talk about the darkness. The darkness

inside of us. No one is just sunshine, and unicorns. We all

have our dog days, our dog moods. dark history, stuff that

we are ashamed of dark thoughts. Dark dreams is part of life.

Some people call it the shadow of human nature. And some of us

decide to be in radical denial of their darkness. And that's

possible. But it takes a lot of effort to suppress these

energies and to you know, play in a masquerade day in day out.

And it is also not really authentic. So it will be harder

for you to have really deep meaningful connections. When you

don't show the people that you love and care what your dark

side is all about. And the art is that you don't make them feel

your Darkside. But that you talk about it, express yourself and

integrate it for yourself. You kind of embrace it, you allow it

to be there. And then it will lose in importance. At the same

time. If you're a very ego driven, ambitious person, you

might struggle with competition and comparing yourself. Now you

can push that away successfully and try to run away. But it is

not possible. And you know it too. If we start making jokes

with our friends or loved ones, about our jealousy, or when we

simply just tell them how we feel at times.

Then it creates a space of trust. And again, it takes out

the energy of that darkness

there's lots of stuff that we sometimes don't like about

ourselves and being active, very active on social media. I

noticed that at times I told myself I'm not really in a good

mood today I don't feel pretty. I don't want to do a video or

I'm not in a in a good space. I don't want to record an episode

today for my podcast and I don't want to say I was trying to make

excuses because this is really how I felt. But then I realized

that Yeah, but everything what people are going to see then is

the Aurora that is always in a good mood and shiny and maybe

somewhat pretty. But what about the other side? What about my

dark side? What about my dark moods? And as good as I can I'm

not holding back from sharing that with you. You know, the

sole situation with COVID that is going on is pretty draining,

it's pretty scary. It's pretty annoying at times. It is pretty

lonely too. And I can get into really dark places of

depression, especially during winter, winter depression is

really a thing in my life. And I feel for this winter, I'm

setting up myself for success. I launched my little business, and

becoming a coach, and coaching more and more people and help

people in distress. Not battling mental illnesses. That is for

psychologists and counselors. But for people who feel like

they don't want to overburden their friends and family

anymore. They want to get real, genuine help. And reach out to

me. And I can make them feel better, I can make them feel

less lonely and empower them and make them feel capable, remind

them of their dreams. And that really helps me a lot to not

drift into my seasonal darkness. And before that, I was trying to

distract myself, I didn't want to feel those dark feelings I

didn't want to sit with it was trying to run away from him. Not

with any success, because it works only for so long. And then

you exhaust yourself, you burn yourself out literally.

And then you compensate on the wrong in the wrong areas of your

life. Like you withdraw more and more and feel more and more

lonely.

Yet what you're really craving is deep connection. And deep

connection is what I found out is when you find people that you

can share the stuckness with. And again, it is an art to share

your darkness without overburden overloading the people that are

listening, but to just speak from the heart. Again, I don't

know your darkness. I don't know what you're carrying around.

Maybe it is heartbreak from long ago. And you're still still

struggling with it. Maybe it is financial distress. Maybe it is

weird thoughts. Maybe it is thoughts of jealousy of not

having any hope. Maybe it's anger, maybe it's aggression,

maybe it is fear. Whatever it is, it is part of you. You

cannot run away from it. You can dissociate from it. That but you

can name it. Or you can share it with people that you can trust.

So maybe over the next couple of days you can find some time

where you just spend time with yourself. And notice when is

that darkness coming up? When does it want my attention?

And what does it tell me about me if I start being able to talk

about it my goodness, there's so many groups out there on

Facebook on Reddit on there's so many videos on YouTube, about

the exact topic that you might be struggling with. And so often

where you can feel understood and then maybe just let go a

little bit more around the shame and the vulnerability that we

feel about our darkness when it comes to intimate relationship

when it comes to romantic relationship I realized that you

can only hide your dark side for so long. Until you find excuses

to push them away. Right you will push them away or your

because I've been busy recently or oil this and that is going on

in my neighbor's life and I want to be of support your ego will

find such sexy and funny and real excuses to not start

opening up to, to your partner. It's just hilarious. It's

incredible. And all because we want to maintain that self image

that we have of ourselves, that little bit of pride or goodness

that we feel. And then you're in a relationship with someone for

longer. And all of a sudden you see their darkness and you're

like, holy shit, what have I signed up for? To even want

this. And this is why we hide our darkness from the other

person. To start with, right, because we don't want to feel

rejected or be rejected. We don't want the person to look at

us differently. We want to look shiny, we want to feel shiny, we

want to be a good person, a good citizen. But this game is so

exhausting. And you will see as soon as you drop your guards,

you allow the other person to do the same. And your relationship

will get so much deeper now, because sometimes it's really

stuff that you don't share with anybody else, but that one

person and it will make them feel precious, or make them want

to be close to you. is a good thing. To show your darkness.

Again, to not make them feel the darkness, but to talk about it.

And when the darkness comes, comes up out of nowhere and

maybe wants to attack people hurt people, then they will know

then they can name it, and then they can help you, then they can

learn to not take it personally. And you can grow out of the

darkness more into light. If you've been following me here

for a little while, you know that I'm more about embracing

shit. Then suppressing it. And I've I've gone really far with

that I'm not perfect yet. I'm certainly not perfect yet.

Please don't get me wrong. But in learning to embrace my staff,

and to not beat myself up on top of having a dark day and

treating people not so nicely. I learned to let go of it more, I

learned to be a more pleasant person to be around in the end,

but only because I did the work. Because I was willing to talk

about my darkness. When I talk about it, when when I know

people are listening to me right now I feel like shit, I want to

I want to hear from you. You know, I want to know what your

darkness is about. Sometimes, I record my episodes, and I

wonder, do people even really resonate what I'm saying here

does it really do good in the world to bring value to people.

It'd be easier to have people sitting in front of me and you

know, I could even read their face expression, their body

language and it would tell me if I'm on a good path. But I chose

to do something really brave and to create something on a regular

basis where I do not regularly know how people feel about my

content. If you want to give me a little tap on the shoulder. If

you want to give me a sign that I really should continue. Just

leave me a five star review. Or write me a little review or

connect with me on Facebook and shoot me a message there. It

would mean so much to me. In future episodes and videos, I

will embrace my darkness even more. Today I record a video for

you guys on my Aurora Eggert coaching page. And the first

picture of the video you know just before you click on that

video, that picture was so weird. I looked so weird on

there. And all of a sudden a panic came up and I looked up

like how to change the thumbnail of a Facebook live video after

it's been published. And for 10 minutes I was going crazy

because I couldn't figure it out. And then after those 10

minutes I just said fuck it. Yes, I look weird on that

picture and That's okay. Because people are gonna watch that

video and they're gonna know what it's about and get some

value out of it. And not even care what my face looks like in

the first second of the video. And that's okay. But see, I was

I was part of that social media drama masquerade for a couple of

seconds here. And then was able to drop it. And now I'm able to

laugh about it with you, because it was so silly and so useless

and doesn't mean anything. It is our ego that makes us think the

solids and do these things and it is really fun to sometimes

turn the volume down to just put it in a corner like a misbehaved

little child. Or to laugh about it with our dirtiest Bill Boober

laugh or Joe Rogan laugh it is possible. So for the next couple

of days, embrace your darkness just a little bit more know that

you're a wonderful human being you're inherently good. And all

those behaviors, all those sorts, all those weird habits

that you might have are things that slowly can fall off, the

more you embrace yourself. And people are so into this. People

are so into raw and authentic. And I find that so very, yeah,

beautiful and inspiring and it gives me lots of hope that this

world is spinning into the right direction right now. Thank you

so much for listening to my little podcast here and means

the world to me to have you here on this journey. And I would

love to make it through this winter with you together. If

ever you have an episode topic request. shoot me a message on

Aurora Eggert Facebook page profile. Alright, I'm gonna

leave you with this. And I will be out there with a new episode

on Monday about sex and love. Sex versus love. Our love stone

society needs to hear that episode very urgently. Alright,

until then, bye bye